Coach Lee is a legend. My boyfriend and I had a huge messy breakup in 2019, and I went No Contact immediately. I focused completely on my own processing of emotions and grief . I became a new person after 3 months , and guess who wrote a letter, and started trying to contact me .... my ex. We ended up getting back together . No contact works when you accept the situation, and find ways to redirect your negative thoughts into ways you can benefit from where you are , and what happened. Love & light guys ☀️

@alejandradeniss

3 жыл бұрын

You still together? How is it going for you two?

@alexisbeltran7110

3 жыл бұрын

My wife left me because she wanted to work on herself. We still married by law but she left her rings behind and I tried to look for her to talk and she texted me to back off and now she no contacted me and it's two weeks so far. it sucked because I'm waiting for her to still talk about what happened but mutual friends tell me she doesn't even tell them much which is weird. I still wear my ring and standing for my marriage but idk what she's up to... Everyone says to give her time and space and I've developed anxiety attacks since it happened.

@visionprods1

3 жыл бұрын

@@alexisbeltran7110 really sorry to hear that, it sucks for real. Find ways to focus on yourself, do some sport , go shopping, go out with friends, it might ease the pain a bit. It gets easier with time. Also try to remember her imperfections, the number one of them being the fact that she cold-heartedly abandoned you with no explanation whatsoever, does she still deserve your full attention after this act , ask yourself that question

@Jennybeeeeee

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for commenting. ♥️It helps♥️

@Idontknowhoiamanymore

3 жыл бұрын

Congratulations I’m so happy for you! You said a lot of words in the post that resonate with my life. Thanks for sharing 😀

Here's some encouragement for everyone. Hey you. Yes, you. You're probably feeling like crap right now and you feel like the only way to ease your anxiety is by reaching out to the person who left. It's an addict mentality. Stay in no contact, don't give into the impulse. Current anxiety is better than regret later. If you are trying to talk yourself into thinking that you won't regret breaking no contact, just remember there's nothing you can say to change their mind. Think of it as an absolute. If you perceive it that way, you'll feel the anxiety gradually decrease. Anxiety is created by the "what if?" scenarios we loop in our heads. If we turn "what if"s into "I don't have the power to change someone's mind" we'll create a less fearful feedback loop. We won't see the forest through the trees until we step outside of it and get some distance for ourselves. I'm almost 2 months into NC. Life is getting better and I've gained something more important than my ex: self-respect.

@jeremybaker7959

4 жыл бұрын

I wish I could say the same . But still hanging in

@christinewatson1989

4 жыл бұрын

This has been helpful, thanks :)

@Naruto16315

4 жыл бұрын

Did she reach out

@cinneadken

4 жыл бұрын

Perfect motivation!

@sergiogodinez2496

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the input. Been a few days if no contact and the anxiety is high. The video helps.

Take your time to heal, what is yours will always be yours.

@1kimasan

4 жыл бұрын

Nande Manando very true

@NotYourTypicalMermaid94

4 жыл бұрын

This is the truth

@TD-sk7jb

4 жыл бұрын

This is true, I was blind sided by my situation

@kibegee9956

4 жыл бұрын

You're right but for people with anxiety this is the hardest thing to believe

@toronto416.

4 жыл бұрын

What do mean?

Its so hard waking up in the middle of the night, sweating with your heart hurting cause you can no longer feel their presence 💔

@jannlewandowski5540

Жыл бұрын

Rogue_Lemon. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you! It's fantastic! myexbackcoach.com/ebk

@BXD84

5 ай бұрын

It is 5am here and I have been up since 3am. My relationship ended yesterday afternoon. I woke up and I thought I had overdosed and my body was cold and going into shock. I guess it was just dealing with the pain of heartbreak

@gal1885

5 ай бұрын

@@BXD84i hope you’re doing better ❣️

1. focus on breath slow breathing 2. directed laughter, ah whatever 3. it's okay to feel like this. 4. remember feeling like this before 5. the anxiety itself is not the situation 6. Anxiety is temporary 7. find encouragement( talk to a friend or watch something that changes your mind) 8. Do some physical exercise 9. practice gratitude 10. Give yourself a break from the breakup. Hope it helps you guys. we are all together in this. Hope we'll get through it together. 🙏😊

@edwinhernandez5581

11 ай бұрын

I AM HURTING SO BAD I'LL TRY

@russ123321bunya

9 ай бұрын

​@@edwinhernandez5581how are you doing

The best way to overcome breakup anxiety is watching Coach Lee's videos.

@SweetDaddyBarron78

3 жыл бұрын

Good one

@manojjamdade6030

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah! He turns 'a person wanting to contact ex' into a person Hesitant to contact and just wait.

@gudrunforde

3 жыл бұрын

I agree his videos help so much

@edmundblackaddercoc8522

2 жыл бұрын

Binge them lol

@elenavobornik7060

2 жыл бұрын

yes, i being doing this, to feel better, i being sleeping watcihis videos,

I don’t want him back, just want to heal, learn and move on. Getting him back doesn’t solve the issues that were initially there. I only need help through the process.

