Get to Know Charity Lee

Recorded in Des Moines, IA in 2012. Charity Lee, Founder & Executive Director of The ELLA Foundation speaks about her life, her child's murder, her son becoming a murderer, what it's like to have a child in prison, and many other issues related to incarceration, murder, the death of a child, and advocacy on behalf of victims and inmates.

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  • @vonsinnen9525
    @vonsinnen95255 жыл бұрын

    'Why didn't u kill a cat?' WTF 🤤 I know what she was trying to say but THAT'S STILL FUCKED UP lady... PS: Also i find it interesting that she sees herself as an 'empath' a 'bleeding heart' when i found her to come across - throughout the doco - as pretty cold, hard almost. Just my opinion...

  • @Shann381

    @Shann381

    5 жыл бұрын

    Becky White I agree, my first thoughts were that she comes off a little bananas herself

  • @SC-uq2jf
    @SC-uq2jf5 жыл бұрын

    Just watched the documentary ....when the Grandmother revealed that Paris after stabbing his mother Charity, was diagnosed as having homicidal tendencies, yet Charity CHOSE to have him removed from the psychiatric facility in Wichita Falls, allowing him to murder his sister Ella months later....Charity states she does not think the psychiatric facility would have helped her son... is she NUTS?????? Her daughter would not have been murdered had her son been kept locked up getting treatment. I am forcing myself to watch this to the end. I have only sympathy for the little girl Ella, that her mother is still in denial about her evil son.

  • @tiffanymabry5120

    @tiffanymabry5120

    2 жыл бұрын

    What’s it called

  • @FatLadyKiller

    @FatLadyKiller

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are correct. The more interviews I see with her the less I like her honestly. She made many horrible decisions including taking him out of mental care so then he had none and acted on his impulses. She should be ashamed

  • @K-a-n-d-i-s

    @K-a-n-d-i-s

    2 жыл бұрын

    How was she or anyone to know that he was gonna go on to murder his little sister? Dont be so judgemental when you havent walked in her shoes. Everyone makes mistakes, no one deserves this. Bless her heart

  • @theklav2914

    @theklav2914

    2 жыл бұрын

    I didn’t know he actually stabbed her 😔

  • @agnes-juliemartin7030

    @agnes-juliemartin7030

    2 жыл бұрын

    oh really??? wow!!! n how do you see homocidal tendencies in someone before he actually killed someone?

  • @sarahwales6276
    @sarahwales62763 жыл бұрын

    It's strange to me that she compared a Mother loving a child with heart disease that they can't control and a Mother loving a child who has psychopathy that they can't control. He son could not help not feeling love and empathy but he had control of his actions, he could decide whether or not to kill his sister as much as he could decide what to have for breakfast.

  • @nameherenamehere9221

    @nameherenamehere9221

    Жыл бұрын

    Her newest and youngest child has a heart condition

  • @starsigngirl9789

    @starsigngirl9789

    Ай бұрын

    She’s doing the best she can how about focus on that x ❤

  • @Supernova862
    @Supernova8625 жыл бұрын

    I think she forgot she was holding a mic in her hand fading in and out..in and out.

  • @kerricoulombe4220

    @kerricoulombe4220

    5 жыл бұрын

    Omg it was bugging me!!! But shes amazing.

  • @OrangeUp

    @OrangeUp

    5 жыл бұрын

    Women and technology.... always the same.. 😂

  • @cynthiakirkland518

    @cynthiakirkland518

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yeh..its makin me crazy 😬😬

  • @tschandraheinze1680
    @tschandraheinze16805 жыл бұрын

    There is no book of instructions of how to handle any of what this person has went thru in her lifetime. I do honestly feel like we all make mistakes and we all live and learn what we can take in due to the tools we have been given from our parents. all in all god bless this woman she is a walking human who can still love and live and be happy still. and try to give to others. open your minds to all of life.

  • @carriemartinez438
    @carriemartinez4385 жыл бұрын

    Heartbreaking!! This is one strong woman, love what you are doing. Much love and prayers

  • @SarahJones-wy5us

    @SarahJones-wy5us

    5 жыл бұрын

    ????????????????????????? really? one strong woman? Love what you are doing?

  • @san.r.9139
    @san.r.9139 Жыл бұрын

    I really feel for this lady, as someone with psychopathic tendencies running in the family, as well. I think she's strong for speaking about her experience. However, I think it's sad that she has to delude herself that 'there were no signs all the way up until the point of the m*rder'. Even an outsider looking at case history can see that there were clear signs that there was something wrong. She had to check him out of a mental health facility because he was acting violent, and then she says there were no signs.

  • @Cheri12345
    @Cheri12345 Жыл бұрын

    Now I know where Paris gets his illness from

  • @rdgloveshouse
    @rdgloveshouse4 жыл бұрын

    This lady let her son around her baby AFTER she was told he was homicidal.

  • @wonderfulwenna2710

    @wonderfulwenna2710

    4 жыл бұрын

    rdgloveshouse Charity left Paris and his sister at home with a Babysitter,whom Paris managed to convince that it was ok to leave early.....and she allegedly did.

  • @rdgloveshouse

    @rdgloveshouse

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@wonderfulwenna2710 I am fully aware of that . If a doctor tells you that your child is homicidal you shouldn't leave them alone with your child and a babysitter period... not only that she should have gotten him more help instead of just taking him home right away

  • @wonderfulwenna2710

    @wonderfulwenna2710

    4 жыл бұрын

    rdgloveshouse you asked a question...I gave you the answer to it.

