She's not even a squatter, she's an intruder. There's a certain time frame a person has to reside in a home in order to claim squatters rights. A week is not it.

@KadeStringer2.0

10 ай бұрын

Yeah even squatters are intruders .

@nationalinstituteofcheese3012

10 ай бұрын

Why do squatters get rights?

@THEDubbleHelixx

10 ай бұрын

​@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 Because that's the law in the US, for some reason.

@KadeStringer2.0

10 ай бұрын

@@THEDubbleHelixx it’s time for them to go to the train station

@DeadDancers

10 ай бұрын

@@THEDubbleHelixxisn’t there some kind of thing about the property has to be not-maintained and the squatter has to be there for x number of years or something?

Girl he winked at you and LEFT THE DOOR OPEN, he was OBVIOUSLY into you, c’mon, even I’m not THAT oblivious 😂

@Salicat99

10 ай бұрын

Yeah, me too!

@absolutelynot6546

10 ай бұрын

My ass would be like, "...i-is that considered flirting? WHAT DO I DO" 😭

@blackroberts6290

10 ай бұрын

​@@absolutelynot6546 the ass lmao

@gtc9966

10 ай бұрын

Yeah but, he would’ve expected anal…

@Amber417

10 ай бұрын

That’s what I was thinking 😂

Last story: I was laughing so much at this story, but I do have sympathy because it sounds so embarrassing.

@TJDious

10 ай бұрын

Girl does it: Ooh so embarrassing tee hee hee. Guy does it: PREFATOR! MYSOGINIST! HUMAN RESOURCES!

@Nekulturny

10 ай бұрын

Shut up. good lord cell of the insular variety. @@TJDious

@Iflie

10 ай бұрын

@@TJDious Because the women were trying to figure out if he likes her, guys assume they want them based on nothing to them. Totally different story.

@Mangoboi699

10 ай бұрын

@@Ifliemen have really nothing to talk about stuff like that and its a mere blindfolded walk in a forest. Im not saying you are wrong, but im not saying you are completely right

@misconceptions5613

10 ай бұрын

@@Ifliewell no he was joking, but those are very ridiculous and broad generalizations that aren’t true

The 3rd story feels like the kind of story that would end in “so now we’re married”

@guitarbass22

10 ай бұрын

Well, they are dating, so 🤣

@Salicat99

10 ай бұрын

How I Met Your Mother.

@redditdevilsadvocate.5134

10 ай бұрын

Bro Forreal 😂

@malikharris5286

10 ай бұрын

or “and then everyone clapped”

@sourisvoleur4854

10 ай бұрын

@@Salicat99 Yes!

The first story is honestly quite beautiful, in a sad way. Not excusing the ex fiancé's actions by any means, what he did to OP was traumatizing. But them both being able to acknowledge what happened, emotionally grow from it, and move on in a healthy way in the end is something I feel we don't see a lot. OP was incredibly brave, she didn't have to take a chance reopening that wound and meeting with him, but she did and was able to find closure. And it sounds like he was as well.

@THEDubbleHelixx

10 ай бұрын

This is the most ideal closure that could have resolved this awful situation.

@DarkLobster69

10 ай бұрын

Absolutely. I feel for the guy with PTSD and an unknown new child, but that doesn’t give him any excuse to emotionally destroy OP like he did. So glad it ended about as well as it could’ve

@b.f.2461

10 ай бұрын

@@DarkLobster69 I understand avoidant personality - I struggle with it. But if his solution to problems is to simply run away, he's not suitable to marry anyone. I hope he doesn't bail on his child as well.

@giggle_snort

10 ай бұрын

I agree. They both handled that last meeting with maturity and grace. His actions were wrong, her response was understandable, but they are both better and stronger people now than they were before, and that _is_ a beautiful thing.

@spydersoup8447

4 ай бұрын

One thing I have to wonder is why is it that he couldn't give OP the heads up about this and arrange a delay of the wedding date so that he can meet his child, instead he had to leave her in the dark?

Story 2: You know, if there's a warrant out for her arrest, shouldn't she be like... y'know, try to lay low instead of causing trouble and going out with her boyfriend? Plus, she is even lying to the police too? Wow, this girl is asking to be arrested.

@FederalBurroOfInvestigation

10 ай бұрын

If there's a warrant for you, bringing cops TO YOU is so dumb. Lol

@TheNightsythe

10 ай бұрын

majority of people who commit crimes don't think of the consequences, so don't expect any forethought goes into their actions

@TheSoulessPoet

10 ай бұрын

There's a video out there of a man calling the police bc mcdonald's gave him cold fries. The dude who called them was wanted for questioning in connection with a murder. Criminals, in general, aren't the smartest people.

