The "safety of suppression" is exactly the correct usage of words. As someone who was in rigorous therapy for my C-PTSD for a year, I can completely understand why people choose to sweep their mental health problems under the rug instead of addressing them head on. Processing our traumas is an extremely emotionally draining process and I cannot stress that enough. It jolts us awake and puts us into a completely different world and makes us question everything and compels us to call an ace an ace and see our abuse for what it really was. And then there's also the massive grief which comes from realising that we did not deserve the poisonous environment we were placed in and if only we had had supporting and compassionate adults around us, we would have had a healthy, fulfiling and much better life.

@demgorav1587

Жыл бұрын

Did it work?

@herecomesthesun7180

Жыл бұрын

Totally relate. Thank you for your comment 💛

@Avilounge222

Жыл бұрын

Perfectly said 💯 absolutely agree

@leslie.dixon.

9 ай бұрын

I feel this!!! The work to wake up is so hard, but so worth it! ❤️

Thank you for speaking about Complex-PTSD. We need more conversation about it. It's too late for me (age 73), but maybe the next generations can conquer it. God bless you.

@AlexanderSuraphel

2 жыл бұрын

What you have left is as valuable as the years you have lived. Nobody is guaranteed tomorrow.

@queentantrumofficial

Жыл бұрын

It's never too late x

@pixieindigo

Жыл бұрын

It's not too late!

@cabbagedavidge

Жыл бұрын

No it's not too late. I am 70 yrs old and only discovered I have CPTSD last year. There is help out there now, just wish this was all known about 30 yrs ago at least, my life would have been so different, I lost so many opportunities. BUT - I have started working on myself because I owe it to myself and that Inner Child, and I want to know some peace and happiness in my now late years. Watch Irene Lyon on KZread. It's not a quick fix but it will help you lead a better quality of life going forward. You are worth it!

@MrsDonnaE

Жыл бұрын

@@cabbagedavidge exactly! Good for you.

PTSD is like the violent memories get stuck on repeat - constant reliving and re-strategizing how to approach the situation when it already happened. What could have been done, what should be done in the future - an obsession and depersonalized presence in the rest of life. Sleepless nights - sometimes entire weeks because the memories just get worse laying down. The anger, holding back from smashing through a wall just from the replaying, forgetting what day and time it is. Looking back at old videos of yourself and not recognizing them anymore.

@LoverofSunflowernBees

3 ай бұрын

Exactly you’re so right and I know when I read this that the person writing this must have C-PTSD! Please listen to Johanna Draconis

I feel very angry at the people who have such a proviledged life free from ptsd. Every moment feels like you’re in immediate danger . People tell me to be grateful for what I have, which feels invalidating to what I am experiencing

@GailOwens

2 ай бұрын

People don't get it, they don't give a toss about anyone else but themselves. I know for myself I grieve for the opportunities I could have had without the abuse/ PTSD.

I thought abuse was normal because it was all I knew. Just in the last three years I learned alot of things weren't right or normal. I learned what a narcissist is. I learned to set boundaries. I learned what acceptable behavior is and what is not acceptable. Now I'm trying to figure out how to heal my trauma.

@ArchAngel435

2 ай бұрын

Start with feelings the emotion. Don't suppress them, however painful n discomforting. TRE, trauma informed yoga and other practices help. Won't happen overnight, but we've got it

I feel like I just met her in the bathroom at a party and she helped me stop crying and gave me a hug

@laztiz1396

Жыл бұрын

🤣🤣good one mate

@ongogablogian845

Жыл бұрын

100 percent

Beautiful speech. I looked up "encouragement for CPTSD" on KZread and your speech came up. I just started somatic therapy today. I am taking responsibility for my life. I will never give up the fight. So much love to you ❤❤ beautiful soul

Music has always been a safe haven for me to move my emotions into something outside of myself. This has given me the inspiration to build up a new studio and get back at it. It's been years since I sold my studio to focus on nutrition and personal training. In the aftermath of failing the studies due to my chronic health issues and a relationship with another traumatized individual - I learned about narcissism, toxic relationships, abuse, manipulation, and all that follows. The veil was lifted. 2 years later the pieces began to fall into place. My gut and severe health issues are all related to CPTSD, the chronic dysregulated nervous system, stress and inflammation the body has had to carry all these years from unprocessed emotions and experiences. Caused by a lifetime of verbal abuse, bulling, neglect and addictions. So now I am going to get back into it and use it as a vessel to try to heal myself.

