This truly works like clockwork.. *when you stop caring about how they feel about you and invest in your INNER happiness, it creates such a magnetic effect* .. And you're happier that way too! 😂

@BitchyQueen69

2 жыл бұрын

I agree,I understand,but as an Empath,who "feels" everyones' energies,oftentimes,it's very difficult for me to detach,let go,whichever one we're talking about,and if LOVE with another person is involved,it blows all other reason out the window,to "let go"! I'm still a "work in progress".😉👍💜

@jimmiej8

2 жыл бұрын

@@BitchyQueen69 good luck on your journey!

@ambervelasquez904

2 жыл бұрын

Yup F-em! Lol 😂

@vixenvalenzuela

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!!!!

@chrisintrovertmeditationvi9963

2 жыл бұрын

I totally can agree with this. You become a magnet.

When I let go, I started changing my life. The relationship buried me under so much stress and negativity. My personality is back, my confidence, my roadtrips, camping, backpacking, traveling is back! I look healthy. Letting go is the key.

@starolitoquit8522

Жыл бұрын

Happy for you

@boot2themoon

Жыл бұрын

I want to move on to hang out with you! Haha

@TheDawnalindley

Жыл бұрын

Omg me too im hiking n I go all day n realize I havnt thought of them.

@deliverus6856

Жыл бұрын

I’m putting this here so more people see it. I actually tried to say “I think it’s best if we stay friends” with my partner and they broke down. It made me feel bad so I cried to and said never mind let me think about it. We live together and I needed a little bit to get enough money to leave. A couple weeks go by and they break down and beg me to stay. I don’t wanna make them depressed so I stayed. It’s been about a year and and six months since we were together and I didn’t have much contact during the pandemic when we first met so I was desperate myself. they shared a really horrific event that happened to them as a kid and looking back I think I’m in this relationship out of pity and desperation for some sense of connection. She’s really clingy and says she needs me to be happy a lot and I honestly get uncomfortable with how codependent and coddled I’ve become. I want to leave but without her being obsessed and jealous.

@kolinsc2374

Жыл бұрын

Happy for you, i hope one day i could find my self too update: its been 2 weeks and i feel so much different. I have no more sleepless night, im happy and im slowly getting back my old self

Letting go is easier said than done. You still miss them, you still long for their presence. So much but there is peace knowing that you did the hardest part already and that’s letting go! 🙏🏽

@91toinfinity

10 ай бұрын

Agreed. You can let go and still miss them. We are such complex beings.

@memidiane38

10 ай бұрын

Everything is easier said than done. But everything worth it, is always earned through work done.

@FlamingCockatiel

10 ай бұрын

@@91toinfinity I agree with you, but I still don't know how to do it.

@theah5093

9 ай бұрын

I'm really trying but it hurt so bad...😢😢

@shellbell8062

9 ай бұрын

It's a process. Sometimes we need to bump our heads many times, go round the same merry-go-round that yields zero results apart from emptiness and devastation, and be disappointed and hurt for the 100th time before the penny drops. The realisation that that person is never going to make you happy, will never live up to your fantasy, and that basing your joy and worth in someone else is futile. Damn why do we take so long to learn it? I am truly letting go after 6 years of persevering and I feel so strong and free. It certainly took time, repetition, learning and now finally, GROWTH.

The point here really is it doesn't matter whether they miss you or not. What matters most is to take accountability for your needs and to respond accordingly in alignment with your values.

@zherin2063

6 ай бұрын

Thing is some of us do respond with our values: "I WILL NOT BE FUCKED OVER." You don't get to use me and drop me and leave me with the legwork of "letting go." That's some bullshit. Fuck around, find out.

@user-ek7yc9fh7y

3 ай бұрын

Amen!

@pamelakelly5869

2 ай бұрын

Rre❤4

Getting rejected for being you is just as useful as being accepted for being you because it gives you a clear guide for where you put your time.

@emiliesamantha470

11 ай бұрын

Well said

@Raftiano

7 ай бұрын

This 🙏🏽

@MelisJoy

6 ай бұрын

🙏🙏🙏

@makpalsariyeva7090

2 ай бұрын

So true

@UnitedSoulsFellowship

14 күн бұрын

Thank you I needed your response! 🎉

be you and let them miss you, they may not be the right person as the universe has a plan for you for sure!!!

@Masculine_Virtue

2 жыл бұрын

Yessir 🙌🏽

@sonamsherpa9576

2 жыл бұрын

you'll end up being alone. That'll be worse.

@matthewisthebest8152

2 жыл бұрын

@@sonamsherpa9576 that’s your limiting belief lol

@JJ-iq8mi

2 жыл бұрын

The universe has a plan for every human on the planet or just the privileged ones in the developed world? We are just animals. That's all.

@anneagena8236

2 жыл бұрын

@@sonamsherpa9576 bad mindset

I don’t want it to be magnetic, I want to heal and get over it and move on

LETTING them miss you > MAKING them miss…big difference in energy ✊🏾

@stephaniebaldwin39

3 ай бұрын

❤👌

@jenniferburton7044

3 ай бұрын

TRUTH

To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️. Just allow grace to let it in.

@lisaosborne8635

2 жыл бұрын

Thankyou ❤️

@SoulKisses76

2 жыл бұрын

💕 More than a conqueror. 💕

@hannigraham5831

2 жыл бұрын

So sweet. Hope all your loved ones loves you dearly and wish you happiness.☺️✨🥰

@tl82spenc

2 жыл бұрын

Perfect compliments thank you! To you and yours also

@tonyroach6137

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you❤️

It’s a win-win. Let go and work on yourself and it will either a) make her come back or b) if she doesn’t you won’t care after a few months of working on yourself.

@kaylat7063

Жыл бұрын

Said it perfectly

@tonpe92

Жыл бұрын

Few months? Im still at the same point after 5 years.

