How to Read Body Language to Get What You Want | The Mel Robbins Podcast

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In this episode, you’re going to learn how to decode body language from one of the world’s leading experts on the topic.
Janine Driver (janinedriver.com/) @TheRealJanineDriver has been trained by the FBI, CIA, and one of the world’s top hostage negotiators. News networks call Janine to analyze body language and critical verbal cues that suspects, politicians, and celebrities send so we can tell when somebody is lying.
If you love True Crime, you’re going to love this episode, because it’s a masterclass from an expert who’s spent over three decades decoding body language for law enforcement agencies around the country.
She will teach you which hand gestures indicate that somebody may be lying, why you should grab your chin during a high-level meeting, why you should never shrug your shoulders if you want to be convincing, and the million dollar question that you should ask at the end of every single interview.
If you’re dating, you’ll learn all kinds of incredible tactics, like why you should never sit directly across from someone on a first date.
This is an incredibly interesting, entertaining, and surprising take on how to build confidence and be smarter about the subconscious signals that other people are sending you all day long.
Xo Mel
In this episode, you'll learn:
00:00 Intro
03:40 Janine’s early childhood trauma saved her life as a teen.
11:16 Which three groups of people can read body language really well?
12:30 Listen for the word “left” when you hear it from someone else.
19:45 What’s your behavioral fingerprint? Here’s how to figure it out.
20:12 What is the best question to ask at the end of an interview?
22:35 How men state what they need versus how women do.
32:43 The power of eye contact unpacked.
36:18 Do this to get your kids to tell you the truth.
38:37 Here’s how detail-oriented people drink their water.
43:10 What if you don’t FEEL confident when you use these “non-verbals?”
51:52 Use this hack to look more confident.
55:07 Know the difference between Clark Kent and Superman, and you’re all set.
1:02:58 Why belly buttons matter more than the eyes when reading someone.
1:05:27 This is the BEST dating advice I’ve heard in a long time.
1:06:24 Nervous on a date or an interview? This hack releases nervous energy.
1:17:35 The importance of “good to knows”
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  • @debbejensen6975
    @debbejensen6975 Жыл бұрын

    Take aways: 1) Good to know…. 2) Steepling… 3) Elbow pop… Thank you Mel!! I’m learning so many great techniques and tools from you!!! The 5 second rule, high giving myself, sooo much more! You’re fabulous!! By the way, I’m 71 and I am having a new life adventure because of you!!❤

  • @masixchell

    @masixchell

    Жыл бұрын

    That’s awesome 😎🫶🏽💯💯💯💯 #goals

  • @gypsyluv1118

    @gypsyluv1118

    9 ай бұрын

    I love the elbow pop. I saw a friend do it a few years ago and I was impressed that I started emulating it bc I knew it was a confidence thing

  • @tionnarich

    @tionnarich

    8 ай бұрын

    This is so awesome❤ good for you!

  • @grammymosborn9501

    @grammymosborn9501

    7 ай бұрын

    You go! ❤

  • @SWilsonandpartners

    @SWilsonandpartners

    7 ай бұрын

    Agreed! 🙂👍

  • @emilywhite7151
    @emilywhite71513 ай бұрын

    I feel like I need to watch this every day for about a month. This was such a beautiful, inspiring interview that touched on so much more than just body language. Janine is my new favorite person! She is so insightful and caring that she brought me to tears. ❤

  • @SAVillarreal72

    @SAVillarreal72

    3 ай бұрын

    Omg I have watched this before my HR review and I rewatch it when I have meeting important meeting and interview and I talks too much

  • @celegleeson1767
    @celegleeson17674 ай бұрын

    My biggest take aways are.. first that I have been in in company of two truly great women and I feel honoured. There is hope for me to get better at communicating. Beauty is gracious and kind and wanting the best for people. After all that I need to listen several times so I retain as much as I can. Thank you so much.

  • @shirleyhoskyns-jones1520

    @shirleyhoskyns-jones1520

    3 ай бұрын

    When I read your comment tears pricked my eyes...I appreciate and agree with your gracious comment ❤️

  • @katenicks9772
    @katenicks97728 ай бұрын

    Mel, there isn't a day that I don't listen to you. I am a survivor of severe domestic violence, addiction/ and many more obstacles. I listen to you so I can learn all the tools I need to make it through day by day and continue to make right choices. Your podcast is a gift, I wish you knew how much of a gift you and all yours have been and continue to be everyday. I heard a saying one time, "Every sinner has a future and every Saint has a past". Thank you Mel so much. Kati

  • @sonjarathke1278

    @sonjarathke1278

    3 ай бұрын

    You learn from others, there is no sinner,there is contrasts. People are making wrong desisions every day. Watch Next Level Soul.

  • @anappsouto
    @anappsouto Жыл бұрын

    Great episode! Yesterday I implemented one of tricks with my 5 year old!! She was agitated during our sleep routine and bothering my other kid. I told her that I know she is respectful and a good person, that her teachers always say that about her, she agreed and so I told her that because of that she was going respect our sleep routine. It worked!!!! Thank you Janine and Mel!

  • @user-pk1zq6od2l

    @user-pk1zq6od2l

    5 ай бұрын

    Lol I'm going to try that w my 8 yr old tonight

  • @trishroelofs8897
    @trishroelofs8897 Жыл бұрын

    This was your best yet, Mel. Thank you for having Janine on & thanks to Janine for sharing such powerful information with us all.