  • @rdgloveshouse

    @rdgloveshouse

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@wonderfulwenna2710 I didn't ask any question....

  • @wonderfulwenna2710

    @wonderfulwenna2710

    4 жыл бұрын

    rdgloveshouse Thought you were questioning,whether she did or didn’t leave her son with a babysitter,but I agree with you, it’s not something I would have done, if I had other choices,which I’m assuming she would have had.

  • @hyukin56ace50
    @hyukin56ace50 Жыл бұрын

    This case is so insanely heartbreaking. I’m all for mental health treatments and help. With that said, once that mental health takes a turn to where they do things like this monster did, they need to be put down like an animal. I can’t even imagine the hurt i would feel losing a child let alone a horrific murder like this.

  • @mrs.elitenugz8491
    @mrs.elitenugz84915 жыл бұрын

    Just watched the documentary on this. Wow ! Amazing lady. My heart breaks for her. 💔😢💔

  • @xtinamarie_333
    @xtinamarie_3335 жыл бұрын

    Intelligent, articulate, beautiful inside and out. Thank God for you in this world you Universally spirited woman!!

  • @maddena977
    @maddena9774 жыл бұрын

    I wish that the microphone was on a stand

  • @janetsmith2104
    @janetsmith21045 жыл бұрын

    I pray & hope all involved are receiving counseling. That said, "Thread gingerly, not all mental state of minds can be treated or addressed through therapy and/or medications. It's possible the only reason he hasn't committed acts of violence...is due to his imprisonment. You should be very concerned... society is not safe.

  • @catzska
    @catzska2 жыл бұрын

    My Mom has always treated me abusively and I completely relate to what you are speaking about. I have been stigmatized because of how my Mother is. She lies to people about me, about others, she screams, rants and has abused me in every sense. She used me to get money from men and forced me as a child to have sex with men so she could get money from them. She also sexually abused me herself. She has said and done numerous unbelievable things to me and others. As an adult I still struggle to process this. Thank you for doing what you do Charity. Much love, support.💕💜💕😋✌🏻🙏🏻🌹

  • @jmp_1_1
    @jmp_1_15 жыл бұрын

    I am so sorry, sorry for the mean girls, sorry for your mother's withholding of love, sorry for the losses of your father and sweet daughter. Yet you persevere. You share to save lives, and through it have saved your own. Now with Phoenix you can rise above the turmoil. God loves you and I pray you know your true FATHER's Love of you, unique, unbreakable.

  • @adelaidemarie
    @adelaidemarie5 жыл бұрын

    Numerous times I hear of people wrongly convicted but Never have I heard of a guilty being acquitted unless that guilty was high up on the social ladder.

  • @jessicabreen2961

    @jessicabreen2961

    Жыл бұрын

    That was my thought! I feel like the prosecutor had that conviction served up on a platter and they only went for murder l and not conspiracy as well! I feel like there was some kind of prosecution incentive and it's not out of the realm considering the family had mafia ties

  • @Malina-dj2wg
    @Malina-dj2wg6 жыл бұрын

    I know this post was 4 years ago but I'm truly moved. Jesus said the best gift that a human being can receive is to have compassion for all man kind. I think you have achieved that 😁

  • @goldensprite3373

    @goldensprite3373

    4 жыл бұрын

    That's sweet of you. I also agree

  • @WorldOfNicky

    @WorldOfNicky

    3 жыл бұрын

    I needed to hear this ❤️🤗

  • @FatLadyKiller

    @FatLadyKiller

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wasnt god and Jesus so kind for letting this happen? All part of his great plan for us right?

  • @ashandemi
    @ashandemi2 жыл бұрын

    Why when she was saying there weren’t any signs the video was edited, what was edited out I wonder

  • @LM-eu8yr
    @LM-eu8yr4 жыл бұрын

    I can't hear much of this because of the microphone placement.

  • @suesousa6610
    @suesousa66105 жыл бұрын

    they where signs you just had a blind eye to them,,because he was your child

  • @rdgloveshouse

    @rdgloveshouse

    4 жыл бұрын

    Doctor literally told her he was homicidal and she chose to take him home

  • @kristinelopez8548
    @kristinelopez85486 жыл бұрын

    This was a good video to watch. Educational.

  • @olivialewis5925
    @olivialewis59255 ай бұрын

    I feel the relationship between Charity and Kayla. I feel the same way about my mom. I just know she has an underlying hatred towards me. And this I can say due to getting older….mom, you were the definition of how not to do it. Thanks for that

  • @Wynnaki24
    @Wynnaki2411 жыл бұрын

    Stunned... and full of admiration Charity for your compassion for others.

  • @cs-mh2dh
    @cs-mh2dh5 жыл бұрын

    It bothers me that she denies Paris being diagnosed homicidal three months before he murdered his sister. In later videos she actually admits giving this knowledge but chose to ignore it becasue "she didn't think getting him help would do him any good." In this video, she flat out lies about it. Then I read comments saying how much they respect her or feel sorry for her. She absolutetly DID know Paris had some major issues.

  • @zwergie256

    @zwergie256

    5 жыл бұрын

    I think she's lying about many things, actually, and we're always getting exclusively her version. There was a news article which said that Paris raped his sister. In the comment section Charity corrected the reporter and claimed it was (only) sexual assault, not rape (which could mean anything) - but the reporter responded by saying she would correct it but that what she had printed was according to the recording, in other words the interview was recorded and Charity was lying. And there was no evidence of rape. Also, the story about Paris trying to stab her is highly dubious, in another interview she claimed that what happened is there was some argument, Paris got angry and ran out of the house with a knife - nothing about stabbing or even threatening anyone with a knife - then she had him locked up in in a psychiatric facility for a week for that (so this could be when things started heating up, combine it with the fact none of the kids ever see their fathers and the fact she's a heroin addict, and you've got a disaster brewing). I think she's lying about a lot of things, and I'm starting to question the entire story.