@johnsmitherino4913

Жыл бұрын

​@tonpe92 then change it - build yourself up

@shawnadeyo

Жыл бұрын

Kill 2 birds with one stone

@JM-lo4hn

Жыл бұрын

​@@shawnadeyowdm

Usually my go to mindset is this panicked, 'how can i get them back?!'. My partner just broke up with me and this is probably the first time my mindset is like 'let them go, give them space'. I think this is because this is the first person I've met that I've truly loved and could see a future with. We both have/had our struggles and as much as I was trying to be supportive I think I ended up being too much. I overwhelmed him, applied too much pressure, was too critical and wrapped up in my own feelings. I couldn't take a step back and truly comprehend his. I genuinely don't know if his love for me was real at this point but as this message reads, it doesn't matter. This is an opportunity for me to regain my power and if he's meant to come back then he will.

@fishy13100

Жыл бұрын

Did he come back?

@JP-sg1xb

Жыл бұрын

Going through the same exact thing. Wishing you the best along your journey.

@LovelyBollocks

Жыл бұрын

I did this this week. I finally let him go, he came back, then I sabotaged it in 2 months. Back to no contact

@JM-lo4hn

Жыл бұрын

​@@LovelyBollocks y so much trouble in love

@elsizzle2000

Жыл бұрын

@@LovelyBollocks you sure you are the one who sabotaged it? How can you be sure it's not him is the problem and he been gaslight you the whole time?

Aaron is right. There is no point in obsessing over anyone in 2023. Focus on yourself and forget about romance. You can't force it. This society is too screwed up

@AlisonChristian-bq4ws

4 ай бұрын

Same energy in 2024

@gogurtz1738

2 ай бұрын

Yes m’am I literally said something to her and it was over in a snap of a finger. Tried to talk it out with her but she won’t communicate. And that was it

@tronalddump2444

Ай бұрын

Not in 2023 and 2024. Generally!

*Many people will panic to find a charger before their phone dies, but won’t panic to find a plan before their dream dies*

@JH-mo2lj

2 жыл бұрын

Love that!

@QuilaGee

2 жыл бұрын

Deep

@SharonKenny

2 жыл бұрын

Create your own dreams. Step away from fear by being vunerable and being the authentic you.

@B-MC

2 жыл бұрын

If only we knew how much battery we have left, urgency creates action.

@debramcmartin905

2 жыл бұрын

Great analogy. I will.remeber this one.

When someone leaves, let GO, Let GOD. Have faith that God subtracts to make room for something better. Level UP, don’t beg and move forward with grace. 💪 🙏🏽 ♥️

@markcyril3511

2 жыл бұрын

This heal my broken heart 💔

@esthero1994

2 жыл бұрын

Thank u for the reminder 💞

@Jc-si6pj

2 жыл бұрын

@@ja_inkwizytor the God that helps🙏

@Jc-si6pj

2 жыл бұрын

@@ja_inkwizytor I don’t know and neither of us will just know there is we are here for a reason there is a creator

@Jc-si6pj

2 жыл бұрын

@@ja_inkwizytor well we are here that’s the amazing part there is a creator it’s mystery that’s amazing

True love is rare. When it happens and it truly is destiny nothing can turn me away. I would not care if my partner were too nervous or what have you. I would adore everything they do. When it’s meant to be no strategies should be needed.

@dodziraynard

3 ай бұрын

I need this ❤

@july7578

8 күн бұрын

You are right ❤

I hope everyone here learns to love themselves and be secure in that. Let go of attachment and let things that are meant for you be there. Let things that aren’t go.

So true. Whatever you’re trying to keep together, relationships, property, position, power, money is already falling apart. It’s all resistance. So let go and be free. Thanks, Aaron. Great talk.

@reemessa887

2 жыл бұрын

This is very true.

@---zj5jf

Жыл бұрын

Love this.

@suzanneatwood8855

4 күн бұрын

Malcolm You always have such insightful comments. I recognize you from aep, so fun to see you here. 👋👊

@malcolmnicoll1165

4 күн бұрын

@@suzanneatwood8855 😊👍

I finally broke down and came to a place where I wrote down everything I was grateful for and the list was abundant. I asked the universe for forgiveness because how could I be so selfish. I let go of ONE person that was treating me like a doormat and consuming me. It allowed me to receive all the people I naturally attracted. The love is real and I am so grateful. How could I be so blind?

@invalidgirl

2 жыл бұрын

This comment made me feel really neglectful and sad for how I have took my life for granted also . Thank you for the enlightment. I gotta stop feeling sorry for myself

@rarasirius3795

2 жыл бұрын

I too had to recently let go of a relationship where I was being treated like a dormat. I was so attached to this person and still am. But I realize day by day that I was completely blind, and I'm working hard to let him go. When we are attached, we become blind. The realization is beautiful

@fire12731

2 жыл бұрын

I understand you . Getting there myself

@savewaterdrinkwine3802

2 жыл бұрын

@@rarasirius3795 How did you achieve this. I want to let go but hurts like he'll, I am alone in this. He is suffering, beaten and raped as a kid and was never discussed. He is dealing with his own issues, so I have to stand back and allow him to. But it's so difficult.

@oliverschulte427

2 жыл бұрын

Practice meditation and if your thoughts become crazy as hell, listen to white noise or detachment music and breath deeply.. walking in nature helps too. Before you have to cut completely off, every message or call you receive, effects your thoughts again and again.. after a period of time you’ll get distance.

After seeing someone for 2 months and then rejecting you for their own reasons, your video was very refreshing to hear today. I really needed this and I was able to figure out that I am fully emotionally available and that's why it hurts more for me when I am rejected. My heart and intentions are pure.

@july7578

8 күн бұрын

❤ sending love your way

Ahhhh!!!! The sense of freedom you get when you let someone go and you wish them well it’s absolutely priceless.