@iononcantomascrivo

10 ай бұрын

​@@TheNightsytheThis is true. It's why narcissists end up living isolated, miserable existences after pushing everyone away that ever cared about them. In their minds, they are the one and only person who actually matters or has value.

@DrTimeSCPPsych

10 ай бұрын

Are you implying criminals are smart?

2nd story.. you keep calling the police until they DO ... THEIR... JOB. It is not a civil matter, she hasn't been there long enough to establish any utilities, or recieve mail, shes an overnight guest who overstayed her welcome. Shes tresspassing, shes not a tenant. Report it as a burglary if you have to to get their attention.

@AustinBlack28

10 ай бұрын

wouldn’t she just lie to them?

@ReigoVassal

10 ай бұрын

The squatter law is dumb and easily abused.

@Nekulturny

10 ай бұрын

I'm sure she would, I'm not telling anyone to do this, but I most certainly would tell a police officer, "either you get this intruder out of my home now, or I will". There is absolutely no circumstance I would tolerate a stranger in my house until I go to court days, weeks or months later. @@AustinBlack28

@QueenDarkChocolate

10 ай бұрын

You forget that this is California...squatters have rights and there are no "castle" laws. The cops WERE doing their duty as constrained by California law. He's just lucky that her ID search brought up the shop-lifting warrent.

@misconceptions5613

10 ай бұрын

@@QueenDarkChocolate but she wasn’t squatting. She just broke in essentially

Oh my God that last story was so cute and I'm glad it ended well but if that had happened to me, I'd have dropped out of society to become a cave hermit immediately.

I love the last story! Goofing off with friends and saying something extreme that you didn't really mean is relatable and the guy had a really good reaction

@punkrockpro5062

10 ай бұрын

If you count good reaction as not going to hr over sexual harassment then yeah I guess.

i feel like communicating the whole situation would've pretty much solved the entire problem in story 1, why lead her on for a week and make those people waste their time and embarass your finance

@Kingdo_RGT

10 ай бұрын

Communication is the answer to almost all relationship problem. As long as there is no abuse involves of course.

@uselessinformation1988

10 ай бұрын

Exactly.

Story one: good on her for being emotionally mature and I’m glad she was able to get closure and accept closure no matter how it looked. Most of the time when people give us an answer if it’s not the answer we want to hear or expect we don’t accept the answer. And I’m glad she was able to not be stuck in that mentality of not accepting things we don’t wanna hear. Very mature op I’m Happy for her

@Milk-ck1wv

10 ай бұрын

Meh. You don't have to forgive others

@kmekosnk840

10 ай бұрын

@@Milk-ck1wv you should

@charminglady2011

10 ай бұрын

​@@Milk-ck1wvthat's the point of forgiveness. You don't have to, but she chose to for her soul.And you see how free she is. The chains of that trauma were broken.

@SkumleBones

10 ай бұрын

@@Milk-ck1wv Well if you want to stay bitter,angry,jaded and not move on sure. But forgiveness is key to a better life. Because not letting go is only going to hurt you more then the person who did it.

@ConejitoPequenito

10 ай бұрын

​@Xxken101xX Every situation is different. You can forgive or let go most things, but I wouldn't forgive a serial killer for ending my family, or an abusive parent

Story 3: I appreciate a feel good romance story. I was smiling and laughing the whole time! It's like I was reading a romance novel.

OP2: "Civil matter" my ass. That's criminal trespass. Less than a week of squatting does not establish tenancy.

That last story is so adorable!!! OP I hope you guys end up together for the long haul and someday, get to tell this story at your 50th anniversary or something!

that last story is total romcom material. I would've had a panic attack of sheer embarrassment, but it was an adorable story

Story 1, while mental health is never an *excuse* for mistreating someone, it can explain it. If OP's ex was diagnosed with PTSD and related avoidance problems, it seems that the obvious assumption is that he didn't communicate because of those issues. I imagine he felt terrible once he processed what he did, and much worse for the one mistake he could have handled correctly. OP did nothing wrong and deserves the sympathy, and I'm glad she let her ex mend fences before parting ways, they both needed it.

Last story: Thank you, rSlaxh for leaving us with a wholesome story that left us rolling in the floor laughing!

Story 1: finding real closure and being able to look back at happy memories with an ex while being ok that it's over is the best case scenario for any breakup. I'm really happy for OP, and for both of them getting help healing and growing as people.

