JOIN our Locals community to hear *Rob* answer audience questions. CLICK the link: triggernometry.locals.com/ CHAPTERS👇 00:00 Introduction 00:31 Writing About Rob’s Incredible Life 06:33 How Rob’s Childhood Engendered Curiosity 11:34 How Background Influences Education 20:32 Sponsor Message: ExpressVPN 22:02 Society is Making Life Worse for Kids 28:10 Grasping For Identity & Connection 30:41 The Decline of the Working-Class Family 35:25 Is the Sexual Revolution to Blame? 42:21 Sponsor Message: GiveSendGo 43:38 Seeing Hopelessness in Children 49:23 Importance of Career Role Models 52:45 Breaking a Cycle of Poverty 57:06 Holding People Up to High Standards 1:02:00 Are We Failing the Next Generation? 1:06:50 What’s the One Thing We’re Not Talking About?

@markhutton6055

Ай бұрын

Most of us do just get on with it.

Every once in a while I’ll come across an instagram account where a dad is just posting about how great it is to be a dad, spend time with his kids, tips and tricks to being new dad, etc. the comment section will be filled with people saying things like “bragging about what you’re supposed to be doing in the first place.”, “you want a pat on the back?”, “who cares?” and the like and it’s just so negative when a dad is just trying to inspire what desperately needs to be inspired. I’m a single mom to a teenage boy and I can’t tell you how much I wish his dad would step up and be a parent but he just wont so I’m trying my hardest to keep my son from feeling hopeless and to think about what he wants in his future. It’s really hard

@arohanui922

21 күн бұрын

Good on you. If you fulfil your duty now your son will repay you threefold. Don’t ever doubt the importance of having his mother.

I fought like hell to keep my marriage together, there wasn’t anything I wouldn’t have done. My husband felt like marriage was disposable and we ultimately divorced. It takes two people to keep a marriage together, but only one to throw it away.

@tabbymrp

Ай бұрын

Ditto!

@notthatkindofsam

Ай бұрын

Same!

@09cutie0pie

Ай бұрын

Why did he marry then?

@terrie6738

Ай бұрын

I’m so sorry that that happened.

@terrie6738

Ай бұрын

@@09cutie0pieprobably because he didn’t realize that marriage takes effort on both sides. Relationships change the longer you are together. People become “comfortable “ and don’t want to make an effort. Plenty of reasons this happens. He most likely didn’t think that it would end in divorce.

This is one of those conversations that we need to be having

@jackeagleeye3453

Ай бұрын

Also it's a good time for folks to start admitting that if you are truly pro family unit, you'll be advocating for more socialism elements to our government.

@shanesawyer5103

Ай бұрын

They just did

@greatscott369

Ай бұрын

@@shanesawyer5103 and I'm simply saying, I'm glad they did

@docsavage8640

Ай бұрын

@greatscott369 actually it's baffling that this even needs to be discussed, it's so blindingly obvious

@greatscott369

Ай бұрын

@@shanesawyer5103 I've replied hundreds of times it gets deleted

When my brother was about 6, he was screened for learning disabilities and the exercise was very similar to the comb exercise. When asked what he thought what was going on, he stopped, thought, and then very delicately asked the assessor with some concern in his voice, "what do YOU think is going on?" To the assessor, this indicated that my brother didn't know what was going on. To my brother, this indicated he was dealing with an obviously special needs adult who couldn't understand a very obvious and simple thing and it was important to be gentle and polite to them and maybe hear them out so he could guide them in the right direction. 😂

@user-xp5id1kh4r

Ай бұрын

TIL that your 6 year old brother was smarter than an adult counselor.

@EKFURNE

Ай бұрын

@@user-xp5id1kh4r 😂 I remember our mom got a call from the school about how he had to go to SpEd and she was like, let me speak to him first. So she asked at dinner, I heard you talked to Ms. Soandso, do you remember that? He stopped eating and said he did, and then he said he was worried about her because she was asking questions that he knew the answer to but she didn't, even though she was a grown up. So there must be something wrong if she doesn't know as much as a little kid, so he thought she probably just wanted to talk and the nice thing to do would be to keep her company and let her talk. I was a teenager at the time (big age gap) and I remember this clearly. I was losing it laughing and my mom was like, EKFURNE, stop laughing. I was like, what? He's right though!!! She was talking to him like he's stupid and he was being polite! Do they test for THAT?

@beckee6282

Ай бұрын

That’s the whole of psychology for you. Bunch of baloney, coo coo “doctors” where half the time they’re just wanting to push meds on people who don’t need it. I saw a psychologist once who not even 5 minutes after meeting me, diagnosed me with a mental disorder I never had. Turns out I was just severely traumatized from a life of abuse, never asked about that though.

@alenaadamkova7617

Ай бұрын

Dr. Bruce LIpton "Children first 7 years have no consciousness....their brain is in state theta theta means hypnosis and imagination... Their brain is in hypnotic state, in state of receiving information. Therefore 5 or 6 year old is not able to make an analysis about some topic because they don´t use analytical mind yet. they start to have conscious and self-aware thinking at age 7-8...and make their own decissions. So if at age 6 he says something , it is probably a subconscious program the brain received , not conscious mind thinking...so whatever he says is irrelevant, because it is not reaction....its not analytical thinking his brain is just learning info. It is because their brain in state of theta and is receiving a lot of information the same way like radio antenna. not reacting, just receiving... theta isnt about reacting back, theta is about receiving information. Which means it is normal because the brain grows. The brain is finished at age 25. If you as an adult will listen nice music your brain will be in alpha, or theta state, in state of receiving some info, or colors or music or sensations , not in state of analyzis or reacting as the beta state. The state beta is about learning, analyzing, responding, etc It depends on whether the content is general like some music or analytical, like podcast.

@pickleperryemz

Ай бұрын

@EKFURNE I had a rough time in my teens, I was sent to the children’s mental health services to see a woman who could not have been more of a condescending wench if she tried. Unfortunately I didn’t have the self control of your brother. She told me to draw a picture, I told her I couldn’t draw, she told me to do it anyway so I did. She then proceeded to give me some psycho babble b*llshit about my crap picture being drawn by my inner child due to its infantile nature, at which point I lost my shit and threw a chair at her. Needless to say that was the last time she spoke to me like I was thick and I never went back to her office.

The Family is the primary unit of society. It is the best place for raising children into strong, productive adults capable of exercising their agency. The Family must be protected.

