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RULE #1....PLACE NO ONE.....ABOVE YOU

It started from childhood. All adults around us demanding us to behave in ways that pleased them and did not make them feel upset. We felt responsible for their feelings and tip toed our way around ....and it followed us into adult until we eventually....hopefully... get to the point when we say 'I REALLY DON'T CARE..'

@victoriajarvis2260

2 жыл бұрын

Very true. I feel sad that so many can't have insight like that. It's taking me so much time! - I'm almost 70, but I'm starting to "get it". It's been a tough life, but by the time I pass on, I will be free.

@heartsmilegold2668

2 жыл бұрын

@@victoriajarvis2260 yea, if we can help others learn this from as young as possible, life would be so much easier for them...however we are never too old or young to learn/realise..if we can find ways to show this point of view to others not by the thousands and thousands but just everyday people you come across your doing the world a great service!

@cheesygaming3464

2 жыл бұрын

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@jessegizaw755

2 жыл бұрын

Yessssssss!!!!!! Sooooo trueeee

@yugiwitastick

2 жыл бұрын

Well I'm never going to get to that point.

I definitely over analyze people too much and I’m very hard on myself 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ I’m starting to change that 🎯

@coreygilcrease1851

3 жыл бұрын

Same.

@abrahampalmer8761

2 жыл бұрын

Tbh I think age really plays a part of why we care so much of others think of us

@moekobida2502

2 жыл бұрын

How ?

@tobiadenuga4109

2 жыл бұрын

@@abrahampalmer8761 yeah in highschool

@topworld4364

Жыл бұрын

Same 😢

and that's why most social media is poison

I have *never* heard anyone put it this way. Thank you.

@helenbostock2350

3 жыл бұрын

it great

@coreygilcrease1851

3 жыл бұрын

@@helenbostock2350 it awesome

@najahariffin8892

2 жыл бұрын

Yes,my thoughts exactly....thank you for enlightening me on this problem that has been hanging in my head for the past 50 years.....

I will better myself even if my family thinks I won’t. Medication won’t fix me life’s stress and knowledge will. I am done being paranoid, anxious and not being able to process any thoughts. I’m 20 and I need to change I need to take a chance to get to know myself. It’s going to be hard but maybe i will be able to overcome this. I will maybe one day come back and edit this comment and let youse know where I’m at. But till then I’m back to it!

@ieva5948

3 күн бұрын

You will definitely overcome it. Best wishes.

"Play a better mind game" Yeah, because why not! :) I love that.

@3KeyElements

5 жыл бұрын

It really makes a difference - let us know the changes you notice!

@rainbowwarrior5282

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

I finally got the way to get rid of what others think about me. 4.02 exactly as a teenager I suffered alot and I m not studied well due to wotam.

I think it's very important to truly get to know yourself first.I would not want to force myself to be a talkative person if in my essence I'm not. My goal would rather be to feel comfortable as an introvert then chasing the extrovert persona that does not comes naturally to me. Figuring out your true self is not as easy as it seems, but it's essential.

@littlecandygamer

Жыл бұрын

Im having massive trouble figuring that all out

@iamfree3260

8 ай бұрын

So true, once , the only reason I spoke was for attention from a male .... But it made me be an actor. If I didn't like him I would if been an introvert then. I'm an extrovert naturally though when a man loves me so much without me seeking attention lol

@iamfree3260

8 ай бұрын

This comment was at the second top, so it must be vital , it's what I also thought

@iamfree3260

8 ай бұрын

Chasing, yeh, it's pretty much a rat race, attention seeking etc lok

So much fun! If what other people think of us are made-up in our own head anyway, why don't we make something up that uplifting and motivates us to become a better version of ourselves.

@WReinebo

Жыл бұрын

Would you really believe it? I honestly have trouble believing things I know I made up...

I'm 23 and I'm struggling to go out and live my life because of this. I feel by my presence I make people uncomfortable. 😪 I'm also terrible or scared of showing my emotions around people. This is ruining my life.

Questions To Ask Actively On Your Own 1) What do I think of them? 2) What do they think of me? 3) What do I think of the situation? 4) What do they think of the situation? My takeaways from this video: Your brain will always search for an answer so you have to feed it the answer you want. When you think of what other people think of you, you start to act differently based on their opinions. You don't see the problems caring what other people think of you creates in your life. It slows down your progress.

