Traveling New England with my grown daughter for my Bucket List Fall Colors Tour this info is every bit as relevant as it was 2 yrs ago when I first heard it. Can't help but wonder when you were recording these if you knew how helpful they still are, years later, and how much we might need reminders? Thank you for your service!

This is so helpful. I've been exploring IFS...it really resonates with me and is the best way I've found to work with my inner critic

This clears the resentment toward the inner critic and soothes the defensive impulses.

@myndfulness

3 жыл бұрын

Yes-that’s it. You got it! 👍🏽

Thank you for this information - more than words can convey. Wow. I am deeply blessed by your discussion here.

@myndfulness

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Jennifer, thank you for taking time to share your thoughts. Grateful to you. 💝☀️

This is so helpful! I have a perfectionist and a people pleaser inner critic! Also, I discovered I have an advocate inner critic that tries to come to my defense (I see it as a reflection of my authentic self) but it is timid and seems to go underground when the Drill Sergeant Inner Critic shows up. It seems quite crowded in there at times! I'm trying to let it sort itself out. Thank you for clarifying how this all operates behind the scenes.

@myndfulness

3 жыл бұрын

In another video...wil discuss the Self. Yes, the Self (Aka, True Self) is the like a healthy parent...can act as the defender ...an inner champion. Just know all our parts have good intentions-to protect you ...and you get to let them know in a healthy, calm, loving way...that they don’t need to be so extreme and if they would be willing to step back...and say to the part(s), “I’ve got this.” To let the parts you will not need their extreme protectiveness. Kind of like an adult who shows up versus permitting kids to run your household. 😉

@lindaelarde2692

3 жыл бұрын

@@myndfulness I resonate with this. I have responded with anger and resentment, and feelings of failure, increasing my sympathetic threat response. I will try to incorporate your reframe when this fear and frustration around the pain comes up. 😌👍

Soooo Good

🙌🏼🙌🏼great video

Awesome. Love the connection with IFS.

@myndfulness

3 жыл бұрын

Yes-it’s a “deeper” level than just noticing. It’s about uncovering the reasons and assuring the parts...we will step in as a healthy parent. 👍🏽

*Time Stamps The Polyvagal Theory 1:00 The IFS 6:30 Two Skills: 10:41 Befriending the Inner Critic 11:33

Dr. Les have you ever found in your patient's the ability to release a long ago regret that caused guilt and shame. I am doing this neuroplasticity work and finding that the inner critic keeps telling me that I can't get past this regret and guilt because it feels like a dark secret, etc...

@myndfulness

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Sharon, Thank you for stopping by. Great question! If you got the gist of this video, the different parts of our minds… they protecting us… and sometimes these parts… Often referred to as the inner critic‘s tend to be very punishing. I highly recommend you follow up with an internal family systems therapist (IFS). This type of therapist specializes specifically on the very question you inquired about. Treatment is often a few sessions. Treatment with an IFS therapist is often geared towards teaching you to be your own healer... to learn to integrate the very parts that’s punishing us or we are fighting with. ifs-institute.com/practitioners The next time you hear that part of you that is punishing or putting you down… Listen to the meditation and this video to inquire what it’s really trying to protect you from. Lastly, you can simply thank that part that speaking to you… And ask him if it be willing to “step back” (always ask permission versus commanding it)... and ask it to be not so extreme. Whenever you talk to the inner Critics… Make sure you are connected with your breath… And that’s called coming into Self. When you’re grounded, you will feel more empowered when you talk to these parts. Wishing you much love and peace in your healing journey 💝☀️🙏🏽

Why do I always feel like my body is against me, if it's not my stomach is a migraine or back pain. I just want to be healthy, run and eat anything and not get sick.

@myndfulness

3 жыл бұрын

That was a very normal expressions of frustration regarding the body. However, when you get the gist of the message in that video(s) of the inner critics... and you finally realize everything you experience is “in-service of protection.” Take for example, if you have a dog that barks frequently at odd times, it’s natural to get pissed off at the dog. However, if you recognize and appreciate the dog is barking in-service of protecting you in the same manner… That is what the brain and body is doing “for” you. Change your relationship to how you relate to your difficult thoughts emotions and physical sensations, and you will start to change those difficult experiences. Get connected with an acceptance and commitment therapist or psychologist… You’ll do well. I also highly recommend you check out our 10 week online program that’s guided with a pain coach… To address your very frustration, which I so appreciate. Check is on at remedy pain.co. Let us know how we can help you.🙏🏽💝☀️

@Mary-cu4qu

3 жыл бұрын

@@myndfulness you are my physiologist and you have help me so much, but we haven't been able to meet. It always helps me when I talk to you!

Seems it is judge that shows up but always in my mind, not mind. I hadn’t finished the 3 breaths before the video was moving on which angered me….

@myndfulness

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing. That angry part/judgment …notice where in your body you feel the anger. Then focus on it and watch it through the lens of compassion…kindness…curiosity…ACCEPTANCE as you breathe and tap your chest(over heart) or gentle rub…as you breathe…and just continue to see “what unfolds.”Often we don’t see things as they are. We see things as we are. Wishing you much peace💝☀️🙏🏽

Hey, are you based in canada?

@myndfulness

3 жыл бұрын

Hi There, based in California.