The worst thing I've been told is that "you have potential".

@ChristinaChrisR

4 жыл бұрын

I've been told this from EVERYONE as long as I can remember. I wanna punch someone. But I always end up punching and punishing myself.

@aayushivasnik

4 жыл бұрын

yes and people say it like they're giving a compliment

@zacharybrown3604

4 жыл бұрын

❤️

@donnamakingherstory2084

4 жыл бұрын

Followed by "you are so smart, you just need to apply yourself"

@CrippeLennerbrant

4 жыл бұрын

I'm crying reading this. Been thinking I'm weird, getting angry by hearing people telling me this. Thank you for sharing!

Me: crying because I can relate to her experiences Also me: get distracted by the comment section

@chelseadavis6327

3 жыл бұрын

Literally me right now lmao

@chipte9377

3 жыл бұрын

I'm getting distracted by the comment section also lol

@petscopkid

3 жыл бұрын

Same but then I got distracted by drawing-

@MR-nb2wi

3 жыл бұрын

Lmao I'm called out

@cryptogenius8335

3 жыл бұрын

Same lmfao

" i had potential, though, so my failure was clearly my fault" my heart breaks

@redietfekade4547

4 ай бұрын

This is exactly how I feel.!!!

@timotheegermes468

4 ай бұрын

yea fr!

@Muhluri

4 ай бұрын

Story of my life

@theJellyjoker

28 күн бұрын

I know that feel 😢

@iori172

23 күн бұрын

😢

I'm writing this from my car, by the side of the road, on my way to a meeting for which I am late, with tears steaming down my face. I am a 43 year old man and this talk just rocked me to my core! Thank you! Thank you... I really needed to hear that I am not alone and that there is hope... Your story is almost a carbon copy of mine... How did I miss this my whole life! Your talk has given me a clue and I now think I know where to start... Thank you so, so much!

@EdenP68

Жыл бұрын

I read a book called “The 5 second Rule” by Mel Robbins. It’s been a game changer. Really helped with procrastination issues. Get the audiobook. I think it might work better with our brains. I hope this helps. I think I know how you feel. It very isolating. I always felt like I was hiding my true self from the world because I was so ashamed. I don’t feel like that any more. Good luck to you.

@jeri.studio

Жыл бұрын

Folks like us whose brains work differently will hear, "there's hope" from professionals & loved ones hundreds of times over the years, but until someone who has walked the same path that we have walked shares their own story of hope, we so often (& I speak from experience) can not possibly believe it. Now that I've found that hope, it's important that I echo this elusive truth that may seem like a cliché until a reminder proves vital: there is hope, AND it can be found.

@Nbelenitskaya

Жыл бұрын

I could have written this comment. Same age, same story.

@Blue_Moon_33

11 ай бұрын

I hope you are doing well, man. Definitely, you are not alone, and there is hope.

@Raiyan32

10 ай бұрын

I am 42. I came to know that I have ADHD yesterday. And all my life I have been wondering what's wrong with me? :-(

Shout out to everyone almost failing college, in spite of being interested in most subjects!

@sandilenkosi9288

4 жыл бұрын

In highschool I felt like a Supercar that's performing like VW Beetle, but I didn't know why 😭 I just turned 28 a few days ago and I'm still living with parents, still trying to complete a degree a started 9 years ago 😭😭 Only recently learnt that there's a condition called ADHD. I got an appointment with a psychiatrist in two week. I'm from South Africa 🇿🇦

@therealfinnaspring8585

3 жыл бұрын

@@sandilenkosi9288 doesn't matter if it takes longer there is no time line to finish a degree :)

@thanhsontran5387

3 жыл бұрын

OMG I can't even. Why is this so accurate. Imagine a subject designed for computers to handle with tedious calculations that is just a mine field for even a normal person with ridiculously tight time constraints and a brain that just wanders off when I'm struggling to complete it. Yeah that's me

@WindowtotheStars

3 жыл бұрын

I spent 6 years in school, no degree. After that I managed to spend 2 more years and atleast get an Associate's. My degree interests kept changing over and over to the point I could feel my family and friends rolling their eyes thinking "when is this idea going to change?" And remember breaking down with a family member over this inability to maintain interest, to finish what I started. They told me, " you just need to learn to finish what you start." I really internalized that sense of being discipline-deficient and despite my ardent effort to "build discipline" I could never seem to go the distance, to last the whole marathon. And I internalized those failures. And this is even with an ADHD diagnosis. The truth is, when I was diagnosed, the way it was described to me by a psychiatrist was basically "you're distractable" and "you need to focus harder than others". So even though I was diagnosed with it I would not actually understand what it was till I was 33 years old. It sucks. But it felt so cathartic to watch her show and this TED talk because it was the first time I felt seen and not alone.

@jw7893

3 жыл бұрын

@@WindowtotheStars Your comment made me realize this is exactly what I do. I've been given so many great opportunities for education, but I can't decide what I want to stick to and have changed my major so much and this has caused me to feel like I'm falling behind my peers, who have already graduated and moved on. Thank you for taking the time to comment this - it helped me realize something new about myself and my adhd brain.

When she said, “I worked harder than anyone I knew...So, my failure was clearly my fault.” I felt that.

@b1_ferg

3 жыл бұрын

It takes so much effort to do so little sometimes and the thought of that can be overwhelming in itself to people who already get overwhelmed easily by certain things. It's a downward spiral from there.

@thehow2chick523

3 жыл бұрын

Me too. I definitely cried at that part.

@yousifallous

3 жыл бұрын

I did too, really hard.

@Phagocytosis

3 жыл бұрын

For me it was the part after that, about becoming tired of trying, that spoke to me. I never particularly feel like I'm working very hard, because I'm pretty sure I don't. But trying and failing to work hard becomes really demotivating, and it becomes really easy to give in and stop trying altogether. At least for me. (But I'm not sure if I have ADHD yet.)

@firepatriot42

3 жыл бұрын

Same here.

"i was tired of trying harder at life than everybody else and still falling farther and farther behind" is THE most relatable ADHD quote of all time

I'm crying. Someone thousands of miles away understands me better than everyone I've met in my entire life. ❤from 🇮🇳

@purvikatara8593

7 ай бұрын

I do feel that I've ADHD but I don't think I can ask for Help from ANYONE. No one will understand me. I've seen lot of videos on this topic but never seen any indian comment. You're the first one🫂💗

@mehulimishra3769

6 ай бұрын

from India as well

@sarthak1317

6 ай бұрын

we are all in this together

@perditabarman56

6 ай бұрын

From India ❤

@Lakshyam9

6 ай бұрын

Here from India 🇮🇳

only people with adhd will truly understand why shes crying so often. This was such an amazing video, thank you.

@newarkman2663

2 жыл бұрын

I struggled my whole life with this. Sometimes a gift, other times a curse. I self medicated. Not good. Some of my friends did not make it. To much to type, but she hit it on the head. Nail that is.

@dr.dermixgirlmd7479

2 жыл бұрын

Real talk. I’m blubbering now. Today was a hard day. The struggle is so real.

@mapt1230

2 жыл бұрын

😔 Bless her soul for sharing this...

@hiropon2985

2 жыл бұрын

been crying this whole time owww

@audreyking3466

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed. I'm fairly sure I cried more than she did.

"we don’t think outside the box, we are not even aware there is a box" - that’s my favorite part ever!

@nerdgeekcosplay909

3 жыл бұрын

That’s me ! What box ? There’s no box

@lotus8377

3 жыл бұрын

Lol what's a box?

@hckramer

3 жыл бұрын

Same here. We have superpowers!!! 😝 Use it wisely! 🙏🏻

@courtneylougheedm.a.8752

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!!! There's a box??? This video was everything. Loved this quote from it! ❤

@morbidlymeg7393

3 жыл бұрын

Was mine too 💕

Thank you for this. No one believed me when I finally voiced my suspicion that I had ADHD because I seemed like I had my life together. I was a "gifted" kid (I understood abstract maths concepts but I couldn't do basic arithmetic and never learned my times tables). I wasn't disruptive or hyper, I was shy and awkward (unless someone was interested in my interests, then I could talk forever). But I couldn't listen properly, I would daydream constantly about worlds in books and movies and games. As I got older the careless mistakes and inability to finish my assigned books started to cost me my grades. I am neat and organised from the outside (because if I'm not it all goes to chaos). I'm never late anymore (because I overcompensate). But inside my brain it feels like I'm constantly trying to carry around a kilogram of marbles with my bare hands, and they're dropping and rolling under things. And occasionally I spot one very pretty marble which mesmerises me and I focus on it for hours, forgetting about trying to carry all the others. This is the best way I can describe it for me.

