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@adamtobin8132

16 күн бұрын

Awesome!!!! I love you bro. Your ability to grow is inspirational

@Portia620

11 күн бұрын

Truths! Seeing patterns

@Portia620

11 күн бұрын

Tolerating is the wrong word they had no choice. They were raised with a narcissistic parent or toxicity so it’s become a norm for them and they don’t know anything different unless they figure that out as they get older and start working through it with lots of self work and therapy.!!! it’s not something they tolerate horrible word to use!! even in a relationship it’s not that they want to tolerate it. They become accustomed to it big difference.

@Darkness-ie2yl

7 күн бұрын

they never ever give me back what I want. 😂 it's crazy I keep allowing this at all

What blows my mind is how many of us are going through the same things with these demonic creatures and none of us can meet each other and become close and learn from one another we have to do it via the Internet. 🤯

@daniellemorphew3515

8 күн бұрын

Same here. It sucks. Been alone for 8 yrs. And even end up dealing with vampires at work too. I'm so over it. Me too....

@HMarie72077

8 күн бұрын

@@daniellemorphew3515 Yes, constant spiritual warfare with smear campaigns, triangulation, gaslighting everyday. This may seem extreme but it doesn't matter who I'm in contact with if they're not the narcissist they're flying monkeys . We'll tell you one thing and turn around and do another. And smile.

@sarab.2873

5 күн бұрын

​@@daniellemorphew3515Exactly! And, work can be one of the worst places because we spend so much of of time & life there dealing with toxic employees! I've wanted to quit my job so many times because of the toxic, lazy-ass people they hire! Those same people never last long and quit so, sometimes it can work in your favor 🤷‍♀️

@janineplamondon8893

4 күн бұрын

This!!!!

@DeshaunDamon

2 күн бұрын

Excellent comment.

I always wondered why I had to deal with these individuals my whole life!!!. The sad thing is,,, you're not LOOKING for them. They find you!!!! 😳

@StandStillRushing

10 күн бұрын

Wrong. You are subconsciously looking for them.

@evilbarbie2160

8 күн бұрын

​@@StandStillRushingwrong. I keep in my own lane & they seek me out. These are spiritual trials to hone our skills on identifying them,, and shutting them down effectively.

@StandStillRushing

7 күн бұрын

@@evilbarbie2160 You are in denial. You need to do the healing, and then you will stop subconsciously looking for them. Trust me, no one cares about you or is seeking you out.

@evilbarbie2160

7 күн бұрын

@@StandStillRushing they walk up to me, and introduce themselves even when there's been NO eye contact in a public place that picking ppl up is weird stores etc... it is not me being in denial, im not looking to make friends or enemies with anyone. But thanks for trying to be my therapist or guru! Lol!

@StandStillRushing

7 күн бұрын

@@evilbarbie2160 Because you give yourself away to them. They know you’re an easy target. You do this subconsciously. Just accept it and try to heal.

I only started “attracting” narcs very late in my life. Before that people were wonderful in my life literally everyone. It began when I moved to an unhealthy environment. Sometimes it is NOT you.

@jasonmuise7496

16 күн бұрын

Thank you. I forgot the obvious. Wrong environment been living in. Tree swinger trying to make it with cave dwellers. 😂

@Fliedermutter

16 күн бұрын

Same here...

@TheGizzle85

14 күн бұрын

Likewise. Or I may have been so asleep/ unwise that didn't recognize. Stay strong everyone. Universe is leading us to finish line. Keep pushing.

@iLindseyProvost

5 күн бұрын

YES

@NatzTalk

4 күн бұрын

This!!!💛

Never let your inner child run after seeking validation from others... and on top of that never allow Narcissists to corrupt your PURE EMPATH SOUL ...Hug yourself tight when the world seems to be falling apart,when you feel like you are unworthy.. Embrace the imperfections,roll on❤Life is worth living for !!!😊..Stay Gold!!🙌💜

@LIZZEN3RicE

23 күн бұрын

I like your comment it's very positive.

@The.Narc.Files7

17 күн бұрын

You don't just forgive and forget prolonged emotional rape. If you do you are a robot.

@lookupyourredemptiondrawsn7285

17 күн бұрын

Thank u 💓💯

@AB.56159

15 күн бұрын

Good affirmations Murph!

