It is your giggle 🤭 but on a more serious note I feel an insurmountable heaping pile of sympathy for a certain individual and myself as well for being so ill at the time I met them . Grief , ignorance and addiction ; a walking , breathing , living supply for a hopeless case to riddle with dynamite and destruction . I still battle with anger for and towards them but it's much lighter and I'm forgiving both as I push forward with life , therapy and making new memories without that individual. Thank you Professor, thank you .

This man is absolutely brilliant.

The dream interpretation was absolutely mind boggling and brilliant!

another amazing insight. knowledge must go hand in hand with experience and the power of the content.

Wow! One of my favorite talks!! This was amazing!!

Congratulations 300k subscriber Long may it continue. I am grateful for all the help received. Your knowledge is invaluable. Greetings from the Emerald Isle.

@samvaknin

8 ай бұрын

Thank you.

The image of the narcissist as inverted human is vivid and rings true. I wonder if maladaptive daydreaming (or escapism affecting quality of life) and narcissism have any commonalities, possibly neurologically. I have narcolepsy, and the study of sleep and dreams interests me (although if I never read Freud's Dora again it will be too soon). My dreams begin instantly on going to sleep and are sometimes so engrossing and constant that I have severe difficulty waking up without help. I'm sure others without narcolepsy can do this as well, but a nice side effect is that I can wake, go back to sleep and resume the same dream by thinking about it, catching the visual threads again, and going back into the dream. Thank you for this thoughtful and engaging video, Dr. Vaknin.

@samvaknin

8 ай бұрын

Maladaptive daydreaming is nonsensical hype.

Loved this very well laid out.🌸☄

Is the increase in abuse towards one partner an indication that this partner reminds the narcissist more of their mother than those who receive less abuse? Are there varying levels of intermittent reinforcement in shared fantasies? Might an extended relationship with a narcissist imply more significant abuse?

@samvaknin

8 ай бұрын

Yes to all.

@ellenbruckermarshall4179

8 ай бұрын

I also guess that the depth and duration of the abuse mirrors the nature and extent of the N’s shame, inadequacies, or whatever was triggered.

Absolutely Brilliant

A person dreams that his Mother in law is in a serious accident,so he calls her the next day to hear if she is okay.

hi dr! fantastic video again! question- if the narcissist cares so much about his image and being considered “weak”, why is it that they perpetually behave and “act out” in many ways that are weak.. character wise, weasel-like,also very “karen” like. they must know that this is how they come off, correct? is being weak something that the narc is fully aware of?

@samvaknin

8 ай бұрын

They can't help it.

That was fun!!!

I especially liked the part about mental disorders being like the church and the inquisition. As someone who resorts to self-flagellation when i feel unsafe, i always felt the idealized version of me as a god figure, trying to punish and differentiate from my real, flawed form. It's interesting that based on the analysis of this video, i treat MYSELF as a dream character, dramatizing my symbolic role as a certain TYPE of person instead of a full individual (that's why i love archetypes, psychoanalysis, tarot cards, etc). On the lookout for an identity i guess..

Sam, can you comment on what happens when an NPD attempts to introspect and unravel their shortcomings? What are the ideal internal strategies if there is not adequate supply? Is there a difference with BPD who have reached a relative therapeutic steady state with coping strategies? I'm interested in your thoughts and musings.

@samvaknin

8 ай бұрын

Search the channel for "aware".

Dr Vaknin, have you seen the film Inception? Im sure I’d enjoy your analysis on the correlations between Narcissism and that story.

@samvaknin

8 ай бұрын

See bottom half of this page: samvak.tripod.com/dream.html

Could you produce a video exploring the diverse levels of intermittent reinforcement in a shared fantasy? Also, you've highlighted the notion that intimate partners can be substituted if they fulfill the three essential criteria. Nevertheless, in a situation where a narcissist is actively involved in a shared fantasy and memories of a past partner who strongly resembled their mother surface, would they consider it an opportunity to initiate a separation while engrossed in another shared fantasy?

@samvaknin

8 ай бұрын

Search the shared fantasy playlist.

Thanks a lot. I have a question for you. Can the borderline perceive his or her favorite person as a persecutory object, as the narcissist does ?

@samvaknin

8 ай бұрын

Yes, if s/he is rejected or abandoned.

Dr. Vaknin is there any chance for me to amplify my own self which is dumbed inside deep in me

@samvaknin

8 ай бұрын

Search these 2 playlists: healing and recovery and therapies and treatments.

I only find vaknin to the point on each and every aspect of this stuff .

Could it be that the abuse in the new shared fantasy, after a narcissist modified their behavior following a previous partner's police involvement, is less severe because they had to adjust their approach, and the new partner hasn't involved the police? Would a narcissist still harbor vindictive thoughts about a partner they had an intense shared fantasy with (resulting in police involvement) once the no-contact order expires, even if the narcissist has a new shared fantasy?

@samvaknin

8 ай бұрын

Police involvement often amounts to mortication. Search the channel for "mortification".

@Beleeber

8 ай бұрын

@@samvaknin You've made it clear that there is no hoovering following mortification. However, I have experienced hoovering multiple times during the no-contact period, although it has tapered off recently. Is it possible for mortification to occur at a later point, even years after the betrayal, or is it usually an immediate emotional response?

@samvaknin

8 ай бұрын

@@Beleeber Immediate.

@kara_xo

8 ай бұрын

@@samvakninfascinating dr! I was going to also ask about police involvement and wondered if that is the narcissist’s attempt to mortify the victim / “bad object”- it also seems the act of police involvement is done without thought , impulsive, angry and very reckless moreover. this does exploit and mortify the victim, but are you saying mortification happens to the narcissist while he is involving the police the entire time? this is yet another weak act that impacts the narcissist’s image. i am flabbergasted by this.

@samvaknin

8 ай бұрын

@@kara_xo I was under the impression that it is the victim who gets the police involved, not the narcissist.

Narc told me to get psychological help, because he was upset I was leaving him and knows he needs it I said ‘you first’ and blocked him. Would that cause mortification or narcissistic injury, Sam?

@samvaknin

8 ай бұрын

Search the channel.

@Ciera_Banks

8 ай бұрын

@@samvakninThanks for the reply! I have. I’ve seen most of your videos. I’ll rewatch some with the topic mortification and see what I can find. Edited: I don’t think i mortified but possibly injured him giving him back his own attempted projection. I am Borderline so it was pretty easy.

@210brownie

4 ай бұрын

Stay clear. Problem is narcissism is rapidly gaining popularity, so good luck in not running into another one.

Narcissism is so real no body , after listening to professor vaknin I found out I was dealing with a narcii friend . It made me such a bad guy my I ternal core so devastated by that trance voice always in me that you are shit .

Hey sam i have a very thought proviking question. Have you read about the brain studying the brain? The challenges in healing from NPD have parallels with the complexities of self-awareness and the brain studying itself. The very cognitive tools and processes affected by the disorder become integral to the attempt at healing. So its like a paradox. Can u talk about this? Its like trying to see your eyes without a mirror.

@samvaknin

8 ай бұрын

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@AM-hh2jb

8 ай бұрын

@@samvaknin thank you sir!

Awesome interpretative presentation there, thank you Samaharishi.