If you enjoyed today’s episode, please do me a favor and drop a like and let me know in the comment what your biggest takeaway was!

@charlottaw599

6 ай бұрын

Trying to absorb your words, but I’m panicked because I’m scared it’s too late at 53 to start from scratch. Society discriminates against older women, esp stay-home-moms. Trust me trying not to make excuses, I just need one small breakthrough; a job! 🙏🏼

@sarahgiwa7060

Ай бұрын

​@@charlottaw599did you find the job yet ❤

@marikatecavanagh2031

29 күн бұрын

My biggest takeaway from your podcast Mel is that there is always HOPE!💜

“You’re never starting over. You’re starting from experience!” Now that’s a priceless epiphany!

@monmandesign7218

5 ай бұрын

😮❤

I’m 72 and I’m reinventing my life. Starting a business and it’s as a content creator on KZread. I’m excited!

@designmybestlife

5 ай бұрын

Yes! Excellent!❤

@biddlear

3 ай бұрын

🙌🏾🙌🏾

@ShizaMunir-dc6iy

3 ай бұрын

❤❤I really appreciate you dear. I m 29 and want to start a business what piece of advice could you give me❤

When I was 25 I had everything i wanted then I made a lot of mistakes and bad decisions so when I was 32 I lost everything I've worked so hard for. I got very depressed lost my house,cars, motorcycle,wife the only thing I had left was my cell phone and it was getting hard to pay for it but I was using it to survive selling little things I had like tools and stuff but then I found Les Brown and Mel Robbins on KZread and I learned that I can change my life so I started to work harder on everything so I thank God for everything I when thru. Now I'm 42 and just 2 years ago everything started to get easier everything is different and I am different. Thank you Mel

@canadianhorselink2312

Жыл бұрын

You are awesome and an inspiration 😊 thank you for sharing

@liliabenavides4052

Жыл бұрын

If there is something I respect and admire is someone who comes out on top. You could have easily thrown in the towel but no you kept at it. And sure enough you made it. I love stories like yours. My favorite saying is one by Marcos Aurelius "don't loose by personal default". A rule I live by. Well done for you.

@user-ee2uj8vi2s

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing, I'm down down down right now, everything's dark

@LuisPerez-gl6xp

Жыл бұрын

@@user-ee2uj8vi2s Don't give up don't even think about it stay positive. Something good will be coming to your life you just need to keep moving and clear your mind from negative things because not even all darkness in the world can put out a single candle. Trust God keep going live one day at a time and you will see how everything will change, do what you can with what you have for now. Everything will change is not going to stay the same trust your self you can do it stay strong

@LuisPerez-gl6xp

Жыл бұрын

@@canadianhorselink2312 Thank you

I've been trying to make a better life for myself since I was 12 years old. NOBODY was talking like this 50 years ago. I just had my 65th birthday and I'm so excited about the road ahead. I've given myself permission to want everything I want and can't wait to see what is still possible.

@KD-yy6on

Жыл бұрын

Good on you! I am 63 an I can relate to you I am on the same type journey realising its not SELFISH to put yourself first kind regards

@helgaincanada

Жыл бұрын

@@KD-yy6on My favourite KZreadr is "Janice in France" - who moved to France all by herself when she was 70. We got this. 😄

@linsworld6051

Жыл бұрын

Same here! I'm 65 and starting over again. I have no idea what I'm doing and what's next. Now I'm fired up for possibilities. We've got this!

@JLTravels

Жыл бұрын

I understand Helga-at 70 yrs strong -I finally figured it out! Never to late!

@bevchattin8936

Жыл бұрын

You are so right! Nobody was talking about these things when we were younger. My life started getting better around 2016 when I started watching KZread videos like this, and I'm continuing to grow thanks to Mel Robbins and Brene' Brown and other brave leaders who choose to make themselves vulnerable to help us. ❤

How appropriate I just ran across this quote by C.S. Lewis: "There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind."

Mel, I'm 53 and have been working in retail hell for most of my adult life barely making minimum wage for 30 years and I finally got my dream job! I have applied at my local library for 10 years, volunteered, and inquired here and there and just never heard anything. I kept cashiering at soul sucking dollar store jobs and one day I stopped in to make a resume to quit my shitty dollar store job for a hopefully less shitty dollar store when the library lady said, "Oh Jen, please apply here, you would be perfect and we need someone with an open schedule." Now with my kids grown I have an open schedule, life experience and a grateful heart. Sometimes things are unfolding and you have to have faith and patience. I get to share your books with patrons too!

@Djworkvan

Жыл бұрын

@@aly71_2.0 thank you 😊

@CM-yo9jk

10 ай бұрын

This would be my dream job too.xx

@CreditSolutionist

10 ай бұрын

Best of luck! 🙏🏾💜

@trailertrish

10 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@leebliss3622

7 ай бұрын

i wish i was this excited about a library how beautiful, im so jealous

You nailed it for me. I'll be 60 in two months, on disability, widowed for 16 years. But!!!! I found a job! I'm just praying that I will physically be able to do the job, and the rest will fall in place. I've pretty much been self isolating at home, and thinking the same old 💭💬💭 thoughts every day, all day. It's time for change!

