Watched coach lee's No contact videos on repeat for 3 months which is the length of time it took my ex to get back with me. This **** works! Just need the courage to trust it and apply it (and the luck of finding it at the right time before damage is done)

@luq369

Жыл бұрын

@@strengthhonour5078 i joined couch lee "EBK"... but i starting to be nervous and anxious. I'm so afraid of losing her... she is getting engaged in 4 months...😭😞

@771

Жыл бұрын

@@luq369 Let go of expectation... she will come to you IF she wants to. Accept she may not come back to you and move forward with your life. If she does, you can work from there

@luq369

Жыл бұрын

@@771 oh man... thats really tough to swallow...😞

@NPCHSN

Жыл бұрын

Two years of no contact and I cringe at the thought of her reaching out because I just don’t want to deal with her, ever again. It gets better, boys.

@Camcam75

Жыл бұрын

@@strengthhonour5078 great ! What was the reason for the breakup ? Was your dumper a male?

When you lose an emotional attachment to someone you realise how ordinary they are. It's your love, emotion and energy that make them feel so special. Not my words by the way!

@mohamedabdelhai2890

2 ай бұрын

The problem is that I already know all that! But still feeling lost and the needy.

@nidgeontour257

2 ай бұрын

@@mohamedabdelhai2890 takes time..

To all of us struggling, we can pass through this storm. ✊

@shidow5035

Жыл бұрын

Amen🙏🏼

@crystalbrown6300

Жыл бұрын

I hope so

@ireneauditor4977

10 ай бұрын

Amen🙏

@rosestewart1606

9 ай бұрын

I will be the storm....The best thing for me to do is to find new things to do, especially anything that helps others deal with their pain.

@shannonmann5138

2 ай бұрын

Amen

One thing i have learned from the past year is that avoid watching videos of people who tell you that your ex will come back. If you have the mindset from day 0 that the ex is gone and are not comiing back it would be easier to let go.

@helenan866

4 ай бұрын

Good take. It's only been a month for me, but from the breakup I knew he wouldn't come back, and it wouldnt be good for me. I found coach lee and the idea of getting him back helped me stay away from him. Now that I'm strong to stay away, I want to shift my focus to myself and moving on ❤❤ I hope you're doing well now

@helenan866

3 ай бұрын

Nvm he asked for another chance 🤣🤣 but I'm not NEEDING him anymore. I'm just observing him at this stage

@teresarivera1164

3 ай бұрын

@@helenan866 thanks for the follow up 😅

@virgilioespinal6527

2 ай бұрын

@@helenan866 what about now?

@helenan866

2 ай бұрын

@virgilioespinal6527 going well :) slowly rebuilding, we are both in a very good place.

I just got over 22 year relationship and you are so right Coach! I didn't want to let go. It's been 8 months and I don't want the relationship back now. I'm now use to my single life! To those broken hearted, hang on you will be okay!💜

@MDDR-io7nh

Жыл бұрын

Same exact situation here

@Markdaamannn

Жыл бұрын

22 wow and got over in 8months?? I been in a 6 year relationship and it’s been a year and I still feel sad depressed and all of the above. It’s hard to act happy when you aren’t deep down. I wonder what she’s thinking? I’m over here sad and depressed and I wonder if she is over there happy living her life it’s sad and mind draining tbh

@kcash6359

Жыл бұрын

I was with my ex for over 24 years. We rarely fought and there was never yelling. In February, she started fights, almost nightly. A couple of weeks later, she said she wanted out. She rented a house shortly after and moved out the end of April. I was miserable and lost. I started to piece together what happened and things started to come into focus. By the end of May, I realized she had been seeing someone else. It was over and I knew it, but it made me feel a little better. Just knowing it was over and would never be the same again. It took a couple of more months to get over most of the sadness. But knowing it was over certainly hastened my progress. There was no more hope. What she did was rotten. Her boyfriend was a married guy she worked with. I never saw it coming, especially from her, but in the end, she was basically a weak POS. I can't say I am happier at this point than I was when we were together, and I wish it never happened, but I had to get used to it and move on. I wish all of you the best.

