'So if you listen to the average person for their average advice, you will end up like the average person'!!!! So true. Margarita's advice never fails💯

@mudskipper6702

9 ай бұрын

Actually it is a contradiction or Paradox or inescapable Zen Koan

Im 17 y/o. I’m taking sociology in HS, today we learned “lookin glass self” the concept- we perceive & change ourselves depending on what society thinks of us. I’m happy too say I have not changed for anyone- for society, I dress goth, white face, dark makeup, dark clothes, bird nest hair. Get looks but those make me feel better. Means I’m different, people take their time too talk about me, weither good or bad. Be yourself guys, like she said no one is gonna remember you anyway, do as you please. Have a lovely day

@mikepiccolo32

9 ай бұрын

Yet your not because the majority are looking like you

@chibisoda7083

9 ай бұрын

​@@mikepiccolo32where do you live that the majority dresses goth? I know it's trendy right now but I wouldn't necessarily call it the majority.

@mikepiccolo32

9 ай бұрын

@@chibisoda7083 Are you cool ?Do you listen to Aerosmith?

@rose-sk2qv

9 ай бұрын

Well I'm from the 80s lol so I don't really get surprised or look at anyone, and I don't care what someone looks like, back then punks, skid heads, new romantics, and mods were all around I admired the punks they went through a lot of thought to get their look just right always clean tidy well groomed

@plaguedocta817

9 ай бұрын

@@mikepiccolo32 not necessarily, not where I am from. They dress a little alt, not fully traditional goth.

Key point you made at the end - you could be working to please someone for years, do one wrong thing, and they'll abandon you in a heartbeat. When you self-validate, every mistake is a new opportunity for growth and self-reflection, and you'll never abandon yourself in that way

@dearbrave4183

28 күн бұрын

❤💯

Indeed. You can build 20 years of approval and lose it in one day, it's genuinely pointless. Thank you Margarita, love you !

@2raw2war2

8 ай бұрын

Reminds me of a line a book that has stuck with me… ”One ah shit wipes out every atta boy.”

My mother use to say “You’re a psycho,” when I called her out on things, and was right. I, finally, learned to respond with “I may be, though, that doesn’t imply I am wrong.”

"It is of no consequence what others think of you. What matters is what you think of them." - Gore Vidal.

"You will be failing at smth you didn't even want for yourself in the first place!." Ouch, thaaat resonated big time...

“I care if I like me”💗

When i tell you i watch your videos almost everyday ? Because one you are telling me about myself and also I’m learning and growing and I’m not even gonna lie to you i am a black man who suffers from anxiety and anxious attachment and also seeking approval from others because i was raised in a household where i got criticized everyday so it affected my life heavy. But watching your videos these past few weeks/ month I’ve noticed a change in my mindset, mood, relationship and attitude. So thank you margarita 🌷

It has to be talked about more. That going against the social expectations is lonely sometimes but you find yourself. The same way they say that it is lonely at the top and it is ok. Marching to the beat of your own drums is worth it.

Freeing myself of people’s opinions cause they are mediocre and want me to stay stuck cause they hate im trying and having chance especially my toxic family and I’m listening to my intuition and my spiritual beliefs and myself period. I feel free and at ease. Taking baby steps to reprogram myself and felt this video. Thanks for posting your truth and inspiration. ❤

I recently started running to podcasts, instead of music. Been a runner for 18 years. WOW. What a game-changer listening to these podcasts while striving towards your running goals! Or any goals! SO. MUCH. VALUE.

Hi Margarita Nazarenko, I am very much grateful that I have found someone like you in the youtube platform. You have saved my life and help me get out of self-hate and depression. Keep doing this type of content. :)

This is a sword I'll fall on, I've said it before, but I'll say it again, I love the way you put it that I gotta get my sh!t together. It's not in a judgmental, non caring way. And you don't talk us to death 😅. 30mins of saying the same thing different ways like other channels. Thank you 🙏🏾 🥹 you give me the spark that I can be better

You know what is funny? I recently realized that if you tell anyone that you would like to try something new, for example a try going on a new career path. 9 out of 10 people will tell you “oh this is going to be so hard for you, not many people succeed in this, if I were you I wouldn’t try this.” And you rarely have people who say “yeah, go fo it, good for you, good luck!”. Why can’t people just mind their own business. These “advices” are not really advices, people are trying to hold you back and I always wonder why.

Needed this! Getting the silent treatment right now from my bf. I owned my mistakes and know I should walk away, but keep caring about being mean or his opinion of me.