@mohan7448

3 жыл бұрын

y

@brainultra2632

3 жыл бұрын

Z😅

@jpeg.600x2

2 жыл бұрын

think more like "i don't need to care about what these people think in five seconds cuz they can't be no Einstein, Tesla or Tyson"

@utubestalker.dotcom

Жыл бұрын

it's an interesting way of quieting the mind and it does help to refocus your inner efforts on being more confident and freeing up your mind for other things

@BismarckCore

Жыл бұрын

Not just feeding it the answer but also believing on it!

It took me 43 years to realize this. I now see the mistakes I've made, and why I haven't been as successful in life as I thought I would be. It's for this very reason. I'm hoping that I can push past this. I guess being aware of it is the first step...

@safekicker

2 жыл бұрын

I hope you're faring well on your journey since making this post. I'm also 43, and also just now arriving at this information, and seeing how my past has been dictated by this concept of validation. Mind blowing... yet, we press on, right?

@semmywap2916

2 жыл бұрын

Hi I’m 18, can you share how it hurt you?

@tomzarafa382

2 жыл бұрын

Never to late

@tiffinstingkatssimple9112

2 жыл бұрын

me too. 42 years

@TommygunnZ06

Жыл бұрын

@@safekicker Im 40 yo and just today realized i have this issue my entire life and thought it was normal!

This made my day... you had me laughing, crying, smiling, and relieved. Thank you.

@alinerugira5973

2 жыл бұрын

His voice wen he laugh😂

This is the reason why I am so unproductive at times. Thank you for this.

I always cared what people thought about me. I'm 50. And it does effect you. Was worse for me when I was a Teenager...

@AryaStark47

3 жыл бұрын

Aw hope you got rid of it now. It really sucks especially when you try to find your identity in teemage years. Its never late though. Love ya take care💙

Basically being cocky when thinking of what people think about you and you will be more confident because you will believe in yourself more 🙌

really, realy inspirring (btw: does anyone mind my typos? Of course not, they love them!)

@lurunindae4479

3 жыл бұрын

But seriously i didn't notice it till you pointed it out lol

@theorangetunic8397

3 жыл бұрын

I can confirm that I do love them

Finally i got a term to explain my mental condition

I really needed this, thank you. I have been stuck in my head for years and I am praying I get better

@abrahampalmer8761

2 жыл бұрын

Same

LOVE THIS. Thanks, Kirk.

This helped me so much today thank you. I can finally put an end to all this madness my own mind created for the past 5 years

Kirk Duncan.... you are amazing 😊 thank you for your videos !! Xx

Definitely what I needed to hear. Thank you

Thank you for making these video's and being here! Life saver big time🤘

What I have been through today made me realise this and this has just put a stamp on it. Thank you👍🏻

I love the way he enjoys delivering the topic! Thank you. I needed this.

Thank you for this amazing and succinct way to get on top of this issue!!

This was so helpful! Thank you, I needed this! I absolutely LOVE your energy and personality!

Thank you for helping me free my mind... I am forever grateful 🙏

Thank you this is what I needed, I'll be watching this a few more times so it sinks in

This is life changing. Appreciate it.

EXCELLENT! -Thank you sir concise- uplifting- humorous - straight to the point. Makes the world a better place.

What a great perspective & strategy!! Thanks so much for sharing!

So happy to of come across this channel!! Thanks 3 KEY👍

I needed this on this Sunday morning

This is golden. Love it!

OMG YOU ARE RIGHT ON...I HAVE BEEN CRITICAL AND I SO GET EVERYTHING NOW THANKYOU THANKYOU!!!

Keep smiling and making these videos because you’re amazing for smiling while you talk about the issues you do

This is golden ! Thank you !

ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT!! THANK YOU

Thanks for your video coz I've learned a lots! I will try to apply it in our daily lives!

Totally different way of looking at it. Brilliant stuff, thankyou

I heard so many similar topics but nobody can explain this issue like the way you do, thank you

Kirk Duncan your amazing.. so helpful thank you x

Thank you best advice ive listened to. Thanks

I find his word so powerful and helpful whenever I start to feel negative in my head I just open his video and makes me not to worry about what others think of me

You are a very charismatic and warmhearted person. And I love your message.

