Knowing that everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie, it makes it easy to stay silent, I’m done with the bullshit

@anoushkamarcin

7 ай бұрын

Good for you. You see the truth 🙏🏼

@reneegardner2286

7 ай бұрын

exactly!! years and years of being let down his words mean absolutely nothing to me anymore

@kingmyleshey

7 ай бұрын

Facts

@Linkfan007

7 ай бұрын

Amen sister, same here! He was a lie from the start and he still won't admit to his faults till the very end. I am in no contact and stayed silent for 6 months going on 7. This is the longest I have ever not talked to him and I feel so free!❤ unlike other times in the past when we have broken up, this time I don't have that craving to go back to him and to go to his house to speak to him.

@julieibbotson6193

7 ай бұрын

When you see how they react, how they try to wriggle out of it and twist everything, when you catch them out in a lie, OMG it is like watching an artist at work. Lying is their craft.

It's not silence. It's choosing peace.

I’m wondering if anyone else feels like I do? When around the narcissist I’m feeling like I’m in the presence of a predator.

@blaquecinderella3560

6 ай бұрын

Me too. These days I see him as a predator

4 ай бұрын

Predators they are. They pray on your heart and mind

@dekhiastevenson8760

4 ай бұрын

Yes mam I used to get sick to my stomach and I'd be like why do I feel like this only to find out😮

@djnquire

Ай бұрын

I felt very strange around my ex the last 6 months

They think you are playing games because thats what they would do and they cannot understand another person's reality

It's been 10 months, I have moved on. Although the healing is not yet complete, i'm hopeful that the day will come. Thank you for all the help in giving me the knowledge and strength to learn everything so i can leave and have peace in my life. ❤

@anoushkamarcin

7 ай бұрын

That’s amazing 10 months , I am so glad to hear that you have moved on. The healing journey is a process it will come one day. And you will have peace ☮️ on your life 💛

@patmahgroyn6868

7 ай бұрын

I am at 8 months and finally the ex narc tried to get me to react by sending me a collections notice for nearly $2000. Staying silent and keeping strong for the day she just goes away for good. I still feel there is more to come. Thank you community.

@jimcreek961

7 ай бұрын

Give it some more time, you will heal, i PROMISE !!

@imbukwa

7 ай бұрын

The person will come back. Be prepared for that.

@josette_napoleon

7 ай бұрын

@@imbukwa oh! he tried 6 months ago. I did not pick up calls from 5 different anonymous numbers when he was on a month's vacation from work. I knew it was him. That was a big win for me💕

I split with my nutcase narccsist girlfriend 7 months ago and have never spoke or replied to her texts since she sent me a letter 2 months ago trying to apologise for her behaviour which I read but did not reply to her letter,it has been hard but it is the very best thing to do and never ever go back to them,take care and keep safe people.

You're always asking,"Why?" with the narcissist. Leaving them suddenly and going no contact absolutely is the best solution for you. They don't care about closure. You don't owe them that and they wouldn't appreciate it anyway.

It's been 5 months of no contact. I'm still healing, but I know the day will come when I will be completely healed. Thank you for your help. ❤

@anoushkamarcin

7 ай бұрын

That’s amazing 5 months no contact!! Of course the day will come and you will heal 💛

@lauralittle6899

6 ай бұрын

I need help. He is the one ghosting me and I am NOT healing at all. I'm getting worse. So I don't know what to do then. I'm pissed off. He is avoiding accountability is what he is doing!!!

@user-ss8fc2yz2q

6 ай бұрын

@lauralittle6899 I'm so sorry your going through this. I completely understand. Stay strong with no contact because if you don't he will be cruel to you. I made that mistake of reaching out. ❤️

I was brutally discarded and I had moments where I wanted to reach out but I’ve kept cool. No contact after just 3 weeks and it still hurts

Guys, I’m here to tell you that I made it through and can confirm your silence feels awful and was heartbreaking at first but now I DONT CARE and I REALLY DONT CARE IF THEY GHOST ME. The peace and serenity is wonderful! No toxic nada! Praise the Lord!

