4 Simple Ways to Stop Caring What Others Think of You | The Mel Robbins Podcast

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Imagine how liberating it would be to not care about what other people think of you. You’d take more risks. You’d stop holding yourself back. You’d make more money and have more fun.
This episode is hilarious, relatable, and packed with takeaways and research. It’s entertaining and personal, and yet still empowers you with 4 simple ways to stop caring about what other people think.
Want to know what life looks like when you don’t care?
I’ll go first.
One of the benefits of not caring about what other people think is that you don’t take yourself too seriously.
Why? Because you have much more important things to care about.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you'll learn:
00:00 Intro
03:26 Hilarious story of me taking my shirt off at an LA restaurant.
09:50 Christine says you’re not supposed to show up to meetings this way.
17:25 Christine’s profound point about judgment really opened my eyes.
20:02 When you stop worrying about how you look, others around you will too.
25:25 It’s not normal to wear a child-size space suit in front of your students?
32:42 Once you align your values with your actions, nothing else matters
36:36 What I think about ugly troll comments so that I can rise above it.
41:29 If you’re part of a gossip loop, here’s what you need to do.
43:23 Jessie could not stop laughing after I did this.
45:36 How can you give honest feedback and not sound like a jerk?
52:25 The wake-up moment for me around relationships.
57:59 My four rules about how not to give a sh*t about stupid stuff.
01:16:57 Kendall revealed something to me that I still can’t believe.
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  • @jennifervoigt2631
    @jennifervoigt2631 Жыл бұрын

    Im sure these women are great people but they are a true reflection of what society is struggling with. Being authentic to who we are seems to be unacceptable.

  • @DomaniqueStorm
    @DomaniqueStorm10 ай бұрын

    The people that work for you are EXTREMELY UPTIGHT! I think this is honestly ridiculous and idk how they are living normal happy lives trying to fit into all these ridiculous society norms. I thought they were going to say some real idgaf stuff but this is absurd. Mel, you are actually the normal one and this has given me the courage to really not gaf because people are going to judge you ridiculously anyway. Love You Mel and please don’t begin to take any of this any way! WEAR THE VALENTINO’S WITHOUT NAIL POLISH. I’m Soooo For It!

  • @DomaniqueStorm

    @DomaniqueStorm

    10 ай бұрын

    Oh and everything they said hasn’t stopped you by far.

  • @rickieredlack6086
    @rickieredlack60869 ай бұрын

    Nips, toes, sweat... most judgmental, superficial comments. Thank you so much Mel for actually being authentic. Clearly we need way more of it in this world.

  • @yvettevictoria1482
    @yvettevictoria14828 ай бұрын

    Mel is the goat. It’s very clear she has reached a freedom to be herself, in a way that others can’t imagine.

  • @paulaoneill2389

    @paulaoneill2389

    4 ай бұрын

    I really apire daily to get to this level of not giving a shit genuinely xx

  • @julieburkhardt61
    @julieburkhardt61 Жыл бұрын

    The employees sound pretty uptight!! LOL! I'm glad I never had to work in a corporate environment. this is great!😂

  • @rosiefajardo5794
    @rosiefajardo57949 ай бұрын

    Oh my goodness these ladies are wayyyy too judgmental!! I could NOT work with people like them much less want to be friends with them. They are way too uptight. Keep being YOU Mel! This is why we love you!! ♥️♥️♥️

  • @veronicaharwood8033
    @veronicaharwood8033 Жыл бұрын

    Only 20 minutes in and sounds more like they have their own insecurities & are putting too much energy into shit that doesn't matter. That's why Mel is the boss & a mover in her life. She is putting her energy & focus on the things that matter to move the dial, to better show up to the meeting to be a cleaner in life.

  • @rozburt6473
    @rozburt6473 Жыл бұрын

    One of the reasons I listen to Mel is because I feel like she is honest and real when she communicates and shares with us.

  • @eloise3280
    @eloise3280 Жыл бұрын

    The judgement in this is unreal!! Is Mel not giving a shit or keeping it real? Mel, I love you for what you are not...I salute you for bringing humour to this - cause damn, I can't - the average woman on my current continent cannot afford good, supportive shoes for work, standing all day - nevermind judging another person for (assuming they had choice) in footwear. Ugh, I bless these ladies with deep empathy and compassion for the unknown situations of others, I bless them with the deep knowing that their exterior look/presentation is finite and fleeting and I also bless the shit out of them with gratitude and humility for their 1st world problems. Rock on Mel, with your tits out all the way, your bare feet in the dirt and letting the F bombs rain down in glory! You are authentic, real and natural - a breath of fresh air in a plastic society.

  • @lindaevans4753

    @lindaevans4753

    Жыл бұрын

    Oh boy, do I love your comment!!! This is the best, ever!!

  • @lindaevans4753

    @lindaevans4753

    Жыл бұрын

    @eloise3280 your comment is absolutely spot on!! The best ever!!