  • @amidoll313

    @amidoll313

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@zwergie256 I totally respect your opinion, however... can you put yourself in her shoes? She may be lying but, maybe she isn't. She is no longer a practicing heroin addict. She is in recovery. That makes a huge difference. I have no doubt she knew Paris was not right. I don't think she knew, or even had an inclination that he would hurt his sister tho. Most siblings have animosity toward their younger sibling. Especially when they're so far apart. There is always jealousy. I'm sure that's all she thought it was. Did she make mistakes? Yes! Was she irresponsible? Yes! Does that mean she should be blamed for what her son did? No! I'm not saying you're blaming her but, I've seen a lot if people lay the blame at her feet. The fact is, there is no way she could have known he was going to murder his sister. Regardless of the fact that a Dr. Told her he had homicidal tenancies or not... psychiatric Drs do not hold much credibility, especially with children. They diagnose every child with something and want to place them on a cocktail of medications. I will say this tho... She was right in saying, leaving him there wouldn't have helped anyway. The boy is a sociopath... there is no help for that. In fact, getting them psychiatric help, usually just results in them learning to manipulate better.

  • @zwergie256

    @zwergie256

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@amidoll313 First of all, I don't believe for a second that she was a heroin addict who suddenly went cold turkey and THEN found out she was pregnant - she was dopping when she got pregnant. Now I know that addiction is basically like a disease, so not condemning her for that outright, it's not my place, but she accepts no responsibility for her own role in this family tragedy. She basically goes around calling him a predator and a sociopath when he was not diagnosed as such, a child cannot be diagnosed and he refused further psychiatric testing when he turned 18. You should read her "victim impact statement", which she posted publicly on her website - it sounds like she's trying to get him killed in prison. She has a lot of rage (which I can understand) but she's not honest about it, she's pretending she's all about love and forgiveness when she's exactly the opposite, and she's capitalizing on it. She's making a business out of this, she went from a waitress to "expert", google pictures of her, she's everywhere, posing, full make up, giving interviews, film festivals... - she's on a media tour. I'd like to hear his side of the story, what the home life was like, I'd like to see some transcripts of what his lawyers had to say. Something very dark had to go on in that home, a kid doesn't just wake up one day and decide to kill his baby sister for nothing, a sister he loved by all accounts. And I doubt he was born evil, there's no evidence for that. Keep in mind, he immediately took responsibility, he confessed, didn't try to cover up, that's not typical of a sociopath. It's worth noting that she's talking about him as if he's a monster but she's got no problem moving in next door to her mother who according to her committed the same crime, homicide. Her mother denied the crime, he admitted it, yet she lives next door to mom and calls her son a sociopath. That's quite the paradox. There's more to this story, and we're not getting it.

  • @soapwonder2284

    @soapwonder2284

    5 жыл бұрын

    cs I found the documentary by accident and think she’s a very brave woman! But in the Home Videos there were warning signs! He was kind of violent to his sister and Charity had to tell him to stop! He’s a psychopath watching sadistic porn videos on her laptop since age 9! How is that possible? I was still playing with toys at that age! She never noticed what he watched? For 4 years? How can he just send the nanny away? The nanny is to blame, too! She had responsibilities! And he lied in the 911 call! Pretending to perform CPR! Counting! And later he admitted he was actually in another room and not with his sister! So he was acting! Even his mother said so! Age 13! Why didn’t you kill the cat instead? That’s really messed up! In the documentary he only felt sorry for himself! Not being able to have a Girlfriend etc! I would deny parole! Until 2047! He assaulted her, choked her and stabbed her 17 times! He claims he’s not insane or mentally ill? That’s what Ted Bundy would say! I feel sorry for the mother! She’s been thru a lot since she was 6! It’s a sad tragedy! I admire her for being so strong! But there are facts! It’s so sad because he really looked like a sweet boy and then he went crazy and sadistic! Shows again you can not judge a book by its cover! Frightening! I’d never forgive him! Selfish and jealous! And a murderer! When I was that age I couldn’t hurt a fly! I don’t buy the story that when he held her for the first time, he immediately fell in love with her! He hated the baby when she was pregnant!

  • @cs-mh2dh

    @cs-mh2dh

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@soapwonder2284 There isn't much to feel sorry for her by the way she was raised. So many children were physically and mentally abused as children in a painful way, but they didn't commit crimes or raise murderers. What you have said about Paris is the same as saying he needs to take responsibility for what he did. The same goes for Charity, yet she takes no responsibility. In fact, if you watch the videos from the first to the latest, you will see she not only puts blame on others, she changes her stories. There is a lot she should be blamed for. The worst is not getting Paris in the hands of professionals when he was first diagnosed by professionals. If she had, Ella would still be here and Paris would be in an institute instead of prison. Oh yeah, Charity has been angry with the state for putting Paris in prison instead of an institution where she believes he belongs. See the irony!