@bianca_ninax

Жыл бұрын

I could relate to so much of what you said. I wish the best for you and your studio.

@JamieR

Жыл бұрын

@@bianca_ninax 🙋🏻‍♂️Do you make music or play instruments too?

i cried so much ive been struggling to afford therapy which is why I am back to creating art, journaling, and fitness.

@elizabethpettigrew4382

8 ай бұрын

Omg same let’s hang in here together, whoever you are. I know we’ll never meet but I’m sending you hugs tonight and hopes that one day it won’t be so expensive to care for and about ourselves and not be blamed for everything we’ve been through and not being “better already” when the care we deserve has neglected us even further. You are valid and absolutely loved by a girl named Elizabeth, me:). ✨

As an artist, healing by CPTSD, this really hit home for me

this made me realize that art has been a form of dealing with my cptsd this whole time. thank you for putting it into words in such a beautiful way.

You are courageous. Thanks for saying "I had no idea what my human rights were...I had no idea what boundaries were..." Thanks Angel. Praying for healing 4 you...

Im 53. Cptsd self diagnoses, because i know myself and my lived life better than anyone, im my own expert. I picked up the art brushes again after 30 odd yrs and have created some very meaningful work, for me. Very cathartic because i paint with intent to express the pain. Art plus therapy, with exploring psycology, philosophy and close observance of how i react and why, has really set the pathway for the remainder of my life. Probably only 20 yrs left till i kick off so i hope to use it well and explore all possibilities. At least my kids will remember a calmer more present dad after im gone. Peace ❤

Thank you for expressing C-PTSD so eloquently as well as the process of healing. I relate deeply. I'm still in the process of coming out of survival mode. I appreciate you so much for raising awareness of this.

From one TEDx Speaker to another who has suffered and still navigating CPTSD, Thank You for sharing your profound words of wisdom, knowledge and experience to help others. Continued success on your journey❤

I have complex PTSD unfortunately found out after it destroyed everything in my life....to late to start over. But it was beautiful to see someone find a way......and become something really beautiful....its so important thank you for sharing.

@ms-ij8lq

Жыл бұрын

It's never late if you still alive even if you're 68 years old always try to fix you, and believe me it will happen in your own time just keep the hope alive so you keep living.( it's like I'm talking to myself i have c-ptsd for 16 years since i was 16, I'm 32 and now i have name for what i always wanted to understand now im ganna fix me hope you do to.) have beautiful life stranger.

@CanadianMapleleaf

Жыл бұрын

My Complex PTSD is due to several childhood traumas managed to program me through the theta phase of my development and the the rest of the traumas from that point on were internalized. When I lost both of my parents within months of each other it started a vicious cycle that completely destroyed my life. The problem when you get much older is you no longer see a path just and end. You realize you cannot rebuild a 30 year career or a start a whole new family, forget owning a home and without a financial means to get help all my help has come from God. The last 7 years have transformed me to who I think I was meant to be. I am highly sensitive, but also very empathetic because of it, I am caring and kind and will go out of my way to help anyone. The problem is I also feel everything and I mean everything so spending time with this world is extremely taxing..but I am willing to do whatever I can. Getting out is however becoming less and less frequent, I cant do any good from here. Thanks for listening and at your age I believe you will overcome your challenges and inspire many others. Stay strong and thank you again....

@CanadianMapleleaf

Жыл бұрын

@@ms-ij8lq Thank you.

@bandlehars

Жыл бұрын

@@CanadianMapleleaf I am in my late 40’s and have lived with this condition almost all of my life. I’m tired, exhausted, and feel very damaged. Your post felt like it was addressed to me personally. Thank you.

@CanadianMapleleaf

Жыл бұрын

@@bandlehars Praying for you Craig, with all I have.

It pretty much has ruined my entire life. I'm 68 now and I isolate with my two dogs. But I do still have my music which is my soul.

