What Is The Dumper's Experience During No Contact?

Coach Lee explains the experience that the dumper has from the point of breaking up with you through the stages of no contact.
If you use the no contact rule, the person who dumped you will likely follow a predictable path to getting to where they consider whether the breakup was a mistake and choosing to reach out to you about getting back together.
What most people are often surprised to learn is that the tables flip in terms of the emotional points that the dumper and the dumped find themselves considering where they both started at the point of the breakup.
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  • @ehko2418
    @ehko24182 жыл бұрын

    Every time I start stressing during no contact and wanting to break it, I come here to listen to Coach Lee. It really helps me stay calm.

  • @i_nez9649

    @i_nez9649

    2 жыл бұрын

    Don't break it trust me ... I regret it. It just made me more confused even if there's still a chance, coz it makes me stress that there's not

  • @ronaldedward2929

    @ronaldedward2929

    2 жыл бұрын

    My dear if you seriously want to recover your relationship / get ex back or a specific person Mr wilson is the best when to recovery relationship, he recover mine and he can also help you

  • @ronaldedward2929

    @ronaldedward2929

    2 жыл бұрын

    ➕2347025731492⏭️⏭️⏭️

  • @teachercharidel5074

    @teachercharidel5074

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same here.

  • @petrafranca6242

    @petrafranca6242

    2 жыл бұрын

    me too! I want to contact my ex so bad

  • @bosslady991
    @bosslady991 Жыл бұрын

    Anyone can seem ok with a breakup when they keep buisy.. but when they are alone with their mind..that’s when it all comes back to bite them in the ass 😂

  • @Focus293

    @Focus293

    Жыл бұрын

    Wisdom from the Boss Lady herself

  • @iarmandov2

    @iarmandov2

    Жыл бұрын

    Say it louder for those in the back!! This is spot on!

  • @blancaarriaga98

    @blancaarriaga98

    Жыл бұрын

    yes! once im in bed ready to sleep, all the thoughts and sadness comes out

  • @bosslady991

    @bosslady991

    Жыл бұрын

    @@blancaarriaga98 very true indeed only the pillow knows the tears one sheds

  • @olangmartin

    @olangmartin

    Жыл бұрын

    For sure

  • @gilbertarellano4079
    @gilbertarellano40793 жыл бұрын

    I was in a committed relationship for 29 years and I was able to follow the no contact and hold back on reaching out. It took 2 months of no contact and we are now doing amazingly good! During those two months of no contact, I was able to lose 22 pounds, gain strength, stopped drinking and smoking. By the end of the two months, I was able to run a mile under 7 minutes, I worked on myself for me!

  • @Seren2010kinder

    @Seren2010kinder

    3 жыл бұрын

    Happy for you my friend hope it’s still all good for you

  • @gilbertarellano4079

    @gilbertarellano4079

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Seren2010kinder currently out in Maui, doing better then ever ❤️🙌🏽🙏🏼

  • @sheppy001

    @sheppy001

    3 жыл бұрын

    Man that’s such good news! Really happy for you!

  • @alexzygarewicz1625

    @alexzygarewicz1625

    3 жыл бұрын

    Did she contact you first? I was in 2years 5 month relationship trying to give her space and time 37” but she did break 2 weeks showing arrogance, jealousy, passive aggression. I replied to her only about the important matter that’s it. May 6- June 12 Break up April 6

  • @gilbertarellano4079

    @gilbertarellano4079

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@alexzygarewicz1625 She did, after month 2 when she heard and saw that I went from 210 to 187lb, stopped drinking and smoking while walking every night. Little by little I was coming by and we are now stronger then ever and back in love! I learned to love my life without her and she did the same, but at the end of the 2 month no contact we realized we wanted to be with each other again ❤️🙏🏼🙌🏽

  • @Any4cards
    @Any4cards3 жыл бұрын

    Imagine breaking up with coach Lee. You would stand no chance as an ex

  • @noiroblivion6565

    @noiroblivion6565

    3 жыл бұрын

    Makes me want to get back with him and we aren’t even dating.

  • @rymphanglyngdoh5297

    @rymphanglyngdoh5297

    9 ай бұрын

    Dayumm😂 ....

  • @Cristina-go5cx

    @Cristina-go5cx

    7 ай бұрын

    😂😂😂😂 shitttttttttttt....

  • @priyankamukherjee6950

    @priyankamukherjee6950

    6 ай бұрын

    Lmao

  • @ballison1716

    @ballison1716

    6 ай бұрын

    Lol

  • @phillyd6302
    @phillyd63022 жыл бұрын

    My dumper has been absent three months now. I have maintained no contact throughout that time. It’s given me the opportunity to really examine our relationship. I no longer feel that I want him back. It still hurts, but not as much. I’m not angry with him, just disappointed in him. I’m happy to move on and leave the old relationship behind 💪

  • @SJ-nw1ym

    @SJ-nw1ym

    2 жыл бұрын

    Update?

  • @abhishekgautam9233

    @abhishekgautam9233

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@SJ-nw1ym you are also going through it right?

  • @renubaldeo2102

    @renubaldeo2102

    2 жыл бұрын

    I totally agree, I do have some days of restlessness and then I watch these videos for comfort and strength. Thank you

  • @sapridayaniharahap9016

    @sapridayaniharahap9016

    Жыл бұрын

    What happened now?

  • @farisfaraway4229

    @farisfaraway4229

    Жыл бұрын

    any update?

  • @ksubi7562
    @ksubi75623 жыл бұрын

    The best way to get your ex back is to stop caring. See your worth. If that person can walk out on you with no second thought, no explanation or no care in the world, unfortunately that person does not love you. Boss up and make them regret the break up! I promise you it’ll help and you won’t want them back. Self love is everything

  • @ElainaDosch

    @ElainaDosch

    3 жыл бұрын

    Boss up if they break up... nice 👍🏼 I’ll keep that one in mind :)

  • @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    3 жыл бұрын

    I just got my relationship fixed and my ||ex|husband is •back• to me and we are living happily like never before I got help|from apowerfu|l spiritualist and his spe|ls works effectively just as you want

  • @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    3 жыл бұрын

    Tex† him on What'sapp

  • @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    3 жыл бұрын

    +2( 3 4) 8 1 2 0 7 6 8 2 9 5

  • @peppermarie0203

    @peppermarie0203

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Vance Alfredo wouldn’t give them the satisfaction

  • @easypeasy9485
    @easypeasy94853 жыл бұрын

    I don't even want my ex back but just love watching your videos. It taught me about self-love & knowing my worth. Thanks, coach Lee 😊

  • @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    3 жыл бұрын

    I just got my relationship fixed and my ||ex|husband is •back• to me and we are living happily like never before I got help|from apowerfu|l spiritualist and his spe|ls works effectively just as you want

  • @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    3 жыл бұрын

    Tex† him on What'sapp

  • @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    3 жыл бұрын

    +2( 3 4) 8 1 2 0 7 6 8 2 9 5

  • @bleu7734

    @bleu7734

    2 жыл бұрын

    I agree I am the dumper I do not want him back so watching his videos about getting him back and him reaching out to me I don't give a damn I want him to move on with his life he has no access to me whatsoever and my experience is that it hurts that I had to dump them because I wanted it to work but I'd rather be the dumper than for me to be dumped I seen the signs I held on too long I had to go and I didn't even tell them I had to go I just blocked them and moved on

  • @pattyleighty2210

    @pattyleighty2210

    Жыл бұрын

    Same here

  • @oreoluwasworld9875
    @oreoluwasworld98753 жыл бұрын

    I’m here to tell you that NO CONTACT REALLY WORKS🙂 you just have to try your best to move on and they will come back begging.

  • @lols5851

    @lols5851

    3 жыл бұрын

    After how long did It work out for you?

  • @oreoluwasworld9875

    @oreoluwasworld9875

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@lols5851 2 months and a week. We are presently working things out. I hope it works out.

  • @lols5851

    @lols5851

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@oreoluwasworld9875 so what was your ex reaction after she reached out? And How were YOU feeling at that point of time....?

  • @shatzedr8760

    @shatzedr8760

    3 жыл бұрын

    I hope it works for me.

  • @JohnDoe-id1es

    @JohnDoe-id1es

    3 жыл бұрын

    Works for girls when a guy dumps them. Girls rarely come back after they've dumped u.

  • @lourdesandzachary13
    @lourdesandzachary133 жыл бұрын

    Listen to him! He is so right . I got my ex back in 2019 and we are still together .

  • @joaofilipegoncalves9849

    @joaofilipegoncalves9849

    3 жыл бұрын

    How long did it take?