@creativechristiancontent

Жыл бұрын

Well done go for it ❤

@Padraigp

Жыл бұрын

Good for you. May i suggest that you make it a priority to invest in your health. Maybe getting physio massage hydrotherapy...and also change your diet. ..I recently had to do some renovations....not a paid job..but I went from covid lockdown to lifting heavy things and to be honest with you even holding the small drill was painful for my body. My back kept going and my neck and all sorts. A friend of mine suggested i eat more protien and he said just force yourself..so I wasa eating three eggs for breakfast and a chicken breast for lunch and if I could manage it some more protien later on but also veggies etc. And it made a big difference to the soreness of my muscles. It was something i hadnt thoight about. I also started going for massage and although I didnt end up doing it as much as I promised myself it was such a good thing. I then added epson salt bath and just getting some warm up excercises stretching etc. And that helped a lot so I wish I had started with a plan because my Injuries along the way made thw whole job longer. Now ive got a lot stronger and less things seem to be about to snap. So I wish you all the best going forward. Take good care of yourself so that you dont get exhuasted and run down. Take vimtins too cos you will be mixing with people suddenly and getting exposed to all sorts. Vitmin d and k zinc and vitmin C are all really good as well as magnesium is great for muscles and sleep. So at minimum Take some of those to keep your immune system good and healing the muscles good. I don't know what to do now that my project is finished so I am just wondering around the house foostering 😂

@allisonb.8492

Жыл бұрын

good for you!!!!!!!! Its tough. I sure wish this knowledge and self help wouldve been around before the last 10-15 years!! LOL. It wouldve been nice when you and I were younger.

@raggaahmed8626

Жыл бұрын

Happy birthday ❤❤❤

@jeniferjohnson7827

Жыл бұрын

I am 57 and every one who knows me says I should be on disability but I resist this labels anyway I am a trained XRay tech but the jobs I get are too hard on my physically so be care full and tell me if you have any insight on how to go about getting disability Thanks and best wishes

I found you at the most important time of change in my life. I am 76 and seperated from my husband of 55 yrs. I have been on my own for 4 yrs. At first I cried so much but my husband is a serious alcoholic.i have a brilliant team that are there for those with mental health issues. Every day some positives do come my way. I live in what some would call a dodgy area. Well 98 per cent of the residents are angels. So kind and invite me to hubs etc. Today was such a simple day but the group who were giving time to us were so kind. My faith is growing because of these careing souls. I have accepted that my marriage is over although we will not divorce. Slowly I am gaining assurance that I will manage. Thankyou for your positive advice.

@bethgross7667

Жыл бұрын

Carol, I’m there with you. Married 20 years, living separately 3.5 of those years. Seeing a lawyer tomorrow. Looking forward to new beginnings!! I’m 66.

@melissaphillips4379

Жыл бұрын

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@trailertrish

10 ай бұрын

as someone who was engaged to an alcoholic (he passed away 2.5 years ago at the young age of 33) please stick to ur boundries and focus on u. ❤ i know its easier said than done, been there, believe me. but u only have one life, so enjoy urs and protect ur peace. ❤❤❤

Thank you, Mel. I have 58 years behind me, married 2 times on my way to a 3rd divorce (high 5) I have raised 2 kids, 25 years on my job and I have traveled the world. I am ready to take a solo vacation. I am in control of my life to explore. Planning my life map! Live, love and laugh.

@louiseatkinson3044

Жыл бұрын

I am 58 and can relate to your comment, although I have found my lovely 3rd marriage. But I do dream of going off and travelling. My husband needs to think about it 🤪

@kathleen1193

Жыл бұрын

solo vacations

@user-dt3wm8rn4j

8 ай бұрын

Lucky

@mishlamila7870

3 ай бұрын

Now that you had this video it's so easy to take up the re invention. Am 53 years and despite spending 23 years in a stagnant relationship. Am set to re invent myself. Let's keep on

You nail it mel. I started my path to reinventing myself a year ago, I’m now living healthier, confident, stronger, making 6 figures, having leisure to enjoy family &friends. I feel happier and living my life for myself . This is to encourage someone “you can start anytime to have a reset it’s worth it! I’m striving to continue growing cus it’s a journey 💗:)

@theresamish1746

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations ma'am! Thanks for encouraging others with your story, I will love to get tips from you too:)

@yvonneerik2510

Жыл бұрын

Change your mindset, read self-help books, expand knowledge, budget and don't spend on impulse, save, take your finances seriously, eat healthy, exercise your body, meditate; the list goes on... I hope it is useful to you:)

@gracedaniels6172

Жыл бұрын

How did you grow to 6 Figure ? I’m honestly trying to work on my personal finance this year.

@maxdmitry1912

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations that's a great accomplishment keep it going 🤗

@yvonneerik2510

Жыл бұрын

I learnt to be frugal, minimal on spending, saving and paying myself first through Investing, made Plans, growing passive income, Read a lot of books on finance, followed my plan consistently.

Love your show. Mel I am 67 years old and starting over. I am NOT afraid of it, just kind of stuck. Just wondered if any of your listeners are starting over in their 60's. Most of us have serious limitations at our age and older so that makes it a little tougher. I have gone back to work, I am a caregiver and some of my clients are right around my age, so yes I am very blessed to be able to do this. Let me tell ya though, after just a 5 or 6 hour day I am plum tuckered. lol. Yes, at 67 I do have a fire inside of me wanting to explode with creativity and caring. I better stop here because I could go on and on. Thank you Mel. God bless you.

@ConradKurtMorgan

10 ай бұрын

Awww 🥰 you’re such a sweetheart, and congratulations 🎊 It’s not easy to start over, but you’ve made the right decision, it’s never too late to do everything. I’d like to hear more about your story if you don’t mind ?