@The_Real_Mier

10 ай бұрын

Love your description!!! Very recognizable! Thanks! ❤

@adrianahlz1895

6 ай бұрын

Are you me? XD

@Mochi-re8cv

5 ай бұрын

😭🌺

@nadyakanarieva5973

5 ай бұрын

My therapist doesn't even believe me, because apparently I wouldn't have had good grades if I had adhd... It's so hurtful to be dismissed.

@Mochi-re8cv

5 ай бұрын

@@nadyakanarieva5973 True

I love how emotional she is and doesn't mind showing it on stage.

@magnetmountain33

6 ай бұрын

Trust me, she’d probably rather not, but you don’t get a choice

@efong28

2 күн бұрын

The amount of times that I apologize for my tears in public....and still do because I feel responsible for making ppl uncomfortable

Wow so we all just down here cryin together huh

@einheinzz2380

2 жыл бұрын

+!

@litty6640

2 жыл бұрын

omg andrew ily and yes im bawling

@kikiceili3956

2 жыл бұрын

It's such a cathartic feeling to bust out laughing through tears and that's exactly what this made me do 😂

@carissamariefalanga6180

2 жыл бұрын

Yup we sure are

@danatekhlay6304

2 жыл бұрын

i re watch this when i feel like theres no hope for me , im in tears rn

Does anyone else with ADHD feel like it's hard to manage school because you have so much interest and passion with so many other things to the point where you're completely obsessed and you can't do both at once.

@skeleluna04

3 жыл бұрын

oh. you are me

@theamericanforester

3 жыл бұрын

Ha, et tu, Brutus?

@emmanuelwachira8356

3 жыл бұрын

ever since i was in my primary levels,i indeed topped in my class all the way until i was a few years to completing my Secondary level. I sat for my exams and indeed failed drastically. Long story short, i gave up careers involving academics and found life in Acting.

@zeraeda5163

3 жыл бұрын

THIS IS ME

@jessicanewton1835

3 жыл бұрын

I have one more year in my master's program and this has been the hardest thing I've ever done - not because it's been hard, but because I've been exposed to so many other things that I want to know, learn about, immerse myself in. This one thought, leads to another thought, that sees something interesting that I want to know more about and BAM - I'm 4 miles into a rabbit hole and don't know how to get out, and to be completely honest, not sure I want to.. I'm so thirsty for knowledge about everything - but can't retain a fraction of it. Any other Tribe members have problems with run-on sentences??

"It's brains that are chronically under aroused trying to get the basic level of stimulation all brains need." Writing this one down. This hits me hard...very hard.

At 58 I learned I have ADHD. I have wrecked every relationship, every chance at a holding a mentor, every good job, every sport I’ve tried, every instrument I’ve started to learn, every half book (and there are tons of them) I’ve read, and every friendship I’ve ever had. Currently I have two part time jobs, no retirement, no friends, and an MA in English. This is my life with ADHD. But maybe today it will begin to turn around. It’s all I have.

@mrsirbubblegum726

6 ай бұрын

All here with you ❤️

@lenabellamy1262

2 ай бұрын

Just diagnosed at 50. Starting from zero but still starting.❤

@juliesanders9353

Ай бұрын

You didn't wreck anything - you just didn't understand why your brain and nervous system were doing the things they did. Hold yourself with love and compassion, the same way a loving parent holds a child. You are not alone ❤

@cassandra9699

19 күн бұрын

The good news is that most people are so self involved that they won't remember anything you did anyway. Namaste.

I really have to finish my paper instead of marathon watching ADHD videos.

@dailymarit9890

2 жыл бұрын

Got the same problem here, heh😅

@jackatomizer196

2 жыл бұрын

@@dailymarit9890 same problem here as well, lmao

@andersonrodriguessantiago3887

2 жыл бұрын

same happening in south america, we are all alike around the world

@koustubh567

2 жыл бұрын

lmao me too, lets get this

@playgeunm6572

2 жыл бұрын

Feeling same. I just don't do school anymore

Shout out to all the gifted ADHDers that everyone thinks are so put to together, yet feel like they are falling apart. You are not alone.

@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823

3 жыл бұрын

No, I'm definitely falling apart. Lol. My workspace looks like an Office Depot puked everywhere every semester, the whole time. Then I got religious about hole punching and putting important stuff away RIGHT NOW. Hole punch ALWAYS goes here. Keys ALWAYS on the hook. So on... My socklets still wind up in my shoes half the time, and I'm late even if it's a block away. I try to leave 20 minutes before I have to.

@priscillllla110

3 жыл бұрын

@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 same... it’s so hard

@stetson_newsie2600

3 жыл бұрын

@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 THE KEY HOOK IS EVERYTHING.

@malebosephodi6299

3 жыл бұрын

really hard

@stetson_newsie2600

3 жыл бұрын

@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 I want you to know that every time I read your comment, I first think, "She fixed ADHD with Jesus?" then, "Why is she punching holes in walls????" before it clicks.

"You're not a failed version of normal" hit me so hard ❤

By the end of this talk I literally just burst into tears. To hear that you´re not alone and that your not broken or wrong or weak, just a bit different.. felt like a big warm hug.

Everyone who has adhd knows the pain that’s in her voice when she’s crying. It can be so hard to articulate the impact adhd has on us to the people in our lives, but Jessica does this brilliantly!

@shgds

4 жыл бұрын

I banna be bracer

@capraali5331

4 жыл бұрын

@@shgds I wanna be Tracer

@shgds

4 жыл бұрын

@@capraali5331 tracer be wanna i

@capraali5331

4 жыл бұрын

@@shgds recarT eB annaW I

@zhranima

4 жыл бұрын

I almost cried! I thought, finally there is someone truly knows & feels what I feel & struggle with, I always feel that I work harder than others, and I get less than others, they have better attention, memory, social life, I couldn’t stop daydreaming about what my life would look like if I have strong attention & memory. However, I’ve learnt that there is hope, There is a way out of this.

“But I was smart so nobody was worried” hits close to home Edit: It's Jan 2022 and I've finally got my diagnosis tomorrow, this was the first video of many that have led to where I am in my ADHD journey. I wish everyone luck with their own journeys too.

@rozelleclary1592

2 жыл бұрын

I felt seen.

@-8_8-

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so smart I was hit close to home... For not trying harder.

@sattice

2 жыл бұрын

@@rozelleclary1592 Yes! I was in AP courses and aced every classs. They called me gifted. A lot of good that did me when I went out into the real world. I fail at everything. Just got diagnosed this year-and I'm in my 40s. Ugh

@KKISCRAZYFUL

2 жыл бұрын

In middle school I asked to be tested for ADHD and other learning disabilities and they literally said I didn't need to be tested because I scored so well on standardized tests. I wasn't diagnosised until I was 18. It broke my heart I couldn't have gotten help sooner.

@michellel1383

2 жыл бұрын

@@KKISCRAZYFUL I had to fight with my daughter's school to get her tested. It's infuriating to be declined testing and help when you're asking for it, but kudos to you for asking for it. Never stop demanding what you need.

I could remember several years ago, I suffered severe depression and mental disorder after losing my husband. These brought me into my disastrous journey with Alcohol and cigarettes. Alcohol and cigarettes addiction actually destroyed my life. I got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

@BrownGeorge-pw2xo

Ай бұрын

No doubts shrooms are 100% blessings from nature. Indeed nature's little miracles

@Bastianbishops

Ай бұрын

Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.

@SusanaGomez-mp8sk

Ай бұрын

YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@Malikrooney-hq5jj

Ай бұрын

I'm really happy for you that your mom decided to help you...I hear about alot of family members or so called friends shutting an addict out of their life, which since most addicts do it to mask emotions to me is the worse thing someone can do to an addict.

@JohnDavis-zr8gf

Ай бұрын

How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

When I realized I had ADHD the first thing my parents said to me was “no you don’t. You had good grades in school!” They didn’t see how much I struggled to keep up. How my ADHD kept me from graduating with honours, attending my graduation ceremony, keeping me from getting into better schools because of my inability to remember dance moves, among others. I’m still learning new things about my brain, and I just started on medication a month ago. ❤

@rebitukutiber

Жыл бұрын

Keep moving forward!

@rebitukutiber

Жыл бұрын

You got this

@MultiJoe84

Жыл бұрын

Why would it prevent you from attending your graduation ceremony?

@soirema

11 ай бұрын

Omg same :c they never see how much it takes

@rennakamura4889

9 ай бұрын

​@@MultiJoe84Becuase it's an embarrassment that you, the supposed lazy genius in school who can solve any problem, can't even bag the highest honors list, let alone honors because you couldn't be damned doing boring requirements. I'm trying. But my brain CAN'T.