This literally came at the best time. I’m feeling panicked and anxious again. Every day feels like a nightmare, I realize I’m alive in a reality I don’t want. Thank you Coach Lee.

@danibandit2096

4 жыл бұрын

Tallonest exactly how I feel, I’m alive in a reality I’m miserable in

@pauljennings7668

4 жыл бұрын

@@danibandit2096 Yes, me too. I don't think I have ever known such emotional torture. There are times I just don't want to be alive. Sympathies to you from me. It HAS to get better...

@bernesemuir8022

4 жыл бұрын

Me too u are not alone here

@renep7008

4 жыл бұрын

⚠️ Any What’sApp solicitation is a SCAM!

@CommandoIvan

4 жыл бұрын

“I realize I’m alive in a reality I don’t want.” That one hits home for me. It’s like being in an alternate reality where everything looks the same but doesn’t feel like it. It’s been a year and some months now, things have gotten better but are not at 100%.

I’ve actually never seen coach lee laughing 😂😂

Day 5 of NC. 'How can you just forget about me like that?' keeps wanding through my mind as I sit in bed and cry. It's so confusing and core shaking. It's hard not to take very personally and wonder what is it that's wrong with me. What about me is not enough. Thanks to everyone on here for sharing their stories and feelings.

@ao6m3ru4

3 жыл бұрын

I totally relate to your feelings. One of the most damaging side-effect from a break-up is to think less of yourself. But that your ex doesn't need you anymore is completely irrelevant to your self-worth, and you deserve better. Hope you're feeling well now!

@Daniela-fn8or

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry, @HangOutWithMe ...how are you doing now?

@amberspeacefulplace5803

3 жыл бұрын

Nothings wrong with you and you are never alone god is always with you love is beautiful and if someone loves you they won’t leave you behind he has to be a God-fearing man

@lateashaevans4579

2 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way

@1970anfield

Жыл бұрын

Day 21 for me and it's not getting easier. He didn't block me so I feel like texting. I can block him yet sigh. So I watch videos for encouragement

This video was a long time coming. Last September the ex texted me to call him about something, then said he can't be in a relationship with me, or something to that effect. I said ok and hung up on him. Didn't contact him for thirty days as advised, and it was more feeling like what a fool I was for wasting twelve months of my life. Couldn't eat, slept all those days, and neglected my hygiene, on top of working three jobs. One month later ex texts to meet up for coffee, only to stand me up because he was in a "shitty mood" that day. He contacts me every now and then because he knows he screwed up big time. He's thirty years old and has nothing. No job, no prospects, constantly whining about depression and anxiety, and he realized he tossed aside the one person that made his life less miserable: me. I don't even care at this point. If I had what I wanted in life: a stable full time job and home ownership, I wouldn't want to share a life with him even if he wanted to come back for good. I feel like the whole experience isn't about getting him back, it's about getting myself back.

@oneputtsteven

4 жыл бұрын

The primary reason It IS about getting yourself back absolutely, Once you emerge from this No contact, you will be more disciplined, more emotionally centered, and your self-esteem will be higher, You will know yourself better. in short you will feel better soon day by day, You will have waves of grief (even if you don't want him back) but they will become lower and less frequent. In short you will become more attractive. It's very tempting to smooth over the pain by dating soon again or to see what's out there. I would encourage you not to do it. There will be a time for that. Dive deep within yourself to see what your part in this was. You may be attracting the wrong kind of person. Your ex may have a personality disorder. If so learn about that disorder with a therapist and then if they do or did have a disorder make the changes in yourself and train yourself to look for the warning signs of what the early clues of that disorder are. ie if your ex was a borderline or a narcissist then you would susceptible to attracting the same kind of person again. Work on yourself, learn new hobbies or skills. Don't stay in your house or apartment by yourself if you can. Catch up with friends or family you haven't seen in awhile. GET EXERCISE,. Stay in no contact indefinitely or until you're healed. You'll know when. GL

@Architecture_and_visualization

3 жыл бұрын

GO YOU!!!

51days of no contact.. still missing him, and thinking about him.. but everything getting better.. first week of no contact i can't even sleep and eat.. it's like i watched coach Lee's videos for 24hours.. and read all the comments.. But i still desperately hope he gonna come back.. i miss him so bad :(

@macpicasso1854

3 жыл бұрын

May God be with you

@francoispieterse7089

3 жыл бұрын

I'm in the same situation, my problem is I'm reaching out all the time and no respond. It's so dam hard

@makeitwork2672

3 жыл бұрын

After 5 months he follow my instagram. But that's all.. no text, no call, no reach out.. i still thinking of him everyday, but the pain is less.. i will stuck to no contact! Good luck for all of you :)

@hectorsoria850

3 жыл бұрын

You know after some time you should be the first one to engage

@mirabella44

2 жыл бұрын

I feel your pain. How are you now?

