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@Casual_BackPacking

9 ай бұрын

😂 your traveling did help you find your peace within

@Casual_BackPacking

9 ай бұрын

😂 your traveling did help you find your peace within

@i-am-the-slime

9 ай бұрын

You know one thing that's funny to me (I'm from Germany): Ireland is so cool and I found people extremely friendly there. More so than any other place I've been before. If anything, you got pretty lucky in the place you're from. But I completely understand that it's difficult to see things that way from the inside.

@AdamFelix

8 ай бұрын

Your diet is making you depressed.

@issenvan1050

7 ай бұрын

Kurukahveci Mehmet Efendi?

There’s no escape. It’s just right here, right now. You’re either here or your in your head. Spend less time in thought and more time embracing this beautiful moment in time

@pinkpanther0001

11 ай бұрын

Nice one

@dirlenelopez6033

11 ай бұрын

Yes, and I would also add that happiness is found within. The more we search for it in things, places, people, or situations, the more miserable we will become.

@dirlenelopez6033

11 ай бұрын

And if going to other places change who you are, it means you don't really know who you are. You are just living different versions of it. Who you truly are will never change depending on where you are.

@johnascialpi5247

11 ай бұрын

Beautifully said ❤️

@harleyblaze9033

11 ай бұрын

What a beautiful way to put it out❤

No matter how far you travel you take you with you. Looked for a geographical cure for many years and finally discovered the problem was internal rather than external.

@SladkaPritomnost

11 ай бұрын

I feel much better with myself with people who have similar life values, than surrounded with people with very little in common. Now people become super specialized and it's very hard to find a tribe on your tune.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing

@77HeIsLove_woot

11 ай бұрын

Wherever you go, there you are. And people, in my humble opinion, are pretty much the same everywhere. Also landscapes.

@77HeIsLove_woot

11 ай бұрын

Read the Proverba in the bible - they are advice to a young man but contain much wisdom.

@narender7106

11 ай бұрын

Read patanjali yog sutra

travelling didn't ruin your life, it made you realise to change yourself, it made you realise that all problems are within yourself and not somewhere else..

@jimbojimbo6873

4 ай бұрын

Right one more period, I dare you

@weabooavatar399

2 ай бұрын

I want to experience this

@carlosr192

2 ай бұрын

Build something in a community...maybe family or kids then take people with you to travel...smell like happiness.

You went traveling to find adventure, but ultimately found yourself. It all unfolded exactly as it was meant to.

@chethan1439

8 ай бұрын

Yes, probably after spending thousands of dollars. I think the real truth about travel should be told rather than just glamorizing it and build this perception that you can only find yourself if you travel. Travel is really overrated and expensive.

@Milo-Mike

5 ай бұрын

​@@chethan1439so what is the truth? Money? Yeah, thats what you need sometimes. But you can still go without or with less Money

@hxhdfjifzirstc894

2 ай бұрын

There's no such thing as 'finding yourself' -- just stupid people who don't have any common sense.

@frosty_soda

21 күн бұрын

@@Milo-Mike the truth is to be content! It's that simple.

My constant urge to travel to some mountain was greatly dissolved by just having a small garden in my house and revamping the rooms and spaces. Now every room in my home offers a different vibe. There is enough variety and I just love being here. May be some others can relate.

@monikap8777

11 ай бұрын

Yess! I found great places nearby which I like a lot and which I think tourist that are coming to my town would like a lot. Dunno if it's the same in America (I believe it is, but i don't know, especially for the big cities), but where i am from (Croatia), we have beautiful nature all around us, we don't have to travel to other countries, not even to other cities, each city is very nice and has very nice places where you can be in nature.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing

@mr.melontoyou

11 ай бұрын

@@monikap8777 beautiful rivers and forests in Croatia.

@RoadToFuture007

11 ай бұрын

Also learning a new language is like getting a new life. Also making music.

@Snappypantsdance

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience:).

There’s an old saying, ‘wherever you go, there you are’. Happiness has to come from within, you won’t find it externally.

@a.arpitkaran5560

Ай бұрын

❤

If you're around toxic people. Get the hell away from them. Moving to a distant location is one of the best things I've ever done.

I didn’t leave home till I was 33, i wasn’t as brave as you . I went abroad on a trip when I was 30 to Italy with some random girl who like me didn’t want to travel on her own, it turned out to be the trip from hell, we didn’t get on and she found someone else to go round with. I was left totally on my own, all I did was visited the sights and went home, I realised it wasn’t me, I didn’t like staying in cheap hostels and travelling with just my belongings in a bag. All it did was knock my confidence and mental health ( something that wasn’t the in thing in the 90s ) I was lost for years till I got my own place. I wanted a baby like a lot of woman with there biological clock ticking away and a man thrown in 😂, I got my wish and at 42 had my daughter, been with my husband nearly 26 years,still learning about being content with what I’ve got, but everything you say is right. I still moan but at 62 I’ve got less in front so am on my path of change

@lazyking3017

11 ай бұрын

So lovely of you. Thanks

@julian-multiman

11 ай бұрын

Well if you are an unhappy person you won’t happiness anywhere. You just start with yourself. Travelling is one of the best thing a human can do, it expands the mind, it destroys nationalism, breaks barriers and helps to understand other human beings and other ways to live… specially if you are from a wealthy western countrie.

@elultimo102

11 ай бұрын

None of my life-plans came to fruition after college. I existed and survived, but never found fulfillment. I'm older than you, but have no real plans, since I have no real future. The game of life is essentially over---and I have already lost. Thus, I sit, waiting for the clock to run out.

@lorgnetteify

10 ай бұрын

I’m so happy to hear you found time to build a family. Im 38 and the biological clock is ticking and it gets louder the closer I get to 40. So glad you had a baby at 42, it calmed me down 🎉 I do have a new escape plan coming in later in the fall. I feel if i mess up im done.