When she said "you are not a failed version of normal" I started crying, I've never felt so seen before

@dsakurai

3 жыл бұрын

I hear you. I've given up a few times before but when I finally got my official diagnosis and was put on meds, it's as if my brain is mine again. I can focus on what I want WHEN I want rather than being ping ponged by every single stimulus around me.

@angieward4733

3 жыл бұрын

me too! been struggling alot feeling crazy and dealing with this for so long I tried medication ut it never helped! first time I feel like I can relato to somebody.

@aidasjournal

3 жыл бұрын

Same here, crying now!! Ida, Norway

@nolaughinglolmeaniematheny

3 жыл бұрын

I cried at that part to. It was like she could see straight through me in that moment.

@Kutsushita_yukino

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr i was like how did u know 0_0

This comment section feels like family

@muskbakeshindi

4 жыл бұрын

A family i always wanted*(i grew up in an abusive one)

@jamesblankenship3077

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@lordmegatronthefifhtlordme3527

4 жыл бұрын

True!

@TequilaSunsett

4 жыл бұрын

Same, it feels so good, to see that we aren't the only ones going through this. It feels good to be understood.

@babyboy1971

4 жыл бұрын

It is.

I'm not going to lie, when she said "welcome to the tribe," I teared up and felt more at peace with who I am. I've been battling with this for years, thinking I wasn't working hard enough, and BAM! I can use this "defect" as a superpower!

Got fired from my dream job today because I had been struggling to meet their time expectations for finishing tasks. I’m pretty sure I have severe ADHD. Definitely heartbreaking but this video gives me hope. Thank you❤️

@hugoa.velasquez3407

25 күн бұрын

This. When I got fired from my dream job last December, I reflected on my entire life. Diagnosed before 10, at 34 I learned I would never make honors - no matter how hard I tried. I had a conversation with my dad letting him know I gave it my all - that's all I could do.

When she mentioned trying so hard to do something like getting up from video games and starting a project, I started crying. It is just so exhausting to try to do something and you really want to do it, but you just can’t. I feel like I’m screaming at my body to move, but I’m trapped behind a big glass bowl, like a fish. I can see everything that is going on, but I can’t make any desicions. I am just so tired of trying to trick my brain for everything I have to do.

@RDiana63

3 жыл бұрын

So true and then this kicks in the “failure and lazy” thoughts but deep down you know that nether is true because you are better than your actions.

@maddiwiser7167

3 жыл бұрын

Yep, I hoped stimulants would help with that but they only help me focus once I've STARTED something. Starting is still hard af. I find I do a bit better if I start first thing in the morning.

@sleepydwarf_spamqueen4107

3 жыл бұрын

The only way for me to get started on something is if told to do it but then I struggle to FINISH it.

@kevinroyceho

3 жыл бұрын

OH MY GOD YES, literally screaming wtf are you doing? and you're still there hyper-focusing on something

@thekekwguy5722

3 жыл бұрын

I don’t have adhd but when i played alot of rocket league a bit ago i knew i had projects behind and i knew that i was just gonna keep losing in the game but i kept playing and i felt like i was trapped, like I probably don’t have it to even near the same extent but i hate that feeling where it feels like should be able to do something but can’t.

38 year old "tough guy" here... Just cried with happiness, feeling like I was accepted into a community through a fuckin smart phone. Shout out to my fellow Tribesmen! 😁

@sirblankenship

4 жыл бұрын

Crying with happines is tough man, hardly ever see anyone do it :)

@shauncoulter267

4 жыл бұрын

I just had the exact same reaction.... not sure where to go to from here tho

@marysunderland4314

3 жыл бұрын

@Loudaddy2001 You know all the times you felt left out from the neuro-typical world because you are neuro-atypical? That's how I feel when you say tribesmen instead of tribespeople. It's all about understanding... And welcome to the tribe Loudaddy!!

@kvingle

3 жыл бұрын

same here...

@Julz437

3 жыл бұрын

24 years old and what I can say is "we're all in this together"...

I am 26 years old and just now dealing with the possibility that I may have ADHD. I found "How To ADHD" 4 days ago through nerdfighteria. My emotions built as I was watching this but I was still so taken aback at my reaction at the end. I paused washing my dishes as you said "If you have ADHD..." and just burst into tears at "Welcome to the tribe", only to turn around and see you crying too. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

I have ADHD, hence i'm here distracted from the existing work i'm doing and trying to learn about myself and behavioural patterns i possess. It's actually good to know that this is a serious issue and not just about willpower or any self motivational quotient that parents tend to lecture the most about. Glad to have come across this video recommendation. Good job you beautiful super woman, you've not only gathered strength for yourself but given us too.

@digispace1

5 ай бұрын

I agree with you. When I first put it together, only knowing of my HSP, I felt like I ran full force into a brick wall. I was already overwhelmed, over-emotional and getting anxious. Now, all of a sudden I had the stigma of a "diagnosis" looming in front of me. Great- ANOTHER thing to have to research and learn about. That gave me anxiety. Then, in order to make the anxiety go away, I tried to figure out the exact trigger. More anxiety. I gave up on researching anything to do with any of it. I decided that if I did or didn't have it, fine. I could still use the tools and they would either help or not help. I have come to embrace it because it explains so much of what I felt was "wrong" with me. I am even more relieved to know other gifted people have it. On top of already partially rejecting it in the beginning, when I did accept it, everyone else rejected it. I felt like they were rejecting me. It made me feel like they don't give me credit for being smart enough to be able to see patterns of things that I am dealing with and like they think I am crazy to suggest it. So, I already felt inadequate, already reluctant to acknowledge, and then told it can't be that because I am not hyper. I have since just not mentioned it and resolved that they don't know enough about it and moved on with using hacks, tips and information.

Most miserable thing about all of "this", is finding sudden ambition and then losing it just as quickly, and then thinking about it before trying to sleep, except the ambition kind of turns into, "WTF am I going to do?", and then sleep suddenly becomes an unaffordable luxury.

@deprofundis3293

2 жыл бұрын

This

@roxannesmith4519

2 жыл бұрын

All the dopamine disappears and you get stuck! I’ve just stopped trying anything new to avoid the WTF stage and then feelings of intense failure and self hatred for not being neurotypical

@musafirkoul

2 жыл бұрын

Same brother... I am unable to stick to goals

@kahyangni6808

2 жыл бұрын

The shame of not being able to just do things everyone else can do

@marsmagius

2 жыл бұрын

What I'm experiencing at this very moment!

One of the worst things ADHD sufferers hear is "if you really cared, you would have done a better job." This is terribly inaccurate. Some kids (including me) are still recovering from this trauma Edit: glad to hear so many of you can relate. And yeah, what's worse is when we internalize this so much that we start to hear it from ourselves 😔

@adamgw187

4 жыл бұрын

Oh god, my OH says this to me so often and gets so upset that "I don't care". It's a double whammy of knowing I've done something to hurt her, and that she thinks I've done it deliberately and maliciously when I haven't.

@brypackstondotcom

4 жыл бұрын

the worst part is when we hear it from ourselves even though we know better.

@kartikpanwar7127

4 жыл бұрын

Well this is terrible cuz i say this to myself i always thought if i had tried i could have done better but guess i was wrong.

@80greaty

4 жыл бұрын

@@kartikpanwar7127 maybe it IS possible that you could've done better, but it's not because you just don't care - because you often DO care and regret every single slip-up

@brypackstondotcom

4 жыл бұрын

kartik Panwar people with adhd always have the potential to do better, just like anyone else. it just isn’t always as simple as “trying harder.” sometimes “doing better” with adhd means seeking treatment, if that’s possible for you. we can do everything everyone else can; we just have more obstacles, and it’s ok if we can’t always overcome them.

"we not only think outside box.we are often aware there is a box" perfect line

She has no idea that her tears just warmed the hearts of everyone in that room, and I am convinced at least one person discovered they also had ADHD and now have a better life because of this talk.

there is a HUGE GAP in women being diagnosed with adhd as well. also i want to just hug this entire comment section.

@PollyBunch

4 жыл бұрын

Elise Kathleen yes! Got diagnosed at 26. Still trying to figure out how to function

@yulyruiz2282

4 жыл бұрын

So much true! I was diagnosed with ADHD at 8 years old when I was in elementary, and it is a real struggle.

@arisd.7912

4 жыл бұрын

Amen sister!!

@YaGotdamBoi

4 жыл бұрын

Elise Kathleen same! 💜💜💜

@elizabethbennet4791

3 жыл бұрын

44 HERE.

When I say this woman changed my life, I'm NOT joking

@vocalsunleashed

2 жыл бұрын

Me neither! If it wasn't for her KZread channel I would still be undiagnosed facing even more stigma and having to still fight a hoarding disorder diagnosis just because I struggle to keep my environment tidy and clean...

