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Once an Empath is educated, trained, and disciplined, there is no going back ever. The narcissists can't understand that. Once converted and out of the cocoon, a flying Butterfly can never go back to being a crawling caterpillar...
@lucasessman1910
Жыл бұрын
I love this comment. You have a beautiful soul to put this into words I think. I’m sending you endless love ❤
@beemonroe4330
Жыл бұрын
Bingo 🎯
@debprobst330
Жыл бұрын
So wonderfully said
@janicedeeter577
Жыл бұрын
@@lucasessman1910 Sincerely...what a lovely comment 🪶Once you have cried the Tears you have saved for last for last. It's them or me. This is when the Warrior comes out.
@daniellemorse6929
Жыл бұрын
Beautifully said. They cannot comprehend that we're done with them and no longer in love with them. They were blind when we treated them well, so why would they see clearly now that we're done with them?
every time you go back, it always gets worse each time.
@libbynovotny9979
Жыл бұрын
did it 2 times never again but he thinks I am crazy about him ,not ,and never was!
Assuming that they ever come back, they only do it to toy with you. They are heartless demons unworthy of your heart or time. Forgive them for your own healing and peace, but never take them back.
It is simultaneously the hardest and most healing thing to realize that you were never special to them, and that the exes they were hoovering the whole time you were together were getting the same speech about being the love of their life.
No contact is the only way
Narcissist are nuts😂 Who in their right mind will give them anything after they've been figured out😂😂
Love when you said once we're done, we're done. So very true! There is no going back once we've seen the light. I never want to experience that type of abuse from anyone ever again.
@beachampion8472
Жыл бұрын
That will be suicidal in itself 😅. Say goodbye to the narcissist. Never coming back again. I’m free.
@lyniroquai
Жыл бұрын
Same! Never go back, only go forward, we can find real love & love ourselves properly too
@beachampion8472
Жыл бұрын
@@lyniroquai that’s what I believe.
@deltahomicide9300
Жыл бұрын
To me it’s just comedic. I come from a culture where we’re taught to respect our elders so I had to oblige and apologize to the narc in my life. My apology however was so obviously insincere that it made the narc lash out at me like a 14 year old. Mind you I’m talking abt a 54 year old man. Good riddance I’m done. Man these ppl are corny!! 😂
@demarcosmanica1187
Жыл бұрын
Yes absolutely, self Love 🙏❤️
When she came back after 2 months of silent treatment i was cold as an iceberg. I will never forget her face 😝 The best moment of the relationship
@JH-td4mn
Жыл бұрын
I'm glad you enjoyed it! They can dish it out but not take it.
@sharonthomas9357
Жыл бұрын
👏👏 never give them the satisfaction! U gave them what they always gave us
@candycallahan2199
Жыл бұрын
So proud of you🤮
My narc carries on his normal life with his primary supply and I’m left grieving our 10 year relationship. The extremes of love and hate I now feel is the hardest thing to deal with.
@Melissa-gx7iv
Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry your hurting...me too where not alone!
They destroy themselves, then blame you. This is when they turn into a sociopath. DSM-5.
I think a narcissist wants you back because they are SO fragile, terrified of the emptiness in and around them. They NEED others to kinda fill some empty space with oxygen to survive.
@redmisteditor
Жыл бұрын
this. After months of thinking about the narcisstic/toxic people in my life, i feel the internet loves to describe them as ruhtless monsters with no empathy. But thats wrong, they do have it, its just that theyre too guarded/afraid to show this side of them, being afraid that this will burst the bubble and backfire on them... Ive seen my EX being abused by her mother and her upbringin was very rough too, my ex too was very narcissistic and toxic, but i felt like this was mainly when her ego/worth was on the line... Either when she had something to gain or lose. But i always felt like in public, when she was "normal" she would clinge onto me to make decisions or responsibilties(cause as usual they dont take it).. so yes, they need someone to fill up this insecurity, they need someone strong,with status or money or beauty etc.. Someone they can look up to. otherwise why would they want to emulate you? And not every other person on this earth? Why is it that u became their "main" supply? And not the others? Because u were the strongest, the antidote to this cold world they grew up/live in... They adore what u do and who u are, but at the same time cant stand it, because they will never be like u... So mostly (i think) when they are alone or confronted with their reality again, is when they get jealous/mad over your reality and them not being able to take part in that.. So they will use any method or form to escape their reality through drugs,alcohol,cheating(to fill the emptiness void and reconfirm their worth),abuse etc...