@pegsullivan2299

7 ай бұрын

Good for you hang in there

@designmybestlife

5 ай бұрын

I went from being homeless to going to Harvard - in my 50’s! Now I’m 65, work full time, starting my own business! I do the forks over knives plan, work out on a total gym, and have a ton of energy! You can do it! You can make the rest of your life, the best of your life! Do it! I did!❤

Mile marker 60! I’ve been a wife and mom for over 40 years. I now have been called nana for over 14. I find myself recently divorced from a toxic relationship. No 9-5. I am on a detour that I didn’t expect. But… I’m a good driver. Sometimes a little heavy on the pedal, music might be a little loud, but I’m looking for the signs. I’m grabbing opportunities as they present themselves and I’m often scared shi**less. Thanks to Mel I’ve been encouraged to get in the car and off my a**. It’s not easy taking a new road but I’m going to enjoy the ride ❤

@joaniereyes7462

Жыл бұрын

Right on !!!

@airforce79

Жыл бұрын

I hear you! I'm 62, divorced 7 years, staying active, and seeking a new life daily in so many ways. Thanks for your encouragement and blessings to you on your journey.

@denisemorrison6331

Жыл бұрын

@@airforce79 Yes! Staying active is key. I’ve only been on my own for about 7 months. First time ever actually. 😂 Got married straight out of high school. It’s an experience! Good luck on your journey as well! Be blessed ❤️

@sandrawright8109

Жыл бұрын

Hi I'm 61 and feel I need to let got and move on ...fed up being put last...you have inspired me. Thanks

@denisemorrison6331

Жыл бұрын

@@sandrawright8109 I believe you have the same married name as a girl I went to school with in Ohio. 😆 Anyway, good luck on your journey ❤️

My hubby is closing his State Farm office due to his mental breakdown and I’m excited for our next chapter! I work for him so we are both walking away! People think we are nuts because of the money we are giving up but Money is nothing without your health!!! I know this happened for a reason!!!!❤ I want to focus on my podcast and see what happens next!❤

I am starting a new life single after 28 years married and starting a new comedy show. I am so excited to try new things 🎉🎉

I’m 33 and im working reinventing myself. Thank you mel!!!❤❤❤❤

I definitely need to reinvent my life. I am 60 years old, single, have four serious chronic illnesses, on disability in Tucson, Arizona where crime is off the charts, have no family left and have very little money due to not being able to earn a living. I don't even own a car anymore. Kind of stuck in trauma due to many things along with the loss of so many family members and friends. I am very grateful for what I do have but would like to and need to reinvent my life. I am going to listen to this podcast now and take all the advice I can get from our wonderful friend Mel💞

@RavenVapor873

7 ай бұрын

@Cactusflower2000 Next June I'll turn 70. I was diagnosed with ADHD last year. I'm still struggling but I've learned so much 😁 it all makes me hopeful. I hope you find much love and happiness on your journey 💗🌿 People like Mel are helper's when we're ready to hear their messages. I wish you excellent travels 🥰

@Cactusflower2000

7 ай бұрын

@@RavenVapor873 Thank you🙏💖

When she says in case no one tells you I love you, I needed that today! 😭Needed this whole podcast! I’m turning 39 soon and in a very toxic marriage where I am not told I’m loved. 💔 time to find the courage to create a new life a life that is full of LOVE and excitement! Thanks Mel again another morning where I start with tears but so many good realizations from this episode 🙌🏼🫶🏼🥰

8 ай бұрын

I love you too... ♥ be calm... somenthig beautiful hopes you!!!!

@number1angel66

7 ай бұрын

I can empathize with your situation. I was married to a physically, emotionally, financially and sexually abusive narcissist for 24 years. During that time we, and our three children, moved 26 times and were homeless 9 times. Before anyone judges me, please consider that each domestic violence situation is unique.There are countless reasons I stayed but the main one is because he had a daughter with his ex-girlfriend and was extremely abusive to her. She had family, friends and professionals helping her but he kept getting away with it. His best friend's father was a Sargeant with the Police Department and he had a different friend who was an Officer. She finally managed to get him out of her life by telling him the baby wasn't his, even though she is. I got a divorce 15 years ago but the damage he did is taking a long time to recover from. He stalked me for at least ten years after the divorce and he probably still is. I know for a fact, through my children, that he's still stalking them and their families. Nothing about my life is how I wanted it to be but I am getting better a bit every single day and I'll never give up! Please know there are complete strangers, like me, in this world who love and pray for you and all other living beings. Blessings of love and light to all!

@rhy27

2 ай бұрын

Just read your post, hope things are going better for you now hun.. I was there at 39. I'm 52 now and I promise it does get better xx

@JenniferPhillips-cr1wi

2 ай бұрын

@@rhy27 thank you for your kind reply! 💖🥰 And I stuck around and stayed and now I’ve been forced to leave and it’s not easy and it’s heartbreaking but I know better days here to come and I took the first step and I’m gonna restart and rebuild and walk away with a few belongings in garbage bags is better than staying with the pain and abuse I’ve endured for almost 20 years 💔😰

@Smile-big

Ай бұрын

Everybody deserves to be loved and to be told "I love u'. Good luck❤❤❤

I am 44 single woman mother of 3 and I am going thru a phase of my life that I have learned to turn off the voices of people that would not add to my life and that included family members and friends that would only look for me when they needed me but never there for me when I needed them. And guess what..?? It feels great, it feels like I lost 100 lbs off of my body lol... And all this happened because I pulled over and decided to go my own way to my happiness. Thank you Mel ❤

@LuisPerez-gl6xp

Жыл бұрын

When I started taking negative people and things out of my life was the best thing, I wish I've had done that before. When you have a good heart some people want to take advantage.