Story 2: Criminals don't think, they'll just do whatever and not think of the possible consequences. This b**ch just decided to squat in some random person's house, knowing that she had a warrant on her for shoplifting, and she ended up calling the cops on herself.

In the final story, I was hoping they got together. When it reached the 1 month anniversary, I cheered! That story is super cute and wacky!!

Story 1: I honestly like this one. They both grew as people, Derek was between a rock and a hard place and handled things in not the best way, but he tried to make it right in the end. Story 2: how is her trespassing in OP's home a civil matter when OP isn't the one who allowed the squatter to move in? I hate the law sometimes Story 3: this just sounds like a romance novel plot, lmao

@uselessinformation1988

10 ай бұрын

Squatter's rights doesn't make sense because some squatters start off trespassing on your property. It's like you can break into someone's house and stay there without their knowledge and by the time they discover you, they have to go through red tape to evict you. Some laws are stupid.

@RealCoolstriker64

10 ай бұрын

@@uselessinformation1988 that *would* be true, if it weren’t for 1 little detail. You can’t just claim them after a night, or a week. Squatter’s rights is specifically for abandoned properties, so in order to claim them: you need to be “openly residing” for YEARS *plural.* The cops in this story were either uneducated, or just being lazy.

@uselessinformation1988

10 ай бұрын

@@RealCoolstriker64 Several years ago, I heard of a woman who went on a missionary trip for months. When she got back, there was a stranger in her house. The police couldn't do anything about it due to squatter's rights. Nevermind that the stranger was technically trespassing. Nevermind that the homeowner was a single mother with a baby and the stranger could potentially be dangerous as far as she knows. Nevermind that the house wasn't abandoned. Some random person just trespassed in her house while she was gone for several months and the police couldn't do anything about it. If I remember right, that was in Florida.

@ShursGarden

10 ай бұрын

If that story is true, then the cops didn't do their job. Squatter's Rights in Florida requires 7 years of constantly living in that place. @@uselessinformation1988

Story 2: those first cops were just being lazy. “Squatters Rights” only applies to abandoned properties. While it varies, you typically need to be there for *YEARS* before you can enact it. I can confidently say there is no state that allows squatter’s rights after only a week.

Story 3: Sometimes, you experience something so embarrassing that you just want to melt into the ground and vanish forever. You worry the others will forever remember, because embarrassing moments sure love to be core memories, but then you learn that they think of it as a funny moment to look back at and laugh

NGL, I was expecting the Ex-Fiance in the first story to ask OP to play "Mommy" for his son (that has been the case in a few r/AITA videos.) It a breath of fresh air that he didn't do that, but instead made honest attempts at making peace with OP by returning the wedding funds. It's much better to _show_ that you're sorry than to just _say_ it.

Last story was hilarious! 🤣 I know I would’ve been mortified but if it was my friend I’d be dying of laughter 🤣 So happy they got together and he gave her a good ribbing after lunch 😂

Story 2: Considering that in the US, criminals have successfully sued the property owners for being injured while they were in the middle of robbing the place. It is not recommended to do anything other than covertly kicking them out. And claiming it is a civil matter after only 4 days is rather ridiculous, I've known people who were thrown out/arrested for tresspassing after having lived a place for months. Those cops were just lazy.

Ah, the first story about being left at the altar. That happened to my best friend. He was heartbroken. We were in Indiana for the wedding. He had just graduated from graduate school (seminary), and was beginning his first parish. A couple of us helped him pack up his meager belongings that were in both Ohio and Pennsylvania, grabbed all of his fiance's belongings, and moved them into the parsonage in central PA. Two weeks later, it was time for the wedding (They hadn't even unpacked any of the boxes or slept a night in the parsonage.). She had her bachelorette party, we had a bachelor party (we had a couple of beers and wings at Applebees.). The next morning, the day of the wedding, she was at the church, but would not come out of the dressing room. She never did. Her father ended up taking her home. My friend's parents ended up taking us to Golden Corral (It was a tiny town in Indiana) for lunch. The next weekend, my wife and I drove to PA to be there while the non-bride and her father picked up her boxes. We helped him unpack and had BBQ. I talked to him a couple of months ago. He said being left at the altar was the best thing that has ever happened to him. I believe it. And the last story...what a cute story! They will have a story to tell to their kids, "How I met your father...."