@flexflow4602
Жыл бұрын
@@redmisteditor I agree that they NEED someone. But not „to look up to“. They need their supply (mostly emotional supply in my opinion) and they don’t care too much from whom they get this supply. The more victims they can keep in their narcissistic cycles the more they feel safe and well. They are lonely, fragile people who work hard to get appreciation and approval by the world/people around them. And they are very successful with that. In general. That’s my experience. Luckily my compassion for him is more and more replaced by boredom. Boredom of patterns and cycles and lack of depth.
@redmisteditor
Жыл бұрын
@@flexflow4602 yes I def feel that! And I agree to an extent and that's what I mean like with other disorders, i don't think it's all that black and white their behaviour, alot of it is circumstancial and environmental i think aswel. Like comparing the people i met, the narcist that was born in a wealthy family has a diff way of doing things, than a narcissist that grew in a poor/average family. And exactly for that reason,that they look for validation,they need someone that embodies all these check marks. They'll be stunned at the start and look up to said person and sort of surprised that this person let them in. Cause I've noticed in my life for example none of these toxic ppl around me had my status/acclaim. But they would Clinge onto me, mirror it and pretend they had. When in reality none really knew about them, cause they'd usually dwell around like hollow empty souls that had nothing substantial to offer. I remember if toxic friends would try infiltrate my circles, I'd be pissed, but my friends would always point out afterwards that this toxic person was just weird/silent and would sometimes spout gossips about me for no reason.... Ofc to uplift themselves and reach higher status through someone else... But when they were with me, they were very lively people that had damaged dreams/mentalities but still wanted to have fun and felt accepted. It's just that they can't stand that u really are the source of this joy/happiness... They want to be it, so they become you. And often (at least in my racist area) i found there to be influence from above too, where they'd say for example that their "narcist" parent would comment on their changes and too watch out for me. So again this positive feeling is forced to feel like an alarm, caution sign. I feel their supply that they keep for years, are just the weak pawns, that are vulnerable and very easy to manipulate. People like them actually in terms of status/looks/mentality etc people that are also either empty vessels or have nothing going on. It's easy to manip, but also their mirror cause u attract what u reflect. And they can't stand the fact,that the only people that actually want them are losers like themselves. Even my ex, when she wanted to devalue me, u think the men she wanted to make me jealous with were some models? Nah they were all very average, depressed, anti social druggies.... A reflection of herself. While when she cheated on me, at the start of the relationship, when she mirrored me heavily, she was getting attention from a crowd of higher status (that obv didn't 2 shits about her cause they knew) but this facade obviously only lasts so long... That's why even when i was down i think, i kept attracting higher opportunities and people, cause my natural core self isn't rotten or toxic like theirs.... We do have a personality with meaning unlike them... Then the whole world eventually drops them and all their left with is themselves and reflections of themselves. I've seen it happen. And then ofc they usually fled the scene cause their mask is off. Like they all told me, in my face; We know your value. And how great/talented u are. But we don't want to give you that gratification, we don't want to boost your ego... Complimenting someone is a normal friendly thing to do specially towards a friend or partner. But it's here i notice; so u do see our moves and recognize them... Which means u do see us for what we are worth and know our worth. U just don't want to give it in hopes of us becoming like you people. Like otherwise why would a human put so much effort into chasing someone after you cut ties? If u were that bad, insecure,ugly etc whatever they insulted u for... My ex already tried to drive 6 hours to come see me, without warning me after I broke up with her(my parents and sister even witnessed her tragic downfall and unmasking lol). Why put all your effort into stalking someone on social media via other profiles? Cause they obviously care. But their fragile ego and damaged souls just have a very hard time accepting and acknowledging this. So you'll just fall into that childish insulting and abuse again when u try to rekindle They def need that guidance to show them how it's done, how to finally get the spotlight and praise but they just do it for toxic reasons. That's why they suffer, can't stand on their own feet and think for themselves. Very insecure people overall with limited skills. And the skills they do have they tend to use for their toxic agendas
@flexflow4602
Жыл бұрын
@@redmisteditor I would agree to most of what you said. But it nails down to the question whether we want to take part in their madness or not. After all, these are dangerous people for healthy minds, whether they do what they do with intention or without.