  • @eloise3280

    @eloise3280

    11 ай бұрын

    Naming the point of view (HR) does not cover up that these practices/the advice is rooted in judgement. Somehow natural and even 'not pretty' is perceived as wrong. Even if corporate/societal norms are the driving factor, it does not make it just, inclusive or kind. Yes, boobs out around an immature group/corporate is highly inappropriate. This is not the case here though...Did you notice the refined wrongness for being more natural? The lady needed Vitamin D, can we allow her to do what her body requires without making it wrong? Did you hear that having blood vessels dilated in the face after exercise in a hot room is now 'looking like shit'? I don't prefer it AND it is okay if you are fine with that sort of setup too. I would like to see less shame and wrongness when it comes to the female (in particular) body, and other natural body processes, especially from other women.

  • @eloise3280

    @eloise3280

    11 ай бұрын

    @@elizabethbooth7084 I am speaking to that part of you (and the part of the collective) that thinks; looking pretty will protect you, that you need armour to be amongst strangers, that not being made up is "your worst", the part that will avoid getting a coffee even though you want to - because your face is red and you fear judgement so much, you got put yourself right (according to others) first. Only because there is so much more to humans and what we look like is overemphasized in the current culture. I don't agree or disagree with you.

  • @eloise3280

    @eloise3280

    11 ай бұрын

    I am never forced to do anything...If I don't like the way someone smells, I move. Who forces you to sit in these situations you find yourself in?

  • @erica8245
    @erica8245 Жыл бұрын

    Normalize showing the reality of everyday life and stop glamorizing social perfectionism, sooo love this! Authentic living ❤

  • @JennyGaston

    @JennyGaston

    Жыл бұрын

    Sadly as a woman of color if I went to a store looking like crap, I might get followed. We have to acknowledge that not all of us can completely free ourselves from social norms without major consequences in this nation. At the same time, I do believe we must find places to show up as a true authentic selves😊

  • @lidiarona4335

    @lidiarona4335

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@JennyGaston can I repharse : completely free ourselves YET

  • @hollyramsey235

    @hollyramsey235

    9 ай бұрын

    You daughter has a gorgeous voice!!! As for your video after yoga, you looked like you had just left yoga, thanks!!! I love that you are your genuine self in videos, meaning sometimes you look like a real person does at home and don't feel the need to always have coifed hair and makeup. Thanks for keeping it real. 👍

  • @debbysimon120
    @debbysimon12010 ай бұрын

    My daughter is a tattoo artist, and tattoed all over her body EXCEPT her face. In the beginning I was horrified, people stare at her. But now I am so FREAKING PROUD of her, she owns her own business, purchased her own house, has a GOLDEN HEART, has raised money for the unfortunate, and is socially aware and gives back! She was SELF TRAINED, did not go to college but COULD HAVE with her grades. People judge her by her looks, but she is the most AWESOME PERSON I KNOW!!!!!

  • @katherineveras1577
    @katherineveras1577 Жыл бұрын

    Omg those ladies are way to sensitive! Love how real Mel is! Makes me love her even more! Thank you for being transparent and super down to earth.

  • @wendyhannan2454

    @wendyhannan2454

    11 ай бұрын

    That’s absolutely nothing to worry about, Mel looked fine, I’m glad she didn’t give a shit. Mel’s comfortable in her own skin , and I’d like a body like hers. Open toes shoes, are they kidding ? They need to get real, and if you want to stay in the sun, that’s up to you, let them go into the shade. ( Let them 😉 ) I think these ladies are a little snobby to be honest.

  • @KathiFrost-xp9ly

    @KathiFrost-xp9ly

    9 ай бұрын

    Totally Agree! I love MEL even more now. Talk about uptight and freaking Puritanical. Mel was with all women. She had to cover her nips. Get outta here. How does she work with them? They wish they could be as cool 😎 as MEL!

  • @LindaFoyle

    @LindaFoyle

    8 ай бұрын

    I agree, Mel, you help me so much how to live my life FREE.

  • @ann_98373

    @ann_98373

    6 ай бұрын

    It’s shocking how women are always the one judging other women. Men wouldn’t care if their male colleague is exposing his toes or is shirtless. Who gives a s* that your nipples are showing during a meeting with 4 other women colleagues in a very informal/ casual environment? Come on.

  • @brynne77

    @brynne77

    Ай бұрын

    As I said in another comment, there is nothing wrong with wanting to see a video where the person doing the podcast has cleaner language. It doesn't mean the person who wants that is 'uptight', it just means they want more clean, respectful language and there is nothing wrong with that.

  • @athena_the_hun1097
    @athena_the_hun1097 Жыл бұрын

    36:55 Because I’m smarter than YOU FF!!! 😂 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I love you Mel!!!