  • @TheRealJanineDriver

    @TheRealJanineDriver

    Жыл бұрын

    Wow Trish! Thank you for such incredible kindness about your thoughts about my segment with Mel! It means a lot to me! You rock sister! xo, Janine

  • @danachauvin9056

    @danachauvin9056

    9 ай бұрын

    ​@@TheRealJanineDriver❤

  • @Trunks2treasures

    @Trunks2treasures

    8 ай бұрын

    @@danachauvin9056make m maybe maybe knkmkn and mand kcan ncan maybe 🤔 m🤔 m🤔 kThe The Last mLast night mwe mwe kids n me knnkmmkknmmknkmmmkmkmkmmkmkkmmkkmmmmmkkmmkmmkmkkmmmmmkmmkmmmmmmomkmmmkmkmmmmmmmmmmommmmmmkkmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmkmommmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmommmo

  • @Dominicano809

    @Dominicano809

    8 ай бұрын

    My thoughts exactly - simply, amazing.

  • @Dominicano809

    @Dominicano809

    8 ай бұрын

    My thoughts exactly - simply, amazing.

  • @Teal_Seal
    @Teal_Seal10 ай бұрын

    I think this helps explain “gut feelings”. We subconsciously register the truth but can’t explain why or how.

  • @briannab5296

    @briannab5296

    9 ай бұрын

    Nowadays we are being told we have a second brain, inside our core, where our 'gut feelings' and intuition come from.

  • @PaulaGaudette

    @PaulaGaudette

    8 ай бұрын

    I agree it is a gut feeling I’ve found everything I felt was right. But it took for me to b put on meds from post partum blues n the flags were there I chose to blieve in my husband wen I was right all along. It’s been quite a 3 decades n some from phyc meds to breakdowns to being committed to my children against me ect. I’m 62 now n decided 2 years ago to get off this cocktails of meds suffering n going thru withdrawals ect suicidal I’m finally out of the coma bout a month or so ago n I’m standing up for myself I’m not letting everyone control me it’s caused such a shocker. Nobody likes me but I’m not people pleasing anymore this is my life n I’m gonna b happy I dint need their approval. Anyways I stumbled apon ur utube n fiend it fascinating I think I could write a book too. I also was sexual abused at the age of 5 by my cousin n my sister. She was older then me n just wanted to b with them. She should of protected me. Ect love what u gals r doing from methuen ma no Boston well good for u gals. Need a job haven’t worked since children I am very good learner or set me up with book order😂 18:53 18:53

  • @lolitamoonprod

    @lolitamoonprod

    8 ай бұрын

    The gut always knows. Love and light🙏🏼🕊👼🏼✨🍀🧿

  • @pattyannoloughlin6153

    @pattyannoloughlin6153

    8 ай бұрын

    That's the Holy Spirit. 😊. God doesn't lie.

  • @pipwhitefeather5768

    @pipwhitefeather5768

    7 ай бұрын

    It is not just the gut, it is our sixth sense, as well, our 'extended mind' like when we turn around and someone is looking straight at us and we felt it, without even consciously realising why we turned. Our survival depends on these things. It's also reading bodies, that refines it, when people are being deceptive it does confuse our senses, so seeing the flags of possible deception with our mind and feeling the gut reaction combine. Now we have to take care in the boardroom not just the jungle ;)

  • @standforgreatness
    @standforgreatness3 ай бұрын

    What stuck out for me (or maybe what I needed to hear most) was the story about the bees and the flies. I've been dancing in and out of a relationship for 10 years with a fly constantly hoping that he would become a bee. While we have enjoyed some wonderful times together doing things out in the world, our inner world has been really impacted by my bee-ness trying to survive his fly-ness. It has been draining. When she said that bees don't try to convince flies to like honey, it landed over here like a big AHA! That's what I've been trying to do. I come from a family of flies so no surprise 1. that i chose a fly and 2. that I made up/hoped that I had been switched at birth well into my 30's. lol I am strong, powerful, insightful, generous, giving adn a stand for all people to live their greatness. Those are the seeds I'm planting. Thanks, Mel. Thanks, Janine. Thanks, HP./Universe/Spirit. This was just what I needed to hear today.

  • @standforgreatness

    @standforgreatness

    3 ай бұрын

    And it's important to recognize the other side of that. He has been tremendously steadfast and flexible, generous with his time and count-on-able..

  • @marciag4085

    @marciag4085

    2 ай бұрын

    Man this hit hard on me too! 8 years and one child and I'm finally done wasting my Life with this fly!

  • @jett888

    @jett888

    2 ай бұрын

    So ditto!!

  • @jett888

    @jett888

    2 ай бұрын

    ​@@standforgreatnessi appreciated that reminder to always seek the good of each individual

  • @lorrenab-beat527
    @lorrenab-beat527 Жыл бұрын

    In the world today, Janine's empathy along with yours, Mel, truly is a superpower.

  • @christinemilham2847

    @christinemilham2847

    4 ай бұрын

    Engaging and gracious 😊

  • @Peacetothepeople65
    @Peacetothepeople652 ай бұрын

    Someone tried to take me when I was 17, and I ran into a trailer park and hid under the skirt of a trailer as I watched him driving his car slowly around the park, looking for me for two hours. I stayed under the trailer for 5 hours before I dared to come out when I ran home through backyards, avoiding the roads. No one believed me when I told the adults around me because we lived in a small town and had never had that experience. This was in the early 1970s, and I still don't have relationships with my family because they didn't believe in me when I was terrified. On the other hand, that experience gave me the gift of the site, the best gift anyone could ask for.