@njay4361

15 күн бұрын

@All.about.Narcissism7 Holding on to the pain poisons yourself in the long run. Maybe 'forgive and forget' isn't the best approach in cases of extreme emotional abuse, but it is critical to heal from the poison you endured so that your future isn't poisoned by it as well. I've been working on healing such damage for nearly three decades now, and some of those wounds might not ever fully heal and will probably always be vulnerable to getting ripped back open, but overall, I am starting to understand that my story is not who I am. The more I heal, the easier it is to find my tribe, which also makes it easier to heal. The key was reprogramming my inner dialogue and understanding what abandoning myself looks like. I never learned how to love myself as I grew up with extreme emotional abuse and then married into more. I didn't even know where to begin because I honestly didnt know what love looked like. I had to learn what love is by learning how to be my own best friend. In doing that, I discovered that letting go of that story was key to my living a new one. With that said, take as much time as you need to process what happened to you. You have every right to be angry; you didnt deserve what happened to you. Many warm wishes to you that you find the strength and courage to accept the pain you feel and learn how to heal it. I know you have it in you because you are still here after living through hell. Which means you are stronger, braver, and more courageous than most. Cheers to you!

Until you give yourself the love you didn’t get that you still need, you’re going to need external validation from people who can’t give it to you or who give you just enough to keep you around and use you in some way.

I live on my own with my animals because I'm scared to let people into my life. I attract these people. I divorced one and cut the other loose. The ex made me physically sick. I played my part, and I recognised the childhood trauma I was subconsciously suffering from.

@Jason-Moon

13 күн бұрын

I can relate. Living alone with my animals too. As a natural extrovert even. Forced into social seclusion out of self preservation. Society I live in is like a fekkin narcissist incubation chamber. There are networks of narcissists everywhere feeding on confused and hypnotized empaths as lifeforce livestock.

@planetZ999

13 күн бұрын

I feel you❤

@ellenmanlulu3976

12 күн бұрын

Animals are natural healers. ❤ hope your heart heals completely

@monalisa9598

11 күн бұрын

I’m right there with you and animals don’t hurt you like people.

@samanthaq3422

11 күн бұрын

Forgive yourself for not knowing,,you didn't know,, let go and just give it all to God🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤

Yes I was a mess and only focused on the good in people. After a bunch of narcissists, I’m looking at everyone with suspicion. Not going to be fucked over ever again . If I sense anything that reeks of narcissism I walk away. They are everywhere. Yes even at the 7-11 counter.

@derquerlenker1365

4 күн бұрын

For real tho… I felt that

Protect your energy especially if your sensitive to energies narcissism is on the rise and they are biggest gas lighters and, manipulation in their forte I’ve cut on so many people who have narcissistic personality tendencies 🙅🏿‍♂️

@morticiadeville1

17 күн бұрын

​@@eriomnyc6073 we all possess some narcissism some.... not many are 100% free of being selfish to a degree. But yes agree people who weren't obvious narcs are becoming hard core unable to be truthful with even themselves

And Codependency is the energy that keeps the cycle in circulation! Thank God for books called... Codependency No More Boundaries and Safe People!!!

@alltruth881

14 күн бұрын

Do you have any links to these books?

Being an empath, raised by a grandiose narcissist,diagnosed ADHD, I’ve been an absolute MAGNET for narcs all my life. I’m beyond tired of it. I don’t know who I am or what I even have left to give, anymore.

@sabbath7081

17 күн бұрын

The ACA program helps a lot.

@LinYouToo

16 күн бұрын

I hear ya

@TheUnplugged1

16 күн бұрын

@@sabbath7081what’s that

@jasonmuise7496

16 күн бұрын

We become too many things to to many people. And now my identity is all but gone too.

@njay4361

15 күн бұрын

I hear ya. I am diagnosed auDHD and grew up w 2 narc parents. I've been a magnet for them too, but only after I started giving myself the love, time, and energy thas was getting wasted by a revolving door of narcissists in my lofe was I able to change that dynamic. I spot them a mile away now. And run as fast as I can! I have ZERO time, energy, or f*cks given for emotionally unviable people. But I can confirm that it will take a lot of healing, learning how to set healthy boundaries for yourself, and a good support system to get to a healthier place. You can do this! You survived abuse of the worst kind, which means you are a survivor. Time to re-claim your story and make it your own! 💛

What has helped me is becoming aware of who is "requesting" my assistance and in what manner they're doing. It has been so good for me to just stop playing for a bit. Let your battery recharge. Don't pick up the phone, let them deal with it. Stop enabling them and giving them what they want if they aren't paying mutual respect.