  • @forestfernfairy1939
    @forestfernfairy1939 Жыл бұрын

    All I can think is your team is too uptight ;) I love that you don't care what people think. it's an inspiration to many people that always feel judged by others. Also, I think that playful don't care nature could have something to do with ADHD, because everyone I know who's diagnosed, are more playful and less serious. Thanks for being awesome

  • @maeishabubb3730

    @maeishabubb3730

    Жыл бұрын

    Lol I might want to think so too but they are a great balance for her. I love them all

  • @kimberlykleparek-xe2qo

    @kimberlykleparek-xe2qo

    Жыл бұрын

    I agree I have adhd and am playful and can act goofy …. Hmmm Never considered that theory.. Maybe true!

  • @ritazita1111

    @ritazita1111

    11 ай бұрын

    Yeah, jeez, who knew Mel's team is so uptight? Yikes. Seriously, OPEN TOED SHOES?!!!

  • @wendyhannan2454

    @wendyhannan2454

    11 ай бұрын

    Yes absolutely, I love Mel, she’s being her self, get over it ladies your too critical.

  • @paulagallacher4184

    @paulagallacher4184

    10 ай бұрын

    Who Cares if you have bare toes in a meeting. I never heard of covering toes for meeting. Your employee is too uptight

  • @auntiemame7076
    @auntiemame70769 ай бұрын

    Mel you have the RIGHT attitude. Do not give a shit what anyone else says. And your team needs to keep their judgments and opinions to themselves.

  • @brynne77

    @brynne77

    Ай бұрын

    Maybe so, but I do wish she would watch her language a little bit. I've watched a lot of her videos now and have noticed more and more that she will let F bombs and the 's' word slip. She can get her point across just as well without the constant 's' and F words. With the language she sometimes uses, my grandmother would be a bit offended by her videos.

  • @lolasibanez2741
    @lolasibanez2741 Жыл бұрын

    Mel, you devoured this. I adore how at peace you are with yourself I don't see anything wrong with you showing off your feet or being at ease in your own skin you are so genuine and honest and don't put on this façade based on society insecurities and preconceived notions.

  • @now591

    @now591

    11 ай бұрын

    maybe a touch of narcissism also. Comes with being a multimillionaire. There is such a thing as having a sense of decorum, out of respect for others.

  • @lolasibanez2741

    @lolasibanez2741

    11 ай бұрын

    @@now591 It appears to be a catch-22 I understand what you are saying because some people place a high importance on social customs. I believe that in some circumstances acting a specific manner would be respectful. Personally, I find that letting go some of the formalities of personal settings makes me feel more honest and relieved. Having respect that goes beyond decorum and just having genuine interactions without formality can be positive. :)

  • @magichappenswithyou
    @magichappenswithyou Жыл бұрын

    Being your authentic self has got to be the most liberating experience ever, despite social norms and expectations. Thank you Mel for leading the way.

  • @LoriBothwell

    @LoriBothwell

    Ай бұрын

    Totally 💯 ❤

  • @MERCERENiTY

    @MERCERENiTY

    22 күн бұрын

    Be free... Always.

  • @silkegoss3753
    @silkegoss3753 Жыл бұрын

    I don’t see a problem with the sun bathing. You go, Mel!

  • @jessinaespinal8206
    @jessinaespinal82069 ай бұрын

    Mel Robbins is my spirit animal! I think this is why I'm not invited to meetings at work. 😂😂😂 I just don't see anything wrong with any of the moments they were all 😮about.

  • @lori2606
    @lori260610 ай бұрын

    I think telling Dr. To use her title as Doctor. SHE Earned it! And she's a woman that had to work even harder! Men still have it easier. So good for you to tell her to embrace her title! ❤

  • @jenleavey
    @jenleavey Жыл бұрын

    That’s why we love Mel! She is real!! ❤ That is how she connects with real people!! Mel, please don’t change!!! 😘

  • @cobblecattt

    @cobblecattt

    11 ай бұрын

    Exactly. Her being "polarizing" pushes away the people who can't handle her and attracts those who fiercely admire her😁❤

  • @omarkabha1479

    @omarkabha1479

    10 ай бұрын

    Mel you are ruck! I like you so much and appreciate your amazing humility. ❤❤

  • @dc3262
    @dc3262 Жыл бұрын

    I can’t tell you how badly I needed to hear this entire episode. I’m a self loathing SOB and have imprisoned my 50 year old self since the 3rd grade. Thank you for being real and bringing humor into my day.

  • @colleenhager4507

    @colleenhager4507

    Жыл бұрын

    Talk to Mel!!

  • @teresahodl2409

    @teresahodl2409

    10 ай бұрын

    You are never to old to Start living youre best life!!! You go ❤

  • @teresahodl2409

    @teresahodl2409

    10 ай бұрын

    You are never to old to Start living your best life!!! You go ❤

  • @terrymyraejtytk4304

    @terrymyraejtytk4304

    7 ай бұрын

    I'm very self conscious how I look and what people will think.