  • @jondiotte3572

    @jondiotte3572

    Ай бұрын

    Im glad your still here you were a brave kid back then to know things other kids might of not picked up on it.

  • @Dahlia_lilah
    @Dahlia_lilah4 ай бұрын

    Thank you both for this amazing conversation. I've learned so much and here are some of the takeaways I wanna share: 10:23 You plant pumpkin seeds, what does it grow? Pumpkins. You plant tomato seeds, what does it grow? Tomatoes. People get what they grow, they get what they plant. 13:30 We're not teaching emotional intelligence at schools sadly. Signs for stress/lying through pacifying gestures: rubbing eyes, touching necks, thighs, lips,... Emotional intelligence includes self-awareness, social awareness, self-adaptation, and motivating others 21:40 Shoulder shrug = uncertainty. The root of the tree: what do you believe? Trunk: body language (comes 5 sec before thoughts). Branches: thoughts. Leaves: words. This means you have a 5-second advantage to know how they feel before their brain knows how they feel. Your words plant the next seed, it create what's coming next 25:25 When you don't like what you see, your lips disappear.

  • @tjtampa214

    @tjtampa214

    3 ай бұрын

    Thanks for recapping that list for us. I think that would be a funny thing to put on a t-shirt the part about ... when you don't like what you, see your lips disappear! ... LOL

  • @Gabsss97
    @Gabsss974 ай бұрын

    Mel, thanks for sharing this! Never heard of Janine Driver until today and I’m blown away with the amount of information she shared with us. When folks tell me they don’t like me bc I’m too much, I’ll be sure to respond with “that’s good to know!”

  • @kayleebaginski
    @kayleebaginski Жыл бұрын

    PLEASE HAVE HER ON AGAIN FOR MORE!!!!!!!!!

  • @astorytoldhere
    @astorytoldhere Жыл бұрын

    This episode was 🔥Mindblown. The combo of you 2 powerhouses was atomic. More please. And thank you for paving the way for my come-back.❤

  • @Red_1976

    @Red_1976

    Жыл бұрын

    Brilliant!

  • @kimberlyzalotrawala7888

    @kimberlyzalotrawala7888

    Жыл бұрын

    😅

  • @kittysklog986

    @kittysklog986

    Жыл бұрын

    😊great 😅❤❤

  • @lindasalfen593

    @lindasalfen593

    Жыл бұрын

    Phew!!!!!

  • @anapaulamurillo3801

    @anapaulamurillo3801

    10 ай бұрын

    Agree more of this

  • @moniquematthews7011
    @moniquematthews70116 ай бұрын

    I have a short attention span and typically don't watch long videos all the way through and contemplating stopping and finishing later. Buuuut...I found myself smiling throughout and enjoyed every minute. First time here Mel and you are great..You gained a new follower!

  • @Our22qJourney
    @Our22qJourney8 ай бұрын

    What I learned… I saw Janine‘s Ted talk yesterday and I was impressed by how flawless and confident and professional Janine is. I happened to find this interview today. What I loved from this interview was the stinking thinking, and how it can happen to all of us. This was eye-opening. Thank you.

  • @sarahsmith736
    @sarahsmith736 Жыл бұрын

    I loved this interview! I listened to 3/4 of it on the podcast but then rewatched it all on KZread. I really loved the Tony Stark posture analogy. I can teach this to my kids. As well as rephrasing “you’re addicted to computer games!” The “Good to Know” was great too!!! I recently cut someone out of my life. If it wasn’t all about her she’d just look away & get distant. She was warm (not hot) & would gradually get cold in her treatment of me. Something I learned recently was that “Ego has to be the best & worst at everything” - this was her. She would only talk to me if no one else she knew better was around - literally walk off & talk to her best friend when they turned up. But the final straw was when I was going thru a really stressful time; it involved an incident at school where my 6yo daughter was hiding behind a tree whilst sticks & stones were being thrown at her & when I would talk about it, she would look away whilst I was talking & it felt like she was rolling her eyes & thinking “oh god, her she goes again!” So now I avoid her, unfriended on facebook. I am no longer the “benchwarmer” in her life but I am civilised & have said hello when I see her & I keep walking.

  • @TheRealJanineDriver

    @TheRealJanineDriver

    Жыл бұрын

    Sarah! Thank you twice for listening first in the podcast then starting over and watching the whole thing here on KZread. Wow! And yes definitely teach all that stuff to your kids sister! xo, Janine

  • @alltheworldsastage4785

    @alltheworldsastage4785

    8 ай бұрын

    Good job, Sarah.

  • @JacyndaMinor

    @JacyndaMinor

    8 ай бұрын

    idk about “unfriending” ppl on fb I think that looks a bit dramatic. Maybe I might “mute” them. “Cutting someone out of your life” is a pretty intense way to handle someone who just isn’t interested in you. Maybe she doesn’t have kids, or maybe she doesn’t want to discuss heavy, upsetting things at social occasions? Also, you said you brought the thing up that happened to your daughter _multiple_ times? That’s too much dawg. Why on earth would you be bringing up something so personal and so heavy to someone you barely have a relationship with? *yikes*

  • @memidiane38

    @memidiane38

    8 ай бұрын

    ​@@JacyndaMinorgirl bye! She did what is best for her. Out of sight, out of mind. Block, unfriend, delete and move forward.

