It's so stupid to abandon someone at the altar but still expect exclusivity

@adamb89

3 ай бұрын

Gotta give him credit for not showing up at least. Better than trapping her into a loveless marriage.

@d.phantomfan1216

3 ай бұрын

My biggest pet peeve is a fact he waited five years to even talk to her, and even then he tried to deflect being the dick by trying to make it seem like she was wrong for taking a rebound. F*CK him and f*CK his friends.

@LLandS18

3 ай бұрын

​@@adamb89No, you don't. You don't have to give anybody credit for being a coward right up to the last second. And then continuing to be a coward and not come to the church and talk to her herself. If that's what we have to give people credit for. Well I should get credit for walking over the core of the earth everyday. Ridiculous.

@lorilancaster5917

3 ай бұрын

And to feign all fault in the situation. The friends also need to need their damn mouths shut. They didn’t console OP when their friend abandoned her so why would they think they should get involved? Yeah OP could’ve picked a better spite sex partner but I’m sure OP was going through an emotional roller coaster and people were bombarding her with calls instead of giving her space. And regarding the ex I’m thinking of Adam Sandler from the Wedding Singer. “This is something you’ve could’ve told me YESTERDAY!” The groom had months to call it off but chose to humiliate someone he allegedly loves

@kaylawoodbury2308

3 ай бұрын

​@@adamb89 No, it's better to man up and say something before dropping thousands of dollars on a venue, food, dress and tux, etc and humiliating the other person. This guy doesn't deserve credit for going the cowards route.

First story: "I dumped you at the altar but you're not allowed to sleep with anyone else". The fuck? I think OP should consider it a blessing in disguise that they broke up

@alexanderhenby1362

3 ай бұрын

Don't forget she said it happened 5 years ago and ex contacted her RECENTLY So it's been 5 years that he's wanted her to stay single and chaste for him.

@annika5893

3 ай бұрын

The one with cold feet is just super salty to OP doing it first, before he got a chance to do the "exploring of other options".

@MultiBearsfan54

3 ай бұрын

@@alexanderhenby1362no you completely misunderstood the story

@ReigoVassal

3 ай бұрын

@@alexanderhenby1362 Yup. The ex just upset OP move on right after he abandon her in the altar. Should've break the relationship earlier rather than wasting everyone's time and money on the so called wedding.

@MultiBearsfan54

3 ай бұрын

@@ReigoVassal like *right* after 😂 (that night lol)

2nd Story: "Give her a second chance!" Lady, this WAS her second chance!

@RobDaCajun

3 ай бұрын

2 story. I’m going to slightly disagree with Dabney on this one. It doesn’t make the ex a monster for what she said and thought. It just clearly showed she didn’t care because it wasn’t her child or her family. Unfortunately, this is more people’s attitude than we want to realize. Just most people have the tact to not say the quiet part out loud.

@user-bu2sf1gb5t

3 ай бұрын

@@RobDaCajun she's still vile slimeball though. Does not excuse her in the slightest.

@Mokuteke

3 ай бұрын

@@RobDaCajunno only a super villain would say the shit she said she a terrible person

@aylapantswb

3 ай бұрын

Yes! I going to comment this exact thing!

@Tustin2121

3 ай бұрын

@@RobDaCajun- No, sorry, “not caring” is one thing. Actively belittling her partner *for* caring is a whole other thing. And the latter DOES make her a monster. Add to that that she’s actively perpetuating toxic masculinity with her “boys don’t cry” BS, and she shouldn’t have gotten the second chance she had, imo.

How much do u want to bet the sister was told a different version? Also, she just lost her daughter. She probably can't handle losing a friend, even a horrible one

@TomDarkwulf87

3 ай бұрын

Given the ex's behavior, this would absolutely NOT surprise me

@khrishp

3 ай бұрын

I think something that was glossed over is that the sister doesn't know what she said before that op forgave. I wonder if the sister's opinion would change if she knew about that first instance

@avashnea

3 ай бұрын

Except anyone that thinks that way about your kid is NOT a friend, good or bad.

@Tustin2121

3 ай бұрын

Yes, this! I hope OP told his sister his side of the story because I definitely do not trust the girlfriend to be an objective storyteller here.

@ismae-rienne4991

3 ай бұрын

@@avashnea while that is true, the sister is going through a mental turmoil from grief. She isn't thinking clearly. They were friends before, so that's what she's hanging on to.

"I want to experience life before being tied down" can be easily translated to "I want to sleep around and I view you as a burden"

@lorilancaster5917

3 ай бұрын

But also my safety net from when I need to give my cucumber a break before it becomes a pickle.

@ReigoVassal

3 ай бұрын

Leaving the soon to be wife at the altar is something that can't be undone. If he can't be bothered to be in his own wedding, then what else he will "chicken out"? His child's birth or his child's entire life? He's nothing but a disaster waiting to happen.

@FatherOfGray

3 ай бұрын

This is exactly what's going on. If "experience life" meant anything _other_ than "sleeping around" that's something he and his would-be wife could easily do _together_. He wanted to keep riding the Couchie Carousel before settling down with OP. (Borrowing incel terminology ironically because, funny enough, this guy is doing _exactly_ what the stereotypical male incel accuses every woman in their 20s that doesn't want to sleep with them of doing)

@FatherOfGray

3 ай бұрын

Wow I really screwed up the italics there. Apologies for that reading really weird. I wish we had a 5 minute window to edit KZread comments.