  • @BaraSchmidt
    @BaraSchmidt6 күн бұрын

    Those who matter don't mind. And those who mind don't matter! Keep it REAL! Stay true to YOU!! Thanks Mel and Team!

  • @Birdmacher
    @Birdmacher27 минут бұрын

    This is why Mel has a show and a successful brand.

  • @ItsFinallyMyTime
    @ItsFinallyMyTime Жыл бұрын

    Huge ah ha moment!!!! “If you look at the people in your circle, and you’re not inspired, you’re in a cage…..”

  • @kellydiscount3613
    @kellydiscount3613 Жыл бұрын

    My favorite quote of this episode: “you are you 100% all the time”

  • @lynnesettle7590
    @lynnesettle7590 Жыл бұрын

    Holy crap!! I live barefoot as often as possible! I am a Massage Therapist & Reiki Master. When will we evolve beyond antiquated "nipples & toes must be covered" male demeaning women, thinking???!!!! I am so happy Mel rises above this nonsense! I am truly shocked at these corporate women and their boxed in ideals. Hopefully Mel will help them to ease up and see how free REAL WOMEN can be in their own confidence. Hugs to you all!! I am still trying to get this!! Love, love, love YOU, MEL!!!!! Be.YOU.tiful.

  • @silvanadanielarandleman7044
    @silvanadanielarandleman704411 ай бұрын

    I am here crying Mel. Thank you. ❤️ I was bullied in corporate America and i wasn't a shark. This was so healing. Not the right fit. I found my purpose and I am grateful for the experience and for the opportunity. I learned a lot.

  • @nakayak2357

    @nakayak2357

    11 ай бұрын

    Aàlll0

  • @sophiesoulsister2222
    @sophiesoulsister2222 Жыл бұрын

    U being u is what we luv about u and please don't stop cussing. A wise older woman once told me "it's none of my business what u think of me" and since she told me that, I live by that. Thanks for being real!

  • @valodimopoulou8865
    @valodimopoulou8865 Жыл бұрын

    You nailed it Mel! I used to worry about how I look till my early 30's, I am 36 now, I have some fine lines when I smile and some adult acne which a couple of years ago I would spend an hour covering it..Right now literally I don't give a shit, I am perfect in my own imperfection!

  • @albertsax8238

    @albertsax8238

    Жыл бұрын

    Great! You sound smart,young lady!& beautiful going with your life!🧚‍♀️❤️💪🌹

  • @jness2312
    @jness2312 Жыл бұрын

    Welcome to Southern California, where the wealthiest do what they want and dress unsuspectingly casual. I’d say you nailed it, Mel.

  • @vrygrl2
    @vrygrl28 ай бұрын

    I love you so much and what you’re saying here about NOT caring!!!! Who the heck cares if your toes are exposed at a meeting!!! What the heck do your feet have to do with your character or what you have to offer? You are sooo GENUINE! I think it’s refreshing! At almost 50, I’ve lived my entire life caring what people think, and listening to you is sooo inspiring and FREEING! I finally don’t give a shit, and it is liberating!!! How you’re being described here is exactly why I LOVE who you are!

  • @heatherturner5750
    @heatherturner5750 Жыл бұрын

    You are freaking Mel Robbins! I seriously don't think your shoes matter AT ALL! I just came across your content and I absolutely love you!!!

  • @fastjimmysoutdoors5286
    @fastjimmysoutdoors5286 Жыл бұрын

    Mel, you looked awesome in the picture. In the military the commander determines the uniform of the day. I think in this situation you are the commander, dress as you want.

  • @texaslaulie2565
    @texaslaulie25657 ай бұрын

    Mel, In 1996..I was 30 years old with 2 small children going through a divorce..the children's father had started nasty rumors about drug use and I was devastated as I thought If anyone believed him …my children could be taken from me! I was hysterically confiding in my dad and he said “let him put it on the 6:00 news, everyone that knows you knows the truth and those that don’t know you…well, why would you give a F what they think”!! We should put it on T-shirts!! Honestly 30 years later, best advice I have received!! I love you Mel!!

  • @garybritting1892
    @garybritting1892 Жыл бұрын

    We need more company leaders like Mel Robbins and Gary Vee to show people that all these silly corporate fashion rules don’t need to be followed in order to be happy & successful. Just be you…everyone else is taken.😁

  • @wendyhannan2454

    @wendyhannan2454

    11 ай бұрын

    I love that, that’s a great comment.

  • @leebeedav
    @leebeedav Жыл бұрын

    Came over for the photo and it did not disappoint!! Saturday I wore a top to the farmer's market that I love but never wear because it doesn't work with a bra. It def pushed my comfort zone as I felt I could see my nipples more than I'd like. I wore it, got a complement and lived to tell the tale here! Wooohooo! Giving less f*cks every day!! Love you so much Mel and team!