@TheWorldTeacher

Ай бұрын

🐟 27. MARRIAGE & THE FAMILY: Matrimony is the contractual union of a man with one or more women, primarily for the purpose of PROCREATION and child-rearing. The couple should be brought together by their respective parents, and if practical, some sort of nuptial ceremony performed. Once a couple has been engaged to be married, they should not break the agreement, unless one party has been proven to have lost his or her virginity with a third party. OBVIOUSLY, after the wedding, the marriage contract cannot be broken, unless one or both parties has committed adultery, or one party has chosen to no longer carry out his or her marital duties (for instance, if the husband refuses to materially-support his wife/wives, or the wife refuses to perform domestic chores for her master, both of which are legitimate grounds for divorce). A RESPONSIBLE father will objectively evaluate the unique characteristics, virtues, idiosyncrasies, and shortcomings of his child from a relatively early age, and thereafter, seek a compatible spouse from the available pool of persons in his social circles. Unless his nation faces extinction, the potential match should not be any closer to his child than a cousin. If a prospective couple do not belong to the same clan (and thereby do not share the same family name), it is probable that their genetic code is sufficiently divergent to create healthy offspring. As implied above, incestuous marriage should only be condoned if the human race is in danger of extermination, or possibly in the instance where an entire race or nation is on the verge of annihilation. If one’s parents fail in their duty to select a suitable mate, one should very carefully choose a COMPATIBLE spouse. The recommended criteria used to evaluate marital compatibility are as follows: physical characteristics (such as relative height and sexual attractiveness), personality type, intelligence, emotional temperament, diet, cultural similarities, political ideology, religious affiliation, and life goals. One of the major causes of conjugal breakdown in recent decades has been due to the couple selecting each other based solely (or at least predominantly) on sexual attraction and/or amorous attachments, with little consideration given to the other guiding principles, listed above. Romance rarely lasts more than a couple of years. Marriage is an institution based largely on PRACTICAL considerations, not on lustful feelings or on fleeting sentimentality. Without firm, practical reasons for a couple remaining conjugally-bound, they are susceptible to marital divorce. Generally speaking, women have the potent desire to raise children, and require a man with which to mate, and then protect and support her and the offspring, during the fifteen-plus years (for EACH child) of child-rearing. Most men also desire to have a family, and additionally, possess a very powerful libido, which, if not channelled in a legitimate fashion, can cause a great deal of social misbehaviour (e.g. rape, etc.). There is no such thing as a nun in the eyes of God. Therefore, unless a woman is seriously disabled, either physically or psychologically, or else a lesbian, she is lawfully OBLIGATED to marry the man preselected by her parents (or if her parents are deceased, by her extant master, whether that be her grandfather, an uncle, or an adult nephew). Ideally, women ought to be betrothed as soon as they reach adulthood, to avoid a childless existence. Quite understandably, very few men have aspirations to mate with a post-menopausal female. Marriage is mandatory for men too, apart from missionary priests, those unfortunate males who are unable to support a family for reasons of mental or physical incapacity, men who are simply passed-over by hypergamous females due to being perceived as low-value suitors, homosexuals (meaning, men who are not at all attracted to the opposite gender. Bisexuals are not exempt from marriage), and men who reside in jurisdictions where ILLEGITIMATE feministic governments enact so-called “laws” which abrogate the lawful rights of married men. In my particular case, despite being a model husband and father, my first wife, with the support of the dirty, demonic, democratic Australian government, literally kidnapped my three precious children, whilst my second wife, with the assistance of the equally-wicked, violent, corrupt, murderous Filipino government, stole my presbytery (the house of a priest). The recent exodus of men in Western countries from the dating pool (or at least from formal marriage) is more than understandable. The man should be approximately ten to twenty years OLDER than his wife/wives. Some of the reasons for this are: It is natural for women to be attracted to older men and for men to be attracted to younger women. There is a good evolutionary reason why women reach their sexual peak between the ages of about fifteen to twenty-five and why a man's sexual market value peaks in his thirties to fifties. The female matures earlier (physically and socially), so if she mates with a man of similar age, she may find her spouse to be emotionally immature. The husband is almost a substitute for the woman's father figure, so the husband’s age gives him added authority as head of the family. Also, it gives the man extra time to establish his career, a house and home for his wife and forthcoming progeny. The main duties of the HUSBAND are to teach his wife/wives and sons whatever beneficial lessons he has learnt from his own masters, protect his family from harm, and supply their necessities of life (that is, food, clothing, and shelter) as well as desired luxuries, if practicable. The English noun “husband” comes from the Old Norse word “hûsbôndi”, meaning “master of the house”. Marriage is not a democracy. Any so-called man who compromises with his subordinates, whether they be his wife/wives or his offspring, is surely doomed to failure. Feminized western men, in particular, are guilty of such uxoriousness. Such emasculated “men” are not true men, and desperately need to regain their dignity as the head of their homes. The main daily duties of the WIFE are to execute domestic chores such as to cook, clean, sew, take care of the children, and to keep the husband sexually satisfied so he doesn't look at other women. The wife should submit to the will of her husband. She should fully respect him as her master, and should address him accordingly. Whilst conversing, the wife should focus her attention completely on her husband. She should listen carefully to what he says, learn what he is saying, answer him, and obey his instructions. A man should never be alone with any female, apart from his wife, of course. POLYGAMY has been taught by all the major religions. Unfortunately, the “westernized” religious cults seem to have done away with the practice for unbeknown reasons. The reason for polygamy is simply due to the fact that every woman needs a husband. Also, a certain proportion of men are destined to die as bachelors due to female hypergamy, which is a natural trait of women (even if it may seem unfair). When a woman marries, she LITERALLY joins the family of her husband. She takes her master's family name, and the husband's parents become her parents, which is why they are called “father/mother-in-law”, that is, “father/mother according to the law” (the one and only law of God, or more accurately, the Universal Law, as propounded in Chapter 12). Cont...

@user-xp5id1kh4r

Ай бұрын

What does "The Family must be protected" mean? It sounds like a very general thing that virtue signals your 'goodness'/care for a generally good thing... but doesn't really say a whole lot. Do you mean, "The Family must be protected" so we'll give married couples a $10k gov't grant to use, or, "The Family must be protected" so we'll give each child in a family a $5k tax credit, or, "The Family must be protected" so we'll give each family a car or free bus/train/transport fares, or, "The Family must be protected" so we'll give families with children free healthcare, or, "The Family must be protected" so we'll give each family's children 'free' college education, or, "The Family must be protected" so we'll give them $xxx dollars for food per child per month, or, "The Family must be protected" so we'll just talk real loud in a pseudo political way that virtue signals how much we 'care' for "family" and how much we therefore 'care' about society because "family"?

@piureczko

Ай бұрын

The problem is the government and it will always try to destroy families. Solution is simple, stop all welfare systems and families will come back. Families are a natural state in free society.

@johnashton3088

Ай бұрын

dedr

@grannyannie2948

Ай бұрын

I can't speak for other countries, but high immigration has resulted in unprecedented housing insecurity. If you are struggling to pay rent, and don't know where you be living in three months, it's difficult to plan a family. If this problem were solved. A simple thing governments could do, is not wait to provide mediation during the divorce proceedings. But to offer free relationship counselling as soon as problems begin.

My husband of 53 years and I can say that the ability to say, “ man, If I do that my Dad will kill me” kept most of us out of trouble . My dad never lost his temper with my Mom or us 6 kids, but we ALL used that term almost as a matter of pride. My husband was the oldest of 9 and they were really poor BUT, they had a mother and father who adored each other and each one of their children . All 9 children worked very hard as soon as they could , and they all own nice homes in good neighborhoods. Only one divorced and it was after the kids were raised , and it is amicable. These 9 children had 49 more children! My sister and I married into their family. We came from lower middle class parents with 6 kids. We had 45 great children total. With 1:02:03 very few exceptions we have been Able to buy good homes and care for our families. We have reunions often in spite of us living all over America, including Hawaii and Alaska. We have our LDS faith in common and place family and our Savior as top priority. My angel parents were married 72 years and died peacefully 5 days apart in their home . We’re not wealthy, but we have what really brings long term joy - our family.