@lesleyhubble2976

9 ай бұрын

@@julian-multiman I agree to a certain level, but other people can destroy confidence. If you let them that is, I now realise all you say is somewhat true Thank you

I know the cycle, I traveled from country to country from age 20-30, and now here I am finally settled and happy in the city of my birth. You eventually realize that the garden of Eden is within.

@maxjohnson1758

11 ай бұрын

Oh? What city?

@cautarepvp2079

11 ай бұрын

we return most of the time to our ancestral place

@hereandthere6001

11 ай бұрын

Peacemaker. I felt the same, I travelled through the late 70s and 80s but missed my parents, got home and within 1 day I was depressed and sorry I ever came home. Everything was the same there and nothing changed. I realised I could spend my whole life moving from place to place. Now my parents are gone and I still feel like a gypsey although not as much, climate change has brought me to a place I hope will remain unscathed.

@user-mj6qr2ky9d

11 ай бұрын

​@@hereandthere6001 so u found it better to travel from place to place instead of being home with ur parents even though they died?

@Catholic_Fiat33

11 ай бұрын

@@hereandthere6001 I admit, our Spirit needs change and growth to keep it strong. I guess I personally found ways to keep growing in my old environment. I remodeled our family home to start with:p

Emotions and feelings can be directed and controlled. Travel is not ruining anyones life. If your motivation for doing anything is escape, you will be let down regardless of the method. I am American from Sacramento but have lived in Mexico, China and traveled and spent time in many places...not bragging. My motivation was not escape but exploration. Travel exposed me to so many things outside of my bubble and I feel blessed for it.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing!

@anteeko

11 ай бұрын

I second that feeling, I travel a lot and it helped me growth, be smarter amd more wise. It has been a very positive experience for me.

@onenation8707

11 ай бұрын

I love this comment, thanks. I can relate, and you took the words right out of mouth 💯% spot on!!

@lior2538

11 ай бұрын

Well said

@chrissyaboyy

10 ай бұрын

I am from San Francisco currently left to move to bali! We should chat some more !

Travelling and discovering is what makes you feel alive. It opened my mind and life is short.

I think travel is for self discovery rather than to kill boredom. You don’t have to travels 10,000 miles away to cure your curiosity. A lot of places are in our own hometown that we never care to visit just because it’s nearby. I think what we really get bored of is our own perspective of life. Talking to people of all ages makes you see things differently.

Hes not talking to you , he's talking to himself. Comforting himself , reassuring himself and that's ok.

@michaelvalentino2349

11 ай бұрын

Yes, not everyone is going to be in his situation. He is struggling with several issues, but the message is very relatable to many people. So, your statement as it is constructed is false.

@malmoran8643

11 ай бұрын

@@michaelvalentino2349 Thats ok Mick , thats ok

This really resonates with me. I spent the whole year last year just travelling was so miserable doing it. I’ve finally settled down with a 9-5 and i’m still tempted to pack and fly somewhere else. It’s really a temporary relief and came to the realization that I was running away from my problems. I love your honesty 🥰

@user-qu8sj3oj6p

11 ай бұрын

Come to rural Africa....you will be so immersed you will forget all your problems.

@samgk1614

11 ай бұрын

@@user-qu8sj3oj6p I moved from east Africa 10 years ago . I daydream about living in the village my parents grew up in. Just a simple life , living off of the earth. Left my country to get education and return but there is a civil war. You get money in the west but you still drive into your garage without saying hi to your neighbours.The lack of social life and loss of my culture is what I struggle with the most. God willing , I will go when things are right.

@Bazzguit

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for writing this, I thought something was wrong with me by being so miserable while traveling

You cannot escape your issues. My problem with traveling is that after living (I'm from the US) in Europe, Mexico, Asia, and now in the Middle East is what I thought was so exotic before I went there, now seems so normal to me. So, that bit of excitement is gone, but I still love it.

@johnkowalski5756

7 ай бұрын

"I travel for travel's sake. The great affair is to move."

I love what you said: "If I go across the sea to a different country where nobody knows me, then all of a sudden I can be a different version of myself. That is where true freedom lies." I have felt a distinct loss of identity after losing both of my beautiful sisters. My oldest in 2017 and my youngest sister in 2022. I feel I want to travel so I can discover who I am without them and grow into my true authentic self. Like you said discover where I fit in this world. Now.

@thedavidboland

8 ай бұрын

sorry to hear of your losses

"Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you (already) have."

@linusschmutz3985

11 ай бұрын

You stole that line from Sheryl crows soak up the sun.

@h.austin4793

11 ай бұрын

@@linusschmutz3985 Way before that song. Dale Carnegie. And even before that. This time-tested wisdom goes all the way back to the ancients.

Travelling is a lot of fun. But it's not an escape from problems that are rooted in some other part of your life. For example, not having a family or loved ones creates a void in life that can never be filled by travelling.

@bigboyman5743

11 ай бұрын

having a family is overrated

@katherinechase3674

11 ай бұрын

Sometimes friends can become family like. Soul sisters, aren't always biological per se.

@onenation8707

11 ай бұрын

I completely disagree . I have no parents, and I was in the care system. I had issues due to my upbringing as a coping mechanism I used to drink.....etc. You can guess my life was out of control. Over a period of time, I healed and no longer drank....etc (been sober for over 6yrs) Now I live for travelling and always go abroad just before Christmas. I'll go away for 1 - 3 months. I am completely happy and content within myself, but if you take away travelling from me, then I have absolutely nothing to live for. It's not a void for me to fill in it's a type of therapy and relief. It's enjoying, thrilling, and fun. To meet other solo travellers for spontaneous adventures and explore the natural world.

@jenamaste131

11 ай бұрын

I don’t agree, families are temporary. You came alone and will die alone. Lots of people have family and still feel alone, it’s just a cover up. we just don’t know how to be happy alone , we were raised that you need someone to be happy , family to not feel empty and that’s nonsense.