@timetravelvictim

2 жыл бұрын

She truly is a life saver. And I mean that. A LIFE SAVER. Be well, Monica!

@danpolk

2 жыл бұрын

Same. She articulated my life up to 40 something years old. I heal every day.

@SandraLovesRoses

2 жыл бұрын

That’s awesome. She’s doing the good work. Hope she sees this.

@vocalsunleashed

2 жыл бұрын

@@timetravelvictim agreed!

There went my mascara! My 28yr old son has ADHD and I'm just now beginning to understand his immense struggles. I feel like a horrible mother that I didn't try to do this sooner, but I didn't realize how much of a struggle everything was for him. I got him on meds in 4th grade and they changed his life, but there is so much more to it. It's Jessica who opened my eyes to just how much more, and how much they struggle. He's felt alone all his life and it's heartbreaking to watch. THANK YOU Jessica for bringing this out in the open for neurotypical people to understand. My son and I have always been close, but you have brought us even closer now that I "get it". Please keep doing what you're doing. You're wonderful at this! Bless you sweet girl!

@G.SaLut14

7 ай бұрын

Thank you Mam, your feeling is enough for your son

@G.SaLut14

7 ай бұрын

I'm Very Sure

@magnetmountain33

6 ай бұрын

Ur not my mum but I wish she had seen this ……….. we did try. I was diagnosed at 28 at the time I had lost 27 jobs broken up with my fiance and gone bankrupt to 25 grand in debt. I would have a lot more to face between then and my age now at 46, but I finally feel that I am getting somewhere I literally broke myself physically and psychologically trying to live up to the standards that would’ve made my family proud of me and my mum passed my extended family refuse to acknowledge either my ADHD or dyslexia and then stole things. My mum had been keeping from my my dad passed………. Mom left her £10,000 to help me with the Probate and they took the money and walked away and left me completely traumatised! I hope to God that no one else has to go through what I went through from the age of 7 to the age of 45 ……… Please to anyone reading this, who has someone in their family suffering with ADHD take the time to look into what they’re going through please !

I am also crying, I still am not sure if I ever will have a "normal" life 😢

“Putting more effort into life than anyone else, yet falling further and further behind” Story of my life.

@azlailyabidin8951

Жыл бұрын

having a son diagnosed with ADHD at 4 years old, I realized all my struggles in live are because I too have it.

@ohmylauren

Жыл бұрын

That quote resonated with me so hard.

@yoongitrash2699

Жыл бұрын

Yeah it's madening that I can work so hard, but if I let something slip once I get not forgiveness

@Gaburierairuze

Жыл бұрын

That brought some tears out ngl

@clarewillison9379

Жыл бұрын

That one hid me hard as well. 💝💐

Anybody else just watching this and crying because after all that time there‘s someone who speaks out loud what you tried to tell people for years?

@matthewrammig

3 жыл бұрын

Me!!

@moonhajung6742

3 жыл бұрын

I cried the first time. Cry again now. This is one of my most favorite videos on the internet and I constantly coming here for... well... for too many reasons....... :")))

@thear1s

3 жыл бұрын

I'm not an emotional person. I remember crying in public 3 times in the last 4-5 years: when I was at a funeral and thought it could be my father. When it was my father. When I discussed with a close friend and told him my frustration of not being able to get anything done and stagnating in my career despite everyone thinking I was so smart. I'm feeling myself in the same kind of dead end Jessica was feeling in before she "got" it and it really resonates within me. If you read this, thanks Jessica for sharing your story.

@mymusicallways

2 жыл бұрын

Me. This hit me so hard, I cried but of happiness that someone explained this.

@TheActualEnder

2 жыл бұрын

Thank god some people are damn amazing...

She displays a symptom of adhd ,not being able to control her emotions. Thank you I appreciate you 🙏 Mrs. McCabe

"I can be me and still be successful" that hurt. Thanks

I try to explain A.D.H.D. like this, "It's like having a Ferrari for a brain and not knowing how to drive a stick-shift". You know you have a lot of potential but don't know how to tap into it.

@LostieTrekieTechie

5 жыл бұрын

I've been called "clever but lazy" by countless teachers. Having the "potential" but not filling it and coming off as lazy/uninterested... It's painful

@jayalexander6798

5 жыл бұрын

Martin Chavez YES!!!!!!! Exactly this!!!

@eleazarmoraru6532

5 жыл бұрын

Start by putting the clip on 2x speed

@karissadavis5572

5 жыл бұрын

YES!! Exactly! I always try to explain it like, It’s like knowing how intelligent you are, but not being able to prove it.” But I like the Ferrari analogy even better. Thank you!

@jordanlandrum624

5 жыл бұрын

@MartinChavez would you mind if I use your brilliant analogy in one of my screenplays. Thanks

"I was tired of putting more effort into life and falling further and further behind" I want to frame that on my wall

@alexdavis7064

5 жыл бұрын

I think I will

@JamesMillerh

5 жыл бұрын

Me too!

@lauramainiero131

4 жыл бұрын

Yessss me too!

@julius43461

4 жыл бұрын

Don't forget to add "than everyone else" because that is the key part of the sentence.

@ilTHfeaa

4 жыл бұрын

odonnelln same af

The end is making me tear up 🥲 I’m 20 and I just recently realized I probably have undiagnosed ADHD, and the more i’m learning about it, the more validated I feel. I have been like this my ENTIRE life and never thought once about possibly having it until now. I come from an immigrant family that doesn’t believe much in mental health, so I never got diagnosed as a kid for anything. If I’m anxious (i’m sure I have undiagnosed GAD too), they tell me to “just get over it, you’re fine.” If I procrastinate or i’m depressed and it keeps me from doing tasks, I get called lazy. I love my family, however they’re not aware of how much mental health affects people. They kind of have the mindset that people keep themselves a certain way and that they just “don’t want to change it,” as if someone can control their ADHD, anxiety, depression, etc. So they know it’s real and stuff, but they don’t really believe in how serious it is. I scheduled an appointment with a psychologist this week so that they can refer me to psychiatry and to get diagnosed. Although I don’t have an official diagnosis, I’m about 99% sure i have it, or at least one other mental disorder. I feel so relieved that i’m not crazy and that there’s other people like me. I always thought I was lazy and would never amount to anything bc of my procrastination and lack of focus, however if ADHD is my problem and it’s treatable, I can find a way to get through it. Thank you for this ❤

@andersjohansson6118

7 ай бұрын

Don't rule out comorbity. I was initially diagnosed with OCD. It wasn't until after a while my psychiatrist had me run through a diagnostic screening that I had ADHD too. Understanding the challenges with both helped me see that the two could lead into a circular pattern. The OCD would try to address the distractedness of ADHD. Together with medication and a cognitive understanding (and a supportive wife) it is easier. For me it was getting over the hesitation to medicate. After reading the book Blue Genes, I came away with a completely different perspective. Don't stop learning and embrace what adhd has to offer. The hyperfocus is real and some great things come from it.

@digispace1

5 ай бұрын

I hope everything turned out in the best way, whatever that may be. You are definitely not alone. Blessings and prayers for you. 💗🙏

@madameee4274

5 ай бұрын

@@mdsdavid this is what I'm going through right now. I've been seeing my therapist from my university's Counseling and Psychological Services for the past couple of months, and we have been talking about the usual, in addition to the possibility of me having ADHD. She also got diagnosed very recently, about a year ago, and she's in her 30s, so she could recognize and sympathize with a lot that I was struggling with being undiagnosed and unsure. About 2 weeks ago, she gave me a screening for ADHD that had 3 tests to determine whether it is worth it to pay for the actual exam or not, and it would be graded by her and the department for counseling services at my school. I just got my results back this past Tuesday. She told me that it is very likely/it seems like I have combined-type ADHD, however she cannot formally diagnose me, so it's highly recommended to go take the test. I asked if she was sure (because after hearing it, now I was unsure if i actually had it, and I felt like i was some sort of imposter and didnt have ADHD), and she responded that my results were too strong/severe to be anything but. And that based on my responses that my anxiety could also be a result of it. Instead of feeling relieved like i thought i would, i started crying. She had been talking to me about treatment options and how to manage it and it was just very unexpectedly overwhelming. I dont know why i started crying but i did (this is not a frequent occurance). After the call, I was having doubts that i actually had it since it wasnt the official diagnosis (even though she basically said i probably have it based on my responses and our interactions), but the past 2 days since, I had fallen into a depression and did not attend classes except for 1 quiz and an exam. I never cry often, but i'd cried at least once a day for the past 3 days. I was (and still slightly am) doubting that I have ADHD, and have been wondering if i really am just lazy or if im just depressed or crazy. I would not blame this all on the semi-diagnosis, but i have been overwhelmed with so much money issues, classes, exams, homework, other extracurriculars/university responsibilities, and work lately, that the combinations of those and the validation that i may actually have ADHD just made me lose it and i could not motivate myself to do anything for a few days. I am still in denial and dont know what to do. Today has been better, but lately i have just been feeling a bit empty, stressed, and sad. I cannot get tested soon due to my family having to update our insurance, so i dont know how i will manage through finals and the beginning of the new spring semester in january without a diagnosis. Maybe i'd cried and have been shocked (even though i had been expecting it) because i finally found out what's been keeping me from success for so long. And that i went this long undiagnosed, struggling without any help or reasoning for my struggles. Sorry i wrote a whole essay to your simple reply, i just have been slightly losing it the past few days since hearing the "it looks like you have ADHD" and having so many responsibilities. But yes, definitely a lot of emotions with being undiagnosed.