@Iamnajlawakeela

Жыл бұрын

Same! Had to get rid of a few people including family this year already and at first I was sad but now I feel so much more positive about my future (btw I’m 45 single mom as well)

@MonicaHernandez-sp4lo

11 ай бұрын

I totally sympathize with you. 45 and single mom too.

@magortukamara1837

10 ай бұрын

Congratulations 👏 The best decision ever. Friends and family can be a great support system and a crutch 🩼 at the same time.

I listen to you every morning on the way to work. Thanks for all you do!

@valeriebutler908

Жыл бұрын

75Hard 🙌🏾💫 yes Mel, I just found you and I've been trying to finish 75Hard for years. I'm ready to reinvent my life, I'm ready for Yellowstone, I'm ready to finish 75Hard 💪🏽I'm brining you with me

I’m 21 and struggling so hard with this economy. I have so many dreams, but I’m ALWAYS stressing about money. Thanks for reminding me to “pull over on this road trip” and from that I’ve realized I have so many years ahead of me to change my occupation. I think it’s hard with so much pressure on me from family to stop and relax and enjoy where I am at during this road trip. It’s gonna take some practice ❤thanks Mel

@lukedavies5339

9 ай бұрын

I feel the same I’m 23, and money is a constant strees❤ we will get it don’t worry😊

@boatdoctors

6 ай бұрын

Vote out the 🤡

Thank you for your enthusiasm. My husband just died from cancer. We were married 41 happy years and I feel lost. This really helped!

if i can like this video a thousand times i would. this episode gave me the paradigm shift and the new mindset i desperately needed right now. thank you very much Mel. I've been listening to this on a daily basis over and over during my 45mins morning walk routine. if you wanna give this episode more than one like, you can give the second like in this comment. 😂

Thank you so much Mel. I’m a professional singer in Miami, Florida (apart from working for law firms as a legal assistant for over 30 years.) I was the soloist at a church choir for many years, but I moved a bit further away almost 3 years ago. After listening to your wonderful video, today I contacted a church very close to where I now live so that I can join the choir in this church. I will also commit to attending the gym at my building 1/2 an hour every evening after work. I’m on a mission to become a new, improved and re-invented me! 😇🌹🎤

Thank you for this. I’m already 33 and I felt like I’ve wasted my life for nothing. I haven’t achieved anything, I’m still in debt, no savings, nothing on my name, too many regrets - I felt like I hit rock bottom of my life.

@Natty183

Жыл бұрын

❤️ *hugs*

@dreamweaver8210

Жыл бұрын

I'm twice your age and in the same place. Can you imagine how I feel at this age ? I wish I was 33 !!!!! Look at all the negatives you're throwing at your life. You're forgetting that you are at the greatest point in your life that you can be at 33. The 20's are usually meant for mistakes, learning and figuring out life. Even if you're not realizing it right now, you are smarter and wiser because of what you've been through. Maybe it's not you I'm talking to but myself at your age. I'd tell myself " Wake up, you are still young and you have your whole life ahead of you, a life full of adventures and wonderful experiences if only you would, just for one moment, stop and smell the roses, yes they are right there in front of you, you're just not seeing them. " I would stop judging myself. We ALL make mistakes. Without them how can we grow and learn to be a better version of ourselves. I would stop comparing myself to others because no one can live my life but me, this journey is my own. Stop punishing yourself with regrets and self doubt. Your uniqueness is your strength. How do celebrities and songwriters stand out ?, by being unique and putting their own stamp on everything they touch and believing in themselves. So write a letter to your old self saying whatever you want to say and then burn it. Let it all go because holding on to something you can't do anything about isn't helping you, it's just wasting your mental energy and causing you pain. Learn from it and move on otherwise you too will be my age and be the one writing this comment to someone else. Refocus, Revise and Rewrite your story because you are the ONLY author of your book.

@helgaincanada

Жыл бұрын

@@dreamweaver8210 💕💖

@dreamweaver8210

Жыл бұрын

@@helgaincanada Thank you 💕

@yeahyeahdoodle804

Жыл бұрын

@@dreamweaver8210 Thank you so much

Thanks so much Mel! After 42 years of narc marriage he's leaving I know my dream for a career but don't know where to begin I guess KZread is a good place I want to make a living out of my art selling it teaching and maybe you tube! I used to teach classes and my ladies called it their therapy lol but husband wanted my art room for his shed so had to close I should have dug my feet in deeper so many mistakes being the gentle one in this martiage but now it's my time!!! You give me hope!!! When I'm in a unsettled time! Thanks again Mel xo

I am 29. Fucked off most of my twenties had two kids from two different women got into a toxic marriage, got divorced and married again at 28. Accumulated a lot of debt in my early twenties, Slowly getting my life together one piece at a time. I know I'll look up in 11 years when I'm 40 and thank myself for going through what I went through. I will be a mentor for young people with kids, I'll be a mentor with people and their money, I'll be a mentor on young married couples from experience. It takes some of the anxiety and stress off your shoulders when you look at it that way and when you see that you're not the only person dealing with hard stuff or life in general. The thing about being in your 20's or 30's Is you have time, it's not money but time that is your biggest asset. I never truly understood or appreciated the quote "the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. One foot in front of the other, one healthy meal at a time, one gym workout at a time one chapter you read at a time, one cold call at a time. Keep going everyone even when it seems impossible and it's too dark keep going.