@tone399

11 ай бұрын

​@@jenamaste131 As a 30y old without knowing my father and constantly absent "mother" that never took time to love her child..... I realized i didn't know what love means until 25 when i was with a girl... i had severe drug adddiction. At 28 the facade i built over the years crumbled when i realised what happened... the empty void that I'm afraid can only be closed by a plug lost 28 y ago... You can be grateful for having at least one sane parent. I still have problems with s. abuse, other social skill problems

I've been to Jerusalem, Turkey, Saudi, and every state in America except Alaska and Hawaii. I'm not depressed, but I'm disappointed in seeing and experiencing that I haven't found a place where people genuinely enjoy life and each other without the drama.

@Rubycella

7 ай бұрын

Try Thailand ;)

@tubbyrainbow111

4 ай бұрын

You went to the wrong places lol, go to Latin America or South East Asia for that

@darkofighter1

2 ай бұрын

try cuba

@1inchpunisher715

Ай бұрын

Try your home

Managing both worlds "home & travel" is the biggest challenge. It is inside of everyone and it is the ultimate way to find.

Finally someone who is real! Most people wont admit what you said in this video. Cant wait to see this channel blow up.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

aw thanks

If you live on a council estate surrounded by wronguns and then you decide to move to Bali... Trust me you will find peace. I think this situation is unique for you and will resonate with some people, but for most getting away from a toxic environment to somewhere beautiful with beautiful people is going to create immense happiness.

@jcm5171

11 ай бұрын

I agree. It really depends on whether you are looking for yourself and in that case, travelling won't change a thing and you will eventually find that it was in you -- there was nothing wrong with home, but if you are making a sprint from hell to beautiful and kind, hey, no contest !!!

@barrymccamley5986

11 ай бұрын

The problem is that Bali and other versions of paradise are only temporary true paradise lies within. 😎🌹☺️🙏

@karlmuller1976

11 ай бұрын

@@barrymccamley5986 it doesn't matter how much paradise you have within if you live on a shitty estate full of road men and scumbags. But also if you have struggles within then yes a beautiful location will not necessarily help.

@barrymccamley5986

11 ай бұрын

@@karlmuller1976 At some stage you are going to have to leave your paradise and go back to your housing estate and deal with the situation. 😎☺️🙏

@MuzzaHukka

11 ай бұрын

Daily reminder that you can claim benefits and physically be away from the UK 😂

Its a real privilege to travel to the places youve been. Billions have never had or could never afford to travel. Ive only traveled twice outside Canada and the journey was always a lesson to me. If I could afford to travel yearly I would.Good lyck mate!

@99xara99

10 ай бұрын

He is and it's nice but that doesn't mean he automatically will feel better about it. Not how emotions work unfortunately

What a very refreshing & vulnerable conversation to be had. Travel influencers need to watch this. More people should be having such discussions

@thedavidboland

9 ай бұрын

thank you for the comment

It took me a while to realise that the attraction of travel is, in fact, the travel. To be brief: I was once convinced I could only find personal fulfilment living permanently abroad (in my case in SE Asia (anywhere in SE Asia)). After a while of doing that I began to feel distinctly unfulfilled, then undeniably homesick. It took maybe 10 years or more for me to realise that these beautiful places are best enjoyed as temporary pleasures - as vacations. It's good to have some permanence in your life, to be rooted somewhere. The rest of the world will wait for you, and its promise offers something tangible for the heart to yearn for and for the mind to look forward visiting. But visiting, not staying. That's important.

@karzymimi42

8 ай бұрын

I’ve definitely learned that while you’re traveling you discover the kind of traveler you are. I hate vacations and temporary stays. I always wanted more when I planned trips no more than two weeks. After having the expat experience I loved it so much more. I lived in Japan, Germany and Iceland for a year each and cherished every moment. Thailand is next on my list for 2024 and I’m crazy excited. I’m never home sick and I just have a burst of wanderlust when I step into a new country. My friends and family think I’m missing out on life by not marrying or having kids or a home, but I beg to differ. My adventures have fulfilled me more than a family Christmas dinner, baby shower or wedding. I enjoy learning new languages, discovering new flavors in food, understanding cultural customs and the overall diversity of the world. There are certainly cons and challenges that I could do without, but it honestly doesn’t outweigh the pros. At least for me I’ve never been bored with traveling and I believe it’s my eagerness to learn about the world and having an open mind. It’s important to have a home base and be rooted as you stated, but I love that I can create a home anywhere I go.

@philipford6183

8 ай бұрын

@@karzymimi42 - I hear you, and I agree with your sentiments. I just didn't know that I was more in love with the idea of living abroad than the actuality of doing so. Turned out, for me, that traveling and vacationing was a much better fit for me than living permanently away from home.

@karzymimi42

7 ай бұрын

@@philipford6183 Perspective! I’ve met lots of travelers throughout my time abroad that only wanted pictures and stamps. The idea of traveling is different than actual traveling. I wish there was more of a balance on the complexities of traveling. I’ve backpacked for trips, but would never make it a lifestyle. Sometimes I do hostels, CouchSurf, other times hotels if the money is right. Unless you have loads of money to blow you’ll have to penny pinch or save up for a specific adventure. Only if you’re open minded and willing to sacrifice some comfortability then you’ll enjoy the experience. However most people I found aren’t interested in getting down and dirty, they’re stuck in fantasy. Glad you found what works best for you. All the best!

As someone who’s currently in the process of moving home because I left impulsively and unprepared because I thought it would “fix me” … this made me feel so much better about my choice. Thank you so much for this video! Super relatable.

@valentinavsl4148

11 ай бұрын

Same!

I’m a 27 year old woman travelling the world with my 5 year old daughter. Couldn’t be happier, from making fashion content on the streets of Paris to swimming with in a blue ocean in the Pacific. Life is good and I can worry anywhere in the world with my laptop. Love it.