@testerbend9473

Ай бұрын

Beautiful!

@_BirdOfGoodOmen

Ай бұрын

Cool

The family is *every* person's first experience of "society". If the family is broken, the child's idea of "society" is also going to be broken.

@jenster29

Ай бұрын

Good insight !

@danielsweeney8164

28 күн бұрын

underrated post, noted and saved

@arohanui922

21 күн бұрын

That sounds like an excuse for degenerate and illegal behaviour.

@Helen-ug5fk

12 күн бұрын

I come from an abusive family. Father was a drinker and a pig. I used to be very angry with society because I thought it was their fault my mum stayed.

@Helen-ug5fk

12 күн бұрын

I think the family is important but bad families might be worse ????

My mother had every reason to get a divorce and she didnt because of the damage it would do to her kids.My grandma used to say "Back in my day when something was broken we didnt throw it away, we fixed it",which was for relationships and material things.I am not against divorce, but if you are gonna have kids, you better make damn sure you are in a great marriage BEFORE you have em.

@henrytep8884

Ай бұрын

Yeah…if people followed your prescription there would be an even worse fertility crisis.

@icarusjumped2719

Ай бұрын

Yeah, but I think the point was not to give up at the first hurdle. Like so many people, mostly women, do nowadays. They, your grannys gen, WORKED at their relationships. It was hard but it worked out better for them all in the long run.

@havocgr1976

Ай бұрын

@@icarusjumped2719 Yeah , agreed, although in the case of African Americans its the men that give up almost immediately.Just a few decades ago if you had kids it basically meant you d stay together just for the sake of the kids.

@icarusjumped2719

Ай бұрын

@@havocgr1976 I wonder if the loss of God and the introduction of feminism, combined are a big part of this problem. The feminists are hell bent on destroying the family, and because there is no faith to fall back on, people just descend into degenreracy, and selfishness. Just a thought.

@TheBossetteDoyin

Ай бұрын

But your dad could have easily divorced your mum. The thing with marriage is that it only takes one person to end it. You can’t make someone stay and fix it. I’ve seen women try to hang on, only for the husband to file for divorce. If you stay in a bad marriage you could actually be causing your kids more damage than if you got a divorce.

The root cause of much of this problem is attachment trauma. The guest does touch on this without actually naming it. You should consider looking into attachment theory. Attachment, especially lack thereof, has a massive impact on relationships, parenting, ability to reach one's potential, communication effectiveness, etc. A child who is raised in a secure environment will grow up knowing how to navigate relationships much more effectively than a child who was raised in an insecure environment. It is a big topic and I can only touch on it here.

@Xplora213

Ай бұрын

It’s a relatively pointless discussion to have, because you CANNOT provide secure attachment for anyone except your own biological or adopted children. The kid can’t take it, the state can’t give it, your friends can’t give it. Francis mentioned the heartbreak of witnessing failure in the kids but he knows he can’t fix it. This is the profound problem with science and policy. You assume that everyone in politics is a good actor - it is plainly obvious that the powers that be don’t want to support the family unit. No fault Divorce, abortion at will, Terrible home pricing and surging immigration, these are the things that remove the ability of the working class to destroy secure attachment. And they don’t pursue them.

@25meip

Ай бұрын

​@@Xplora213 I think OPs point is that if you can name the pathology of your trauma, you have tools at your disposal to deal with it after the fact- not that neglected kids need better attachment mechanisms

@Xplora213

Ай бұрын

@@25meip and hopefully, my response makes it clear that this is WELL OUTSIDE the ability of the Liberal Democracy to provide. You cannot provide freedom and security to your citizens, there is a massive tradeoff and the worldview of freedom (libertarianism) and security (authoritarianism) remains opposed to each other. The lie of progressivism is that you get better results from a lack of freedom without moral constraints. 1800s liberty came with a large dose of religion.

@DoReMeaCulpa

Ай бұрын

@Xplora213 I disagree. Anyone can model secure behavior once they know how. We have neuroplasticity; people can reprogram their brains and nervous systems to recover from trauma. With the right supports of course. I do not understand your concerns about no fault divorce and I do not think people should be forced or obliged to stay in relationships that are beyond repair nor where there is abuse or violence. I do share your concerns about ongoing mass immigration. That is never good for a country.

@Xplora213

Ай бұрын

@@DoReMeaCulpa no - my point is that the State cannot forcibly create the conditions to enable more secure attachment. They can only create the conditions to ensure it doesn't happen... and they have done that by ruining family stability. You need to think MUCH harder about the impact of parents walking out, or parents taking kids away from their other parent, and this is ALWAYS enabled by the language of abuse. Guess what? By the time the state can establish abuse has not happened, the child has already been torn away from the other parent for months. This has happened to my kids three times - each time there was no cause, and hopefully the next court case will address this. That's my point - I have LIVED the negative case, it stuffs up the kids and the state doesn't punish the nasty parent enough to stop it happening, because the child is even more messed up when that nasty parent is jailed etc. You have a state failing on multiple fronts; however a no fault divorce law enshrines the right of a parent to abandon the family unit and disrupt it. You need to think about it MUCH MUCH MUCH more ;-)

I grew up in the red bluff area also in the late 90s. Poverty and single parent homes played a role in poor outcomes for children there, but another factor was geographical isolation. Red Bluff is literally in the middle of nowhere in NorCal 130 miles from the nearest major city (Sacramento). This meant limited job and education opportunities, also we simply didn’t know a lot of ppl and lacked social contacts that can help with upward mobility.

My mother in law was a single parent. She did her best but even she says it was far from ideal. It's not an easy road to travel and it does affect the children involved. We can admit that whilst still knowing divorce is the best option in certain circumstances.

@coreyworthingtonii9230

Ай бұрын

The sad thing about this is that many women think bringing in a new man to the home will replace the biological father, where in some situations that works, but in others it will make things worse for the children. Very sad.

@beckee6282

Ай бұрын

The issue starts at the beginning though. I get that sometimes many people have little choice in who they marry, and circumstances happen where people show their true colours after marriage. Not talking about that. But as a woman myself, a lot of women are terrible at picking partners . They have children with some loser and then cry when he leaves when it “gets too hard.” Women, stop having children with these useless men and you won’t have to deal with single motherhood.

Amongst my daughter's peers it became fashionable to have a baby and hand it over to their Mum so they could back school. I made it very clear I wasn't doing that so my daughter needn't come to me to expect me to look after her child. So it never happened. That sounds hard but my children were brought up to be responsible for their actions. Consequently I have super, kind and responsible children. They are not very wealthy but have good jobs with considerable responsibilities. They are happy and I am very pleased for them.

@icarusjumped2719

Ай бұрын

Yeah... but now, its the "in" thing to get an abortion instead. I think I would prefer the situation you describe...

@lulusbackintown1478

Ай бұрын

@icarusjumped2719 back in the 1980s a friend of mine used abortion as birth control until the last time she was refused an abortion. She had a lovely little boy. She's glad now but it was a big shock to her at the time. So many young women now expect to be treated like dirt by young men I don't know why they accept it. They seem to have little respect for themselves and therefor no-one else has respect for them. Showing my age there!

@icarusjumped2719

Ай бұрын

@@lulusbackintown1478 sadly it is used very.much like that now. Something 250k babies a year are aborted. And to be fair, we treat each other equally badly now. Mem get shat on just as much as women these days.