@RB-rx6hr

Жыл бұрын

Nicely said ! 🙏🏽

@rhy27

2 ай бұрын

Agreed very nicely said.. and you're already that mentor, at 29. Exactly what your generation needs

At 54 on other side of deep depression which lead to my self love& enlightenment.. 35 yr marriage narcissist empath realization ✌️out. 🙏🕊️💞⚖️💪🦄🌟 SHINE ON 🌟 Believe in yourself U GOT THIS 😘

40 with a fresh start. Lost everything my business, my health, all my close relationships except 1! Never been married, no children. Just me and finally free to have the dream life! I used to cry and now I’m grateful that all those harmful things were taken from me!!

I’m starting over at 35. Life is too short to do things that kill your soul so I’m doing something different now. It’s hard work but I’m sticking to it.

Serendipity for sure listening to your podcast. Started the day very low and after listening to this podcast and your last call in person. Courage is welling up. Love you

I’m 52 and feeling like many of the callers Now I’m going through my changes 😅 WTH ? Love God, and a believer I don’t know how I’d get through without GOD ✝️😊♥️

@susanrocca6108

Жыл бұрын

Yep, we know God is there but still got to find the answers and strategies that practical👁🗝

@RnW9384

Жыл бұрын

I'm still menopausal....17 years and counting.

Such a hot topic today. I went through a major career change 5 years ago, I was at the height of my career in Direct Sales but just got burned out and felt an angst inside! I needed a change but had no idea what. I went through a very long hard journey searching for my “what’s next”. I finally figured out my true calling is actually helping women get clarity on their calling! Like Mel said, I was able to use my past skills and my inner talents to create something new! It’s been a wild ride but it’s been amazing! For those of you going through this I want to say -keep going! It is scary but so exciting! 🎉❤ ⛵️

Mel you are great !!! We people are blessed to have you around. 💛

Thank you MelI You talk about pull off to the side of the road and see where you are. Well, I'm at milemarker 61 for 14 more days. When you mentioned my milestone I said, "Oh Crap!" For a while I felt my bank account bleeding. My world has been spinning after being a caregiver for my mother. I totally forgot who I was and what I wanted. Everything from my family, relationships, health, and wealth to my relationship with my Creator was nonexistant. I had a habit of putting others above myself that I allowed others to dictate my life rather than write my own story. I really let myself go! It's time for an upgrade, time for a do-over, or reinvention.

Awesome videos Mel! At the beginning of the year, I started doing pushups every hour. I started at 8 pushups and I'm now (3/9/2023), am at 20 pushup every hour or when I get to go to the bathroom (which is a lot). I basically do 200 pushups every day. I've noticed that my 10 hour work day flies by for me. I feel energized after doing those 20 pushups and look forward to doing them, which allows me to push away from the computer scream. 20 pushups are not a lot of time or effort, but who knew that they would help me some much. They allow me focus on my work when I'm back at the computer screen and they may even help my 56 year old runner body get a little stronger :). I found this by myself, but I believe that your podcast help understand why the pushups are helping me with my work day. Thank you for everything that you do Mel!

You know how Mel has a theme of "hang in there, show follow through, stick with it"? When I started listening to Mel about 8 months ago it was really hard to follow through on the smallest little things. And, I don't know where it came from exactly, but it is really starting to change for me. The voice in my head has changed from critical to kind. And, this new voice is really smart, too. I like this kind of smart because it has great feelings that are bubbling up. And, it has nothing to do with anyone else. A nicer me has surfaced, and I like her a lot.

42. 6 weeks post sudden separation from the man I was building my dream life with. We bought 134 acres with water. We were homesteading. It’s all come crashing down. I’m deep in the shit right now. It’s really hard to believe this is FOR me.

I am so incredibly thankful for you, Mel Robbins. I had pretty much been on auto pilot, barely alive all my life. I am a woman of faith. I could believe for other people, but not for myself. Like I was some kind of misfit even though I believed in a benevolent God I don't understand myself sometimes. I would pray and pray for help, but I had truly felt that maybe he wouldn't answer my prayers. My prayers didn't consist of filling my bank account, but to make my life better so I could make a difference in this world. Just Kickstart me.I have never needed to be in the lime light or to be powerful. Just do good and love people who are just needing someone to encourage those who are on a destructive course in their lives. So I saw you on line mostly KZread. I would listen for a while and just stopped and did something else. I kept thinking about listening again but I would excuse myself out of listening. But one day, I listened to HEAL YOUR TRAUMA. I was blown away. There are things that came to light. You see, this may sound crazy, but I was praying desperately for God's help. All I could see was Mel Robbins' name. So that when I devoted time to hearing her podcast. Heal your trauma was the beginning. I felt like I was finally coming out of my stink existence. I have always felt that I was meant for more. Just locked in that misfit mode in my head. I am learning more, and the fact that Mel Robbins is so determined to make life doable and succeed in helping people like me to see that our dreams are a reality. I am extremely grateful for this very determined woman, Mel Robbins.

@joaniereyes7462

Жыл бұрын

Your story is mine 💝 too only I'm not there yet with the last part... I'm trying tho 😊 it's not easy but the best things in life aren't easy it's good to see Mel is helping ppl get off the floor where our lives have been Stuck in a rut (same old same old) for years I just found her a month ago but keep getting Away from her after only listening for a bit 🙂 ty for leaving this comment.

@alexandraalbertz1442

Жыл бұрын

Eva and Joanie you are worthy. You are enough. God knows that. You need to feel that. Say it in the mirror if you want. You deserve to feel good. Fill your cup first before you fill it for others. Listen to Louise Hay and Marissa Peer. It changed my life. I believe in you both.

@evaphillips7193

Жыл бұрын

@Alexandra Albertz thank you very much. I will listen to the people you said to listen to. May God richly bless you.