  • @lourdesandzachary13

    @lourdesandzachary13

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@joaofilipegoncalves9849 it took 2 months of no contact and then my ex texted me and then we went out for lunch and then everything got better from there

  • @joaofilipegoncalves9849

    @joaofilipegoncalves9849

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@lourdesandzachary13 thank you very much. Your story give me hope. Wish you the best.

  • @ramesh6497

    @ramesh6497

    2 жыл бұрын

    It's been 2 weeks an it's so hard 😫...I miss her so much 😔

  • @Its12AM

    @Its12AM

    2 жыл бұрын

    Ramesh same bro been Two weeks for me

  • @Th3N3wY0rk3r66
    @Th3N3wY0rk3r663 жыл бұрын

    Unknowingly went into nc from day 1 without knowing it was an actual term. My ex dumped a “I thought I was ready for a relationship but I’m not” text while I was at work, and I never got a face to face. We had an amazing relationship we never fought once, shared life goals, supported eachother which is what really blindsided me. She’s reached out to me multiple times, sometimes revealing guilt of how it was handled, sometimes just doing the whole check in. I’ve kept the conversations very appropriate which reflect my current position. I don’t know where this will go but I know I’m the bigger person on the otherside of this with alot of potential in life.

  • @brittany8868

    @brittany8868

    3 жыл бұрын

    How long until she reached out

  • @Th3N3wY0rk3r66

    @Th3N3wY0rk3r66

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@brittany8868 After the first few days after the breakup and then now she’ll contact me every few weeks or so.

  • @thezosokid

    @thezosokid

    3 жыл бұрын

    Update?

  • @Th3N3wY0rk3r66

    @Th3N3wY0rk3r66

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@thezosokid She’s in a rebound, going the extra mile throwing it around social media.

  • @thezosokid

    @thezosokid

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Th3N3wY0rk3r66 its not gonna last bro, I promiss. I give them 3 months then she’ll be crawling back to you. Be strong my friend. And sleep around.

  • @kennats1654
    @kennats16542 жыл бұрын

    NC really works lol I begged for months then finally found self-respect and cut contact. After a month, they reached out, and I couldn't care less.

  • @davidmowbray7885

    @davidmowbray7885

    2 жыл бұрын

    That’s good mate I begged and now am on 3rd day NC she just changed her profile picture.

  • @ZamoraksApprentice

    @ZamoraksApprentice

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@davidmowbray7885 If you know she changed her prof pic, you're not on no contact, you're still keeping track of her

  • @luck8196

    @luck8196

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@ZamoraksApprentice but it is fine as long as that girl dont know you are still looking for her.

  • @somewhiteguy4607

    @somewhiteguy4607

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@luck8196 no

  • @Nimbus3690

    @Nimbus3690

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@somewhiteguy4607 bruh chill, it's still no contact. You don't have to unfollow and blind yourself to them. Just coexist happily without acknowledging each other is the most powerful form of no contact

  • @SAMEntalhealth
    @SAMEntalhealth3 жыл бұрын

    Bro I reported about 100 spam comments today. I got your back lol

  • @luissantiago6077

    @luissantiago6077

    3 жыл бұрын

    You are a godsend. It pisses me off so bad

  • @davefujikawa3780
    @davefujikawa37803 жыл бұрын

    my exes are all in that 30% range that dont want to come back lol

  • @JohnDoe-id1es

    @JohnDoe-id1es

    3 жыл бұрын

    Me, too.

  • @bullenbaloo

    @bullenbaloo

    3 жыл бұрын

    I feel you and think my wife are in the same mode now, at least is it what she says. And I’m not sure if I’m looking deep inside that I honest want here back when this is done. But the vlog is good to listen to, good pointers. She just treated me cold for to long. And she’s to proud to show that’s she have make a mistake I think to.

  • @mx.j262

    @mx.j262

    3 жыл бұрын

    then let them go ... and do a favour to yourself

  • @vasiliskoutsokostas

    @vasiliskoutsokostas

    3 жыл бұрын

    Well I’m usually the one who breaks up with his gf and let me tell you, all my exes did use no contact to me 😂 I came back only to the one I cared and it was a year after. She didn’t want to do anything with me by that point, logical I broke her heart. The last thing I want to put out there is I always knew that my exes still want me. So… If you can make your ex realise that you are as valuable as them, you got a really good chance. Especially if they are insecure.

  • @jimmydeats9901

    @jimmydeats9901

    3 жыл бұрын

    Me 3👍

  • @caoskin
    @caoskin3 жыл бұрын

    Why no contact works 100%? simply because your dumper ex lose the attraction from you months prior to the breakup day. That’s why it is so important that you should stop initiating conversations with your dumper ex. If your ex breaks your no contact, you can casually reply to their messages; that doesn’t break your no contact. Do not ignore your ex. Just reply casually just dont go deeply emotionally on your conversations because it goes nowhere. Just engage in your ex’s conversations if your ex makes a grand gesture like they regret the breakup, they want to get back together or they are willing to make it up to you and make the relationship work the 2nd time around. And also dont forget to compromise

  • @Yeshuaseekinggirl

    @Yeshuaseekinggirl

    3 жыл бұрын

    I agree with this.. what do you do though if your ex writes you a 4 page letter that involves emotions. How do you just respond casually?

  • @cipryan96

    @cipryan96

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Yeshuaseekinggirl ask him why he got dumped by other chick 🥴

  • @andrasziegenham6766

    @andrasziegenham6766

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Yeshuaseekinggirl yeah, you just reply "k" (just kidding lol)

  • @sophiastella212

    @sophiastella212

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Yeshuaseekinggirl I think that's the "grand gesture" he was referring to

  • @jarettesuikowsky6742
    @jarettesuikowsky67423 жыл бұрын

    To everyone on here, I know these situations can be very hard, and traumatic. Stay strong, and focus your time on self love, and self improvement. Love yourself! Your happiness should not be based on another person. Get a dog, hit the gym, hit the books, hit the tinder, bumble, and all dating apps. You will be ok. We can not force someone to love us. At the end of the day it comes down to self respect people. All love! ✊

  • @leizlsvlog9398

    @leizlsvlog9398

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes indeed

  • @hiimgerly

    @hiimgerly

    8 күн бұрын

  • @elainenilsson5472
    @elainenilsson54723 жыл бұрын

    Once someone gets away with leaving you, they will use it as leverage. Don't take them back because it's something you want. That will only set you up for abuse. They already abused your love for them abandoning you.

  • @karenyim1200

    @karenyim1200

    3 жыл бұрын

    Agree

  • @arvindsharma-yf7wh

    @arvindsharma-yf7wh

    3 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely spot onnnnn

  • @vincejones3965

    @vincejones3965

    3 жыл бұрын

    Exactly

  • @tinkerbellUK

    @tinkerbellUK

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agree with this

  • @clintonsnider9741

    @clintonsnider9741

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lesson I learned to a T

  • @hmanfilms
    @hmanfilms2 жыл бұрын

    I used to get so heartbroken when people would dump me. Struggled with attachment issues and trauma/PTSD from abandonment wounds my entire life. Had a lot of emotionally/verbally abusive traumatic events as a kid. I'm learning to walk away at the first sign of emotional abused. If a girl walks out on me, that's it. It's over. I don't plead. I don't negotiate. I tell them I don't agree with their decision, but wish them the best. Block and move on. No one gets to walk out on you and for you to take them back. If you take someone back who leaves you or dumps you, they are setting you up to do it again. They want control and abuse.

  • @natashagold6316

    @natashagold6316

    2 жыл бұрын

    I can recommend you to a man who helped me bring back my ex permanent he can also help you.

  • @sociisokolie4279

    @sociisokolie4279

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello! I understand how you're feeling going through breakup I can recommend you to the same man who help me get my ex back permanently after 3 years of separation... I will advise you seek his help thanks.

  • @sociisokolie4279

    @sociisokolie4279

    2 жыл бұрын

    WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹

  • @natashagold6316

    @natashagold6316

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@sociisokolie4279 you be mumu

  • @constance6761

    @constance6761

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen. A man walked away bc I told him about my traumatic experience with violence. We had a great peaceful evening full of hugs and kisses. We were dating for 4 weeks and he seemed like a gentleman but fr day two he reacted angry when I expressed my feeling or boundary. He walked away saying 'you blow my mind'. Then blamed me for slamming the door behind him when he left my apartment.the issue was that I said stop during an intimate moment and he said I can't enjoy and then say stop. I said I can always say stop just like you you are disrespectful. That was the first time he went from warm to cold and angry. So last week he was annoyed and left once more. I cried all night, feeling shamed and abandoned. Now 5 days later it still.hurts but it is better. He mistreated me. Periodt. If he ever texts me again I will try to ignore but it's in my nature to communicate finish issues by talking about it equally Manipulative ppl are not open to look beyond their view. He said I was overthinking. I was hurt angry, confused and shocked bc he suddenly said I'm going home and I won't talk to you anymore. I think it's emotionally abusive. He could have said it in a respectful way. He was annoyed bc I talked about my traumatic experience. Instead appreciating all our romantic evenings he was focussen on this part of me. Tbh I'm still hoping he will call me tell me that he misses me but looking at what happened, I deserve someone who will not walk away everytime he wants to start a fight or criticize me and then blame me.