@Markdaamannn

Жыл бұрын

@@kcash6359 wow. I’m so sorry to hear that. So devastating, and yeah with all respect she is a pos for doing that. Idk why people throw away a good thing especially after so many years like In your case. I’m glad you are doing well now and got over it I know it must of been hard I couldn’t even imagine, but I do appreciate you sharing your story with us, and also thanks for the wishes! 🤝

@kcash6359

Жыл бұрын

@@Markdaamannn Thanks for the kind words Mark.

I gave nothing for two years, no messages, no calls, no responding, no social media. I buried my ex in the past and never turned around to dig them up. I forced myself to see the truth, the love was dead or never there at all. Use this pain people, don’t be used by it.

After working a 9 hour shift yesterday I came home and just let all my tears out, it felt great.

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

outroseok, I know how that feels because I've done that more times than I can count. I definitely recommend Coach Lee's Workshop for you bcse it's excellent and it will help you. Once you've joined, you will feel like a new person. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

@helenan866

5 ай бұрын

Same ❤

No contact works. She called my friend and asked about me today. 85 days nc. Strange thing is it dsnt matter anymore. I got no hard feelings or emotions anymore. I was the one who cried begged did everything in frst week nd used to think its the end of my life nd here im after 85 days nc living a good life without her. NC definitely works but by that time your ex absence wouldn't matter anymore. All we get is just one life. Dont waste it on quitters. One advice : train your brain and do never forget the moments when they left you nd said all those bad things. Wrap a band-aid of self respect on broke heart nd keep moving forward. Time heals everything. Coach lee, thank you. I don't know what should i say... But thank you. You saved my life.

@HS-df7ld

4 ай бұрын

Update

“We don't really heal anything; we simply let it go.” -Carl Jung

Started off watching Coach's videos to see how I can get my ex back...as I employed his techniques with no contact, I had a chance to look at my relationship with a critical eye and started asking questions. Turns out, this healing period during no contact has me thinking it may be best that I move on from a very toxic person, I really wish her well and hope she finds someone who compliments her. Thank you, coach Lee, I am free to heal and be a better me!

@Lucky77even

Жыл бұрын

Beautifully said this comment gives me hope

@gerry13cs

Жыл бұрын

exactly sma efor me brother.I started off saying i will follow a strick 30 days no contact period and then return with gifts and acting as casually as i can but 3 weeks now and i have changed my mind...As much as i would love to hear from her,i understand now that getting her back is propably the worst for me

I dont want them back. I just need this pain to go completely away so that I can feel normal again😅

The main thing to remember is that they have left you, right now they don’t want you in their lives, be mature and respect their decision. Ask yourself, would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you?You are beautiful on your own ways, you deserve to feel loved appreciated and wanted and if someone else isn’t making you feel that way let them go and give it to yourself. Know your worth! Love yourself first!

For all of you that NEVER get your ex back like me, understand like Coach Lee says this isn’t 100% going to get your ex back because not every relationship is the same, time matters, personality matters, resolve in arguments/fights matters, time in the relationship matters, and sometimes we do break the rules of no contact, however, the lessons that Coach Lee shares with us, helps us heal while we are grieving, and also this wisdom will help us in future relationships. Hope you all heal with expedience. 🙏💗

Was here a year ago, got back together and here again…ugh fellas, if you do the work and she comes back and hasn’t done any, don’t.

Been about 4 months and I’m in a place where I’m not sure I want her back. Had time to heal and feel that she was very toxic, disloyal, entitled and had no respect for me. She’s no longer on the pedestal I placed her on. Looking forward to my holiday in Singapore soon. No time for her anymore.