You say "Thank you for watching" I say: Thank you for putting this together for me

Thank you! Yesterday I cried a lot while doing the breathing with you and then laughed. Today i tried it again, but I didn’t cry. Believe me it gets better every day. One day at a time.

Crazy to see how many people are going through the same thing.. I feel so alone most of the time. Just trying to push through the day. I’ve been doing stuff to help like re doing my room, gym, journaling, ect.. does help and when my thoughts drift Towards the break up, I shift it To something else.. unless I feel I really need to let the emotions out and cry. I will do that but not stay in that sad depressed state. I pick up and move on as hard as it is! I had a nice Lil crying sesh on my way home From work. Guess what I wanted to do? Lay in bed and mope. I went to the gym for the first time in a while! And will start going! It truly helps me! I feel 100x better. Also for my situation, we only dated for 3 months.. I suspect this has bpd and there were many red flags! It’s best we are apart as he abused me emotionally. I have no hope to get him back and don’t want to! So I am dealing with the total loss of the future faking and love bombing.. The lies and manipulation. It’s really hard

@danielsinke15

4 жыл бұрын

Keep on going, it will always get better. 💪

@renep7008

4 жыл бұрын

Loving Me Oh how well do I understand what you are going through. Pretty much all of 2019 was everything you just said for me. Total hell, dealing with a toxic BPD, NPD, Cluster B individual. The experience will almost drive you insane, and will most certainly cause you to learn literally everything about what it is that happened to us. Beware of the hoover too. Mine did it after six months total silence. I took the bait, only to be idealized, devalued, and discarded all over again, but only faster the next time around, but today I Am all good. You will be too, I promise you will. Just give it time.

@lovingme6896

4 жыл бұрын

Rene P he warned me about all of his relationships & how they went so fast and he ended it because his exes never “understood” until it was too late.. he made me feel like We were soul mates. He hoovered me a week after discard just saying random things like good morning and what food he got. Just to ghost me again. It’s been a week now. At first I was doing nc to get him back because I thought it was all my fault like he told me. I knew something wasn’t right and started researching more.. found out about cluster bs. It all made sense and I don’t feel crazy anymore. The love bombing really got me hooked. I feel so hurt and upset. The cognitive dissonance is hitting me hard

@miriammontez8577

4 жыл бұрын

You are not alone.. Not at all

@Emila1695

4 жыл бұрын

God, it’s so strange that so many of us are going through the same struggles. My relationship lasted 3 months as well, but at the same time I don’t think or can’t recall the moment when I’d have been more invested in the relationship. For the first time I wasn’t scared of never being single again, I’ve poured my heart into this guy. And for the first time I met somebody that truly wanted to spend time with me, he pushed this to be a relationship, and I opened more and more each day until I realized that I want him and I see the future with him on my side. And suddenly, it was a matter of days really, he started to back off. I felt like I was loosing ground under my feet. He broke it off almost a month ago now, saying that he doesn’t know what he wants, that he finds me interesting and attractive but he’s mentally in a bad place and he can’t be with me anymore. It’s getting better and better everyday, but I feel like I have this enormous burden, a sting in the middle of my heart. I miss him everyday. I hope everything will work out for all of us. It’s heartwarming to know that we’re not alone.

9 years together but she left 3 months ago and I can’t get over her, I’m hurting like hell. 😔💔

@jr.m13

4 жыл бұрын

Angel Gil damn!!! Me too! 9 years together and left me 3 months ago too!

@angelgil672

4 жыл бұрын

jaearM yea man this pain is never ending.

@MrBadassitude

4 жыл бұрын

Damn man same. It’s so hard goin from being with the same person everyday. To just being alone. It’s rough

@miriammontez8577

4 жыл бұрын

So sorry but karma will get them. Remember no one gets away without paying for all their mistakes. So. Just set back n watch the show. Judgment day will come.

@jeremybaker7959

4 жыл бұрын

I am sorry man I am going through the same and I feel the pain your not alone. I went 8 months before trying no contact. The year mark is coming up.

Just ended my relationship of 5 years 2 days ago and I’m waking up in the middle of the night abruptly in high anxiety and an urgency to text the person.

@memolina9224

3 жыл бұрын

Maridee....you ended the relationship? She left the house and relationship 2.5 weeks ago after 3.5 years. We talked out of necessity for ties that bind us, ( no kids), 5 days ago. She was kinda rude and short. A few days later I found Coach Lee and have listened to his videos and recognize that level of mentality her emotions are in, ( probably mad at me for reminding her she hurt me). I have stopped ALL communication per Coach Lee😀. Officially it is day 5 of NC.

@memolina9224

3 жыл бұрын

Maridee.....how's it going now after more weeks have gone by?