@nyetzdyec3391

Ай бұрын

@@icarusjumped2719 Just as much? Or much more? (re: "Men get crapped on just as much as women...") Which group has always been treated by society as being disposable? Which group gets catered to, and treated as being special for no other reason? It ties back into Lulu's comment, about "so many young women expect..." Dave Chapelle has a line about it. "Chivalry is dead, and ... " Did you see, or hear about, the infamous Gillette commercial? That would be the one where they showed how very little they value a *huge* chunk of their own customers. That's a pretty strong indicator of how far things have gone... when a company thinks that they can treat 1/2 their customers (or potentials) with so much overt disdain.

@icarusjumped2719

Ай бұрын

@@nyetzdyec3391 Oh yes, as far as society goes, I would say that men are getting crapped on a massive amount more than women, but I was meaning specifically in the relationships. Women treat men just as bad as men treat women so, its fairly equal in that.

The Catholic Church has always said this, the breakdown of family destroys society... this is only been recognized at this stage by secular society because of the dire situation we find ourselves in, with more pressure being constantly applied on families to survive.

@TheWorldTeacher

Ай бұрын

🐟 27. MARRIAGE & THE FAMILY: Matrimony is the contractual union of a man with one or more women, primarily for the purpose of PROCREATION and child-rearing. The couple should be brought together by their respective parents, and if practical, some sort of nuptial ceremony performed. Once a couple has been engaged to be married, they should not break the agreement, unless one party has been proven to have lost his or her virginity with a third party. OBVIOUSLY, after the wedding, the marriage contract cannot be broken, unless one or both parties has committed adultery, or one party has chosen to no longer carry out his or her marital duties (for instance, if the husband refuses to materially-support his wife/wives, or the wife refuses to perform domestic chores for her master, both of which are legitimate grounds for divorce). A RESPONSIBLE father will objectively evaluate the unique characteristics, virtues, idiosyncrasies, and shortcomings of his child from a relatively early age, and thereafter, seek a compatible spouse from the available pool of persons in his social circles. Unless his nation faces extinction, the potential match should not be any closer to his child than a cousin. If a prospective couple do not belong to the same clan (and thereby do not share the same family name), it is probable that their genetic code is sufficiently divergent to create healthy offspring. As implied above, incestuous marriage should only be condoned if the human race is in danger of extermination, or possibly in the instance where an entire race or nation is on the verge of annihilation. If one’s parents fail in their duty to select a suitable mate, one should very carefully choose a COMPATIBLE spouse. The recommended criteria used to evaluate marital compatibility are as follows: physical characteristics (such as relative height and sexual attractiveness), personality type, intelligence, emotional temperament, diet, cultural similarities, political ideology, religious affiliation, and life goals. One of the major causes of conjugal breakdown in recent decades has been due to the couple selecting each other based solely (or at least predominantly) on sexual attraction and/or amorous attachments, with little consideration given to the other guiding principles, listed above. Romance rarely lasts more than a couple of years. Marriage is an institution based largely on PRACTICAL considerations, not on lustful feelings or on fleeting sentimentality. Without firm, practical reasons for a couple remaining conjugally-bound, they are susceptible to marital divorce. Generally speaking, women have the potent desire to raise children, and require a man with which to mate, and then protect and support her and the offspring, during the fifteen-plus years (for EACH child) of child-rearing. Most men also desire to have a family, and additionally, possess a very powerful libido, which, if not channelled in a legitimate fashion, can cause a great deal of social misbehaviour (e.g. rape, etc.). There is no such thing as a nun in the eyes of God. Therefore, unless a woman is seriously disabled, either physically or psychologically, or else a lesbian, she is lawfully OBLIGATED to marry the man preselected by her parents (or if her parents are deceased, by her extant master, whether that be her grandfather, an uncle, or an adult nephew). Ideally, women ought to be betrothed as soon as they reach adulthood, to avoid a childless existence. Quite understandably, very few men have aspirations to mate with a post-menopausal female. Marriage is mandatory for men too, apart from missionary priests, those unfortunate males who are unable to support a family for reasons of mental or physical incapacity, men who are simply passed-over by hypergamous females due to being perceived as low-value suitors, homosexuals (meaning, men who are not at all attracted to the opposite gender. Bisexuals are not exempt from marriage), and men who reside in jurisdictions where ILLEGITIMATE feministic governments enact so-called “laws” which abrogate the lawful rights of married men. In my particular case, despite being a model husband and father, my first wife, with the support of the dirty, demonic, democratic Australian government, literally kidnapped my three precious children, whilst my second wife, with the assistance of the equally-wicked, violent, corrupt, murderous Filipino government, stole my presbytery (the house of a priest). The recent exodus of men in Western countries from the dating pool (or at least from formal marriage) is more than understandable. The man should be approximately ten to twenty years OLDER than his wife/wives. Some of the reasons for this are: It is natural for women to be attracted to older men and for men to be attracted to younger women. There is a good evolutionary reason why women reach their sexual peak between the ages of about fifteen to twenty-five and why a man's sexual market value peaks in his thirties to fifties. The female matures earlier (physically and socially), so if she mates with a man of similar age, she may find her spouse to be emotionally immature. The husband is almost a substitute for the woman's father figure, so the husband’s age gives him added authority as head of the family. Also, it gives the man extra time to establish his career, a house and home for his wife and forthcoming progeny. The main duties of the HUSBAND are to teach his wife/wives and sons whatever beneficial lessons he has learnt from his own masters, protect his family from harm, and supply their necessities of life (that is, food, clothing, and shelter) as well as desired luxuries, if practicable. The English noun “husband” comes from the Old Norse word “hûsbôndi”, meaning “master of the house”. Marriage is not a democracy. Any so-called man who compromises with his subordinates, whether they be his wife/wives or his offspring, is surely doomed to failure. Feminized western men, in particular, are guilty of such uxoriousness. Such emasculated “men” are not true men, and desperately need to regain their dignity as the head of their homes. The main daily duties of the WIFE are to execute domestic chores such as to cook, clean, sew, take care of the children, and to keep the husband sexually satisfied so he doesn't look at other women. The wife should submit to the will of her husband. She should fully respect him as her master, and should address him accordingly. Whilst conversing, the wife should focus her attention completely on her husband. She should listen carefully to what he says, learn what he is saying, answer him, and obey his instructions. A man should never be alone with any female, apart from his wife, of course. POLYGAMY has been taught by all the major religions. Unfortunately, the “westernized” religious cults seem to have done away with the practice for unbeknown reasons. The reason for polygamy is simply due to the fact that every woman needs a husband. Also, a certain proportion of men are destined to die as bachelors due to female hypergamy, which is a natural trait of women (even if it may seem unfair). When a woman marries, she LITERALLY joins the family of her husband. She takes her master's family name, and the husband's parents become her parents, which is why they are called “father/mother-in-law”, that is, “father/mother according to the law” (the one and only law of God, or more accurately, the Universal Law, as propounded in Chapter 12). Cont...

@mortensimonsen1645

Ай бұрын

Humane Vitae is in my opinion a terrific and brilliant document.

@jflf7820

Ай бұрын

​@@mortensimonsen1645absolutely agree.