  • @MrCav35
    @MrCav35 Жыл бұрын

    As a naturist I'm shocked that other women are shocked by seeing another womans nipples, and through a top at that! Good for you going against the grain Mel and being you x

  • @user-kh1cb3kq8z

    @user-kh1cb3kq8z

    4 ай бұрын

    I wonder if they shame women for nursing in public by their actions/looks.

  • @michelleveloni1329
    @michelleveloni13295 ай бұрын

    This is WHY you are Mel Robbins and THEY work for YOU!

  • @kimberlydobbs6025
    @kimberlydobbs602523 күн бұрын

    I love whats happening here in this podcast. So it's completely refreshing to see beautiful grown ass women keeping it all the way real, being completely honest with one another and not taking huge offense and getting mad at their friends or coworkers for telling them how they really feel or what they think. I love the acceptance and I love you Mel Robbins not only because of you as a person but bc of your embracement, courage and being so transparent for other women who desperately need these things in their own lives, including mine. Thank you ladies!

  • @helenharber1680
    @helenharber1680 Жыл бұрын

    I resent how your staff takes such enjoyment in finding such fault in your actions. I hope they have your sense of humor and confidence as they age!🤔🤨😍

  • @SofiaRaeBishop
    @SofiaRaeBishop Жыл бұрын

    I'm with ya Mel. When I need my sun, I need my sun 🌞 The only place I dont want to see open toed shoes is in a professional kitchen.

  • @michelemarch2562
    @michelemarch2562 Жыл бұрын

    TELL THEM TO LIGHTEN UP! 😊😂

  • @user-sj6fq8xh2h
    @user-sj6fq8xh2h6 ай бұрын

    I never comment, ever,…but Mel, you are a saint for keeping these young ladies in your camp. Ladies, take notes. You are going to age & your comments will be brought up sooner than you can imagine….then look out! & probably in a way you will contact Mel about b/c you will feel bad.

  • @jamiehoward1115
    @jamiehoward1115 Жыл бұрын

    I absolutely LOVE that you don’t give a shit!! You are real and AWESOME!!

  • @sharonbest4983
    @sharonbest4983 Жыл бұрын

    i feel really uncomfortable and find it hard to believe how much HER STAFF were judging and getting her to conform to their norms. mel wasnt wearing PJs at the audible meeting, nor was she nude by the pool. the q that crosses my mind is: where does the judgement end? or does it?

  • @Gioli565
    @Gioli5652 ай бұрын

    I realized something eye opening. I beat myself up sometimes for saying dumb or cringe things but seeing Mel do those things is endearing and lovely! The ones who look back are the employeees looking petty for pointing out “mistakes”

  • @VTJAH
    @VTJAH11 ай бұрын

    Big takeaway is to ask, what do I value? Why do I get worried about what others think when I am doing something that I value? That’s huge. Thank you ❤️

  • @lisablackwell7825
    @lisablackwell7825 Жыл бұрын

    I wouldn't have thought twice about it. It's awesome that you appreciate your body including your toes!

  • @colleenhager4507
    @colleenhager4507 Жыл бұрын

    Really shows how much superficial BS the world worshipes! Good choices Mel!!😘

  • @erindabney2758
    @erindabney2758Ай бұрын

    If we’re lucky, each of us will have people in our lives who are important enough to us that we care what they think about us.

  • @EJRomanticizingHerLife
    @EJRomanticizingHerLife Жыл бұрын

    I listened to this today while working out and I LAUGHED OUT LOUD sooo many times!! It is a freeing escape not to give a $hit about what anyone thinks about you!! It took me a minute, but I am at a point in my life where I CARE NOT!!!

  • @OneOfNone0
    @OneOfNone0 Жыл бұрын

    We love you Mel 💕⚡️ please never change your authenticity. This world needs more!

  • @lisabrown8253
    @lisabrown825310 ай бұрын

    Being authentic is so important. Connecting on a real level - really needed these days. Yes, there are social norms, however, being free to carry yourself without self critical judgement or from others for that matter, so good for our mental health.

  • @francesgollahon7616
    @francesgollahon7616 Жыл бұрын

    OY VEY!!!! You go, girl! You taught me "LET THEM" and I am forever in your debt! Don't care if your toes are funky or not:)

  • @kerrymichelle1
    @kerrymichelle18 ай бұрын

    I spent most of my life hiding, camouflaged myself so I didn't stick out and have negative feedback and look foolish, I was depressed and practiced self preservation by being invisible.. I'm now 54, overweight, colour my hair blue, pink or purple because I don't care now, I'm a Reiki healer, I found that people smiled and say positive things about my hair, if I can make just one person smile for the day then I'm doing my job ☺️ if they are happy, I am happy 😊 you do you boo❤