@simplyzumi3312
Жыл бұрын
@@redmisteditor you just explained them perfectly wtf, sounded like you were talking about my ex lol
She can wish all she likes I couldn't care less,No contact,No time,No energy,No Attention I would rather have nobody but any Narc.
They want you to come back so they can diss you over and over.
@daniellemorse6929
Жыл бұрын
They want each discard stage to be worse than the last. I was blind the second time, there will be no third time. He will never get that opportunity to destroy me again. Game over narc!
A narcissist always wants there old and new supplies to be right there at their beckoning call. YOU as a person never existed to them.
@perla5921
19 күн бұрын
Mine has them all on instagram...the one before me...the one after me.😅
she made me transform myself to function in a dysfunctional situation... mind blowing
My ex knows that is never going to happen, when I walked away from him I told him exactly what I thought of him, and that I knew he was a cheating deranged narcissist and pathological liar. After I left him he would hide whenever he saw me, that was months ago and now we just ignore each other. He knows the supply from me is well and truly dried up.
Thanks to God I got rid of trauma bond 🙂 Narcissist is a MONSTER 👹👿
@davidcoppotelli3957
Жыл бұрын
The Only way to Go. Best thing I ever did.
@davidcoppotelli3957
Жыл бұрын
Thank GOD and the HOLY SPIRIT
@meenadevi1063
Жыл бұрын
How did you break ur trauma bonding?
@Rys12.3-4_5
Жыл бұрын
@@davidcoppotelli3957 No contact , cut of them completely !
@davidcoppotelli3957
Жыл бұрын
@@Rys12.3-4_5 I did after 15 years together. The last 2.5 years she became the Devils Daughter.
Once your gone that’s it no coming back over here I’m one and done
@anoushkamarcin
Жыл бұрын
This is the best way, to stick to your decision and not look back. You’ve done the work and the realisation that this person doesn’t change 😢
He wants me to come back. To just to use my time, energy and love. To deal with his bs. It’s all about validation and attention. What a loser. No thanks.
I’m finally at that point. I have a long journey ahead. 36 years into this, not even married, but stayed till I asked God what to do, and he guided me to get this wonderful education that’s out there, and with God by my side. I will overcome this. Thank you Anoushika ! I’ve learned so much from you. You are on point with this. Keep doing this! You’re great!!!!
For a relationship?...no For more punishment?...yes
it's perplexing and overwhelming to think there are people like this. There's always an agenda, imbalance and abuse with them.. You do not answer their calls You do not answer their texts You block them on all social media You have nothing more to do with them In the end you win because you got your self-respect back.
Saw my Ex past Thursday. After 97 days. She walked up to my vehicle placed her hand on my forearm and said You are still Awesome. I crumbled. I said you are still a Beautiful Queen. We talked some & I said I Love & miss you. She said the same. When I left I started thinking you just validated her. She mirrored ur I love & Miss you. I wish I just kept driving. Lesson learned.
Mine has been hoovering 3 years after the breakup and he’s already had 2 girlfriends and God knows how many side pieces after me. He still plays this push and pull, hot and cold mind games on me and I’m back on recovery season. I should’ve kept ignoring him. I just think he loves other women and values them more than he’s ever loved me
@sarahjane8949
Жыл бұрын
My ex Narcs had 3 so far 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 as I hear from a mutual friend I find it hilarious... they don’t know how to love 1 person
@beemonroe4330
Жыл бұрын
He loves no one, not even himself - which is why he needs so many distractions from HIMSELF. He doesn’t even like himself, let alone love himself therefore he doesn’t have the capacity to love anyone else. You’re not missing anything. Let the other women have him and the headaches that come with the catastrophe he is. Block him on everything for forever. You deserve better.
@beemonroe4330
Жыл бұрын
@@dittehompoth1469 they’re insane, what nerve…
@baldersn4474
Жыл бұрын
Stop being co dependent, take control , block him ffs and anyone or anything to do with him..Get some self respect and therapy work on yourself it will never get better..only worse..
@marmfruit
Жыл бұрын
that’s literally what he wants you to think girl. but his opinion doesn’t matter, he’s trash. he has horrible character, no self respect or integrity. heal to where you see your good qualities and how deserving you are of energy where you feel valued and not constantly having to prove yourself. ik it’s hard, trust me. i went back time & time again but learned a new trick of his each time so that when i could finally walk away for good i had enough concrete memories of how he doesn’t actually value anyone but his ego.