@sitagarcia

3 жыл бұрын

How are you now??

@allaboardthegravytrain5987

2 жыл бұрын

this happened to me a lot every night and morning once i wake up, last year when my ex started pulling away. i will never forget that. i will never let it happen to me again. i will cut that shit short as soon as i see it. nobody is worth that much suffering.

@chaostade4087

2 жыл бұрын

@@allaboardthegravytrain5987 yeah me too. Next time I see my girlfriend pulls away or bahaving strangely im gonna end the shit out of the relationship. If she has a good reason for it I might reconsider. Im not gonna let ANYONE else in my life to play with my feelings ever again. Nor I will let myself end up in the emotional state that im right now. Im gonna protect myself next time.

If my ex ever contac me again i will give everyone here one big mac

@LibertarianGuy823

4 жыл бұрын

I hope she does bro, but try not to think about it, we’re on the same boat let’s survive these miserable times man.

@NepseN95

4 жыл бұрын

@@LibertarianGuy823 thanks bro

@teuminori2121

4 жыл бұрын

hahaha did she contact you back already? haha

@slaywithateia

4 жыл бұрын

Lmaooo

@veronika-iu7ts

3 жыл бұрын

so whats up xDD..

I'm 4 months in i didn't think I would heal but I did now back to normal with no distractions don't force the healing process it will happen out of nowhere trust me you will know you will just eventually realize you don't need them and that you don't have room in you're head to even give them a second thought stay focused!!!💟

@meganoreilly895

6 ай бұрын

This gives me Hope!

Here I am watching this at 3 in the morning to keep myself from texting him. I feel calmer now.

@juliet3227

3 жыл бұрын

It gets better with time

@aymanbilalassen2280

3 жыл бұрын

Been over 5 months bro. What happened?

Prayer is the most powerful thing to do, God knows what you think and He sees everything! Have Faith that things will fall into place.

@THEDANILUCKSSHOW

8 күн бұрын

Amen

I've developed a weird habit of talking to myself, pretending to be having a conversation with a friend in my head, but I'd be talking out loud

Coach Lee is the only one consistently there for me every time I’m down and crying in the dark.

@lexithaqute2120

9 ай бұрын

❤

After 18 years of marriage I am starting down this road I never thought I'd be on. Thank you for this, it gave me some things to help me through the feelings I'm experiencing. Hope is a start, and that's all I have right now. Sending good thoughts in to the universe to anyone who is going through something similar, you are not alone

@jelenapiskin

8 ай бұрын

Please, tell me, how are you now? How did you cope with anxiety? It's all too much...

@weareallrobertpaulson5193

8 ай бұрын

@@jelenapiskin I'm doing great now, with time came happiness and the realization that I am better off. What I went through was rough to say the least but having friends and family to help you through the dark is a blessing..i promise you that it gets better, the anxiety fades, the sleepless nights become less and less, and then eventually you realize that you are still here and you have a life to live. Focus on and improve yourself. Start small and take it day by day. Remember that you deserve better than you were treated. Eventually you will find balance and happiness in your life. I will be sending good thoughts your way and rooting for you to make it through this.

Guys trust no contact. It really works, after a month and a half me and my ex are grabbing coffee soon to talk.. Im not sure whats going to come of it though lol

@theaveragejoe6854

4 жыл бұрын

Doesn't matter. You just go in like it's a first date. Forget about the past. Be the you before you met them! Or better!

@NaomiMarie1130

4 жыл бұрын

Got an update?

@CharlesFerraro

4 жыл бұрын

What ever happened? Didn’t work out?

@AlienAmerican

3 жыл бұрын

Update?

@hectorsoria850

3 жыл бұрын

I’m hoping this is my outcome too

You Are amazing ! No contact and radio silent worked for me 2 and a half months In he reached out we talked and well no we talk everyday and night he calls me sometimes during work , sometimes after he gets out of work we hung out the other day at his job and he was all over me and still being his ex he was still very proud to show me off.. no on Thursday we are hanging out again! You know your stuff

@renep7008

4 жыл бұрын

Aprilzoe _ Pretty please, be careful and cautious, especially if he was the one that called it off before. There is a type of person out there, known as the Personality Disordered, or Cluster B, they are very good at pulling you back in, and then dropping you again. Be very careful dear, and good luck.

@Maulschellezack

4 жыл бұрын

Stories like yours mean the world to me. I'm at 5 weeks in NC now.