"You do not need to go anywhere"... However, you did need to go elsewhere to say what you finnaly said. We are all space travelers. Much love and respect from Poland.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

totally agree with this sentiment, sending you gratitude and blessings

I didn't even know that there is such a thing as believing that traveling will make you happy. I mean, I've seen a lot of people saying that you have to travel while you are young, and I travel whenever I can, I like to travel and see new things, get to know new people, but it never crossed my mind that traveling shall give my life a purpose. I have my purpose no matter where I am.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

so happy to hear this

@sharajackson2129

11 ай бұрын

I believe you can travel anytime it calls you to do so ,not everyone has the calling or funds in there 20s to do loads of travel. I travelled all my life and still love it and will continue to do so in my 50s when im able to ❤

@monikap8777

11 ай бұрын

@@sharajackson2129 I believe you can, but it is much harder when you get a job (its sometimes hard to get free days), start a family (because now you and your husband need to have vacation at the same time) and especially with children (it gets very expensive and you can not go sightseeing that easily)

@yass912

11 ай бұрын

What is your purpose if you don't mind sharing?

@monikap8777

11 ай бұрын

@@yass912 I haven't thought about how to define it exactly, but it would be something along the lines of: stay alive, get close to God, help others who want to get close to God of I am called to do it, minimise suffering of myself and others

Thank you so much for sharing this! I can definitely relate as I have quite a similar story. For years I used to use travel to escape my depression until on one of my Winter escapes my depression only got worse. It was then that I realized the issue is deeper than any location switch could change/fix. That made me work on myself for the first time in my life and start therapy. I just returned from a 3-month trip to Colombia that also reinforced what I already was feeling and wishing for - to settle down somewhere close to my hometown because I discovered it wasn`t so much the new and exciting locations I was craving but a connection with nature and people I love (after living alone in a city for a long time)... Sometimes the cure is right in front of our nose

@thedavidboland

Жыл бұрын

glad you appreciated it and thank you for sharing your story :)

@giftedsun

11 ай бұрын

This was what I found. I loved the journeying, but eventually found depression and boredom living in Paradise on a Mexican Caribbean blue clearwater beach. Had a heartbreak relationship and come back home. I got to work. Finished writing a book. Wrote and am now recording a dance song tribute to my city Chicago. Took a long walk on a gorgeous day by the Lake, which I live five minutes from. Sketched out the first scene of a play I,:be always had idea for. I finally realized that I'm the event I've been looking for. Opportunities are golden now. So was I. I just needed to go away to figure that out.

@wherestheparty_

11 ай бұрын

@@giftedsun well done!

@jenamaste131

11 ай бұрын

Very truth, I also can relate. I would travel but nothing seen exciting for me, it was ok to meet other people, culture but no matter where you you will have your ups and down. The new will become old soon or later. The exciting not so exciting. I now looking for somewhere near but close to nature , peaceful. It’s not where you go or live but it’s what you make of what you have.

Thanks for sharing: my experiences have been very similar. Once, in a moment of profound depression on an idyllic Tasmanian beach, I found myself thinking: hell can look beautiful. Later that week, luck sent me a sage in the form of a homeless lady who, seeing my misery, sat and listened to my problems though she plainly had many more than I to contend with. "Wherever you go, that's where you are", she observed, correctly. Her compassion, for which I will always be deeply grateful, marked the beginnings of my recovery. I enjoyed my travels, but no longer need to be elsewhere to find happiness...

I’ve put off travelling for YEARS because I was abundantly aware that I would still be me and still be depressed but just with no support network around me. I instead have spent the last 7 years working on my mental health, getting therapy and building a support network around the world through penpalling. I’m now at the point where I am finally planning a working holiday to Australia and I feel so good about it. I’m a long way from being where I want to be mentally, but I have the tools to make it work. Thank you for sharing your story. I’m glad you finally found your home 😊

@thedavidboland

8 ай бұрын

I wish you a wonderful journey in Australia! thank you for sharing :)

I found my peace and purpose after depression too. It turned out to be teaching yoga to those in need. What a foreign feeling fulfillment was when it came. And it was so clearly good. Happy days to you!

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

thank you for sharing!

I just typed in "traveling is overrated" on YT and your other video about traveling popped up, so I watched it and now I've just watched this one. I can relate so much! Thanks for making such great content, can't wait to watch more! :)

@thedavidboland

Жыл бұрын

ha! nice one. thanks :)

@mmkw5621

11 ай бұрын

Same, it feels like i have to force myself ti travel

I love travelling because I love meeting new people, being solo and really getting comfortable with myself being alone and with only other strangers not family or friends. It has given me so much inner confidence and awe at this awesome planet and the people with in it. In the end the choice is find a way to continue travelling or find a way to create the things you want and like about travelling at home. For me that could mean being in a relationship with an awesome foreign gf, volunteer work at home, working on a career I can do at home but gives the flexibility to work abroad, hiking awesome mountains. Relate fully to the identity aspect when travelling solo. It’s good to bring that mindset home.

Traveling gives you seeing things in different perspective, outsiders always see chances while insiders don't.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

agreed

Funny, I went to Ireland with exact expectations - be the version I wanted to be in my homeland Latvia, and I achieved that, for some reason, I can relate to Irish people more than Latvians, how positive and kindhearted they are. Every time I am visiting my home, I am taking with me the person I became , the mind and heart wisdom I acquired in Ireland. And I am most thankful for this opportunity to shine in the way I want, and being celebrated by it, not only tolerated

@SatumainenOlento

11 ай бұрын

Yes, or this happens 😅 I am also living in Ireland, because people here are just awesome! 😅

@Valhalla_Heathen

11 ай бұрын

That’s awesome! I’m from Las Vegas, NV and I’ve always wanted to visit Ireland 😎

@heatherb9853

10 ай бұрын

Italy was this for me. When I was there, it felt like a homecoming. It filled my soul and now I just aim to always head back. Flying “back home” to Italy for a week in end of July and my skin itches for the day to arrive

@343mustbestopped2

8 ай бұрын

I lived in Dublin for 6 months and hated life. I lived in Zwolle Netherlands and absolutely loved and still love it. Now I'm in my homeland and might move to the Netherlands.. Where in Ireland are you and what makes it liveworthy for you? In all hoensty for me, the experience was that I never want to set foot in Ireland again.