@elizabethk3238

Ай бұрын

How can you use the Catholic Church as an example of virtue. Guess you think RAPING of children is okay! 🙄

@arohanui922

21 күн бұрын

The church ruined its own success when there was a lot of abuse. People don’t want indoctrination. Degenerates pass on their cycle of abuse for generations.

Lots of comments about bio families here but can we also talk about the woefully inadequate foster care system in the UK? The people who foster *for money* and the social workers who enable it. Why are we removing kids 'for poverty' instead of supporting families? Adoption is not always the golden ticket it's sold as. I know someone who adopted kids before imploding his marriage in the worst possible way. Those kids have now lost 2 families.

"In the absence of norms, you just see these changes" - tragic consequences of "you do you"

Yes, people always want to blame low wages, home prices, not enough government assistance etc for the breakdown of society. But those are just symptoms of the breakdown of family. My husband came from another country and grew up in absolute poverty I grew up lower class in a poor community. We got married young, had kids young, yet we now own a house all on one income. Granted we saved for 15 years and it took sacrifice but we did it by working together and staying together! Praise be to God!

If you haven't heard about this guy, man, you need to check out his sub stack and get his book. I really think he is one of the most important young intellectuals in the west today (I'd put him right next to Coleman Hughes).

So much respect for this young man. Almost worth adding to a school curriculum!

I used to serve in the Air Force with Henderson. It’s uncanny to see him on Podcasts.

I think religion and Christian-Judeo values add a lot of positives into the mix. I for one know that without my faith, I wouldn’t have been able to make it through the hard times in my marriage. Going on 34 years now. Never been happier.

Constantine , you are doing a great job of showing the hosesty of how having a child changes you and the world around you. Keep it up , its a tough transition into parenthood. 👏👏👏

I see Rob Henderson, I click and watch ❤

@lyrebirdinusa

Ай бұрын

Me too. He has so much practical experience, and he is able to explain it well - very interesting!

I took a foster care class for my major back in the 90s. I left the class in tears almost every time.😢 It is excruciatingly painful to hear what these poor children endure!! 💔

My parents have a saying that, "life is only worth living if you have a family you're willing to die for."

@00Daddy

26 күн бұрын

Today men have no honor and no pride in themselves how can a men with some self respect marry a ran through women is beyond me they have no standard for themselves disgrace Remember men : She is not yours its just your turn. 💊

We NEED to normalise, incentivise and celebrate fathers who stay in the home with their children! As a culture, this is hugely important and something which we have lost as a priority in the West. It’s a vitally important for cohesion in society and a noble task for a man to have the potential to get a woman pregnant but then sacrifice any future sexual partners to stick with his family. No more should we accept dads being portrayed as ignorant buffoons in the media. A father is busting his ass working 50-60 hours per week to support a family? For the worth that this provides to a community, such a man should be glamorised by the media and society. Otherwise, continue as we are at our own peril.

@grannyannie2948

Ай бұрын

The Australian children's program, Bluey, does paint fathers in a positive light, one of few sadly.

@coreyworthingtonii9230

Ай бұрын

@@grannyannie2948 Haha I’m Australian but I’ve never watched it 👀

@grannyannie2948

Ай бұрын

@@coreyworthingtonii9230 I have grandchildren. I don't get much choice than watching it. But the father dogs are fully involved with their children and Family.

@coreyworthingtonii9230

Ай бұрын

@@grannyannie2948 Great to hear!

@katadam2186

Ай бұрын

Married with children, Oh Al.. take that along with Enjolie commercials

I think the big issue here is that the culture we have now with so many disaffected kids in the lower and working classes is exactly what the elites and ruling classes want so why would they change it. A strong and cohesive working and lower class would be seen as a threat to the increasingly small group of powerful people that have the most influence on global power and politics. If we are pinning our hopes on that class driving the culture that way then I think it will never happen. There needs to be a bottom up approach but not sure what that would look like, and it would probably take several generations to fully evolve.

I don't think a low income leads to broken families. I think it's the destruction of the stigma of it. As Rob pointed out. In an attempt to be nice to women in a bad situation we've ended up with most women with children in a bad situation. Unintended consequences led by feelings instead of truth.

Rob's book was fantastic and I highly recommend his substack too. Francis, LOVE the cardigan!!!

"How does the cycle get broken?" For the US, a starting point would be federal mandated maternity leave being raised up from zero days, would likely help couples to commit to raising a family.

@ronmoore6598

Ай бұрын

For all Western Society's the first step is Fetal Personhood and outlawing Abortion.

@grannyannie2948

Ай бұрын

Whilst zero is ridiculous,other Anglosphere countries do have paid maternity leave, and yet have the same problem. We need a cultural shift to two parent households.

@reekinronald6776

Ай бұрын

@@grannyannie2948 Honestly, I can't see a solution. Several problems at play 1) Economics, two incomes are needed to support to the "expected" standard of living. 2) No one wants to lower their standard of living to raise children. 3) No extended families. Children were raised by the "village" in the past. The older members of the family took over much of the duty of raising the children as they were always nearby if not living in the same household. Now, the burden on two parents with multiple children is higher than in the past. 4) Big government has replaced family as the social insurance and old age pension. In the past your children were your social security and pension. Now there is no critical need for children.

@jackeagleeye3453

Ай бұрын

@@grannyannie2948 A cultural shift isn't going to work, it's going to come off as empty platitudes and nagging. Really if we want to see a difference, government intervention is going to be required, and we shouldn't expect results over night but something that takes quite some time.

@grannyannie2948

Ай бұрын

@@reekinronald6776 And yet you have outlined the solution. People just need to make different decisions. There is nothing making families having expected standards of living. And how do you judge this. As an Australian extended family we moved across the continent to live more rurally. The standard of living is different, but it's a value judgement to say better or worse. The houses are smaller but we are so close to the beach, our houses would be worth millions of dollars in a city. And parents choose to live away from extended family. Nobody forces them. Indeed it's the people who make different decisions to what you outlined who are having more kids. So the majority of the children are growing up with this as the cultural norm. And this is how cultural change occurs.

Although I had both parents I can relate to it because my parents fought all the time, beat me up and constantly scream at me for being so dumb, my IQ was so stunted under fear they thought i was retarded. It only got better after i lived away from them but i was still a slow learner and behind everyone. Now i make minimum wage, no future prospects, I can only hope i wouldn't live too long. An unstable family unit definitely ruins children.

@grannyannie2948

Ай бұрын

Please get professional help. Godbless

@elizabethmartinez4086

Ай бұрын

You express yourself very well. You seem intelligent. And, of course, you have human worth and potential. God bless.

Family support systems are much needed please come have this conversation in America. Interview Sussan Bassi - she covers family courts . It's rotten .

@user-xp5id1kh4r

Ай бұрын

How's it rotten?

i love listening to rob because not only is he so articulate and well read, he has the life experiences and personal observations that give his opinions so much heft! looking forward to your next book rob! no pressure, ha ha.

My life was destined to be difficult from conception. I was in top classes in most school subjects, but due to formative years where I wasn’t supported through stressful situations I was unable to perform well in stressful testing situations as my emotional resilience was very low. I wonder how many kids suffer the same. It’s frustrating and sad as this can be addressed. Sadly, society doesn’t seem to understand broken families have massive repercussions for society. It’s no wonder ADHD (PTSD) is on the rise.