  • @keoki37
    @keoki372 жыл бұрын

    Coach Lee is so in depth, his 20 years experience in relationship coaching shows. Thank you sir !

  • @javaidmahmood6432
    @javaidmahmood64323 жыл бұрын

    Love you so much coach Lee. I got lot of stability in my life because of your videos, your insight on the issues is so deep, and voice is so assertive and sympathetic. Can't thank you enough. Please keep your good work continue🙏

  • @pointlank
    @pointlank3 жыл бұрын

    My ex broke up with me 8 days ago, 2 days after i still trying to reach out but after that i saw your channel and i watched a lot and started doing the nc. Its been 6 days since nc now and i feel so much better after watching all of your vid. Thanks Coach for all the inspiring words and tips!

  • @deeyadaya

    @deeyadaya

    3 жыл бұрын

    Any updates?

  • @Bryan_Lion
    @Bryan_Lion Жыл бұрын

    Coach Lee’s advice actually works. I went radio silent on my ex and she came back after her rebounded relationship ended. Her coming back was everything I wanted, but I didn’t take her back because she kept the other guy around on a string like she did to me when she was losing feelings for me, and didn’t tell him she was about to leave him for me. She apologized and said she was wrong about everything. Also learned that women break-up with you mentally, at least 1-2 weeks, before they go through with. Now I know my strength and value. Thanks coach!

  • @matiastrinidad_

    @matiastrinidad_

    3 ай бұрын

    hello buddy! how much time after the BU she came back?

  • @Bryan_Lion

    @Bryan_Lion

    3 ай бұрын

    @@matiastrinidad_ she came back eight months later, apologizing for everything. However she said she became obsessed after I went no-contact. She would stalk me at my house and said she could never get her mind off me. All because I left her alone. I’ve went no-contact on other women and they came back a lot sooner in as little as a few days

  • @grovest.villain8859
    @grovest.villain8859 Жыл бұрын

    Coach lee you have made me feel so much better in a time of need when nobody is here for me, I am the one who got dumped and it’s a hard pill to swallow. It’s been 2 and a half months and I have been in no contact for about 3 weeks. I hope it’s working on her because I know my value and wish and hope she sees it too. God bless you sir. You’re easily my favorite relationship coach and give me such comfort in a time of need it’s like you’re here with me. Thank you for you’re time and care for others coach lee you’re a blessing to have access to for free.

  • @RealCoachLee

    @RealCoachLee

    Жыл бұрын

    That you for your kind words GSV!

  • @Kreuzheben123

    @Kreuzheben123

    8 ай бұрын

    Update?

  • @grovest.villain8859

    @grovest.villain8859

    8 ай бұрын

    It’s been 8 months since the breakup, I feel much better but think about her often, the pain isn’t nearly as bad, she reached on my sons birthday and told me to wish him happy birthday. That’s all. As of now I’ve excepted the fact she’s probly gone for good. But I did lose the girl I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I hope she is happy that’s all I wish for her.

  • @kagamitaiga9167

    @kagamitaiga9167

    6 ай бұрын

    ​@@grovest.villain8859that's sad man. 😢

  • @jasonfernee2401
    @jasonfernee24012 жыл бұрын

    Trust Coach Lee's methods. It worked for me despite many odds stacked against me. The man is a relationship genius and wise way beyond his years.

  • @yihaw149

    @yihaw149

    2 жыл бұрын

    Can you elaborate on your situation?

  • @jasonfernee2401

    @jasonfernee2401

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@yihaw149 All I'm going to say, is follow Coach' Lee's advice to the letter regarding No Contact if you can. I did purchase his kit.and also utilise his tutorials on how to get through it of which there are many that will probably apply to you. Took me six weeks of No Contact to get to the end result, back together and even better than before. Good luck and just trust Coach Lee. Truly, if I had the power to give him a Knighthood, I would.

  • @td2968
    @td29683 жыл бұрын

    As you have said, it usually took months for someone to leave someone. People need to just come to terms that their ex left them, and its over, no contact is great, move on and if they reach out months later and want to come back and IF you even still want them, then great ! If not, well, you have accepted from the beginning they left and had the mentality that they are never coming back. Dont think about them, don't dwell dont hope. Go live !

  • @AngeloVloggs
    @AngeloVloggs3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for everything coach lee, without you the breakup would’ve gotten to me and I would’ve done something so stupid

  • @theory2314

    @theory2314

    3 жыл бұрын

    same man, thank god i found these videos

  • @ronaldedward2929

    @ronaldedward2929

    2 жыл бұрын

    My dear if you seriously want to recover your relationship / get ex back or a specific person Mr wilson is the best when to recovery relationship, he recover mine and he can also help you

  • @Lilmonke_586
    @Lilmonke_5866 ай бұрын

    I’m really glad I found Coach Lee’s videos. Although I’m the one who dumped my ex (she had an affair & I don’t want her back) I have done no contact since we broke up and even though it’s only been a month I feel so much stronger. I didn’t look pathetic trying to get her back and I’ve realized that I don’t need her. There’s still more healing to do but I’m shocked at how well I’m handling losing my 6.5 year relationship. Thank you Coach Lee!

  • @bibialia7312
    @bibialia73123 жыл бұрын

    Don’t worry! They always comeback. Mine I was go crazy when he broke up with me. I beg and plead and he become nasty. Then I went crazy for months and shut myself completely. But then after 4 months he coming back crawling and I kick him to the curbs. I already moved on and get disgusted.

  • @zahiraalicea7655
    @zahiraalicea76552 жыл бұрын

    I can see how you talk about weeks or months to see this. I was married for 21 years and my husband left me. After 6 years of being divorced and without any contact he finally told me how much he miss me and how much he understands now that what he did was wrong. Go figure, six years, but finally I heard the words, " I miss you and I still love you". Now, he's still living with his rebound and now I am moving to another state. We are not getting back together.

  • @albertodeulofeu5277

    @albertodeulofeu5277

    Жыл бұрын

    Men come back far more often than women. Studies have shown that men tend to think back more fondly about their exes. And women tend to think back less fondly of their exes.

  • @FlamingCockatiel

    @FlamingCockatiel

    Жыл бұрын

    @@albertodeulofeu5277 That is so interesting. I wonder why it works that way.

  • @semanavidi8694
    @semanavidi8694 Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely brilliance the way that coach Lee hits all the right notes, he is the best.

  • @supportmarxism4072
    @supportmarxism40722 жыл бұрын

    while I was in no contact, I woke up and realized when she cheated on me for 6 months and chose her rebound boyfriend was not worth getting back and repairing the relationship (15 years and 2 kids). Now I'm free, thank you.

  • @itchingbitch
    @itchingbitch Жыл бұрын

    Coach Lee, drawing strength from your experience and wisdom. Much more thanks I owe you!

  • @curious_gage
    @curious_gage Жыл бұрын

    I tell ya, this can only work when: they genuinely cared about you, things ended on relatively good terms, you truly accept their decision and you stop trying/wanting to fix things. Hopefully, you will eventually realize that you really don’t need anyone else to feel validated/wanted. Furthermore, you don’t really want a relationship with someone if you have to constantly convince them to stay-that’s not fun for anyone. Guilting someone into pretending to love you is actually pretty selfish if you think about it, so just do the honorable thing and release them without resentment.

  • @cynthiaerasmus177

    @cynthiaerasmus177

    Жыл бұрын

    They say hindsight is 20/20 after 3months NC, I'm beginning to understand - sometimes it still hurts - but yea, c'est la vie!!!

  • @brandonohara4122
    @brandonohara4122 Жыл бұрын

    This video isn't about getting your ex back. It's about moving on and becoming a better version of yourself, for you and the next gf or bf you're with. It might not make sense now but it will and you will look back at this and feel happy it happened.

  • @gigi5310
    @gigi53103 жыл бұрын

    ""You're different..... you're unexpected!"" Love it! Best advise as always!! Thank you Coach Lee!

  • @stugrimson7851
    @stugrimson78512 жыл бұрын

    If your ex is dead set on seeing other people, she won’t come back to you unless she gets tired of failing.