"Only good things happen when you let go." Yesssss 💗

@dianahnakiggwe5879

11 ай бұрын

Are you sure because am really afraid to let go

@Jewelsessences

11 ай бұрын

Why do you make loving someone like a bad thing

@just2comment2

10 ай бұрын

@@Jewelsessences it's not but needy attachment and co-dependency are not good for anyone. Even couples need their own interests away from each other or it will eventually become strained.

This is so true. As soon as you let them go and move on they come back. The hard part is actually letting go. You can’t force when that will happen. 😢

You can't MAKE anybody miss you. You can only decide that someone who doesn't value you doesn't deserve for you to value them.

Sometimes you walk away because they took you for granted or do not love you as you do.

I let go of a 5 yr relationship, was so broken and sad, but at the same time knew it was the best thing for me. The relationship robbed me of peace, it made me feel like I was losing my mind and that there was something wrong with me. I am working through it and trusting that GOD has a plan meanwhile I now have the time to focus on myself.

@tiffanymiglia

2 жыл бұрын

7 months in after ending a 5 year relationship. Life is beautiful sis

@beepsarieaniIwee

2 жыл бұрын

Same until they got into another relationship and happy 😢

@tcbroussard9562

Жыл бұрын

It’s only an illusion. Remember how they were with you. Everything seems like glitter and gold in the beginning but if they’re a bad person they can’t hide it for too long.

@fuliviacannady7703

Жыл бұрын

How are you now?

“You don’t need their approval and validation”. 🙏

After everything he’s put me through I wouldn’t want him back ever.

@nederlander111

4 ай бұрын

i have 3 kids of 1 month , 1 year and 3 years old with my wife. my wife and i live currently separeted she lives at her parents home with the kids. we are in the middle of a divorce(since 1 month we are separated). and i do mis her. i want her back and i want to fight for it. i already made a list of my mistakes I made and i want to change it and show her that it is possible to change as a man. I will fight for her untill its 100% certain she will not come back. But i do think it will workout between us , but it needs some time , i need to give her her space. We got 3 small kids together and if she sees that im willing to change , it will be ok after some time.

@lmfaook.7971

3 ай бұрын

It's sad I'm in a similar situation with Mt child's mother. We've both been through hell together. And we have a 6 year old. I wanted my little family back, sadly even tho she told me she loves me, qnd regrets leaving. She doesn't want me back. It's kinda sad honestly. Cause all I really wanted was to have, and take care of my little family. Maybe one day

@nederlander111

3 ай бұрын

@@lmfaook.7971 if you had more kids with her the chances that she come back is much higher. and if she has another man in her live its over. in my situation there is no other man. we had some fights lately and i also fought with her father. i will leave it to the time. i give her all the space she wants no problem. i know my own mistakes i made a list and im ready to make a change. for the sake of my family.

The degree to which you let go is the degree to which you can receive your blessings🙏🏿 trust gods timing

@gremlin9739

Жыл бұрын

Amen

If you’re “letting go” hoping it will work, that they will miss you and come back, you’re not really letting go.

So much changes in a week. Last weekend i was sad staring at my phone hoping he would text me. He wouldnt. I had to double text him. This week he was the last to text me & I decided I was done. Accepted the fact that he would more than likely not reach out. Ive felt an energy shift in myself and realize I simply dont care wtf he does or who he does it with. I just want away from him & was prepared to do the leg work to ensure myself a free 2023. But it doesnt even feel like work! It feels great. Oh and he is already texting me. Its only been 2 days. I haven’t even read his messages yet.

@almightybeanchild

26 күн бұрын

I hope you didn't cave in

@geminienergy

25 күн бұрын

@@almightybeanchild i dont even remember who this is about so its safe to say I didnt! 😂

"You might just be afraid to let go, because you're afraid that you're not gonna find meaning... in something else." That hit hard... thank you for this video Aaron. I had a thing with this girl, and the thing that made it so hard to let go from is that she was sending me mixed signals, and wanted attention, but not a relationship, and that kept me hanging on to this future fantasy of a relationship finally happening... now i wanna let the universe work things out for me, and stop creating strong fantasies in my mind...

@android18supersayin26

7 ай бұрын

😮

@CyberIce2000

7 ай бұрын

Exactly what I'm going through right now. Letting the universe work things out also takes trust. I recently watched another video where they said something around the lines of to trust and let the universe do the rest. The way I took it was "let go, meet the universe halfway by trusting and the universe will provide". It will all comes as natural and what's meant to be.

@bodaciousmo

6 ай бұрын

This!! “she was sending me mixed signals, and wanted attention, but not a relationship, and that kept me hanging on to this future fantasy of a relationship” That’s it. You perfected the description of the madness that can inhabit our minds. FFR. Future fantasy relationship. Thank you!! 🙂

@ricooyrn

6 ай бұрын

she had avoidant attachment style?

@callme_adam

6 ай бұрын

@@ricooyrn Yeah she did, i can tell

As you let go, you’re accepting all that is you. Harder than it sounds, but no long-term satisfaction without it.

@chrisintrovertmeditationvi9963

2 жыл бұрын

Great description. Never thought of it that way.

@Pioramic

2 жыл бұрын

I love the way you put this.