  • @adelaidemarie
    @adelaidemarie5 жыл бұрын

    My son was murdered in August of 2001. I was given a Vision of my sons last moments and Why he was taken. I was Also given a very close look at the boy who killed him. I was also given a loud and Clear message that it was Not a Black man. A black man ended up Being convicted. Not One living souls helped me in my quest to right this wrong, not even the group that told Me They were victims advocacy people and would hold my hand during the trial. Turned out His office was in the same place of the Prosecutions office. I Begged my advocate to help me right this wrong. I Told him of my vision and even though He Believed me no one else would. I asked him to Speak with the prosecutor and ask him to speak with me. I was Dropped like a hot potato. No one would speak with me once they Learned I Believed they had the wrong man. I even wrote a letter to the judge who was supposed to Hear the case. Not email but HandWritten. I asked her Who will help me in my quest to serve Right? No response, no help. O’kerrie Wilkins ended up being on the other end of a vendetta my sons detective had. That detective cared not one iota if he got my sons killer, he just needed to be able to sell it to thejury and the jury Never help poor people of color. That act from the state of Virginia shook me Almost as much as my sons death. If there is Any way I can join your efforts........I’m here

  • @harlynroyce9279

    @harlynroyce9279

    3 жыл бұрын

    Do you have a blog?

  • @adelaidemarie

    @adelaidemarie

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@harlynroyce9279 no

  • @zubetp

    @zubetp

    Жыл бұрын

    i'm sorry this happened. i respect you for continuing to believe in his innocence even as you grieve your son. i hope very much that someone with the power to do something about this listens to you very soon

  • @adelaidemarie

    @adelaidemarie

    Жыл бұрын

    @@zubetp me too. Thank You for your kind words. They Have touched my heart

  • @spaceace9103

    @spaceace9103

    Жыл бұрын

    Could you explain what you mean by vision ?

  • @trutru432
    @trutru4324 жыл бұрын

    I listen to you and I could never ever imagine being able to deal with everything you have dealt with , Lord have mercy you have a very strong mind.

  • @celestekittie
    @celestekittie5 жыл бұрын

    Her son tried to stab whoever Jerry was before he killed his sister. There's your fucking sign.

  • @carlbecka4933
    @carlbecka4933 Жыл бұрын

    She’s so full of it.

  • @oliviaglover9859
    @oliviaglover98596 жыл бұрын

    Where’s the rest dang it!!

  • @WorldOfNicky
    @WorldOfNicky3 жыл бұрын

    I feel a tremendous amount of empathy for you. I am weeping. I felt this on a deep level. My grandmother is extremely cold and callus to my mother, and it kills me. I’m the only one in the entire family that still speaks to her because of her behavior. Thank you for sharing this with the World. ❤️

  • @qxq-
    @qxq-4 жыл бұрын

    you do know what microphones are for right?

  • @girlfromsouth214

    @girlfromsouth214

    4 жыл бұрын

    You do know that you can turn up the volume, right?

  • @mariamasini7211
    @mariamasini72114 жыл бұрын

    I wish I could hug you I’m so very sorry for your loss and for the traumatic life you been through

  • @nameherenamehere9221
    @nameherenamehere92215 жыл бұрын

    She did say things that were untrue. Her son was diagnosed as homicidal after attempting to stab her a year and half prior to killing his sister, she checked him OUT of a mental hospital. She also relapsed on cocaine, around the time of the murder. This isn't all her fault, but the child wasn't being properly cared for. She could've prevented this from happening. He was very aggressive, I saw the documentary. But, how was she to know this would happen? If she wasn’t using maybe she could’ve made better decisions. It was a recipe for disaster.

  • @MariaMaria-wv1sy

    @MariaMaria-wv1sy

    5 жыл бұрын

    B L Her drug use was in the Paris Kids DNA that's what messed up his Mind and made him have no feelings they are just words her mother was a gangster with a little Brains trying to by herself some Class, (A drugs). Something fishy about their story, much untold lies especially the grandmother, she knows that she bad.

  • @itsasoulthingconnecttothis2743

    @itsasoulthingconnecttothis2743

    4 жыл бұрын

    U cant say that. U have no right to judge. Maybe she relapsed cos she was scared of him. It's hard to look after someone by yourself, let alone someone that tried to stab u. How about seeing how strong she was? Not saying my view is correct but I don't think your judgy opinion is correct. He is mentally insane. That's not a result of her and how she brought him up.

  • @whitepouch0904

    @whitepouch0904

    3 жыл бұрын

    Because she falls on the same spectrum. She is not clean as you think. That disorder runs in their family.

  • @anayhiasmimi1409

    @anayhiasmimi1409

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@MariaMaria-wv1sy hate to say this but I never did drugs but one of my son's turned out with these same issues

  • @harlynroyce9279

    @harlynroyce9279

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@anayhiasmimi1409 will you elaborate if you’re comfortable?

  • @Momma-angela
    @Momma-angela3 жыл бұрын

    Is there a part 2?

  • @southernrebel9081
    @southernrebel90816 жыл бұрын

    She is beautiful

  • @rtrouthouse1506
    @rtrouthouse15063 жыл бұрын

    You are very brave. Thank you for continuing to speak and persevere.

  • @deannekliene2673
    @deannekliene26734 жыл бұрын

    I am a survivor of 2 unlrelated homicides, it makes one wonder why am i dealing with this.....sometimes .i wish id done something to bring good out of it ....im ok but proud of charity for making positive choices instead of folding and giving in to negativity....ive also had addiction issues in my past ..hang in there Charity!

  • @misscr33ps
    @misscr33ps11 жыл бұрын

    Where's the rest of it???...you're truly an inspiration to me and I'm also a recovering heroin addict and sometimes i need to listen to you to get some strength and to get back in focus.thank you for all you do.