  • @99craziichick
    @99craziichick3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for giving us this valuable free information and not making us pay for it. This alone was very helpful

  • @edwardmark4073

    @edwardmark4073

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hello do you need help why don’t you try dr oba he was the one that help me get my ex back

  • @edwardmark4073

    @edwardmark4073

    3 жыл бұрын

    Text him on whatzapp

  • @edwardmark4073

    @edwardmark4073

    3 жыл бұрын

    +2 3 4 9 0 5 9 7 8 2 7 9 3

  • @sesenwingtips
    @sesenwingtips3 жыл бұрын

    I like the way you film your video Coach Lee. It’s like you are talking to me face to face.

  • @prettyyu315
    @prettyyu3152 жыл бұрын

    thank you coach. love you for being here with us during tough moments

  • @james.black981
    @james.black9813 жыл бұрын

    Hi Lee. Just bought the kit, working through it as a means of getting over the break up and learning about myself. Your KZread content has kept me hooked for hours. Keep up the great work. BTW, Greetings from Australia.

  • @patricial8753
    @patricial87532 жыл бұрын

    It’s 7:12 am I wake up listening to your videos and fall asleep listening to you , you are so helpful during this hard time .

  • @MsTahB

    @MsTahB

    2 жыл бұрын

    Me too. I alternate with Aaron Doughty because he moves the focus to MY world not the guy's world. Coach Lee seems so reality based and provides clarity that way.

  • @lokeshthakur5715
    @lokeshthakur57153 жыл бұрын

    Coach Lee is the best..... He knows everything perfectly and the advice given by him is so effective and soothing..... Love u coach lee♥️♥️

  • @ronaldedward2929

    @ronaldedward2929

    2 жыл бұрын

    My dear if you seriously want to recover your relationship / get ex back or a specific person Mr wilson is the best when to recovery relationship, he recover mine and he can also help you

  • @ralph4370
    @ralph43703 жыл бұрын

    I enjoy the learning of the behind the mental scenes. We have a family saying "We don't beg/force anyone to be with us" I also have a personal motto "Don't do 2nd chances". I have explained to many exes this upfront. Most have comeback. After they left. The last ex, She lost her job early on and I was her rock. A year later I lost my job and she walked out. Why would I take someone back who walked out? I don't reward bad behavior. If I did take them back, it would only show them they can do it again and get away with it. Pass.

  • @JD_BigBLANKETS
    @JD_BigBLANKETS3 жыл бұрын

    Wife left Friday Nov 13th 2020 after being together for 10 years married 2 & man... I found your videos a few weeks later. When you say “20 years of experience” you’re not lying about that. You literally mapped out everything that happened. How I felt blind sided but she had been thinking it over for at least a month. My mistakes after the breakup and her anger. Then you advise finally sinking in and me only going into reply mode (we have two young kids together). Now when we speak there’s no tension, more on a friend lvl but I don’t play a “friend” role, especially in person. We’re not back together or putting the “married” label back but there’s been progress. Note to self: don’t speak things into existence - don’t even mention divorce cause we both clearly care for the other

  • @remyd1984

    @remyd1984

    Жыл бұрын

    what's your update mate? cheers

  • @susane945
    @susane9453 жыл бұрын

    Gee, wow! You really hit the nail on the head when you say 'it's just like they have spent weeks studying for the test, whereas you have only just found out there IS a test'!!!!! It so reminds me of my ex. Yes, yes, YES!!!!! After this relationship I really feel like swearing off men for life.. It's been really horrible being dumped. Really truly horrible. In fact I have really hated his guts. And got so depressed I didn't want to live. I question myself Can I be single? It's really hard. I can't watch these videos anymore. I think I have come through the worst and I don't want to be reminded of it anymore. He's such a bastard. Really is. Which brings me to the word Forgiveness. I haven't got to that stage yet!!!!

  • @carmensmith1453

    @carmensmith1453

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi Susan I feel the same he's such a coward he humiliate and abuse me for so long why? Why

  • @jamesmatthew4346

    @jamesmatthew4346

    2 жыл бұрын

    I know of a great powerful love spell caster that can manifest your ex back within 48hours without no delay

  • @jamesmatthew4346

    @jamesmatthew4346

    2 жыл бұрын

    He heIped me few days ago he does a perfect work, I'm assuring you, you gonna testify 🙏🙏🙏

  • @jamesmatthew4346

    @jamesmatthew4346

    2 жыл бұрын

    +16042651917💞⏯⏯⏯⏯

  • @brad3258
    @brad32583 жыл бұрын

    Im in my 4th month of Nc , you helped me a lot , she didnt contact me and i am okay with that The reason we broke up is that she wasn’t ready for a relationship, she is still single so i cant say that she lied to me Thank you again coach Lee !

  • @MrSamoannn

    @MrSamoannn

    3 жыл бұрын

    Whats happened to me honestly. We had a great dating time and got into a relationship but once we got into a relationship and got into our first hiccup(like a problem) and we solved it together. She gave me a silent treatment the next day then decided to break up abruptly after all the good times we had. She told me she liked being single and noticed that she was changing herself for me and it was exhausting. She said she was turning into a Yes Girl. But i dont get it because ive always told her to be herself all the time. I always would tell her before we did anything if she was okay and felt safe and felt comfortable whenever we planned something. Our dating foundation was built on trust, communication, honesty, and good vibes. So its hard to understand her reasoning. She also blocked me on all social media and phone number. Now obviously she basically helped me to start no contact but any chance she will want to comeback? I have my own goals and dreams to focus on myself. We're broken up now since 5 days ago now and no contact from her since. Any tips?

  • @HibiTeamQueso

    @HibiTeamQueso

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@MrSamoannn any updates?

  • @MrSamoannn

    @MrSamoannn

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@HibiTeamQueso i moved on. It honestly depends on the amount of time and the quality if that time well spent. If it was genuine and honest. Then there's a chance. But if it just started and the foundation wasnt established by both people. It won't work. Hope this helps

  • @KDA1342
    @KDA13423 жыл бұрын

    Love your videos. Your assertive tone of voice is so calming:-)) can’t wait for the next video :)

  • @ElainaDosch
    @ElainaDosch3 жыл бұрын

    Looking good, Coach Lee!

  • @harrisonbovington729
    @harrisonbovington7293 жыл бұрын

    “Then, you find one of my videos” Omg he can read minds 😱

  • @paaul028
    @paaul028 Жыл бұрын

    Just want to say thank you im watching these on loop, will be 4 weeks on Sunday since i started no contact and 4 weeks since they offered friendship and ghosted since. One thing I have decided is no matter how much it hurts, if there is no contact from them by week 8 I'll not respond to them after that and stay away from them for good. I don't want them to be in a position to possibly do this again in the future. I know you say 3 to 4 months but i think 2 months is generous enough to them.

  • @juliet3227
    @juliet32273 жыл бұрын

    The video just popped up and its 6.55Am over here.ill leave everything to watch all of Lee's videos.

  • @juliet3227

    @juliet3227

    3 жыл бұрын

    I realized that Lee has received over 20K more subscribers in just 2 months. This only proves that the content he gives is much more logical than any other & that covid 19 restrictions have led to further breakups. Had I known about Lee 10months ago,I could still be with my ex

  • @Hannah2265

    @Hannah2265

    3 жыл бұрын

    Julie, there's still hope if you love him, don't give up. Follow coach Lee's rules & pray. God answers prayers! I feel everyone deserves a 2nd chance, if they're good men who've just made a mistake.🙏🙂

  • @juliet3227

    @juliet3227

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Hannah2265 ohhh dear,you're so sweet.Thanks for your kind words.

  • @staggies6001

    @staggies6001

    3 жыл бұрын

    Coach Lee & Dating Guy 👌 both very helpful.

  • @semanavidi8694
    @semanavidi8694 Жыл бұрын

    Coach Lee, you make a lot of sense, my friend, you head the nail on the head. Thank you, sir.

  • @TravellingMalik-xb8vy
    @TravellingMalik-xb8vy2 ай бұрын

    To everyone hurting at this moment remember the tables are about to turn soon. It's just a matter of time.. give yourself that time. Go no contact.. first few days may be difficult but after that it will be easy.. say positive affirmations daily that will help too

  • @bigceasar169
    @bigceasar1692 жыл бұрын

    After 22yrs of marriage, she is treating me as though I am a total stranger, so I am moving on and looking towards the future. True colours show in the long run.

  • @elizabethclarke2005

    @elizabethclarke2005

    Ай бұрын

    Hope it all worked out for you in the end.