@alexandraalbertz1442

Жыл бұрын

@@evaphillips7193 you are very welcome. We all need encouragement, support snd love. We cheer you on. Is time for action. Positive affirmatiin, boundaries settings and self love changed my life

You are changing/saving lives! Love you Mel, I'm so thankful for you.

Mel makes me feel better about all of this. 🦋🌺🌲💜🐈‍⬛

I just adore you, it's 1 a.m. in Hawaii I can't sleep so much on my mind oh, and I just found you talking on this so grateful love you lots girl

@haidagirl626

Жыл бұрын

Aloha! I just discovered her and listen at night also!! 🌙 But I love it so much I'm day timing as well. Such good info. 👍

This is so crazy. Received a diagnosis of PTSD-ADHD today, and this pod is a fun and positive lens to view this diagnosis through 💜💜

@moniquemichelle7295

Жыл бұрын

Diagnosis are just insurance labels. It’s nervous system disregulation. Check out Irene Lyon, Crappy Childhood Fairy, Mastin Kipp and Bessel an Der Kolks The Body Keeps the Score, lastly IFS (internal family systems). I just saved you five years or more. Wishing you the best!

@haidagirl626

Жыл бұрын

Check out her health info with Dr. HYMAN AND YOU CAN HEAL!

So needed this one.... as a 47 year old who is just massively disappointed in where my life has come to literally doing the most mind numbing Monday to Friday i need a push to change my life.... make myself proud and make my children proud. Need to make a difference and do something incredible.... not more of this mundane uninspiring BS!

@alexandraalbertz1442

Жыл бұрын

I am cheering you on

not me watching this for 2 times. this is one of the best podcast i’ve ever listened to! and i will keep on listening to this.

Thank you Mel! You inspire me every day. I am over 60 and have had many hobbies. I have been a single mom over 25 years. I am a right brain and loved to cook, creat music and sewing in the past. I have lost 60 % of my hearing and just had shoulder surgery. My taste buds have changed after covid and I have developed allergies to most foods. I am still hanging on to my past hobbies. It’s like the song should I grab on to the new or hang on to the old. I am trying to decide what I can do to contribute to society. I am very passionate about keeping our schools safe. I’m thinking of being a volunteer for either the schools or even our police department. It is totally a different passion. I have made sandwiches for the homeless. May start that up again. I feel like I am being shown a new life. Leaving a lot of my past hobbies and all the tools and materials are very difficult for me to let go. I feel like the best I can to is go through stuff and let go of what I can. I organize those things I am not yet willing to let go of. The other hurdle is things are so expensive these days it makes it even harder to let go.

@xannaz9226

Жыл бұрын

May I recommend The Minimal Mom on KZread for fantastic decluttering tips, including letting go of stuff from past selves. It doesn't matter how much you loved it. It doesn't matter how much money you spent. That money is gone. At some point, it's costing you more to manage the inventory, both in space and mental clarity. Donate, donate, donate.

@brendasteedman9647

Жыл бұрын

@@xannaz9226 Thank you Xanna Z, I am not a hoarder. However I did look up your recommendation for some great tips, thank you. I have a piano and a few guitars. I have a few sewing machines. It’s more about deciding what is my next chapter in life. When you are forced to change because of your health it’s different. I’m not ready to give up my piano and guitar or sewing. It’s probably better if I wait for my shoulder to fully recover or get new hearing aids before I start given stuff. I am just impatient. Thank you for helping me clarify. We all can dejunk our lives. I took all the glass to the recycling center yesterday. It piles up like anything. So there is something each of us can do to make our lives less cluttered every day. However it is letting go of fabrics That I’m talking about in the 1st post. I can let go of some but not all. The price of fabric now days is gone up considerably. I will try to donate them to a good cause at least.

I'm 49, and I can relate to a few of these women. I want to reinvent my life that seemed the same for my entire adult life. But for the past couple years I'm searching for something, but what? I want to do different, but what? This was podcast is helpful or at least a starting point. Thank you.

@irinamladenoska7539

Жыл бұрын

Self love, self care, joy! Do what energizes you!

@carmendelgado7635

10 ай бұрын

Same for me

I really enjoyed this podcast. I am currently trying to reinvent myself. I'm a divorced 42 year old with a 15 year old daughter and a mortgage. I've been working a dead end job and recently decided I want something else in life.

After getting on the right meds, I finally have executive function working as it should and I’ve been going crazy cleaning for 2 weeks. Today I started to crash, definitely needed some rest and this was like a free therapy session. Thanks Mel I needed that!

Thanks Mel. I believe many people struggle to get their minds out of their history since that is all we have.

@ConradKurtMorgan

10 ай бұрын

So true must especially the dark history Why is it so ?

This video was very helpful to me today as I was feeling down and sorry for myself after losing a job I didn’t really like anyway. Time to gather the strength, courage and energy to create a better future. As she says, I have to take responsibility for my own happiness in this life.

Hi Mel. I am 42 and in the blah! Situation. Nothing feels right, nothing excites, feel as if I am always in a sleepy mode. Thank you for all that you taught.

O.K. so I'm 68, broke off an 11 yr. relationship, quit my job of 8 yrs. and now I'm moving to a different state. I'm ready to have an amazing life.