@Richard_Nickerson

3 ай бұрын

100% Leaving at the alter is dumping someone in general

Who the F would think Stuarta is a good name?!? Dudes so obsessed with his name having top billing that he’s blind to reason.

@lorilancaster5917

3 ай бұрын

And dude! You’re not a king. He and his side of the family sound like a bunch of egomaniacs.

@dudeorduuude5211

3 ай бұрын

Ya, she is trying to justify it with the bullying, etc. It's a dumb name! That is reason enough.

@akl2k7

3 ай бұрын

Yeah, it's a suffix away from it being Stuartess.

@beatrizcosta8137

3 ай бұрын

He is not trying to honor family, he is just honoring himself. Kond of pathetic

@Gabbz737NEW

3 ай бұрын

Why does her 1st name need to honor him? Isn't she gonna have his last name?

That second story, I just know the ex-gf told her mom and OP's sister an twister version of the story that makes her look better, OP needs to tell them both his version of things.

@dinlupus3196

3 ай бұрын

yes, YES! This is exactly what i thought, i think she told them that she called him a crybaby but not the part where she said that he should not be attached to a child that isn't his own

@akl2k7

3 ай бұрын

​@@dinlupus3196heck, she probably even left that part out, probably making herself out to be someone who wanted more time together.

@bigjalapeno7061

3 ай бұрын

Probably

Story 2: Given the girlfriend technically displayed her true colors three times and got three chances out of it, I get the feeling she didn't tell her mom or Op's sister the full story or what she may have said not directly to op

@truinno

3 ай бұрын

After his sister called to ask him to giver a second chase, he should of told her about the gf’s first comment.

@tibbynibby

3 ай бұрын

She definitely lied to the others about the severity of what she said

@asimplethievingbat5978

3 ай бұрын

@tibbynibby yeah, no, she either lied or withheld some truth. Basically the same thing tbh

@DoctorOaks

3 ай бұрын

​@@truinnoI'm sure he probably will, but at the same time I doubt OP was thinking clearly after just waking up from literally drinking himself to sleep.

@kawliga9890

3 ай бұрын

My guess is she probably only said that she was glad she was no longer suffering and in a better place. Probably withheld everything else

So the guy abandoned her and her bully slept with her afterwards? I think it would've been safe to say that the groom dumped her when he ran

@Nerobyrne

3 ай бұрын

100% She did absolutely nothing wrong with hooking up with that guy. It's pretty weird, but then again people do weird things when they are hurting, and I can imagine that THIS was very likely the most traumatic thing that ever happened to her.

@DryPaperHammerBro

3 ай бұрын

@@Nerobyrne Yeah, I blame OP -100% for her actions EDIT: I SAID *NEGATIVE ONE HUNDRED PERCENT*

@KEVBOYMUSIC

3 ай бұрын

@@DryPaperHammerBro ?

@bibigamer502

3 ай бұрын

@@DryPaperHammerBrodo you want to blame OP for her ex dumping her at the alter while not telling anyone anything?

@AshlynRose0210

3 ай бұрын

Yall thinking the guy who said he blames her -100% is on the side of the runaway groom? Yall need to learn how to read jokes apparently.

Anyone who needs their child named similarly to them to "honor them" is probably the most self centered person in the universe. Imagine having such a giant ego that having a kid isn't enough. Having a kid have your name isn't enough. You need both your kids names to "honor" you. Gross.

@mandalorianhunter1

3 ай бұрын

That's how I feel, I think calling someone Jr or the second is narcissistic

@Gabbz737NEW

3 ай бұрын

My bro is William the 5th Atp it's not so much narcissistic as it is seeing how long we can keep this name going lol Then funny enough my BF is William as well. So can you guess what our son's 1st name is? Lol but we call him by his middle name because if my bro ever has a William the 6th the boys won't be confused. We almost named my son after Stan Lee. We're both super nerds and Stan Lee died while I was pregnant.

@FNLNFNLN

3 ай бұрын

@@Gabbz737NEW Making your kid's name a running joke isn't much better.

@twigarm9124

3 ай бұрын

I don’t see an issue with a child being named after their parent, I myself was named after my father and partially my grandfather but to give your child the name Stuarta of all things due to your own self appreciation is strange, why not name the child after it’s mother or another close female family member.

@mandalorianhunter1

3 ай бұрын

@@FNLNFNLN yeah I'm like that's pathetic

He abandoned his fiancée at the altar and expected fidelity? That's not how things work, dude... you forfeited any right to be mad at anything she does the moment you betrayed her.

@bibigamer502

3 ай бұрын

He was pretty much Rlues for thee not for me

@bigjalapeno7061

3 ай бұрын

Yea really. What did he expect?

@AnonJake

3 ай бұрын

@@bibigamer502he didn’t cheat tho

@MrDoverfield

3 ай бұрын

@@AnonJake as far as the OP knows

@DarkEinherjar

3 ай бұрын

@@AnonJake Neither did OP. The wedding and the relationship were both over the moment he ghosted her.

2nd story: How the hell could OP's sister forgive her

@Alakaizer

3 ай бұрын

The ex probably didn't tell her everything.