@madameee4274

5 ай бұрын

@@digispace1 Thank you

I'm 40 and I knew, more or less, that I had ADHD. I literally started crying uncontrollably because of a video that understands me right now.

If a person can feel this frustrated and down on themselves WITH an early diagnosis, imagine how those who HAVEN'T been diagnosed feel!

@jaybeedub

Жыл бұрын

This is one of the biggest things I've struggled with. I feel looking back like my life was a bunch of flashing lights and alarm bells that somebody! anybody! somewhere along the line should have said something. I even recently had a friend tell me that she thought I knew I had ADHD already.

@shaunrussell4558

Жыл бұрын

I completely @James Harris! And @K L Mac… I just figured this out on my own!! And only about a year ago! I spent 44years not knowing why everything was SO much harder for me!?! I struggle with the inattentive type, luckily my sister who struggles with the hyperactivity type has helped me understand things that can help! Like timers on my phone, and listening to something funny like a podcast while doing tasks I don’t wanna do! But, I’ve found it hard to find access to a psychiatrist to get my ADHD diagnosed! I don’t know if medication would be right for me? Anyways… I completely understand!! I’m slowly finding ways to help myself, mainly motivate towards change! Thanks for listening🙏🏻best of luck to you both!!!

@jaybeedub

Жыл бұрын

@@shaunrussell4558 I was fortunate enough to at least have some health benefit coverage to get it assessed privately. The waitlists even privately are long. Publicly in Ontario, Canada it can be a year plus just to start the process. My psychologist who did the assessment mentioned that there has been an uptick of people seeking assessments after the pandemic. Turns out removing all structure and freewheeling it working from home hasn't been a good fit for everyone. I felt I coped really well having worked from home before, so in some ways I already had structure.

@whitenugget3750

Жыл бұрын

I'm literally getting medication for mine tommorrow I'm so excited Anxiety medication has never helped

@Wade_143

Жыл бұрын

Only until this year at almost 30 year's old 🥲

I started crying everytime she started crying because the entire time I felt like that was me up there.

@alexdavis7064

5 жыл бұрын

me too. I couldn't stop crying this whole video. I am so grateful for Jessica

@be-bt7kz

5 жыл бұрын

I was the same

@ariaaria6104

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah! Me too .. I started crying as soon as she said she couldn't make it to USC. The same thing is happening with me.

@hazzler

4 жыл бұрын

Me to 😭

@brianjankowski4419

4 жыл бұрын

Same here. I felt this hard. So glad I came across her Channel.

I'm writing this just to express my emotions. I'm 26 and was just diagnosed with ADHD and right now, I'm at the lowest point I've ever been. I feel so lost in my life and it feels as if there's nothing I can do. But this video has shown me that there's others out there who struggles with everyday life and they found ways to get out the darkness and find hope. These past 26 years has really messed up my mental and I'm struggling to change. I'm trying to discover myself and learn to walk MY path. I WANT TO LIVE! (Nico Robin)

It took me 40 years to realize why I really was different 😢😢.. All those years of humiliation and negative self talk almost destroyed me. Embarking on a new journey, new destinations , experiences and sharing . Wishing everyone in this tribe success to find who they are and why they are 🤟

@smoochinvideo

4 ай бұрын

Did you get diagnosed officially? I feel like I have to...

@tomriddle8181

4 ай бұрын

@@smoochinvideo yep .. met with a specialist after consulting my primary doctor

@smoochinvideo

4 ай бұрын

@@tomriddle8181 thank you. I'm about to turn 40, guess it's time to find out for me as well... Good luck with your new journey! :)

I can relate to that "putting more effort than everyone" and crying.

@tiredofit1968

4 жыл бұрын

Me too. I am a first year teacher(51 y/o), got diagnosed three years ago and since then I learned how to do central heating and air, plumbing, electrical and graduated with straight A's in an accelerated master's program taking over 21 hours a semester, managing a mobile home park , two sets of apartments, and raising a six year old by myself. Accomplishments for my lifetime that I wasted for 40 plus years...but I still work 16 hours a day as a teacher and feel like I'm drowning...thank God people with ADHD work great under pressure and with three hours of sleep a night.

@W-meme

4 жыл бұрын

@@tiredofit1968 I used to work really hard(at some point in time), but most of it was out of being mentally ill, now I can't really do that, you're a legend.

@danlakshmigowda2275

4 жыл бұрын

Tired of it Un b. Vvcbb Ed pnnc. VJb hiii Bgggghhhjbb. BOGvjkobvgnnbbbbhu NV p on NV lovenmnho

@oeu3669

4 жыл бұрын

Self Development I felt this so SO MUCH!!!

@ashleyarias7444

4 жыл бұрын

@Tiredofit You sound exactly like me. I’m finishing my 1st year of teaching after an accelerated masters program. I’m turning 40. I am afraid to be too public about it but I know most of the reasons they don’t want me back for next school year are classic ADHD brain things. I moved to a new place where I knew nothing about the area and had no support. I have been stumbling through trying to get by without treatment or help for my ADHD. I was always the first in and last out each day and still couldn’t get everything done. I’m happy you’re here.

Playing video games for hours, while you are screaming at yourself in your head for not studying. Going to bed with an utter sense of failure. Getting the bare minimum done just before the last possible moment. And when you schedule, when you sit down, block out internet, consoles and people and you sit in front of your damn physics problems its such a slow crawl, that it feels like a giant waste of time and why did you even bother you dont get it anyway. And after 4 hours of feeling like you did nothing you get back to your games....

@vzero8612

3 жыл бұрын

That's just my life man I've failed in almost all class I can't even remember a paragraph even if I read it 10 mins ago

@reanneeames8396

3 жыл бұрын

the things that you get passionate about, show you how smart you are and how capable you can be. Which makes the stress and lower quality output of work for projects or work that you aren't getting the dopamine reception from, makes you feel so much worse about yourself when its really just a brain issue that we allow to perpetrate our ego and sense of self and not pursue things that we could be really great at in the future

@reanneeames8396

3 жыл бұрын

run on sentences, classic ADHD ^

@aelphind4954

3 жыл бұрын

@@vzero8612 fun fact when you have adhd the problem isnt that you cant remember it its that the information doesnt go into your brain

@grantwalter2243

3 жыл бұрын

It really sucks because without understanding the brain all of those things are true choices we think we make. Before I found out I thought I was just undisciplined. Took a David Goggins approach with school and fitness. Fitness was easy, school was haaarrrdd. Barely passed everything and only passed 1 AP test. I’m graduated now and the more I learn about ADHD my self esteem goes up (I took really advanced classes in high school and passed with untreated, AND unknowingly having ADHD) but my outlook for the future goes down. Sucks that this isn’t a discipline problem because discipline we can fix. Brain chemistry we can not.

35 and just diagnosed... i'm not a failure, i just work differently. ❤

I feel like a just woke up from a very confusing long sleep. After years of depression, fear of the world and its happenings, this makes sense. It just feels like it could be the thing I am dealing with since I was very, very little. There's no diagnosis or anything. But I feel like many people in the world might know the symptoms, but don't connect the dots. Good to know it's a spectrum. Wow..

Potential, potential wasted, feelings of failure... Shout-out to all the former "gifted kids" discovering that being smart isn't enough if you can't put in the work.

@emilyblanzy7426

4 жыл бұрын

that sums up adhd to the T

@IrisBonetPhoto

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly how i feel.. former gifted kid here that is currently 33 and wondering how i’m not where I should be in life. This made so much sense

@bleepinblob

4 жыл бұрын

We put in the work but nobody sees it

@nickyfrenchdoc

4 жыл бұрын

Your words feel like family....

@jadesfromjupiter7780

4 жыл бұрын

heyyy

“I didn’t have time for friends, I was that busy” That hits so close to home, hearing your story makes me feel heard that I have time.