  • @robzphotoz5465
    @robzphotoz5465 Жыл бұрын

    Mel, we love your authenticity! ❤

  • @juliehowe5548
    @juliehowe5548 Жыл бұрын

    Mel, I agree with you!! The person that criticized you with all those cruel things behind a computer is unhappy with themselves. You’re so Awesome and smart and loving and helpful towards everyone. It’s obvious they are jealous and don’t like their life. It’s sad that people waist energy cutting people down!! Thanks for all you do!! You’re so inspiring ❤

  • @athena_the_hun1097
    @athena_the_hun1097 Жыл бұрын

    Wow! I’m reading comments and every one is supporting you on this Mel!! Wow ❤

  • @carlaadams2482
    @carlaadams2482 Жыл бұрын

    Do we really want to live in a corporate world that is based on such shallow judgement? I remember being chastised for wearing white shoes after Labor Day. Our societal 'norms' are a bunch of made up rules that keep us from being our authentic selves. Go Mel🎉

  • @angelsharp4441
    @angelsharp4441 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you!! I have always cared what other thought because that was what my mother always taught me. She was raised very co-dependent and could never see that it was wrong. She raised me the same way, my father was always very demanding and I was taught to always cater to the men in my family. Never talk like I am smart, because someone may think I think I am better than them. Well I am the only high school and college graduate in my family and I deserve to be free to speak the way I want to. It is not my problem that others are so insecure that they feel put off by my intelligence. I have a bachelors degree in law, I am a paralegal at a very large firm and I should be proud of that not made to hide those facts because it may make someone else feels a certain way. That is not my problem. Your videos and podcast have been so liberating for me. Please never stop speaking the truth. It took me 50 years to embrace who I am. BTW your daughters singing made this military mom cry. She has an amazing voice and hope she shares it with the world.

  • @lindamellingen5977
    @lindamellingen5977 Жыл бұрын

    If this is considered bad, - and OPEN TOES bad, because..? 😀 You've gotta move to Norway, Mel. ;-). Toes out, sun wear and all. And your post sauna pictures? GREAT! We are humans, not painted dolls. Everybody is taking about the pressure on looks - and you make it REAL, and help removing ingrained shame about natural body functions. That does not mean we cannot clean up, but kids out there ar having DEPRESSIONS because of pimples. Mel, you are doing the work to let people off the hook. Well done. Out of the sauna you do not look like shit, you look like a person coming out of a sauna. YOU allow that. As far as I can see, you are a GREAT role model for people of all ages. Women shamed to NOT show their toes? Where does it stop? You make life real in a society mad about Kardeshian look, and pressure on body look and body dysmorphia. WONDERFUL. Mel. You are letting go of the shaming of women, men and being a normal human being. In my book, this is the way to go. BIG hug.

  • @JBHelena
    @JBHelena Жыл бұрын

    My take from this is that Mel is an authentic person who will tell and show you how it really is.

  • @dominiquececcon5172
    @dominiquececcon5172 Жыл бұрын

    I think those ladies have a bit of pucker in their b-holes. Keep being you. Every response they gave seemed to be based on what society thinks, what other people think, and not coming from a sense of freedom. I say you keep being you. You're fabulous.

  • @michelerogers9899
    @michelerogers9899 Жыл бұрын

    Mel, your daughter did the damn thing. She sang like an angel 😊

  • @JoanneWhitlock
    @JoanneWhitlock Жыл бұрын

    I lost confidence when I lost a lot of hair and was ill but have recently hit record again. I agree it’s important to let people see you not being some impossible perfect ideal all the time. It’s been hard though.

  • @KitaLee5464
    @KitaLee54642 ай бұрын

    I love you Mel! Keep being you! Your realness and authenticity is what we need in this world right now. Watching your videos has helped me to be more comfortable in my own skin and also the best ME I can be and i really appreciate that. ❤ Im an African American female working in corporate america right now and you touched on some real struggles we have in this kind of work environment. As I step into my role as a mental health provider, which is my passion, i know that what ive been learning from you will also help me be a better provider to my patients and I can also pay it forward. Love ya! You are beautiful, don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. ♥️

  • @rebeccaalexandermeditation1377
    @rebeccaalexandermeditation137711 ай бұрын

    I watch Mel Robbins because of the funny things you make those things that we all do in regular life, normal and funny and make us feel less of a freak because we don’t talk to about these things that we all do these things but we don’t talk about them, but we feel bad about ourselves When we look like shit and we feel like shit and we don’t want to see people but you’re like fuck it this is real. I didn’t want to show up today and look what happened when I did and you can do it too. I mean that’s the best type of encouragement there could possibly be.🎉❤😂

  • @donnaevans9894
    @donnaevans9894 Жыл бұрын

    Wow Mel! This podcast really hit home for me! I'm a guitarist/songwriter and performing my songs for people can be nerve-wracking because I've given a shit what people think of me and my work. What you said about Kendall at the end had me really thinking that I've been doing the same thing - keeping myself in a cage and not sharing my truest form of self expression. Thank you for sharing this and I always learn so much. I love you Mel. Please keep up the good work of sharing all that you learn in your life with us in your most authentic way.