I like how Aaron holds everyone responsible for their actions

I'm done with this kind of people. I want to break the curse and attract fulfilling and healthy people 🎉

@KNR6292

23 күн бұрын

I think we are like airport runway landing lights at night to them.....when we look for approval and validation. I believe i dont validate myself and these types love to go after a vulnerable person like that. So the answer i think is to love yourself first and dont look for it from others, dont need it so desperately like i do right now. I'm workin on it

@Jason-Moon

13 күн бұрын

Stay strong and connected with your own heart. I love your comment here! You're going the right way.

@hellohello4016

12 күн бұрын

Yes!

100% truth!! You knew a Narcissist's fake persona, not a real person. It was never a real relationship. You can't ''get something back'' that you never had. Learn the lesson and apply boundaries or take the chance of many more Narcissists in your life.

@reneelyn1111

7 күн бұрын

I believe this is the hardest part, loving someone who never existed and wanting them to come back. What if the person they showed up as was ourselves and is why we fell in love with them. By chasing them we are running from ourselves. I am struggling with knowing I fell in love with someone that no longer exists. We definitely do not exist in the capacity we once did. They stole our persona.

@reneelyn1111

7 күн бұрын

I believe the persona we fell in love with was ourselves. That person no longer exists bc of the abuse. We are actually trying to get back the person we once were before the abuse. They are empty and can only mirror. We gave them the ammo to destroy us. We are trying to get back to ourselves. This is just my perspective. The only way we will heal is by giving ourselves the love we deserve and not expect for people to behave as we do. A normal person cannot understand what life as an empath feels like. A narc counts on us to show up with our over sharing so they know our limits on how much abuse we will take, sadly

This is the truth. You have to learn you patterns to break free from the cycle.

I stopped dating 5 years ago because i attract narcissistic types and I eventually call them out and rebel against them resulting in another failure:(

@angiebush7810

23 күн бұрын

I totally get you on that!!! I'm terrified of another failure. I have been surrounded by narcissists for years. I just quit my job of 12 years 3 weeks ago getting away from my narcissist boss. We will be successful !!! I'm sending you love and light from Texas❤❤

@aspaceproductions

23 күн бұрын

Look at the bright side. At least you didn't become a "slave" to those narcissists. Yeah, it sucks yo have a failed relationship. But it aucks way more to be stuck with a narcissist

@loriolson1143

23 күн бұрын

I do that with men and friends so I barely talk to anyone. Then my sister is a narcissist too

@janethunter5530

17 күн бұрын

Yep yep yep same here...around 4 yrs ago 😢

@nicolehayes6020

17 күн бұрын

Same here ❤❤❤

I was codependent until I put up with narcissists at a job for 10 years. That led me to watching utube videos on narcissism, and I made it through the fog. My narcissistic father has since passed away, and I'm no contact with my older jealous narcissist sister. Whew! What a journey and life's teaching lesson! I only do what I want to do, and I don't put up with anyone's condescending ways any longer. Knowledge is power people!

This video is 100% confirmation of the things I've learned in dealing with these types of people. Yes there's a payoff, and the broken/dysfunctional ways we try to cope with childhood trauma & abuse, does keep us bound to this negative energy, but there is a better way & I'm so glad so many are finding a healthy pathway out of this trap.

Never answer phone calls And texts. Change ur number if u have to.

Four years ago, I thought that a narcissist with somebody who suck with dead bodies and today I know more about them than I would ever have wanted to know! My husband left me homeless after 24 years with three broken bones and now I just realized that my mom is the worst kind of narcissist and yet everything you say dead on!!! i’ve always remembered people for the best parts of them and now you could potentially cost me pretty much everything! thank you so much for your videos. I’m learning so much.!

@isabeltobin5472

17 күн бұрын

I understand you! When l got sick due to narcissistic abuse my ex said he didn’t sign up for that , even bought a wheelchair when l didn’t need it , to mock me only. I filled for divorce and he said he will not stop until he puts me on the streets , and he did . Narcs are devils in disguise and ure lucky to be alive

Hardcore facts. You can never get enough outside validation and approval. It's never enough.