Thank you so much. I have been craving creation since forever but I struggle opening up enough to create. I’m working on it. Just like you, after a certain traumatic event, the last one of a life packed with trauma and abuse, I wasn’t able to hide the pain anymore and I had to let it out. I’m still in the process. Opening up about my trauma helped me to gain interest into art again, because I needed it. To escape the pain and also sometimes to help feeling it, to feel relatable, to feel connected to a community. I’m not at the point where I’m able to make art yet, but I smartly feel the desire to dive into the creations of others and I know that I’m currently starting to inspire myself for future art. Hearing your experience, so relatable to mine, really gives me the support and hope I need to push through and finally, make art. In my case imposter syndrome is still strong, but the fear to lose my life was so strong the last time I experienced trauma, that now I keep telling myself « you didn’t get a second chance at life just to stay in your comfort zone ». Again, thank you SO MUCH for speaking about C-PTSD and for raising awareness about it, and thanks for sharing your beautiful experience with us. Just be sure it does help people in a very solid way. 🩷

Thank you so much for putting the struggles CPTSD people suffer in a "human" language, Deena. Esp. how you describes the relationship between your own brain/mind with emotions. (Imagine sharing it with non-CPTSD people could look sooo insane!) With 20 years of Cptsd, I found myself in a similar path as Deena before she took off the healing journey led by art and music. And Deena is like telling all of us that YOU CAN ALSO CHANGE!!! (So powerful with her being an icon of "rebel" and fighting against that part in ourselves) Sincerely hope all the best in your future and great progress in fixing our relationship with others. I should devote more time into making arts...... because you don't get to work out the relationship with yourself if you don't even spend abundant time on that.

“Including the abuse you inflict upon yourself”

@whathappenedtoearth6495

Жыл бұрын

Ooof... this. My trauma caused me to be dysfunctional enought to create more trauma! Yay! /s

I relate to this so much. As someone with CPTSD, I went through many years of many forms of abuse. I have found it so hard to open up and express vulnerability, crying, anger, and other emotions. I’m working so hard to remove the mask. I also use music to help with my CPTSD. Music is such a great way to help you express yourself. I’m working on not restricting myself, and not caring what society thinks of me. I do things differently than everybody else, and that’s mainly due to certain disabilities in my life. But I like how I do it, but I know society frowns upon it. Unmasking is so scary, but I believe in myself that I can and will let go of my perfectionism. I can and will let go of wondering what people think of me. I will learn to freely express myself, and love myself when being vulnerable. And not just only love myself when I’m happy and bubbly 24/7.

Dear Deena Lynch, thank you soo much for sharing your story! Last year, I started to go through the same transition: c-PTSD->art, and I couldn't be more hopeful. Wishing you much luck on your healing journey! ✨We're one big team of life-long warriors and I'm sure we'll eventually win 💪

Drawing as a seance with my own ghost :O I didn't realize what a wonderful tool drawing can be to understand yourself.

I have not been diagnosed with CPTSD but I believe I have it too. I see you and am so happy that music helped you open up the painful childhood wounds inside so you can heal them. During my abuse as a teen, I wrote songs as an outlet to my pain too. I haven written in years. Thanks for inspiring me to get back to it ❤️

Omfg your story is mine but I am about a year or two behind in my healing but once I’m strong enough I’m going to scream my story from the rooftops to hopefully help others and inspire change. I have no idea who this woman is but thank you for this talk I needed it right now ❤❤❤

@fatherburning358

9 ай бұрын

Please try not to scream too loud. Loud noise punches my amygdala in the you know where 😂

Thank you. I am also a broken person and I appreciated this so much

This is the most relatable unrelatable video ever. I wish I could find some kind of path to some kind of happiness.

I have C-PTSD. Writing is my music (organise thoughts), yoga is my performing (re-connecting to body), I'm yet to share my story publicly, but I do feel compelled to share writing about it & 'use my voice'... I'm searching for the courage! Glad I found this Tedx - thank you.

@aichaf3070

11 ай бұрын

Same

god i want nothing more than to heal from this, its ruined everything :(

"I gave myself permission...to come out of hiding!"