  • @judylyon145

    @judylyon145

    Жыл бұрын

    ❤ Thank you!

  • @srfirehorseart

    @srfirehorseart

    Жыл бұрын

    I hope you share some of your music more after this. Maybe a few videos on KZread too.

  • @brittanyhall1313
    @brittanyhall1313 Жыл бұрын

    I am dying of laughter in the gym, ppl are looking and everything… I needed this laugh this morning. I had absolutely no motivation but this is so helping! Thank you Mel! ❤

  • @kimberlykleparek-xe2qo
    @kimberlykleparek-xe2qo Жыл бұрын

    You are NOT ugly first of all! And second, I’m the type of person that can relate to the things you do. I don’t care who like what I have on as long as I like it and feel secure in it. But I DO at least on the surface care about what ppl think. In fact I can obsess over it. But like I said, it’s on the surface, and I have to remind myself, that I REALLY DONT GIVE A SHIT. but it hurts if I’m judged negatively, UNTIL I put it in perspective and like have a talk with myself and remind myself they are assholes anyhow…. 😁

  • @user-hw5gu4mu8j
    @user-hw5gu4mu8j Жыл бұрын

    I think Mel is where she is because of who she is. Mel needs to be Mel so we can connect with the authentic.

  • @bee9098
    @bee9098 Жыл бұрын

    I love the advice you gave Dr Amy! She deserves to be recognized for her accomplishments. I think she felt undeserving and self conscious about the title. She should be proud if it!! Please don’t censor yourself to conform to society’s “rules.” We need more authentic people in the world! Open toe shoes and sunbathing at lunch should be acceptable behavior!!

  • @MsCatwoman111
    @MsCatwoman111 Жыл бұрын

    I teared up when Kendal sang - and I’m not even an American! You are inspirational, Mel.

  • @CatherineInColorado
    @CatherineInColorado11 ай бұрын

    We absolutely love you Mel for not being afraid to be yourself at all times. In fact, this is one of the sexiest traits you have. You are definitely a heroine to me for helping me to learn how not to give a s--t what other people think of me and being more thoughtful about what I really care about. ⭐️

  • @karenwhynott6487
    @karenwhynott64878 ай бұрын

    Love you Mel.❤ AUTHENTICITY is the new confidence builder. I resonate with you do deeply. 😆🤣

  • @mommaboombam3764
    @mommaboombam3764 Жыл бұрын

    First 20mins in and I can't stop laughing. Thank you Mel for being authentic. 🙏

  • @Nora-sw1by
    @Nora-sw1by Жыл бұрын

    this is SOOO different from europe!!! even, if i´m a lot more like mel😅, i´m very sure that open toe shoes never ever were an issue over here! i love that what mel (or other persons) says and does is a lot more important then how she looks - also and especially in a business context! DON´T WASTE THAT ENERGY, BRING REAL LIFE TO SOCIAL MEDIA AND BUSINESS!

  • @AbbyGarrett
    @AbbyGarrett8 ай бұрын

    13:03 - not gonna lie, I’m starting to feel a little self-conscious about my wardrobe after listening to all this judgment about shoes and toes from your team 😂 Isn’t this the opposite purpose of the episode? Mel, I’m with you. It’s funny banter to listen to but WOW do more of us need to take your example and loosen the heck up. There’s a line, but we’re generally too caught up in the meatsuits we were born into and the clothes we hide (or don’t hide) our imperfections under. Being real is so much more attractive and refreshing than being fake. You have a personal brand that stands out and bring value to others…and that’s what people set business meetings and care about. I’m sure tons of women watching this when they said you look like s***” during the video were thinking, “Gee, I wish I looked like that” instead of what they see in the mirror. Take your girls on an ayahuasca trip or something so they can experience some liberation 😂 Also love your points at 21:00

  • @Ste.Germaine
    @Ste.Germaine Жыл бұрын

    Mel is so childlike. That’s the word that comes to mind whenever I watch or listen to Mel. ❤️

  • @sharonbest4983
    @sharonbest4983 Жыл бұрын

    the last 5 minutes of the pod was by far the most profound i ever heard by mel.... bravo

  • @rickiprosper6480
    @rickiprosper6480 Жыл бұрын

    This episode is so timely. Thank you. Caring a little less what others think. It's a process.

  • @miadaleneable
    @miadaleneable Жыл бұрын

    I LOVE all the REALS of Mel Robbins. I identify with not being perfect and I love learning from (and listen more to) someone who is authentic. Like a best friend. Thanks for being you Mel Robbins.