Why did the Ex have to tell the guy a week before his wedding that she had a child, and that it was his? That seems so close to the wedding for someone to suddenly spring that on someone else. I can't say if it was bad timing, or malicious, but man, I feel bad for the person left at the alter, and having been left in the dark. Overall, that must've been a bad situation to be in

@miniman649

10 ай бұрын

yeah I was thinking about that as well. Seems kinda maliciously cruel to do so. Either tell him as soon as possible or don't tell him at all. To do it right before he is getting married is just plain cruel.

@hellefur7861

10 ай бұрын

She knew she was dying, and wanted kiddo to know the father, before they was shipped of to a stranger, while they was griving the loss.

@epsilonetalia

10 ай бұрын

@@miniman649 Glad someone else noticed too! If you want to hide the kid, then fine, that's her choice, cruel still, but the timing for it to be right before the guys wedding was just odd. Bunch of things were at play, I get that, but to hide a kid, then reveal it to the guy a week before his marriage to someone else? Just too weird to merely be coinsidensal.

@epsilonetalia

10 ай бұрын

@@hellefur7861 I get that, but why not a week after the wedding, or when she had initially known about the diagnosis? I'm sure the ex would have someone who could tell her what her ex was up to, like a friend letting her know about the wedding. It's all said and done though, so hopefully both parties can get their lives back on track and recover from a not great situation

@hellefur7861

10 ай бұрын

@@epsilonetalia we don't know when she got her diagnose. But everybody who gets a death sentense diagnose, uselly goes thought the 7 steps of denial, sorrow, recognition and then have to get All the ducks in a row, before it's to late.

Did anyone else just start bawling when OP said she went home and slept on the bathroom floor in her wedding dress? Ugh the image of that got me.

Squatter story: EXACTLY!! I would’ve got her out at gunpoint the first night!! She was a HOME INTRUDER.

Squatter story: I made the mistake of letting my criminal, fresh-out-of-rehab brother stay with me to "get back on his feet." I had three conditions: 1.) He needed to stay sober. 2.) He needed to stay employed. 3.) He couldn't smoke in the house. Within one month, he was using again, had been fired from his job, and was smoking in the bathroom. I told him he had to leave. He smirked and said that he'd "established residency," and good luck getting him out. I asked him if he was sure this was the road he wanted to go down, and he said, "yes." I knew he had outstanding warrants, so I simply called them in. Him being dragged out of my house by the cops is still in my Top Five Memories of all time.

Last story, very lovely, props to the guy for being a gentleman up until the last second, when he was sure he could be sassy without actually hurting her.

For rSlashes thought on the second story, I don’t think you can hurt her without her actively appearing to be a threat to you or your property. So if she’s just chilling there doing nothing OP would struggle to be able to hurt her and call it self defense

@nightmareblade34

10 ай бұрын

Not if it was florida!

@supervegito2277

10 ай бұрын

Castle Doctrine and Stand Your Ground laws might allow for some level of violence (enough to get her outside maybe like dragging her out. Dunno tho) but im pretty sure even the us has laws on excessive force.

@tully6648

10 ай бұрын

Plus there's like, internally justifying such an action. Like, yeah, she's squatting, and it SUCKS. But I'd worry about the person who would be able to be okay with really hurting or maybe even killing someone over it.

@abiean222

10 ай бұрын

@@tully6648 yeah, but she didn't know if OP was that kind of person or not. she never even met OP until they came home. she had no idea what OP would do. she was playing with fire and is lucky she only got singed.

@yeetusthefetusthencommitse204

10 ай бұрын

@@nightmareblade34or Texas

Story 1. I dont think the fiance was a bad guy, he just did a stupid, terrible thing, and after working on himself apologized and made an effort to make up for it. He clearly learned from it to some extent.

In the first story, OP was kept in limbo for 3 months, and OP found out her ex's ex passed away 3 months after he ran out on her. So I'm guessing he was spending all his time supporting her through her final days, possibly even getting back into a relationship with her til she passed. Just a guess, though. Regardless, he should have told her before the wedding, leaving someone at the alter is cruel.

Story 2: Although certainly played with fate with the fact OP could have had the same cop showed up, glad he was able to safely and honestly quite maturely kick the squatter out while ensuring they kept their stuff safe. However... Damn rSlash made my eyebrows shoot up there with those comments. Although technically OP could have done that... DAMN those are intrusive thought tier responses!

@YourXavier

10 ай бұрын

Even if it had been the same cops, simply point out that, according to them, this is a civil matter to be dealt with by the courts. Let her sue to get back in. Goose, gander, sauce.

@MrJudestarnault

10 ай бұрын

​@@YourXavierexactly what I was gonna say.