@aprilzoe_4494

4 жыл бұрын

Rene P I am very careful ! He knows that I’m not giving my all till he proves himself ! Lately he has especially because i have a son and I explained unless this is serious do not come because my son LOVES him and I do not want him to come back make him happy leave again and my son asking for him all over again. He’s understood the terms . Thank you so much though for your advice I appreciate it ❤️❤️

@aprilzoe_4494

4 жыл бұрын

Maulschellezack stay strong love you got this ! It’s very very hard at first and you’ll have urges but when you have that urge look at these videos ! They stopped me each time. I went completely silent on socks media for 2 months and even though he’s back I’m still off social media it made me realize the toxic place it became also for me and him so we’re keeping things off social media but very affectionate in public . The less they know the better and healthier things are. Don’t lose hope ever ! Pray to the universe and then let go. Meanwhile you’re doing the NC work on yourself go out enjoy yourself be you ! Find yourself LOVE yourself first most definitely. If it’s meant to be they will come back and if they do come back be very cautious but thankful to the world . Praying everything works for you ❤️ keep me updated I’m hoping everything works in your favor 🥰🥰

@Maulschellezack

4 жыл бұрын

@@aprilzoe_4494 thank you so much for your kind words aprilzoe. Brought me to tears that people who are basically strangers are showing so much empathy for each other. Makes me really thankful and happy. Thank you ❤️

Dude, I can’t even describe how therapeutic your videos are for me… thank you.

@RealCoachLee

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Bradd. I have another new channel that is about overcoming anxiety. You can subscribe and watch at youtube.com/@AnxietyPeace

@yolandacastaneda4482

3 ай бұрын

​@RealCoachLee please you keep me alive .I. really down . He left me its been a month now.i miss him and loved him so much. But his the one no contact with Me. Really hard on me. Ignore my call and my text mesage.

I totally dig what you said about smiling and laughing at the situation. I do this now. It does give a sense of empowerment and control over that crappy feeling I have since I was dumped on Thanks Giving 2019. Now it’s just empowerment and confidence in control. Along with your videos of encouragement and powerful words that makes complete sense of it all. I say You’re a power dude. I’ve leaned a lot from you and your videos. Thank you sir!

Its been almost week 12 NC for me. I have to keep listening to all these video to make myself better.

@SJ-nw1ym

3 жыл бұрын

Update?

I’m watching this on my first night of being sober for 3 months.. it’s time for me to stand up, she shattered my heart. Broke me into so many pieces. I have a big heart and proud to show it.. yeah I’ll miss her but I know I’m worth more.

I love this guy. His voice is so calming and his videos are so real. He just gets it. My favourite coach. Coach lee you are amazing, thank you

Was blindsided when my gf decided to break up with me. I'm only 2 days into NC and I'm struggling so much. I can't sleep. I can't eat. I feel so empty and confused. Coach is really helping though and I believe in the process. Just really struggling. I don't really have any one around me to talk to and the silence is really getting to me.

@dylanwysocki4406

2 жыл бұрын

Hope you’re doing alright bud I’m going through the same thing

Hi Coachlee and those that read this. These videos have been a lifesaver in navigating a recent breakup. One technique that may help when it comes to anxiety and how unpleasant the feelings are. Accept them. Embrace them. Feel them the more you fight the more they take hold. The feelings maybe unpleasant but they can not hurt you.

18 days of no contact and for the past two days I am feeling this intense pain in my chest and waking up to the pain and anxiety. I really hope to God for the pain to stop.

@maybugz

3 жыл бұрын

I did 40 days no contact, then sent a bday card to her, I got no reply, it took me right back to day one. I'm 3months post breakup and still hurting over it. Time is the only healer, and you will be stronger and happier than you were before. When your broken heart heals it will be stronger just like anything else that breaks and heals. Just remember, do no harm to yourself, do only good. Keep your house tidy, clothes clean, bed clean, eat well and exercise, all these little things will help you not be dragged down.

@jennyjen3985

3 жыл бұрын

@@maybugz thank you for your advice.

@maybugz

3 жыл бұрын

@@jennyjen3985 You're welcome, just think, each of these comments on here there is a real person going though what you're going through. It feels as bad as the death of a loved one, we know it's not but the emotions are the same. Its no joke.

@timothygibney159

3 жыл бұрын

So Jen it has ben 4 months since you wrote this. How did you do and are you over him? I am feeling down as my ex is seeing someone now :-(

Hello Coach Lee, I just wanted to say, I can’t thank you enough for your expertise and gift of helping people who feel devastated by a breakup. I think I’ve watched every single video in your library, some I have watched several times. It’s so comforting and helpful to hear you speak to us. I know I’m not alone. God bless! Keep up your good work!❤️

This man is the best. I’m moving through some real pain right now. I am so grateful for you and what you do for the broken-hearted. We will heal!!!

Tried watching a lot of coaches and channels about the subject but Coach Lee is hands down the best! No one else comes close! Very practical tips and realistic insights. I’m on day 7 of 90 NC days and his videos keep me sane and controlled. Can’t wait for the much better version of myself when my 90 days NC (or i may add more if needed) are over. Whether I get back with my ex or not, I’m convinced NC will really work and I’ll be a much better, more disciplined and wiser person after this. Thanks a lot, Coach Lee! You are awesome!!