Wouldn't you want to come back if you were the Narc of course you would.
@ezdeezytube
Жыл бұрын
Not mine! I dropped a truth bomb on her and exposed her cheating in public. She's too scared to ever try me again. I preempted the hoover by going full warrior-mode.
@empathicwarriorlissy3716
Жыл бұрын
@@ezdeezytube good for you
I took me a while to move on from my narcissist ex unfortunately we still work together but I'm Sharp now I'm able to see through all the mind games
I would never ever go back with her. I was bitten more than once with her. Great video 👍
Haven't watched yet but I am under no delusion that the SOB even considers or thinks about me. He's onto his next "load". He can carry on with his lather, rinse, repeat cycle. He's being fluffed right now by the new laundry he's getting dirty. It will all get dry and dingy to him again and he'll dirty up some more laundry. It never ends with these demons. I say good riddance! Now.....on to the video. 😁
HONEY YOU ARE SO DISCERNING YOU GOT THIS THING DOWN PAT AND I APPRECIATE YOU SO MUCH, YOUR HARD WORK IS REWARDING, I THANK ALMIGHTY GOD FOR COACHES LIKE YOU, THANK YOU SO VERY VERY MUCH, I LOVE ❤️ ALL YOUR VIDEOS!!!!!!!!!!!!
Amen, feeling it here. Is there any way to stay a step ahead of themz Narcies??? Never learned to play chess. These pple gotta be from a different dimension. Hope the weather's nice there.This is hard to hear. Truth. Much needed. So angry I give a shat and they know it. Just wanna spit. You are straight up with this ,no spoon feeding. Now this is the way to do it. Rock on. Hate and love. 2 sides of a coin. Think I'll choose narcotics instead. All of you out there, you've got this. You are here. We are in this together. Never give up.
I will never make contact with the Narcissist. These days I have tons of knowledge regarding his disorder. I'm well over the trauma bond. Done and dusted.
Being with a Narc is like driving your car into a breakers yard and politely watching all the parts being removed one by one and sold off for the benefit of the Scrapyard owner , then you stumble away dazed , you then keep retuning to the Scrap yard in the hope of convincing yourself that none of it ever happened and that your car will be there all shiney while the Scrap Man sits giggling in his Portacabin and Wondering if perhaps you have another car outside the gate that he could also dismantle, Narcs and Broken Up for scrap go hand in hand.
She remains in contact with all her exes except me
Yup but when mine showed up 6 months after I blocked him, I showed no interest and told him I was on to his disorder. He left and started the smear campaign. Introduced the new girlfriend to his parents 2 months later even though he was cheating on me with her for months. She can serve him now!
So true and so, so painful to realize
THE BEST REVENGE IS SILENCE FOR INFINITY AND BEYOND..MOVED OUT OF STATE LIKE I DID
@walterpeebles295
Жыл бұрын
a subtle task that can be difficult to mobilize for those used to processing the bulk or carrying the balance of inter-subjective experience is to count one's blessings. focus on what you have to be thankful for. take up creative work concerning problems that are easily accessible.
So hard when you have kids! More discussions need to addressed when kids are involved.
Facts my wonderful Queen. Thank you so much!!
I don’t believe nothing she says the sex is just amazing! I’ll never give her the same care and admiration
@LMA7706
Жыл бұрын
Alot of them are known for great sex. Its one of their power tools
Thanks so much for this educational message. Listening to you has given me so much fulfillment. ❤
Incredible work! Thank you for what you do and sharing. Truly appreciate you ✌🏻💞
You nailed it!!!!! ;
I have been waiting all these years to be away from the Narcisist , over my dead body 😁
Rite. You can walk rite back into the same person they were. Control, devalue discarded. Period. You have to walk away forever and work on yourself
I have gone no contact after seeing her mask slip when she went ballistic on me over nothing. We are coworkers, and luckily, I do not have to speak to her. Nobody verbally disrespects me and gets away with it.
Mine says I lost him.. I’m like you’ve lost us along time ago…
My mother is a narcissistic nightmare
They are not capable of love fullstop
True true true
Of course. Or he would leave me alone. But not because he loves me. That was all pretend. Today is Wednesday, therapy morning. He hoovers on Monday and Tuesday, not wanting to take off work to stalk me. I'm not worth that. But, by Wednesday, when I really need therapy, I can breathe until the pattern re-emerges come Monday. I wish we were still strangers.