@diaryofseresha

4 ай бұрын

Wow wish i could feel same like dat too Completely stop feeling shit for the guy Been 6 weeks n no contact Tired of waiting n holding onto someone who clearly dun even giv a f bout me

Jamaican summary for myself and those who need it: 1. Later fi dis yaa (take a little break from the feelings) 2. Jus pree the levels (take a moment to observe and explore your feelings and what they may be telling you) 3. Hush yaa, never mind (talk to yourself as a soothing parent would to a child, with gentleness and the wisdom of past experiences) 4. Talk truth (consider the facts of the feelings - is this loss or love? Truly assess the relationship and the person without rose coloured glasses) 5. Bawl if you waa bawl. (Embrace the therapy of crying)

It's been Exactly One month of no contact, Everyday I've watched coach lee, Two Weeks after the breakup he got into a new relationship and is So Happy,, Everyday for a month I've watched coach Lee,,, last night I had a good Cry and I Prayed and I Thanked God for stumbling along coach Lee,, this Morning I woke up for the first time in two months with peace in my Heart, I have Faith that I will have my own happy ending,, I also wrote in my Journal it helped.. . I also did not contact this person in a Month

@theresawarner6507

Жыл бұрын

I can relate. I know God is in control. I thank God for leading me to Coach Lee to help me heal. God promises to never leave or forsake us. Its been about 7 weeks for me in NC. I did what Coach Lee said about reaching out to family and friends and it helps a lot. I now question whether I want to be with someone that could leave me so easily.

What Coach Lee says is true. After my ex broke up with me out of nowhere (LDR), my heart was broken. I never begged and I never pleaded. But I cried in silence everyday and every night for 3 months straight. I couldn´t stop it. I was broken into pieces emotionally. But after 4 months I felt better. I live my life, work out, travel, spend time with ppl, who love me like family & friends. And yes, he reached out and he has NEVER stopped orbiting my social media. He watches my stuff religiously up to this day. He comments, likes...all of that. And he sent messages showing nostalgia. I stay friendly and calm..and I´m not overly keen. But at this point, I don´t know how to move forward. It´s been 6 months since he broke up. Stay strong people ❤

@dianaramae3030

Жыл бұрын

If he wanted to go back.with you, would you say yes?

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

JORJA, good for you. It takes time. I've been thru it, and I really suffered. I made it. Take care of yourself.⚘️

@Braveh3artGirl

Жыл бұрын

You healing is moving forward, watch all the videos Coach Lee has about healing and their is also Coach Kenneth on KZread that helps you understand self growth and what to do as well. Once you are fully healed, then someone is going to scoop you up! If you want your ex back by the time you are fully healed, you can reach out enough time has passed. You just never know

@johntesoriero3382

Жыл бұрын

How long were you together?

@afua_b

Жыл бұрын

@@dianaramae3030 Yes, I would.

I’m really struggling with heart break & Coach Lee has been my best source of advice & understanding. His videos have helped me emotionally process what I’m going through.

@3:26 Afraid to let go of the pain because it's all they have left of this other person... Wow. That really hits.

Coach Lee, you're probably one of those people I'll never forget. Although I did not get my ex-back, you made me stronger, quicker. She did call a few times saying she dreams about me; but nothing came of those conversations.

This is exactly why it’s hard to let go. Because feeling sad at least keeps me connected and is the last piece of the relationship- well stated. I couldn’t put it in to words myself. I don’t want to lose the connection, I’m not ready for reality. Thank you for your help 🙏

@kagamitaiga9167

7 ай бұрын

update?

You are brilliant. I've realized the hurt is the only thing I have left. Letting go of the pain means he will be gone forever.

@ryk7296

5 ай бұрын

You have described what I have been feeling for more than a year.

Coach Lee hit it spot on for me. I often questioned my relationship with my ex but when she finally pulled the trigger instead of me doing it I all of a sudden thought I lost the world. It is the loss that is killing me and not the love lost. I knew I could do better when I was with her. She was a great person but sometimes the people who are good to you doesn't always translate to being right for you in the end. I wish the best for her. I grew alot with her and hope the same with her.

The timing of this video is impeccable! Healing is so important while you are in no/smart contact. It adds to your attractiveness because you are able to channel positivity in your interactions. It takes away the power of the breakup over you, which gives you the reset you need. Letting go of the hurt does not mean giving up on the chance of getting back together. It helps with the fresh start you need to re-attract them since you are coming from a positive place that has a better chance of inspiring them to get back together with you rather than carrying a heavy baggage of negativity.