@khrishp

3 ай бұрын

To the sister this is the first time. Op really should have told his sister what she had said before that he had forgiven.

@becauselifts9913

3 ай бұрын

Ditto. She "told the sister everything." Did she though, or did she set a narrative?

@lorilancaster5917

3 ай бұрын

@@becauselifts9913I’m sure she used her time packing to come up with a story to make her look less bad. Screw her! She’s a horrible person and needs to take accountability

@locusxe1411

3 ай бұрын

@@khrishpimo I don’t think it would have mattered if it was the first time. She called her husband a crybaby for caring about his niece dying. That’s super messed up

2nd story: OP's only mistake was forgiving her the first time. This heartlessness is one of the biggest red flags I've ever seen. OP also needs to have a talk with his sister, because it's obvious that the ex-gf didn't confess everything. She totally left out the part where she said she didn't care.

Story 1: Wait, op’s ex fiancée left her at the altar but expects op to remain faithful to him and not sleep with anyone? Yeah F that.

@lorilancaster5917

3 ай бұрын

And claim to want closure but instead wants to trash her for what she did years ago due to his actions? What was she to do? Join a nunnery? Gone gay? Maybe OP should’ve did the deed with his frenemy instead?

@ethinprobst7128

3 ай бұрын

How much you wanna bet that the groom was sleeping around when he got cold feet? Then 6 years later he confronts her.... Like dude, I've no doubt you were sleeping around too, don't demand fidelity when you yourself haven't been faithful.

@kaykay8855

3 ай бұрын

@@ethinprobst7128 I wouldn’t put it past him.

@nationalinstituteofcheese3012

3 ай бұрын

You’d be surprised what goes on in your head when your ego is bigger than the earth itself

@bladerunner3314

2 ай бұрын

I wonder if he did ... naw, he boned every chick he could.

Story 1: NTA. Ouch man, I never would wish this on anyone else, being left at the altar. And what "wedding day"? You got cold feet and dumped OP, and now you have the gall to call her and tell her what she can and can't do? No! You aren't my fiancee anymore. The friends are AHs too, they didn't know how it felt to be left at the altar.

@dinlupus3196

3 ай бұрын

AND he dumped her because he wanted to "live a little more" aka "I want to sleep with other people before settling down " the audacity of this guy.

@marcoagorozco

3 ай бұрын

He is just mad that she could get sum, I bet it was a ploy to get an open marriage or expected to have some fun for a week and come back to op and she take him happily. His ego was hurt and I bet he could not get any for a long time so he is taking it out on her.

@DoctorOaks

3 ай бұрын

For the friends, he's probably trying to spin it like she slept with the guy and that's WHY he dumped her at the altar.

When RSlash mentioned the girl's name was also Lily, that broke me. I lost my best friend to leukemia...sorta. she was declared in remission and caught the flu. Her name was Caitlin, and i miss her every day. I could feel the agony in his voice as he said this. Im praying that sweet little baby slash stays healthy.

@vanguardangel6912

3 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry. I hope you and your family and Caitlin’s family are doing okay now.

@hunnykun101

3 ай бұрын

I'm sorry for your loss😢

@christiannsl14

3 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss. No one deserves to go through that kind of pain.

@michaeltelson9798

3 ай бұрын

The daughter of a coworker died of Leukemia, my brother died of a cancer after being in remission from Hodgkins Lymphoma. I am a fan of singer/songwriter Steve Goodman (City of New Orleans) and am reading his biography and the years that he suffered through Leukemia that eventually took his life. I pray for you and all those that these terrible inflictions affect their families and lives.

@audreynothepburn7663

3 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry for your loss, cancer and the flu can fuck off.

#2: -For all of the family saying give her a second chance, he did -This is the second time he CAUGHT her saying that, the way she was nonchalantly saying that to her friend then how often has this happened already. Its clearly that this isnt a slipup, but what she genuinely believes

@TsukiKageTora

3 ай бұрын

OP’s sister got a completely different story from her friend, the OP’s girlfriend. No good mother who cries at the diagnosis would EVER be friends with anyone with what she said about OP and her daughter! She grinned saying she was _glad_ her daughter passed away! If friend told her that, she would never forgive her, especially when her daughter loved her as a friend!

Story 1; *_HE LEFT HER AT THE ALTAR_* He made it pretty f*cking clear the relationship was over so OP was single and ready to mingle, and mingle she did! That's not cheating. When you break up with someone, you no longer have a say in who they get to sleep with or when.

@threecards333

3 ай бұрын

In his twisted mind he still wanted a future with her but wanted to spread his oats in the present. But that is not how relationships work.

Story 2: Yeah…I don't even know what she was thinking. All I know is that she is super heartless, and OP already gave her a second chance, and she blew it. I'm no expert, but I'm wondering if part of the reason behind her behavior is because OP's attention was divided between her and the niece and she didn't like it

@Tustin2121

3 ай бұрын

This is what I was thinking during the story. She only cares about herself and has no empathy for anyone else, including her partner.