I am close to finishing a divorce from a nacissist. She has been gone for about 5 months. She called a few days ago and wants to come back in December; no explanation, or time commitment. But she is clearly sick and looks so tired. My heart went out to her. She had breast cancer a few years ago and maybe its the meds that are destroying her. I don't know but I am really struggling with this situation. Hardest thing I ever went through......
@MsDavali
Жыл бұрын
Cancer or no cancer, walk away from her
@dodibenabba525
Жыл бұрын
Don't let yourself be abused again!
Maybe... But only because they wish they could start abusing you again
Brilliant
If you find out that your former friend is a narcissist! You must decide on leaving this disfunctional relationship for good for your own sanity and well being you need to talk to a therapist so you can get the help that you need to think about this disfunctional relationship with your abusive friend who isn't your friend! They like to use people until they get tired of them! And also they are fooling you into thinking they are a friend but that's where it ends this person is Pretending to be your friend and he will hurt you and betrayed you again and again many times until you have learned your lesson from this painful experience with this selfish excuse of a person! No matter what ever the narcissist tells you it is a lie ! You need to get away from this kind of disfunctional person who takes advantage of people!
I had been friends with my narc ex for 15 years not knowing she was a narc becuase we never had the chance to hang out for extented duration of times due to me or her being in and out of town. There was this one ex of her she would always talk about when we were friends. She desparetly wanted to have him return to her. I guess he was a very good supply.
Thank you for your help
She is on the radar again I can’t believe this ? three days ago I commented she is long long gone and like a garden weed up she pops FFS 😅
Mine won’t return as I called her out as a narcissist and I’ve said things to her which she denied but I know are true and have cut her to the bone. I see through her. And remember narcissists only want easy supply and discard once the supply stops being easy
Most narcissist are involved in the occult and cast spells against the victim for them to come back.
@usatodaywife
Жыл бұрын
I've turned my life over to God - any spells would have no effect.
@RajHK8
Жыл бұрын
Oogadee boogadee woogadee do The narcissist puts a spell on you Eegadoo beegadoo jigadoo dee You will always come back to me
@courtney1850
Жыл бұрын
Lol that’s not real
@col2959
Жыл бұрын
Are you a narc?
You were just their minion. It was never any other way.
Today is my first day of closers I can't let her get me in my feelings anymore
Narcissists are full of agendas. It’s hilarious 😂.
Yes my narc was in constant contact with her ex's. Crazy stuff. Not me thanks!!!!!
Nope, narcissist tried to and it didn't work, actually, she read me all wrong. Thought I was weak (happened before), love bombed but the truth is I just felt we could be friends, would of helped if I was more attracted to her though, she tried to hurt me the next time but I didn't feel anything because I wasn't emotionally attached. Actually, I was surprised by the change, and could tell she was playing me. It's entirely ego and emotions, love is quite egotistical really, that's how they get you, I wasn't carried away by them, did feel something for her, but not enough for her to hurt me.
Ex blew us up using catfished photos and ran. Came back 7 months later as a wrong number.
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Can you say cognitive distortions?
Of course they would love for you to come back so they can abuse you all over again & let the game's begin all over again... The gain for their game... I'm glad my Ex Narc is back with his Ex again & he's finally leaving me alone & my life is getting stronger & stronger every day.. GOODBYE TO TOXIC PPLE...
So mines blocked and I changed my number because 3 weeks ago he was playing games with a so called friend of mine who turned on me ad went over to him. Today he's made a new profile up on my Netflix then went on my prime to watch a hip hop video! We broke up in april
@MartinSerdar
Жыл бұрын
Time to change your password, too
@elsie8966
Жыл бұрын
Yup it's done. They always find a way yet he tells everyone else he's scared of coming near me!!
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Mine thought her ex husband and ex boyfriend are still infatuated with her.. come on... both of them have moved on with new partners, one is married with a new child and she STILL thinks he has something for her.. utterly delusional and sad to think this person was my world.. IN her eyes every man wants her and she admitted to loving the attention as it boosts her confidence... ok... one mans attention isn't enough for them... no matter how much you show them you love them and want to make them feel safe and secure...you will never be enough.
Narcissist sociopaths are different.
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AMEN
What about all the cards, letters,notes gifts from them Texts, You are My 1st love, my one & only, I WANT YOU IN MY life?? Sends u 2 songs which we made our songs & dance to 3-4 times a month??