Coach Lee, I've transitioned to your moving on videos. The situation is too toxic to repair. We had an argument over something that I thought was already resolved. He put me out of his house. He pulled me, pushed me, grabbed me, to physically move my body out of his house.

Work on the things that you felt insecure about. Become the person that you want to be. Don’t go back to your ex. If you got them then you’ll get someone else even better. ❤

I can't believe you do this for FREE & I love ALL your videos...Thank you.

My ex contacted me after 2 years and half. He broke up with his ex girlfriend and now we are together happy then ever. Don’t beg, become better version of you, read, work out, stay positive.

@ch76504

Жыл бұрын

Wow were you in NC the entire two years?

I just have a huge heart, and when I do love, it's the deepest, most caring, thoughtful, special love a person can ever get from another person. And i don't deserve to be hurting because I tried to love someone who said they loved me, and all of a sudden they don't. I just hope one day I find the love that I deserve. Not pain and hurt.

Everything Coach Lee says makes sense. The only thing I can't do is list 5 negative characteristics that she had. She was a very kind, giving and gentle person. No one is "perfect", but she literally did nothing wrong in her 4 years with me. No games. No picking fights. No unnecessary arguing. Nothing. I screwed it up with my fearful Avoidant attachment style.

If she just stops contacting or responding to you abruptly and without any apparent reason, the message is clear. It's almost over. You feel terribly hurt, waste days and nights thinking about her, constantly brooding over what went wrong, hoping this will pass and she might come back. But this rarely happens. Better to move on. Better to love yourself than someone who doesn't love you. Life is too precious to waste on such person. Please for God's sake, realize this, wake up, open your eyes and live your life.

It’s a win win either way! If we’re still so broken from the breakup, I feel like the hurt would just damage a reunion if it were to happen. I’d like to have my ex back one day but I’m so very thankful for the time apart that allows me to heal and grow. It’s insane how much I thought the breakup would be the death of me in the beginning, but since I’ve started learning from Coach Lee, I’ve realized the breakup has saved my life. If my ex and I were to get back together, we could start absolutely from scratch and not carry past baggage right back in for a breakup to happen all over again. If we do go our separate ways, I’m so much more healthy, wiser and stronger than I’ve ever been and I’ve always got Coach Lee to fall back on. 😉

@valerie2827

Жыл бұрын

It sounds like you are in the perfect state of mind! You've learned to be strong & if it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, you know you'll always be ok. I can't wait to get where you're at. Well done!! 👏

@CountryMommasHomestead

Жыл бұрын

@@valerie2827 Thank you! Lots of time reading, watching videos, meditating, positive affirming, exercise, trying new things, making new friends and cultivating relationships I already had. I have bad days but always tell myself that the sadness won't last for long and I don't beat myself up for it like I used to. I've climbed a thousand flights of stairs and if I fall down a few steps, I can look back and see how far I've come. It's a long process but it is so worth it. Hang in there, you got this! ❤

Love you coach! Usually it’s a bad thing when youtubers say the same thing over and over to get their point across but when we are in fight or flight mode from a breakup we need to be told in a gentle run-on way over and over again to STOP and think about what we’re doing for maximum results. I don’t know how you manage to keep us grounded in such a way but I’m so grateful

You hit the nail on the head with identifying it as“TIME WARP WAY” that so opened my understanding by giving a name to what I was feeling.

Everything in this video is spot on! From feeling like pain is the only thing you have left of this relationship to almost feeling guilty for being happy in moments, worrying that it will make you forget/fall out of love with your ex. Excellent video! It's like everything I've experienced over the last 1.5 years laid out.

This is probably the only video of yours that has made me cry 😭 ❤️

I did push ups everytime a memory of her popped in my head. Fast forward to now. She has contacted me after not hearing from me for a month. Not called, but drove to my house to get "something" (asked for 1 thing, instead of all of her things is they key 😉) Fortunately for me, I was in better shape, more confident, and enjoying the lack of toxicity in my life at this point. So I wasn't overly joyed she reached out.

This advice is much needed for looking at reality which rose tinted glasses hide from us when looking into the past.