So inspirational! You give me hope. I have struggled and been misunderstood my whole life with complex PTSD. And not received the support I wish I had. You touched on all the things. The things that others don't see. I too, believe that the last most recent trauma that I have encountered, was the last straw for me and I am fed up with allowing the world to dominate me! I've had an awakening of passion in me that I have not felt in a long, long time. I joined a community family leadership training and am doing a community project around PTSD and parenting, different types of PTSD, and how to break the cycle of abuse for our children and theirs. My dream is that I will one day be able to be a Ted Talk speaker as well. We definitely need to hear more about it, instead of hiding it, knowing the devastating affects its having on peoples lives. Thank you for sharing!!!

@kathrynn4937

Жыл бұрын

Wow that’s how I feel totally misunderstood and not supported. Relationships been hard to keep, jobs hard to keep, people can be cruel to others like us who suffer from CPTSD

Thank u so much for this it was so inspiring as a fellow performer and composer with cptsd, just seeing the way you carry yourself with your diagnosis blows my mind and gives me hope that some day I´ll be able to sing in front of people enjoying it more than dreading it. Thank u again for your existence you really made my day!

Love it. Ive had severe cptsd for 20 years. I have started today being creative singing expression all because of your words thanku

I was crying.. Thank you. thank you. I needed it.

im a singer & songwriter & i also have complex ptsd. i relate to so much of what you said. thankyou for your words of hope , i think hearing what you said is going to help me allow myself to move more freely in life 💗💗

I could relate so much with you Deena. And I can understand from the place you are speaking this ted, with so much of conviction and gratitude for how it magically helped you. Thank you for sharing this. I truly wish for this video to reach a lot many people.

Ditto what most of the comments have already said. 10 years of untreated CPTSD often appears, to other people who don’t know me, like a meth addiction or severe mental illness of several kinds. By untreated though, I mean medically. Because part of my most severe trauma was due to doctors and hospitals, getting to the doctor isn’t and hasn’t happened in a decade either. I don’t talk about my story. Ultimately, only the lessons and wisdom will matter. Not the catalyst for those lessons. I guess it’s time to force myself to go. Stumbled onto this video by accident, so because in my life I’m often guided this way, I’m sure that I still have a choice but not for long… too many serious health concerns that could be signs of oncoming incurable illness to ignore it anymore. Thanks for your video, I needed it today.

I cried. Thank you so much for this. All of it absolutely excruciatingly true. Every word and expression. Very well spoken. Sharing and sending kindness your way.

Beautifully said.

your amazing!!!! thank you for helping lead the way for us!!!!💜💜💜

THIS IS THE VOICE IVE BEEN WAITING FOR.

I've only just begun to take control of my CPTSD and I've been struggling with starting my art journey at 35. I have ideas and stories already but when I put pen to paper I freeze. I bought a guitar but when I pick it up I freeze. But this helps me to start thawing that ice. Thank you.

Ms Deena Lynch, you don't have to be a professional to hold the room. I ran to music to escape the trauma, it has always been able to take me far, far away. I intend to use my writing and music to make the trauma escape me. I will listen to this several more times, but your statement of art being 'an exchange of healing' was profound. Who can adequately explain this with words? It can't be done, that is why God gifted to us art; and dogs.

Thank you for the validation.

Ahhh I love this!!! Thanks so much!! I’m currently on the exact same path and am just buzzing with life and excitement for the path I’ve been guided to in my recovery from childhood ptsd. So happy for you that you found you! 💗

I have CPTSD and I am going through the same as the first example that you gave.

Thank you. It has had such a grip on me. I’m in so much fear and overwhelm all the time. Dance helps. But when I’m alone I can’t really access my creativity as much. I will keep going.

@ArchAngel435

2 ай бұрын

Check out The Artist's Way, a journaling and meditative practice to fire up your creative juices. Self healing is the way to go, keep going

Ive started to crochet to help me with my cptsd.....and it helps me get through yhe day mostly while im out in public ... When i have to go out on my own.... Thankyou so much for this.... I hate sleeping due to night terrors and sweats.... But maybe one day ill be okay... My 3 kids also have ptsd also..... :(. Xx

Thank you.