@BDM276

10 ай бұрын

RSlash, what are you on about those comments in the second story? Shoot or beat her and claim she's a home intruder? I'm curious to see how that would turn out when she can show a text allowing her to stay for one night. A text that probably doesn't mention a specific date. You could be in a lot of legal trouble for using violence against a "home intruder" you allowed to stay.

@aduckofsomesort

10 ай бұрын

@@BDM276 but she really doesn’t have squatters rights, so what else could she be called button intruder? And op didn’t allow her to stay. It’s not like you can get into court instantaneously.

@mathman0569

10 ай бұрын

Rslash was saying how dumb can you be, they could of done that

13 years from now there is going to be one embarrassed kid when he listens to how his parents met on a classic rSlash video

@Kingdo_RGT

10 ай бұрын

I remember once, at an event, I needed to go to the toilet. After closing the door, I saw a poster in the cabin about a dating app with written in it “With this app, you will find love base on your hobby's ... just, don't tell your future kids that everything's started in the toilet of this event” XD

The last one gave me second hand embarrassment lol. I'm glad it turned out good at the end

I have a friend whose dad left her mom at the altar and ran off to Vietnam. I guess fighting in Vietnam changed him because he came home managed to get her mom to forgive him, marry him, and they have been married almost 50 yrs with two daughters. I applaud the woman I. The first story for finding closure and I have always been amazed my friend’s mom forgave her dad and married him.

Not me screaming, "Oh no," throughout story 3 and then screaming when things go well.

@Nekulturny

10 ай бұрын

It really is a perfect "how I met your mother" story.. Just leave out the butt stuff lol.

@ryznak4814

10 ай бұрын

@@Nekulturny wow such a great story women objectifying a man yeah. You’re disgusting.

10:35 in my state, you can physically remove intruders. It's a seporate law, and technically, has no exclusion for cops. A woman shoved a cop out of her door, was arrested and found innocent of assault.

@Nekulturny

10 ай бұрын

Usually in America you can too. Yes, unfortunately squatters get too much leeway in our system, but she hasn't been there long enough to even have squatters "rights". Shes an overnight guest who overstayed her welcome, the cops were just lazy.

That first story , I genuinely feel bad for everyone in that story . Op was ditched at the alter , and the ex was given a child at the last second without knowing and the mother was literally dying . It’s rare I’d feel bad for someone who abandons their fiancée , but honestly I don’t know what the proper response is or what I would do in this situation .

Story 1, as a man what do you even do in that situation? I mean, obviously, you don't run away from your fiance and family, but jeez. Can your future marriage even survive you suddenly becoming a co-parent? Do you even try at that point? What are the legal repercussions for hiding a child's existence from their father for that long? After finishing the update, I guess both he and OP's life just got nuked with a combination of mental illness and a forced impossible situation. Usually it's pretty black and white as far as these stories go, I'm happy to hear that both of them are better off(?). Just different chapters of life I guess.

@myopinion69420

10 ай бұрын

yeah, completely ditching was the wrong move, but I have NO idea what I would do in that situation. I would like to believe that I would just talk to my partner and everything would be all sunshine and rainbows, but its such a big thing to have happen. part of you would just sort of want to not deal with it or run, part of you would want to continue life along the current trajectory, a BIG part of you would want to get to know the kid. I feel there is no way for the wedding to go ahead, at least not when it was planned, with it being that close, but I don't know what you do. if you cancel, you're out all that money, other guests are potentially out of money for flights or cloths and stuff. I'm glad it sort of worked out in the end and that he stepped up to be the father and also tried to make amends and give the money that was spent back. bad decision in the moment and for the following months, but decent recovery.

@hiroshi7025

10 ай бұрын

Imma keep it real: I think most of us would either run away or put the lid back on the kettle and let it boil again until it steams up the room out of fear of ruining your relationship. But either way, one girl would end up ghosted.

@BronzeDragon133

10 ай бұрын

Yeah, I'm not awarding a score in either direction here. His issues are comprehensible. Her resistance to being involved with him are understandable. He paid her back. She gave back the ring. Both handled it like adults in the end. No harm, no foul.

@Milk-ck1wv

10 ай бұрын

​@@hiroshi7025mf no! for 1 im not ditching the love of my life for my ex! 2 i would talk to her after letting my wife know the situation

@hiroshi7025

10 ай бұрын

​@@Milk-ck1wvkeyword : MOST

That last story was so freaking cute! 😂😂

Story 1: having ptsd and then finding out someone you loved will die and you're responsible for a small child's survival... it doesn't excuse his behaviour, but he never asked for an excuse. I hope things are better now for everyone in the story Edit: Story 3: bro I'm a girl and if the roles were reversed and a male coworker was talking about how he'd do me in the butt if I let him _at work_ I would go to HR straight away

@Ikajo

10 ай бұрын

​@@RenTheWrenYeah, the better equivalent would be a guy saying he would let her peg him.