  • @jocelynpena2470
    @jocelynpena24705 жыл бұрын

    I know I met you somewhere and I can’t figure out where.When I saw your story “The Family I Had” on KZread I figured it was somewhere I’ve been in San Antonio. I thank you for sharing your story it has made me put things in my life into perspective and become more aware of mental illness and keep my little one safe. I’m sorry for you losses. I can say I see myself in you although we both have very different stories.

  • @adelaidemarie
    @adelaidemarie5 жыл бұрын

    Love is never ending

  • @hayleyjay4378

    @hayleyjay4378

    3 жыл бұрын

    That's NOT loved it's co-pendency

  • @amp3649
    @amp36493 жыл бұрын

    She is a tremendous woman. Much love and respect to her. Can't break this lady, lord knows the universe has tried.

  • @K-a-n-d-i-s

    @K-a-n-d-i-s

    2 жыл бұрын

    Amen

  • @celticwarrior777
    @celticwarrior7773 жыл бұрын

    Bless your heart, just watched the documentary. sending you love. I cannot imagine what you went through, go through the loss of the family you had and knew. Horrifying i cant imagine the pain of your beautiful daughters life ripped away. I love your going out there and talking about this and have your Ella foundation. Makes me want to do same here in UK for educating kids females about domestic violence. So many girl an kids experience violence it can be emotional, physical, financial. i was almost murdered by a x spouse it caused many years of damage ptsd.

  • @user-gl8gn8mr1f
    @user-gl8gn8mr1f3 жыл бұрын

    I thought my sound was messed up for a moment

  • @Gwen19764
    @Gwen197643 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your ability to use your hurts to help others heal.

  • @summercooney8439
    @summercooney84392 жыл бұрын

    Charity you are so strong. I have so much respect for you. You’ve been through so much

  • @sandrahansen7892
    @sandrahansen789211 жыл бұрын

    respect for you Charity! You are truly one of a kind :)

  • @BROWNSUGAR77001
    @BROWNSUGAR770015 жыл бұрын

    smh. the comments are crazy. I dont think for one second she knew her son would KILL. I feel so hurt for her. She never ask for this mess. Everyone has a past and with that she still loved her kids. so smh stop hurting a woman thats already hurting more then ever. STOP IT

  • @dublingrsshppr

    @dublingrsshppr

    5 жыл бұрын

    Look into the case. That is no poor mother. He was evaluated in Nov and the mother was told he had homicidal thoughts and killed his sister a few months later. The doctor wanted to keep him in the hospital and the mother said no and brought him home. this mother failed her own child

  • @mariesoto569

    @mariesoto569

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yes this lady Is a co dependent. Master manipulator. Narcissist. She says in another videos that Paris would molested and hit Ella. And she chose to do nothing. This mother has deep deep wounds. She is in denial. Don’t Let her fool you.

  • @mariesoto569

    @mariesoto569

    3 жыл бұрын

    @The gardener I’ll have to find it. She did a talk somewhere.

  • @elisamastromarino7123
    @elisamastromarino71236 жыл бұрын

    This woman has lived through *_hell_* ! Her mother was a _nightmare!_ And then her son... oh gawd! She's got to be the toughest of ladies I've ever heard of. RIP Ella. The mother/son relationship is a slippery slope a lot of times - even if the males aren't sociopathic. I would bet that most, if not all males, who abuse females have or had issues with their mothers. Ted Bundy is a different breed, but look at the relationship he had with _his_ mom. She says there weren't signs but of course there were. Shaking her head back and forth when she was 10 months old and I'm sure many other things. No one thinks these things are "signs" though- and then it's too late and he becomes "just jealous". He was obviously much more than that. Psychopaths are good at mirroring other people's expressions because behind that mask they know that true joy is not an affect they can muster by themselves. I would argue that he was *not* in love with his sister when he held her but was looking the way he thought would please his mom - because, after all, it was too late to do anything but that. This is such a twisted story.

  • @melissawhitten5918
    @melissawhitten59183 жыл бұрын

    Liked it but it would have been better if I could hear it the hole time

  • @Willa4420
    @Willa44203 жыл бұрын

    That woman has been through Hell. The best defense Psychopathy has is most people do not recognize it Until it's too late. Living with Psychopath is like having your very own person Demon that creates Hell for you. ☹️

  • @brandi5730
    @brandi57306 жыл бұрын

    I can’t say what I would do if my son was in prison for a crime like that it’s horrible because you never never stop loving your child no matter what they do but I think at some point you have to let go and except that he did this and this is the price he has to pay 40 years for a crime like that is honestly surprising in Texas he’s very lucky he wasn’t sentenced to death all you can do is love him charity he’s 23 now he’s a man let him deal with this doesn’t mean you can’t love him but you deserve a life of happiness now

  • @Ranaluv77

    @Ranaluv77

    6 жыл бұрын

    Brandi Sodemann I think he is 33 now I just watched the dateline or whatever it was special called the family I had.

  • @brandi5730

    @brandi5730

    6 жыл бұрын

    Rana 1016 I thought this happened in 2007 he was 13 that means he will be 24

  • @Ranaluv77

    @Ranaluv77

    6 жыл бұрын

    Brandi Sodemann oh right so in the ID special he mentioned 33? I will have to go back and see what he means.

  • @brandi5730

    @brandi5730

    6 жыл бұрын

    Rana 1016 Maybe im wrong

  • @Ranaluv77

    @Ranaluv77

    6 жыл бұрын

    Brandi Sodemann no hun you are right but he mentioned 33 so I got confused. I might rewatch it. I feel bad for her.