I will watch any interview with Rob, so insightful

I worked in emergency care and I raised ia few issues about children . I have to say they won't always be receptive Id followed the safe guarding policy. I think they are so under-staffed they don't listen and then it's just a case number. But for us it was a patient crying out for help. So demoralising. They make us do the horrendous training for safe guarding but it's just tick boxing. Because I came up against many brick walls . And children remained at risk

@grannyannie2948

Ай бұрын

I have worked in foster care and it was my experience that the authorities often erred on the side of leaving kids in destructive families. In defence of Rob's experience, a child's first placement is difficult. When the child's needs and behaviours are better known, a longer term placement is more likely. I agree social workers have heavy workloads and the work is distressing. But I do believe it was not a matter of box ticking.

I watch almost all of your interviews, and this is definitely my new favorite! It was so good, Rob makes so many great points!

It seems birth control pill does not really give the control.

@grannyannie2948

Ай бұрын

Its also insidious as for 80+ years before hand men and women had access to contraception. It was a societal change, not a technological change. And like all negative change it began with the elites.

I really like this guy. Obviously very clever, but so humble as well.

Modern family 'law' is the greatest threat to Western civilization and the rule of law, if my experience in BC Canada is anywhere close to normative. I will dedicate the rest of my life to fighting against the industrial divorce complex! I'm hopeful this conversation will help shed light on why modern family law is destroying Western civilization.

@ronmoore6598

Ай бұрын

How about fighting against Abortion and the actual destruction of our society's future?

@C12341

Ай бұрын

I don't think that's the answer. If women (and men) feel they are trapped in abusive marriages, that can be very difficult to prove in a fault divorce. Women unaliving themselves went significantly down once no fault divorce laws came into play. Most divorces happen for a really good reason. I think good people underestimate how many abusive people are out there. The struggle between men and women is mostly economic and a lot of marriages break because the woman is expected to do all the household chores and childrearing while working outside the home as much as the man. That's not tenable and they start seeing the man as another child to take care of. Also a lot of men demean housewives and women's work as easy and inferior, so it's a catch-22. If the woman wants to stay home she then is treated poorly and reminded she's not contributing. This is done by sadists of course but there's more out there than you may realize. I lost a house I paid off in cash with mainly my salary in my divorce and haven't been able to afford a home since. That was more than a decade ago. We split our assets 50/50 that were obtained during the marriage. I have no issue with that. In the case of housewives, they help to run the household to allow the primary earner to have less stress. I think that is a job worthy of 50 percent of the assets during the marriage.

@Bestape

Ай бұрын

@C12341 thank you for your insights. Men are unaliving themselves, or others, a lot now. I believe the pendulum of reaction now swings too far in the other direction. Society needs to focus on this and prioritize skills like reconciliation. For instance, if one of the partners is physically abusive, then the reconciliation process should bring that to light. We can either heal that person or ensure they don't marry and abuse someone else. Regarding the divorce industrial complex, did you actually split 50/50 or did lawyers take a big chunk of it? How much did the lawyers take? How much would they have taken if you participated in a civil procedure system not based on adversarial battle? For me, my wife was a victim of a crime because she was cheating on me and got herself in a bad situation. Her and my personalities shifted substantially after the trauma. We both had a lot of victim's rage. Her lawyer took advantage of that and advised her to sue me as aggressively as possible. I almost took my life as a result of my wife's lawyer bullying me, and when I told them, they used that to double-down on bullying me, bringing me much closer to unaliving myself.

@C12341

Ай бұрын

@@Bestape oh man, I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you're doing better now. That was a lot to go through. Very evil lawyer. We actually did mediation, just one lawyer drawing up the offiical paperwork. Just divided everything up evenly. It's been a while so I can't remember how much it cost us. I am so sorry to hear of that happening. I had a friend in a similar situation and they were able to save the marriage. He understood she was mentally ill and they got counseling and things got better and they're okay now. If you are approaching it from that experience, then I understand your concerns and it sounds like the lawyer aspect of it needs to be reformed. I personally don't think it should be able to be altered more than a 50/50 split and not all situations should have alimony. A lot of lawyers are sociopaths. I'd be happy if it was reformed where only mediation was allowed for no fault divorce and it was an even split. I know a guy who pays so much in child support he only has 100 left of his paycheck. Luckily he new wife works but that's an example of where it needs to be adjusted. That sounds extremely traumatic and I hope you (and her) are in a much better place now. I am sad though because it sounds like she was manipulated by the lawyer. Yeah I agree that could be informed. IN FACT I just realized a simple law of mediation and splitting the assets 50/50 might prevent a lot of divorces to begin with. If you only had that option to have a no fault divorce and had to prove fault to have a personal lawyer involved, that might solve a lot of problems. Or mandatory counseling prior to divorce. I don't know how that would work legally though. You're right about the unaliving. It's hard to feel good about yourself when the world just says you're a wallet. The economy is ruining everything for people. Wishing you the best future

@Bestape

Ай бұрын

@C12341 that was a very kind message. Thank you 🤍🙏

Rob, I know your biological dad is so proud of you. Even though he knows he cannot take credit!

I am looking forward to this episode!

What an intelligent man, got his book added to my list. Thanks for hosting Rob.

Recently a woman I've come to know told me about her 4 children. I'm not sure why or what her circumstances were at the time of their births, but the first 3 were taken from her and raised in the foster care system. She lost contact with her first and her second two she seems to have retained some contact with, but both fell into drug addiction cycles. The last baby she was encouraged to allow the father's family to adopt and he is the only one doing okay for for himself. She's super proud of him and in hindsight is glad she gave him up for adoption even though she didn't want to at the time. She also has a relationship with him now.

There was a time where everyone knew who they were and found it empowering. They were Americans. (Speaking about America obviously.)

I fought like hell to keep my marriage together, there wasn’t anything I wouldn’t have done. My wife felt like marriage was disposable and we ultimately divorced. Also she decided she was lesbian. Sometimes you get dealt a bad hand.

Actually, Thomas Sowell doesn't posit that it was just the Great Society welfare programs that destroyed the Black family, he claims it was that and the powerful movement within the American criminal justice system for more leniency, understanding, and less explicit moral condemnations of anti social behavior due to the need to understand their "root causes." Both began in the 1960s, so you can't easily identify which was causal. But as I said, Sowell thinks it was the effects of both that did it.

Society is not only failing children in all respects, it is spending fortunes doing so. The cheapest and most effective way to help children is to keep them in the family unit. This is sometimes impossible, but it would be a great start if society did not actively encourage the breakdown of the family unit or prevent one from forming in the first place. All systems or companies have a need or propensity to create their own customers and in this respect social services are no different from judicial systems and pharmaceutical companies.

Trickle down meritocracy is absolutely brilliant, I’m definitely stealing that one.

Both mine and my husband's parents got divorced but we have been married for 21 years (46 & 49 yrs old) we are happily married and we are poor! I come from the underclass in the UK.

The way many have raised "hypocrisy" to something like a cardinal sin has gotten out of control.

@jenster29

Ай бұрын

Because there's too much of it and it has been allowed to get out of control. Too many hypocrites living how they want and pointing at the rest of us making us feel guilty for what we have, when it's less than them

Fantastic conversation. Thank you gentlemen. I just went and ordered the book (I’m old school and prefer hard copies). And am finally excited about a new read.

