The reason I stopped travelling.

In this video I share my story and journey about the downside of travel, the reasons why we travel and how can we bring the magic from travelling into our everyday lives, even as a person living in one location. Footage shown is from the following locations:
Ireland (Wicklow), Turkey (Olympos, Lamos, Mersin, Kas, Kabak, Yaniklar), UK (Devon).
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  • @thedavidboland
    @thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

    Here's the free meditation for confidence and empowerment: winning-writer-8322.ck.page/26454c7a9b

  • @BB-mq9qk
    @BB-mq9qk Жыл бұрын

    “Wherever you go there you are”.

  • @mozar5175
    @mozar5175 Жыл бұрын

    When I was in my twenties, I wanted to travel the world. I did travel to many countries and I certainly saw beautiful places. I am now 59 years old, I have the money to travel, I have the time, etc. The only thing is that I don’t have a desire to travel anymore! I realize that home is the best place to be. I live in Canada and I know life is not any better anywhere else.

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    Жыл бұрын

    beautiful - I lived in BC for 18 months a few years back. it certainly changed me. thanks for the comment :)

  • @JVlk-tw6fs

    @JVlk-tw6fs

    11 ай бұрын

    @@thedavidboland I think each and every person should travel to different countries, plan routs himself, meet new people to learn some lessons from this and than settle down. Some get stuck in this, some take more time, but if you don't do this you will be pretty restricted in your judgements about other places, countries and people and you'll probably have regrets and issues with valuing your peasefull life.

  • @akirathedog777

    @akirathedog777

    9 күн бұрын

    ​@@JVlk-tw6fsi majored in composition and wrote multiole ballets and symphonies, through art i made friends from everywhere in the world who i still talk to 20 years later. I have studied the culture and art of dozens of country as an etnomusicologist, to the point that my japanese/german/chinese friends are startled by the familiarity i have with their cultural heritage. I married and had kids, sent them college, and cared for them everyday. I guess im a regretful ,close minded loser to you huh?

  • @dshoec
    @dshoec10 ай бұрын

    The older you get the more you realize nothing beats your home!

  • @FloridaMan-ie6yk
    @FloridaMan-ie6yk Жыл бұрын

    I'm about to go on a 6 months trip starting next week. I know it will be lonely, all my family and friends are here. I'm doing it because I love nature and I want to experience different biomes and landscapes, where I'm from is a concrete jungle for miles and miles. We all travel for different reasons.

  • @paulbrown5839
    @paulbrown583911 ай бұрын

    This is essentially the story of The Alchemist book by Paolo Coehlo. Aside from the adventure, what you were searching for when you went travelling, you already had. It was your mind preventing you seeing that. But, you had to travel to come to that understanding. The key is to realise this, which you have done- and then settle before it's too late - there is a window of time to settle down, once you pass 40-45 its very hard. The problem is, you have to make changes in your behaviour in your hometown, which is not easy. When you travelled, you were forced to socialise. In the dorms you were literally forced to be socialble. Back home you can procrastinate. You don't have to socialise because you can do it tomorrow. You can hide away and plan your next trip. Even if you settled in one of these far away countries, you would eventually come to the same feeling as you have at home. Trust me, i've done it. Each time you go on a new trip, you get depressed because deep down you know you are wasting your time - you will never find what you are searching for - because its not "out there", its inside. You already had it. The "kingdoms all inside" my friend, to quote a song.

  • @thenigerianfile

    @thenigerianfile

    9 ай бұрын

    Well said. Great book as well.

  • @gaiusho4906
    @gaiusho4906 Жыл бұрын

    Its so deep but so simple. Happiness is found within, not externally. Open our eyes to see the beauty in our everyday life. And go out to make magic happen! Thank you for sharing this heartfelt raw content.

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    Жыл бұрын

    thanks Gaius

  • @jimmieoakland3843
    @jimmieoakland384311 ай бұрын

    I haven't done much international travel, but I've been in the southwest (U.S.) quite a bit. Thing is, that is mostly desert, which I really love. Vast, empty spaces, incredible vistas. My trips to Dublin, Paris, and London, as nice as those places are, pale in comparison. No more visiting cities for me. I've just lost my taste for crowds; I'd rather stay in my room.