@punkrockpro5062

10 ай бұрын

​@RenTheWren The difference between the two is marginal at best. And if a man is in question for that wrongdoing I really don't think HR would care. But if a woman says it it's cute and wholesome and nobody cares.

The last story had me cracking up. At the title and during the beginning I was like "where's the f-up? this sounds fine!" and then... it happened 🤣

Squatter story: the first cops clearly did not handle the situation well. What if it was a dangerous stranger living in op’s house? They would take responsibility when something bad happens? Good job for the cops who came the next day.

I love how no matter how old we get, we can do easily regress back into Embarrassed Teenagers when around a crush, lol.

I am absolutely dyyying at that last story!!! 😂 Ive had similar conversations with my sister, and it made me cringe to think of anyone overhearing. Let alone someone we were interested in!

Story 2, how the hell is she going to get a job with an active warrant for her arrest?

That last story sounds like romance-comedy movie material. It's so damn cute!

The OP from the squatter story NEEDS to change the locks immediately! His ‘friend’ could have made a copy of the key and is likely to want revenge. Also, the ‘friend’ DEFINITELY knew that she was planning to stay indefinitely.

Can you beat up someone for squatting in your home. Probably not. Really depends on where you are, but given that there was no forced entry and no threat against your life chances are you'll be charged with some form of domestic violence, or excessive force excessive of what the situation requires.

about the squatter / intruder bit, I'm pretty sure the whole "shooting intruders in your house" is only legal in a few states. (mostly the states that have wayyyy too relaxed gun laws) in other states, an intruder can sue a home owner for becoming injured while intruding within their home. I'm not joking. It's happened before. So if OP lived in a state with a law like that, he's responsible for her safety within his house regardless of if she's there legally or not.

With the first story I'm more concerned with who told the ex where op was and how to contact her. The last story is a great how I met your mother story lol

Second Story: OP's lucky the squatter was stupid. Had she done the bare minimum to "set up residency" he'd have had to formally evict her and go through court, even if she got arrested anyway. This is also why you shouldn't let anyone get mail at your place if they don't live there.

13:30 the way my soul would have immediately vacated my body 💀 I had to get up and run away from my phone for a second

Why is no one bringing up the “friend” who asked if his gf could stay at the house for ONE night?! Hope OP told him to sod off with his thieving, squatter, slag gf! That entire situation was weird.

We need more stories like story 3, that is rSlash at his best currently

story 1-- gonna add some input about the ex-fiancé, from the pov of someone also with avoidant PTSD. "why not communicate instead of acting like things are fine?" that's the avoidance. we can pretend that stuff is fine for actual MONTHS until forced to confront the problem, whether its by someone else, or by the situation itself becoming too dire to ignore. it's a miserable existence - feeling like youre always fleeing something. i feel bad for the guy, i've been there too. good on him for cleaning up his mess in a healthy way.

I listen to your videos "every single day" and I have to say. I love seeing how far this channel has come, and I really enjoy it when you end with a happy wholesome story like this one.

I think the 3rd story is one of the funniest you have ever read. Glad it worked out in the end. I hope there's another update on them being happy in their relationship. They have a hilarious How We Met story The first story the fiance should have been honest and told her. I'm sure she would have understood and they could have postponed until things were sorted out. As for the second, if you have a warrant out for you it would be wise to lay low and do everything you can to keep off the police radar.

On the last story: lol! REALLY, Rslash?? 😅 You HAD to go there at the end huh? LOL! well, I'm glad for her getting to date the guy she likes. I hope she realizes he's a keeper for a LOOOONG time because he spun around what was soooo awkward into something positive. That's skills right there.

10:08 Funny you should say that. I heard a story on Lehto's Law where a woman retired and moved to a senior apartment building. She gave her son a power of attorney over her home so he could rent it out. A woman contacted him to see the home but never agreed to rent the home and didn't sign a lease. She did however break into the hose and move in. The owner's son called the police but the police said it was a civil matter. So he went home, got a gun, waited for the woman to go to work, let himself into the house, moved her belongings out and moved his in. When she came home to find an armed man in the house she called the police. He showed the police a lease signed by his mother the owner informed them her belongings were in storage. The police said it was a civil matter and the woman would have to take it up with the courts. He pulled an Uno reverse card.