💯The hardest thing I had to learn was to look at my own Self in that past version of me. To take responsibility and action. Both you and Matt called on me at the event in Sedona. (I also met you at the first event in Austin.). Anyway, I was the girl who was sitting in the back and had just been in the ER the weekend before as a result of the narcissistic relationship I was in back then. I don’t know if you remember, but I spoke to the both of you and the audience, and now this audience, about the white light beings I saw in my NDE in the ER. Matt taught me a mantra that helped me change my story which was, “Up until now.” My point is that it’s so hard and so painful to look at your own role, on top of all the other pain going on from the alleged “relationship”, and then take responsibility for it and THEN take action. Whew. Sometimes it seems easier said than done. BUT because I was in so much pain and almost died, I was able to accept what you and Matt were teaching me. Now I have a New Story and I am a New Person. You guys help me change my Life so much. So many wonderful things happened at that retreat. On my time away from the event, I miraculously also started a new career as a singer songwriter. It happened as if almost of of the blue. Thank you and your team for all you do. 🙏❤️🦋🎶

@sistersister8830

22 күн бұрын

Thank you for this comment, it is very interesting an enlightening.

@keepcreationprocess

22 күн бұрын

It is America

@ReginaPhoenix

21 күн бұрын

Evil is not limited to any earthly 3D region and that’s ok because neither is the Light of the Divine.

@veryrandomvalerie

19 күн бұрын

Wow! What growth!

@samanthamariah7625

18 күн бұрын

Can you explain “up until now” a bit more. Thanks 😊

Nordstrom was full of narcs and empaths lol Spent 15 years with that company and met some of the best and some of the worst people of my life.

@TJ-id6ee

18 күн бұрын

I can only imagine!

@dylanpringle4314

17 күн бұрын

I’ve been working under the table. Most of my life for other people was born in the house was manipulated not computer trained. I mean in my own first language on my mother side. This is quite insightful thank you.

My mother died when I was young. My step mom is a narcissist. She removed all pictures of our natural mother from our house and wouldn’t let us talk about our natural mom. I definitely became an empath as a result of this. Watching your videos on feeling other peoples’ energy, learning to create boundaries and frame, everything resonates very strongly with me. Thank you for making these videos. I’m going to try your techniques. I hope they’ll help.

@sarab.2873

5 күн бұрын

I'm sorry for your loss. That must've hurt & been so hard and dealing with your step mom.

yup this definitely happens to me! I dont always see it at first....Even today, i was saying no and setting a boundary and the person came back and pushed harder and tried to make me feel guilty for saying no.

@demetricchapman460

20 күн бұрын

Same And I avoid them completely now

@BlueJeansandJellyBeans

17 күн бұрын

Dealing with this now.

I don’t think it’s that we gain anything, I think it’s that we are trying to avoid negative consequences.

I am living within the pattern and not aware of the pattern. As a young adult, I gave up on being loved for me and not how I made my parents look. I realized that my mother desperately needed me to consistently make her look like a good mother to everyone on the outside. Even she knew she wasn't because she really had no interest in being one. My three sisters were never required to play this role. So, I learned how to adapt and and expect nothing in return from those I allowed into my life. I exceeded at a job that no one thought I could do and remained agreeable to receiving attention based on how I made others look. Problem is that, that will not last forever and when your finally drained and they are sufficiently full, they will discard you in the most horrific way you will never think possible. That's when you become aware of the pattern you were too busy living in and for me it's too late to regain even a portion of what has been taken out of me.

@AB.56159

14 күн бұрын

Patterns can be bad, changing them often starts by changing our mind and story we tell ourselves as we're often our own worst critic. I've been seeing much good content lately about understanding attachment styles, which I know and understood little about until recently. Quite interesting stuff, remind yourself of your good qualities and attributes, if others degrade, or you're self degrading.

@TheGizzle85

14 күн бұрын

Would try to help . But learning to just listen. It's like we know the answers, but stuck choosing same choices. Sound familiar? Much love. You're perfect. Our creator doesn't make mistakes n

This was awesome! Thank you. The way you stated why we are attracting narcissists completely hit me in the head today. It didn't make sense to me the way it did today. I'm looking for the love and affection that I never received from my parents. I seek it out externally from other people by being a people pleaser and wanting everyone to like me. I please others so I can be loved and accepted by them. These people are usually narcs who only want to use me. I don't need to be loved and accepted by anyone other than myself and God. Starting tomorrow at work I'm going to make myself and everyone else uncomfortable by calling my coworkers out on their shit!