@kpaejs1984
Жыл бұрын
Lies. All Lies.
@LMA7706
Жыл бұрын
I have sooooo many cards and love letters. thought he was my dream guy. This is a living nightmare
I got a lot of money from a Narcissis, lol my ex was a narc and he begged me to stay with him so I told him, for me to stay with you I need 2k per week,!! He did it for 2 years and after that he told me he can’t afford it anymore haha so I stopped seeing him completely… it does help Me to move on Gracefully😂
@LMA7706
Жыл бұрын
😅
We KNOW they don't love us. We KNOW they don't think we are special. We KNOW AND DENY the fact that everything they said they'd do or change has NEVER changed. We KNOW that a long term relationship with them would be an absolute disaster and a huge, painful, self inflicted mistake. But f*ck, they always give the best 😮😛🥒
What if you see through them and you tell them but you want them just for fun ?
@beemonroe4330
Жыл бұрын
Not worth it, they’ll ramp up the abuse and make you regret opening the door.
@daniellemorse6929
Жыл бұрын
Went through that but it eventually isn't fun once the love, attraction, desire, etc. that you once felt for them disappears. You will not want to be around them.
@sll110
Жыл бұрын
those demons brains totally different than you think
@sll110
Жыл бұрын
anything from demons, is that really fun? only demons themselves feel fun
@anabellaparis1
Жыл бұрын
@@daniellemorse6929 true. They are in reality very dull creatures
My Ex dumped me after 2.5 years a little over 4 months ago June 23 Everyone tells me I'm an Empath. Not that it helps though my personality type is a ENFJ. Long story short my ex has Trauma from 8- 18 years old, she is 38 now. When we would talk about relationship issues that needed attention I would talk to her calmly. The situation was that she would either shut down or go quite. If she was listening to me she would take a trigger word and run to the sky and it was no bringing her back down to talk like adults. I'm not perfect though I do enjoy working together as a Team. I don't use words like " I" , I use words like " We" or " Us" . There was a couple times that we would talk and I would tell her I'm just trying to understand. I would say is their anything I can do to help, is there a different approach that may work better. Though she would break down and tell me she doesn't know. I would feel helpless that I couldn't do anything to contribute or help in those times. I did mention when she got heated sometimes that I want us to tackle the issue together, that it's not a you or me issue, that it's a "US" issue. I would ask her that maybe asking more questions would be helpful and that I would do the same so we have a better idea of how one another is feeling. I did tell her a couple times that sometimes it can be difficult to communicate because she gets too emotional to where we don't get anything accomplished together. I would go back to I'm just trying to understand and help. This is not about blaming anyone this about tackling this together. We moved into together on August 29th last year, she invited me to come live with her. Now granted a little back story, she didn't allow me to come over here place for over 6 months when first dating. Come to find out it was because I live organized and neat, she stated she was embarrassed of how she lives after being over my place. Her trauma cause a slight hoarding problem, long story short she told me when I came to live with her that we would work together to make it our home. Months went by and we made a little progress, though I did mention that I was embarrassed by how we were living and that this was not what we agreed to. She told me that I triggered her because I mentioned a couple times that I was embarrassed of how we were living and just wanted to share time with her having friends over for wine or trivia. She told me that she new my intentions were good but that I triggered her. Now mind you I would tell her calmly that I was getting frustrated, and just wanted us to work together. Long story short she told me that she was 90-95 % happy in the relationship and new my intentions were always good, though she told me that when I talked to her she would get triggered from the stuff that happened with her Mom. So it's makes me wonder if that was worth throwing us away. Am I the problem. She came home the following day after a great a date night the night before which is something we did every Wednesday, told me she loved and though I was cute and adorable while I eat. And all of sudden just told me she didn't want to be with me , like a different person. It was like turning off a light switch, and I'm broken because of this. I'm not perfect and always have room to grow though this really hurts inside to the core. I'm literally losing my mind everyday. I'm deteriorating and feel weak. I'm seeing a therapist, I'm on depression meds. And nothing makes sense, I literally feel like a failure even after my best. Now Granted I stop taking my depression medication last Wednesday. She broke up with me with no feeling. Turn it off like a light switch. She hasn't reached out at all. The whole time i was reaching out because I was hurt and trying to understand how someone can just turn the switch off like that. Why she put all the blame on me. Just for her to tell me that maybe she didn't ever loved me as much as I loved her. That maybe she wasn't ready for a relationship after being with me for 2 and half years. It still hurts even 3 months later . I've talked to friends, family therapist and everyone tells me it's