I think of her everyday and everyday, i thank god im not with her

I deleted the narc, he is dead to me, will never go back to that toxic place.

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it

@GregMunro

7 ай бұрын

there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

@DailamiPuang

7 ай бұрын

its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

@GregMunro

7 ай бұрын

this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.

@DailamiPuang

7 ай бұрын

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

@erwan3584

5 ай бұрын

Just curious, how did u knw he/she is narcasistic... Were they diagnosed properly? Bcoz to my knowledge, theyre many levels of them. Probs he/she not a fully narc and if so its a possible change for them as long as they willing to and u shud encourage and guide them if u care or love them. Just IMHO. i might be wrong

Today is my 6 month no contact anniversary!

@ericjackson-nq4hp

6 ай бұрын

It is big deal, you bet it is--one of the best things I read all day. Thanks for sharing such a huge milestone. Super Cool.

When you are alone with a narcissist you ever notice they are clueless in areas like childlike clueless…. But that mask makes him appear like he’s the man.

3 weeks no contact. I imposed it on him. Last night, I slept ! For the first time after one year! I took back my sleep! Finally! I didn't wake up in the middle of the night not being able to go back to bed!

@digidrum2003

7 ай бұрын

Same here....its been 3 weeks for me and I have been sleeping like a champ. She is shacked up with a twice divorced narc.....crazy stuff!!!

My narcissist kept wanting an "induced conversation " to get the last word! Dream on!😅

@anoushkamarcin

7 ай бұрын

Of course! Glad you didn’t let it happen

@rde4017

6 ай бұрын

By "conversation" do you mean debate, argument, row and screaming match?

@andytaylor9107

6 ай бұрын

@@rde4017circular conversation that leads to all the above!

@jasminasinanbegovic6225

6 ай бұрын

I suppose they want you to read their minds, and believe me whatever you noticed, no matter how good you are at reading people and psychology, they will make it appear as you misread them 😊. They don't want to talk openly, they want you to guess them and dance around every word and look and so on, so that they wouldn't feel uncomfortable.

@andytaylor9107

6 ай бұрын

@@jasminasinanbegovic6225 right on, right on, right on!!

Going no contact is like dropping a heavy addiction cold turkey.. Been four years plus no contact despite almost daily phone calls from flying monkeys to hoover me back in...Not triggered. Healed and moved on... At peace . Will never entertain that destructive energy again in anyone ..Stay strong ❤

There is no power in silence. But you will enable them if you are not silent.

He will not come back. He discarded me and told me he wants nothing to do with me and it’s over that I need to move on. He acts like I don’t exist. He hates me. I can say i have peace.

@michelebazinet9003

6 ай бұрын

I also often thought that he hates, hated me, and then tells me ? that he loves me.....

@joshinbama83

16 күн бұрын

Fid he ever reach back out?

They don't care at all what do ever because they have a new victim and they could care less

@DRUMofTRUTH

2 ай бұрын

Yep

12 years together and 6 married she wanted a divorce I didn’t do anything wrong she just said she wasn’t happy wanted to remain best friends found out she’s been texting other lads going online dating apps I’ve went no contact for 110 days now she doesn’t exist and I’ve woke up

It has been 4 years since I started no contact. I don’t even think about him anymore, only when I stumble upon videos about narcissism I rejoice in my victory. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Be strong, stay no contact, and you will be free. By the grace of God I am free! Thank you Jesus! ❤

@erinpaton0112

7 ай бұрын

Same same for me of over 2 years of no contact and no looking back. So grateful to God. 🙏🏻

I believe that when they have a new supply . The no contact goes out the door cause of them being occupied by the new supply