@HD-xb9mj

Жыл бұрын

Never heard it that way, does that mean you have accepted your beautiful inner self?? Not acceptance from hurt. Please correct me if I've misinterpreted your reply. Thank you

@anndavis2920

Жыл бұрын

i have my satisfaction now by being alone and unattached. I am healing myself. Alone. I was not getting anything from him it was all online. The lies, the fantasies no proof behind the words. Im tired of that bulls***. I had to stop listening to the gaslighting, manipulation and dishonesty. I admit i got scammed and fell for the bullsh**. I have now forgiven myself and him, but in all honesty, i started chatting w/him because i was lonely and akone and i had the unhelthy thought that i would be talking to someone mature that would mean what he said. It took me a year to figure out this online crap was a joke, and it wasnt real and true. Im now done, i blocked and blocked and blocked. I also took it step further and offered my money but i quickly found out that it was all a maniprlation tactic and after i sent the money to him, i never even got a ty for it. I got ghosted for a week or longer. I finally caught on, that i was being played for a friggin fool and he probably spent that money on his wife that he never told me about but lied and told me he was single. I forgave myself now cuz yes i had a big heart but he used me for everything it was worth. Im done now. Its over now. Im not talking online w/him. Im healing now and becoming my best friend. this is what i need to do for my own good mental health.

*It's not just a cliche, you can achieve ANYTHING you put your mind to, if you slowly and consistently put in the effort, the universe will reward you!* *Incredible video!*

@HannahMickunas

2 жыл бұрын

How did you make your font bold?

@elsitabebe

2 жыл бұрын

Doesn't your comment go against everything this video talks about? To LET go and NOT put your mind into "forcing" ," attracting " , "manifesting" anything? And instead work on yourself

@kamehameha9160

2 жыл бұрын

@@HannahMickunas kinda late but enter the text between two asterisks

@happycamper2210

2 жыл бұрын

How can I apply this to friendships? I'm part of a small group of "friends" that I'm accepting are more fake friends than genuine. It's very painful.

@Xbox12469

2 жыл бұрын

Kame hameha **I got it ** 😅

And if they don't miss you, they didn't deserve you and THEY missed out, not you. Good riddance!

The toughest part of all of this is seeing the capacity of love they have in their eyes and in their souls but them not seeing it for themselves. So if they cannot accept your love it’s not your fault, they are afraid to accept it within themselves & it is so hard knowing that their life made them go through these challenges, but we all have them. It’s about finding the sacredness in the pain of change. I am so HOPEFUL to chance my ways step aside, and hope that he sees the value of partnering up to continue to heal as individuals and as a partnership. Life wouldn’t be life without challenge, pain & growth! Even during birth! The mother and the child start with PAIN but then extreme LOVE follows. Send some good love vibes this way my good people! Sending them back! ✨✨✨✨✨✨

Lol you really called me out when you said "letting go so they miss you is manipulating it and not actually letting go" 🤣

@harleydee143

Жыл бұрын

U are right

@amandaforrester7636

Жыл бұрын

Dang it lol 😆

@MonkeyDLuffy60073

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, and that hit hard, because how can you control how you feel or what your motivation is if you really care about that person and want them? I mean, I'm trying my best by not contacting them, removed my social medias because I can't trust myself to not stalk them, just really cut them off, so I'm trying my best really, but I'm unable to change how I feel or change whatever.. All I know is I'm off the radar for them.

@Godsfavoritefairy

Жыл бұрын

@@MonkeyDLuffy60073 did u guys get back or no

@trollzynisaacjohan1793

Жыл бұрын

@@MonkeyDLuffy60073 homes there is no twin flame. There will always be better things in store for us when we move on. A man is a train. A women is the passenger. Focus on your purpose.

This is SO true. I was over being treated and spoken to poorly. I no longer wanted this person not because they where evil but because I actually knew I deserved more. I set HARD boundaries. I was fine with losing this person because I truly believe the universe has my best interests at heart. I utterly let this person go. They are desperately trying to get back in my life. Now it is his job to prove he really wants back in. No games…. I just want someone who respects me. I’m over being disrespected. His access to me is now limited. He needs to earn me back because he has betrayed my trust. Again, no games. You want ‘in’ you need to treat me with the respect I’ve always treated you with.

@ArtimasStr

Жыл бұрын

I was left because of this as well. I didn’t treat my girl the way she deserves.. I took it for granted. I made such a bad mistake.. I pushed away one of the best things to happen to me so far in life.

@glennrobert4450

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like my twin flame and I, but my head was so twisted true love first time and there was no manual so it was like feeling around in dark and affected my actions I am sure and if I didnt treat her right god I didnt mean too

@ArtimasStr

Жыл бұрын

@@glennrobert4450 yeah it’s a struggle bro. We have to look inside and figure things out before entangling with someone else. It is a hard thing to do but it is worth it. Heroes journey,

@marcom.carioba8776

Жыл бұрын

@@ArtimasStr I feel exactly the same, I didnt give 100% in my relationship, I didnt go that extra mile, didnt show enough appreciation, the little things. Took things for granted, questioned the relationship myself often. And now, that I dont have it, you start to realize how lucky you were from the beginning. Why is it that you need to loose something first, to realize its true value?

@timekeeper2538

9 ай бұрын

WTF are you people even talking about? Did you cheat or do you just feel you weren't buying enough nice things for them?

Took me almost 6 months after he broke up with me to let go. Some of the hardest months of my life as I was really attached and hoping we could make it work. We still see each other as friends sometimes, but finally I stopped being proactive in sending texts because I deserve better. Be wary of emotionally unavailable men and spot the red flags early!

@mina8XO

11 күн бұрын

100%

“You’re afraid to let go because you’re afraid you won’t find meaning in something else.” This resonates so strongly with my current situation. Just got out of toxic 5 year relationship and I really needed to hear this. Thank you.