This was really profound for me. Especially the latter comments when you said being nice is transactional... being accepted is feeling safe. You really hit the nail on the head. I've never heard it like that before. I remember my mum telling me as a child, 'you know it's OK to say no to people?' The thought was alien to me, I was so scared of not being accepted. I'm learning how to keep the manipulators at arms length... however I'm not reflecting on my own actions that attract them in the first place. ETA, your comments on being terrified once you had freedom... you see this with animals that have been confined and only know confinement. You open the door to set them free and they want to stay in the place they know. It takes time, but eventually they set themselves free.

So true! I was on a field trip today with my son and his preschool. The 4 boys in our group wanted so much validation on little things. And I gave it to them. And now I give it to my own inner child as well instead of chasing toxic people. Huge life changing shift happening in me as I heal and feel my feelings and exit a toxic marriage

After 2 narcissist marriages, 2 narist sisters, and a couple of narcissist friends, I put up boundaries, and walked, deleted, and never looked back. Im done of demonic naristist! I healed myself , and first sign of it, zip your gone! I only need validation from myself! 😊 Its spirtual warfare, and Satan is using his minions to break you. Keep up the good fight, soldier's of God. 😊

Very timely video, I found this dynamic follows us everywhere not only in intimate relationships but also in workplaces. I got tired of this old pattern, even sick of it. I will break this toxic circle. I want to do things because I LOVE doing them, being around people because I LOVE them, instead of seeking someone’s validation.

@AndrewTannerOfficial

22 күн бұрын

Also social media(FB, IG, SC, TikToxic)…anytime we post anything on social media, we are subconsciously seeking approval, validation, and attention from people. It’s a BIG sign of insecurity. Looking for approval or validation from complete strangers and/or acquaintances online is extremely toxic and egotistical. Selfies are a giant signal of a narcissistic person(in love with their own self/appearance)

@grazynakarwowska7876

16 күн бұрын

❤Doing things you love gives you so much power❤

@andrewbeckman7687

12 күн бұрын

Did you know that psychiatry is the only medical field that doesn’t look at the organ it treats? This means people go undiagnosed or misdiagnosed for years while their symptoms worsen. Because doctors don’t look at the brain, it means they have to rely on guesswork to diagnose and treat patients with symptoms of narcissist ADD/ADHD. It doesn’t have to be this way. The SPECT brain scans measure blood flow and activity in the brain and can take the guesswork out of psychiatry.

Sometimes you don’t know someone is a a narcissist until you’re married or in some Form of relationship which you can’t easily walk Away from.

I have these patterns since childhood. I was raised in a loving family. Recently I discovered two past lives ago, my father was an abusive alcoholic after my mom died. I’ve repeated these patterns in my next 2 lives (current). I’ve realized I can’t just run away. I’m actually beginning to “learn my lessons”, and bloom! I’m discovering who I am! Many people say run away, but learn to overcome your environment. (Obviously if it’s not safe, leave)

The best thing i did after the last narcissist that i entertained was heal my empath. Now 31/2 yrs later im at complete peace, i smile all the time, i cry with no control, i use logic more than my emotions, my discernment is golden,, Im free from my own self I keep, God 1st coz He's the one who taught me what needed to be healed.. 😊

You are so right! I was raised by a malignant narcissistic mother and abused by my narcissistic brother, and being the family scapegoat, I subconsciously tried to meet/attract mother replacements. My kindness is always mistaken for weakness. I spent years in therapy, I recognize the patterns, I work on my self esteem, but am alone, so I seem to make an easy target. It's hard to heal when the wounds are constantly being ripped open, so I completely disconnected from my toxic family to save my mental health. Now, I'm stronger than ever, but still attract narcissistic personalities. I think it's because I posses qualities they look for.

@margaretwebb389

14 күн бұрын

Totally identify! Loving myself has been the biggest obstacle. Never feeling good enough and accepting blame for others. Breaking free is an ongoing struggle, but will continue to do so

@dagmaranja888

7 күн бұрын

Same! And whatever I do, I still don't belong. I'm so fed up with this world!

@sll110

6 сағат бұрын

need healing, It's life long job😢😢​@@dagmaranja888

Bruh, every time my ex gets back with me your channel always shows up. This time I am ready! Thanks you

Child abuse is a very difficult thing to deal with and overcome. And it's even harder getting over the anger and resentment towards the person or people who put you in that situation. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and understanding of these difficult dynamics.