  • @silverbushb448
    @silverbushb4485 жыл бұрын

    Who gave her heroin in high school? Back then it was not common like it is now. Who gave her heroin and who was using it with her at such a young age? And wow, she married, became pregnant and divorced her husband all within a nine month period. Surprising that even the court was able to move that fast.

  • @rhondanelson2669

    @rhondanelson2669

    5 жыл бұрын

    Her father was a drug runner, half owner of one of the largest trucking companies in the world. Her mother the other half owner with her father used drugs and killed her father because he was at risk of them being caught running drugs through the postal company contract they held.

  • @silverbushb448

    @silverbushb448

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@rhondanelson2669 Thanks--I heard about all that in the other video documenting the family. Pretty damn creepy people.

  • @dorisc8604
    @dorisc86045 жыл бұрын

    Listen when you use drugs that afect your son with mentality ill the same if his father have problem. My nephew was mentally ill and we were scare that he is going to kill his family, sorry that you have to go thru bad thing in your life keep strong take care of yourself I think of your little girl she was beutiful be careful help your son but remember your.son suffer from a illnes that is not going to be cure he.has to learng how tu live with that, My nephew he did not want to take more medication and last year he killed himself.

  • @KRIS-sh8wp
    @KRIS-sh8wp5 жыл бұрын

    If she went to rehab 3 states away when she was 18 y/o, then where was the child that she got pregnant for when she was 16? She completely skipped over that important info/topic altogether for some unknown reason. Does anyone else know what happened with that pregnancy and/or that child by chance? Idk why but I'm just kind of curious a little now. Charity is literally one of the strongest, most resilient human beings alive. She is truly a phenomenal woman in every way & them some. May God always protect her & keep her safe. May He continue blessing her & keeping her safe forever ,& always. I love you ~ forever & always.

  • @Collins1118

    @Collins1118

    3 жыл бұрын

    It was 15 and I'm assuming it was aborted

  • @melissagarrett8367

    @melissagarrett8367

    3 жыл бұрын

    May be painful for her someway or another. I personally think she's been through plenty.

  • @agirlandherdog98

    @agirlandherdog98

    3 жыл бұрын

    At 15 she had no rights. I imagine the mother had forced her to get an abortion. She stated at 16 she became a heroin addict. I'm assuming whatever happened, she couldn't cope with it and perhaps it's still too painful to talk about.

  • @midnighttennessee8904

    @midnighttennessee8904

    Жыл бұрын

    Not our business. She would have told us if she wanted us to know

  • @KRIS-sh8wp

    @KRIS-sh8wp

    Жыл бұрын

    A penny for your thoughts & I still need some change. You clearly didn't read my comment in its entirety or maybe you're just 1 of those ppl who gets their kicks by trying to get a rise out of complete strangers in the comment section. You really need to try to step your game up though because your trolling skills need alot of work 😉

  • @jerilynturnbow5801
    @jerilynturnbow5801 Жыл бұрын

    I live in Texas and it's a wonderful state to live in. We are governed by politician's who governed for the will of their constituents.

  • @brandi5730
    @brandi57306 жыл бұрын

    Good lord

  • @ccxx9307
    @ccxx93075 жыл бұрын

    Girl you are so brave‼️‼️

  • @gidgetsprojects8320
    @gidgetsprojects8320 Жыл бұрын

    When you can’t make sense of the senseless, you analyze every detail. In hindsight, If there’s a chance, your trauma could help someone else, that makes sense. Having some sense, in turn becomes therapeutic, just enough, to function. Before commenting, remember the name of this channel & it’s purpose; Don’t throw stones @ glass houses (heaven forbid someone where to throw one @ yours).

  • @sovereignchild8802
    @sovereignchild88023 жыл бұрын

    Hi Chairty thank you so much for this wow - how can I contact you privately as I would like to email you and speak about the case, as I have some things I would like to say but not on a public online platform. Please let me know how best to make contact? I have watched the interview "Psychopath - Netflix" with your son Paris and Piers Morgan twice now and it was a hard watch and harrowing for sure. I enjoy listening to you speak here very much and found your talk highly intelligent, deep, insightful and powerful and educational. You are truly an inspirational speaker from the heart. Your courage in the face of adversity is remarkable. Please let me know how I can contact you . Many thanks. Catherine

  • @marinamaged962
    @marinamaged9626 ай бұрын

    This might be the most unfortunate and interesting person I’ve ever heard of

  • @itsasoulthingconnecttothis2743
    @itsasoulthingconnecttothis27434 жыл бұрын

    I think you are amazing and a beautiful human. The universe kicks you to the core when u are connected. Hope your next time here on earth is a better experience ❤

  • @joaquinboveda8326
    @joaquinboveda83264 күн бұрын

    She seems like a very nice and cool easy going person.its a shame what happened to I..😢

  • @kristovapalenkova5884
    @kristovapalenkova58843 жыл бұрын

    I understand

  • @delgadocourtney
    @delgadocourtney5 жыл бұрын

    This is so crazy.. .. SMH

  • @carolwebster4181
    @carolwebster41812 жыл бұрын

    Surely she had to know her son wasn't rite , wasn't normal, dangerous! But she let him be around her little girl?..what the frig !

  • @leptoceratops
    @leptoceratops3 жыл бұрын

    I'm sorry but she needs to hold the mic properly. There are large sections where she's giving important information, but no sound is picked up because she's waving the mic around like it's a toy, or the noises from playing with it drowns out her words.