The squatter story, that guy is really lucky. I've heard some really nasty stories about the squatter having more rights than the homeowners!!! She really wasn't even a squatter being there for just a few days, I don't think that qualifies as a squatter in most states, I think it has to be at least 30 days.

Last story: I see everyone saying this story is cute and funny. I find it disgusting, if you don’t see why it’s very easy, just do a gender swap and what do you get? OP and his guy friend saying that a girl wants f OP based on how she looked at him and how OP wants to screw her in the arse. Objectifying men is neither cute nor funny, and seeing how everyone here seems to think the exact opposite absolutely baffles me. And I don’t care if the guy liked it the end. Before doing that you ask for consent, if a girl I liked did that and I caught her I would definitely never interact with her again, and if it happened at work I would report her for sexual harassment. God I hate how sexist so many of you are, men deserve consent and respect just as much as women.

1. She grew and so did he. He found out he was a father and didn't know what to do except disappear to figure it out. Smart man. 2. They got her out of the house, nice. 3. A wholesome story to end

_"It's a civil matter, we ain't doin' nuffin' for you."_ "Oh, so if *I* were to just park myself in *your* house, you'd just let me stay until the courts said I had to move?"

Story 2: if somebody like that were doing that in Finland, we have right to defend our homes so it wouldnt be too much trouble just grab her, forcefully remover her from house/apartment. Home defending is allowed even if it ends up in lethal action

Last story got me giggling like it was a wattpad slow burn romance novel. I’m so happy, I love love

I think the first story ended as well as it could have. Sure, the fiancé could have told OP, but I mean, there must have been an insane amount of emotions in that moment. If I were faced with all of that, I’d just be off the rocker. I’m glad him and OP are doing better.

The last story was actually so wholesome 😆

Last story: This story was so much like one of those awkward rom-coms. Imagine the stories they can tell acquaintances about how they met: "So, how did you guys meet?" OP: "Well, I had a mega crush on BF and one day I was talking really loud and said I liked him so much I'd let him do butt stuff to me and he overhead me". 🤣🤣

Story 1: this is sad. The ex fiancé definitely handled everything as stupid as possible, but he did get hit with a Mack truck lol

The key to understanding story #1 is the PTSD with avoidance. Telling his fiance after getting overloaded with stress already was probably more than he could handle.

The last story is so freaking funny💀 I’m glad it actually ended up working out for them

I’m with you man! She is extremely lucky that he didn’t get violent towards her because he was within his rights to! I believe every state has castle doctrine

Story 1. Guy was a gutless coward. He didn’t want to deal with the fallout so instead of facing OP like an adult, he chickened out.

For the first story, OP specifically said that he had some kind of PTSD related to him being afraid to face difficult choices, and discovering you had a child and breaking up your engagement a week before a wedding likely triggered it, so it's more about him not being able to tell OP due to his mental state, rather than him not wanting to tell OP. He is still an asshole in that particular situation, but judging by his actions afterwards, it's clear that he isn't an asshole by nature.

The last story made me grin from ear to ear 😆 I can totally imagine the absolute horror of someone you have a crush on hearing your girl gossip, I would want to die too 😅 I'm so happy the story ended well!

Story 1: OP said her ex fiancé was diagnosed with PTSD with avoidance tendencies. He AVOIDED talking about it and just ran. It’s literally right there in the story

I love that last story 😂 It's so adorable lol

That last story just made my weekend lol

Second story I was like ‘civil matter?? She’s a trespasser!’ But I guess, the second you say ‘I let her stay for one night’ you are admitting that she had permission to enter and stay and everything else becomes quibbling over the details in court. Like, you could show the text saying the gf could stay for a night but the girl could claim you came to an agreement later over the phone and blah blah moral of the story: never give anyone permission to stay over at your house. 😄

@tully6648

10 ай бұрын

Yeah, "never give anyone permission to stay over at your house" is THE advice to take away from all this. The squatter was dumb and OP got very lucky, but some squatters know how to keep themselves in a residence for AGES. And the absolute worst stories are the ones where the OP lets a friend stay over "until they get on their feet." It's just too dangerous to let anyone in.

Story one, I was so suss about the guy who left her at the altar, fully expecting his contact to be about trying to weasel his way back into her life. It was a very pleasant surprise when his ‘excuses/reasons’ were followed up with financial compensation. Words are cheap and correspondingly mean little. It’s not impossible that the money is intended as a lever to get back into her life, but it sure seems like the intent is less likely than before.