Love all of Aaron's information. Also, I think we're experiencing more of them because the times coincide with 2 Tim 3:1-5. Peace, love, healing and growth to all.

Yow, I thank you brother, God bless you, no one would never understand unless you go through with evil narcissist, worst thing..

Ive been hanging in the shadows watching your stuff over the years. I would like to say that i really like how you've grown and expanded your message and your own consciousness. Your information is so needed these days. Keep on keeping, eh

Needed to hear this right now. Almost 50 years old and finally seeing my pattern. I search for validation from unhealthy sources to fill a need for love/security that was never met in childhood. Learning to love myself and breaking free of childhood need for validation is happening now. Universe sends tests with narcissistic past boyfriends reappearing. Time to break the cycle!

OMG! Nail on the head with trying to figure out how to get an erratic to love you through people pleasing. Very insightful. It's conditioning, a science lab, trying to figure out what works and doesn't.

@Silent-Moon

23 күн бұрын

I think all relationships are transactional though. It's the nature of inport/export really. It's the nature of economy.

@Silent-Moon

23 күн бұрын

I can send you a bunch of research articles about mothering. I researched the topic in school.

Brother, you may have saved me and my partners futures. There's alot of videos on YT, full of click bait, NLP, and psychological flooding of hypnotic word salads. But this- this is practical. This is real-life application. I thank you for your vulnerability in sharing your insight. Always Ascend.

I’ve done lots of healing work over many years, and consider myself as a thoughtful, pretty balanced loving human being, but yet still have been attracting narcissists. I couldn’t figure it out. And I’ve done inner child work as well, but your insights went even deeper. I see this low key manipulation for needing approval from others in me. I realize my dear mom is the Queen Narcissist in my life- the root of it all. Just really standing up to her now, in a grown up way, but the other side is-now I must really love myself deeply or this pit of wanting validation will never be filled externally. Mind blown. I still have a lot of work to do .😔Thank you🙏

@sll110

6 сағат бұрын

me too

I attract users. My experiences in the past have me being a loner in life now. I don't trust and feel content alone. I expect it is my demeanor. Quiet. Too nice. They mistake me for a sucker which I am not. Being alone you can nurture yourself and build yourself up.

@dagmaranja888

7 күн бұрын

Yes, it just doesn't work with other people.

Excellent. Common language for all. Developing tougher boundaries for Empath is working for me. Not attracting Narcs and if I encounter a Narc they don't like me. Yeah All true what you said

Hi Arron, I think I attract them because I am an Empath. I have watched you grow since you first started to post videos on YT Well Done young Man !!! Your videos have helped me many times so Thank you, I turned 67 this year.

It’s NOT your task 💛🕊️🙌🏻 And that’s a fact. Save that type of loyalty energy for CLOSE family, close friends and a serious relationship partner. If you FEEL that you ‘would like to’ help someone close to your heart and soul then you can do only if you want to, only if it feels right. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do. Don’t do anything that doesn’t feel right. Follow your intuition. Your higher self has all the answers. You ALWAYS have a choice in life. And I’m just reflecting back to you your own power sweetheart. Remember it’s not your task and you don’t have to do anything that doesn’t feel right and you can absolutely vocalise what doesn’t feel right and anyone who truly loves and cares for you unconditionally has to respect that May this message add value to your life and uplift your day. You give so much of your self to others that you deserve something back. True giving is… you don’t give to get, true giving is giving because it’s who we are. I empathise with what you’ve gone through what you’ve been through as I know what it feels like. Wishing you brighter days ahead 💛🫶🏻🕊️😇🙌🏻

@MsRajmi

23 күн бұрын

Thank you ❤ this text inspires me and is a confirmation, that I'm doing the right thing ❤

I attrack 'copycats' and energy vampires and narcissists. 😢

@sll110

6 сағат бұрын

need heal

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@andrewbeckman7687

3 күн бұрын

But then how many of them will go to a therapist or they'll say it just so that you'll think about it all the time and say you said you would go I said if I go will you go and I went and they said you're being abused by a narcissist when I explained the tactics and how I felt I didn't say narcissist but they did so I told her well they said I have abused syndrome from you there's only two people here in my reality and the other ones you

I'd like to add to your wonderful (!) explanation that no matter what they do or used to do to you, never stoop to their low level. Especially, don't be unkind towards people cause you've been hurt in the past by someone else.

You came at the RIGHT time! Thank you, just got a fight with my mom that is a narcissist.

