TRUTH!! No one else sees it. Sickening and terribly UNFAIR!! I would still prefer to live alone in a tent in the woods rather than be anywhere near the many narcs I have been involved with throughout my life.

@nickieglazer7065

Жыл бұрын

I did!! 😂 but succumbed to the hoover.

@Joshualuv13

Жыл бұрын

I hear that !

@nymaksco1835

Жыл бұрын

I hermit mode a lot. 👏🤣

@bluedogfish2

8 ай бұрын

In a van down by the river with puppet and a goldfish

I appreciate that you prioritise personal safety and the reality of having to “escape”

My mother devalued my father as soon as he retired. He did not know, I did not know. If only we knew sooner.

I wish I had known of your work years ago!

My father was an umr victim cadre. He could play the violin like nobodies business. To this day no one believes me. They all think I’m a pos daughter. Nothing I did or said could change it. I’ve since moved to a different state & it’s wonderful to be seen as me for the first time & no one knew my father here. It’s a great fresh start & now that he’s dead he won’t follow me here & smear me. My narc ex boyfriend I’m too afraid to go anywhere near. He’s living his life free from what he did to me. I got out & stayed out. That has to be enough. 💔

@kathrynhogan3387

8 ай бұрын

Stay strong. Living free the best

Having learnt about narcissism, their behaviours, utilising my observation skills, I was able to use the combined knowledge to detail how an individual interacted with me in person around the circumstances within the public environment without accusing the person of being a narcissist (or any other label).My knowledge & honesty paid off and for other people in future. Thank you, HG 💟

@helenhoward5346

Жыл бұрын

I feel like any and all confusion, the fog of astonishment, regarding a narcissist's (lower-mid-range, greaters are a lot trickier to understand for me) perplexing actions and repetitive self-destructive patterns has been lifted. I'm absolved from confusion as I now firmly comprehend how they operate within their isolated, yet porous, sphere of reality that is notably altered from the majority of others' reality spheres. It's been a year and I feel like I've learnt more this year than I have during the past 10 years (I'm 33 btw so ...I have no regrets but I do wonder how this knowledge, imparted from around age 12-14, could've positively impacted my life and future relationships.

Told only three people. Two of those don't really understand and seem sceptical, why did I marry this person if they're so bad. The other understood and said I need to get out. Easier said than done with three small children. My eldest child today who is aged 6 told me today, I think daddy doesn't love you.

@lightningbug276

Жыл бұрын

😢

@missstarrynight7736

Жыл бұрын

I "love" when people tell you you should leave a toxic environment.... yeah, right... do to this you need lots of money, good job, and good health. "Escape" must be affordable! In other case, such friendly "good advice" is futile and rather stupid to be honest. I was raised by 4 narcissists. Still live with 2 of them. No, I can't afford to move out. So , I totally empathize with you.... . About your child's observation, yeah, I always knew there was NO love in my household. Real love is all about loyalty, responsibility, maturity. I believed it was my fault. Please, tell your children that bad things are not their fault and they can do nothing to make someone love them or you. It's crucial, because kids blame themselves for such situations.

@theosbabe7072

Жыл бұрын

Run...with your kids, don't look back. Go to family, friends or a women's shelter..I know it's hard...but it will only get harder the longer you wait. If you can manage it....plan it...plan the hell out of it like it's a military operation...bank accounts, credit cards, safe place, maybe change your kids schools...explore job opportunities out of state....plan it! Then execute your plan with no emotion and begin a new life. Been in your shoes...and it's the only way.

@ld3418

Жыл бұрын

My mother was vicious malignant narcissist who scapegoated me and put my cousin 4 months younger as her "golden child" with my 9 year younger brother as 2nd golden child. I escaped as much as possible to grandparents, school, after school and friends, college by 17 and never went back. She made my life and my father's life a misery but he was addicted to her and went back even after divorced, threw me, his elderly parents and 6 siblings under the bus for her. I wish you peace but cannot say what would be best. HG seems to be very helpful.

@silko79

Жыл бұрын

@@ld3418 Thank you. I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope you are in a much better place now. I do plan to have a couple of consultations with HG for sure! I've gained a much clearer perspective on the situation since following his channel. Still learning

Looking back it was a massive battle ….. but l won through cold hard logic ❤

No contact no contact putting this into action was the key …. at first l made lots of mistakes… but in a relatively short time…. things became more peaceful for me….. which enabled me to think straight and make plans to protect myself and my future ❤

I'm not sure what kind I was married to . Very charming in the beginning, church goer holy roller Never verbally abusive never physically abusive but mentally tore me down to where I didn't know who I was anymore . When I figured him out right after he left I told him I know what you are and he ran every time he saw me from that point on . I haven't heard from him in 5 years . I have heard from his past 2 relationships that I warned about him and they got out but not completely unscathed financially . The only thing he got from me was satisfaction of whatever they like to mentally do to people

No contact and escaping is not always possible. The danger of leaving is just as bad as exposing. I wish there were some tips on how to just survive, and maybe even regain some sort of independence to even consider getting away. The comment section has given me hope and I’m happy for those who are in a better place now.