@AL-su8pg

3 ай бұрын

Congrats for leaving. Once I myself left a toxic ltr it took 2 years to stop talking as friends. He has 2 new gfs n I felt nothing. I was done a year before I left. We actually got along great as friends but stopped talking bc his new gf was insecure. Girl I didn’t want him 3 years before you existed in this reality. I did suggest we stop communicating before she ever made a huge to do of it. I even spoke to her freely n nothing was hidden or illegitimate. I would say he still thinks he’s better than me bc he has a successful relationship n I’ve had one failed situatiknshup. But it’s all a process. Not caring if he thinks he’s so much better than me is the only thing that still messes w my h head

I constantly had to vibrate at low frequencies and I felt so sad and hurt. Had to break up and let go because he didn't want to vibrate higher. Guided by the spirit.

i have also tricks on this . i made him miss me thx to natural aphrodisiacs, just 5 drops and the next morning when he's at work he misses me and writes me a lot of text messages . i know he's in love with me even after 10 years

@EmilySmith-db1zn

Жыл бұрын

damn why i hadn't hear of them before? these natural drops are life for me. my partner stopped saying i'm so bad in bed ! and i really appreciate that bc it was unpleasant

No matter what you think of you, the Universe loves you. Much Love from a Law Of Attraction KZreadr 💜

@Masculine_Virtue

2 жыл бұрын

Much love to you as well 🧡

@Girlwithapurse03

2 жыл бұрын

Omg I felt a weight off my shoulders reading this simple comment

When I decided to marry my husband, I knew that we would have a healthy relationship, that it would be a relationship filled with mutual respect, personal space, friendship and love. And we have been working together on this project for more than 10 years. Only working together is the key to a healthy and strong relationship, when we miss each other, when we write sweet SMS during the day, when we care about each other.

@rondadepenbusch8152

7 ай бұрын

Until it’s not . I’ve been married 26 years and filed for a divorce 4 months ago . You don’t know that person until you do . They give you who their capable of until they don’t . I don’t even know the man that i see today he’s not the person that i married & have spent half of my life with . I didn’t know what a narcissist & covert narcissist was ?? I do now and it’s a eye opening experience and i don’t know how I have stayed and as a women we are fixers and i was calling things out as they were happening and he was mind fucking me into thinking it was me just being too much of over thinking it . That’s bull shit , you have absolutely nothing to do with it , it’s them who have the problem not you at all . Well of me . Just talking In terms of my experience and I’m in a place at this moment where I’m letting go and trying to stay focused & strong for me . I don’t have a big support system or group so i have to pick and choose my battles and not to sweat the small things !! And to try learning how to trust again is going to be a process and I’ll be ok in time .

The “being the most authentic version of yourself” is my mantra. It’s the bravest thing you can do. I’ve worked so hard at this and my life is 100% better for it. I love my life. If someone comes along and it happens it happens. I’m living my best life either way ❤

He ripped my heart out after 4 yrs living together...cheated on me I ignored the red flags...i chased him for 3 yrs. Went out of my mind wanting him...i had men interested in me ...but I wasn't interested...they chased me.. I only wanted him...i quit chasing him...he came towards me twice...dont want him or anyone anymore....Me and God now...if he could my energy him and her would be dead....i went from dead too life...i blocked my soul...wall went too heaven...wall came down...Jesus. Is my best friend now...

“I’m actually a pretty fuckin’ cool person!” 🙌 yes! It was such a good feeling when I let go of my ex and finally realized my self worth and what kind of love I deserved. ❤

Sometimes you have to give up to gain.

This video resonated with me so much and clarified so many things for me that i am really shocked, it was exactly what i needed to hear. The amount of energy and attachment I was putting into another person was INSANE. Pulling our energy back and focusing on ourselves is extremely essential. Really an important lesson to learn

@ionize6181

Жыл бұрын

Iam going through the same thing now. And i am hoping i can implement this idea for good.

You hit the nail on the head with, "If I let them go, then I lost my one chance at love."

@angelinasamson6996

Жыл бұрын

111.1

@bp51082

Жыл бұрын

Isn't it incredible how you can have been through the same line of thinking before and gotten over it, be conscious of that, yet still be going through it in the present moment? Brains are weird

I really needed this. Perfect timing. I just let a four year relationship go that taught me sooooo much about myself and what I'm capable of giving and what I want going forward. It was hard to let go, but somehow today with the new moon, feels like this release is freeing. 💞♐

@gill426

2 жыл бұрын

I'm really happy for you! 💜 It also lifts me up to also put another step forward even if it is super, super hard. Thank you for sharing and I feel the change with the moon phases too. Best wishes for you and I'm really happy that you were able to feel this as freeing. 😊😉

@Gigi-rg7xy

2 жыл бұрын

Me too sister .

@Razainthewoods

2 жыл бұрын

I agree! I am in a similar situation. Go girl! ♥️

@Mags765

2 жыл бұрын

🙌🏽

@singleredemption4052

Жыл бұрын

Really happy for you! How long did it take you to get over the 4 year relationship?

I think if you're anxious and really like someone, but have nothing else going on in your life OR loving yourself, then it will be extremely hard to fake. So the first step is to find a supportive integrated life.

My biggest dream is to be a wife and mother one day. And meeting my ex, falling in love, and breaking up, has me in pieces because I really thought my dream was within reach. My whole life has been built around this dream. My dream job which I now have is flexible for maternity leave, I cook and learn to cook for a future family… I play instruments and sing because I want to sing to my babies one day… I’m learning to knit so that I can knit them clothes and blankets one day. I’ve been so patient and diligent - working towards this dream without being desperate for just any man. I’m mourning the dream right now… as now it’s back to the drawing board 😢I’m attached to that meaning and I think it will be gone forever if I let go… I’m scared. I’m scared that if I let go of HIM I let go of my DREAM. 😔 God will bring me my husband I just know it…

@EloraSelah

3 ай бұрын

Aww❤ I will pray for you. You are such a beautiful woman. I pray God gives you a deserving husband❤

@negrilqueen3417

13 күн бұрын

I’m going through the same thing and more scared because of my age. What age are u?

I got rejected before, because maybe I'm sending her a needy energy. But when I started accepting the fact that it's over and completely let her go, I had noticed that she's start trying to come back and she start feeling comfortable with me. But by that time I had moved on and I realized that I can't give her back my old feeling because I had already move on. Maybe it's too late for her 🤣

This is what I'm currently learning. Letting go and let the connection develop naturally

It is said that when the student is ready the teacher will appear. Well, Aaron, you have become my teacher today! Your message was profound. It was exactly what I needed, and exactly when I needed it. Thank you!