My Mother is a Narcissist so I just couldnt see it as an Adult.......I have learnt to take things VERY SLOW NOW and Get to know the Person, if their Words do not match their actions then I remove myself pretty quickly

Getting to this point. It's so important to be aware of what is going on around you. I work in a small team and sadly the 2 main ringleaders are misogynistic. It took me too long to figure that out. I always stood up for myself but it made me a bigger target. I made a good friend and sought support from various people but ultimately only I can deal with it. I looked at the emotions they evoke in me and realise they want to diminish me and that I'm insecure about my insecurities! That made me think about what makes me so powerful to warrant so much energy from them? Because I'm not responding to them, I feel that I'm becoming more powerful. I don't really know what to do with that energy! I've been feeling brave and making sure I stand with open body language. Smiling and acting as though I'm not affected. It's been 9weeks since it started and their behaviour has deteriorated. But because I'm doing the opposite of what they want me to do, I see that it's not me who has an issue. People will see the truth for themselves. Become less like a sponge and more like a mirror!

@softsophisticate

6 күн бұрын

Have you heard of "grey rocking", where you are like a solid rock in front of them, not getting involved, nor responding to their taunts, only answering questions if you need to, with the briefest of answers. It sounds like that is what you are doing but you are not aware and using that fully. Yes, it does make you feel more powerful, as you are keeping that energy to yourself and not giving it away to them in ways such as arguing with them, or over explaining, or ruminating. Look up grey rocking. You will soon find they will move onto someone else when they don't get what they want from you, which is a response that leads to an energy burst that you find in drama. You do have something that they want. Are you religious, even just a little bit? Do you feel a strong connection to God? Does it make you feel safe, strong, happy? They can sense it. Never admit to them. Keep it to yourself. It is yours and God's secret. Funnily enough, all the people who I have ever had a problem with are people of other faith backgrounds who do not practise their faith. It is just something they grew up with and identify with but don't practise it. If they did, I'm 100% sure they they wouldn't be such mean SOABs. I have just seen someone's comment with 2 Tim 3:1-5. I have just looked it up, you may like to read it too. It made a lot of sense to me in what I have experienced over the years, especially the part - they can sense the good in you.

Unless you work in service and sales. It imperative to please people. I think it’s why folks like this are so good at it. This was done well and so helpful and informative. You have a great approach speaking on these things. Thank you.

I've been meditating every day for several months, on my own, with some help from videos like this, but until I experienced certain things and got these downloads from, what I believe is my higher self, I didn't understand how true some of this is. I now understand that I have been subconsciously attracting men in my life that are a reflection of my step dad, father and my younger brother. It's crazy when everything becomes so clear, the patterns are so obvious, but until you sit quietly with yourself and learn to raise your consciousness and vibration, you won't see it.

This is SO HUGE!! I’m 47 and while better now- both my parents were avoidant attachment style. I fought for their validation which was hard won and still attract people that that today. Wow! Such a revelation!

I'm your dad... I was the good girl the peacemaker in the family which turned me into ppl pleaser... Suffered a lot and attracted vampires and latest biggest narc of my life in the shape of my ex husband 😩 I'm finally getting divorce, moved away and standing up against the abuse. It's hard but it's so liberating and it gets easier!

Clever man, pays attention to details. Even if those details were from childhood.

Thankyou. You articulated exactly what I have figured out for myself over the last couple of years of therapy... Taking responsibility and admitting that I have been inauthentic in order to manipulate others to keep me safe has been hard to admit but it's so important to own it to be able to change. Thanks for the kind energy with which you impart your wisdom. 🙏✨

All I can say is oh my GOD, you are on fire with this one. 🔥 Thank you for articulating this in such a clear and profoundly powerful way.

Im deep into these patterns. Thanks for explaining it to me...need constant reminding. Hope it eventually penetrates

Thank you so much for this video. I have felt a bit stuck recently, more so since apologising to my brother and taking my responsibility in the family fallout. Big mistake as all i got was abuse back, start of a cycle again. Anyway, watching this video made me realise I had started to neglect my healing side of things since stepping away from a narcissistic family. I got up from the settee and had an urge or calling to go meditate as I felt something was building up. During my session I was connecting with my inner child and some traumatic times where i was kicked out or guilt shamed and blamed, then after awhile I said to my inner child 'i will give you unconditional love' and i ended up breaking down as if it felt like a huge breakthrough. I am truly grateful for you helping me make this breakthrough. Thank you so much 🙏❤️