Thank you so much for this discussion which we need to have to hopefully educate the future parents

Konstantin looks knackered and barely awake for the last couple of podcasts I’ve seen. 🤔

@natangurfinkel

Ай бұрын

I bet he's working more lately

@_BirdOfGoodOmen

Ай бұрын

​@@natangurfinkelbetween this podcast and a child no wonder he's beat

Love this interview. Book ordered and really tempted to sign up to Locals!

Great conversation. Thank u.

A very welcome conversation. These are widely recognised principles which have existed in the west through biblical Christianity which has been largely abandoned over the last couple of generations. It does feel like we are reinventing the wheel here!

Never listened to this guy before but wow he gets people

I have to say that if we in the “West” would turn back to the basic 10 commandments , we could turn this sad mess around. No sex without marriage . Do not lie, steal, cheat , envy etc. please don’t assume that everyone has premarital sex. I know two many who didn’t and they are happily married with large families.

Political policies including welfare/benefits help to lead to absent father and fecund mothers. The loss of Church (I'm atheist) and the shame that came with it leads to more breeding outside of wedlock. It is a symptom not the cause, to solve it it needs to be made bigger, the solution is more fundamental than this and the cause is a wider malaise in negative feedback with this and other cyclical social and economic issues. The collapse of complex systems is upon us. But The Uniparty will look after you and keep you safe. The Three Slogans of the Uniparty: SPEECH IS VIOLENCE FREEDOM IS DANGER DIVERSITY IS STRENGTH

@grannyannie2948

Ай бұрын

It's becoming more and more obvious that TPTB don't want our culture to be successful. The want us childless, in pods eating bugs, whilst we are replaced.

@Adrian-qc7ky

Ай бұрын

Well said 🙂

I'm so glad that people like Rob are a) living such happy, fulfilling lives and b) helping our societies in the West figure ourselves out and stop shitting on ourselves. We have problems, great, so does everyone. But he points in the opposite direction as to how to fix them!

Only two of my friends growing up that had parents that weren't separated. These were also the only two amongst my friends that were always well off, had no major struggles growing up, or going to school and so on. They were also the only two from our group that ended up getting married and having kids. The rest of us are struggling just meeting a decent girl that is interested. Its not that odd when i think back at it. When i moved out to my own place i was a mess, and i had to just focus on myself for several years in order to put my shit together and build myself up to a point where i have the confidence to talk to girls with the intent of dating and and qualities to be a good partner. Those two friends had that long ago. They got it for free from their parents and their upbringing. Nobody can say for certain, but there is a good chance i would also have been married and had kids by now if my situation had been more stable during my teenage years, I'm still hopeful i will find someone though.

We've long seen the quality of this human. His insights and world view (enlightenment values) have shown through in every conversation I've seen. I'm not sure I'll read the book, but it looks like a great resource for those interested in this space.

Marriage and relationship take two people. Who wouldn’t want to have a healthy marriage and a good environment to raise children? If one of both sides couldn’t create that environment, it doesn’t work out and beyond repair, do you just stay in the toxic relationship, and pretend everything is fine? I have friends like that, but now suffering terrible consequences.everything looks great from the outside, housewife, husband got amazing job, three kids, big house etc … she has been secretly seeing psychiatrist. she resents her husband (controlling , cheating, no love, care or respect) and she has been depressed in the marriage but couldn’t walk away from it. Another friend married to a very successful but narcissistic guy for almost 20 years. She finally decided to divorce after her failed suicide attempt. She is now living a much happy life on her own.

@sarahjane4908

Ай бұрын

I know couples like the ones you describe, but I also know people who have walked away from marriages because they were bored, because they thought they could do better, because they didn’t like their spouse’s family, because they felt unappreciated or “criticized” too much. I even know ppl who have divorced over arguments about what food to eat. Relationships with other ppl will always have conflict. Also, divorced life is not necessarily the “easy” life. Anyway, I hope your friend’s mental health is better now.

Family neighborhood community county, they are all important. I think we aren't asking all the right questions and considering all factors based on this discussion.

There is one heuristic that completely simplifies the whole phenomenon of family, national and civilisational breakdown. Andrew Breitbart famously pointed out politics is downstream of culture. He did not say, and perhaps did not know, that culture is downstream of religion. Another analogy is, politics is the top floor, culture the middle floor, and religion the ground floor. In the west, the ground floor has collapsed, leaving the inhabitants to ferret about among the leftover ruins of culture and politics - so that these are now doing the job of religion, culture is now the religion, and politics is now the culture, and everything is broken.

@EltaninMalfoy

Ай бұрын

Interesting take. I'm European and here are my 'problems' with the US. 1. I kind of diasgree with religion being the top floor. IMHO, it's actually culture that's the ground floor and religion is its product, not visa versa. The main reason for this is culture/traditions is rooted in socioeconomical reality of everyday life. 2.This explanation completely disregards exactly what culture is based on: economy, real life, geopolitics 3. In the US, there is no culture, simply put; what I mean is, there is no folklore. Religion is the culture. 4. Once religion is in conflic with economic reality - it's done; thrown out of the window. The 50s were an illusion created by the WW2. The nuclear family (just parents and children) has never exsited. The 'village' was always multiple generations living together, not in different cities/states. So, I toltally agree that everything is broken, but the reasons are a bit different

@tim2muntu954

Ай бұрын

Everything rests on assumptions (ie. Euclids postulates). The house is the construct, the ground is the given. All human activity is nested within a value hierarchy.

Francis had a good show. You could tell it's his element.

Great discussion

49:46 Francis man, … did you just say „soccer player“? Great episode, guys!

I had a classmate who probably had a slightly above average IQ who answered all IQ tests abcdcbabcdcbabcd. It was his statement: you can't make me do this. It was nothing like a measure of his aptitude. It was a measure of his anger.

My boyfriend and I grew up in very different school backgrounds. My teachers threatened to have our state test scores reflected in our yearly grades if they didn't think we tried hard enough and pressed us to start thinking about looking good on college applications. My boyfriend's teachers openly told the class none if them were likely going to college and just wanted to drag the class to graduation.

I'm 46, French and upper class. I come from 4 generations of divorce and only 2 kids a year had married parents in my private school growing up. We were very messed up

I mean, he’s obviously just right on this. It’s not rocket science.

Jesus Christ said BEHOLD I make all things new praise God praying for everyone everyday God bless you all

We can all start by speaking up for good behaviour and calling out bad behaviour around us. I don't even have a substack! but I think I saved a family from breakup simply by being the one person who said - that's NOT ok! That'll be a catastrophe for your kid! Be responsible, work at it, don't move on just because it's tough at times.

The problem is the inability to be upfront and honest about what the problem is.

If an all seeing all knowing God is removed from society. Society starts flailing. You can do what you want. No moral reprocussions.

Without blaming or shaming single parents, their single status may be beyond their control, it is true that children from single parent families have a more difficult time in life. There is also the factor that society encourages both parents to hold a job and earn more income. When both parents work there is less family time which guides the development of their children. Society is responsible for dual income encouragement and the consequent lack of child raising. So the real question is how do we manage society to return to a more naturalistic family structure of two parents, one working, one at home and consequently better child raising.