  • @Vixen743
    @Vixen7432 жыл бұрын

    It be nice if she would talk into the microphone so I could hear anything she was saying

  • @caliam1
    @caliam15 жыл бұрын

    Stronger woman than I could ever be.

  • @angcaresrn3472
    @angcaresrn34723 жыл бұрын

    She’s incredibly strong! What an amazing person !

  • @agnes-juliemartin7030
    @agnes-juliemartin70302 жыл бұрын

    Also contradicting is saying that Paris was highly intelligent and evil. I think he was at least honest enough to confess a murder and call right away instead of running away, without calling 911. And also a person of sound mind and whos acting rational knows going to prison for your whole youth is not very clever.. So he cant be that highly intelligent!

  • @curiouser-and-curiouser

    @curiouser-and-curiouser

    Жыл бұрын

    From what I've read he had his IQ tested & it was in the 140's so yes, he's highly intelligent. He's also a psychopath & I guess you missed the boat on this one but he'll never grow out of it. His head is in the same place as it was when he was 13. How can you be this clueless?

  • @beautifuljordana
    @beautifuljordana5 жыл бұрын

    Daemon her son!!!!

  • @miss00caro
    @miss00caro6 жыл бұрын

    It surprises me how strong this women is.

  • @franki2524
    @franki25242 жыл бұрын

    Her last Dr is the very best qualified in the world

  • @doublebrokerscams
    @doublebrokerscams11 жыл бұрын

    In middle school, would of never guessed you went through that. What character you have.

  • @obrik666
    @obrik6662 ай бұрын

    its a terrible tragedy. but at 24:17 she says about "so signs" . maybe its only me but i consider a sentence "whats the worst thing to happen. to kill charity´s child?" as a "SIGN". its on that family videos with much more other "signs". but i "can" understand how hard must be for her "accept" the truth that there were clear signs and not blaming herself for all of this. one wise man said: you can ignore reality but you cant ignore the consequences of reality.

  • @adelaidemarie
    @adelaidemarie5 жыл бұрын

    Normal isn’t Real

  • @plantlovea.7841
    @plantlovea.78413 жыл бұрын

    How come she never goes into how he convinced the babysitter to leave? Like what did he tell her?

  • @shanalacey1

    @shanalacey1

    Жыл бұрын

    That’s what I want to know

  • @nameherenamehere9221

    @nameherenamehere9221

    Жыл бұрын

    @@shanalacey1 I don’t believe there was ever a babysitter

  • @pasadena1994

    @pasadena1994

    5 ай бұрын

    ​100% agree@@nameherenamehere9221

  • @pitolove3846
    @pitolove38464 ай бұрын

    @ 2:27 Could Paris' Grandparent's story set the stage for the Fantasy of committing Murder? Didn't Paris also concoct a story to get the nanny to leave so that he can Kill his sister?

  • @silverbushb448
    @silverbushb4485 жыл бұрын

    How was her mother able to keep her money when it was made illegally ?

  • @rhondanelson2669

    @rhondanelson2669

    5 жыл бұрын

    That is why she killed the husband so he could not be a threat and expose her. She hired his hit and there was not sufficient evidence to stick her

  • @silverbushb448

    @silverbushb448

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@rhondanelson2669 Oh. I didn't realize the company had been being investigated .

  • @rhondanelson2669

    @rhondanelson2669

    5 жыл бұрын

    The company was not investigated the mother was investigated. She owned the company. She hired a truck driver to kill her husband, ( charity dad) and was acquitted.

  • @silverbushb448

    @silverbushb448

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@rhondanelson2669 Right. But I'm surprised the company wasn't investigated, being that it was an illegal business.

  • @rhondanelson2669

    @rhondanelson2669

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@silverbushb448 yea because it was postal contract. One of the largest so I'm assuming she made a lucrative donation to the town commissioner where she lived and it was silenced. The federal govt. Don't want to look bad.

  • @manearamburu5477
    @manearamburu54773 жыл бұрын

    You are such an inspiration and such an incredible woman, I admire you so much. You are a beautiful and amazing human being, so strong, so brave, so intelligent and so amazing in every way. I wish you the best for you and for both of your children. I hope Paris can improve and you can be a close and beautiful family again.

  • @canileaveitblank1476
    @canileaveitblank1476 Жыл бұрын

    A microphone isn’t a prop.

  • @kristovapalenkova5884
    @kristovapalenkova58843 жыл бұрын

    I cried hearing u talk about the drug treatment and the begging of help I understand that .. what that is like ... My mother holds it against me .

  • @annasowards5634
    @annasowards5634 Жыл бұрын

    She isn’t innocent, she needs to own up. She ‘wanted’ to be an amazing mother, she wasn’t. Her son was evil, there’s no forgiving that. Saying she’s strong to get though this, I don’t think that’s what it is. She has alot of her mother in her, and who knows who her dad was. She isn’t completely normal, you can see that. Normal people don’t go around boasting for money and fame. Own up Charity.

  • @Rebecca-hc5ju

    @Rebecca-hc5ju

    Жыл бұрын

    Exactly. Leaving her daughter with her son and a babysitter only a few years older than he was inexcusable. Smh

  • @DP-ce1sd

    @DP-ce1sd

    2 ай бұрын

    You guys are dumb

  • @julieshelley7340
    @julieshelley73406 ай бұрын

    What a terrible story. Her mum is a piece of work, should be locked up! The university has not been kind to Charity. So if someone is born a psychopath and is not capable of feelings and, empathy. We really cannot blame that person...awful story, omg.