  • @JacyndaMinor

    @JacyndaMinor

    7 ай бұрын

    @@memidiane38 you sound like one of those people who announces that you don’t want any more drama- when *_you_* are the drama 🙄 A considerate, mature person would just move on and not waste their energy, or maybe even take the hint that they are making ppl uncomfortable or being boring. Maybe adjust your own behavior and not bring up your kid’s trauma multiple times to an acquaintance, who might even have a history of being bullied in her own life, or might just not know how to discuss something _so heavy_ with a chick who clearly needs to be the center of attention and probably lacks empathy. That’s histrionic behavior, and it’s evidence that she probably makes everything all about her, and it also indicates to me that her kid is likely not getting the support she needs either. Everyone is probably too busy walking on eggshells around mom. Get over yourself.

  • @Ntegrity
    @Ntegrity Жыл бұрын

    THIS CONVERSATION WAS LIFE CHANGING, I WILL BE REWATCHING THIS OVER AND OVER AND IMPLEMENT IT. 😊 Their is so much and I'm so grateful Mel to you and your team, you have all changed my life! Yes for the Better!!! :)

  • @r.p.8906

    @r.p.8906

    Жыл бұрын

    same 🤗

  • @pattypohlit7803

    @pattypohlit7803

    11 ай бұрын

    Same I am so interested intrigued with everything I can relate, you two are inspirational Will always look for help and guidance in❤

  • @alinanjeff1

    @alinanjeff1

    9 ай бұрын

    Agreed ❤

  • @AmiLouWho9495

    @AmiLouWho9495

    8 ай бұрын

    Same...

  • @keywestcatlady

    @keywestcatlady

    4 ай бұрын

    Yes, This was life-changing, I will watch again & again! Where there’s life, there’s hope, right? Never too late to start over! Thank-you, BOTH!

  • @jodirowe2996
    @jodirowe29969 ай бұрын

    I learned to read body language as a child for survival. Then I went to school to learn more. People think I’m psychic, but I am simply reading people, often subconsciously

  • @eveysaff5454

    @eveysaff5454

    8 ай бұрын

  • @AubreeFusselman

    @AubreeFusselman

    7 ай бұрын

    I love using the steeple. 🙏

  • @20greeneyes20

    @20greeneyes20

    7 ай бұрын

    Very smart for a child to have to do that as a child. I find you very intelligent for you to do so.Rather than fold up.😉

  • @simplysavvy0113

    @simplysavvy0113

    5 ай бұрын

    Unstable or insecure parents often bring this out in kids.

  • @philosop.HER_

    @philosop.HER_

    5 ай бұрын

    What did you study?

  • @JMeg-gj5zi
    @JMeg-gj5zi4 ай бұрын

    Holy Moly. She is overwhelming.. Fast talker. Too much info to process. So smart. Gotta get her book. Gotta get the Quinn book. Grazie, Mel

  • @djnlb2

    @djnlb2

    3 ай бұрын

    Lol I'm also a member of the ADD club talk a mile a minute and like she said my text I give the key points at the beginning. Also yeah into astrology (gemini aka sign of communication etc) doctors use to be REQUIRED to study ASTROLOGY to treat patients True FACT!❤ PL&L

  • @lanageorge5865
    @lanageorge5865 Жыл бұрын

    This is such an empowering conversation. I am already identifying things I do right and the things I want to change.

  • @marlynmcleod4974

    @marlynmcleod4974

    Жыл бұрын

    Me too great information ❤

  • @NaveDelAmor

    @NaveDelAmor

    Жыл бұрын

    A lesson in manipulation ;) - get what you want ;) Sleuthing ;)

  • @jasonkennedy9502

    @jasonkennedy9502

    Жыл бұрын

    I love listening to Janine!

  • @elizabethzaytseva7996

    @elizabethzaytseva7996

    10 ай бұрын

    I like how you said “things I do right” instead of “wrong”. :)

  • @AnaRangelYoga
    @AnaRangelYoga3 ай бұрын

    Love Janine's confidence. These tools aren't only useful but also quite a lot of fun 😄

  • @Thankful_.

    @Thankful_.

    3 ай бұрын

    I agree!

  • @bmbrooklyn
    @bmbrooklyn8 ай бұрын

    Oh my goodness this session was fantastic! Please bring her back. I want to learn more to understand others around me. I had so many take always, “the story behind the story”, the pirámide, the right eye 👁️ on right eye 👁️, “good to know”. It was a fireworks 💥 of knowledge and insight. Thanks 🙏

  • @thoralfnilssen5512
    @thoralfnilssen55124 ай бұрын

    I have to watch this episode again to get the content. I was just hypnotized by Janine`s confidence, energy and her rapid talking sounded like music in my ears :)

  • @rosiekhan7576
    @rosiekhan7576 Жыл бұрын

    This episode is so informative. I started listening to the podcast and had to switch to KZread. Good job Mel, your choice of guests shows how you truly care about your listeners. Thank you

  • @susanmartin3352

    @susanmartin3352

    Жыл бұрын

    Me too!

  • @chandrabowden

    @chandrabowden

    9 ай бұрын

    Me too!

  • @jilliancullen1787

    @jilliancullen1787

    8 ай бұрын

    Same!