Yesterday was my 35th Birthday, and finally i got the answer of all my life problems and why most of the time i cant focus and failed at the normal tasks which are boring or mandane, and why i always find a new way to the same thing to make it more interesting and why i procrastinate and delay my tasks, because even if i try harder, i cant even start. I always want perfectionism. I want to do everytask perfectly and multitask ruin all this. Everyone says you have huge potential and creativity and hyperfocus but the focus is not in my control and i always distracted by anything that is novel and attractive and enjoybale and i always wanted to play video games to feel good. i still far behind in my career and health. Im still single and no one understands why im how im.. so finally Im realizing that i Have ADHD, but i am happy that i just discover the reason behind all the mystery and now i will learn how to deal with ADHD and make myself more productive and utilize my full potential. thank you so much, Its Rizwan Javed from Pakistan.

Being a dude with adhd and tearing up with her and knowing how society would react to that is why it's so hard to get help

@allbunsglazing

2 жыл бұрын

40 year old guy here, blubbering like a toddler with a skinned knee. Just got diagnosed.

@twindaddy3360

2 жыл бұрын

You are not alone. ADHD and in my late 40's. this guy cried too!

@chrissagraves4864

2 жыл бұрын

47 year old man who was diagnosed and started medication in January. I’ve watched this a dozen times and cry every single time. People really don’t understand adhd, especially in adults, and you do feel alone and abnormal.

@Zack-jr1eu

2 жыл бұрын

30 year old dude with adhd. I feel ya brotha. Keep trying. You’ll fail here and there and you’ll succeed in other aspects. Celebrate the success and onto the next experience. Always keep trying. Much love, man.

@teknaw5711

2 жыл бұрын

20 and still haven’t been diagnosed because i can’t afford it, cried like i’ve never cried before about my mental health

That whole dopamine thing makes a lot of sense. Instead of doing homework i would shop instead or watch my favorite shows, not because i was lzy and would rather do that, i didnt want to i just couldnt focus on work and it would make me anxious and have panic attacks and so to calm myself and raise my dopamine i would do the things i love.

@larona2220

4 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness. This is literally me🥺

@jaydeo7850

3 жыл бұрын

That makes since why some of us also have depression

@nick.hl0344

3 жыл бұрын

Bruh literally what im doing rn with 4 weeks of overdue homework 😂

@u_h5

3 жыл бұрын

na talia sameeee! I’m struggling at my job right now. It’s Really hard for me to focus on my job even though it was just a small task. I will feel anxious and overwhelm. I always procrastinate and then I will feel more miserable

@Josh-bf6ht

3 жыл бұрын

I'm doing this with registering for uni, anxiety and adhd don't mix well smh

School really sets us people up for failure

I’m autistic and ADHD. This is such an amazing video. It’s so touching. No wonder why she is crying.

"Trying harder than anyone else and falling farther and farther behind" If that doesn't hit like brick 😕

@flyingumbreons

3 жыл бұрын

I here at that point again in my life. I ask myself, when will you get yourself together? 40? 50? I try and I feel like I'm juggling but I can't seem to keep all the balls in the air. Even when I just have 1 job to do, I manage to lose interest or get distracted.

@tamlinchamberlain8590

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. I’m constantly exhausted and nothing to show for it.

@jaystreit3777

3 жыл бұрын

This was the one that hit me as well. Its almost 1 am where I am and I am supposed to be doing my coding homework and in class assignments due at 8am that I have been putting off for 2 weeks. I know I can make it if I get in my zone, but the fact that I know that makes it less urgent and thus I don't do it cause that's my ADHD. The importance is 0% a factor. Urgency, interest, and challenge are what motivate me. this quote really made me feel that more than ever.

@user-bt3xy1jn2z

3 жыл бұрын

😭

@angelicasoto7877

3 жыл бұрын

@@jaystreit3777 i feel that as a STEM major also. Being adhd in university is really really hard. Nothing in this world is built for our brains. I work sooo hard just to be on the same level as most.

Wow, she's lucky she got diagnosed so early. Most girls don't get caught until they actually get to college age or later

@rebecca_stone

3 жыл бұрын

100% agree. I was diagnosed six weeks ago, at age 42. That's a lot of pieces of life to pick back up off the floor.

@alixysblackfyre9900

3 жыл бұрын

I got diagnosed as a presenting female in middle school? but my older brother was already diagnosed and my mom has had her suspicions about so many other people we're related to so it was mostly due to knowing that there's a history of adhd in my family

@kellyshelley1427

3 жыл бұрын

37 here...I wish I’d known sooner.

@jaceybella1267

3 жыл бұрын

@@kellyshelley1427 22 here, I know it's nothing compared to someone that went undiagnosed longer, but it sure is a lotta time feeling broken or like an alien

@MissWiltanya

3 жыл бұрын

Same. found out when I was 31. After failing in college 12+ years ago. I was also a gifted child

I'm 56 with ADHD, OCD and Tourettes. This gives me hope. Lately, it's been my ADHD that has been the issue. And I'm seeking help for it. Thank you. You go girl!

The thing I hate the most about having ADHD is every time I bring it up in a conversation people always look at me as if I am simply trying to make excuses. At work I don't struggle with it as much I chalk it up to being in a more motivational environment, but any time I'm alone I lose track of everything. Believe me I've had lazy days and for those I make no excuses, but having ADHD has been something that has been very difficult for me specifically when I'm trying to explain it to other people. I tried medication when I was a teenager and overall I didn't enjoy it very much, the only one I used was Vyvanse. I'm thinking of speaking to my doctor about medication options, but its tough. I hate the idea of feeling like I have to take a pill to "function"

@danwu8283

Ай бұрын

same I need constant external monitoring and pressure at work, if I'm alone I'm falling apart and I used to hate myself for that, so much shame. Now understanding that it's just a default setup, I feel less guilty about that. Actually feels less guilty about many things

@efong28

2 күн бұрын

I'm recently diagnosed and started on medication. I also don't like taking meds. Almost feel like I'm cheating since Hollywood in the past made it sound like students take unprescribed meds to get good grades. I felt proud that I was able to get good grades because I worked really hard on it. And I learnt all the concepts myself between 10 pm and 1 am. Spacing out in school was terrible. Constantly on survival mode. I continue with these hyperactive habits working in a busy health care system. I was so drained because I used so much of my CBT strategies at work. I fall asleep driving home. The meds made a huge difference. Making decisions at work and using CBT strategies are so much easier ; I'm not tired anymore. Don't feel like I would randomly die in a car accident and leave kids momless. It's worth the try. I hope you got a chance to look into it again

It’s so insane to hear someone explain ADHD so perfectly to me when I’m always the one trying to explain it to everyone around me. I feel like I can hyper focus… problem is I can’t control what I hyper focus on…. 100% getting diagnosed after this video!

@weakorgeek5620

2 жыл бұрын

Potato Jet is the last person I would expect to comment on this but I am so happy he did :) Love your content!

@sharathnaik6390

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for suggesting this really it helped me.

@NatesEscape

2 жыл бұрын

I've always kind of felt like I have ADHD just never been diagnosed, I'm terrible at keeping to one task but at the same time won't stop when it comes to things that aren't urgent etc... I can get so distracted by something on the way to do whatever I was meant to be doing and I'll lose track of time so quickly I'm always writing to do lists as it's the only way I can remember to do anything cause I get so distracted all the time. I think I will see someone to see if I have it, long time follower of your channel ❤️

@bradpaulp

2 жыл бұрын

Hey man thanks for sharing this Ted talk in your vlog. It is insane how accurate these things are. Really hit me. Thank you so much.

@BestAudiovisualTricks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you brother for recommending this video on your channel. You could possibly would save my career. God bless you man! ❤

“We not only think outside of the box, we often don’t know where the box is” - made my day. Thanks.

@artoflife1835

2 жыл бұрын

😂

@hevesat1920

2 жыл бұрын

Laughed so hard to this 😂

@diamondflaw

2 жыл бұрын

It's probably full of unopened mail somewhere.

@minhazulislam9131

2 жыл бұрын

@@diamondflaw indeed 😅

@davidhornbeck1470

2 жыл бұрын

Perfect analogy

Wow! One of the most powerful TED talks ever. ❤

I’m watching this video with tears in my eyes. My daughter who is 9 just got diagnosed with ADHD this week. I felt momma guilt for all those moments where I couldn’t understand her. You have no idea how much your Ted talk has helped me understand and see how gifted my daughter is. Thank you for being an advocate, for having a voice to spread out the importance of understanding people with ADHD.

@thestu7066

9 ай бұрын

Please look at the link between Gluten & adhd, she may get some relief if you help her with a gluten free diet - look it up!