Good haircut! I’m over that stage just in a week after watching a bunch of post-breakup advice videos. The good thing is I don’t lower my values to chase him.

“Gone with the wind” is one of my favourite movies of all time. I remember the quote you mention “I’ll worry about it tomorrow”. She was wise about it because she knew that if she worried all the time she wouldn’t get anything done and she needed to be strong to juggle with the other issues in her life. Thanks for reminding me of her strong character, it really helps. I worry about my ex all the time and I can’t even get a decent sleep because of this. I will try postponing this heavy worrying or limit its time. Also, taking a break from caffeine is a really good advice. I noticed too that drinking too much coffee can really increase anxiety and even get you into overdrive sometimes. Hope I can do it. Thank you, Coach Lee! You’re the best!!!

This was great actually! Lee is by far the best relationship coach I’ve come across on KZread! Much love and gratitude, Coach Lee.

I feel this at times, it's horrible. Coach Lee, you described it exactly how I feel. The future seems unbearable & I'm traveling into something I hate. I feel this more especially on the weekends. Tonight I was thinking of a lot of memories that we shared & it's the uncertainty of my future & in no contact that's so difficult.

Trust me, the two times when I broke NC...the person NEVER came back and it actually pushed them away for good...so not only did I feel alone but now I felt awful because I gave in. Most of the time, the reason the person broke up with me had little to actually do with me and a lot to do with their own issues. The times I’ve used NC (longest being 3 years of NC and I moved on) the person always came back with the option to hook up, have sex and rekindle dating. Bottom line, use NC for your own sanity. For yourself. Not as a means to get the person back. I felt great after a week of NC, but as soon as I broke it and got no response/negative response, I felt depressed. I know that now. And looking back, when I broke NC, it wasn’t even the actual person I was missing, it was the attention and feeling of being with someone that was missed.

Watching your videos Coach Lee is the most effective anxiety relieving technique. I’m 37 days in no contact and been feeling better. I had a dream about her woke up in a panic cold sweats and started tears. Watching this video has now calmed me down thank you.

@melissajhinoo7766

9 ай бұрын

I'm currently having dreams about him and panic attacks and I hate this feeling 😢

Bro, i messed up big time, but i started watching your videos, and implemented your rule, not only has she contacted me 3 times already, but i don’t even care if she comes back anymore, he helps listen to this legend💪

Few days into No Contact. Found you after i was promised a talk face to face, but she bailed on it 3 times. Really struggling with not having closure right now...your wonderful videos and amazing comment section are a nightly ritual now and have been helping so much....i think its the greatest comment section on toutube! We got this guys and gals

Coach lee you have pulled me out of a freaking depression. Thank you so much. I can finally eat for the first time in a week ❤️ I’m going to end my 115 day streak with her and go no contact. in the mean while i’m going to quit running track and focus on lifting and gaining some mass while also getting my schoolwork done and buy that car that I’ve been waiting to buy in order to get out of the house. You gave me this confidence and i am forever in debt to you my friend. Thank you so much!

Of all the videos I have watched, you have the best, very clear approach. I think getting beyond the grief of a breakup could be another useful video.

I don’t have an ex I’m currently getting over. But your videos have helped me make peace with friendships that have ended. Thank you 🙏

What helped me get over a shitty ex who would leave me after every 4 days: I found my life passion and i'm building on that now. I realized i need no man but me, takecare of me and my family/friends

You're an awesome person for being here with us in this worst time and worst pain. I am so lucky and grateful for the support I've received at this time (6 year relationship and worst pain I've felt in a long time).

@louyiechen

Жыл бұрын

5yrs of relationships we dont fight no third party, reason why we broke up he has no time for us anymore, i was needy and clingy sometimes but he knows me better than anybody if im clingy mean i miss him so much i need him but he gets misunderstood off all that, maybe he feels like i smothered him or took away his independence, and he ghosted me for 3 weeks, when he comeback he was decided already to end the relationship. It is blind side and one sided break up.. Until now, its beem 2 weeks already still cry at night so many what if and why's... Fyi we dont fight a lot or big fight for 5yrs all we have is sweet moments and good memories together our both families.. And now i feel like im gonna die of pain, anxiety, panic attacked and everything.. I was his first long term and serious relationship,i was there of all his firstime, we both share our lives and together we mature, that's why its so hard to let go or move on if the reason is not enough to trow the 5yrs relationship.. 😢

@phyna2117

Жыл бұрын

I'm so happy having my partner back after being separated for months.All thank to dr frank who help me to get back with my ex again,he has helped numerous number of people I will suggest you to get help from him

I love how you actually address what people need and how they feel on a deep level, thank you ❤️

Thank you so much for bringing me back to reality coach. I don’t even know where I was a week ago before I started to listen to you but it certainly wasn’t reality. You’ve helped open my eyes to relationship dynamics more than anyone on KZread

I wish I could schedule a call with you but your site says that you are taking a break from calls. You are the best counselor EVER!