  • @JenniferBravoo
    @JenniferBravoo Жыл бұрын

    Mel, this episode was AMAZING! I met with a fitness instructor today and immediately upon greeting him I shook his hand as confidently as I could. When the conversation was over, I ended it the same way. Super empowering. Also, during our conversation, I was focusing on his and mine (of course) body’s language. He even told me I seemed very confident( although I was slightly nervous 😫) because I was asking questions and making sure I knew what I was signing up for. To sum it up, I signed up to begin a new fitness journey to begin living a healthier and physically better lifestyle. Listening to this episode today, really changed how I handled today’s confrontation. I couldn’t have done it without you guys. THANK YOU! Really, I mean it. 🙏🏼❤️

  • @SpiritualNotReligious369
    @SpiritualNotReligious3694 ай бұрын

    I definitely want to add that i completely felt it when Janine said she is too much for some people because I, too, am too much for some people. I like the "good to know" and will definitely use it! Thanks again ❤

  • @shaunhelms7289
    @shaunhelms72893 ай бұрын

    All I can say is I'm a wordy woman who speaks way to fast and I'm freaking speechless this hour and 28 min has reinforced .. validated , and changed so many moments for me past present and future you have no idea u have just been key to helping me reinvent what the world has tossed away physically emotionally and spiritually ...bi do believe I have just realized hue unbalkancec the three things have been in my life ..I absolutely am In love w all the things you spoke of my mind is racing w all the people in my life and placing them into changed categories ... My father who recently passed IS MY HERO. I saw him in my head a doing each of these key moments you spoke of you are amazing and I love that you speak so fast because ...you keep my brains pace !! I can't wait to listen to more of your shows but I do believe I will listen to this one quite possibly weekly thank you for being who you are and doing what you have done w gods blessings and the weight of the world ! your amazing I can't wait to unleash my new found validated confidence and know!ege on the world ..#knoeledeisempowerment#empowermentfreedome#. #freedomeispeace#. #Peaceisbeingwhole# #beingwholeselflove# thank you !!BE BLESSED ❤

  • @jacquireddy1466
    @jacquireddy14667 ай бұрын

    I want to listen to the two of you giving advice to our your best life for days and days and repeat every 3 months. You May different and have in mine today that will last tomorrow!! I love you each ❤️

  • @kellyname5733
    @kellyname57334 ай бұрын

    That head patting or flipping hair..I have not done that in forever. In my 20's yes but not in many decades. I have mastered being very still, taking my time..lots of time to answer questions.(it is strategic to maintain control of the conversation). Works every time! Why...just why can't people be honest? I'm a straight shooter.. folks kinda don't like that.

  • @heatherjones2363
    @heatherjones23632 ай бұрын

    I have been going through a recent break up. I was in this relationship for 5 years and this specific podcast opened my eyes and really made me understand my moving on, is the best gift i could have given to my future self. I just love you Mel. You have helped me so much just in the passed week, i listen to you everyday and just adore you. I admire you reaching out to specialists who profess in different skills to help everyone understand and grow to be the best version of themselves. 🎉 ❤❤❤❤

  • @sallysmith6364
    @sallysmith63642 ай бұрын

    That was a LOT of info in a short time! I’m obsessed with this woman! This vid got saved to my “Life Changing!” Folder on YT!

  • @itsjustmedestiny5616
    @itsjustmedestiny5616 Жыл бұрын

    Im not even 6 minutes into this episode Mel; and you have no idea as a 28 year old women, how much I relate to her story. You look devastated as you listen to her say those words, and I feel almost insulted that you couldnt imagine it that way. Life is crazy and I appreciate you so much. I have been watching you since before 5,4,3,2,1.. to the high five habit and I cannot tell you how much I appreciate you learning and growing as the person you are; but empowering the younger generations like me to believe in themselves. thank you and I love you is all I can say after my trauma-dump-praise-throwup to you.

  • @lilialisdorf3826
    @lilialisdorf3826 Жыл бұрын

    I LOVED every second of it! Worth taking notes and pausing once in a while just to let it sink in:) So much energy, power but also kindness and softness. THANK U both!❤❤

  • @thelolly51
    @thelolly519 ай бұрын

    Hello, Your video is very interesting. I am a member of the deaf community in the uk. I by myself am defend with severe hearing loss. We using sign language which includes NMF (non manual features), all hand signs are combined with facial, body and moving expressions. We additionally try to catch lip reading( which is very difficult) The result is that all deaf people seem staring at you or each another. This is a must. I say deaf people are the best listeners as we give you 100% of our attention and are highly focused to get the information in a conversation. Deaf people are highly sensitive and can read people very well. I don't actually need really your advice as there is only a true conversation possible as you can not sign without emotional action. It would change the meaning of the sign you using. E.g. never mind and can't be bothered is the same sign but with the difference that in the first meaning the eyebrows going up with the shoulder flinching and the mouth making pft. Can't be bothered has the tongue between the lips with puffed cheeks ,highly raised shoulders and eyebrows found. You understand. And in both cases the upper body goes a bit back. I am talking about BSL not ASL. We are brilliant reading faces and body language as it is essential for just talking for us. Just saying. You might be intrigued looking in to this... You tips are really good...

  • @wendybarber4269

    @wendybarber4269

    Ай бұрын

    I am hearing impaired. I wear hearing aids in both ears. And I keep my eyes on the person as well. I am watching the whole body. Using everything I can to keep up with the conversation.

  • @artistocracy
    @artistocracy9 ай бұрын

    I was fascinated by, and riveted to, everything Janine spoke about! Thank you Mel for this very inspiring episode. I loved how quickly Janine speaks because my mind was with her every word, and she did not waste one of them!