  • @sanchezhandymen3444
    @sanchezhandymen344411 ай бұрын

    I am often covered in paint, and goo and sweat and everything else. I used to worry about it, but now I do not. I question back and forth on the subject. Appearance matters, in fact I often admire people who look "put together" BUT its hard to care when you are just getting off work and I will be dammed for being ashamed of working hard. I also understand that looking good is a great way to represent yourself. My answer to it is, we need all kinds of people, messy ones, busy ones, lazy ones, well put together ones.. so just love yourself and others just the way they are.

  • @MachellOviedoLifeCoach
    @MachellOviedoLifeCoach Жыл бұрын

    I love that you are you and that gives everyone else to be "real" which as women we have been told to shut it down, look a certain way, don't be to smart etc Women think they have to be perfect and wait until everything is in perfect place. meaning we never do the things we want to do. Be you Mel

  • @joymax72
    @joymax72 Жыл бұрын

    YOU ARE perfect just the way you are, regardless of people drowning you in their opinions and judgements.

  • @ashleyw6332
    @ashleyw63328 ай бұрын

    I don’t like how these women are talking to you. You are great Mel. Keep being you! Glad you are open to Criticism, but who cares to hear it. I get the message, I just think listening to them reaffirms to care what other people think. They are always going to judge. Love your authenticity.

  • @bernadettejoseph2627
    @bernadettejoseph2627 Жыл бұрын

    BOY OH BOY...loosen UP MY FRIENDS! None of this is crazy. As we mature and come into ourselves we have the power to be authentic and not care about rules and what other people think. Be Free Mel!

  • @staceys173
    @staceys173 Жыл бұрын

    Wow! How can you relax and be free! I must break a few rules too. I think about living more than making errors. This is getting hurtful. So many love you Mel. We have your back. It’s amazing how judgemental some people are. Life is worth living without worrying about not always appearing perfect. Thanks for keeping it real Mel! 👍😊 THANKS FOR LOVING YOURSELF NO MATTER WHAT! Great role model on air.

  • @rainbowgirl11000
    @rainbowgirl11000 Жыл бұрын

    You go Mel!!! These messed up restrictions for women are such bullshit. Keep breaking those boundaries

  • @melissamoloney5321
    @melissamoloney5321 Жыл бұрын

    I NEVER comment on topics ..... But I have too. I think as one grows older-, no wait! More experienced !!! U realize life is about interjecting more beauty into your life and the world. Thank you for the beauty you bring to this world.❤

  • @samanthaattridge852
    @samanthaattridge852Ай бұрын

    That first part was a hard watch but shows you exactly why you shouldn't care what others think. Those ladies have been conditioned by societal standards and expectations which have made them so concerned as to how others view them which causes them to judge others, it sounds exhausting.

  • @susancohen376
    @susancohen376 Жыл бұрын

    Wow, Kendall! What a beautiful rendition of our National Anthem…keep singing! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸❤

  • @ramashkolnik9713

    @ramashkolnik9713

    Жыл бұрын

    Breth takink❤

  • @jo-anneboucher1096
    @jo-anneboucher1096 Жыл бұрын

    WOW WOW WOW.... you don't know how much you inspired me at this time of my life THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! MEL

  • @sislau
    @sislau10 ай бұрын

    Mel, you and I could totally be friends. What you said at 23:16, that was literally a game changer for me back my Junior Year in HS (BTW, you and I are about the same age, just FYI). I had worried about what everyone thought about every stupid thing up to that point, and then my boyfriend at the time said those words to me, and something inside me cracked--no, SHATTERED--wide open. Haven't cared what people thought about me since. Filters? Why? And I've had SO MANY PEOPLE tell me over the years I liberate them because I don't care what anyone else thinks, and that gives permission to anyone with me to let go and not worry so much. Because, who cares? YOU DO YOU. Apply that energy to other opportunities rather than worrying about others' perceptions of you. It's just not worth having THEM judge you and hold you back. It's a self-perception thing anyway! Who cares what they think! ... Enjoy, everyone. Have a great day. You deserve it :D

  • @beckycohen5508
    @beckycohen5508 Жыл бұрын

    Mel you are a freaking rockstar! I love love love this episode! I love how real you are! You’re a true inspiration. And cheers to not giving a sh*t 🥂

  • @broaddavies
    @broaddavies Жыл бұрын

    Wow! Your daughters singing moved me to tears! Stunningly beautiful ❤️

  • @TEPO--
    @TEPO--11 ай бұрын

    "Because I'm smarter than you_ _" YES❗ SO RAD❗❗❗

  • @cristisecrest1002
    @cristisecrest10027 ай бұрын

    I love you Mel. I love that you don't give a shit! I'm 64 turning 65 in 2 days and I want to be like you. I don't like people talking about other people's presence.

  • @stephaniemarie3036
    @stephaniemarie3036 Жыл бұрын

    Mel, I am the same way when the sun is out! I live in the northeast and we need to take the sun when we can! Also- I just finished the episode and your daughter’s singing gave me goosebumps! How beautiful!

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