Thank you so much coach lee!! You're the one who's helping me in my silent battle.

One thing I've learned coach lee is that laughter and interacting with happy people really is a great way of dealing with the anxiety. I watched dad jokes on KZread, talk to people who are happy, watching funny movies, not being stuck in the house all day, go out to eat with friends, treat yourself, shop for clothes that look nice on you, make money, when you talk to people force yourself to actually engage in the conversation and be a listener. Do not speak or do things that will make you bored because it will cause you to really sink into your thoughts. Force your mind to focus on what you want it to focus on. The breathing is such A great way to reset your mind. 🤞🏾🤞🏾🔥🔥🔥. Thank you so much coach lee

You are doing a great job. I couldn't even believe all these psychological things behind break up, dumper, dumpee before watching your videos. Thank you so much for spreading your knowledge. The world needs you. Thanks ☺️ I am moving on from a terrible cycle. 😎

I’m 53, I’ve been divorced 13 years. I never had kids but wanted to. My ex as it turned out didn’t want kids. The last year and a half a dated a woman with three young boys. We all got along great. I was crazy about her. First woman I met in 13 years that I thought I’d marry. It was like having my own family for the first time. She ended things about a month ago. I didn’t see it coming. 53 years old and find myself completely alone again. I feel like I’ve been set back 13 years. Having a very difficult time with this breakup.

Thank you Coach Lee! I was feeling some anxiety tonight and this was helpful. I'm staying strong during NC.

I think comment section helps me more to cope up than the video itself , everythings so positive .

Wow you're killing it Lee. 👍 My anxiety got up miles high lately but your video just came in the right moment. Thank you a lot

Thank you Coach Lee! I binge watch your videos. They help me tremendously!

Your into / outro song is so soothing itself 🔥🔥

I’ve scheduled lots of get togethers with friends. I’m also relocating in a couple months and excited about my new location. These are among the best relationship videos I’ve seen!

I know you're an internet coach but it's so lovely how you really care about all of us heartbroken people out here. Your videos have helped me so much and I'm glad I found them. I hope my ex comes back of course, but *even if he doesn't* I feel like I've learned a lot and I am really grateful for it.

I really need to breathe today - I actually stop breathing when I'm stressed and anxious. Thanks for the reminder.

3 years she dumped me said it isn’t working out and that it’s toxic , texted her saying I was feeling low and felt like suicide was my only option Ik that’s toxic but I was really going to do it she saved me that day but that was the last straw she gone it’s been almost a year my life idk but my anxiety is up by a ton my heart rate reaches 200

The last line of the movie. I just watched Gone with the Wind. I also watched it as a youngster but I have never watched it they way I did recently with new eyes. That line impacted me immensely. So ironic that you mentioned this. I have sorted and sifted through many many coaches on this subject of relationships. You are by far my absolute favorite. I can feel that you genuinely want to help people. I listen to you daily to keep myself in line and moving forward. No matter the outcome I know I will be ok. Thank you so much for what you do.

Most helpful video yet! I’m going to watch this one daily. Thanks Coach Lee!!

Thank you coach I have spent two months listening to your videos . I am now on my way to repairing my marriage. Your advice works. The only down side is I have fallen in love with coach lee. Good job you are in America and I am in England. Good work. 💐💐💐

I can't believe you mentioned Gone With The Wind... 😁... It was The movie of my childhood... God, thank you. You just made me laugh and stop my all day depression mode.

Can't thank this man enough..helped me so much over the past month. I was victim of a rebound relationship and it shattered me.but every day I'm getting better thank you coach lee..the first video I found was the no contact rule and im hooked since..

Hi Coach Lee! Excellent video for me at this time. Very helpful. And yes repetition helps a lot. I really like the laughter idea. I’ve done this and it helps in the moment. Most importantly The best strategy of all that works for me is taking a break from worrying about the situation and trying to figure it ALL OUT, I am learning daily how to focus and structure my day and many times I have to purposefully say NO I’M NOT GOING TO THINK ANOUT THIS AND THAT RIGHT NOW..

Thank you coach, me and my ex aren’t getting back together, after 5 short weeks it’s very clear. But during this time your videos have helped me immensely. Something else to focus on during lockdown, and lightened the darker moments.

@MrPrajwal_The_First

2 жыл бұрын

Did they reach out?

@jayk4500

2 жыл бұрын

@@MrPrajwal_The_First yep she did, by that point I realised I was best away from her, I’d never ever go near her again.

It’s also important to know the stages that you go through when you are broken up with. Time is your biggest friend

I love all the movie references. You're very well-versed, Coach.