@Bendylife

3 ай бұрын

I think You're right that she was jealous over the niece, but I think Some of that feeling might be justified given how OP was treating her for so long. By no means does that excuse her behavior, but I can see how someone could grow some resentment based on how OP was handling the situation. Idk how I would feel if my BF started to pull away from me and start drinking instead, then when he suddenly does something for an anniversary he wonders why you didn't do anything for him. This, of course, doesn't justify what she said at all, she was definitely the AH for that.

@chaosstripe9446

3 ай бұрын

​@@Tustin2121ah yes, classic narcissism and sociopathy.

Story 2: NTA OP my man Bro Dude DO NOT TAKE THAT WOMAN BACK! She is vile!

@CompulsingFate

3 ай бұрын

Vile it putting it mildly.

@cosmicminun59

3 ай бұрын

​@@CompulsingFateYeah, I feel like "waste of oxygen" would be a more fitting term to describe her

That first story is the epitome of Reddit "am I the A-hole" titles being deceptive. I was like "of course you'd be the a-hole how can you even ask that......He left you at the alter. The fact that's all you did should be worthy of at least 1 miracle towards Sainthood.

Wedding day? Last I checked a wedding day requires a groom and bride.

@akl2k7

3 ай бұрын

And actually getting married.

3rd post: Girlfriend claims her former job was toxic but from what I’ve read the toxicity is coming from her.

@bibigamer502

3 ай бұрын

She was just projecting

@condorboss3339

3 ай бұрын

Yeah, It's the old story: "Sometimes you meet AHs, but if everyone you meet is an AH, YOU are the AH."

S2: "A real man wouldn't cry unless it's HIS child dying." Excuse me, but this woman needs to be dumped like yesterday. Not only is she being heartless, but she doesn't seem to care that a child just died of cancer. If I had someone say that and assumed I wasn't there, I would have thrown them out before they had a chance to try and gaslight me. I would also throw out their stuff after they was out of my place because they are very selfish. It wasn't about her, and a real woman would have been supportive towards their boyfriend, not saying bad things behind their back. NTA, and I hope that shameless woman learns some compassion before going into another relationship.

@bladerunner3314

2 ай бұрын

I'm a 47 year old 6' 6'' metalhead with the full package in looks. People are scared of me. And yet I never viewed it as a threat to my masculinity to cry. I cried when my mom nearly died (no grief left when it actally happened), I cried for each and every cat I lost, and for Puck I still get misty eyes today, when I hear "Somewhere over the Rainbow" by the Piano Guys, or just talk about him or think about him ... yes, right now as well ... sometimes even crying. Not for what I lost, but because he died of cat leukemia not even reaching 2 years of age. And that was 2015.

"she asked me what would lily want" the ex girlfriend is obviously the biggest asshole here but we need to talk about the audacity of the sister using OP's niece to try to manipulate him like that.

@threecards333

3 ай бұрын

Lily liked would have wanted OP to be happy and not with someone who was happy she died.

@lorilancaster5917

3 ай бұрын

And it sounds like she didn’t ask OP his side. Maybe OP should put his family on a time out while he gets help. They’re redirecting their grief on to fixing OPs relationship

@thanos8077

3 ай бұрын

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks this I hate when people do that

@akl2k7

3 ай бұрын

​@@lorilancaster5917chances are she got a very warped version of the story that left out the worst of her wrongdoing.

@lorilancaster5917

3 ай бұрын

@@akl2k7 that I have no doubt about. I’m also betting the now ex never cares for the child and was just using her to come off as “marriage material”

As someone who has grown up with a normal name with NO unique spelling whatsoever but STILL gets my name constantly misspelled and mispronounced, PLEASE keep putting your foot down on not naming your little girl Stuarta

@bigjalapeno7061

3 ай бұрын

Unique names like that are so stupid

I doubt the Ex told the sister “everything that happened”. She told her some twisted version where she made a statement that OP misconstrued and freaked out over. Ask the sister what she was told and what OP witnessed and compare notes. Be happy you dumped this toxic waste of space before marriage or kids got involved.

Ok I was so ready to bash OP like how do you sleep with someone, on your wedding day and think you’re in the right? Then we get to “Then he left me at the alter.” And I was like ok I was wrong OP is not the AH. He made a choice to stand OP and leave her he lost any exclusivity rights the moment he did.

@lorilancaster5917

3 ай бұрын

And I bet he was hooking up or looking for someone to hook up with while he called OP at their wedding

@joepersch6779

3 ай бұрын

Right? I was in the same boat thinking, "Who tf sleeps with someone else on their wedding day." And then I read it and realized "Oooooh. Yeah, definitely not the AH here."

@bigjalapeno7061

3 ай бұрын

Yea really. I think that's what everyone was thinking

@condorboss3339

3 ай бұрын

I do wonder about the 'Frenemy' however. It looks like he saw that OP was down and took advantage of her while she was vulnerable.

Prenup: So this whole situation happened is because the parents disapproved the person the ex wanted to bang, and she only married OP just to shut them up and not get cut off, but she'll still bang the dude anyway. Nothing like wanting to have and eat that cake, huh? At least the kids are OP's so he'll definitely get custody since he's been the good parent while the ex's faithfulness was in the negatives

@RobDaCajun

3 ай бұрын

It’s a miracle the kids are his.