Needed this today!! Thank you!!

Wow this was so freaking useful, thank you so much!! 😂 I am just cracking up at how simple this is.

Omg thank you SOOOOO much like I can't express how much you have helped me

Omg this makes so much sense. Thank you!

Wow, thanks, said and placed in such a great way to look at things like this and best for you as an individual to apply it to your everyday life

Wow this was so helpful! I struggle to say no to people and I’m a real ‘people pleaser’ so this is great! I think your fabulous thanks

This definitely what i need to watch thank you!

This is awesome, thank you🙌✨

You put the ball back into my court. Okay create my own realities via what I choose to focus on. Thank you!!!! Awesome, awesome video.

I’ve enjoyed your videos for years. I am always happy and excited to come back and refresh my mind by re-watching your videos! 😊❤📚

Thank you sir...thank you so much..this helps...❤❤

Second page particularly got me with the right words. Thanks 🙏

THIS IS THE BEST VIDEO ON THIS TOPIC. PERIODT. 💯❤

Thank you Kirk!!!

Thank you so much for this idea.

Love this!! Make up positive thoughts about yourself.

@3KeyElements

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly Michelle!

@justslightly7794

3 жыл бұрын

And then they'll manifest even if they're not 100% accurate

Refreshing, thank you 🙏🏾

This is amazing and so true 👌🏽

Simple and direct as this video was..and some may never know just how severe this can be.. but I feel this video is THE place to start for me . This issue has spiderwebbed into so many other thingsalso. . Where I was getting at .. I feel this is going to change my life. Thank you 🙏

Wonderful perspective and make a lot of sense, since everything is a reflection of us and the way we see things. Thank you.

Ive watched many videos on this topic. This video way and above 'hits the nail on the head' and the help we need ion worrying about ourselves and what others think of us! Thankyou!! :D

This is excellent and very much needed thank you.

I want to cry. This puts it so clear.

Amazing! Thank you so very much!!

You save me, Thank you🙏🏻

This made me cry. Thank you for helping me heal ❤️

I never thought of it this way. This is the video I needed to watch. Thank you.

Great video and energy! 'There's the questions, you can effn see them'

THANK YOU SO MUCH YOU SAVED MY LIFE

I have watched countless hours of self help videos and this Video was by far the most helpful to me. Easily explained and gave me a lightbulb moment. Thankyou!!

I must say i never give my opinion on videos. But you went right to the point. Thanks for explaining this in a so easy way. I think i am blocking myself most of the time. Your recommendations are practical and concise. Thanks for this.

2 minutes in I had the thought that you brought up in the end. I am super critical of people as well as myself. I know I have a habit of "projecting" (adjusting my behaviors based on what I think someone else thinks). It is a very bad habit, especially in relationships where you can just ask what they think instead of leaving it to your imagination to"fill in the answers" (which is usually not the true answer). But for me that extends to strangers as well...(i.e. people I can't just ask). I have hobbies and things I want to do in public that I cannot do because of fear of what complete strangers might think of me even though there is absolutely no basis to my thoughts, nor should I give a crap what strangers think.

@fml5910

4 жыл бұрын

l always am adjusting my behaviors based on what I think someone else thinks of me. This is why l'm single, for life.

This helped me so much thank you!

THANKS SO MUCH!!!!!!

Thanks for this helpful video.

May the Lord bless the creator of this video and the viewers. Thanks alot I feel better 🔥😎😊

This is amazing. Wow. Thank you!

Thank you very much. This was very useful.

So very true. Very well presented. Thank you!

Thank you so much for this video

That was sooo helpful, thanks alot !

Thank you for this great enlightenment.

This is amazingly helpful.

Thank you for this!

I'm so glad I found this video thank you so much it really helped me

Loved it! Did I mention I love it😊 helped me so much😊

Ahhh, feeling so relaxed now. Obviously those people are thinking how wise I am and they wish if they could be anywhere close as to my level 😉.

i feel awesome right now, thank you so much man, thank you thank you!

Super helpful. Thank you so much

One of the most brilliant concepts I have listened to

Thank you so so much. This was brilliant! Super helpful!!!!!

@3KeyElements

2 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome!