Thank you for watching! ❤What do you think about flex culture? Leave your thoughts in the comments below! Remember, you can shop my clothing line now: annabeyshop.com/ Meanwhile, find out what I think about the quiet luxury and old money aesthetic trends here: kzread.info/dash/bejne/dZyKo9B_d63edKg.html

@annerink4327

10 ай бұрын

I don't understand why you're criticizing flexing + old money æsthetic, when that's literally what you're doing and promoting - what am I missing?

@Pilot333

10 ай бұрын

I am so not 'flex-culture' that I did not know it was even a thing... I always thought these people were just showing off. 😄

@mayaharina2090

10 ай бұрын

I'm grateful to God that I'm living the life that I want don't mind to show off. I had wedding that I like, I have not so handsome husband that I like..I was quietly have been living and travelling for 7 years..and I don't need other jealous to be happy...on the contrary, who can be happy if many people are hating you because of jealous

@mayaharina2090

10 ай бұрын

Flex means boast? I'm Russian

@wingsphysio

10 ай бұрын

@@annerink4327exactly with all her birkins and Kelly’s Hermes shoes and belts.

My dad always said, “The lion doesn’t need to roar. Everybody knows he’s the lion.” Sooo true.

@softsophisticate

10 ай бұрын

Fantastic.

@marykali3603

6 ай бұрын

I like that!

@ajjudge7983

6 ай бұрын

Mic drop! Your dad is a smart gentleman! 👏

@anamariacristina7432

6 ай бұрын

Very true!!

@Vuri_

6 ай бұрын

& yet it still roars!!!

I think ‘flex culture’ is an addiction. Not necessarily the items, clothes or cars. It’s the response of people. The likes, the comments and even the jealousy. I think it has the same effect as narcissistic supply for narcissists.

@arba1669

6 ай бұрын

I agree with you dear

@kaylaEA_

6 ай бұрын

I agree. I listen to others say things like “they not going to want to see me in this” or “I know they waiting to see how my house look” (family member that purchased a new home. Who is they? I don’t believe they care as much.

My mother used to tell me about what you’re describing as flex culture. She said people would buy a lot of things just to show off. And she also told me that real well-to-do people didn’t worry about buying these things. Rather, they were more concerned about saving their money and enjoying life.

@Poodle_Gun

10 ай бұрын

My best friend is wealthy, and he's the one who taught me how to go Spartan. The first thing he did with his money was pay down his debts.

@mariskab.9106

9 ай бұрын

Agreed....I also think that it depends in which country you were born big difference in culture between Europe and North America

@ericab9050

9 ай бұрын

So true

@manoftomorrow5987

9 ай бұрын

Facts. People buy things to impress people who really don't care about them...but for some reason they don't seem to understand that concept.

@TheDowntownHermit-xj6rq

9 ай бұрын

My biggest flex is no debt, And not living paycheck to paycheck. Oh, Wait... That's not very sexy is it?

My biggest flex is not having children before marriage. It was a plague in my family. I call that a success.

@--M--1111

10 ай бұрын

Wait..in 2023 not in 1950..your family was giving you trouble for not have kids in general? Whether married or not? You do know that women are free now not to have children and to never listen to old fashioned idiots who think women should procreate and then flex their often not happy, miserable family on facebook while bei g jealous of childfree, career, traveling and other goal oriented women. Especially in our broken world, having kids is selfish. Intelligent people are not having children knowing orphanages are full and our Earth is dying fast.

@shhhperry9852

10 ай бұрын

I thought this was a fashion channel… why are we talking about marriage and children?

@lianacordova8094

10 ай бұрын

@@shhhperry9852 why not? She is proud of herself for making good life choices. Don't hate because u didn't do the same...

@flowyflame

10 ай бұрын

Good for you, girl! 🎉

@flowyflame

10 ай бұрын

​@@shhhperry9852I think she shared that bc others are also posting their own "flex(es)" (weird word lol) in other comments. Apparently this is simply her version of it 👍🏻👍🏻

My flex is knowing luxuries won't make you happy. I'm ambivalent about Anna's content, but she's an intriguing woman, I like seeing her change and put things into questions.

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

At least you're still here keeping an open mind, instead of sitting and hating behind a screen like some other people! 😀👏❤❤❤❤

@prettypuffprincess

10 ай бұрын

They can make you happy, but it’s not the ONLY thing that makes you happy ❤

@justritasimi

10 ай бұрын

Some of the happiest people I've ever seen in my life are the mountain people of morocco . They don't even know what a chanel bag is and they laugh and smile and eat fresh food..breathe fresh air .. sometimes I wonder how the world became so obsessed with material goods as if it matters in the grand scheme of things...and yes I drive a bmw and have 2 chanel bags but I can easily go without those ever again in favor of a more simple, natural life . Just my two cents ...☺️

@tmmartinesq.6216

10 ай бұрын

I'm not going to prevaricate, I ❤ the Ralph Lauren lifestyle.

@annie-sc

10 ай бұрын

​@@AnnaBeyOfficiali think these triggered people usually comment before finishing the video, so they missed the point especially your message at the end. 😅

I'm so glad there was no social media in my childhood/teenage years. My parents didn't have much money, but I never felt poor and never had the feeling of missing out because no one was showing off their lifestyle. I don't want to experience what some people with low self esteem go through these days. That's Anna's best video by the way, such an important topic ❤️

@gmaxh4549

9 ай бұрын

Not compared to Friends?

@priyv8710

7 ай бұрын

@@gmaxh4549 yes..pre internet era was the coolest time for teenagers ...being a 90s kids...we just focused on having more fun outdoors and not how we look ...cz nobody really cared about those things...

@emerybayblues

6 ай бұрын

I came of age during the 80s, however there were certain pressures. Having the Member's Only jacket, the Lacoste shirt, Calvin Klein jeans, etc.

I really realized how you've become more self assured and also likeable in your videos. You have a much more natural approach to all these things now and are so much more relaxed and convincing meanwhile. You developed great! Thumbs up!

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

I appreciate that! Thank you for adding a positive touch to my day! I hope I added one to yours ❤

@Marivi247

10 ай бұрын

Dear Anna, When I saw your content a few years ago, even though I found you interesting, I felt it was a bit too focused on becoming or looking rich. And since one or two years. I feel like your content mostly promotes real ‚class‘, in a sense of acting respectful and empathetic, living a healthy lifestyle with a healthy self worth, and pursuing the things we want by positive changes. I really love how it’s not anymore so much about finding a certain type of partner but how to be classy yourself. And as you said in recent videos, one can have little money and still be an elegant and classy. I am so happy for you, to see your development to so much healthy self confidence independent of flexing or money, you are just classy and I‘m here for it 🥰

@zavierbartlett4504

9 ай бұрын

That's exactly what I thought. She also listens to her followers' opinions and reflect on her previous content. A very down to earth classy woman. I love Anna, I can listen to her voice all day

@MariasJournal__

8 ай бұрын

I agree with what you say! I also noticed the shift and it’s definitely in a good way :) @@Marivi247

@oluchukwuanneifele4931

7 ай бұрын

I just love Anna, because of all you have said. Very open and down to earth.

My flex is my pumpkin patch! It’s only like 15 pumpkin plants in pots in my backyard, but I finally got a female and male flower to bloom today, and hand pollinated it and I feel very proud to have gotten this far with them. It’s the little things in life that make me happy. After I had my first baby, I realized I truly don’t care what anyone thinks of me. As long as I’m doing my best to raise a good human I am happy.

@softsophisticate

10 ай бұрын

Wow, didn't know you got male and female pumpkins :) I grow my own veg - currently have squash, but never grown pumpkins - will have to give it a try.

@Katie-ry4lj

10 ай бұрын

@@softsophisticate just male and female flowers! The male flowers pollen gets in to the female flower, and then a pumpkin starts growing from the base of the female flower. Should be very similar to your summer squash! I recommend! It’s lots of fun!

@sherylF5610

7 ай бұрын

Love it 🌱🎃🌱

I had no idea what Flex Culture was. It’s basically just showing off!

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

Most commonly yes, showing off in particular status, privilege, wealth, status symbols etc. But of course, flexing can be done in so many different ways as discussed in the video.

@JP-ve7or

10 ай бұрын

LOL when this video popped up I thought it was about flexible work culture, like partly working from home 🤦😆

@Oceangirl1234

10 ай бұрын

I think flex culture is definitely getting old. I definitely felt influenced by social media to always only show of myself my good traits and material possessions. And I find it so disgusting when others do it. Humble. Nailed it.

This is what self-improvment means. When people are improving themselves, they don't usually like their previous points of view, and see the changes and are never shy to share them with others. Thank you, Anna! So happy that the Universe made our ways crossed ❤

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

Definitely we outgrow certain thoughts and opinions with time, the same way we outgrow taste in music/food/clothes/activities etc. Not all of course, I still have quite a lot of opinions and tastes that I'm holding on to :) But with time I have gained wider perspective and simply don't care for the same things I cared for 5 years ago. 10 years ago etc.

@lesleymay6757

10 ай бұрын

​@@AnnaBeyOfficialI really enjoyed this video. I've been following you for a while, and you're like an awesome cousin or friend that gives good insights and shows us how to be classy. I'm all about self awareness, improvement, etc. And I like your tips on feeling and looking elegant.

There's so much freedom that comes with losing the desire to impress people. Of course many of us want to be well liked and well received. As Anna said, it's a natural human instinct. What I try to think about whenever I'm buying something or posting something is: "do I like my reason for doing this?" I've found it helps me make better decisions.

@hameley12

10 ай бұрын

Absolutely. @theheartbreaknurse Some of us used to post online [ahem] MySpace and Facebook travel, luxurious meals, shopping bags pictures filled with items and other activities. While posting some memories online is great, there is a fine line between sharing a special moment with family and flexing your wealth and health with everyone on social media. As the question you stated, "Do I like the reason for doing this?" "What is my picture trying to convey?" "Will this picture go on public or private posting?" Personally, I enjoy creating personalized albums over time and only pick out pictures I know someday I will share with friends, my own children and my future spouse. These pictures showcase the happy, sad, difficult times and other phases of my life.

@theheartbreaknurse

10 ай бұрын

@@hameley12 love that!

@diopfifi4937

8 ай бұрын

Absolutely. Huge freedom 🙌🏾

@SimplyBeautiful516

4 ай бұрын

Oh wow, what an excellent question to ask!! Also, I’m decluttering right now and it’s working in reverse for me as well. “Do I like the reason I’m feeling the need to keep the item?”

I really liked how this video was filmed- almost like a podcast- and you're absolutely right about flex culture. it's more about competition and less about individuality and self respect. That's literally why trends are the most transient- after a couple months all the money is wasted on clothes that are no longer "in." Timeless fashion forever

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

The allure and novelty quickly wears off! Let's not be a slave to it... Thank you for your kind thoughts! Glad you liked my podcast set up

I feel like I live in a completely different world than what you showed. I had no idea what Flex Culture was until this video. It's crazy to me. I have no social media besides watching YT which is curated to my interests. When you aren't exposed to influencers, celebs, and all these fake people on the daily, life is completely peaceful. I don't need any of these narcissists in my life especially when they are complete strangers. It's sad to see such an unhealthy attachment to consumerism and unattainable goals for most people. Great video!

@luciabrindisi9835

8 ай бұрын

Well said!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@abigailh7715

7 ай бұрын

🎯 1000%

@lizzyezekiel116

6 ай бұрын

Damn what country are you from cause I’m surprised

This is my favorite video of yours to date, Anna - outstanding. I remember when getting married, all the hype around the "wedding flex" - and one of my friends at the time said "it's not the wedding, it's the marriage". The best things in life we cannot buy - our friends, family, and love.

@debimary6812

10 ай бұрын

This is so true. A couple who love each other, a certificate and a wedding rings, are the most important elements.

@Dejuarez77

10 ай бұрын

My sentiments are like yours, give me a great marriage and an ok wedding, the wedding will be just a day, the Marriage will be till death do as part!!!

@adamccall562

10 ай бұрын

Even though we know the best things in life our free it often gets missed that we actually go not value that in our society in pop culture. Definitely not in social media for the most part.

I would rather live a quality life in REAL life, then look fancy on social media and be broke. Nope. I really appreciate you Anna, I think it's great that you've gone this direction with what you share. I just want to live better than I am and feel good about it without the pressures of posting stuff, just for the look of it.

One thing flex cultures exposes is, most of these people are really not happy. Buying things and showing them off is temporary happiness, microwaved happiness. I make good money and I’m a sneaker head, I love my sneaker collection. Been collecting since 2015 just about, not once have I posted my collection online because I collect them for me, not for others.

Modesty is class!

In my younger years I cared too much what other people thought of me. The older I get though, the less I care who I impress and it's SO FREEING. I'm 1000x happier in my 40s as an eccentric cat lady living life for ME than I ever was in my youth when I used to crave validation and follow trends I didn't even like just to fit in. I used to worry endlessly about being thought of as weird, now I embrace it. I'm not cool or trendy or rich, but I'm happy.

My love for Anna has doubled since 2020 she has taught me to appreciate myself and that classic elegant in my own element. ❤

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

Thank you! Do elegance & level up in a way that suits you! Wishing you all the best

@prettypuffprincess

10 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤yes

I love how Anna admits to her past mistakes and show how she is evolving every year ❤

You speaking up and acknowledging how some of your past videos were (kind of) toxic is a flex and refreshing. Good to see you taking accountability in such an elegant way.

@mehjabeenalam773

3 ай бұрын

Very few people have the courage and grace to embrace self accountability and admit their shortcomings. Anna you inspire us all

My biggest flex is going from 42 inch waist to 28 inch waist. ❤❤❤💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿 good health is TRUE wealth🗝️🗝️🗝️

Honestly? I sober up after having the perfect apartment and boyfriend who had the money and was buying me the expensive stuff, and I was in my best physical shape.... but emotionally and mentally? it was the lowest point of my life. Nothing could take away the feeling of "this is all so wrong"... In the end I had to leave him, the apartment, and the country to start improving my mindset and grow spiritually. And since that point, I'm just rising...

@areebajameel3468

8 ай бұрын

why did u leave him? why did u not marry him, then legally all will be yours,

The biggest "flex" I see in old money circles in England is with art collections and titles. But, it's not wrong to own nice things or have a title like "Baron" or "Duchess". It comes down to how humble, confident, classy, and kind the individual is. This was a great video, Anna. ♥️🇨🇦

@rainforestblessed5031

10 ай бұрын

Yes, fellow Canadian :), it comes down to character.

@joannebarlow3900

10 ай бұрын

I've also noticed and have been subjected to as a former artist - using artists/artisans in general to flex, whether its fine arts, the crafts, artisan foods, etc

@prettypuffprincess

10 ай бұрын

Being humble is SUGGESTIVE! We don’t get the right to police how people show their humbleness

@chiarac3833

10 ай бұрын

Having wealth or status doesn't change you, it magnifies who you always were, good or bad.

@queenlizzie77

10 ай бұрын

So I gave myself a title years ago, just because/does that count? 😂

I thought that I had to limit myself by not doing things that are not rich and elegant that I enjoy like camping, rock climbing and extreme sports. Yet I was not getting happy. So I decided to do adventure sports and still being classy, dressing appropriately and elegantly for all occasions and still enjoy once in a while the finer things in life.

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

Yes!! Create your own level up and what luxury means to you! LOVE IT!

@alexisco.3358

10 ай бұрын

@@AnnaBeyOfficial Thank you! 😊🙏

@debimary6812

10 ай бұрын

Well done. Thats living.

Anna, I think you nailed this talk towards the end, when you drew the difference between (1) showing off and appearing to be "better" than you are, and (2) embracing your privileged lifestyle gratefully, and daring to share it. That was an original insight, and very useful advice. It deserves much more analysis, especially as it is VERY difficult to draw the line. It would deserve a whole series of videos!

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

I'm sure some people will miss that part as it came towards the end of the video, BUT important to know that there is a difference between the toxic flexing I was referring to throughout the video, and then what can be perceived as flexing, although it's literally just a personal showing glimpses from their lives and that life happens to be luxurious. But they're not showing glimpses from the perspective of showing off, they're just showing / sharing. I hope my ladies will be able to see the difference.

@adamccall562

10 ай бұрын

Yes I’d love a series of videos where the line of just showing off and just showing your wealth because it’s a part of your life. No one shows off there UC penny goods. When someone just photographs their designer bag I definitely would say that it’s just about “showing off” about how much money that you have.

Hello Anna! I have to say how much I appreciate you showing your own self-transformation journey so that we can be comfortable in pursuing it for ourselves. I am also saddened by the coarsening of culture globally. Thank you for all you do out there. You are benefitting so many people!

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

Amazing flex! Well done to you!!

Great video, Anna! I love how you've grown and changed your views over the years! And I love that you're not ashamed to embrace that you might have been wrong before. ❤️

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

Thank you! It would be strange not to evolve or change anything since 5 years. Especially as I invest in my personal growth. It would be sad if none of it had any effect, imagine!? 😅

@Nanya88888

10 ай бұрын

I agree, Anna is always helping us grow as well. Us human’s need to evolve and learn or we will forever be stuck in a one mind point of view. I love that Anna is always giving us new material to learn ❤.

@cidweinberg

10 ай бұрын

That’s growth. We all change are not the same person from 20-30, 30-40, 40-50….hey, Anna!

@sandragould8229

10 ай бұрын

I am sure that working with a therapist has helped you evolve, Anna, but I also think that just the fact that you have matured has also lead you to deeper thinking. Glad to see this😊

My biggest flex is my daughter. 😎

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

That is so sweet 😍

@mellyholly

10 ай бұрын

Love that!

@livmilesparanormalromanceb6891

10 ай бұрын

Respect ❤️

@demeedaring

10 ай бұрын

Same 🥰🥰🥰

@valentina_melethiel

10 ай бұрын

Same here ❤️

all of social media is a flex. it can be mildly entertaining or totally obnoxious. it’s nice to feel connected to people through social media. But it’s very easy to feel like a failure in multiple ways seeing all this on a daily basis. i watched you from far back and i love your growth. i love your message of elegance, which is available to everyone.

We called it bragging before flex!

@louisefisher9959

10 ай бұрын

Yes, showing off, Bragging.

I love this: "Comparison is the death of joy"

The answer is to go back to country side. To go back to simple life. And I understood that you want that too Anna. I hope your dream will come true. ❤️

I love the way your content has changed and developed over the years - I wasn't a big fan of all those "how to look rich and start hanging with afluent people" videos at all. But now it's much more about being the best version of yourself instead of "fake it till you make it" and I think it's a great change

I am having a hard time posting on social media at all in the last year because every post seems like a flex in itself!

I am so happy to see that I am not the only one who sees this topic in the same way. I despise the flex culture so much that I live “poor”, I take care of my finances in a very aggressive fashion so that I can build wealth but, I keep any flexing to a minimum. I much prefer a simple life. Anna, thank you for putting this video out here. 😉

I had some guest over for the first time and they just toured the house and my closet/dressing room etc. she asked me why I don’t have KZread and sharing all my bags, clothes, jewels etc. she didn’t just ask, she was literally forcing me by saying I have contents for 100 videos and go on to explain all non sense. Actually she is not a KZread influencer. I told her I’m not all that, if she is that interested she should probably pursue it. She said she is waiting for some kind of increase in her cash flow, so that she can start KZread. I started thinking when did ordinary people start thinking about social media every minute.. She couldn’t understand the fact that I buy jewel, bag, clothes so I can wear and enjoy..For her, it seems there is no purpose, if I don’t post them in KZread/Instagram.

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

I don't think it's a good idea to advertise your possessions so in detail. It attracts robberies unfortunately!

@debimary6812

10 ай бұрын

Advertising your valuables on you tube is a sure fire way to invite burglars.

@elisemcuk9808

10 ай бұрын

I’m more shocked by the fact she toured your house and got into your closet. It’s so rude!

One thing is to be a materialistic person full of ego and trying to humiliate others by throwing on their faces a fake perfect life based all on money and fake appearance and another thing is to be classy, educated and to love yourself and be the best you can be. Love this Anna. Can’t wait to purchase some pieces from your line. ❤❤❤

One of the things that is so lovely about you, Anna, is that you are always self-reflecting and growing. You're humble, and you take accountability. I will never regret clicking on the video that introduced us, and I'm grateful to "know" you. 🙂

I LOVE how we’re growing with you, I outgrew a lot of channels in the last two years, so we love the ones who evolve and grow with us. Thank you for all the effort you put into making your videos, VERY appreciated ❤

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

Thank you for this!

@Peridot07

10 ай бұрын

Omg me too I out grew all the unboxing and collection videos lol

@Ouialyaaad

Ай бұрын

@@AnnaBeyOfficial no way! The complete opposite we love how you are growing

The beautiful thing about authentic people, Anna, is that there is always an upward spiral. You were authentic in previous videos just as you are authentic now. When you believed in aspiring for the more material things, you did not cover it with artifice of being 'above' it - it is a natural human desire. And now, having grow to that level and as you grow past it, you are so genuinely inspiring. And in seeing your journey, we skew ours for the better too :) Such thoughtful content. Thank you!

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

Georgina is doing the absolute MOST. I don’t get why she does it? It’s never smart to flaunt your wealth. Where I’m from showing off your wealth is considered very tacky.

@abeal49

10 ай бұрын

exactly. I grew up in money and everybody wore LL Bean which is expensive but looks casual and makes you look like you do manual labor for a living

@abeal49

10 ай бұрын

I like to wear sleeveless garments for comfort (when I raise my arms the garments stay put.) So I have to keep my upper arms looking good. I like show off my muscles

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

My opinion: I'm sure there are psychological reasons to why she enjoys showcasing wealth. I don't think of her less because I understand it could be just an insecure stage in her life. Maybe in 10 years she will look back at it and think to herself "oh no, maybe that was a bit too much". I certainly have done some self-reflection looking back at my own behavior 10 years ago! 😅

@TasnimeSakouhi-bh4rp

10 ай бұрын

At this point it just makes her pathetic.

@yazminclarke8675

10 ай бұрын

If you all of the sudden get married to a wealthy man that is also a famous celebrity I’m sure you would do it too, specially when you’re in the eye of media 😂

If you love yourself for who you are, If you have a house where you feel at home, an animal to love, family you can rely on, friends you can have fun with and trust, clean clothes you feel great in, healthy food to eat, clean water to drink, You are richest person in the world.

Well said Anna!! 👏 it's a message that so many people need to hear. Materialism doesn't bring happiness.

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

It does bring a temporary feeling of happiness and accomplishment. But 99% of the times it just wears off very quickly. And then you need to replace it with a new hit of something else. I think most people who own luxury can relate somehow.

I love the cute irony of roasting overconsumption while promoting the new clothing line^^. Awesome video!

Another flex is when you're showing off how "good" you are. As in how many orphans you help, how many people you help in the lower social economic status.

Thank you for changing your style. I’m glad the young lady Lissette changed and stopped ruining her life by portraying an unauthentic picture of her life. Simplicity and not flexing is elegant. Just being oneself, treating oneself respectfully, and treating others respectfully is elegance.

Being low key, not showing a lot , have a balance is amazing and classy! Thank you Anna for this video. God Bless you ❤

@tmmartinesq.6216

10 ай бұрын

Restraint is every thing.

I love your content for years Anna! Thanks to you I realized my (now ex) boyfriend was a low value man. You opened my eyes a lot when it comes to values. Thank you for your content!

@yomiseno

10 ай бұрын

Same, she did it for me too!!!!

I love nice things. I love fashion. However life for me isn’t about impressing others. Validation from within is what true power is. Just being authentic and yourself while striving for the best version of that is a major flex ☺️

This is why I like Canva CEO, Melanie Perkins, I might know her like tip of an iceberg but haven’t heard of her flexing her billions along with husband. She is so simple and even donated millions to eradicate poverty as part of their company goal. I attended one live online training for free where she spoke and she is such a breath of fresh air, so calm, so simple, relax and wise. I aspire to be like her.

It’s very saddening that some people have to go to such extreme to feel good about themselves. It’s UNGODLY . I’m happy that I have never depended on anything external to feel great about myself. It is called FREEDOM.

Sadly the applause and approval of others is really important to some. Especially now with social media. People go into debt just to prove something they are not. . . The phrase “ Money can’t buy you class “ has never been more true . !

Hi Anna. While yes- I agree with most of the points you make, I cannot help but recall the handful of Hermes bags and vca pieces in your collection. This “flex culture” you speak of- you are also a part of it. Once we realize that it’s okay to indulge, don’t make someone feel bad when you yourself are participating in that indulgent lifestyle.

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

If owning luxury items is flexing, then we’re right to different opinions! I don’t see flexing as such. This video was about toxic flexing, not about owning luxury. , it was about showing off your wealth, when you’re deliberately making your wealth seen on purpose continuously. If you think I do that, my ears are open but I personally don’t think I do that as I get no validation from it. My biggest validation is my dog licking my face. Means he loves me 😂

@monikahill8613

10 ай бұрын

I agree with Anna on this. Luxury and a lifestyle of abundance is not flexing-we shouldn’t feel guilty for being able to afford beautiful or expensive things. I do, however, believe in scaling down any obviously expensive items depending on situational awareness. Classy is not flashy and it’s never meant to make anyone feel less in any way; that goes for education, experiences, luxury goods, lifestyle etc. Bravo for making this video

@nadias6435

10 ай бұрын

@@AnnaBeyOfficial Did you know that bag is also made from another animal's skin? Is their life worth your "indulgence"?

@kiaturunen

10 ай бұрын

@@nadias6435 you know we can have sustainable animal-sourced things? and how animals are not humans (and humans not animals, despite some parts of the world seeming otherwise)? we treat them with respect, yes, but it is not immoral to kill and use animals in a way that doesn't torture them. if you think otherwise, i hope every single item and meal in your life has been produced without "hurting" any animal ever :)

@softsophisticate

10 ай бұрын

@@kiaturunen Hey? All Humans are animals. In fact, we are mammals, genetically related to chimps and like all other mammals evolved from a small shrew like animal. I think some people have forgotten this, that we are animals on this planet, which is our home which we share with all the other plants and animals on this planet. We are not separate from it. We are part of it. We forget this at our peril. Also other cultures - appearances are deceptive. They may seem primative, but their cultures are likely highly complex. We are a complex animal.

7:25 The corporate agenda not only takes advantage of people's insecurities they also aggravate their insecurities and their needs for validation. Your videos help people to introspect which helps people to heal and empower themselves from within.

Thank you for emphasizing that the "quiet luxury" aesthetic is STILL flex culture. It's a different side of the same coin.

Beautifully explained Anna! People could be happier with what they have and feel more confident in themselves and their lives if they stopped giving so much power and credence to 'influencers'. Who are these people? Why should their viewpoints determine who we are and what we aspire to? We need to ask ourselves (instead of listening to other's opinions) what would make us happy and what gives us joy. Yes, it might be a Rolls Royce, but it may also be a rocking chair on a porch in the woods. W need to listen to our own hearts, rather than letting strangers influence our choices.

I grew up poor and still am poor. I have nothing to show off. I'm glad I feel no pressure to show people all the expensive stuff I own just to one up someone or feel good about myself.

Thank you for mentioning different types. I’m aware we all do have the tendency to flex but sometimes it’s the subtle flexing that sometimes can feel like one upmanship between our peers which is not all the time wrong but it’s helpful to acknowledge that there is such thing as subtle (not easily seen but felt) flexing that may or may not affect us negatively in our interactions and that it’s not us making the feeling up 😭

Anna, you have been very humble by admitting that you have changed your direction with your videos and are being less 'Flex' yourself. I have noticed your content has changed in particular this year (for the better). Its called growing and developing as person into the better version of you xx

Great video! It is true, everyone is trying to out-do everyone else. But please don't regret your past content. You've helped me tremendously! I 100% believe the reason I am where I am today because of the way you inspired me. My transformation has been enormous, a complete 180 in almost every aspect of my life and you were honestly the catalyst to these changes. So thank you from the bottom of my heart and don't ever regret a thing! ❤🙏 -Mrs. Jessica McLaurin

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

Just to clarify, I don’t regret my past content. I regret some things I said that didn’t come out clear or gave a nuanced perspective. But majority of my past videos are still my thoughts today. Just the execution of some could have been better, oh well

I’m a young man and I do enjoy your videos. You’d be surprised by the amount of people who do not like the trending ugliness around us. I think its about finding a right balance between being pagan in soul, Christian at heart and cosmic in thinking.

I never really understood why so many cared so much about showing off when the people they should surround themselves with don’t even care much about their status, but more so personality. Anna, I love the way your earring look! They are so elegant. Where can I purchase the same item?

I am re-subscribing to your channel bc I love how your content/message has evolved. Thank you, Ana! People shouldn't let Tiktok, IG, Twitter, FB, etc. consume their time and emotions. They don't need all those distractions/influences that are just taking their focus away fr living a productive and satisfying life. I, myself, am too busy tending to my organic backyard garden which is how I contribute to the preservation of the environment while I learn and get rewarded!

Love this video hun! Agree with you in everything Moderation is the key. Values and education start at home. We need to raise people with self love and autoestima. . People that don't need external validation. Its not easy these days but we need to try our best. Big hug

Thank you so much for this video Anna! I think it’s so important that you bring this up. It’s easy to get lost in the pursuit of “success “.

Yeah, I am 25 years old and I have met so many people in my life and I live in a small village with lots of nature and mature, empathetic neighbors. And this is my luxury

Your self awareness makes me enjoy your channel even more. Thank you!

Anna, to admit to the world what you've endured; the changes, the motivation, and the top rise to attention is the therapy/counsel. Wow. I admire you so much more if that is even possible. God bless you for your videos, and just for YOU! So much love sent your way. 💓

Thank you for this video :) I really like that you share openly how you were, where you are now, what you've learn and sharing what you've realized over the years! I really love how you always stay yourself.....it's refreshing ❤

I refuse to have social media... I can see it's benefits for business reasons, but I have watched what else it has done.... People will do anything for a dopamine hit in the form of a "LIKE" and it's TRULY DISGUSTING!

This content is what I need. I wish I could have a conversation with you as a young person myself and talk about how I am eaten by the society. I always admired elegance and how to deal with with kind of situation in this modern life. Thank you so much.

Thank you for your self reflexion and the addition of the importance of therapy. Seeking help is still quite stigmatized but is so beneficial for literally anyone... this video is a great example of "do better when you know better" 💙

Usually, there's a saying that: empty barrels make the loudest noise...people don't understand that privacy is classy...

Loving your journey Anna and great to see you reflecting and learning and sharing this with us.

It has been lovely and a great reflection to witness your transformation. I always appreciated your content but it has expanded to respect and inspiration. Thank you for reminding me that I can be mindful, authentic and elevate my lifestyle.

Well said! You can tell that you've been going to therapy and working on yourself. ❤️ My biggest flex is being so brave to quit being a victim and end 10 years of suffering. ⭐

It is beautiful to see your personal growth reflecting in your content and, also, to witness your self awareness. I went through a similar process, so I applause you understanding not only the uncomfortableness of the process but the compassion that you showed on yourself.

Anna I really love this episode especially your own honest reflections of how you’ve changed your content too. I hate flex culture but I admit sometimes I get wrapped up in it too due to my own insecurities.

What a fantastic video! I noticed a few years ago that I'd come to crave validation via the internet. It made me do some hard self-reflecting, but I'm ultimately glad I did. Social media (TikTok especially) fueled SO much of those feelings, and it was jarring to see how my mood and behavior fluctuated based on how much time I'd spent on social media that day. I'd largely ditched it for good, and my mental health (and wallet) is SO much better.

Couldn’t agree more with you Anna! You described this awful flex culture perfectly. Such superficial times we live in

You are such a lovely soul. Been following you since 2015 and I am in awe of how you've grown as a person and where you've taken your channel

I love how your contents evolve through the years been a subscriber for 3 yrs and I love how u shared the things and lessons that you've learned in life now.❤

I love this kind of sit down and chat video, Anna ❤ Great video too x

Great video, totally loved it! That’s why I stay away from social media and focus on myself and people who I care about.

Wow, I been having a huge reflection on this topic lately and same awareness. Thank you Anna ❤ we are growing and evolving. I been avoiding all social media for the last few months and just follow a few people.