@lorilancaster5917

3 ай бұрын

However I think OP should play his infidelity card to keep his ex in-laws and ex wife in check. They play nice and so will he by not letting the knowledge spill to the kids

@qdllc

3 ай бұрын

I don’t know what country this story took place in, but if you have proof of infidelity, you can pretty much hose the other side and they will get nothing since they’re the ones who were cheating in the relationship. I would have played the infidelity card from day one since it may as well be brought up in the divorce proceedings.

@carolev.5648

3 ай бұрын

Well, he's sort of playing it by "blackmailing" her: play nice in the divorce, or I won't... and I have MORE DAKKA!!!!

@RBrown-uk4xt

3 ай бұрын

@@lorilancaster5917 OP should definitely layout the terms and reasons with the wife and in-laws. It is almost guaranteed to come out anyway, especially if OP wants to prevent the in-laws from trying to turn the kids against him. I can only see the wife trying to throw OP under the bus with some made up sob story, especially if she doesn't know she was caught.

Last story: she cheated on you the entire marriage for 10 straight years, at the very least you should be paid for being an ongoing cover so she can be with her bad boy.

@Sorchia56

3 ай бұрын

Absolutely!

@Flarflenugen

3 ай бұрын

Id say op should tell her he knows and has proof, and if she drags it out, he might be inclined to ask her parents to help settle it faster.

@spydersoup8447

2 ай бұрын

Worse still, this reminds me of the storyline from a limited time event in Genshin Impact which involves a man who still wants to maintain his relationship with his parents so that he can get their inheritance and having a relationship with someone his parents would disapprove of while the woman suggested leaving his obvious toxic family to start a life with her, resulting in him doing things he claims he had no choice of. Yeah, someone who is in a relationship with someone their family disapproves of and instead of cutting them out of their life and earning money by a job to become financially independent, they rather stick with the family and trick them just so that they can get their money. Even in the game, people like that disgust me.

You really don't need the dumb click bait sleezy thumbnails to get us to watch. We're gonna watch anyway.

The fact that so many men aren’t allowed to simply CRY when they need/want to is horrible. OP needs to steer clear of awful people like his ex, and not listen to the advice to give her a second chance. He needs to focus on himself, his grief, and his mental health. This is such a horrible situation. Grief is by far one of the worst emotion to have.

Story 1: Ex-fiancé's friends say that she was wrong and _they would have left her too._ Yeah dudes, _HE LEFT HER,_ That's precisely how she ended up in a situation to sleep with someone else.

"Give her a second chance" She had a second chance and she blew it, Op is better off without someone who isn't heartless

As a mom who lost her daughter at the beginningof this year, I would not forgive OP'S girlfriend for saying those awful things. In my books, that is a line you do not cross. I was surprised the sister would even talk to her friend after saying that. I would never speak to her again. The second story struck my still very raw and sensitive nerve.

@luna_theraider

3 ай бұрын

Pretty sure the ex-gf lied to her mom and the sister to try getting the OP back. Its clear she is a liar based on how she grinned at the news of the death and what she said while grinning.

@elleumm

3 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine living through that. I lost my brother a year and a half ago, and that was awful enough- I honestly don’t know how my mom does it when she’s the one who lost a child, or how you do. Take care of yourself ♥️

@cassandrahoward4532

3 ай бұрын

@elleumm thank you so much, and I'm sorry you lost your brother. I can't imagine losing a sibling, but I'm sure it equals the pain and sadness of losing a child. I hope you're taking care of yourself too and letting yourself heal and know that it's okay to not be okay.

@akl2k7

3 ай бұрын

Chances are the sister got a warped version of the story that left out what the ex said.

@cassandrahoward4532

3 ай бұрын

@@akl2k7 I agree because I don't see how the sister could forgive her friend for what she said if it wasn't a warped version that the sister got.

In this economy it is nearly impossible to support a family, even just a partnership, on only one income. I'd love to be a stay at home mom, but it's straight up impossible to do these days.

@errornull390

2 ай бұрын

Don’t like it? Stop voting democrat then?

@roselover411

2 ай бұрын

@@errornull390 no political party is going to change that any time soon, my dude.

Second story… the self control it’d take to not punch somebody so insensitive… hoooo boy. That is NOT somebody to take back, no matter what everybody says. She is NOT sad about the death, nor about what she said. She’s sad she got caught and there were consequences, nothing more. She had her chance, now she stays gone.

@brendanboomhour7606

3 ай бұрын

I know I'm the type to lack that self control, I'd lash out in a heartbeat, so hopefully I never meet someone like that

@redrubyrose618

3 ай бұрын

It feels like she was jealous about the niece for being sick and taking all the attention of her man, even though this is a child who’s literally fucking dying, and from what OP said LIKED the GF like-????

First Story nta. The ex fiance fucked Up, OP did Not really anything wrong

Second story: if my boyfriend wasn’t crying and upset that someone he was close to was dying I would see that as a bigger red flag.