I fortunately have had no contact with three narcacists one for 20 years one for 8 years and one for 18 months and l am never going back.

From Tudor's view point..... Narcs are so so powerful, untouchable , super intelligent, smarter than every other person .....but in reality, the narcs we deal with around us ..both in business and social life do run away when we confront them especially having adequate knowledge of their pathology , yes they can be over bearing when you do not knowledge of narcissism and what you are dealing with.

You have taught well enough never to even breathe the word narcissist to the narcissist. I have gone no contact from the malignant mother, put the abusive adult son at 33 out to live with his narcissist gf on his own and support themselves, and am learning through you to manage the husband like the angry toddler he always is. A 40 year marriage and entangled lives with minimal issues compared to mother and son and others, I just reduce emotional thinking and get on with life.

@jojofyrefyre8432

Жыл бұрын

@@MrBlueSky_2112 You dodged a bullet, I hope you realise.

@vickyaldridge6778

11 ай бұрын

I so understand. Disengaging will keep you stable. Hopefully, at some stage, you can be free to live your own life with dignity and self-respect.

More eye-opening insights, HG! As I listened, more than one bad relation from my past popped up. I had to admit that my low self-esteem greased the wheels for the observant narcissists I knew, who turned on the charm, hoovered, then devalued me completely without warning, leaving me bewildered. I was smart enough to get away from a couple of them, as you advise, but now feel much better able to sniff out the poison gas in the early stage.

With all my heart ❤️ thank you HG❤Tudor

This video is a fundamental example of the love/hate relationship I experience with HG Tudor. A thumbs up with angry face from me.

Crazy how all around the world they are all born with the same exact playbook / MO

Ohhhhh my, the extreme damage he caused to my house 16:30 that I owned outright! He repeatedly let the washing machine overflow, it is on the main floor, and my basement is very moldy, and the drywall is warped. He tore up the baseboards in the basement. He was a hoarder, and he had 40 cats in the house! He had junk piled almost up to the ceiling! He wouldn't empty the litter boxes and just kept letting it pile up with more litter boxes! The stench was horrible. He wouldn't talk to me for days on and and he would hit my autistic son, leaving bruises and marks around his neck! He didn't pay any bills. He was a mooch! Getting the divorce was horrible. He refused to leave the house during the divorce! I followed HG'S advice, and he never saw it coming. Finally, my lawyer served him with an eviction notice! He had 4 tons of garbage! Unbelievable, what they do! Of course, he took all of my money! I at least have my ruined house and my car. He moved across the street from my house and mooched off the neighbor. He stalked me but never threatened me. My lawyer said that there was nothing he could do! Well, he finally died! I'm truly free, now! I'm a retired RN. Thanks again, HG! You have the best advice of anyone on the internet!

My father was definitely a narcissist and a highly intelligent one at that ,think possible psychopath also.Then i go on throughout my life to attract various degrees of narcissists in my romantic life .Try as i may not to ,its like flys to shit ! Never fails

Didn't expose my narcissist but I did to a lesser degree expose his lieutenants. I had considered writing a book but haven't. Mine fits around MRN type b or greater, not entirely certain. I've been NC for years but he knows where to find me, so it's not ideal.

HG This is the most valuable presentation I have received so far. I was ensnared for 333 days and removed him 5 months ago. So this video is precisely what is needed right now. 🙏🏽

I discarded the narc in the devaluation-stage a few times before the final discard from me. And then he discarded me by texts after, like he was the one who took the decision, and blamed me for the fail :-)) I was very mean in the last text between us, before blocking him. Never been that mean to anyone before, but I want him to regret me and never come back. When you have been with an ultra and some greater narcs, it’s easier to spot the ones below those schools, in my opinion. I don’t want to get in a public warfare of exposure with this mid-ranger, been there with a greater and an ultra. The best thing to do is surely no contact. Yes it feels like they won, but no, you won. You are free from the BS-battle and can now regain full strength again. Good luck

Hell o HG ❤ …… being a while since l listened to this one ….. listening oh wonderful one ❤

Next time I meet someone , I will call uncle Tudor for advice and will save myself lots of time and misery

I’ve listened to this video, thrice ❤️❤️❤️. There are so many life changing tips.

HG I watched something on Netflix last night about Luke Armstrong the Tour de France multiple times champion and from your work I identified he is 100 percent a narcissist. Not sure what cadre though!