I needed this today 🤦‍♀️

@ollieewin4757

23 күн бұрын

They have something you want. A strong frame, the ability to get there needs and get what they feel they deserve. I did go for what I deserved for years fully cause I was that afraid of causing tension with people that they didn’t even feel real lol, what value do I have if there’s nobody to offer value too? Anger is a good way to create that sense self, as well as real self love too By the way, I have comedy skits on my channel about all the spiritual stuff I did to avoid rejection that you might like too 💪😈🔥🏋️‍♀️💥

This is a masterpiece of lesson, mixes self experience, with npd psychology terms in a way anyone can engage and understand. Thanks for taking your time doing this.

exactly! thank you for going deep on important subjects.

Thanks! Struck an epiphany for me! Amazing how just a few words can redirect a perspective and stir some lived experiences while trying to discern what I need to focus on at this time that is not serving me.

I am so proud of you. I've watched you of and on for years and you've really grown to be a powerful voice and you've settled into yourself very nicely. You aren't unsure of yourself any more. You are authentic and sure of yourself and I'm so proud that you've reached this point in your life. This talk today resonated with me and helped me to understand my childhood in a way I've never before. When the student is ready the teacher will appear. God bless you.

We attract control freak ,but also the same time we fight against it. So when comes to fight no chance to built love ironically

Godbless You Aaron listening to this video is exactly what my life has been ! I’m 60 soon and this just explained why my choices were made 🙏❤️

Great analogies and the pay off observation is BANG on....We just have to kearn to seek validation from just one source...our own self... And to allow for that, learning our own sources of well being, reparenting our inner child...IS really the way to go.. Reparenting is possible and makes me feel so grounded ❤

Thank you for sharing. Good boundaries are important.

Great video Aaron- I’m surrounded by demanding people

PS Love how awakened and real this community is ❤

Ok, THAT makes sense!! That empathy are pretty much doing the same thing as narcissists, same vibration, and that’s WHY we attract one another!Ur wisdom is greatly appreciated 💚 Thank you

Watching this again and I'm sorry about the thing you've been going through bro, man that's heartbreaking.

Aaron, firts of all thanks to have the confidence to share your private life with us, secondly I appreciate a lot your advices in this video, I'm going through a manipulative, controlling and narcissistic relationship with my daughter, I'm a survivor as a victim of psychological and sexual child abuse, finally at 61 I'm giving myself the opportunity to be myself and be in the path of healing, in simple words you have helped me a lot right now. Blessings to you, you are a blessing to us.

Oh my God. ❤ Thank you for sharing. I’m glad you are great now! I’m going to be more mindful of people around me.

Love this whole video Aaron! You gave such a succinct overview of the lessons I've been learning and deep diving into for the last eight years. Biggest take away (from my research) and what you have stated here...choose to see yourself as all of the love and validation you need. TY ❤

Thank you A-A-ron . you are one that helped me during my darkest year. ❤

This is powerful stuff. Thank you for sharing.

What a great video @AaronDoughty44 👏👏🙏🙏 So many important insights and healing aspects of both sides of the narcissistic spectrum. Thank you 🙏

Wow all this is very helpful after watching HG Tudor on narcissistic abuse your a great balance

Thank you so much Aaron. You brought me to tears..........but you explain it so clear🙏

This is one of your best videos yet imo Aaron. ❤

Wow. This is sooooo POWERFUL. Thank you

Great job Aaron, you've learned so much in life and thank you for sharing!

Great video Aaron...right on time❤

This content is really good. Thanks for sharing it ❤

This video is going deep inside my memories. You gained a new subscriber! You are speaking FACTS!!!

Thank you so much ❤❤. I'm learning detachment at this moment and this really helped me

Being empath caused so many problems in my life. I've let toxic people in my life who are now a detriment to my life, because I was too empath. They are manipulative and get in my head only to drain me. not GOOD

Aaron you have helped so many .. God Bless you

thank you for combining all your previous talking points here.... i understand that people pleasing is the way i behaved as a child and that having my own frame is supporting to me to no longer go for the people i can play out my childhood dynamics with... God. I kinda get it before, but not as clear as today.

This is eye opening ❤

Yup! This is true! Excellent content!!!!

Thank you so much for doing this to open our eyes and hearts ❤❤❤

It gives me a lot of power. Many thanks, Aaron.