@Jinsun202

8 ай бұрын

@@343mustbestopped2Ireland is much more than Dublin. Dublin isn't really authentic Ireland at all. Go to the west or any small village and get to know the locals.

Just wanted to chime in to say i loved the video man! I've had a lot of the same feelings inside, and I feel I can relate so much. I appreciate the effort in reflecting and being transparent about it. And never allowing yourself to deflect the blame on everything and everyone else. Much respect brother🙏

I really glad you made this video. I grew up in a small beautiful small community and it always struck me as absurd that the only people who didn't like the place and wanted to "get away" were either teenagers or people like yourself who wanted "to become someone else" or escape familiarity. I have watched generation after generation of my students leave and return to this place after falsely believing life in the big city/Europe/The Wilderness would somehow change them. So many people cling to the idea that if I could just get out of this town, or just lose some weight, or just get a better job I would be so happy only to arrive at the destination more depressed in the realization that that was only a small portion of what was making them unhappy. Travel is advertised more and more as a path towards happiness and you were privileged enough to learn firsthand that most of our problems are our own and instead of blaming your environment and you actually had the guts to own up to being wrong.

What a great explanation of a mostly untold side of traveling. For me, traveling represents endless possibilities. An endless stream of novelty of nature, people, cultures etc., which stands as a sharp contrast to everyday life, which is a reflection of our unique choices in life. This is the paradox of life - we choose a path that seems the best for us, but when we are choosing our unique path, we are also choosing to deselect a vast number of alternative options. Going abroad and expanding your horizon is something you really should be doing, because it is enriching, but it can quickly become an addiction. Not just escapism, but also the urge to be present in every scenario, every place on earth, every time, being part of all of the untold stories which has ever found place or is about to happen. What a wonderful world...

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing

@sleepnomore6065

9 ай бұрын

Fantastic comment

You cannot escape yourself. Our mindset goes with us wherever we go but you can change your travel approach and lay foundations.

Thank you for this video. From someone who wants to travel, What I got from this was to choose to be happy and content now. Fix whatever issues you have now where you are because wherever you go you will always be with yourself.

Im from Norway. Everyone sees my country as a lucky place to be born. I never felt that way. I grew up in a moonshine production house with drug use and fighting, and ive had struggles with infections in my teeth since 16 years old, never learned how to eat good, how to take care of myself, and i found myself selling illegal subtances, not caring about my own well beeing, beeing caught up in everything, never have time to breathe, and i grew addicted to an actionful life. When my mother quit drugs a few years ago, and my dad passed away, i stopped. Ive had a few setbacks, but all in all im growing and im diciplined enough to try every day. I feel this overwhelming depression over me, every secound every day. I dream about traveling all over south east asia, south asia, latin-america, africa, feeling like nothing can give me happyness or purpose but. But after listening to this, i feel just more lost, but i will try to travel once..

I always feel this way- needing to move because where I am is not where I want to be but you take your vibration with you. Different places, different people but same old, same old

Traveling is great every once in a while. It gives you a break from your routine. You learn new things and makes you see the “the real thing”, if you like studying world geography and world history. After a short travel, I do need another break, because traveling is physically exhausting (the good type of exhausting; not the job related exhausting). I’ve never understood these people who travel “to find themselves and discover themselves” as if life is complex or mysterious. Life is really not that complex or complicated to figure out.

@kyleyrumohr997

11 ай бұрын

I "found myself" traveling because I had to get out of who my culture told me to be based on my looks to meet new parts of me. Challenge myself outside of the norm, learn how to eat different/think different/etc to see what really fit for me. Gathering experiential information about how to be human outside of the one idea presented in the culture i was born in and curate myself into someone that feels alive.

@camiell1094

11 ай бұрын

Sometimes people are stuck in a role they are playing based on the expectations of others around them. Parents, friends, religion, school etc. People can become free from the cage that others have build around them by traveling

@MrSparklespring

11 ай бұрын

​@@camiell1094 Indeed, that was what I encountered after my first marriage. Going abroad. Liberated from the role I was playing and didn´t fit me.

@Imhimdogg

11 ай бұрын

It’s about finding a better backdrop to enjoy my 24-7

@maxsparks5183

11 ай бұрын

“Life is really not that complex or complicated to figure out”? Really? The millions of unhappy people who have spent their lives trying to figure life out and find peace, contentment, fulfillment, etc. strongly disagree. At 65 I never remember being happy or fulfilled or excited to get up and face the day for appreciable length of time. If you have it all figured out let the rest of us in on the secret, would you please?

Thank you for saying this. “I love to travel and be adventurous” is often code for “I don’t know what’s missing inside”. I’m happy you are finding you 💕

Thank you for making this video. I find so many creators sharing only the highlight reels of travel when there's lots of downsides too. I find travel is usually worth it but it can be tough. Dealing with health issues or bad weather or a place not meeting your expectations is hard. The mental health and internal thing is huge too. If you're already in a bad mental space, travel will not cure that long term, only temporarily. Travel has become so glamourized. I definitely have some work to do on this front and I'm glad you made this because I feel less alone.

What a quality video. You put words to many unspoken thoughts and feelings we all have. Everywhere I go, there I am.

@thedavidboland

Жыл бұрын

Everywhere you go that’s where you are ;)

I can relate; some people travel all over the world to find the perfect place where they will be happy, but we must cultivate happiness within us. If we can't be happy at home, in the long run we probably won't be happy anywhere else.