I'm wondering? The "Frenemy", he's flirted with her for years? Maybe I'm off the mark here? But possibly just possibly he was NEVER joking around? Maybe he genuinely liked her but just had sh*t people skills? And OP is completely oblivious? Maybe...? Either way, she can sleep with whoever after the fiance abandoned her

*First OP:* Lol at OP's ex lecturing her about sleeping with someone else on her wedding night when her fiance _left her at the altar._ He needs to go sit down somewhere. Also, why did he wait six years later to apologize/confront OP about the situation? OP is NTA. I'm also side-eyeing OP's frenemy. Yes, OP's a consenting adult, and the frenemy is a jerk, but OP was still vulnerable after being left at the altar. *Second OP:* That was heartbreaking to read. OP was completely justified in his actions. I wouldn't be surprised if his ex turned out to be a sociopath because her reaction to everything was cold. OP is NTA, and I wish him and his family the best. *Third OP:* Nah, dude; OP should definitely break up with wannabe Peggy Bundy. It's not fair to him to work overtime to pay the bills when she won't contribute financially. OP is NTA. *Fourth OP:* I've said it before, and I'll keep on saying it: giving your kid a garbage name is second-hand child abu5e because of the reasons OP listed. OP and her husband _cannot_ name their daughter Stuarta (I pronounced it like "STEWARD-a"). OP is NTA. *Fifth OP:* Why should OP be screwed over _twice?_ Waiting it out for 10 years to split the assets was a smart move. OP is NTA. Side note: I wonder why OP's ex in-laws don't like the ex-wife's boyfriend? Was he a bad influence? Was he of a different race? And the in-laws suggested OP get a prenup? I wonder what that's all about?

@rylashadow18

3 ай бұрын

For the fourth one I can already hear the kids teasing her. It gets said a lot that people should tell the names the want to a bunch of 5 year old boys and see the reaction. Stewardess go get me a drink or even worse someone screaming this is sparda before kicking her. Disgusting.

@audreynothepburn7663

3 ай бұрын

@@rylashadow18 the story reminded me of the story where OP’s niece was named Karen because her cousin didn’t have social media, and didn’t get the memes. The little girl got bullied because of her name and the parents changed it.

@DoctorOaks

3 ай бұрын

Story 5: The OP should tell his kids their mom is the reason for the divorce. I have seen way to many people try to be the bigger person by not badmouthing the ex, and then the ex being vindictive whispers lies in the kid(s) ears to make them look like the villain. OP doesn't need to give any details, but it does create a conflicting story for them which will make them less likely to just believe the side that's saying something.

@tumblingartist

3 ай бұрын

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@audreynothepburn7663

3 ай бұрын

@@DoctorOaks I completely agree, but it depends on how old the kids are.

Story 2: Some women say that men need to be open with their feelings, yet some people just can't handle a man who is. Hopefully this doesn't ruin his ability to show emotion.

@drwboy07

3 ай бұрын

It will.

@VD_the_GodKing

3 ай бұрын

Yeah. Ngl OP makes himself sound like a cuck.

The one about the niece absolutely breaks my heart because a few years ago my niece passed away at the age of 3 and my gf at the time said I was less of a man for crying and this devastated me especially because my niece was murdered by her mother

@threecards333

3 ай бұрын

Wow. Some women (and men) really have toxic views of manhood.

@yabe-kfptentacultist

3 ай бұрын

The more I read further the worse it got. I'm sorry for your loss, but I wonder why you're still with a gf that's preaching toxic masculinity? Eta: oops missed the "gf at the time"

@audreynothepburn7663

3 ай бұрын

Holy shit! I am so so so sorry for your loss. Good on you for dumping that POS also was the “mom”/killer your sister or sister-in-law?

@NorthernRaider27

3 ай бұрын

@audreynothepburn7663 yeah I left the girlfriend shortly after and she was my sister in-law and my nieces stepmom she got 30 to life

@NorthernRaider27

3 ай бұрын

@@audreynothepburn7663 and thank you for your condolences

Imagine watching your partner exhaust themselves working extra to pay the bills, to the point that they come to you to ask you to help out, and you just go “Nah. Don’t feel like it. Can you work more?” What.

@lorilancaster5917

3 ай бұрын

And I’m betting she’s also not doing any of her so called stay at home duties such as cooking and cleaning

First one isn't the asshole. The one who is, is the one who got cold feet. The bride took a step in healing in a way

Story 2: NTA Something tells me OP's Ex (hopefully stays that way) didn't tell the whole story to OP's sister. Otherwise, I bet OP's sister would be at his Ex's throat for her honestly psycho behavior.

@dinlupus3196

3 ай бұрын

its a good gut feeling, i thought the same thing, Op needs to ask his sister what that bitch actually told her

@YourXavier

3 ай бұрын

This. Definitely sit down and compare notes.

If you're looking for the thumbnail her name is Christina Model.

Story 2: op really need to talk with her sister, i'm pretty sure that, that horrible woman didn't tell her what she really have been talking and how she was pleased when that kid died. Why would you ever trust for woman like that to tell the truth.

I'm just wondering how much sanitizer the ex gf used telling her mom and ESPECIALLY her bff, the grieving mother about what happened. Coz I don't believe for a _minute_ that even someone as forgiving as OP's sister would still be friends with such a were-human if she knew the actual truth.

Story 1: who the hell does this guy think he is trying to be upset with you after he left you at the altar, and then gave you a bull crap message about wanting to live more before getting married? I can't stand egotistical crap like this, where someone dumps somebody then things they have a right to feel anything about what they do after. He's acting like you cheated on him when he ghosted you on the day you were supposed to get married, at least you can say you did what you did because you were angry and betrayed, he just a jackass. Which by the way it's bad enough he waited five damn years to apologize, but trying to divert Blaine towards you because you didn't move on according to hit timeline show that he's not actually sorry.