I am so proud of you, Anna!!!❤

Love the video!! Very informative and made me really scrutinize myself because I’ve fallen in ‘flex cultures’ trap and I’ve been trying to weasel my way out of it. Once again awesome video!!

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

I think we all have flexed in one way or another, it's probably part of a certain age or development stage of a human. But some people stay in those stages so hoping that this video can raise some awareness.

@tajayatomlinson5298

10 ай бұрын

@@AnnaBeyOfficial I agree

It is really so nice to see such a genuine video. You are sharing your own examples and the mistakes and don't want any of your elegant ladies to do that mistake again. I really admire you a lot and try to follow as much as possible from you. Just stay like this always. Thanks Anna!

I truly appreciate how you show me how to learn and move on from past mistakes

Fabulous video. Self awareness and reflection is so very important, and therapy for me has been very helpful with this. Another factor that makes a huge difference for me in self awareness, change and trying not to put too much emphasis on material things (I'm a work in progress 🤪), is my faith. Thank you for this video. Good for you, Anna, in your personal growth and willingness to share with others. ❤

I didn’t want to say “this is exactly what you have done, Anna”, but I’m glad you acknowledge it. You have grown up. Your content is still very much aspirational, however. Many people I know were put off by your quite frank chasing of rich men and their lifestyles, but I saw glimmers of better things from you here and there. Even in your early content, I thought you had some contributions to make on female empowerment, such as valuing one’s self and setting boundaries with men. I also found your candor and ability to self-correct refreshing. Plus, you didn’t just relax into your new wealth, but kept working. I hung in there, hoping for better content and you are beginning to deliver it.

@AnnaBeyOfficial

10 ай бұрын

I think "chasing of rich men & their lifestyles" does not tell the nuanced truth of my content back in the days when I was blogging and sharing education on high-society. Dating affluent men was a big part of that content, but it wasn't the only thing I was teaching. Funny how it's, the only thing that really triggered people and sticked in their memory. I don't know why people are put off, it tells me more about them as someone with an open mind would just have an open mind. My content keep evolving with time as once I have said everything I want to say on a subject, I keep moving forward. However... one of the things that have never changed is that I fully embrace if a woman wants to level up her life with the help of her partner. Wanting to marry up should not be frowned upon in our society and that's what that conversation was and I was giving the tools. Sadly our society is still not ready for these conversations as people have too many preconceptions and just jump to conclusions.

@Diana__Simion

10 ай бұрын

@@AnnaBeyOfficial Exactly! I think others putting down your past self for sharing such helpful videos because it was about dating men, is not really a compliment like the commentor intended.

@TravelPhotoWriter

10 ай бұрын

What I appreciated about find a rich man and lifestyle is the message to women to not settle for someone who treats them poorly. But for that we also need to level up ourselves. We need to dress/treat ourselves with respect.

Thank you, Anna ❤️. I would say that this video came at the right time for me. Recently I found myself in a dilemma; I was caught between 'flexing' my academic achievements and extracurricular activities and doing it in silence, knowing that I am happy and proud of myself. I started to consider flexing them because of my political aspirations in college. Now, as I watch this video, I know that it is not worth it. I will continue to excel and hope my work is recognized without me having to shove it into everyone's faces 😂❤️.

@GraceOhagwu

10 ай бұрын

Brag about my academic accomplishments to my mates in school? I know some of them that do and it does not look like a tasteful thing-bragging because of my first-class grade? I don't think so 😂

@GraceOhagwu

10 ай бұрын

I agree with you, Stella

@tinabean713

10 ай бұрын

It's a blurry line when you are looking for your first job, or any jobs after that. You have to do some amount of self promotion in the job hunt, but flexing your academic credentials too much once you are in the post or even when looking for a promotion (unless it's a career-pivot) does come off a bit weird. I still see people do it (I work in Engineering), and it always strikes me as a bit odd, since your work and professionalism should speak for themselves.

I relate to your evolution as human. I hope your message gets to people in the right way, some say is easier to talk like that when you are actually tired of the life style but when some one has not have had ever tried the material/superficial things and or experieneces in life that they consider hight status, they want to fake it to know how it feels to be looked up to or to be accepted in a certain social circle.

I'm so grateful that a great and elegant woman like Anna is willing to talk about this topic.

Royal families do not flex. It is their duty to show power, because the King or Queen is an embodiment of power and status. Most of them detest this show wholeheartedly. 👑

This is my favorite video of yours Anna! I have followed you on and off throughout the years, like phases in life, sometimes you have the space to level up and at times not. I love that your content is evolving with your own values and viewpoints! We are multifaceted and I'm excited to see more of your content :)

Anna, you have really grown so much! I like how the content of this channel is evolving! Thank you for all the effort and advice 🙏

I have been following you for quite a while now & this has been one of the best videos. Thank you for addressing it so elegantly. 🙏🏻❤️