@icarusjumped2719

Ай бұрын

I agree, we need to somehow go back to being able to have most couples have one parent at home. A single income being able to support the home would be a massive boon to the family unit, and as a result, society at large.

@09cutie0pie

Ай бұрын

Get rid of the industrial revolution i guess?

@icarusjumped2719

Ай бұрын

@@09cutie0pie No, find a way to reduce the burden on the household. The ability to have one parent stay home would be massively beneficial to society. That doesnt mean we need to throw away the technological advances of the industrial revolution. The mistake we have made, was FORCING women into the work force, thereby doubling the tax income for the state, but essentially destroying the family as an institution.

@mayflowerlash11

Ай бұрын

That is a bit extreme and not at all what I am suggesting. One of the most interesting and useful things Jordan Peterson has taught me is that if you want the other person to change or alter their views, first you must be able to paraphrase the other persons point of view. By expressing the other persons POV you establish that you understand accurately what they are arguing. From here further discussion is often fruitful. Exaggerating the other person's POV in the hope of changing their mind won't work. All you have done is to show you do not understand the other person. Have a nice day.@@09cutie0pie

@katadam2186

Ай бұрын

CC f

Hypocrisy was the compliment vice paid to virtue. Now vice pats itself on the back, wave's its flag, and INSISTS you do too.

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What I don't understand is how many people say that getting married and raising a family is too expensive bc they can't afford a house. I raised 3 kids without child support. I never aspired to a house. I rented. The idea of a house/picket fence is nice but not a requirement. It was also a post WWII concept A LOT of families throughout history have NOT had a home of their own. And often more than one family shared a house! So we're looking at this situation through the lens of privilege

@annarboriter

Ай бұрын

Really? you received no funds from the children's father(s)?

@annemiller8227

Ай бұрын

@@annarboriter only one father for all 3 children. My body count is 2. And I received one check from him (garnished wages) for $36. After that he lived in a state park for 3 years and begged/ worked under the table so I would have no recourse. He was a terrible provider when we were married so it wasn't a shock. It's a major reason I left. If he wasn't a provider when we were married I never expected him to man up when I left and took my job skills with me. We were married for just under 10 years. I used to belong in "for better or for worse". But after 10 years I couldn't keep waiting for the better times. Especially once he started doing drugs

@AdelTheForsaken

Ай бұрын

Generational wealth tends to be tied to the family home.

@annemiller8227

Ай бұрын

@@AdelTheForsaken you're not wrong from a historical stand point. But in the last 100 years that has changed A family home that actually stayed in the family was primarily among the wealthy and even then it often would disappear within a few generations unless there were clauses within a will to prevent this. This was how someone who was "noble" was also "broke" bc either they didn't insert any profitable land to go with their "noble blood" or else they inherited a property that didn't create sufficient wealth to support their spending habits. And it stayed within inheritance lines bc you can't really "split" a home amongst heirs unless it is sold. Additionally the industrial age as well as mass immigration meant people moved away. Living in apartments became more common. There's such a tiny tiny portion of the population who can say they're in a "family" home and mean that it has been in the family more than 2-3 generations and I cam make a generalized guess that's likely true world wide. Probably not even .01% and that's making a wild guess. I'd be surprised if the number of those who made up "generational land" world wide was even 0.001% of the population It just that we all aspire to be like them

I would want to know how did he go to Yale after being in the Air Force. Granted we dont know Yale's admission process but I got to imagine he must have done a lot or studying or provided some kind of proof that he was academically qualified to attend.

Jesus Christ died for our Sins according to the scriptures and that he was Buried and that he Rose again the third day praise God praying for everyone everyday God Bless You all....

@grannyannie2948

Ай бұрын

Godbless you

Did Rob's vocabulary improve with reading ?

It’s a no brainer. Get divorced or born out of wedlock and there are now only 16 hours of adult labor per day contributing to your development, not 32. Yes there’s child support, but there is no comparison. For ordinary people divorce is a disaster for children. Only the rich can afford divorce and all the therapy they recommend that ordinary people can’t even afford the co pay on. Pushing divorce is just another example of rich people pushing ideas that work for them, in an environment rich with resources. Take those resources away, and none of their ideas work; they in fact usually hurt. I am sick and tired of the repeated demonstration of zero common sense by the rich when it comes to things like this. They have no clue and don’t even engage in reality any longer.

@TheAlison1456

Ай бұрын

have they ever?!?!? "during this historical period ... the elites were exceptionally known for being clued and engaged with the happenings on at the ground."

You are right FF. We are setting entire generations up to fail.

"A man who got a woman pregnant." She had a hand in this as well.

@09cutie0pie

Ай бұрын

Women tend to please and be more agreeable than men, not to mention are on average smaller and physically not as strong, so it seems the man is more responsible

@benchapple1583

Ай бұрын

@@09cutie0pie On Average in the USA women are not smaller than men, but this is moot. Suppose that two people get drunk and do something stupid together e.g. climb a scaffolding outside a building and fall off both getting injured and damaging your car. They are individually responsible for their stupid decision. Does it matter if they are two boys and one is stronger than the other and more agreeable? Or two girls with the same condition? But if they are a boy and a girl then by your logic the boy is responsible. This I do not understand and seems to be based on the idea that women have no agency of their own.

@_BirdOfGoodOmen

Ай бұрын

OK. And?

@benchapple1583

Ай бұрын

@@_BirdOfGoodOmen Both should be held responsible for their actions is the rather obvious point I was making. At least I thought it was obvious.

i really missed normal people normal family going to church setting together normal family things

God, we’re f****d

1:03:00 Exactly. Up is Down, black is White, Right is Wrong.

My standard reply to social issues today is to promote the natural foundation for prosperous peoples through out time. The synergistic Matrix of ; Freedom, Marriage, Family, and Local Government ... to promote anything less will cause an acceleration of the entropy we live in. The west is not only promoting less than optimum culture but subsidizing it ... creating epigenetic cultural changes that typically take generations to overcome. Exponential degradation ... can you feel the momentum?

Seems like the only suggestions to keep more families together is for government intervention in media or for you to join the military/go to prison/have an autocratic ruling party so men have structure/discipline and cant just do what they want. Bit of an odd one - Francis and Konstantin seemed a bit nonplussed by a lot of this.

I didn't rise above anything. I am, more or less, a 43y old 8 year old.

Defund the government, stop paying tax Thanks Triggernometory

The cultural shift is more important than government involvement. But if government just pushed the value of the nuclear families. We need a cultural shift to the value of nuclear families. We need the role of the father and mother and that they are important to society as a whole. We need to bring back the practice of faith and community. Going to church and creating faith based communities.

54:00 Free Will. We have Free Will to break the cycle and Jesus Christ is the Way, the Truth and the Life.

If there were international hate crime laws, I would be arrested over my opinion on Francis' cardigan

@notthatkindofsam

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

PRECISELY RIGHT. And we get stability from Ideology NOT chaotic “freedom”.

The test wasn't wrong then. You were unmotivated, didn't care, and a general a-hole because of factors in your life, and the test reflected that. Once you got those things sorted out and started doing well, if you were to take the test again, you would do well. The test reflects you as you are, not necessarily you as you could be. Also, if you're unwilling to let the test actually test you by being an uncooperative a-hole, then the test will, not surprising, be inaccurate.

What is with that carpet? It looks like it's covered in blood.