@unnotabelle

9 ай бұрын

Hey, I'm a girl who only got her ADHD diagnosis at 21, and let's just say it's cleared a lot of things up for my family. I just want you to know that you cannot blame yourself - it's natural to feel guilt and dwell on the 'what-ifs', but your daughter has a mother who clearly loves her and wants to understand her, and that, above all, is what every ADHD child wants and needs (well, that and usually medication). You're doing the best you can with the information you have, and trust me, your daughter is going to be eternally grateful for it. I know I am towards mine.

@rosaremigioleal

9 ай бұрын

@@unnotabelle Thank you for the encouragement, I truly appreciated!

@rosaremigioleal

9 ай бұрын

@@thestu7066 I will thank you!

The sentence I hate the most is “I can do it so can you” no I can’t I have adhd

@longlongtran

3 жыл бұрын

"can't means wont try"

@Melissa-zr6zw

3 жыл бұрын

Kleingirl I can’t tell if you’re agreeing or rebutting OP-based on your comment being a rebuttal, is it that Deaf people just /don’t try/ to hear?

@hannahherrmann4921

3 жыл бұрын

@@Melissa-zr6zw they agree. They're sarcastically quoting *I swear* the most common response to that.

@hannahherrmann4921

3 жыл бұрын

It's even worse when you can do things some people can't, and everybody's fine with that, but as soon as you can't do one single thing, they want to know why or don't believe you.

@TT-fv5ro

3 жыл бұрын

Melissa looks like we got a reddit boi here, take him away

I hate how my brain remembers things from a long time ago but has horrible short term memory

@Orchidlettux

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! You just described what I’m experiencing right now, it’s good to know that I’m not the only one :’)

@BlessedGJ

3 жыл бұрын

Amen to that! Or how about remembering lyrics to endless amount of songs but forgetting where you put the phone. 😁

@liaslife2726

3 жыл бұрын

@@BlessedGJ yesss

@Kaiwoladan

3 жыл бұрын

@@BlessedGJ I found my phone in the refrigerator once after an hour of searching... I don't remember even using the fridge at the time?

@Ryosuke1208

3 жыл бұрын

Funny I can recall vocabulary in a foreign language that I learned months ago, but not where my keys are 5 seconds ago.

Still underestimated, still a lot of suffering. Jessica is a brave young woman, thank you Jessica

I cried watching it too. Diagnosed at the age of 44. Scared to death of failing most or my life. I'm 62 now and still scared but Learning

I was getting teary at this. For those of us with ADHD, it often feels like society is built in a way that we cannot succed. Just today, I was getting down in the dumps about how I have all these goals, but i feel like my ADHD is stopping me from making any real progress (on top of high functioning autism and an anxiety disorder). This was a heartwarming thing to watch.

@bejlicaushaj7169

2 жыл бұрын

Hey but we still around kicking it

@vishnuprajapati7786

2 жыл бұрын

are you me?

@mariahconklin4150

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. I felt that today when work was just one big nightmare or felt like it to me. It gets depressing to.

@legendkillersshittyduffleb932

2 жыл бұрын

@@techtutorvideos damn man so true. This is why I'm never going too college again

@vocalsunleashed

2 жыл бұрын

I relate. I also have "high functioning" autism (Asperger's originally) and have struggled with anxiety all my life. Add depression and PTSD to it and you get the biggest failure I know, me... Besides not living up to my own expectations, I also keep getting comments from those around me. At times I wish I lived in a different world.

"its like our brain keeps switching through 30 different channels and someone else has the remote". i have never felt so understood in my life

@cherylathornton

6 жыл бұрын

Totally. Understood.

@Badboyifier

5 жыл бұрын

She killed it! 🙂

@reviveproject

5 жыл бұрын

lolz

@masaboban581

5 жыл бұрын

SAMMMMMMMEEEEÈE

@elosmilealways

5 жыл бұрын

same!!!

I'm 56 and diagnosed with ADHD 8 years ago. Didn't even know I had it. My son was diagnosed and we were working with him. We both take medication now. My life has flamed out twice. Once at 24 with alcohol addiction and again at 48 with a process addiction. Nearly lost my family and my life then. I figured I had always coped as the 12 steps helped me to live life on life's terms but watching my son continue to struggle with his life has been difficult to deal with and triggering for me as I see myself in him. I watched this video yesterday and ended up sobbing for 5 minutes overwhelmed by sadness and empathy for both myself and my son and my wife who has struggled with having 2 ADHD males in her life. We know so little and I have been dealing with it badly though well intentioned. Thank you for shining a light on this. Its exciting seeking new tools rather than what feels like trying to push water uphill. The tribe has increased by 2!

Cried Zoned out came back, made burrito, cried, registered for classes, laughed, cried, searching for a brownie

I feel like everyone thinks ADD/ADHD isn’t that big of a deal but it really has a huge impact.

@matthewrammig

3 жыл бұрын

Yes especially if you don’t fully realize the impact it’s having on your achievement in life

@iam_sherlocked8421

2 жыл бұрын

yesss! and many people know the stereotype, but doesn’t even know what (for example) sensory overload is.

@nickvanamburg

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! I always suspected I had ADHD, but even I didn't think it was a big deal. It wasn't until recently that I actually started learning about it, and I realized the huge impact it has had on my life. But now I'm so glad that I've learned about the community around ADHD, and I don't feel so lonely and self-conscious anymore.

@yotam8267

2 жыл бұрын

@@nickvanamburg Same, I knew I had ADD since a young age since it runs in my family, but only now i'm learning about how it affects my life in so many ways that I thought had no relations with it.

@borbyWanglu

2 жыл бұрын

Nick VanAmburg Same over here! It’s like what this ADHD coach she interviewed said, you almost go through the stages of grieving reflecting on how you have been struggling with those impacts all these years. I put my name down last week to see a psychiatrist and get properly assessed. Wish me well!

K-3 grade: very disruptive but really intelligent 4-7th grade: doesn’t turn assignments in on time. High test scores 7-10th grade: doesn’t do homework, very high test scores, don’t know why he’s not trying 11th grade: skips class, comes late never does homework, great state scores Grade 12: barely graduated Real world: goes out into world, learns skills, uses energy and outgoing personality to succeed. Has friends, close to family and loves job. *flips middle finger to public education system*

@moniquej2997

4 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 8 but boy, does this sound like me

@DavidWhite679

4 жыл бұрын

How did you just list my entire k-12 experience (and thankfully working life)

@pierssegal5910

4 жыл бұрын

That sounds a lot like my school experience.

@corbinrysavy9297

4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like me at this point in my life

@heatherwhiteimages

4 жыл бұрын

This looks like my son who is 11. Do you wish you were homeschooled?

After watching so many of Jessica's video on her own channel, it felt like seeing a friend do an interview on tv. I felt like saying. "I know her" to the people in the audience. She truly makes you feel you are part of the tribe. I'm newly diagnosed at 52 and her videos have hit home so much.

I am literally dying. Just figured out since the last 30 or so days that I might have ADHD. But diagnosing myself based on memes didn’t seem enough. Now after having watched almost 20 hours of ADHD videos I’m almost 100% sure that I have ADHD. Is this why I’ve been feeling alone all my life? Is this why I think I am so different? It’s actually worse since I’m a doctor and I did read about ADHD in my textbook but it never told me the things I’m learning now. Our world is flawed.

"Your brain keeps switching between 30 different channels, and somebody else has the remote". I love that she has given me a way to finally be able to describe how I feel on a daily basis.

@jessicalavoie7355

3 жыл бұрын

Seriously yes

@therealfinnaspring8585

3 жыл бұрын

I've always said that! I was amazed to hear someone else say that

@patriciaschultz5711

3 жыл бұрын

"Your brain keeps switching between 30 different channels, and somebody else has the remote". yes yes yes!!!!

@minethink1442

3 жыл бұрын

More than a tv that switches between 30 channels, I feel like a tv that's displaying the 30 channels at once

@wlll1235

3 жыл бұрын

I just immediately forget the channels or I only listen to certain parts of the channel.

"If you really wanted to, you could do it better than anyone" My mom said that always to me when i was struggling with something. She doesnt understand how much this hurts.

@ellygreen4383

4 жыл бұрын

Safak Aksin I heard “you can do anything just put your mind to it”

@isabellevasquez7433

4 жыл бұрын

I would get “if you aren’t getting As you just aren’t trying hard enough”

@rosegarden69

4 жыл бұрын

"I don't see you trying, if you were trying then you would have finished already" Thanks Mom, you made me feel like I was wasn't good enough. But that isn't true, it isn't true for me or you. Always remember that your best effort is always good enough, you are good enough.

@Haveagreatdayight

4 жыл бұрын

My mom told me something similar today. Doesn’t feel too good.