  • @megboone4017
    @megboone4017 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Mel! I will definitely be re-watching this episode. "Good to know." My new favorite comeback. ❤

  • @naobolliger9188
    @naobolliger9188 Жыл бұрын

    "Stop being judgemental - start being curious and ask questions, because there's the story behind the stories" 😎👌

  • @TheRealJanineDriver

    @TheRealJanineDriver

    Жыл бұрын

    Nao, This is a lesson I have to remind myself everyday! Thanks for your comment! xo, Janine

  • @FlowersbyElise

    @FlowersbyElise

    Жыл бұрын

    Very loving way to be.

  • @user-vw1bq9rh8x

    @user-vw1bq9rh8x

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen!!!❤❤

  • @bettywood7288

    @bettywood7288

    11 ай бұрын

  • @elizabethkinnison7180

    @elizabethkinnison7180

    11 ай бұрын

    A great excerpt to have chosen!

  • @lieukon8072
    @lieukon80724 ай бұрын

    You know, I could be wrong, but when Mel closed her eyes several times, I had to wonder what she was actually feeling when she said she loved me. That's good to know, Mel. 😂😂 These are my 3 things. Seriously though, this is one of my favorite talks. Thank you, Healer!

  • @abigaillandon728
    @abigaillandon728 Жыл бұрын

    More like this!! What an awesome episode...empowerment, moments to pause and self reflect and FUN! You're awesome as always Mel and your guest today blew me away. Thank you for all of the amazing content you share with all of us❤

  • @Mariahodjeva
    @Mariahodjeva Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Mel for what you do. You are an amazing woman. I love your books and podcast. I'm so grateful Mel to you and Janine. I'll replay this episode again

  • @juliettej9107
    @juliettej91077 ай бұрын

    Every single time I look for a Mel podcast, you ALWAYS come up with something SO appropriate for exactly what I need. You are a wonder woman and as for Janine - WOW WOW WOW! I want to absorb all this information. It is literally LIFE CHANGING! I'm old but still curious and learning. Thank you SO much, Mel, I feel you are MY friend and I love YOU!!

  • @linda.s.gislad
    @linda.s.gislad5 ай бұрын

    Oh, I loved every minute of this podcast. Janine has changed the way I'll ever look at people again. I wish I had learned some of her tips while I was still working. It would have helped me (and the children I worked with) immensely. Thanks to both of you, Mel and Janine!🙂♥

  • @rfiafia
    @rfiafia Жыл бұрын

    I caution people using the "are you ok" question because I've had it used on me in a very passive-aggressive way. Similar to when someone tells you to calm down. Because I wasn't not okay until I was questioned four times in a row. I loved this podcast and got a lot out of it too. I love you Mel as well. I am learning so much and reading your 5 second book.

  • @LenaSandul
    @LenaSandul Жыл бұрын

    Omg, Mel, I LOVE your podcasts! They are incredible! Thank you for providing all this info for free!

  • @jenicaadkins
    @jenicaadkins8 ай бұрын

    I'm so incredibly grateful to you both. I like many others weren't taught this. Thank you both!!

  • @JonDingle
    @JonDingle3 ай бұрын

    Compelling stuff delivered at 100mph! Absolutely brilliant.

  • @b0ndrey
    @b0ndrey11 ай бұрын

    This was jam packed with wisdom and yet I have trouble remembering any of it. Overload! I’m going to rewatch it for sure, yet thinking I could see it every day for a month and still have trouble implementing it all 😂

  • @AmiLouWho9495

    @AmiLouWho9495

    8 ай бұрын

    I kept pausing the video and tried to take notes. Good luck ❤

  • @celiasantos5563
    @celiasantos5563 Жыл бұрын

    This conversation is absolutely precious and very empowered. ❤❤❤ Thank you both!! 🙏

  • @harmonybalancehealth
    @harmonybalancehealth8 ай бұрын

    I am listening to you Mel and your guest and wow am I thrilled. I plan on writing notes and sitting quietly to absorb what you women are saying. I because of my past am a very good body reader. I use to watch students intentionally walking down the hall and into the class to see what their body language said to me and then I would hug them, ask them questions... My Grandmother came from the USA when she was 7 years old in 1907 she and her sister moved to Canada when her Mom had passed away. My Grandmother wasa my very best teacher. I was told I was gifted by a professor who taught giftedness but sadly died @ age 55. I was recognized by only one principal in my 11.1 years of teaching in the second largest school board in Canada. I was ousted by a woman who became Chief Superintendent. Other teachers knew what she was like. Anyhow when one door closes another opens up and so I studied my mind for 6 years under ancient wisdom rather than by traditional psychology that is used in the West. I was also a very unique and excellent teacher but was NOT recognized by the system for what I offered the students and or their parents. Parents really appreciated me. I must get back to my work so that I can be free on Sunday which is our Thanksgiving Day.

  • @erinjenkins4738
    @erinjenkins47388 ай бұрын

    This was fabulous! I was hanging on her every word ! Absolutely loved this interview ❤

  • @terrangelica3505
    @terrangelica3505 Жыл бұрын

    My favorite episode in the 3 months of watching your show on KZread! Thank you both!!!❤

  • @aktoradi7693
    @aktoradi7693 Жыл бұрын

    This is the most interesting and intriguing conversation I've ever heard. I love it! Thank you, Mel and Janine!

  • @kelliebertoli8098
    @kelliebertoli809811 ай бұрын

    Two inspirational women!! I loved this podcast with all the valuable content. Thank you both so much 🙌💜💫😘😘

  • @EveMcLainNewsom
    @EveMcLainNewsom4 ай бұрын

    I am so happy Mel that I discovered your Channel today! I love your energy.