@jello4323

9 ай бұрын

Silent treatment is mental abuse

@anonymousnation5235

9 ай бұрын

You can care about him from a distance. You don't need to be in his life just because you love him. Silent treatment is a punishment and if you don't walk away, you will be rewarding him for punishing you and he'll keep repeating this behavior. And the time will come when you will be overwhelmed and snap at him. That's when he'll call you crazy and make it all your fault. So it's best to silently walk away now. And never look back. Show him that his petty punishment won't work on you.

@therealscot2491

Ай бұрын

What if silent treatment is a punishment for something bad she actually done?​@@anonymousnation5235

Really really needed to hear this after having a desperately paranoid evening - I’m always seeking the approval of my colleagues when I don’t need to. Thank you 🙏

We love you, Margarita! Always just what we need to hear when we need to hear it!! ❤❤❤

This is such a lightbulb moment for me! So simple yet very powerful xx

Not everyone trying to fit in is seeking approval.

This video is SO on point - a colleague was asked to leave due to a disciplinary & seeing the opportunity I asserted myself to ask for the transfer (which is also a promotion / allow better work life balance) they loved the idea ans it was granted without second thought I’ve had to deal with criticism from my ex manager for leaving them but also grappling with my own self judgment of what ppl might think of me but your video made me realise I’ve worked super hard in my career and am seen as trustworthy and reliable so when the opportunity arose I should NOT be apologetic to assert myself in the workplace or worry what ransoms may think of me. Also a man would NEVER even question asking for a promotion or securing the deal.

Thank you so much for your work, Margarita. Over the last couple of months I listened to all your podcasts and youtube videos. And on a daily, I also watch your instagram content. It really has changed many of my negative beliefs, helped me to create my own identity and create the vision for my life. All the best for you and your lovely family x

I really needed this ❤️ how can I break free finally

Can't like this video enough!!! Happy for you to onboard better help as a sponsor x

I have been anticipating your next video! Yay! Your wisdom is so needed! And I've been doing therapy on better help for 2 months now and love it! Literally working to find my self!

this video is so moving in every positive way possible, you’ve somehow encouraged the beast of courage that i thought was covered in anxiety and worries. thank you so much

Love this, Margarita! Thank you for always sharing your wisdom 🤍

Omg, this almost made me cry. Thank you so much for this video❤ so inspiring and loving 🙏🏼

Straight to the point. Thank you great advice! Congratulations on having sponsor for this video, great job!

This video came right on time. I realize that I spent waaayyyyy to much time explaining myself to people. No more…

Margarita, you have been doing a fantastic work here. Seriously. After I began my self knowledge, my personal development, get obsessed with me, my ancestry, I lost a lot of friends. They were nice people, but I wasn’t vibing with them anymore; we were no longer sharing the same perspective, feelings and lifestyle. I didn’t want to gossip, to mock others, to complain etc. And meeting your channel, you podcast, I felt “okay, this is ma people!”. So, thank you very, very much. Hopefully, I will find my people off-line too!

Margarita, I truly love watching your videos, as a young girl it’s really helps me understand life a bit better. Thank you THANK YOU!🥰

I'm very grateful that I found your channel. Your wisdom is golden. ✨️ Thank you so very much. 🙏

congratulations on your new sponsor!!! i needed this so bad.... cryin on the treadmill 😂 thank you thank you thank you! Sell what's from truly within to win!

I’m trying so hard to control my emotions! I love your come back! Lol👏👏👏

I have followed you for years and haven't watched your videos for a while until recently. I'm loving your transformation! I've always thought of you as down to earth (even when you did luxury videos), so of course you give good advice

The timing of this video in my life is GOLD ✨😍 thank you!

I love all your videos and I’m so glad that I stumbled on you and your sessions They have changed me And I’m glad I hopped out the box! I love you for your dedication and honesty

really love your inputs!!! thank you SO much for finding really the best explanations for how we can actually really believe in these truths such as "don't care for what others think" :)

I am resentful that I never stood up to bullies, that I allowed myself to be empowered, controlled, manipulated. I resent that I had to adapt and adapt and adapt in order to stay employed for 17 years to pay bills because company politics. I resent that people are not fired when they should be because politics. I probably need to take all that resentment and build a campfire and watch it burn while I focus on the good stuff. A work in progress.

This is exceptionally brilliant and thoughtful. Thank you Goals!

Hi, Margarita, I love your videos and content; they have positively impacted my life. Please continue to make videos with tips and advice regarding becoming more confident and secure. I would love it if you made specific videos on self-validation and self-soothing. Cheers!

Standing ovation for this 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

I need to work on my self. Thank you for giving the information about better help. I needed this.

OMG this is solid gold! I honestly feel this is truth! ❤

Love and support to you! Thank you for your cool, inspiring, out of the box thinking.