Thank you coach lee, you helped me move on from a toxic relationship. With all of your videos I was able to see what was really going on at the time. I wanna thank you and ken so much.

These are quality therapy techniques!! Thank you. Rewatching until I get it to my spirit, I feel like I m geting some equilibrium

It's also healthy to vent about your ex to you close friends.

Finally! This feels like the first of its kind with concrete steps to move on. And for no charge. Thanks again, Coach Lee

Once again I have to say a massive thank you Lee. You have been a rock of wisdom and help for months now. We’ve done no contact twice and both times I’ve caved in and broken the rules and got exactly the results that you said. Sigh! Break up number 3 now and I’m soaking in your stuff to try to do it right this time. Or move on! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

It's been been 8 month since me and her breakup,and I'm doing great so far.thank you coach lee for guiding me others who went through breakup..

Did no contact for two days and she came back. But i was stuck to my words to not let her back because of the disrespect i got after begging and pleading. It is hard….but sometimes you have to let go a person that does not serve you right. Im still going no contact and improving myself everyday….I’ve written down the negatives and remind myself everyday why that relationship was not serving you well. I already feel strong….but sometimes it does make you weak but thats okay….10 min of whining and boom….get on with your work focus on yourself

@Meee908

Жыл бұрын

You’re very strong

Great tips, Coach. This too shall pass. I will not let a break up ruin my life.

You're my favorite coach. It's like you can read my mind sometimes. I like the way you say 'because' 🥰

This man has a lot of wisdom! The bit about emotions birthing thoughts and vice versa is so true. I’ve gained so much insights from your videos about my recent breakup, eternally grateful sir!

Noticed a softer tone in your recent videos, coach Lee. Appreciate it.

this is so timely Coach Lee! Just as I needed it, your video just came on my yt. You surely are an amazing coach. This video is a gift sent from above.

YOU EXPLAINED MY THOUGHTS PERFECTLY 🥺 I LIKE THE TECHNIQUES AS WELL, IM GOING TO TRY THEM.

Just seeing this title makes me slightly anxious but I know it's important! Looking forward to it!

You are a god send coach lee, you are the G.O.A.T of emotional healing

Years of being subscribed to your videos and this is the first time I’ve ever seen your hands on camera! Lol was starting to think you didn’t have any for a second there coach. Seriously though, amazing video and thank you for everything you’ve done

I really needed this video today. Thank you, Coach Lee.

I normally can let go in a second, I get discouraged and disappointed easily, but I met someone who was perfect for me and I feel aching inside. I am afraid of letting go, I truly believe this was my once-in-a-lifetime love. I feel cheated and don't want to let go because I don't want to die without having this, this was special. Not resisting just feel so cheated, and I hate to lose!

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

Ce Farther. I would definitely ask them out. Thus may be a ONCE IN A LIFETIME experience. Also, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation. Hi for it! myexbackcoach.com/ebk

@zayxoxo

5 ай бұрын

how are you now

Thank you coach lee For making this videos! I didn’t get back with my ex but I’m few months forward from the breakup and I feel good, get to know myself work on myself and start dating. It’s been rough months of pain but it’s getting better day by day week by week month by month , good luck to you all♥️ (Sorry for my broken English😂)

I’ve watched so many videos but this by far has moved the needle in my situation. Everything you said is practical. Thank you for sharing new subbie for sure

This was such amazing advice Im so grateful for you today. I dont let go because I seem to tell myself that it means that I didnt love him then. The brain is such a trickster. Thank you for helping me trick it right back. Here we go ❤️

Thank you, this video was very helpful. I've been watching you for about 6 months shortly after I found out she was seeing someone else. KZread doesn't like certain language, so let's just say I'm still among the living after what I did to myself when I found out about the ordeal. I've been in no contact for 5 months now and had to disassociate with almost the entirety of my friends and social group because of her. I'm working out every day and I've lost over 20 pounds as of this writing. Gotta move forward.

Your advice is truly amazing and insightful.