Such a inspiration well done I have hypoxia brain injury I died 26minutes spent weeks months in coma rehab hospital learning talk walk again been a recovery massive discovery never ever give up on yourself many will never yourselves keep going you got this sending luck hugs love from headway Nottingham UK takecare everyone xxx

Life changing! Thank you

Absolutely amazing Ted talk. This was so Needed in my life thank you I feel very seen

45 years on Earth here and I recently unraveled my layers to meet my lovely SHAME 😅 so feeling the feeling has been doing pretty alright and this striking vdo is so much relatable to my journey. Thank you for making, talking and doing such wonderful things. I will look for your channels. Have a great healing ❤️‍🩹

wow I really needed this.. thank you so much

She Killed it! What an awesome performance!!!!!

How wonderful. I needed this today.

Much needed to hear this tonight.

Proud of you all keep going doing amazing things stay strong stay positive we are survivors sending hugs luck love from headway Nottingham UK xx

This vid is magic! Thanks

Thanks for sharing your story. It gives me hope and power to move on.There are so many silly people told me that my life will be damaged cause of the trauma. Now I know better🎉❤

I just finished with my c- ptsd last year. I’m happy to find this talk.

@elizabethpettigrew4382

8 ай бұрын

Finished? Tell me your ways 😅

Oh i had boospumps on this speech thank you so mutch i reely want to become like you one day i have long journey ahead me but still have hope to not just survive but to thrive and i love music and art so mutch and this inspiring me a lot wish all the best💐💐💝💜💝

So deeply moving ❤

Amazing woman thank you x

Beautiful.

Such a valuable speech, great great thanks

Thank you for your encouragement I really need to speak my story and truth but I’m not sure where to start or who to even trust, I don’t trust anyone easily. I do feel alone except for my service puppy 🐶

I believe u have cptsd I have been diagnosed with ptsd for years. I have a similar experience. I was in Healthcare for most of my life although I'm naturally a caring person I hated it. I've become a photographer these past couple years. To finally express myself.

Damn. This was 100%

She is So COOL!

This was exactly what I needed to be reminded of. Thank you.

Thank you for this; sharing it as a resource for students.

@elizabethpettigrew4382

8 ай бұрын

Hope they found it helpful!

Woooouuuu..I knew about PTSD,but not complex PTSD! Thank you for sharing your journey & spiritual awakening! Your bravery to be honest with yourself & to embrace your vulnerability through "music".. That is extremely powerful & insightful.. Keep going & be a voice for your community,your family & humanity.. Blessings for the healing journey you are going to go through! Be more creative & bold! Use your platform to bring "self awareness",to create self transformation..Light & love for tue rest of your life..🙏💕💠😊💗😘💚🌺

this is actually really accurate.

Totally relate! Very well said.

what a strong girl, wish her the best

@katejudson8907

Жыл бұрын

Girl? She is not a child.

@elizabethpettigrew4382

8 ай бұрын

@@katejudson8907 I don’t think they meant it that way. Probably something I might’ve even said as a well aware young “woman” myself. It’s just something ppl say. But I agree she’s a grown woman. Wonder when that technically happens let alone emotionally or “scientifically” 🤔😅☠️.

I used to love art. The constant abuse and neglect and ridicule and shame and fear caused me to lose interest and joy in it. I literally wake up, go to my blue collar job because I couldn't make it through school, come home and self-medicate with alcohol and food and distractions.

What an inspiration to me because I to suffer from complex PTSD I just found out about a couple years ago that I have this but just getting on the path of my healing journey since I've broke away from my toxic family I am also an intuitive in path and I a creative in many ways music art maybe comedy I don't know but I see myself in this lady and this is inspirational to see that there is a light down the dark tunnel after all God bless you for your message keep on creating and becoming your higher self peace and blessings namaste

This was so inspiring for me!!!

Wow. Well done x

Ah man! You're an inspiration! I'm going to start making music again!

❤❤😘ahhh such inspirational hope...no more hiding in the shame

AURORA has been healing my cPTSD/Inner child for years now. I thank her for that. Maybe one day I'll make my own too. 6:20

LOVE!

Bravo

loved you!

Great video!!!

Great💯

Really liked your talk and agree that music and art help me with ptsd

Love this!!