  • @rowillo
    @rowillo Жыл бұрын

    That was GREAT! “Good to know.” That’s a perfect comeback line. I will be using it! ❤

  • @Piper-mu7rj
    @Piper-mu7rj Жыл бұрын

    This was amazing content by both Janine and Mel, so helpful. I love that information like this is generously shared to help empower us in specific situations, especially if we tend to shrink. The only thing I would add is not to take Janine's advice about using the eye contact tactic on servers/waitresses. For someone who spent a chunk of time in that industry, though no longer, waitstaff are already in a disempowered position. Guests can belittle you and disrespect you in so many ways, no need to have another trick to make sure you are the one in power.

  • @carolannheffernan3872
    @carolannheffernan38727 ай бұрын

    So MUCH value 🤩 And so many things to practice/ work on! Janine is awesome! So…”good to know!”

  • @bethshaw6757
    @bethshaw67572 ай бұрын

    I just remember my Wonderful Father used to steeple. He was a kind and gentle Leader.

  • @neeciebb8
    @neeciebb8 Жыл бұрын

    Love this episode. One of my favourites. So interesting and helpful. Can’t wait to watch it again. Love positive good helpful people. Thank you.

  • @PaulaJohnson181
    @PaulaJohnson181 Жыл бұрын

    Mel!!!! This was an amazing episode! I can't thank you and your guest enough!!! I downloaded the episode so I could go back and take notes! ❤❤ thank you for being an awesome Podcaster....I love your show! and thank you to Janine!

  • @shawnie2027
    @shawnie20278 ай бұрын

    Thank you Mel!!! I love this stuff! I feel so empowered! Oh btw this AM I woke up on my back (scoliosis causes this to render me in excruciating pain due to muscle spasms) and instead of laying there contemplating just where to move to make it less painful. Like I naturally do, I said in my head 5-4-3-2-1 and pushed myself up through the pain and was standing up 😮thinking “I gotta thank that Mel someday for this” lol so THANK YOU! I’m living in my RV after my husband of 13yrs kicked me out to move in his new supply! So I’m on a new journey and your on it with me and I didn’t even know it! 😂💯thank you💯no shoulder hike or eye everting here! 😂❤❤❤

  • @sharonhayes4174
    @sharonhayes41747 ай бұрын

    This is my favorite guest so far . I learned soooo much thank you Mel for all that you do to inform us

  • @MsSbrighton
    @MsSbrighton11 ай бұрын

    I liked this episode some much! I am very interested and curious about body language and human behavior, and Janine explained so well simple things that we don't notice, and her explanations were like a light bulb moment in my head! Furthermore, I loved the hand steepling, the “good to know” and the way you can get someone to tell the truth, I can hardly wait to use it! Thank you, Mel, for what you do, for this episode and thank you, Janine! 🥰

  • @robinporterfield9930
    @robinporterfield9930 Жыл бұрын

    I relate to Mel Robbins so much. We got nervous and we laughed at the same time. She is intimating. Great information!

  • @marilenepetrinovich8197
    @marilenepetrinovich819711 ай бұрын

    I loved this interview. Being Japanese I learned that what is not said is even more important than what is said. I liked the analogy of the tree and how your body reacts 5 seconds faster than your thought. I also liked the idea to not use the negative but to use the positive and that the idea of manifesting your expectations. I will work on not using don’t and change it to do…

  • @A74568Z
    @A74568Z4 ай бұрын

    Great energy. Love the tangent thoughts as she rushes through every second of her life, detailed in the first 10 minutes! I cracked up when she’s talking a million miles an hour about her career development, and interjects, “my son, who is 17 and 6’1” was a baby”, and keeps on talking without missing a beat.

  • @NicoleF-ye7yu
    @NicoleF-ye7yu Жыл бұрын

    This was amazing! She is fantastic and I learned so much. Please have her back again.

  • @zsofiasigmond-kiss8296
    @zsofiasigmond-kiss8296 Жыл бұрын

    I learned so much from this podcast. Thank you, Mel!

  • @enadimi
    @enadimi7 ай бұрын

    Oh wow! My first time watching your podcast. What a treat this was, I learned so much 🙏❤️🙏

  • @tinamerlot4403
    @tinamerlot44036 ай бұрын

    FANTASTIC !!!!!!!!! Mel, this came up today (11/10/23). This was THE BEST interview I have ever watched - for several reasons. I needed this so much. I will rewatch this over and over. This was meant to be. THANK YOU, MEL, AND, JANINE.

  • @MelissaBytwork

    @MelissaBytwork

    4 ай бұрын

    Amen ❤❤

  • @julieburkhardt61
    @julieburkhardt61 Жыл бұрын

    this is so fascinating to me! I've always wanted to be more self aware and certainly more aware of other's body language.

  • @theforensicbadass
    @theforensicbadass Жыл бұрын

    From one badass to another, this interview was badass. Right up my alley and line of work!! Thanks Mel and Janine!!

  • @krzysztofmathews738
    @krzysztofmathews73810 ай бұрын

    Absolutely fascinating! Thank you for arranging this excellent conversation!

  • @ginaperales842
    @ginaperales8424 ай бұрын

    This was incredible!! Thank you. I love how Janine said, “rewrite our story. We all deserve a comeback!”

  • @IreneGrilo-qh5ji
    @IreneGrilo-qh5ji Жыл бұрын

    This was outstanding Mel. Janine is fabulous and such powerful and helpful info. Thank you for this.