I listened to coach Lee almost 2 years ago when I was 19. I was going through emotions about my ex that had left me months prior in one of the worst parts of my life. It took a year till I had my first fling after my ex and after my suffering. But as soon as I had that fling, I was over all the pain, then I had flings, and other women after that fling. Most people just need to accept relationships when it comes to men you just need to have another woman, and then all the pain of your ex goes away. Coach Lee is so right. No contact is win-win weather they call you or not. Yous should all take a break until you have your next romance, and eventually, my ex came back, and I never responded to her. Coach Lee is very helpful. Stay strong out there all the best to you

Love the blue background, very calming.

Thank you for making this video. My ending is very fresh as I listened to you, I can see it was coming for about 2 months. I was hoping and trying and on my part fighting for it not to end, but I could not make it right, that person wanted to go and I can only see it now. I believe if you say you love, if you say love of my life and forever you try and try and accept things won’t be perfect but that’s ok you love and you want this imperfection ..however he didn’t want my imperfection, what I believed in was not what the other person believed in. Hence they left, blocked, deleted. …Thank you for speaking in a way that feels like you are directly reaching out to me with your help, support, guidance and comfort of your voice. The pain is big, tears flow but I will take a break from it now, let go just for a bit. Im so grateful I have found you ,your wisdom and your videos. Thank you

About a month into NC. This video was such a blessing, coach. Thank you for all of your knowledge and the work you put into healing broken hearts.

I loved this video! I’ve applied this “técnics” and they been really helpful to me! Thank you so much!

Coach Lee is the guy…listen to what he says. I’l add, and this is hard….accept the circumstances, as though you’ve chosen them. It’s truly empowering.

I needed this so much right now! He reached out after two months no contact. We talked, it was just to catch up and he isn’t ready for a relationship and now back to square one. I followed your videos from the start and let me say IT WORKS! What I did wrong is in the no contact I didn’t focus on myself, obsessed over him. Now I am feeling the pain of the break up all over again. You have to be in a good headspace when they reach out or you will feel it again and it hurts so bad. Back to day one and I can’t tell you how much these videos help and work. Follow it! Work on yourself so you are ready for any outcome because most likely they will come back.

@valerie2827

Жыл бұрын

You are soooooo right. Stay strong!!

@ch76504

Жыл бұрын

I hope I'll be able to say the same 🤞

Everything you say makes so much sense and its soo helpful right now.

Thanks, it makes me feel better listening to your videos

I can't thank you enough, coach lee.

Hi Coach Lee, thank you for doing these videos. I'm trying to possibly get over a 4 year relationship and im in the stages of letting go and healing my heart. I still live him, but life goes on. Happy New Year

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

Tasha Davis, what will help you is Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's awesome and it WILL help you. myexbackcoach.com/ebk

I relate to this video immensely. I truly feel I have a hold of my husband leaving. I know he’s suffering more than I am after 5 months. Devastation was my initial feeling and reaction. I was strong with no contact, he didn’t get it. Kept finding reasons to contact. We just got together for business reasons, stopped for a Starbucks, I looked at him and feel different. The negatives out way this positive which was merely chemistry. I’m feeling he did us both a favor leaving. I don’t know what his intentions are but I’ve decided not to lead this situation. I’m focusing on me and my family. Doing good. A real shocker to feel this way. Never expected it. Kind of empowering. These videos are better than therapy people! 🙏 Be patient and do not chase!

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

JD Ewing, I would recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It's excellent! myexbackcoach.com/ebk

I’m thankful for coach lee! He’s changed my life.

@valerie2827

Жыл бұрын

Me too! He has been a total lifesaver.

Right now is hell for me, going thru a 9 years old break up. Pray for me. She has moved on only after a week. So i guess that's good for her. The more i left comments and saying it outloud that she has moved on with someone new after only a week is clear to me that she wasnt the one.

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

AIDEN ZAE, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you immensely. You will feel so much better. This Kit has EVERYTHING you need including strategies for every situation including yours. Coach Lee would recommend this for you. myexbackcoach.com/ebk Take care of yourself. You will LOVE this Kit. ❤

Youre the best for sharing this. ❤ a coach who truly cares about his clients!!!