  • @nasattatsakhamtatnadjartat6892
    @nasattatsakhamtatnadjartat68923 жыл бұрын

    My ex's behavior was so irrational that I'm floored. We just moved in together in December. Been friends over 5 years and our 1 year anniversary as a couple would have been in April. We never fought, argued and there was no disrespect or disloyalty. Few days ago I text him cuz he was late coming home and I always cook before I leave for work in the evening. There's usually about an hour we have together before I leave, which I enjoyed. So I text him to ask him to let me know if he's not coming straight home. He says to me that he's not out doing wrong, he's either at his kids house or at his old place getting more of his stuff to bring to our new place. Then he adds "and I think I'll just return there"... What? Literally NOTHING adverse happened between us to warrant that response. This was 3 days ago and I still haven't gotten an explanation for his irrationality! He came last night and packed his things and left. Then tells me today that "there's much to discuss" and once he gets his head together he'll open up and we can talk. To me, that's BS because why do I have to suffer and yield to his timeframe! It's not like I'm some new chic in his life. And his attitude is cold and uncaring, COMPLETELY uncharacteristic of this man. He moved all his stuff in, including renting a truck, emptying out his storage unit and bringing his furniture, appliances etc... Then weeks later he just up and leaves and wants to put me on the back burner as far as some clarity about his insanity. I feel like someone ripped out my guts. No contact on this dude probably wouldn't even work because he acts as if he couldn't care less. 5 years of a bond broken and violated by a text! I am 44 and he's 49. More than old enough to know better than to make childish moves like this! I'm starting to hate him and all men. Never thought I'd be that girl.

  • @SongSingsSoprano

    @SongSingsSoprano

    Жыл бұрын

    Any update? Did he tell you why he left? Did y'all get back together? Are y'all still together?

  • @jaimemint405
    @jaimemint4053 жыл бұрын

    @Coach Lee, thank you very much, for your free Understand Break Ups, Women, etc...does help me and i feel understand, like a good friend, perfect!

  • @paulina2216
    @paulina22163 жыл бұрын

    I wish I knew all these advices before... :( But now I can help other women and support them! Thank you

  • @user-nd9nf2hq4b
    @user-nd9nf2hq4b Жыл бұрын

    Thnx a lot coach Lee! Ur the one who gave my comfort through my exrutinating pain & anger!... ur the best coach!!✅️👌💯

  • @tesfay3
    @tesfay3 Жыл бұрын

    New subscriber here. Day 8 of breakup. Your videos helped me a lot.. boost my self esteem. thank you 😌

  • @Lilytoll
    @Lilytoll Жыл бұрын

    Coach Lee you are a present to humanity. Thank you with all my heart

  • @almightytwee1188
    @almightytwee118811 ай бұрын

    So I’m here for my most recent break up, I’m kinda over it but listening helps me when I’m feeling weak, but I just wanted to share. My ex gf of 10 years ago just added me on Snapchat and messaged me. It was an add by search. The dumper does think of you, even 10 years later. She has a kid and is married now but she was thinking of me and wondering how I was. Some people will leave you but still care so don’t think you weren’t worthy, you just might not have been suitable for them. Everything will be okay. You got it 💪🏻

  • @susufis
    @susufis3 жыл бұрын

    Interesting video. It is reinforcing my decision to keep in my cero contact posture. 36 days of NC and stronger than ever. What I loved more was the simple logic of coach Lee’s explanation. Thanks and best regards.

  • @zairadosal9714

    @zairadosal9714

    3 жыл бұрын

    I’m on week 3 of no contact…. I still have this like scare that my ex is going to find someone quick… tho I know it’s just me

  • @susufis

    @susufis

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@zairadosal9714. Well, I truly believe fear is your worst enemy. Be positive my friend!!!

  • @godspowerobinna692

    @godspowerobinna692

    2 жыл бұрын

    I know of a great powerful love spell caster that can manifest your ex back within 48hours without no delay

  • @godspowerobinna692

    @godspowerobinna692

    2 жыл бұрын

    He heIped me few days ago he does a perfect work, I'm assuring you, you gonna testify 🙏🙏🙏

  • @godspowerobinna692

    @godspowerobinna692

    2 жыл бұрын

    +16042651917💞⏯⏯⏯⏯

  • @sabajanjua9323
    @sabajanjua93233 жыл бұрын

    Hi Lee! A lot has happened. Still no sign of him! Ive been doing all the right things.

  • @Ronintados
    @Ronintados2 жыл бұрын

    I have been using no contact for 10 months now since the day she kicked me out of her apartment. I returned from abroad to be with her and tried to fix our issue but it didn't worked out. I was really hurt when she dumped me. I still haven't heard anything from her but I trust sir Coach Lee's advise. Thank you sir for your videos, it really helps me to understand the situation and what's the best thing to do.

  • @samuelngunjiri3475
    @samuelngunjiri34753 жыл бұрын

    Watching your videos have really helped me, motivated me. I've been dumped but i still love her. If im going to give up, ill utilize every tool before i give up. I believe its worth it. Thanks coach Lee

  • @Itsdabutler

    @Itsdabutler

    2 жыл бұрын

    same, my girl dumped me and is trying to get into a new relationship with a new dude that she just met maybe a week ago

  • @jamesmatthew4346

    @jamesmatthew4346

    2 жыл бұрын

    He heIped me few days ago he does a perfect work, I'm assuring you, you gonna testify 🙏🙏🙏

  • @jamesmatthew4346

    @jamesmatthew4346

    2 жыл бұрын

    Whats!!!!!app!!!him!!

  • @jamesmatthew4346

    @jamesmatthew4346

    2 жыл бұрын

    +16042651917💞⏯⏯⏯⏯

  • @WikingNordlan

    @WikingNordlan

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@Itsdabutler I need update did you get back with her or what?

  • @camillytunnell2879
    @camillytunnell28793 жыл бұрын

    Ughhh!! This is so hard! Almost Day 5 of no contact!! 💪🏽

  • @spmunda9197

    @spmunda9197

    3 жыл бұрын

    Trust me you can do this. And all the very very best

  • @camillytunnell2879

    @camillytunnell2879

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@girl-oq2ek whew!! How you making it? Any tips?

  • @camillytunnell2879

    @camillytunnell2879

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@spmunda9197 thanks 😊

  • @brielleharmony7568

    @brielleharmony7568

    3 жыл бұрын

    hey the no contact worked for me but it didn’t end well he contacted me after 4 days of no contact asking if I’m ok I replied “I’m good u?” He replied “yeah I’m good” I never replied back after that as you need to just keep it short and not express yourself as that will push them away . On day 7 he contacted me again and said “I miss you and I know it sounds stupid and crazy coming from me but I miss you “ he face timed me we spoke but when I spoke to him I acted like my life was going great even though it wasn’t I could tell that bugged him lol as he said “wow you seem to be doing fine without me living it up “ I said “what did you expect me to die I would be fine regardless” it’s funny because I was crying every second of the day literally crying on the stairs crying when I woke up crying on the train I didn’t care who saw LOOL but I would never let him know that .anyway we arranged to meet at the weekend I went to his house and he was treating me like we were in a relationship but in the back of my mind I felt uneasy about him not talking to me for a while so when he was sleeping I went through his phone and saw the time he wasn’t contacting me he was talking to this 55 year old woman( nothing wrong with older women ) me and him are 26 by the way he was wishing her good morning everyday and chasing her to come and see her and saying he misses her . This women was barely replying to him she was giving one word reply’s while he was fiending for her saying he could come her literally begging she replied “I can’t” LOOL from the texts she not interested in the slightest the way he was speaking to her was the exact way he would speak to me when he was chasing me in the beginning .Imagine the day I left his house before I started no contact he was messaging her while he wasn’t contacting me he was begging to see her while she kept saying she’s busy he told her his been thinking about her . I did come to realise I must of been a rebound because he was messaging this women when we were in a relationship also but he said he would delete her but obviously still contacted her when he was no longer interested in me . It’s crazy how he wants someone that pays him no mind at all looking at the text between him and her made me cringe how he doesn’t see she doesn’t want him . I went home like nothing happened then he started messaging me good morning suddening everyday we met again at his house and while he was sleeping I went through his phone again he was messaging this same women and begging to see her again she left him on read and never replied . Like a idiot I went to his house again after a week and I went thought his phone again and she still never replied to the last message and that’s the reason he was all over me kissing and cuddling because clearly he couldn’t get who he wanted so he was just using me for female company I spend four days at his house when I left I wasn’t trying to give him a kiss goodbye and he said fine then I ended up giving him a kiss he hasn’t texted me since not to see if I got home or anything I left his house at 11pm . He hasn’t texted me in 8 days at all and I’m not going to text him either because I’m clearly just a ego boast and just used till someone he wants comes alone .I was clearly the rebound for the whole 6 months I should have seen the signs he was so full on and told me he loved me after a month he couldn’t resist me . then we started arguing on the fourth month and he wouldn’t even want to work it out so I definitely the rebound because after the honey moon phase they leave . This is the same guy that said he wouldnt date anyone with kids but this women has kids that are me and his age this is the same guy that said he wants kids . He seriously just lives in the moment and wants what he can’t have . When I went through his phone the first time there was also another girl he was talking to way back and she said to him “I hope you find what you’re looking for “ which clearly shows he does this to women he is full on then disappears and finds another to be with and can’t get over his 55 year old ex so jumps to women to women I’m in pain right now because we spend four days and night together last week and has now ghosted I shouldnt gaf because he is a asshole either the women has replied back to him or he doesn’t gaf probably bother. but I’m still really upset and l hoping he texting . The heart wants who it wants . I’m defiantly healing as the days go by it feels easier I don’t wake up with the heavy pain in my stomach anymore 😩 I hope it works for you girl

  • @barflin

    @barflin

    3 жыл бұрын

    stay strong! over 2 months for me.