I'm turning 40 this year. This information is very important to me. 😊

What a great time to hear this Mel🙏💃🏼 I am going through the most stressful time of my life (60) while literally on the road~Ty for keeping me to DRIVE forward with Love, Hope and My dream 🙌🙏🚎✌️💞

Wow love it Mel this couldn't of come at a better time I am 63 married 45 years 5 kids 11 grandkids and never really put myself first iam now learning self care self love of which I always thought was SELFISH so I am now on a mission of working to what I want an believe I deserve without feeling GUILTY Love you Mel

@alexandraalbertz1442

Жыл бұрын

Someone installed that limited belief in you. That others come first. You need to fill your own cup. Always. The best gift to others is our best self. You are worthy and you are enough

I pulled over for three years. Now I'm excited for what this next book is going to be. The first half taking care of everyone else .. this chapter fulfil my purpose and become the best version of this human that I am. 54321.

Mel, this has brought me to tears. Thanks for this. Had the most traumatic time this year and I think I found my rock bottom. This helped.

I love the notion of alignment. When you said that word Mel, I could actually feel a sensation of how my body would be like in alignment! I want that.

@ConradKurtMorgan

10 ай бұрын

Awww 🥰 how long have you been following up with Mel ?

She's right. I'm order than her but I didn't realize this until I heard her saying to write down on paper the kind of person you'd love and what they'd do, then to do those things for yourself. This is genius because you now have the power to reinvent yourself. Spoil yourself freaking rotten so that when you meet someone who you like then you have some icing on the cake. I always heard that you can't love anyone until you love yourself but didn't know what that looked like until i separated myself from toxic relationships. One after the other people have fallen away and I've felt sad... but also relieved. Yes, it's a relief to know I'm the one in charge even if it means there's no one to talk to during the day. You get stronger. You start thinking about the new path like you're going somewhere even if you're not sure where that is. You feel like there's a kid inside of you that wants to come out and play. And then out of the blue you get invited somewhere or a certain event comes up. You're no longer afraid of yourself because you did the tough stuff. It's your turn, baby!

Mel I don't wanna miss out on one video from you. I started loving myself !! Many thanks & Blessings to you🙌🙏🏻

Thank you Mel, you’re changing lives with your work. ❤

I literally had to pause the video to say this. I've been listening to a ton of your podcasts, from your appearances on others' to your own, and this is the first time this happened. I said out loud, "Oh my God, yes." It's not the first time I've related to what you were saying, but I said it out loud, involuntarily. You said, "Maybe you met the love of you're life, and you're afraid to screw it up." This is so me right now. We're about to move in together. He lives an hour away, so I'm job hunting near him. I'm terrified of this change, but also excited. It's the beginning of what I see as the best chapter. I'm afraid that I'll move and be stuck if I screw up the relationship. I've had trust issues my whole life, and they've only gotten worse with the terrible partners I've chosen. This could really be it, the future I've been dreaming of. Then there is this other big change that comes with the move. My son is about to go to college, and my daughter is a sophomore in high school. I felt like an imposter in my current job because I don't have a degree, but I KNOW I'm capable. I feel like I'm being looked over by potential employers in the place I'm moving to because of this. I'm afraid that I won't find a job worthy of me. I know that I need to stay in tune with myself and manifest the life I deserve. I haven't even listened to the whole podcast yet, but I am already connecting to all of this. Thank you for all you do. You are truly an inspiration. I would love to talk to you one day.

Sarah literally sounds like ME. TY Sarah and Mel for taking this subject.

@ConradKurtMorgan

10 ай бұрын

Awww how long have you been following up with Mel ?

Beautiful episode!! Exactly what I needed to hear today! Thank you Mel 💗😌

Thank you. I’m on my journey for self improvement and listening to this gives me more motivation and knowing that I’m on the tight track makes this journey more amazing.

I just love you Mel. I love that Bask moment!!! You've so earned all that & more❤

This is so true - you're NEVER starting from the start, you're always learning and growing! I love the embracing of the detour :)

Thanks so much for this I really needed it. I love 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. It gets me out of bed. I just had a birthday and I thought I would be in a different place by now. I sometimes feel like I should already have the husband 5 children by now. I am 37 and my time is running out for having all these children I want.

@ConradKurtMorgan

10 ай бұрын

Awww and know you might be thinking it’s too late already, but you just have to be positive about every situation you find yourself. The universe is preparing a perfect match for you. When was your last relationship?

Mel -honest - to the point - no holding back - on our side - tells it like it is - nice to have in our corner - solid - here to help - thanks

omg thank you for this i listened to this driving to work i didn’t sleep there’s so much that is and has been wrong for me and i am living with so much pain struggling also continuously failing even with obtaining safe therapy (went through several sadly) and listening to this gave me huge spark of positive energy something i have not felt in over two years !! thank you !!

Mile marker 43, feeling blah and needing to reinvent my life. I have recently just found mel, she speaks to me. I am starting a new job, writing goals and exciting to take these next steps towards a life that excites me!

@Mel Robbins you give me life! Thank you for using your gift everyday!

This woman is amazing. I've only been watching her for 20 minutes and she's life changing 😍😍😍 her voice is so soft & calm & she's so positive! Definitely subscribing!!!! 💙

The timing of this episode is amazing. I've been deep in reassessment mode and this was just the (loving) kick in the pants I needed.

What a beautiful episode. Yesterday, I told myself that I need to reinvent myself and this morning, I found your podcast. In 5 days, I will reach the 56-mile marker. I'm tired of looking in the rear view mirror and reliving the past. I want to feel alive and look forward to the future. Thank you Mel.❤

Happy to be the first listener! I am seeking inspiration to get beyond NO

I'm at marker 68. Started over so many times in my life. Was in insurance, massage therapy, special education aid, administrative assistant and more. 1 divorce and married again. Ups and downs. Most of my family is gone and I'm still trying to find something new and exciting to do in my life. I'm slower, but capable. Always choose something you like

Beautiful words! Thank you so much🙏 This Is what we all need to remember every day!❤️

I just loved this video I wrote so many notes, so many take always, I will watch over and over…I’m totally inspired to … find the courage to create a better life…. Thank you Mel!