M33 and have very high standards on myself and others. The mental prowess and thought pattern behind everything you say is extremely impressive for a woman/man/human/etc. I’m in awe from a philosophical standpoint and every video you put out is genuinely teaching others how to handle complex destructive thoughts in a straightforward manner. You could honestly do world tours with venue bookings where you hold your teachings to others and I’m confident people would show up to hear you.

Great lecture. Just what I needed right now. Thank you a bunch. Kisses from Greece. 😘

My god the words were amazingly said! Very powerful video! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

Yes!!! Started tough! :)

Wow I love your content. This was what I needed to hear

Thanks for your book suggestion ‘Attached’ in one of your videos, it’s changed my perspective after my breakup two weeks ago.

I genuenly need your videos in my life.

you are amazing !!! this is powerful

It's scary how relevant this video is to me. I've been improving as a person and getting all these you've changed comments. I'm done explaining myself. And I'm done living for others and regretting. It's my life and I'm going to live it how I please

Thank you Margarita. ❤

Beautiful, insightful message!

I really love this advice. It’s just so hard to know WHAT i want.

Needed to hear this! Thanks

Thank you Margarita, спасибо Маргарита 🌸

Thank you 🙏🏾 this is what I just needed right on time

Great video Margarita! I love your content. 😍

This video resonated with me on whole different level, and gave me a whole different outlook on life. Wow thank you

I agree with you, manifestation is REAL! -thank you for your videos

Needed this, thank you! 💗

Brilliant advice! As Always ⭐️⭐️⭐️❤️

Thank you for this ❤ love your content.

Thank you Margarita ♥♥♥

thank you for this ❣

I needed to hear this today. ❤

Thanks for sharing!

"How about I plotted it this way" we both moved our heads the same way at same moment 😅🥰

Hi ive just subscribed to your channel and the first thing that caught my attention is how raw you are with your emotions and im starting to learn how to manifest my feminine energy and listening to helps me put things in to perspective and valids what im feeling and going through mainly what i need right now because all my life ive been a people pleaser so im trying get out of that habit and im tired of doing and giving my all only to get the short end of the stick...my best wishes to growing your channel and your future endeavours 😊

@user-by6wm3by3y

8 ай бұрын

@@Tel3greeme-Margarita_Nazarenko sorry I didn't have telegram I just downloaded it so I would need your contact info which isn't wise to ask in the comment section lol😇💙

It was hard to stop but this video really mind blowing you really help me stop caring now ❤💖

Your videos provide great perspective on many things. It is a wonderful reminder to do what is right for you. No one else is living your life. Trust yourself. Even if you fail. At least you tried. You learn from it. It doesn't mean you shouldn't try again:)

Wow i love u so much! Thank u for the bomb advice, as a young woman i really appreciate you

Thank you for these words, really helped me ! Greeting from Paris :)

I’m so glad you touched on this, I find it BIZARRE when people react that way once someone is sponsored. Every single one of us is a consumer, what is so wrong about advertising & advocating for a brand you truly appreciate & enjoy?

Your videos are quite amazing. I fall in love with your channel.

always looking forward to your content

I just love this woman. So smart. 💗

I love this video. Thank you.

I could listen to you all-day

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 good for you I’m so tired of people getting so butt hurt anytime somebody makes money or has success. Like isn’t that the goal for people that you like to be successful and have money? If not, it’s just gonna be all the people that you don’t like that don’t stand for what you agree with having money. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Thank you mam❤

Love this!

This is gold

SO glad you included hammock lying! yes 🔥

I loved this!

You are so amazing !!!

Thank you for your content and motivation

'You're never gonna win anyone's favour by arguing with them. You're gonna win by knowing your truth and being a good person.'-Margarita

That’s so intriguing! When I heard you say you were working with Better Help - I wondered if you were familiar with the controversies, surrounding ‘em; as well as the response, in the comments.. And then, to hear you say “I PLOTTED it” - and that be what this video is about? I couldn’t love it more. That’s exactly what I tell myself, when I reflect on things that I hold some semblance of shame for (which, isn’t much, surprisingly- being raised in a family full of nearly only women, which, included a narcissism diagnosis). Everything in my life I have plotted and schemed, in one way or another. Even when my life is less than ideal, on the outside - I know it’s exactly what’s necessary to achieve my goals, and live the life I desire to live.

I love your videos so inspiring xxx

You always give good advice. :)

Thanks!

I think it's important to be aware of how you come off when you are around dangerous people. I was indifferent to the reactions of my neighbors for some time and now I live under constant threat of physical violence.

Thank you ❤

They want u back in the box so true lovin this

Amen to this video 🙌🏾