I’m currently going through this and working with a therapist. I’ve been investing in my meditation, Yoga, and art. I feel so much happier, and my partner is pursuing me again. Thanks for sharing your story.

I don't want to beat up some of the LOA coaches out there but the whole SP manifestation techniques that asks you to invest your energy in living at the end with someone who doesn't even want you can be super taxing. I wish more people ask you to fill your own cup first which is so important. "Take the energy away and put it back into yourself". Letting go of guilt and shame can be liberating. That's something I really needed to hear. Thank you for such honest and encouraging words.

Aaron, you literally saved me now from months of suffering. Thank you so, so, so much!

As someone who has been through breakups and has done the work. The way you combine many teachings into one is the most healthiest versions of any one's break-up teaching. Much love and light, brother. Keep crushing it! 💥

This has helped me loads. I’ve just ended quite a weird relationship where I realized only I was putting the effort in. I then wanted it back because of the future story I have made up in my head. I want this future, but the reality is that it doesn’t need to be with him. I seem to only think of him through rose tinted glasses and there is were very few lovely moments. I need to remember that and shift my future story back to me. Thank you 😊

@nederlander111

4 ай бұрын

i have 3 kids of 1 month , 1 year and 3 years old with my wife. my wife and i live currently separeted she lives at her parents home with the kids. we are in the middle of a divorce(since 1 month we are separated). and i do mis her. i want her back and i want to fight for it. i already made a list of my mistakes I made and i want to change it and show her that it is possible to change as a man. I will fight for her untill its 100% certain she will not come back. But i do think it will workout between us , but it needs some time , i need to give her her space. We got 3 small kids together and if she sees that im willing to change , it will be ok after some time.

This is soooo who I am. Both my parents were emotionally unavailable. I always looked for approval. And never thought I was good for anyone. Tough childhood. I’m seeing someone right now and I had to step back, take my energy back. I had to because I could see another pattern starting. I didn’t want that to happen again so I’m choosing to let go.

@lovelifesadventures

Жыл бұрын

This has been me my whole life too same childhood! … even in my 20 yr marriage! I just last 1 1/2 yrs so crazy in love with a man who at least only cares for me as a friend .. we had 2 of the most passionate nights of life and then I got so needy I totally pushed him away even when he told me to give him space. I do love him and I believe the connection is strong just wrong timing … I finally let go and I feel stronger for it … hate to say it thou I truly believe we are soulmates. 4 months of fighting and pushing him away … will he come back if I change? He would have to come back differently too .. I know that

The pain of rejection when you loved them....the pain is deep...but you can survive...i did...i went nuts...needy...the pain in my eyes ...JESUS Christ healed me....pray now...he will help you...i promise...Amen

A woman I dated for only 3 months suddenly left me over a very minor misunderstanding. She had a very avoidant personality and was a compulsive liar. However, I cannot seem to let go of this. I think it's because I casually knew this woman for decades and she always made it known she had a strong interest in me. I think what's bothering me is that just when she started to get to know me as a person, is when she rejected me. I became a little too needy without realizing it. So, even though she isn't a great human being and certainly not the right one for me, I still blame myself.

@aulkhic4

Жыл бұрын

Don't blame yourself. Work on yourself and your own happiness. It's like she's affected your self worth because she didn't give you the validation. She may be narcissistic and knowing you're too easy and needy is a turn off as it's no challenge, she could pick you up in a month if you're in the same mental space as and when she wants. Do not let that happen. You're worth more than that. Stay blessed.

I'm rewatching this again and now 97% over it, this again makes a lot more sense becuz I'm embodying it.

This man was coming in on the Astral plane and watching me. He was in my energy all the time. I thought I was going crazy. That I was obsessed with him. I didn't realize what was going on. Someone showed me how to block him. It wasn't me it was all him. Thinking about him all the time disappeared. I do feel him at times when he gets emotional. But it was huge to know it wasn't me. He didn't want any kind of relationship with anyone, yet wouldn't let me go. Smh. Learning to send his energy back.

@Tam438

2 жыл бұрын

do you mean you blocked on social media or energetically?

@michiejewel5989

2 жыл бұрын

Is he a spiritual husband

@kacisspiritualkorner55

2 жыл бұрын

@@Tam438 energetically

@kacisspiritualkorner55

2 жыл бұрын

@@michiejewel5989 I think he is someone that uses the Astral plane to stalk

@Tam438

2 жыл бұрын

@@kacisspiritualkorner55 ah, ok, thanks

When you said energetically they feel you thinking about them… that hit me so hard and it’s so true. I was thinking of them so that hopefully they’d think of me too but you’re totally right… stop with the thinking and love your best life & maybeeee they’ll miss you authentically but either way you gotta let go and do you. Thank you for speaking in a way that really resonated with me.

@jasonbracken4314

Жыл бұрын

I feel some level of magnetism pulling me towards you. I can't explain it other than its the universe telling me it's meant to be.. are you ready for the next chapter completely out of the blue with a stranger hidden amongst the 7 billion ;)

@jasonbracken4314

Жыл бұрын

@@marie8456 shocker I know haha.. I suppose I'll find a way to get through this. Although untill your message I completely forgot so thanks for the reminder of this hard blank lol :)

If you’re not letting go, your choosing to stay in the past and limit your future self.

This was a profound lesson! And I feel like Aaron was almost reciting my own life and current situation just for me. Thank you algorithms for putting this video in my feed. I was fearful avoidant and she was - probably anxious nurturer, but for sure a lot healthier than me. She left and its been no contact for a month now - it's June 2024. I wasn't abusive but I was avoidant- so the guilt is making it sticky to let her go but I need to. I need to find/redefine new meaning, new job, new everything. maybe even a new town. I can "let" her miss me if she wants to, or not. The rest of my lifes up to me.