  • @xLillyLx
    @xLillyLx Жыл бұрын

    I understand you so well! First time I moved away from home was the same for me. I was excited about being on my own, away from my parents. And although there were great experiences that shaped me into the person I am today, loneliness did catch up with me. But then I would leave again, find a new place, feel fine for a while and then get lonely again. Eventually I realised I was running from my problems and that the "I'll be happy when.." doesn't ever work. I am currently working on being content with who and where I am presently. (That doesnt't mean I don't still want to see the world but for different reasons) Anyway, like your content, you got a new subscriber here!

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    11 ай бұрын

    thanks for sharing!

  • @florentalicevlogs543
    @florentalicevlogs5438 ай бұрын

    I understand this so well. This is the truth, I do think people HAVE to travel not only to understand it, but to believe it and being able to apply this mindset into their everyday life. Hearing it and understanding it is not enough, so fly around the world and enjoy, until you can really understand it. ♥

  • @thenigerianfile
    @thenigerianfile9 ай бұрын

    Perfect timing. Thank you.

  • @CoachDeBora
    @CoachDeBora11 ай бұрын

    It appears that I "stumbled" upon your channel but I know I attracted it. After watching this video and another about ceasing to travel a calm enveloped me. After traveling around Mexico, then to Africa, and spending 3 months traveling thru Europe, travel fatigue led me back to Mexico, my home since 2021. Now the only place I get excited about traveling to is back to the US, where I'm from, to see family and friends and familiar places. Your videos have given me the green light to stop thinking I ought to be searching "out there" for connection and community and instead be okay with looking closer to home, i.e., Mexico, and within myself for the connection and community for which I yearn. Good content.

  • @RKKY-mf7fe
    @RKKY-mf7fe5 ай бұрын

    I never liked travel because it was stressful. My hometown is not great but I learned to be apart of different communities and it’s very fulfilling.

  • @antzmal5464
    @antzmal54649 ай бұрын

    That is probably the most inspirational and straight video about the real side of traveling I have ever watched. Somehow I am sometimes in similar point, so this video is making me think...

  • @robertross8565
    @robertross85652 ай бұрын

    No matter where we travel or where we go, we can’t escape our thoughts. Therefore, wherever you are you right now, you need to address those negative thoughts and emotions. Rather than running away turn around and face your demons head on.

  • @ortilio
    @ortilio4 ай бұрын

    Well said❤

  • @stevieferland
    @stevieferland4 ай бұрын

    This is how I've felt after coming home from traveling. I miss being part of a community.

  • @santikingkong
    @santikingkongАй бұрын

    thank you man

  • @jittevanveen5611
    @jittevanveen5611 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this beautiful video. I’m watching this as I am quite lost with travelling and considering going home. Trying to see trough my thoughts of that being a failure. But if it’s real connection that I am looking for I know I can find that home. Watching this helped me

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    Жыл бұрын

    thank you for this lovely comment. I appreciate you. I know the pain. Sending love

  • @ferrarispider800
    @ferrarispider8002 ай бұрын

    very informative video thankyou

  • @rjmass6
    @rjmass6 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and realisations, it made me reflect on my own journey. Great channel, and all the best brother ❤

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    Жыл бұрын

    Same to you!

  • @chilloften
    @chilloften Жыл бұрын

    I experience nostalgia on the regular, for places I’ve been. It’s pretty much a detriment to the present moments. But on the other hand, I’ve had it all set, all paid for, to stay in place, and it felt like a trap. So I remain confused on what’s best. And it’s weird how people can show up in your life and tell you you are nothing, and you’ll believe them and feel worse. When in reality you have more, did more, than they ever will. And that lesson is to stay firm in self in contentment.

  • @vcelkaMaja12
    @vcelkaMaja12 Жыл бұрын

    This resonates with me so much. All the time I wanted to travel because I wanted to escape people, I imagined only the green wide hills with noone in the sight. And by fortune I found places like this near places where I lived. Not wide green hills just no people in sight. It became my place of peace. I would love to find more places like this. The problem is the more people know about them and share them, the more people visit them. Now I have no desire to travel at all and I´m thinking why?