Hello King Coach.... I’m watching now. Was on phone got your notification, clicked right away😘

If someone left you and you know you were good to them and didn't cheat/abuse them, they did you a favor they're not team players. Yes the withdrawal is real and you will overcome it, you're strong God's with you! Don't take an ex back they will be good for couple of weeks maybe months but they will leave again, trust me my ex fiancée did it to me 3 TIMES. Together for 6yrs engaged for 2yrs and she left for 3rd time almost 2months ago. I went no contact immediately everytime she left and I prayed for her to come back and she did, but that took years off my life and held me back from healing and moving on. They did it once you can't trust them, they left! Close door behind them and never open it again you don't need someone that leaves you you need someone that stays through everything just like you would!

coach lee, thank you so much. Ive been watching your videos for a week now. Everyday I am dramatically getting better. the literal heaviness in my chest is getting lighter every morning. I don't even know if I still want him back.

I love your comforting guidance Lee. Thank you deeply. You have taught me to remain classy through the most difficult time in my life. There were times I was (still) in primal panic, an am still working on controlling myself....fake it till I make it, right??? You are one heck of a coach and man, I watch your videos and have your kit too, so how can I tell you how much you were a bridge to save my life.

I’m only nine days into nc and I have no idea how long she’ll need but I already anticipate that my marriage is going to be the best it’s been eventually thanks to you. Thanks for all the insight. I’ll check back when she’s had the time she needs and I’ve delivered on my promises to improvements of myself to myself.

You’re amazing Lee! I so needed to hear this right now. Thank you so much x

Thank you so much Coach Lee, I have watched just a few of your videos and I can already feel the change! :D

I feel like I'm being punished

@SAMEntalhealth

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah it feels that way. :-(

The pain is so real. I know I can find someone else but I love her. And it was all my fault. That just multiplies the pain 100x. I stared crying after 40 days. It helps.

@SaltySeaCaptain

2 жыл бұрын

I'm in the same boat my friend, and knowing it was your fault is so much worse. The guilt is crazy but we have to forgive ourselves and try to become the best version of ourselves. Maybe they'll reach out and if not we'll be in a better place regardless.

She’s not coming back man. Thank you for your kind words.

I love you coach lee!! you’ve truly been my angel in both my breakup and anxiety thank you so much from the bottom of my heart

man this is lowering my depression and anxiety as you talk

You’re my encouragement. I love both of those movies. Thanks king Coach.

@jaynefernandez483

4 жыл бұрын

Gama Raze No thank you dear. I am with my ex thanks to the one and ONLY King Coach Lee. Toodles

@manishchhetri7669

4 жыл бұрын

@@jaynefernandez483 can you provide me the WhatsApp number of Coach Lee please

Coach! I've been an avid follower since my fiance broke up our 7 year relationship. It's been around 4 months give or take. I've been patiently waiting for her and she's got a new BF now and all. I was devastated then one day my parents brought something up. My first GF, I decided to add her in facebook and chat her up. For 12 years we had no contact and the way we talked for the first time its like nothing happened, except that we are more mature now and more established in life than before. All Im saying is that to the people here try to realize that possibly it is actually you who is the ex that needs to come back. Who knows something better was there all along. She gave me no contact for 12 years guys. It works!

@13124bomsica

3 жыл бұрын

Your kind of perspective is just so admirable. Every person man or woman should be like this. Be able to forgive, take risks, and accept thatevery situation has its purpose

Coach lee is awesome! I listen to his videos every day. It has helped me soooo much.

Awesome. Sensible yet powerful tips to keep in mind & practice. Thanks for being a cornerstone for recovery 😘

Your voice is smoothing, Thank you✌

Coach lee I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me through my no contact, I got my deep felt apology on monday after two and a half months no contact, thank you so much , god bless you ❤ Good luck to everyone going through no contact x

@diplomatgirl171

4 жыл бұрын

That’s so cool! are you back together?

Your videos are so comforting and helpful to me. You help me relax and see things more clearly. Thank you so much!

Dear Lee many many thanks for your videos they give a lot of comfort and help to deal with break up anxiety and confusion. The insight to how he’s feeling is priceless and I have taken all your advice on no contact immediately after break up. Thank you again and I’m sending to you and your family lots of love and light 🌈🌟🌟🌟🌈 please keep up your great work 🎆💖

The laughing technique I have inadvertently been doing all along..I has been helping immensely.. It's always my go to... It's just a cavalier attitude.."screw it all" if you will...it is truly liberating.

Needed this so bad today. Thanks.

16 years here, she left me on Christmas Eve. Any day now she will be coming to collect the rest of her stuff. I can’t put into words how much I miss her. I’m trying to stay strong but it hurts constantly. I love you Maggie.

Hi coach lee i what to thank you for all of your advice i am only 30 35 days in to no contact but you have helped me so much i am 58 and it was a 13 year relationship and a good 13 years. I thought this was going to take for ever but I am all ready feeling better not -100% but i am getting there. And to you all be strong and listen to this man. Good luck to us all.pat from England.

It's so nice to know I am NOT the only one going through this shitty time in my life 💖 ❤BE STRONG EVERYONE!❤