So …… I’m in a terrible situation 😂🤣😆😥☠️

This is good awareness ….. but not being triggered….. must be a sign of recovery ❤️‍🩹

3 weeks ago, I escaped from the somatic covert narcissist, after being with him for 5 years. 1 week ago I was awarded a restraining order. One of the biggest mistakes that I made, was to trust the authorities and court. I was told that they now take psychological abuse very seriously here in Spain (I’m from the Uk) The Guardia Civil reassured me (when I made the original report) that he would be arrested and detained for 2 days, so that I could go back to the mountain and collect my belongings and then attend the court hearing, without him being present and in a relaxed state of mind. That did not happen. Yes he was arrested but was free to go the very same day. I was not aware of that and so when I saw him in the court (the very next day) was not mentally prepared. I felt overwhelmed with anxiety and spoke with one of the clerks, who put me in a separate room and closed the door. I had an epileptic seizure as a result. When I regained consciousness, I felt this hand under my head and his face was just mms away from mine. I screamed the place down. 2 weeks later; my property is still on his land and the Guardia are refusing to help retrieve it. The town that I escaped to is a 35min drive away from his home and he is here almost every day, working hard on the smear campaign, with the (not so) new supply and his 16yr old daughter. I should have got my belongings out 1st; THEN filed the report and not succumbed to the pressure of ‘Why did you not report this sooner?’ He has already been in violation of the order, yet when the Guardia were called, the shop keeper told me they were too busy. So I looked crazy in front of his flying monkeys. Oh well, important lessons are being learnt. I look forward to your next instalment HG.....

@annaa6259

Жыл бұрын

Good luck. Reclaim your power over him.

@nickieglazer7065

Жыл бұрын

@@annaa6259 Thank you 🙏🏻 so much. Today he breached the court order again, twice. I took photos for evidence and the Guardia actually called me advising I go tomorrow to file another 2 reports denouncing him. Things are starting to get interesting...

Very edifying.

The work of HG Tudor makes you not only realize what you are dealing with but genuinely stop caring and feeling anything at all for the narcissist. To stay out permanently does this, it works. You see it as a bad dream as if you went through a temporary insanity from which you woke up. You arent even angry anymore, it was just one big mistake and it’s over. For good. You start enjoying life again. Your life continues normal. Thank you HG thank you so much.❤

@amyemerson

Жыл бұрын

So very true.

I also think princess Diana was one ? People say she’s an empath but I don’t buy it. She seems more narcissist to me. And it explains Harry’s addiction to being abused by Meghan.

@gabbyb4493

Жыл бұрын

I also felt that Diana was a narcissist, probably mid range. The picture released of her sitting alone in front of the Taj Mahal was so calculated and that interview she did. That is when I lost all respect for her, because of her children. But then so was Charles a narcissist.

@MadgeGreen

Жыл бұрын

@gabbyb4493 I do believe Diana had serious mental issues, but not narcissism. She loved and doted on her children, and she was kind to them and others. She did suffer from paranoia, and she didn't know who she could trust. She had bulimia, was terribly insecure, and she felt that she was stupid. She was tricked into the Martin Bashir interview by him showing her documents that had been doctored to make it look like her friends were spying on her. All the attention seeking we witnessed was her desperate attempt to make Charles jealous, but it backfired. Diana was starved of love from a child, and it carried over into her loveless marriage. Diana's life was tragic, and so was her death. I try to remember her for all the good she did for others, much of which was never known about by the public.

@MiriamTenderness

Жыл бұрын

HG says she was an empath, though. I’d like to hear more of his analysis on that.

@giabarcellona8697

Жыл бұрын

You don’t need to be a narcissist to do narcissistic things.

@franm.8343

Жыл бұрын

It can all be so confusing. When does showing narcissistic tendencies, which many people do, tip over into classic narcissism?

Reducing my emotional thinking….. sheer joy …. And on the way to recovery ❤️‍🩹

I can’t find the video’s about exposing after disengagement and after escape. Anyone? Or not yet published?

Where can I find Part 2?

Ultra what do you think of the Jonah Hill narcissist allegations?

Is Simon Cowell a narcissist?

@srsly5570

Жыл бұрын

Does a bear ... ?

@iaindcosta

Жыл бұрын

😂

I had a course of hypnotherapy one time, and the therapist would devalue me for long periods. Whenever i tried to object she would use a post hypnotic trigger to make me burst out laughing, or lose my balance and so on. At the end of the course she devalued me to the point of reaction, then announced that the treatment had been a success and i was now cured from all ills, as she offered me a complimentary mint along with the bill. Since then i never suffered from devaluation sickness again.❤

@subaidedwarder286

2 ай бұрын

you win the internet lol!