  • @BlueRidgeJ79
    @BlueRidgeJ79Ай бұрын

    I agree with this to a point. I'm separated almost 3 months from my wife of 12 years. We have a daughter, so intelligent no contact is all I can do. During this time, I'm working on myself and how I contributed to the failing of our relationship, and that's regardless of whether she chooses to come back. If she does at some point I will be able to sincerely say, "let's build something new together." If your partner comes back and there has been no growth on either side, guess where you will ultimately find yourself again?

  • @Wildanimal864.
    @Wildanimal864.28 күн бұрын

    Tbh these guys kinda know our chances are slim. But they know we are probably messed up and suicidal etc . They want use to keep hope and want us to stay calm and in reality move on. These people are literally life savers I’m certain ways.

  • @bellakim2057
    @bellakim2057 Жыл бұрын

    My bf just ghosted me and blocked me last Sunday. That's why I'm getting some comfort watching coach Lee videos.💔

  • @alphablaqog

    @alphablaqog

    11 ай бұрын

    update?

  • @dantimo5506
    @dantimo55062 жыл бұрын

    Nearly 5 months no contact,8 since we broke up,made lots of mistakes begged and pleaded etc she called me two weeks ago I answered said hello twice and she hung up 🤷🏻‍♂️ I didn't respond to the bread crumb,nothing so far but stating strong and feel alot better! Keep going people time does heal things and you will get stronger,I'm now in the position where I don't know if I would go back! And she's calling me not the other way round

  • @remyd1984

    @remyd1984

    Жыл бұрын

    what's your update mate

  • @dantimo5506

    @dantimo5506

    Жыл бұрын

    @@remyd1984 moved on met someone else

  • @iok21a

    @iok21a

    11 ай бұрын

    @@dantimo5506lovely, stay safe brother

  • @paaul028
    @paaul028 Жыл бұрын

    Meant to add just found your video on why the break up could be a good thing and i started a pros and cons list which will no doubt evolve over the coming weeks.

  • @dmanleboeuf1115
    @dmanleboeuf11153 жыл бұрын

    Week 2 of no contact she added me back on everything and went back on her word, asked me how I was doing and I said I was doing good and I’ve been working on my self. My birthday is Monday and I’m going to get my stuff from her place. Thank you coach lee for the encouragement to keep my mind busy and not think about it too much!

  • @barflin

    @barflin

    3 жыл бұрын

    i got this wonderful idea!....you should find a new girl and take her with you when you go to pick up your stuff. tell your ex....thanks have a good one.

  • @dmanleboeuf1115

    @dmanleboeuf1115

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@barflin I would do that but I do want her back, and with COVID I can’t have another person from a different house hold in my vehicle

  • @barflin

    @barflin

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@dmanleboeuf1115 ....i understand. I had to work on myself to get to that point of not wanting her back. a lot of thinking about everything and all the red flags i missed in the 4 years i was with her.

  • @dmanleboeuf1115

    @dmanleboeuf1115

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@barflin so update she texted me today, we’re going out to get food and drive around, just gonna play it cool be my self and not bring anything up about to relationship or the breakup.

  • @barflin

    @barflin

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@dmanleboeuf1115 Whoa!....congratulations!!! Seriously That's really good news for you. I didn't get so lucky.

  • @kimjixiah
    @kimjixiah2 жыл бұрын

    My bf and I were in LDR like almost 3 years and we were together like 6 months and then bc of the covid that he flew back to his country. Since that we didn't see each other for like 2 years. We were really good together and after this new year he started saying about the breaking up bc he couldn't bear this situation and lost some of his feelings. I really love him and wish everything would be different. Are there any chances to get him back ? Should I try no contact rule? Or could I just let it be ?

  • @sirg-had8821
    @sirg-had88219 ай бұрын

    They feel absolutely nothing. Mine never did and she never will. I'm giving myself the closure.

  • @marycolleengorman6216
    @marycolleengorman6216 Жыл бұрын

    I been following and listening to your videos for the past couple of months and I truly believe you give the best advice more than anyone else on here( you -tube) because I been trying your advice and it works! 😊thank you so much😊

  • @AshwinAshwinRamdas
    @AshwinAshwinRamdas3 жыл бұрын

    Can you do a video about your first meeting with an ex?? Meeting her this weekend and don't really know what to do

  • @bumbleberryanimations5629

    @bumbleberryanimations5629

    3 жыл бұрын

    Scammers lol

  • @mamako7325
    @mamako73252 жыл бұрын

    Coach Lee I love you ! I am almost a month of no contact. We had the perfect relationship for many years, he suffered grief and totally changed towards me. Acted really badly and left me. He even said to a friend I was the perfect woman, but he didn’t‘ feel it ‘ anymore. I cut all communication with him, let’s see what happens. Sending love to all of you ! ❣️

  • @sociisokolie4279

    @sociisokolie4279

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello! I understand how you're feeling going through breakup I can recommend you to the same man who help me get my ex back permanently after 3 years of separation... I will advise you seek his help thanks.

  • @sociisokolie4279

    @sociisokolie4279

    2 жыл бұрын

    WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹

  • @Hangrytaco

    @Hangrytaco

    2 жыл бұрын

    Please update us !

  • @Hangrytaco

    @Hangrytaco

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wishing you the best of luck. Stay strong

  • @mamako7325

    @mamako7325

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@Hangrytaco thank you dear ! Still no contact, he said to the same friend the home felt empty and weird without me and he was showing him pictures of some woman he saw in a magazine who looked like me. I met someone and we are currently just talking online and taking things slowly, he makes me smile and makes me focus on other things than the trauma I lived. So let’s see what happens ! Thank you for being so sweet ! 💖

  • @aliciau2276
    @aliciau22763 жыл бұрын

    The way he says "smart move"... I love it! lol

  • @peterchamluo4626

    @peterchamluo4626

    3 жыл бұрын

    Contact him now for help, he can help you get your ex back

  • @roccostarz
    @roccostarz Жыл бұрын

    Forget therapy, I just need this man. Like jesus dude, Coach Lee knows everything I'm thinking about right now after my long distance girlfriend for 3+ years broke up with me and it's been devastating.

  • @priyankapatel5199
    @priyankapatel51993 жыл бұрын

    Accuracy level of this video 10000 ❤️

  • @abdullahimuhammad9481

    @abdullahimuhammad9481

    3 жыл бұрын

    he is the one who help me get my ex back

  • @abdullahimuhammad9481

    @abdullahimuhammad9481

    3 жыл бұрын

    contact him on WhatsApp.

  • @gloriakuhn8670
    @gloriakuhn8670 Жыл бұрын

    I reached out to my ex after 17 years. He was the dumper. We are now back together going on 7 months and things are better this time around.

  • @justinclark1182

    @justinclark1182

    Жыл бұрын

    Amazing xxx

  • @KenRFoxNashvilleSEO
    @KenRFoxNashvilleSEO3 жыл бұрын

    Insightful as always my friend!

  • @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    3 жыл бұрын

    I just got my relationship fixed and my ||ex|husband is •back• to me and we are living happily like never before I got help|from apowerfu|l spiritualist and his spe|ls works effectively just as you want

  • @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    3 жыл бұрын

    Tex† him on What'sapp

  • @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    @omokheowaabdulhameed4181

    3 жыл бұрын

    +2( 3 4) 8 1 2 0 7 6 8 2 9 5

  • @theprototype907
    @theprototype907 Жыл бұрын

    AN ANGEL SENT FROM ABOVE DURING THIS DIFFICULT TIME, THANK YOU

  • @DominickM.
    @DominickM.2 жыл бұрын

    Coach lee and jocko are my Medicine!