The second story is a good example of the old saying: "When someone shows you their true self, believe them the first time."

PreNup! I am looking forward to this showing up on Pro Revenge! She sounds like someone that hates the idea of losing.

Frankly, I don't agree with sleeping with the guy who literally BULLIED you when you were younger or anyone at all on the worse day of your life, but nah. OP not the AH. I was seriously considering calling her one from the title alone or if she sounded like a total doofus who can't seem to grasp why sleeping with another dude on your wedding day is a bad thing, but when I heard the story... just wow. Getting left at the altar is horrible...

"Not supporting you at a low part in your life"? It's so much worse than that. The girlfriend has absolutely no respect for OP -- none at all. She's glad the niece is gone because then OP can concentrate totally on the girlfriend and not be distracted by some little girl who happens to be a relative. Girlfriend wants OP to cut everyone else off but her. This is what makes it so much worse. No more! Put this witch in the mirror and drive off as fast as possible. Oh, yeah, and rest assured that if you stay with her, it's a given that at some point she will cheat on you and then leave you. We've seen all this all before... so many times. You've dodged a bullet, OP.

Story 2: She exposed herself as an ignorant sexist, don't let her back in. She will only make your life worse. She doesn't care about you, she just wanted the free bed.

I thought that the first story's OP could not redeem themselves, but, they did.

@SteviiLove

3 ай бұрын

Right?! I was expecting OP to have cheated but I got a twist!

@VictoriaMullakandova

3 ай бұрын

Same

Outside of the fourth story, apparently this is the toxic relationship episode. That aside, second story, can't cry over your child dying if you never have one with them. Plus, how do we know OP's ex told the truth to her mom and OP's family? I wouldn't put it past her to make herself look better.

@bigjalapeno7061

3 ай бұрын

Yea really

1st story - like he didn't bang someone. He literally said he wanted more out of life so he left her at the altar. OP - HE slept with someone either right before, during (hence why he wasn't there) or after (when he made the call). Those are toxic people around you that keep harping on your chasteness. Get your bully to track down the proof of your toadstool cheating on you - it seems he'd be totally into that.

@lorilancaster5917

3 ай бұрын

I doubt it since the bully is into hurting OP. He’s an enemy. Not a frenemy.

Remember, the world is Cruel, never give your child a name that will be a magnet for more cruelty.

Story 1: I think op deserves a soft BH score just because she made a really horrible decision in a moment of emotional upheaval, and allowed a man who bullied her to take her to bed. The only person who was hurt in all of this was her. First by her fiance, and second by herself.

@lorilancaster5917

3 ай бұрын

I agree and if anything she should’ve screwed her exs frenemy instead. However she was emotional for good reason and it sounded like no one was letting her cope

Story 2: one, you already gave her a second chance, and on top of being almost happy that your niece is gone, she insulted you behind your back for being sad about it. Second, no way did she tell your sister the whole truth, if anything your sister should be more mad than you, someone she considered a friend is talking this way about her brother and her deceased daughter, if I was your sister your ex would have to be more worried about me than you. I don't care if she is stuck in bed crying to the poetry practically blind, there is no forgiving someone so heartless and cruel to be offended that you are grieving over your family. It is scary how incredibly self-centered and heartless this person you had the displeasure of spending any kind of time with is treating this whole situation, and even if your sister can forgive her which I don't understand you still should not take this person back in any form.

Story 1: sleeping around right away after ex-fiancé ran away is not the most cunning of options, mind you, but it is in no way malicious, so no AH on OP's part. But why the bully? Why the frienemy of all people? Anyone else but that one!

@simplify3621

2 ай бұрын

that was sus af ngl

The insensitive story, OP’s GF (OP’s sisters friend) did not come clean to her friend because if she did, the sister would have ended the friendship. There is no good mother who would have just let the fact go their friend was happy their child has passed away. OP tell your sister what you heard, what you saw and what she said to your face about you caring about a child that’s going to pass away anyways, cause most likely than not she said a different story that makes you a jerk for dumping her for some reason as “trying to help through grieving”. She is a monster in sheep’s clothing and you and your sister fell for it.

I mean. He left her at the alter. She’s entitled to sleep with anyone she wants.

Story 2 : want she expecting she just call the dieding nieces that she happy that the niece died and she is using the mother of the dead child to manipulate op, and people are saying that he should give her a second chance she had a second chance nta

@yabe-kfptentacultist

3 ай бұрын

Fyw, dieding is supposed to be dying. Died is the past tense of dying.

@Spongeboyking

3 ай бұрын

@@yabe-kfptentacultist I don’t know how to spell property the microphone to ask

@yabe-kfptentacultist

3 ай бұрын

@@Spongeboyking .... you use a mic to type messages? That's new. If you’re on mobile, please just type, autocorrect will fix spelling mistakes.

@yabe-kfptentacultist

3 ай бұрын

@@Spongeboyking also its "properly" not "property" (a house)

Based on the title I was NOT expecting that from story 1 lol.