I was diagnosed with severe CPTSD but I always knew I had it. I feel like I’m just living and waiting to die on an island on my own. The more I try to form connections the more I get abused. I used to paint, sketch everything with art starting at age 5. I lost the desire to do anything involving my talents. The only pleasure I have now is food and eating. It has added another disorder, binge eating disorder. I’m done there’s no way to overcome this. I don’t know why this woman claims art can help with it, NOTHING WORKS.

@kimmykim1665

Жыл бұрын

Finding something I'm passionate about recently is working for me. Not just something I like, something that gets me super excited. Part of it being using all the pain and trauma I've endured, to give others strength and hope who feel the same. I know exactly how you feel about trying to connect and getting abused. It is extremely important for me to step out of my comfort zone and not hide, or I just beat myself up more for allowing my dreams to die. I'm willing to talk to you more if you want, you are not alone. I have attracted lots of trauma in my life unintentionally and I'm still going. It took me until 41years old btw to find a real true passion that is working for my complex ptsd. Definitely been a journey. Also, I'm doing my medical intake this morning for Ketamine therapy!!!! Its only in Colorado and Texas currently, but they are bragging about its effectiveness at treating PTSD depression, medication resistant depression, chronic pain, addiction!!!! Keep in touch and I'll let you know how effective the treatment is. Look it up.......Klarisana. If you don't want to connect, God bless you hun, I hope that you don't give up. Self-destruction, and self-sabotage is a symptom of CPTSD (not who you really are) and you have to fight that with self-love.

@Venusbabe66

Жыл бұрын

I know how you feel and am similarly struggling with direction and motivation. I doubt you can honestly admit you have tried EVERYTHING? It's a personal journey we're on and you're only at that point on your path where it FEELS like nothing works. The point being, is that until you have tried EVERYTHING for yourself - you still have your life purpose ahead - to find the right fuel to light your flame within - there are many ways, you just need to find yours, even if it's started with just a shift in perspective and attitude - keeping an open, curious and engaged mind, by reading or absorbing... philosophical, psychological, historical, spiritual, cosmic or scientific perspectives. Everything helps!... Sam Harris's videos helped a lot for me! I found the further away from myself I enquired, cosmically speaking, the better my understanding, and the bigger the shift in acceptance and gratitude for just being alive in this mysterious universe of ours, where our purpose, I feel, is to evolve, survive and thrive - as simple as that! Good Luck from Melbourne Australia! 🇦🇺🌏❤🍀

@jellybeanzt8568

Жыл бұрын

How do you even know for sure? Speaks volumes of how little you actually know and how little self confidence you have for yourself.

@carolynjaynes9094

Жыл бұрын

Overeaters anonymous

I've been an artist (a real one) my entire life and art hasn't helped me at all. All it has done is give me a way to avoid things and shut out the world.

The way she explains things and even her mannerisms are eerily similar to mine 😳

But what about if your no good at art? And you forced to work in a job you don’t love?

@katejudson8907

Жыл бұрын

You don't have to be a successful artist to have personal therapeutic benefits. Lets be honest very, very, very few artists make a career success that respects the time and energy they put into it, to be celebrated and followed publicly. It also takes priveledges to access.

@Rainjojo

Жыл бұрын

You don’t need to be “good”, all you need is to be good enough for yourself and have a passion to learn more. It all takes patience at the end

❤❤❤❤

EMDR can quickly transform you - relatively speaking - based on the individual.

6:46 so she bought her first guitar and started to overcome her c-ptsd already at the age of just 18 years old? I find it hard to understand how you can already deal with your childhood traumas and then work with them while you are still a teenager? I suffer from c-ptsd, and I have learned that most people only remember their childhood traumas in their 20's or later. The teenage-brain is not developed enough to cope and handle with those traumatic experiences in the childhood. Am I missing something? Or am I just wrong? I really don't want to question her story, so please don't misunderstanding my intentions. I'm just curious

@kate_morgan7149

Жыл бұрын

That confused me to because it sounded at the start like she didn't start doing the art and processing the c-ptsd until after graduating college and working in a business/math field

👏

I feel like a completely different person when I am triggered.

This sounds like me - diagnosed a month ago