  • @mariotibbrine1
    @mariotibbrine13 жыл бұрын

    Stay no contact forever!

  • @marcoaurelioa.4394
    @marcoaurelioa.43943 жыл бұрын

    You're a so smart and wise man! I've been enjoying your videos for a year now! They were soothing and illuminating then, they're funny and informative now. PS. She came back. Thanks, coach.

  • @marcoaurelioa.4394

    @marcoaurelioa.4394

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@darlintonwhite1300 Have you read my comment Darlinon? Try again!

  • @marcoaurelioa.4394

    @marcoaurelioa.4394

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@thankgodeddy1083 Thanks Doctor! what can you do for me?

  • @marcoaurelioa.4394

    @marcoaurelioa.4394

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@thankgodeddy1083 what do you mean?

  • @marcoaurelioa.4394

    @marcoaurelioa.4394

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@thankgodeddy1083 I need someome to cut my lawn, can you help me?

  • @gamegirl8945

    @gamegirl8945

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hey man glad to hear it worked out, how long were you in NC for? And how long did it take to get them back?

  • @davidnyro19
    @davidnyro193 жыл бұрын

    In MY exes case, "the relief stage" lasted the rest of their lives! LOL! :-) But, to riff off something Coach Lee said about acting and wearing masks, I will say my exes were Oscar-winning thespians. (That's because they had to learn to construct tremendous, concrete facades from their wounded, harmful, hurtful childhoods. And most of them starting thinking about breaking up with me almost from the day we got together! But they did the same with ALL their partners. How they were/are wired. Doubting, questioning, controlling, power, etc. Insecure. Sometimes it's even a case of "I'll leave him before he leaves me!" Yes, they were all narcissists. God bless 'em...) And you know what? Listening/watching all these KZread vids from Coach Lee, Clay, Coach Corey, Stephanie Lyn, Dr. Carter, Dr. Ramani, Alan Robarge, and literally hundreds and hundreds of such folks (and the hundreds of thousands, literally, of books on the subject), most very caring and thoughtful, I am gob-smacked struck by the massive, almost infinite bullshit (no offense) of all this time, effort, energy, machinations, twisting, turning, second-guessing, bargaining, stoicism, reverse psychology, mind games, pain, suffering, talking, dreaming, hoping, planning, regret, remorse, analyzing, and on and on and on and I just want to make it all stop! Years and years of our lives, people! Years and years!!! I want to jump off the merry-go-round. Oh, wait. I did. But I want to shake everyone and make them do the same. Well, not "make." But urge. Encourage. Celebrate that. As Sartre and the existentialists say: "Hell IS other people." Stop. The. Madness! The human heart. The human condition. If we didn't need to reproduce, I sometimes wish we could just forego all this tremendous, cruel, mean-spirited, misguided, selfish, immature behavior. But here we are. Good luck everyone. What a fine mess...

  • @SNEHAGUPTA575
    @SNEHAGUPTA5753 жыл бұрын

    Very much eagerly waiting for new videos of yours coach ❤️💙😊

  • @ronaldedward2929

    @ronaldedward2929

    2 жыл бұрын

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  • @ronaldedward2929

    @ronaldedward2929

    2 жыл бұрын

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  • @quintenverbist6443
    @quintenverbist644310 ай бұрын

    The thing that’s killin me is that i can’t share the stupid mundane stuff in my life with her anymore. That’s the hardest part for me

  • @Bubba77777

    @Bubba77777

    9 ай бұрын

    I get that too❤

  • @spacekitten9337

    @spacekitten9337

    8 ай бұрын

    It hurts to find a meme i know he would like and i can not send it to anyone ever again....

  • @poppajohn6575
    @poppajohn65752 жыл бұрын

    I have watched this video many times. It keeps me calm. We had a breakup and did no contact and she came back. We broke up again 2 weeks ago. The problem is she does not communicate what she is thinking about at all. She is a only child and suffers from anxiety. Trying to be strong.

  • @devontebroncas4967

    @devontebroncas4967

    10 ай бұрын

    how are you now?

  • @poppajohn6575

    @poppajohn6575

    10 ай бұрын

    @devontebroncas4967 Gm. I'm actually doing awesome. We got back together and things have been great. No contact really was what made the difference. How are you??

  • @devontebroncas4967

    @devontebroncas4967

    10 ай бұрын

    ​@@poppajohn6575 thanks for the reply, that's good to hear! she broke up with me a month ago and I went no contact right away. I'm doing NC for myself, her coming back would be a nice benefit (though it's easier said than done...) Congrats again, and I wish you all the best man!

  • @djockom

    @djockom

    9 ай бұрын

    ​@@poppajohn6575Hello, I am very glad that things worked out for both of you, I wish you longlasting and loving relationship

  • @Saander92
    @Saander92 Жыл бұрын

    I questioned his silence 3 days after we had a fight. Then I reacted out maybe 3 or 4 more times to see how he was doing. He did answer all times but it was a cold person. He stopped watching my stories and I just had it. I went to watch these no contact videos and I started to get silent against him. 2 weeks of no contact now and everytime I feel sad I comfort myself by watching these videos. And I really decide to never ever rrach out to him again unless he does.

  • @allthingsjana7870

    @allthingsjana7870

    Жыл бұрын

    Did he ever reach out to you? I went through this and had to walk away. Been NC about 23 days now. He sounds like an avoidant attachment like my ex.

  • @Camcam75

    @Camcam75

    Жыл бұрын

    Any update?

  • @allthingsjana7870

    @allthingsjana7870

    Жыл бұрын

    In my situation, still NC. He's a narcissist and just wants to flirt and get attention from other women. I never ever reached out and won't ever do so. He's dead to me.

  • @fernandomirage1
    @fernandomirage1 Жыл бұрын

    Hi thank you for these videos they really help me calm down and not freak out after my break up also trying though modified no contact because we have kids not gonna lie it’s very hard but hope it works out in the end

  • @fayclark5569
    @fayclark55693 жыл бұрын

    I needed this at 5am 🤣 literally jumped for joy at the notification! Thank you for keeping me sane and composed right now coach! I see him in a few hours to collect more of my stuff from the house. Since I went in to nc he's reached out a lot. Worried seeing him in person could ruin any progress but... has to be done. This was the perfect video for what I'm feeling rn about today

  • @barflin

    @barflin

    3 жыл бұрын

    any updates??? you're kinda lucky....my ex is on the opposite side of the country and it makes it hard to go pick up my stuff like one of my frikin guitars🎸 she's probably thrown away by now! 😔

  • @fayclark5569

    @fayclark5569

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@barflin ok so. He is a wreck. Absolutely a wreck. He isn't taking care of himself or doing anything at all. It felt amazing to go in and be positive and determined. He said I looked good and seemed happy. He kept saying how nice it was that we could just talk etc and how it should be ok to so I said I don't want to be his friend. I told him I respect his decision but I disagree and still believe we were good together so I can't be his friend because it would just hurt me and be a falseness 8 years together doesn't deserve. I told him he can contact me if he wants to talk about us but other than that we can't just... be mates. He cried. He said he isn't coming out the other side in a positive mind set. He kept bringing up old times. He kept reaching out to me etc. I was nice. Friendly. Polite etc. But I was literally doing everything with coaches voice in my head and it gave me the confidence to have self respect and I could see he could see it and it really effected him. I don't know if he will change his mind but nc has certainly changed things between us and given me the control back even though its still in his court. I feel better after today than I have since we broke up and its absolutely from binging these videos lmao Good luck to you 😊

  • @barflin

    @barflin

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@fayclark5569 It makes zero sense about wanting to be friends especially like you said after 8 long years together being intimate! No way for me as well....would never wanna be friends with her after our 4 years together getting her pregnant twice also and talking about marriage for a while. Plus I'm pretty sure she's been with another guy so Yuck No to that! No sloppy seconds and ball juices for me. Thanks for the update Fay....and Good Luck to you as well. be safe

  • @fayclark5569

    @fayclark5569

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@barflin ngl I absolutely messed up when I went back yesterday 🤣 we erm... yea. So basically its all out the window

  • @HibiTeamQueso

    @HibiTeamQueso

    2 жыл бұрын

    Update?