Story 1: NTA. He stood up OP. That's as final an end to the relationship as is possible. From that point, you're entitled to make whatever stupid mistakes you want to make. He gave up the right to say anything. OP 0/5 easy. Ex 5/5. I usually reserve this score for people who hurt kids, but to stand her up at the altar? You could have at least called it off beforehand. Story 4: NTA. That is absolutely not a name OP should give to her daughter if she doesn't agree. How my wife and I decided our daughters names. She picked the names, but I had veto authority. Meaning I couldn't suggest them, but if she picked a name I had a problem with she'd have to discard it. It worked well for us. Most of mine would've probably been rejected anyway. 😂

Last story: "why would you blindside me with a divorce?" "I dunno. Why did you blindside me with your cheating?"

The second someone dumps you, you can sleep with whoever you want, and the ex can't say anything.

@lorilancaster5917

3 ай бұрын

Nor can his flying monkeys

I'm sorry the thumbnail made me laugh

Second story: Second chance? She was looking for a third chance. This woman is evil and selfish. She didn't love Lily. NTA

Story 2: There is definitely something not right about that woman. OP should stick to his guns and stay away.

Good morning!

@v3rix.

3 ай бұрын

good morning bro!

@lillyvaughn5398

3 ай бұрын

Good morning!!

@DeltaBat

3 ай бұрын

Mornin'😊

@icbatothinkofaname

3 ай бұрын

Good afternoon (WTF IS DENTAL CARE🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧)

@pesto..

3 ай бұрын

morning :)

Request for entitled parents 😊

@jacobdavis3992

3 ай бұрын

Morning 🌅

Man I hate being a day late to each video 😅 I moved so my time is shifting 3hrs. And I always start my day with one of his videos. So now I have to wait for the new one, so I can watch it tomorrow morning 😂. Love your videos man keep it up. I hope all is well with your family! 🙏🏾

I am willing to bet money that the girlfriend from the second story told a much tamer version of what actually happened, or just straight up lied to her mom and op's sister. She already showed how heartless she really is, I wouldn't put it past her to lie to her loved ones on top of that

GOODMORNING R SLASH

Morning everyone.

1) the ex left her to 'explore other options'. His just pissed off that OP got there first.

imo naming your kid after anyone in your family who's still alive always feels like you'd rather have a mini me than a child.

Story 2: The ex gf sounds absolutely toxic and like one of those people that buys into the bullshit "real men don't show their emotions" mentality. She also sounds SUPER entitled. Don't go back to her OP

STOP GIVING KIDS STUPID NAMES.

"How dare you sleep with someone else on our wedding night" mate there was no fucking wedding night. This is quite literally the consequences of your own actions Op clearly NTA

2nd story: Nah, that red flag you forgave would've been my end point. That grin on her face would've started an enormous fight. Women perpetuating toxic masculinity is really dumb. Edit: I would've told both of them that this WAS her 2nd chance already & she blew it so much worse than her 1st chance.

Damn 0 views and 0 likes in 9 seconds looks like people are getting tired of rslash 😂😂😂😂

Tell your sister what her so called friend said BEFORE her child died. She will not be so forgiving once she learns about that.

@yandereskitty

3 ай бұрын

You should've told her the first time she was disgusting towards her ill daughter. Shame on you for not doing that and keeping this trash.

This heartless cow insults the memory of OP's niece twice, OP himself once, and then tries spitting at him... Oh yeah, reeeeeeeeally wanna take you back now...

Story 2: I feel the mom and sister should also get 3/5 BHs. Especially the sister, trying to guilt OP into forgiving that ex with his niece's name. Screw her.

"Lily loved my gf" yeah would Lily love this lady for being happy she's dead?

Exactly the girl in the get a job story feels less like she wants a boyfriend and more like she wants someone to pay for her life

Writing about how grief is not part of our”men don’t cry” culture and this selfish gf make my point so clear.

Second story I'd be like "um, that WAS her second chance. She blew it."

THEIR IS NO WAS POSSIBLE HIS SISTER KNOWS EXACTLY WHAT THE GIRLFRIEND SAID!

Story 3: the sun's already named Stuart why do both kids need to honor dad's family? And if that is what it have to be why not pick a name from one of the females in this family instead of one of the worst names anyone will ever hear in their life? Also another thing you do not want this girl to grow up with that terrible name and then get guilt trip when she most likely is going to want to change it. I wouldn't let up on this, your daughter does not deserve such a ridiculous name just because your husband cares more about honoring himself than the well-being of his child.

@lorilancaster5917

3 ай бұрын

They don’t have a son. This is their first child.

Story 2:Oh, the ex, definitely. Definitely did not tell OP sister what actually happened.

I'm sorry, but if one's girlfriend isn't herself broken up by the death of her partner's niece (a girl who she used to play Barbie's with!) then that's a red flag so big, you could use it to power a 17th century pirate ship! Who wants to be with someone so devoid of empathy?

"I need a second job?" "How 'bout you get a first job!" OP, if her mind is set on not getting a job. You're mind is set on not working anymore overtime.

The Stuart story is what kinda happened to me. If I was a boy, I'd be named after my uncle: Danielle. Since I'm a girl though, yknow what my parents did instead? They just made that my middle name, it ain't that hard folks.

If someone I was involved with disrespected Mt niece's or nephew's, I would lose control of my actions.

If Lilly knew the girlfriend properly, rather than the facade adults can put on for kids, it would be an easy choice.