I always liked that one saying, Wherever you go, there you are. I interpret it to mean that it doesnt matter where we’re at, what we have, what we experience, who we’re with, we’re always going to have to live with ourselves.

In the words of Dorothy from the "Wizard Of Oz" "if I ever go looking for my heart's desire again, I won't look any further than my own backyard; because if it isn't there, I never really lost it to begin with."

@22norac

2 ай бұрын

I was also thinking of Dorothy saying "there's no place like home, there's no place like home, there's no place like home" when he was describing being homesick.

This is really refreshing. It takes balls to get on here and really open up to the world about these intrinsic human experiences we all must encounter. I like this channel , and your perspective on life.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

thanks bud!

I look at travel as just one part of a fulfilling life. Obviously not applicable to everyone but to me it's just a small part of my life. By far the most important aspect of a happy life is the relationships we have with others. Whether that be a partner, friends, children, etc. I'd rather live in a boring place but have good relationships than an "exciting" city but not have any fulfilling relationships.

@Drstrange3000

9 ай бұрын

I feel that too. Even as a recluse. I'm really thankful for the select people I enjoy spending time with. I'm also good with entertaining myself more in my own environment.

@Rebecca.xoxoxo

6 ай бұрын

Big facts. True happiness comes from fulfilling relationships.

Not being an adult + inexperience + financially broke and having a poor (boring) mindset will make anyone anywhere depressed. Glad you found your peace brother

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

thanks Tony

This video is sorely underrated. The perspectives given here are so important

@thedavidboland

8 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing

I love to travel. Did a lot of it with my family as a kid and later with my girl guide group. After I moved out, I started travelling alone. It was great for a while, but one day right before the pandemic I found myself in a forest in full autumn glory. It's beauty filled me with a deep feeling of awe and amazement, like other sights had over the years. Then I realised that there was no one there with me to share it with. My family was difficult, so being alone felt better at first. I have not travelled alone since then, partly due to the pandemic, but also because I don't see the point anymore. It took the lockdowns and being 'trapped' with the same people for years to come to terms with everyday 'boring' life and the mundane. Turns out it wasn't the environment, but my own, then stoned brain. I was the boring and mundane one and travelling was just another addiction, an attempt to outrun myself. I have started to travel to actually visit the friends I made along the way and it has been way more fulfilling, even though it's pretty much always the same few places. I also moved back to my hometown after 6 years of euphoric ups and devastating downs in the community I lived in and now feel like I have finally found the meaning of home. As a bonus, I now get to explore how my city has changed during my absence!

"there is no person there is no place there is no job that is going to give you that peace within."

One of the only relatable and resonating channels i find at this point in my life

I wish I could describe with words how you made me feel... “Truth is not something outside to be discovered, it is something inside to be realized.” - Osho

This video will probably blow up

@thedavidboland

Жыл бұрын

To quote you: “good god thank you algorithm” ❤

@robertboland1907

Жыл бұрын

It already is 🚀

I think for me it is really about finding a climate that supports what I want out of life. When the sun is shining and it is warm out, I find that not much gets me down in life. I can just sit somewhere with a good book and feel truly happy, whatever else is going on my life. I can read the book anywhere on earth, but I cannot do it in the sunshine and warmth everywhere.

Dam David great reflection of oneself, most people spend their whole lives trying to resolve their inner problems, only to have 70-80 years fly by and retired while held back with challenging health problems. Its good to know youve figured it out, congrats and i wish you well, Good for you man, keep going.

Thomas Jefferson said that traveling makes a man wiser, but less happy. I'm extremely grateful for what I got to do - 53 countries and 50 states so far - and with so many trips to SE Asia I'm looking at retiring there (especially if the U.S. alternative is never to retire). Especially instructive was seeing how many expenses were much less or just went away in other places. It can help if you're an introvert who notices a lot of stuff. OTOH, I'll agree inasmuch as if the real problem is inside it won't fix that.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

thank you for your share

I have the exact same problem and social media - especially Instagram with the annoying travelgram influencers don't help. It was almost ironic seeing the footage of my home country in this video. I'm so happy I came across this. Thank you for your perspective, much needed.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

blessings

At 20, I had to work. I didn’t have money to travel the world. I never really knew what I was missing. I’m 48 and just went to Rome from the US. It was fun, but I’m fine being back home. Rome is extremely expensive.

@Timithos

10 ай бұрын

And dirty as I recall. You didn't get a chance to skirt on over to Florence?

@Golfing422

10 ай бұрын

@@Timithos Naples and Pompei were the only other places besides Rome.

@leodoingthings1706

9 ай бұрын

Where i us you live that rome is expensive? I might need to come to usa😀

The BEST video ever!!! It popped into my suggestions out of nowhere and I am SO VERY HAPPY that I clicked on it! I am crying happy tears in here! This is exactly how I have been thinking about traveling. And I always wanted to let other people become aware of this...and here you are, doing so brilliantly with the subject! And yes, I was feeling a litte crappy this morning and this brought me so much contentment and peace. I am where I should be an all is well. That is the feeling what I got from your video. And that is a mighty feeling! Everybody should see this video! As it also helps many to realise the reason for their own lives. And create the life that they desire! Have a fantastic day!!! 🥰😄😄😄

I found the same thing - however I feel I overcame it during a 6month trip in Asia that I had. I realised its not where you are, its what you do where you are. Like anywhere finding what this place offers and using what you have. If the place has good beaches, explore the beaches. It's being present and noticing what opportunities are around you. Surfing is a good example. When you surf it becomes about finding the best waves, looking at the tides and getting on the water. Maybe you start at a surf school that you've heard about, and then one thing leads to another. You naturally meet people in that community. By the end of my trip I was in what felt like paradise with amazing people. Paradise is in the eye of the beholder. I met other people who were miserable in the same place that I was. I think it comes down to a perspective shift and your personal journey and experiences. What is the universe trying to teach you ? What does this place have to offer and how can I make the best of it? Letting go of my ideas of how it should be (expectations) and discovering what the real place really has (presence/ learning). In the end I think my depression came from an unwillingness to explore / learn, and the place only provides a different set of its unique opportunities. I like to think of it like this at the moment, but that might change - I don't know..