You want to meet someone with similar values..values of authenticity honesty integrity respect trust and vulnerability…and become those values so you attract the right people!

Took my energy back Haven’t heard from him in 3 weeks Actions speak louder than words Im super sad about it but doing the inner work to finally detach myself emotionally 🥺

@beccawhite1887

2 жыл бұрын

Hang in there girl. You've got this. One day at a time. 💛

@diannelindo7862

2 жыл бұрын

Same. We got this

@jasonbracken4314

Жыл бұрын

I feel some level of magnetism pulling me towards you. I can't explain it other than its the universe telling me it's meant to be.. are you ready for the next chapter completely out of the blue with a stranger hidden amongst the 7 billion ;)

Letting them miss you is making them insecure like you used to be. So what's the point? That person should also be secure in his place. Set the boundaries in such a way that you both feel safe and secure ...noone has to let other miss the other. 😊

I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and your life experiences. I’m sure it wasn’t easy to share it with the world! I’m letting go!🥰✨

This is really great, especially because it’s purposefully not manipulative. It’s really hard to let go sometimes, but I love this idea of *letting* them miss you because you are putting your energy into living a full, rich life. And then if they come along for the ride, great. And if not, then you are already happy anyway. Such a different energy than “making” someone miss you, which doesn’t work anyway. Thanks, Aaron! 💕

@angelbrown3162

2 жыл бұрын

Perfect explanation

Honestly I didn't think it would be that simple.. After watching your vid last night, I said it & boom I felt a heaviness just lift off me... Today I woke up so much lighter & I feel like my happy self again... I was dancing when I woke up, dancing on my way to walk & all through the hallways like I used to before 😄 There's like little flashes in-between when it's like I feel my ex but in the beautiful way I used to before & each time that happens I literally repeat I'm not sending you my energy, it's mine... & I can literally see & feel my cup overflowing like a waterfall again... It feels amazing 🥹

@huynhyurivanvladamir7978

Жыл бұрын

True feeling of liberate

Thank you Aaron. "The goal is to take your energy back to love your life." Well said! Thank you for your content.

I’m starting to see it this way… There is something you lack or need that you want to receive from the other person. Love, help, support, sex, devotion, respect, whatever… And what you end up doing is chasing it. But the need and want of it creates inner lack and inner poverty… It energetically pushes away the other person. Your too insecure desperate needy and your chasing. So if you can let go of that INNER POVERTY And inner lack Then your outside world will change And the person will feel complex to give you what you used to want You just need to let go of wanting it first. If your feeling lonely desperate insecure Let go of that first Before you start chasing or pursing it or them. Never chase

I always depend on the Almighty God of the universe, because he's the one in control of my life and he also tells me in his word to trust him no matter my circumstances, according to proverbs 3:5-6 just let go and leave it in his almighty power he will work it out for my greater good Amen

@mariarangel7618

2 жыл бұрын

It's so hard to let go when you love Soo much.

@oscargonza2748

2 жыл бұрын

When you love someone and it's not reciprocated why would you want to remain attach to that person and only experience heartache? it's so much better let go of that person and let them decide what they want, perhaps the distance you create with that person will cause them to reconsider.

@jeynjohnstone5917

Жыл бұрын

Listen to the Mother's voice in your heart when you feel anger towards God. She loves Him no matter what.

Agree. From past experience, you can ignore them and they may come back for a bit, but it is never from a place of proper authenticity. You could be any girl and they would feel some sort of ego dent ‘why is this girl not liking me’ and come back to affirm that but for themselves. It’s never about you. You’d only be attracting the ones with avoidant attachment styles too so I don’t follow the whole ‘pull away and he will miss you and stay with you’ story these articles tell. It’s a short term thing. It doesn’t mean he ‘realised what he lost’. People aren’t that stupid. I’d want a man smart enough to notice and want me for the traits I have rather than feel a loss when I leave. Aaron is preaching facts.

Ive been struggling with a sudden breakup from a toxic relationship for the past month, your videos have helped me more then any.. I found them yesterday and now im starting to feel less chaotic and seeing my part and what lessons I can take from it all.. I pray I can let go fully now, il continue to watch. Thank you so much 🙏

I learned that the meaning of my life should be to have an interactive relationship with my Creator- God because He made me and to Him I will soon return. When I stopped allowing myself to be an emotional slave of another human being and focus on doing good in the world then what happened is that God sent me my wishes. 😊❤

Wow!! Wow!! Wow!! This has to be your best video! This is literally everything I am going through and what I needed to hear. I’m starting a new job next week and now he’s gone I can feel all my energy coming back. I became attached to a really unhealthy pattern because of a childhood trauma. I felt not good enough because he told me I wasn’t. Thank you Aaron! I don’t know if you read your comments but this video has made a massive difference. It has come at the right time and what I needed to hear! ps I’ve never commented on a video before but I had to tell you how much you have helped with this!

@AaronDoughty44

2 жыл бұрын

happy to hear that :)

I started telling myself, that even though some of my childhood was rough, I wouldn't be the person I am today without the rough stuff. I am a strong person. Some things that shake some people, don't and can't make or break my day. It's just another day.

Thank you Arron.... what you said.... attracting emotionally unavailable people to me, because that felt safe, and what I grew up with. I am still working through shame on many levels. Thank you for this open honest video. You are helping folks and I honor that.

Want to thank you for this one Aaron. Went through a breakup that was pretty hard to let go over the summer; done all sorts of techniques and meditations, and they helped. But there were still pieces. For some reason listening to this for the second time and the concept of "handing it over to the universe" was what I needed. I feel better today than I have in months. It really feels like I might be over it now, rather than on an endless roller coaster of thinking it's gone than ending back at heartbreak. Now back to working on the remaining anxious attachment issues...