Thanks Mel I need to hear this. I'm at Mile Marker 53.. I have lost a lot. But have learn even more. New career new environment hopefully. Cheers to you.

I listened while commuting. I like the idea of not throwing your life away but adding a new chapter to your story.

@bjacob9998

Жыл бұрын

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Thank you Mel!! For all the giving and open sharing you do... I often send your links to my friends who also love your stuff. I have so much respect and admiration for you and your work! Thank you xx

Love the information you give Mel, thank you for this podcast! To me it is more accessible and better than anything else! I could listen to podcasts all day

This is perfect timing, Mel - I just got laid off this week from my job of 17 years that I loved. My emotions are all over the place and I'm feeling somewhat chaotic.. You're helping me to realize that in spite of this detour and being at the 66 mile marker, I still have an exciting and open road ahead of me. Thank you so muh.🌼 🩷

@ggbouvier9897

Жыл бұрын

A Roy Life has thrown you a curveball so catch it. Remember that when life throws you lemons make some lemonade!!

@michaelp8856

Жыл бұрын

i was in a similar place. AARP foundation has a back to work 50+ job campaign - that's really helpful. you pick up the pieces by taking deliberate actions and not wallowing in the past. get yourself up - and start - this might be one lead - good luck

@sroy5247

Жыл бұрын

@GG Bouvier Thank you so much, GG. Appreciate the words of encouragement. It's been two weeks and am feeling better and more settled. Working on making that lemonade - Cheers! 🍋🌼

@sroy5247

Жыл бұрын

@Michael P Thank you so much, Michael. Sorry to hear you went through something similar, it's not easy. I like what you said about taking deliberate steps... Now that I feel more settled that is what I am doing to move forward.. I have to admit it's exciting (and a little scary) to be making new plans for myself but hear I go! Thank you again 😊🌼

Thank you Mel. So powerful! Much love and gratitude to you. ❤

Thank you Mel. This one was just what I need. I am currently in a state of languishing and it feels so heavy, like I'm walking through thick mud carrying a ton of bricks.

@RB-rx6hr

Жыл бұрын

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Needed this. I am 50 and going through some depression and anxiety. I am a psych nurse that has been away from my job for several months because I was attacked by one of my patients. It did a number on my mind. I have one daughter and she is 32. Thank goodness she is happy and has a great partner. I have a 28 year old step daughter that has a wonderful little girl, our grand girl! I don't know if work will let me return, even though I did nothing wrong. Work said I was too anxious to nurse right now. I don't know what to do. I don't knowwhat I want to do. I do not know what to focus on. I find this channel so helpful. I know I will figure all this out and prevail in life. But, turning 50 did not help much. 2022 was a bad year for me.

@zrinklaz

Жыл бұрын

Good luck❤!! I am sure You will find out what to do.

@ryancrouch3238

Жыл бұрын

I’m also a psych nurse and hope you are doing better. I was diagnosed with Crohn’s last year at 45 and have been on disability for almost a year.

I love listening to you and cleaning. 🎉❤ you're the best mel I've learned so much from you.

This was so needed, Mel! Thank you for being a rockstar and helping others. Much love ❤

I am working on personal development and going through my own storm in life. I don't know how I came across Mel however it has been such a delightful change in terms of listening to someone who gets it, who says it how it is. I've been listening for a week now and I always hit a podcast whilst I'm driving.

You are a GEM!! Here at middle age. That balance of feeling so much gratitude and...wanting so much more..Feeling I want to live an extraordinary life, contributing to others, experiencing adventures etc. Yes, having something to look forward to is key.

@alexandraalbertz1442

Жыл бұрын

Feeling and be in the state you will be when those adventures will happend and you will attract it. Be ok now and everything else is a bonus

Thank you Mel, for sharing your knowledge, guiding so many of us and making a difference

Mel, you’re absolutely the best!!! Love you so much ❤❤❤❤ thank you thank you thank you for the spot-on great advice in the most simplest form. The road trip.

Great show! Ive had a passion for health and wellness for years but wasn’t really sure what the ultimate health and wellness “thing” to do would look like. I was in a weight loss program and eventually became a health coach in my 50s, just out of getting my own “road trip” together. Best detour I ever had!! Thanks for this encouragement Mel❤

I'm so tired of reimagining things. I am happy. I love life. I'm just tired of being broke, ignored, and shemped.

Thank you so very much for all you do! This podcast is awesome and I am going to listen to it again later to make sure everything sinks in! Love you too Mel! Blessings of love and light to all!

I want to inspire people, like you do. Thank you Mel for your voice and your energy.

Ive had alot of changes, i have a little notebook i write positive wuotes in for my journey. Im shaking off my people pleaser mentality, i lost my home, my pets, my best people. But i made a list of things to change for myself. Im remaking my life without judgements or criticism and making a new circle of friends. Enjoying my new life.

I retired at 57 years old and single. I've lost 42 pounds and relocated to another state. Reinventing myself was the best decision ever.

@MsBlacMusicButterfly

5 ай бұрын

This made me smile. Way to go!

@Retired-jr3qs

5 ай бұрын

@@MsBlacMusicButterfly Thank you!! Wishing you a happy 2024.

@MsBlacMusicButterfly

5 ай бұрын

@@Retired-jr3qs Same to you!!