I found similar lessons with my travelling. The first trip blew me right open to new experiences, a new way of living and new lessons, then by trip three or four I found I was just collecting stamps on my passport and there was still an emptiness; I wasn’t doing the true inside work. The end of my last trip was in 2019, about six or eight months before Covid blew up, and when it did blow up, I said to myself, “I’m going to come out of this better than how I went in.” And I did, I learnt about finances, started learning different languages, read a huge amount of books, gave up drinking completely. I’m nowhere near where I would like to be, but I’m headed in the right direction. I feel like I’m ready to start travelling again, so from January through to September, I’ll be travelling through Eastern Europe, and I had to find a way to travel without drinking, so after reading Cam Hanes and David Goggins books, I decided to run some trail runs, nothing crazy, all three will be between 45 and 78km, but it will be a bigger challenge than anything I’ve ever faced before. I’m kinda nervous, but pumped at the same time.

@Browny84

11 ай бұрын

As an aside, in that time I also went from hating my hometown and dreaming of an escape to having a much more peaceful existence here and dreaming of buying a place to grow my roots in, close enough to my family to see them regularly, but far enough away to be my own man.

@angryturtle777

9 ай бұрын

Just curious How do you manage to finance your travels? Do you work? Do you have a family?

@Browny84

9 ай бұрын

@@angryturtle777 I work away from home in mining and heavy industrial construction. It can be a lonely life, I miss a lot of special occasions with family and friends, but I make pretty decent money with the flexibility to work as much or as little as I want.

@angryturtle777

9 ай бұрын

Don't miss out on Romania. It's a beautiful and varied country.

@Browny84

9 ай бұрын

@@angryturtle777 I won’t have time on this trip. I’ll be mostly spending time in the southern Balkans; Bulgaria, Macedonia, Albania, Montenegro, and then I’ll scoot up the coast to Slovenia before I run out of time.

Its rare to find someone as honest as you, these days people just act perfect.

Thanks for creating this. I felt the same way for many years and thought the answer was to escape my boring and depressed reality and moving/finding a partner. But reality is that you must work on yourself or else no matter where you go or who you meet, you'll still be the same person inside.

@automnejoy5308

11 ай бұрын

I agree that's it's all about you and not the external trappings, although I think it's futile for most people to try to change. Instead just accept yourself. Accept that you're a "miserable and boring" person. I'm not kidding. All that means is that you'll reject society's image of what it means to be miserable and boring. Because it's society's fault that you think that way. You've been saturated with videos, music, books, etc, that tell you want you should be doing in order to be happy and interesting. But much of it is lies and even if it's not, it's all subjective. What's interesting for one person is not for another. You'll actually find some peace when you understand and accept this truth, and crazy enough, it might make you a bit more interesting (by your own true standards) and optimistic, even. Trying to go against your natural personality and "push yourself" to be "less boring" is what will deepen your misery every time. You'll be letting society get you down, internalizing the lies you've been told and trying to attain some unattainable version of yourself. You will only be successful in doing something interesting if you genuinely want to do it. Simply pushing yourself because you want to "change yourself" into some image that society has broadcast to you as the "ideal" is never going to work.

In the 15 years I have been watching youtube, this is the most fulfilling and comforting video I have watched! A BIG THANKYOU FROM OZ 🇦🇺

This is truly inspiring!!! I am currently in the same stage as you, where I ran away from China and came to attend universities in the U.S. and then transferred colleges from East to West because I didn't feel this was what I wanted(bad weather, school being in the wood), and after a successful transfer, I still didn't feel happy. And I was looking for a travel plan to Europe this summer on KZread until I found this video then I realized I am the reason that I'm not happy at all. Anyway, thank you for this great video!

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

thank you for sharing!

Wow, this hit deep! Resonates perfectly with what I'm experiencing now after 7 years of travel (with study in the middle). I'm just so disconnected from everything, indifferent. But it's hard to stop! There's always the next awesome place or event I have in mind. It's hard to turn around and go back... Thanks for this video, helps me process what's going on in my life.

Being present is so important. Making the most of what you have today rather than chasing goals all the time is where happiness starts to occur. I think sometimes we all get caught up thinking if we did this, had a new job, a new city, new friends, new hobbies, life would be better. But when you get that goal, you eventually realize you'll get bored again and find a new "thing" to chase. Grass isn't always greener on the other side. It's just greener on the side you water it.

Goddamn this sounds exactly like my story, and I'm at the tail end of it. I've spent my 20s trying to desperately find this magical land where I'll find the people I fit in with, and the woman of my dreams because I always felt out of place in my family's home land, and what I learned is that, while there are other great places to live, my home will always be my home, and already has almost everything that I could want. That and California is 100x worse. I think it's time to build a good life for me and for/with my family, and bring the world to me instead of chasing the world.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

thank you for sharing

@automnejoy5308

11 ай бұрын

@@thedavidboland California is 100x worse than what? lol. Kind of a ridiculous statement. Are you a Republican?

I find that having concrete and realistic long term goals helps me deal with my current situation. However, I do find myself becoming lonely and depressed when I travel. I'm fine at home, but I get this urge to travel once in a while but then I resort to alcohol to pass the time. I also have a strong desire to find someone and have a LTR, but I feel more comfortable being by myself. I'm quite the introvert, but I love kids and want to have them in the near future. I'm 43 and feel it needs to happen soon.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing

@alejandrodelgado5829

11 ай бұрын

Thailand

@danielscheiber2688

11 ай бұрын

I am Daniel form suiss, come with me in 3 months to the philippines.