Finally, good advice that's not narcissistic

My fiance of 4 years left me on the 22nd December 2023.i sobbed i begged i had others try contact him as he blocked me on everything....this evening i found out via our family ipad that hes been seeing a girl....been searching for houses,and all the furnishings too i even know the colours they going for.i can not belive he done this to me. Literally blown my world to pieces.

Your voice is very soothing sir!!!

Hi Coach! Thanks for this. You help me everyday

This is good advice "Let's park this for a while.... I can always think about this again later"

Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for this video. "Just let him go" has been wildly unhelpful for me because I need to know what to say, think, or do in order to get him out of my brain. Thank you again! (Edited for spelling)

@RealCoachLee

Жыл бұрын

Yes, the people who say “Just let go” are often unhealthy emotionally. When you love someone it is NEVER that easy even if you realize they don’t love you back to the same level.

I feel like the biggest problem I have with the remind yourself of past relationships and how you got over them is that I never loved them as much as I loved my current ex, and I was the one who broke up with them. I survived those breakups becasue it was what I wanted, and I stand firm by my decision. This time, despite looking at all the flaws and acknowledging them, remembering all the bad things he did etc, I still love him more than I ever loved anyone else. The fact that he is with another doesn't help, even though I believe she is a rebound. He is the kind of person who can't stand being alone. He is not a knight in shining armor, he is more like Shrek. And Fiona still loves Shrek.

@valerie2827

Жыл бұрын

I feel your pain. Going through the exact same thing with my ex. He's already living with someone else, but still tells me he's miserable & wants to come home. All mindgames. I have to stop talking to him. Like now. 😢

@aoyenngoc502

Жыл бұрын

I do think like I was acting a rebound girl to my so-called ex bf. I was blindsided, but it was my choice to be with him. I was with him 2m after his previous breakup, then karma hit me when he found sb new that’s called “serious” after 11d saying goodbye officially to me. While I still wondered with my destructive thoughts Did I really mean that little, somebody just cannot stand the feeling of being alone to collect his pieces up, feel the grieve and complete himself a bit. And I realize that I couldn’t do anything but take it as given and move on. My heart is still broken sometimes, but I’m trying to take it one day at a time. And let the universe do the job. Good luck to you too :)

Thank you Lee. This is 100% great advice. Bless you!

Xmas time is the WORST for going for a break up

@kitty_s23456

Жыл бұрын

I agree. Statistics show that many couples break up after the Christmas holidays - mainly because people don't want to experience the holidays alone. (But the dumper has already been thinking about it for several weeks or months).

Thank you for speaking so kindly and gently to us coach, it is literally all I have keeping me sane

@alkaiable

10 ай бұрын

Hang on be strong. keep your courage..prayers to you.

You’re so awesome coach Lee. Thank you. Thank you 🙏

Wow I have never felt so understood. Thank you.

Wow, #1 best advice I ever heard!

I write down all the things I’d like to say directly to them in letter form while in the no contact process. No idea why this helps me but it does.

I don’t know if it’s just the way I work through things - I’ve been the same with a previous relationship then fell apart. As the dust is beginning to settle a couple weeks on with NC, I’m just beginning to become angry at her for doing this to me. It hurts and makes me sad that she moved on less than a week after we ended, but I look at the relationship now and just think why do I want to be with someone that does this to me? After all the time and support I provided her, caring for her, supporting her through her life, cooking her meals and worrying about her to getting cast aside because ‘it’s not working’. Now I see that through our whole relationship I was never ever asked how I was doing or shown the same emotional intimacy that I gave her, not once. It’s beginning to no longer make me sad she’s moved on, but it fills me with anger that someone has done/treated me like that.

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

traceurGeorge I suggest you book a Coaching session with Coach Lee or a coach on his staff myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/ I would like you to speak to the coaches. Take care.❤

@EmptyBurrito

11 ай бұрын

Man, you dont understand how much I relate to you. Sometimes I feel like I gave her a piece of my happiness and that is why I got depressed during the relationship. I helped her through so much, I made her so happy and invested a lot in her, and then she also repays me with moving on too quickly and (probably) dating someone else, and having a terrible attitude towards me during and after the break up. I cant help but feel like she owes so much, but I accepted that i am responsible for the shit I went through and I am responsible for getting better. It is nice to relate to someone, feels less lonely.