  • @aleksandrabouma2396
    @aleksandrabouma23962 жыл бұрын

    Should i prolong the 30 day no-contact for like a week or so? I've done a lot of begging for about a month or a bit longer after breaking up.. is 30 days of no-contact enough then (reason of loss of attraction was months of annoyment, jealousy, controlling, all that kind of stuff)? Or should it be prolonged (long-distance aswell, but that's not the reason for breakup) He was the one who insisted on staying friends etc and wanted to continue talking, and when I didn't speak to him for a few days, he got a bit annoyed and concerned i guess.. and when i said i hadn't cried in weeks he was like.. "you got over me.." (seemed weird about it) but then i broke the no-contact (didn't know about it yet), and started the real no-contact just a few weeks later.. and haven't heard from him since his last message after I began no-contact (on good terms, i sent him a positive message but didn't say that I was starting no-contact). I have 11 days left at this point

  • @taiday8374
    @taiday83742 жыл бұрын

    You are So Helpful and & So Funny & Entertaining you say things that's Funny with a straight face. The Lady your with is Fortunate!! & Vice Versa Only if there were more Men around like You.

  • @ponnagantiprashanth1335
    @ponnagantiprashanth13354 ай бұрын

    What an awesome coach I can smell the feelings of my ex by watching your videos , amazing she is in fear of loss stage I can experience it ❤

  • @vickyblahh
    @vickyblahh2 жыл бұрын

    NC Day 42. Seeing some signs. Hard to stay away, but these videos help me a lot.

  • @terael5637

    @terael5637

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Gunisigi Aydogan Hello! How are you doing 2 months after this comment? Did your ex reach out? Have you moved on? Hope everything is going well!

  • @vickyblahh

    @vickyblahh

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@terael5637 Hello! I haven't received a direct reach out. But I keep seeing my ex stalking me and asking about me. The less I care, the more info she tries to get. I guess that's what life is. I'm really good indeed. I've improved myself in every possible way. How are you?

  • @terael5637

    @terael5637

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@vickyblahh I'm glad you are doing well. I'm doing well, missing her everyday. It's been 4 and a half months since the breakup, 41 days in NC. Been focusing on myself, rock climbing a lot, exercising every day, been on a few dates. Still hurts daily, but I'm moving on with life the best I can. I'm better today than I was yesterday, so things are well.

  • @vickyblahh

    @vickyblahh

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@terael5637 I'm also glad that you're doing well. Things always soothe as the time passes. I used to miss her a lot as well. But as the time went on, I faced everything on my own and mourned the relationship. And now I'm better. People don't get better when they refuse to mourn. One way or another fate finds its ways around when something is meant to be. Stay safe, much love to you!

  • @JannNavarro09
    @JannNavarro093 жыл бұрын

    Never been this early 😳 Your videos have been a big help to me in lessening the pain I'm feeling everyday since the breakup and it stopped me from doing anything that can worsen the situation more.

  • @luissantiago6077

    @luissantiago6077

    3 жыл бұрын

    How are you holding up now?

  • @JannNavarro09

    @JannNavarro09

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@luissantiago6077 Hey, im feeling much better compared to 2 months ago.. been focusing on myself more 😊

  • @aquamarinewaves5804
    @aquamarinewaves58043 жыл бұрын

    Ugh thank you so much coach lee ❤️❤️❤️

  • @memel3154
    @memel31543 жыл бұрын

    He broke up with me but still texting me everyday. I cant be his friend, “take me or leave me” and he choose to leave. He deleted all my pictures in social media already. And now i’m on day 4 of no contact. He showing sign that he always stalking me or keep online on whatsapp until late night which is out of his ordinary behaviour. But I would just stay silence and ignore that. Thanks coach Lee. Your video always remind me to stay strong on NC

  • @momocyrine

    @momocyrine

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes never be his friend. And cut him off completely . As long as you stay away he will absolutly miss you . So distant yourself as much as possible

  • @BOO-sy2oz

    @BOO-sy2oz

    3 жыл бұрын

    Tell him you aren’t interested In being friends and to let you know if he ever changes his mind. Watch coach lees video on how to stay out of the friendzone

  • @cipryan96

    @cipryan96

    3 жыл бұрын

    Good, leave him for good. He will be back, do NOT take him.

  • @brielleharmony7568

    @brielleharmony7568

    3 жыл бұрын

    hey yeah the no contact worked for me but it didn’t end well he contacted me after 4 days of no contact asking if I’m ok I replied “I’m good u?” He replied “yeah I’m good” I never replied back after that as you need to just keep it short and not express yourself as that will push them away . On day 7 he contacted me again and said “I miss you and I know it sounds stupid and crazy coming from me but I miss you “ he face timed me we spoke but when I spoke to him I acted like my life was going great even though it wasn’t I could tell that bugged him lol as he said “wow you seem to be doing fine without me living it up “ I said “what did you expect me to die I would be fine regardless” it’s funny because I was crying every second of the day literally crying on the stairs crying when I woke up crying on the train I didn’t care who saw LOOL but I would never let him know that .anyway we arranged to meet at the weekend I went to his house and he was treating me like we were in a relationship but in the back of my mind I felt uneasy about him not talking to me for a while so when he was sleeping I went through his phone and saw the time he wasn’t contacting me he was talking to this 55 year old woman( nothing wrong with older women ) me and him are 26 by the way he was wishing her good morning everyday and chasing her to come and see her and saying he misses her . This women was barely replying to him she was giving one word reply’s while he was fiending for her saying he could come her literally begging she replied “I can’t” LOOL from the texts she not interested in the slightest the way he was speaking to her was the exact way he would speak to me when he was chasing me in the beginning .Imagine the day I left his house before I started no contact he was messaging her while he wasn’t contacting me he was begging to see her while she kept saying she’s busy he told her his been thinking about her . I did come to realise I must of been a rebound because he was messaging this women when we were in a relationship also but he said he would delete her but obviously still contacted her when he was no longer interested in me . It’s crazy how he wants someone that pays him no mind at all looking at the text between him and her made me cringe how he doesn’t see she doesn’t want him . I went home like nothing happened then he started messaging me good morning suddening everyday we met again at his house and while he was sleeping I went through his phone again he was messaging this same women and begging to see her again she left him on read and never replied . Like a idiot I went to his house again after a week and I went thought his phone again and she still never replied to the last message and that’s the reason he was all over me kissing and cuddling because clearly he couldn’t get who he wanted so he was just using me for female company I spend four days at his house when I left I wasn’t trying to give him a kiss goodbye and he said fine then I ended up giving him a kiss he hasn’t texted me since not to see if I got home or anything I left his house at 11pm . He hasn’t texted me in 8 days at all and I’m not going to text him either because I’m clearly just a ego boast and just used till someone he wants comes alone .I was clearly the rebound for the whole 6 months I should have seen the signs he was so full on and told me he loved me after a month he couldn’t resist me . then we started arguing on the fourth month and he wouldn’t even want to work it out so I definitely the rebound because after the honey moon phase they leave . This is the same guy that said he wouldnt date anyone with kids but this women has kids that are me and his age this is the same guy that said he wants kids . He seriously just lives in the moment and wants what he can’t have . When I went through his phone the first time there was also another girl he was talking to way back and she said to him “I hope you find what you’re looking for “ which clearly shows he does this to women he is full on then disappears and finds another to be with and can’t get over his 55 year old ex so jumps to women to women I’m in pain right now because we spend four days and night together last week and has now ghosted I shouldnt gaf because he is a asshole either the women has replied back to him or he doesn’t gaf probably bother. but I’m still really upset and l hoping he texting . The heart wants who it wants . I’m defiantly healing as the days go by it feels easier I don’t wake up with the heavy pain in my stomach anymore 😩Sorry this is so long . It will get bettef

  • @cipryan96

    @cipryan96

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@brielleharmony7568 looool, he's into grandma's. Gross 🤢

  • @its_dermo5588
    @its_dermo5588 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Coach, we broke up 12 days ago and I begged and annoyed her like crazy after the break up. I blocked her on everything and unblocked so I wouldn’t contact her. I didn’t block her phone number so if she ever wants to reach out she can. Let’s go day 1 no contact, starting today! Will keep this updated.

  • @jarrodoberg2078

    @jarrodoberg2078

    Жыл бұрын

    I’m on day 11… it gets easier my man. Hang in there

  • @BlahYouBeezy

    @BlahYouBeezy

    Жыл бұрын

    How’s your NC going now?

  • @jarrodoberg2078

    @jarrodoberg2078

    Жыл бұрын

    @@BlahYouBeezy she texted me 2 days ago asking for her apartment key back. I told her I want my stuff back so we are meeting next week to exchange item. I can imagine she’s going to be cold and non receptive to anything I say. I am alittle nervous as I’m not sure how I should go about doing this.

  • @Yano222

    @Yano222

    Жыл бұрын

    I am on day 2

  • @kriminalkartik

    @kriminalkartik

    10 ай бұрын

    almost 35 days NC . stay strong