  • @beautifuljordana
    @beautifuljordana5 жыл бұрын

    Poor woman her kill her daughter her mom murder her dad mk wonder she give in to drugs and felt suicudale I feel her pain!

  • @EmberPines
    @EmberPines Жыл бұрын

    And if he killed a cat? Still psychopathy

  • @americaneden3090
    @americaneden30905 жыл бұрын

    Im so sorry for ur family's tragedy

  • @Humgin1234
    @Humgin12345 жыл бұрын

    I posted a comment on you CONSTANTLY HITTING OR NOT USING OR HOLDING IT FAR AWAY OR SCRATCING THE MICROPHONE SURFACE...I HOPE YOU READ THIS AND RESHOOT THIS VISEO. YOUR STORY IS INTERESTING AND MAY HELP OTHERS BUT THIS LACK OF MICROPHONE UNDERSTANDING IS EXTREMELY ANNOYING ... GET A HEADSET IF WHILE YOU TALK YOU FORGET YOU ARE HOLDING A HUGE MIC.

  • @loxibell2736

    @loxibell2736

    5 жыл бұрын

    Have you never EVER been so emotionally touching your feelings that make you forget your surroundings.

  • @Humgin1234
    @Humgin12345 жыл бұрын

    Riveting by COME ON learn to hold a micro phone without touching or flinging around the mouth piece it’s is SUPER DISTRACTING and ANNOYING. get a goddamn headset if you are public speaking. I nearly turned it off due to this loud distraction. I can’t believe you do not think of holding it and speaking into it while you speak YOU ARE HOLDING IT COME ON

  • @charlesbarboza8591

    @charlesbarboza8591

    5 жыл бұрын

    Humgin1234 but you watched it anyway? If it bothered you that bad, why continue to watch it? I’m just curious. Be well.

  • @cjgem80

    @cjgem80

    Жыл бұрын

    She was high on drugs when did this

  • @veggn6554
    @veggn65545 жыл бұрын

    I just love Charity! I look up to her as someone who is so very strong.

  • @kristinafawn1766
    @kristinafawn17663 жыл бұрын

    I'm so proud of her. She's come so far. She is such an inspiration to women who have been through serious trauma..

  • @katiestar5245
    @katiestar52452 жыл бұрын

    Youre amazing Charity.

  • @smiley2477
    @smiley24775 жыл бұрын

    I hope this woman will get counseling. You can tell from her voice alone that she is hurting. I understand her 3rd child is to fill a void but she doesn't want to raise that child with dysfunction. I hope she can stop this dysfunctional cycle with the last child. I dont think people should blame her for what her son did. I see a woman trying to be strong despite some hard circumstances out of her control. But she is living her life making poor choices and all the drama keeps snowballing into a worse and worse situation. She's always gonna have this pain but I hope she can heal and find some happiness.

  • @rickyortiz82
    @rickyortiz825 жыл бұрын

    Ur amazing!!!

  • @joanmarie5449
    @joanmarie54495 жыл бұрын

    Where is this woman now? It looks like she relapsed. I hope she is still living.

  • @agirlandherdog98

    @agirlandherdog98

    3 жыл бұрын

    She's alive. She recently wrote a memoir: How Now, Butterfly. I don't think she relapsed. I think she's just telling an incredibly painful story which is overwhelming emotional for her.

  • @sarabell1565
    @sarabell15653 жыл бұрын

    As I get older I'm realising that you really can judge a book by its cover

  • @sherrylynnharmon1195
    @sherrylynnharmon11955 жыл бұрын

    She's a terrible speaker..OMG hold the mic and stop playing with it

  • @KRIS-sh8wp

    @KRIS-sh8wp

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you. You took the very same thoughts right out of my very own head. I was really starting to think that maybe I was the only one who was being a little too observant and/or overly critical 😕. I'm pretty sure that she has to be able to hear the sound of her voice going from one extreme to the other. And it's really not that hard to remember that you need to hold/keep the microphone in place while you're the only orator @ your very own public speaking engagement; that's not to mention the fact that this is most certainly not her first rodeo, not by any means 😐....

  • @mrs.elentz2336

    @mrs.elentz2336

    5 жыл бұрын

    You could've used it as an opportunity to give her constructive criticism as opposed to being rude about it. Just saying.

  • @itsasoulthingconnecttothis2743

    @itsasoulthingconnecttothis2743

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@KRIS-sh8wp u arent too observant. You are overly critical.

  • @kristinafawn1766

    @kristinafawn1766

    3 жыл бұрын

    She's not a terrible speaker. As all things, it comes with practice. This was 7 years ago. She does an amazing job now a days.

  • @brooksamsbeach1250

    @brooksamsbeach1250

    3 жыл бұрын

    She has been through unimaginable trauma and very likely has Complex PTSD. Many wouldn't have made it through at all yet here she is and all you have to say is negative. SMH

  • @imluvinyourmum
    @imluvinyourmum4 жыл бұрын

    2 children, 2 different fathers, both fathers nowhere to be seen, that plays in a child’s mind. Children need a father no matter how the SJW’s twist the truth, prison statistics prove this all over the world.

  • @annemariemyburgh7252
    @annemariemyburgh72523 жыл бұрын

    Dear mom, ...i have no words i can say to you ,to make things better, or make you feel good, nothing i can say to undine things that happend, i know this ,YOU ARE STRONG, AND YES ITS OK NOT TO BE OK AT TIMES