Squatter story: OP, you still need to change you locks. You can't count on your "buddy" not having made copies of your keys. Next time, take your dog to a boarder or hire a professional service to use.

You're not a bad person for not allowing someone to use their mental issues as an excuse to treat you like trash.

First story: You also have to keep in mind that the guy has ptsd, which is not known for making people more rational. It's the same as a veteran going nuts when having ptsd and hearing something that resembles gunshots, in such situations the body actually acts on its own for self defense. Makes it totally not better or acceptable for OP cause a partner is never a therapist and only a support but it makes things more understandable especially with the fella just getting that child nuke dropped on him.

That last story is something literally straight out of TV. it’s so funny that that type of shit happens in real life.

On the "squatter" situation, beating the crap out of or even shooting her would only be viable if the state this happened in, given it's in the US, has a "Castle Doctrine" that allows those levels of force

You can tell with alot of the comments here, people trying to put reasonable answers for an unreasonable situation that the guy in the first story "could" have done. That was a 50/50 decision with either most likely hurting the other, accept the key fact that everyone seems to be missing is a child was on the line and the guy had PTSD. We can sit here and say well he should have said this and that. But what would you do in that situation? I could list all the what ifs. But most of us truly do not know. The only thing I can feel is the rush of emotions he got when he got the phone call with the stress and excitement of the wedding, then suddenly getting told by an ex that she is going to die soon and also you have a kid. Come on...Ya you could tell your now fiance this information but how would they feel, you know its going to ruin the wedding either way. He chose to run away and take care of the ex and kid. If he chose to stay, he would have to eventually say something because CPS would be knocking on the door one day saying "so and so passed away and this is your kid". What conversation would that ensue with the now new wife. Come on guys, its not rocket science, he did what he thought he needed to do. I will agree he could have went about it just a bit better ya, he was in the wrong for sure and he didn't disagree with that. At the end of it all, they made up, he paid her for EVERYTHING and they made up and both moved on. That is as 100% as you can get. Most people dont even get an answer.

I'm sorry but it's insane to me that someone could just...decide to move in to your house and you have to go through the courts just to get them out rather than having police take them out. I would've dropped that friend immediately lmao.

Story 1: The human brain be weird like that. Not to excuse the Ex's behavior but imagine being 1 week from your wedding to have your ex call you and tell you that you have a kid and that they're probably dying. Assuming that you have an okay relationship with the ex after the fact, how does one reconcile those emotions? I don't blame the ex for going full fight or flight because when your emotions get like that it's literally impossible to be logical. I feel for the dude, as much as I do OP. His life was also completely flipped upsidedown with this one event and now both of them are living with the consequences. Honestly it's impressive that he was coherent enough in 3 months to send something to the OP, obviously it wasn't near enough but there's got to be a lot more going on than the snippets we were told.

In Texas, the length of time to become a 'resident' is only like 48 or 72 hours. It is not long at all. Every lease you sign in the state will have a section that explicitly states something along the lines of no guests for more than 2 days in a row and every week. You don't have to do much to establish residency either, mail or bills are not required, it eventually becomes a he said she said type of situation if there is no writing or security camera evidence. Police don't like to get involved with this stuff either and will only help if some other crime is involved. People get crazy with this, even people you know and trust. Other states may be different, but realistically, from a legal standpoint, even if you are having family over for the week, you should have them sign papers establishing how long you are allowing to stay, what they are allowed to do, etc. The problem with acting like she is an intruder is her boyfriend and the communication OP had with him. If it was through text, or recorded, or witnessed, and in Texas only one party has to consent to any kind of recording in most circumstances, then he will be likely charged with murder over defending his castle.

Second story: Wow, talking about stabbing from the back. With the update: Wow... Accidentally delete messages. That's even stupid. Who deletes messeges now at day?! And if I was OP I would physically throw her out.

Last girl isn’t even living the wattpad life, she’s living the ao3 life

1:19 THIS IS LITERALLY A GREY’S ANATOMY EPISODE 😂 It’s the story of Jo and Alex, who leaves her at the alter to go be with his ex Izzy, who was hiding his child from him.

I love seeing squatters getting what’s coming to them

Story 1: IF the fiancé loved OP like he said he did, then there should be no news that he couldn’t share with her, especially if it is information that will permanently affect both of them. The ex fiancé is a coward and disloyal.

@nationalinstituteofcheese3012

10 ай бұрын

Ya I feel bad about what happened to him but like holy shit that is cruel.

With the squatter if that happened in Melbourne Australia the home owners would be able to physically remove her if they tell her to leave 3 times and she refuses 3 times