My problem is that I don't want to let go. But this video does help.

it's very refreshing to hear someone encourage crying or letting your sadness out. when you search for videos regarding breakup, you'll see a lot of them saying "everything's going to be ok" or "time heals all wounds" or "you have to move on"... no, i want to be sad about it first. let me. i can really see how the world is so afraid of sadness, like it's something you have to get rid of right away or you have to "cure" with happy thoughts.. nooo. sadness is part of life and i think it's equally as important as happiness in terms of letting ourselves feel them.

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

Leonard, I know how you feel bcse I've been there. So many of us have. I just wanted to say God bless you, and keep listening to Coach Lee. He will always be here for you. Big hug..❤❤

@leonardpcs08

Жыл бұрын

@jannlewandowski5540 aww 🥹🤗

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

@leonardpcs08 Take care of your Heart. GO out, find a hobby, and as each day goes by, you'll notice you're a little better than yesterday. 💕👍 If you need some extra help, Coach Lee has a terrific Breakup Kit which will help you immensely. It has strategies for every situation including yours. It dies help. myexbackcoach.com/ebk Keep listening to Coach Lee. He helped me get over a lot of obstacles. Best of luck to you always. ⚘️⚘️💕

I was with my woman for 8 years and it was my first serious relationship. She fell in love with a co-worker and left me for him. I had no idea how in the world I should've handled that, and begged and pleaded for as long as 2 months. Only then when I found Coach Lee his videos it all started to make sense. I am in no contact for about 3 weeks now. I think I messed it up with all the begging and pleading. Which means soon our divorce will be final. I have no faith anymore we will get back together after my begging and she even already monkey branched. However the no contact is really working for my self at this moment. I'm really working on myself and I am feeling better and better every day!

Coach Lee is a genius. This is my favorite video of his by far.

@RealCoachLee

Ай бұрын

Thank you for your very kind words.

❤ thank you coach Lee still coming back now and then to the channel. Great advice very grateful for you videos 🎉 greetings from Belgium 💖

Awesome thought. I'll let you know. Just watching this made my evening. Thanks man

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

T-Rex, I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent! It has strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk

Looking forward to watching this. However, I did just finally set a date with my ex to meet (she asked) - it's been over for 4 months; I did NC but she reached out within 30 days. Then disappeared. I did NC again. Repeat. Then asked me if I'd like to do lunch or dinner sometime. Our schedules didn't line up until now. Ironically our meet up will take place on what would have been our 1st anniversary. Coach Lee is terrific. I'm also learning a lot more about mindfulness and people in general through his videos. I'm so grateful to have found him. Thank you doesn't seem to cut it.

@jblasutavario9549

Жыл бұрын

Nice one! All the best with the dinner date. You'll be great, whatever the outcome!

@Linzo24

Жыл бұрын

@@jblasutavario9549 Thank you; means a lot.

@jblasutavario9549

Жыл бұрын

@@Linzo24 🙌💪❤

@Linzo24

Жыл бұрын

@@jblasutavario9549 well - tomorrow would have been the day; looks like she forgot and while I knew she was working in the morning, the afternoon and evening one of her kids has a hockey tournament. Same with Sunday. We live in different states but not far apart. I'll continue to focus on me, my mindfulness (which has been lagging a bit) - and perhaps tonight I'll write - something I haven't done in awhile either). Do you think I'm nuts to still have hope? (I don't want to get back out there to date - I'm not ready; but I'm more than fine with being single)

@jblasutavario9549

Жыл бұрын

@@Linzo24 I can't call you nuts as I would most likely be acting like you in your situation. Whatever the case, it's good that you're focusing on yourself and doing your thing. Keep moving forward 💪

Thank you this method of coming back to it helps so much so thank you again and same with viewing it differently as well and over all letting the feelings flow easily by letting the air out