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    Жыл бұрын

    maybe it's just the season you're in. I'm in a season of appreciating grounded nature of living in one place, and in time I will fly away again for a time... it goes in cycles.

  • @victoria_hypnotherapy

    @victoria_hypnotherapy

    8 ай бұрын

    @@thedavidbolandAnd it goes in cycles… This really hit hard for me.

  • @joanadias5039
    @joanadias5039 Жыл бұрын

    *living/experience this feeling* i think all the traveler's *(not just phisic traveler's but internal traveler's too)* confront themselfs with this kind of feelings at some point of their lifes You have soul! I feel you like a part of my own soul Everything i like in myself like a soul traveler, all the wisdom that this crazy life gave me, i see it in you and i feel connect with you, like a true soul brother that i totally understand and care*** your voice is so calm* it really reflects your divine that you already conquer in yourself* i salute you* Thank You for Existing and Evoluting! You represent everything that i respect in a human being and in a soul* Thank you magical being! i will listen your meditation to sleep* Thank you so much for helping a total stranger in the other side of the world just for being you and having the courage to open up your truly you! Really beautiful humble vibes**** Thank You****

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    Жыл бұрын

    thank you for sharing!

  • @ilham78
    @ilham78 Жыл бұрын

    U can't escape from yourself. You must love yourself more than anything and anyone and then life will support your thunking buy giving you grate experiences. Otherwise nothing and no one will make you happy.

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    Жыл бұрын

    I love this perspective :D

  • @marks-0-0

    @marks-0-0

    Жыл бұрын

    I think what people often seek is already around them, community, routine, meaning and life goals. I've done some travelling and nearly emmigrated a couple of times but glad i didnt. If you have you travel to find whats missing then the problem is within you.

  • @anouschkatsk1
    @anouschkatsk1 Жыл бұрын

    Also being around family. This video really made me think.

  • @alicia3915
    @alicia39154 ай бұрын

    Thank you.

  • @liperodriguez391
    @liperodriguez391 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this video, i am about to move to Canada for two years on a work and holiday visa and what you've said gave me some clarity.

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    Жыл бұрын

    thanks, enjoy the ride :)

  • @timidpeter
    @timidpeter4 ай бұрын

    If I don't travel, my mind does ;)

  • @eoKingNoodle
    @eoKingNoodle10 ай бұрын

    This was such a gift to come across today, I have family and friends travelling right now, these cool places, I've never travelled any myself and lately I've felt my life is so boring. The views in this video really put me at ease, made me land and enjoy being right here right now. Thank you :)

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    10 ай бұрын

    you're so welcome

  • @red.guevarra
    @red.guevarra10 күн бұрын

    There's a segment of people (especially on social media) who are simply OVERDOING it. Be it their real passion, or for views, likes, validation, etc. I have a full-time job, albeit a remote one but I do have to be at home in the same city as my job, and obviously a stable residence, yet I still get to go on SEVERAL domestic and international adventures throughout the year. People just need to chill, manage their time and money well, have a work-life-travel balance and they won't miss out.

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    10 күн бұрын

    love this!

  • @SheilaTrueLove
    @SheilaTrueLove3 ай бұрын

    New Subscriber here, and I liked it very much. Thank you.

  • @CDGbyGraziaCosta
    @CDGbyGraziaCosta2 ай бұрын

    I've just booked a trip due to dissatisfaction. I dislike my current living situation, my job isn't fulfilling and I feel stuck, I lack genuine friendships, and my past relationship failed due to the lack of emotional bonding. You're correct... the pain remains within us, and no matter where we go, we carry it with us. Certain patterns tend to recur like a curse. Traveling becomes an escape route.