@danielcash1037

4 жыл бұрын

I have nothing to say but... I Know how it feels. Was told once in a serious talk that apparantly i was only putting %20 of my effort in and if i really tried and bothered i could be really good. the ting is, i hated writing essay's about pointless things that i didn't enjoy, I loved learn about things like psychology and music and computers... there was no way I could focus doing something mundane but I could focus more than anyone else at something I loved... Guess I did have something to say huh...

this is like the third time i come back here and it still makes me cry, adhd brains lack recognition, it should be normal for us to know who we are

Rewinded the video thousand times because everytime she said something, i lost in my own stories 😢

Who else that has ADHD cried every time she did?

@SlowRiseAmbience

2 жыл бұрын

YEP lol

@CatfishBradley

2 жыл бұрын

no? Is that weird? I don't know her, and her hardships weren't really tragic, so.

@erdbar718

2 жыл бұрын

@@CatfishBradley I guess that was about not being able to regulate emotions which is/can be a symptom of ADHD; so no it's probably not weird to not cry, it just means you are able to regulate your emotions. I cried (and cry a lot for every small thing and overload) but I'm also currently seeking a diagnosis lol

@cullly

2 жыл бұрын

@@erdbar718 Definitely agree with this. I haven't cried for over 30 years. Not trying to be macho or cover up anything. My brain just.... doesn't work properly. It sucks.

@erdbar718

2 жыл бұрын

@@cullly Yeah I can imagine. I cry basically daily, that also sucks. Why can't brains just be able to find a nice balanced way of regulating emotions?

Rewatching this again. Just failed an entire semester of college thanks to ADHD, depression, and anxiety. Still struggling to love my brain, and myself. But Jessica and the ADHD humans of the world give me hope. Update- I'm on track to graduate in May. I almost dropped out, but I got the help I needed & pushed through it. Love y'all. ❤

@jasonolguin

4 жыл бұрын

llegobarbarian did you have it?

@PollyBunch

4 жыл бұрын

You are so not alone. It’s a constant struggle to just get through. I’ve done this and felt this so often. Don’t give up on your dreams though.

@pimpinhoez

4 жыл бұрын

i got diagnosed with ADHD when i was 6 and got diagnosed with depression and anxiety about a month ago and still i get judged for being forgetful and for either not getting things done or not getting it done on time, i feel you.

@alejandrinahs

4 жыл бұрын

Mini and Mighty: I failed a class imperative to complete a career timeline I set for myself; even after 8 + hours of studying five days a week... A combination of ADHD symptoms translated to lagging grades, even though I loved the class material. It will be okay, I promise. ♥️ You are not your grades. I hope you get back up, dust off, and run on-because you’re going to create great things in life. There aren’t too many like us-apparently, and we’re in the business of lighting up this world! Stay strong, and stay connected to the truth.

@earthgrazer5511

4 жыл бұрын

hey, same! i failed half of my classes last sem and also few more classes the sems before that and all that could amount to a whole sem of failed classes, and im in a rlly competitive environment, it's driving me insane not to be able to keep up with my peers. the pressure is too much. hang in there!

Oh my goodness! I’m always in denial, but then I run out of my meds and I notice that things start to fall apart. And I can relate to everything she is says!

It is so true about 'potential'. Promises of success ending in burn-out, always. All the more difficult when you seem to be 'brilliant' amidst your peers, but never reach anywhere.. Having a routine can help us to function, but getting into a ROUTINE is almost impossible. What is one to do ??

Having ADHD makes me feel depressed. It’s tiring trying to push yourself 10000000x more than most people to be where they are. I feel behind in everythinggggg no matter how smart or ahead I am.

@matteorayner4273

4 жыл бұрын

Just keep plodding on, don't let it get you down! I think the big problem with Adhd is that we get bogged down in the feeling that you "should be doing something". Just keep living your life and if something doesn't work out then it wasn't meant to be!

@aperson2258

4 жыл бұрын

Emely Puntiel EXACTLY! And even when I do feel ahead, I feel like I'm about to be behind again!

@aiva3993

4 жыл бұрын

Yes this is very common too, basically without medication it's a nightmare you can't enjoy anything

@iqi616

3 жыл бұрын

Emely. Push yourself less. Forgive yourself more. Check out this lady's KZread channel.

@madeleinecameron2208

3 жыл бұрын

YES. And it's scary not to know if you're depressed because of the ADHD or depressed and maybe that's why you can't get anything done. I'm trying to figure this out myself. Reading these comments makes me feel much braver and less alone ❤️

my ADHD probably wasnt strong enough for my mom to go "something is wrong maybe i should diagnose him" for like 18 years but her traditional soviet parenting and anger issues definitely made it go from like ADHD to AD4K

@jasondesouza5151

2 жыл бұрын

ADHDers true problem is that society doesn't understand it. It doesn't get that are brains never stop ... Distraction brain , thoughts brain, people talking brain, flashing lights brain, we identify all at the same time, while we are working, or at Thanksgiving dinner or actually carrying on a conversation. We have one speed fast do 20 things at the same time seriously. Non adhd individuals don't have the capacity to do what we can. As an ADHDer I fail to comprehend why people can't understand things I find so simple. People can't understand why I'm disorganized well its my skill, 20 things I'm doing, or why I'm late 20 things, why I get bored, 20 things .. We need to do things we truly are interested in , that challenge us, and finally society sees us. Society needs to learn about this debilitating illness and super power!!!! I'm proud to be an ADHDer. My life actually has been a disaster, I've lost 25 to 30 jobs, been arrested for dui not having a drink, socially awkward, no friends, etc... I wonder how different my life would have been if diagnosed as a teen, not as a 45 year old man... 🤔

@miriambailey3557

2 жыл бұрын

I wish I had a more helpful reply than this, and yet... "ADHD to AD4K" is too damn hilarious to ignore 😂

@bobwilson679

2 жыл бұрын

@Checkerëd I don’t know if you know this, but the symptoms of PTSD can sometimes be similar to that of ADHD. I honestly think you might have compounded symptoms from both ADHD and PTSD.

@molliemarissa6189

2 жыл бұрын

Oh my gosh this made me laugh out loud, thank you. AD4K.

@awildelife

2 жыл бұрын

I shouldn't have laughed at this

When she said she was working to make sure kids dont have to wait til their 30s to get diagnosed/underdtand their brains...i cried my eyes out. I was just diagnosed and medicated properly at 35 years old. The last 6 months of my life have been amazing and ive been more productive than i have been in 10 years. My depression and anxiety have improved exponentiinally.

I’m 33, super active, eat super healthy, and have a great life. I still find myself wanting to breakdown due to fighting my brain to handle the most basic task imaginable like driving or listening to someone talk about something. I can go on a long run and 2 minutes after my brain wants to shut down for no apparent reason, so I just wanted to relate and say I get it and appreciate you for speaking for all of us with true ADHD. Shi* sucks sometimes but we aren’t alone and I think that truly helps me. So thank you!

I felt that : “Trying harder and harder and still falling behind”

@dmt8332

4 жыл бұрын

Dont give up guys...we got this!!!

@SticksFilmedIt

4 жыл бұрын

Me to man I wanna cry

@aiva3993

4 жыл бұрын

Yes man...

ADHD is a double edged sword. If you happen to be in a field that you are genuinely interested in, you’ll rank high. The opposite is also true.

@agent_star

5 жыл бұрын

I wish the field Im interested in wasn't an impossible dream and was something I could actually build a life I can support myself with

@jauxro

5 жыл бұрын

@@agent_star Could still work out if you cut your cost of living. I'm gunning to live in a van.

@AntonioDal.

5 жыл бұрын

Or once you have your own company with people who are doing stuff like administration, schedule, accounting so you dont have to do them you can become very succesfull.

@GoodFurDay64K

5 жыл бұрын

@@agent_star the most important thing, is do what you "love." Because you'll pour all your energy towards it!

@julius43461

4 жыл бұрын

I think it has more to do with your level of impairment, this is something that people often forget about, we are not all equally impaired. Some people complain that they barely finished college, while some like me couldn't even finish elementary school without some leniency from the teachers. High school? Forget about it. Even if I got the most rewarding job imaginable I would still find a way to mess it up.

Man do I feel this story. Even down to acing that one statistics course before failing everything else spectacularly.

It is taking me two hours to listen to this at work because I keep getting emotional and have to stop to collect myself.

"You are not a failed version of normal." You're so right, Jessica. Half the struggle of ADHD is trying to understand that "normal" doesn't apply to us. I wish more people understood this.

@ianmacfarlane6193

2 жыл бұрын

That part hit hard!

@ElsaBasler

2 жыл бұрын

This 💕

@Jdriven999

2 жыл бұрын

its an everyday struggle im out here crying thinking about hoping back on meds

@celine9322

2 жыл бұрын

❤️

@kassierudolph8987

2 жыл бұрын

Yes thats very hard for me