My ex gf was a traveller, she got stuck in Peru while in pandemic and we met there. It was great until she started falling in a loop of not knowing what to do and me trying to helplessly help her. Then we moved to her birth country, she felt great again, and depressed all over again and the wanderlust came back. Unfortunately at that state of mind is hard to have a relationship. Now I cannot go back to Peru for visa restrictions and this is not my country but I am in this process of finding myself alone here and accepting things the way they are. I do not hope we get back together just wanna find my own mental peace.

@thedavidboland

10 ай бұрын

thank you for sharing... I hear you. wishing you well on your path my friend

The people who encourage me to travel the most because they travel often, are usualy the people who are most unhappy with their lives and escape from tough decisions.

Yes this does resonate 💯, I realized this in my 40s, don’t get me wrong life is a struggle, but it doesn’t have to be a losing battle in my mind.

This was my story. Filed bankruptcy at like 26 and started driving now I’m 33 in Birmingham working on the foundation. Thank you for this.

@JD-eq8bc

11 ай бұрын

Are you Jay Scott the singer?

@juswolf22

11 ай бұрын

@@JD-eq8bc I actually am bro

@JD-eq8bc

11 ай бұрын

@@juswolf22 I actually am sis, bro

@juswolf22

11 ай бұрын

@@JD-eq8bc my bad what’s some of your fav songs of mine?

@JD-eq8bc

11 ай бұрын

@@juswolf22 which JS are you?

Hi~ Thank you for posting this. I have felt SO SIMILARLY to everything you've spoken about. Im happy to know im not alone in that feelings and the reassurance that I am the problem, not everything else. Thank you.

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

aw thanks Kait keep doing you

I’ve literally just moved back to the UK after living abroad for 5 years. This video is exactly what I needed to hear this morning. Thank you!

@thedavidboland

6 ай бұрын

I feel ya, wishing you well on your integration and next phase :)

Awesome video! Moved to my dream country a year ago and while it did raise my mood all the internal struggles I had from back home came with me. As if by changing our external environment we thought it'd fix what was all along an internal issue.

Thank you for sharing. I had similar reflections. but you know what? Once I understood all this, I started traveling without expecting to find anything, just to rest, meet people and places. We just have the urge to explore and this is okay.

This is such a situational subject because different people are going to have different outcomes. I’ll be forever grateful that I traveled and had so many experiences. It was a hurdle overcome just to realize I could travel. That breaks you free. If you’re lonely at home, you will be lonely anywhere. The thing travel does is bring new perspectives and ideas. If you can’t make friends at home so you’re not going to make them anywhere else. Sometimes home is the best place to be in the end. But you have all of those memories which is something you don’t want to sit around without in your old age.

I relate to this so much. From 21-26 I was addicted to travel. Caught up in a cycle of living at home doing temp jobs and travelling. I lived for travel. But wherever I went, I was always miserable and anxious. I realised i was running away from my problems. When I started my healing journey, my desire to travel got less and less and now I'm perfectly okay with never going to an airport again.

Happy for You. Well made video I know some of the places you showed. I was suffering from a deadly depression for over 20 year I know no matter where I went it didn't help much. If any one else reads this comment and just can't get free from depression. Be paitent and trust that it is possible to get free from this no matter how imposible it may seem. This is what helped me: Longer walks in nature. Realization that I am not my thoughts and feelings. That I can actually choose how I want to feel about anything that is going on within me or around me. I feel happy or I feel sad is just a thought pick the one you enjoy more. When nothing is working just know This too shall pass. With Love ❤ from SLOVEnia.

@LilyGazou

11 ай бұрын

Working with a naturopathic doctor can help too. Sometimes depression can be relieved with a change of diet, sunlight, exercise etc. it’s worth a try.

I learned this without physically traveling but using psychedelic compounds. I’m now much happier in life where I am because I am there ;)

‘It is not a change of air that you need but a change of character.’ ~Seneca~

Can completely relate to this, I also found I was the reason I was unhappy and running away. Despising my home city, but I also have found the more I let go, the easier it is to enjoy my life in the moment.

Many years ago I used to hate the place I was in and blamed it for my frustrations too. However, not to the extent of what you went through. I still don’t love the place I’m in, but I know that it is not the problem. Luckily, I’ve been able to travel and live new experiences, but I’m aware that it’s not about the place you’re in, but the people that are around you.

“Traveling ruined my life” - very privileged statement.

Iv been finding that holding the mindset that “i am living in a moment in the past and in this moment, or the things that are common and familiar will whither away” as a first step to experiencing presentness

Nice. "We shall not cease from exploration. And the end of all our exploring. Will be to arrive where we started. And know the place for the first time." ~T.S. Eliot

Wow, very insightful, I’m living in Los Angeles and that is my thoughts living this city, probably finding peace in other small city but your speech is on time “there is no person, there is no place to find peace that is within”. Thanks

@thedavidboland

11 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing

@Timithos

10 ай бұрын

You definitely need to get out of California at least temporarily to gain a perspective. Pick a place where you won't run into similar people though.

Traveling today is not what it used to be! Family ties were close, people travelled together, came back to their routine...it was really nice. But too much freedom of having so many places to travel can have it's downs... Thanks for this video! It really resonates with so many of us and we never thought of putting it out there...

@jakelesnake4927

7 ай бұрын

Indeed, particularly the mobile phone and 4g has radically transformed travel. It takes a lot of courage and energy to interact with people you don't know, often it goes wrong, if there's any excuse to avoid it it's no wonder people choose to do so. But a lot has been lost.

That is very brave of you for making this video and telling your story. I am happy for you that you had the strengh to change your life and make yourself happy.

I think I called this out of you. So good to have this mirrored back to me. Thank you for your contribution here.

One day I'll be proud when this channel grows to a million subscribers

@thedavidboland

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate you ❤