  • @Cill441
    @Cill44111 ай бұрын

    More people know this already, but it isn't anything to be or feel guilty about. It's an insight that I find each one of us feels and has built within ourselves. Tapping into this is huge personal growth. Lost feelings are normal feelings I've realized. In the transition of grieving anything or anyone we love or care deeply about or for, even self. We can say this is true in almost any area of our lives. If we don't feel home within ourselves loving of the someone, somewhere. We are as is us taking as a turtle carries it's home and the knowing of doing so. Taking ourselves along the way daily. Through all our emotions. No matter what they are and nurture ourselves along the way. This is insight, wishing it were more instinctual. As to know when the rythym of our own heart isn't beating well. In tune, skipping a beat, or has it added a few beats and to the why of this all. I've come to realize. Yet the why is it as it is, or why doesn't someone change it. The better thing I've come to say is what might I myself do to make this experience different now. I want it shared with all. I'm glad you share what has danced like a pinball of thinking inside my minds thoughts throughout my life. I myself as the pinball in my youth; you're talking about the big things and able to give such great visuals along side of the articulation in both educational and layman terminology. For this, a hero are you. Never stop. 💛🌞 My breath of fresh air.

  • @carolinehudson3503
    @carolinehudson35039 ай бұрын

    Just found your channel , very interesting , I haven't travelled and don't really want to either ,

  • @josebaca3075
    @josebaca3075 Жыл бұрын

    This is very beautiful.

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    Жыл бұрын

    thanks Jose !

  • @user-hn9fv8jp9c
    @user-hn9fv8jp9c Жыл бұрын

    Great content thank you

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    Жыл бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @keaven360
    @keaven360 Жыл бұрын

    love your video❤just discover your channel

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    Жыл бұрын

    welcome to the party!

  • @benjamesv
    @benjamesv11 ай бұрын

    So true

  • @DexterWho89
    @DexterWho896 ай бұрын

    There's mafic everywhere. ❤

  • @MrVril
    @MrVril2 ай бұрын

    👍👍👍👍👍

  • @glaucia2601
    @glaucia2601 Жыл бұрын

    🤩🤩🤩

  • @NadiaDubininaValues
    @NadiaDubininaValues Жыл бұрын

    If you are trying to escape, then any place is a prison...I love travelling! Connecting to people, nature, yourself.

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    Жыл бұрын

    yes

  • @runningwithewolves
    @runningwithewolves Жыл бұрын

    Me when i traveled to yellowstone and still couldn't escape myself 😅

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    Жыл бұрын

  • @Sezfluffy
    @Sezfluffy11 ай бұрын

    its better to work abroad than just travel.

  • @ArbitraryZer0101
    @ArbitraryZer01018 ай бұрын

    Tldr; if homebody, just stay home.

  • @martinginsburg7222
    @martinginsburg72227 ай бұрын

    You're always traveling. Everyday is a chance to meet someone/something new. Travel doesn't start with a visa, passport or visiting new line drawn in the sand.

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    7 ай бұрын

    this is something I have come to realise over the years. there is an opportunity for adventure in each and every moment :)

  • @Sezfluffy
    @Sezfluffy11 ай бұрын

    you ran awwy from feelings than dealing with them

  • @JamesBrotherDJ
    @JamesBrotherDJ Жыл бұрын

    😎

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    Жыл бұрын

    :)

  • @jenna2431
    @jenna243110 ай бұрын

    I think that the correct word is necessary. Instead of traveling, wandering. Meandering. Roaming. Adventuring. Vagabonding. Escaping. Fleeing. Running. Lost. All these mean different things.

  • @ericbentti
    @ericbentti Жыл бұрын

    Do you surf ? Ireland has good surf. Surfing = Happiness 😁

  • @thedavidboland

    @thedavidboland

    Жыл бұрын

    sometimes, i'm on the wrong coast for regular surfing though

  • @ericbentti

    @ericbentti

    Жыл бұрын

    🤙🏻keep up the good work

  • @OrhanDursun92
    @OrhanDursun9229 күн бұрын

    Come to islam my friend.

  • @BrokeAgain
    @BrokeAgain8 ай бұрын

    Nah, travel and enjoy fine restaurants and nice hotels... get a nice rental car. Get an escort too if you can. Problem solved.

  • @akirathedog777
    @akirathedog7779 күн бұрын

    Travel strikes me as a priviledge first worlders version of the college experience. Did you study the world? Did manage you understand the economics that run the world? Politics? Science ? Maybe art? Did you fix your relationships? Did yiu achieve professionaly ir personally? No but I "traveled" through europe so im better than you 😎 Translation: i put my family in debt for a 2 week vacation in touristy spots