  • @LenaSandul
    @LenaSandul Жыл бұрын

    Her story about a bully boss was eyes opening. I wish I heard it 7 straight out of college. It could have saved me a lot of worries

  • @infomercialguy
    @infomercialguy10 ай бұрын

    i learned so many things, it's impossible to name just a couple/few. That woman was fabulous. She poured so much into "us" i'm SO THANKFUL.

  • @sd6168
    @sd61686 ай бұрын

    I Truly Loved Loved Loved the talk!! Thank you Mel, Thank you Janine and Thank you Janine for mentioning Audrey's book!! I truly appreciate you sharing your time with us to better ourselves ❤❤❤

  • @plo910
    @plo910 Жыл бұрын

    This is great stuff!! Learned so much from this podcast. Thank you, Mel!

  • @hcmangs3634
    @hcmangs3634Ай бұрын

    I’m in love with both of these women!! I’ve been screaming exactly what she calls out, instead of ‘don’t’ call out what you want, hugest frustration with the ‘don’t bully’ BS in elementary schools, bullying has increased since this program started

  • @infomercialguy
    @infomercialguy10 ай бұрын

    I love this guest ! Everything about her. She's gorgeous inside and out. Truly lovely. I adore that she pours out so much information! THAT shows how loving she is. She wants others to know her "nuggets" of wisdom. I have rarely seen someone so amazing. She gave me 40 secrets of amazing information. Hope to meet her one day !!

  • @HabitaulLineStepper
    @HabitaulLineStepper Жыл бұрын

    Amazing! Obsessed with Mel & Janine Driver. I get so stoked every time she’s on Court TV. Super smart & inspiring.

  • @avanellehansen4525

    @avanellehansen4525

    10 ай бұрын

    Thanks for giving her full name.

  • @jenndunlop52
    @jenndunlop52 Жыл бұрын

    I'm blown away! Thank you for sharing her with us, Mel. I shared this with my daughters and sister. You have all our backs! GOOD TO KNOW❤😂!!

  • @Whosthatgirl369
    @Whosthatgirl3698 ай бұрын

    Wow. This was so powerful and motivating. What an energy this woman has! I’ve never even heard of her before-amazing

  • @donnasalerno9870
    @donnasalerno98708 ай бұрын

    Excellent segment. Enormously insightful! I am aware of the behavior of a man touching his head when lying or uncertain. I have an acute awareness to human behavior due to abuse. I never heard of Janine prior to this segment but I am a new follower now. Thank you, Janine and Mel for such a great podcast segment.

  • @wmbreedlove
    @wmbreedlove Жыл бұрын

    I’m definitely re-watching this and taking copious notes! Thank you for the content you put out there for is!

  • @dinadantuono1485
    @dinadantuono148511 ай бұрын

    LOVE THIS on sooooo many levels!!! You both rock ❤❤

  • @user-bx8lx8lg5i
    @user-bx8lx8lg5i4 ай бұрын

    Thank you Mel Robbin’s for putting the right guests in front of us today. This is just what I needed! I love you Mel❤

  • @dr.kimmartin2591
    @dr.kimmartin25918 ай бұрын

    I have done the steepling in videos and didn't realize until after I saw this, and I Loved the "Good to know" I would say "Thank You" but I will try the new phrase. Loved this episode. Thank You Mel and Please bring Janine back.

  • @connysmultisidedordinaryli9205
    @connysmultisidedordinaryli9205 Жыл бұрын

    I am rewatching this many times!!!! Powerfull!!! I need to learn this whole episode until i live all of it!!! ❤

  • @mariamisac
    @mariamisac Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Mel , you are truly an amazing person and I'm so grateful that I just discovered you, you have no idea how much you already helped me 😘😘

  • @marcinowalk8077
    @marcinowalk80775 ай бұрын

    Thank you Mel for all the help I get just watching your podcast. You are amazing at what you do. ❤

  • @MelissaBytwork
    @MelissaBytwork4 ай бұрын

    I just found u. And watched this tonight!! It was sooo awesome I had to watch again and took notes .. I am now so thankful how you have opened my mind to be better. I really like you and this info... Bless you❤❤❤

  • @patriciapage4625
    @patriciapage4625 Жыл бұрын

    Boy, oh boy this was really educational and also inspiring to listen to this interview. Bless you.

  • @SpiritualDivine
    @SpiritualDivine Жыл бұрын

    Hands down best podcast I've seen in a long time!! Thank you!!

  • @telmagch
    @telmagchАй бұрын

    Hi dear! I started following you as a part of my journey to learn English to improve my vocabulary.. I just wanted to say that I genuinely enjoyed listening your videos and today’s guest literally blow my mind!

  • @christinapitts
    @christinapitts5 ай бұрын

    Wow, I'm glad I stayed and listened all the wy through. Mel you make an impact!

  • @suzannesharpe4529
    @suzannesharpe4529 Жыл бұрын

    I want to learn ALL of this! I am an empath, so my intuitive perception of others is always "on," well, at least I thought it was....

  • @deborahdavis6030
    @deborahdavis6030 Жыл бұрын

    wow I was listening while in the car and had to come home to watch this episode. She's a powerhouse! this was my favorite episode since I learned so much about myself and human behaviors. I certainly will listen to this again and take notes and then start to become aware of people more as I talk, especially while dating!

  • @TheRealJanineDriver

    @TheRealJanineDriver

    Жыл бұрын

    Deborah! You are so incredible kind! Thank you for your compliments and I'm thrilled to hear that the episode with Mel and me was your favorite so far. WOWWWW. I'm happy to hear that you learned so much about yourself and human behaviors! Much love, Janine

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