@surgin-nk3rw

9 ай бұрын

Damn that sounds like me right now. I'm holding on after dating 3 years. I have to let go. And I'm almost there.

No no no no this actually on point. To be in your frame means to be in your own nature. The lion is king because he is grown out of his kingdom. And only there in his home he is strong. He owns his power resting in gently in knowing that his power is not his own.

I love how vulnerable and vocal you are about your past insecurities in relationships to help others, thank you! This works with friend relationships as well when they take advantage of us or hurt us.....outside the circle they go. When you really start to understand that they don't belong in your circle and they are not worthy of you, they will feel that and know that they lost you and will def miss you.

Thank you so much. I'm emotionally drained and I will learn to put that energy within myself.

This is the best video I have seen about letting them go. Every time I noticed myself feeling uneasy about recent breakup, this video would get me out of that emotional state and back into my own frame. It’s so powerful and so healing! Thank you!

I hate how the moment I let go of someone she calls me or comes to me to maintain the energetic vampirism... it's just energetic vampirism.

@alhassanfirrdous7292

2 жыл бұрын

Women naturally love attention, just starve them small

I’m happier focusing on me. The more time passes that I don’t even get a Hi the more I realize I never meant as much to him as he means to me. With a really long history that is a tough pill to swallow.

@twistedstoic

2 жыл бұрын

It truly is a slap in the face, however I have no doubt you'll get someone else who will blow your mind! Keep going.

@Tam438

2 жыл бұрын

in the same place...

Take the energy truely back to you not to someone new or trying to manipulate him to be back

This vid is excellent! I'm resonating 100%. I had that happen just the other day. My oldest daughter said she was proud of me. She turns 18 in a couple days. I been gone 90% out of her life since 2013. I can hardly let my heart feel a reason for her to be proud of me. But i know that's just trama brain talking. Thank you for being you bro!

@goodlyantics.5243

Жыл бұрын

Your comment is so great. I know what it is to be alienated from a daughter. God bless, and I pray your relationship with your daughter continues to blossom.

This was so on point. Thank you. I finally realized after *years* of blaming the men in my life for being emotionally unavailable…that I was that myself. And all the rest, what you have said here! I am most thankful for what you said about not thinking about the person you need to let go of and to do it for the right motive. I tried everything else (cutting cords, praying, anything I could think of) but that has changed everything for me. I am ready to choose me and to be honest and vulnerable. 🙏

Sending out and radiating love and light energy to all! I intend that everyone is manifesting EXACTLY what they desire! Thank you Aaron for your AMAZING contribution to HUMANITY!!!

Aaron, you’re awesome. Thank you so much for your insight into this. It’s like you are looking into my mind, know what I am thinking, feeling, going through, and know exactly what to say to make sense of all this madness in being vulnerable based on attachment styles, emotions, infatuations, to feelings of being loved, accepted, worthy, etc. You really can’t control who you “fall in love” with, but you can control the outcome of your actions if you know what to look for and do. Thank you!

Phenomenal stuff. I wasn't exactly ghosted; but the energy was pulled back. This was online; and I did what I do whenever life hands me something I don't understand... I take a moment and reflect and then research. I'm a big believer in learning about my own coping mechanisms; and why it is I do what I do; and what I could do differently in order to lead a much happier or more fulfilling life. I've been watching your channel for a while, Aaron. You got some really good stuff. I've seen you grow quite a bit. And in turn, it seems that I'm learning a ton. I decided I wanted to start my own mentoring business which would focus on certain things that I'm pretty good at; but I realized that I didn't have a lot of my 'stuff' together; and I think the universe pulled the brakes on my dream; to help me see what I wasn't seeing, so that I could be of more use to people in my mentoring business; so that I could walk my talk and remain authentic. It was either this video or the one I just came from about ghosting; where you talked about the girl you are with now; and how you had to get ready for that relationship. I feel I'm doing something similar. In Tarot, there's the King and Queen of Cups... this is what you aim for emotionally. So, I'm attempting to do a lot of inner work and of course some research to uncover those blind spots I've had and have; so that I when the right person comes along for me... I won't be dealing from a place of trauma bonding, or anything else of that nature. Cool segment. Your stuff is really hitting home lately for me. DM

This is tremendous. I can’t believe the timing of this-I needed to hear this so badly. This makes so much sense. So powerful. I am now on this path. Thank you so so much Aaron.

This is so true The moment I decided to let go he text me back 😂 He is so toxic. I have an addiction to this connection so its hard for me to let go. I'm gonna cut the contact completely I'm so tired of this. Thanks you aron Ps. I am also thankful for that person even though its so painful I found so many things because of this.

@jenk.1400

2 жыл бұрын

I understand this. I too just let someone go for the 10th time. I kept taking him back because I was addicted to him as well. But he literally consumed all of me, all of my energy, all of my wealth, happiness, my essence. He took all of me and gave me breadcrumbs for YEARS.

@xan8185

2 жыл бұрын

@@jenk.1400 what's so sad is we know we deserve so much better...

@dr.tapasyadiwakar1246

2 жыл бұрын

Do inner work and shadow work (meditation) n know your authencity inside of you.

@DelightFools

2 жыл бұрын

@@jenk.1400 what did he have that makes you come back to him that many times he screwed up?

@cyndigooch1162

2 жыл бұрын

@@jenk.1400 I really feel for you and I've been there, done that, more than once in my life! I hope you've managed to break away by now though. I want to let you know that the main process that assisted me to stop the pull was to go into the pain, which was akin to withdrawing from a powerful drug, instead of contacting the person, then the desire to see him again left me. Unfortunately, it's painful though and many people view crying as a weakness, so advise people to keep busy etc, which has it's place, yet doesn't heal the wounds from the past and present trauma. ❤

People don't want you to be yourself. They want you to applaud them