not me. Though yet I still blame myself even though I tired to talk like adults and use words like we and us and team. I feel like Even my best wasn't good enough. I mean for the 1st year she was telling me to always catch up to how she was feeling touched up the house she was feeling. Took me a year and one month to say I love you but when I said it I wanted her to know that I meant it without everything I was. She still holds onto a grudge even over a year later all because she wanted to go to my Aunts in Florida. Never mind you she's not once ever met my aunt, She's only talked to her on the phone once for maybe about 8 minutes if that. And she's texted her maybe 2 or 3 times. Long story short we were unable to go because my aunt wanted us to be vaccinated. I was not vaccinated and yet my Woman was. So of course my girlfriend told me after I took off a full 9 days to have a vacation with her. She told me that she was gonna go down to Florida for 3 - 4 days and hang out with my aunt. Now mind you my aunt was paying for the plane tickets a place to stay and food both there and back. So I pretty much told her with her not really knowing my aunt that It's kind of selfish. And I took off the time to spend with her and her. So a year later she still has a grudge against me because I called her selfish. Not granted my whole family was upset that she would act this way because she was acting like an opportunist. Even my friends said that's not cool, that is act of selfishness. Now mind you back in February we started going to the same winery at the end of every month for date night and dinner. So after that date night we came back home and we used to like to do a ritual so we went ahead and got a mcflurry. Now granted we had an amazing romantic time that night so went through the drive thru, I said something to her funny and I remember her out of nowhere grabbing my arm and biting my arm and breaking skin as I'm yelling to stop and let go. After she finally let go after breaking skin and causing me to bleed I asked her why the hell did you do that. She looked at me like she was lost, her answer was I don't know why I did that. I told her I said any other guy she would have done that too probably would have gone south . 2 and a 1/2 weeks later I sent a beautiful letter to her sister-in-law and brother. Letting them know how much I love the family and really enjoyed being not only accepted, but treated like part of the family. Every time I would go over her brothers home he would always tell me so when you marrying my sister. And everyone else in the family always told me how happy I make her and that they never seen her this happy with someone. I wrote the letter and put it in a beautiful thank you card because I wanted too, nothing because I had to. Even my friends and my family and I'm my therapist said if that doesn't show you how much good your character is and how good of a man you are to people then nothing will. Everyone told me I've dodged a bullet, It doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt from time to time but I have got a lot better since then. The way I felt for her after a total of 2 and a 1/2 years I'd never experienced in one of my 10 relationships. I mean Thursday's I still think if she really cared for me as much as she said she did she would have reached out by now, But all the tendencies and things that I've told people and talked to about have told me it sounds like either bipolar, narcissistic mixed with bad trauma. And since the break up I've never said anything bad about her to anybody. Because I still love her in my heart, But I've been focused on my career and doing for me. And I wish that 1 day she would figure that out but I don't think she is. I did all that I can do and more than most people would ever do in that situation and I still came up short in her eyes. I mean it's pretty much apparent everything she said her action spoke differently, She told me that everything that she was looking for a guy I brought to the table and that I always brought effort, She says you're not perfect but you are perfect fit for me. There are still days that I get down from time to time. So I try to keep myself busy by continuing to work out doing things that make me laugh and just doing hobbies that I enjoy. I feel I've done really well since September 20th, Though from time to time it still hurts and I do have my mind wonder. I have to keep on telling myself that I deserve better than what she was given me. That she never really cared because she did she wouldn't have given up so easily. And yes maybe some of that's part of her trauma and maybe some of that just because she says she wants relationship Doesn't understand that relationships aren't easy that they do take work and effort.
@kiradelarochefoucauld7499
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Yeah, you're a troll.
@Sonnyblack100
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Too long !! Did not read
@LMA7706
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Yes, too loong to read your comment. But I understand this is your hurt and pain..get in therapy
Oh my Goodness this man never deleted his ex he keeps all,he always have dreams most of them was lie,
He had another woman and got a son wit her. He lost both of us but amusing himself with a son. He use what he wants. Evil bastard!
I'm not sure I believe it. She makes no contact and wishes me dead to our children. Pretty cool, huh?
Is not real dont waist youre time .
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