@deb2319

7 ай бұрын

💯

@sharfalor4244

7 ай бұрын

Yep, if they have a new supply they'll happily just drain them instead. It may depend on how good the new supply is as to whether they care. The narc friend I haven't contacted in exactly months made a point of dropping a card in for my parents and not being able to go in as they 'had a feiend in the car.' Veiled message to let me know she's replaced me but it just seems desperate to me for a response. Edit: exactly 12 months

@Moneyball2ms

7 ай бұрын

@sharfalor4244 yea the new supply has already moved in after 4 months, basically cause she is not one to be alone or want to feel alone . So things were definitely rushed, but I'm happy to be working on myself and finding peace

@kaoshi_kutie

7 ай бұрын

If the new supply is unaware of narcissism or just is okay with putting up With the BS from them, they probably won’t hoover which is a blessing!! ❤

@Moneyball2ms

7 ай бұрын

@belle-reine7130 No, she doesn't yet, at least, and yes, definitely a blessing ❤️

After 5 yrs & 2 kids, I’ve experienced exactly what you’ve covered in today’s story. I’ve struggled with my ex narc not allowing me access to my kids. However I’m getting help through some free meditation services that help deal with these types of issues. Stay Strong Fam!! Thanks Anoushka once again.

Thank you for helping me get through this.

@anoushkamarcin

7 ай бұрын

You are so welcome 😊

the sad part is not getting no attention, its the, not getting any attention on purpose. Like, the narc knows they are doing something wrong and could very easy fix that, but are compelled to double down on that

I love you Anoushka! Thank you so much for all the help! You ve been such a blessing to me in the last few weeks. You have no idea how much you have helped me out. You are truly an angel sent to help us!

I just want to say thank you for your guidance and knowledge and for everything you do for me helping me learn how to heal from this

Took her back from cheating time after time. In the end I left because it didn’t feel right again turns out she was with someone else. 4 months later she’s now with him. My child has met the new man already I don’t exist. Ive gone no contact as much as possible with trying to co parent. I no it’s the best thing for me but dam it’s hard. Just because I left it’s all my fault in her eyes crazy they believe there own lies

@Yash0030

7 ай бұрын

So sry. I’m there and I understand it. He moved on days after I moved out. He now acts as tho I don’t exist and hates me. We only communicate through talking parents abt him picking up and dropping off our 2 year old.

She told me I neglected her but she was never vulnerable or opened to me for me to support her. I can’t support or comfort you unless you talk & open up just like I did with her. I believe I caused a narcissistic injury when I opened up about a struggle I had & she hurt me BAD…now I’m healing, going to therapy & getting stronger emotionally thanks to creators like you & books that provide guidance. There isn’t much support for males experiencing narcissistic trauma caused by narcissistic females due to the stigma surrounding the situation. The ones that provide it; I thank you humbly. It has helped me tremendously understand her actions & behavior even as I detach from the trauma bond. I even questioned if it was me multiple times, but I saw the gaslighting after the fact. The manipulation that caused an emotional wound. The monkey branching happening before my eyes. Now I’m educated on attachment theory & narcissism. Thank you again! Stay strong everyone!

Thank you . I'm at a loss for words. Your posts have opened my eyes and given me strength to combat a truely harmfull person. with your help i am rising again and careing for myself instead of a enabling my own demise.

You are right! They feed themselve with any energy they can find and hurt you. If you can take your own power back you are stronger than them. The answer is within you. The song let it go ( frozen) help me a lot!❤

Recently I’ve been no contact again for a month. I’ve been ruminating lately which I hate ! I’m hoping I snap out of it soon. I know the healing is going to take some time but I always remind myself the way he treated me and it was just transactional from understanding your videos ! Thank you for your videos!!

@atdz3609

7 ай бұрын

Nicole, reach out to GOD, tell him your name and ask HIM to bless You. I am coherent, I asked our LORD for help and he touched my head, I am at peace because the timeline for GOD'S will is not mine to speed up. The weight is off my shoulders. The truth always is revealed when GOD sees fit to expose the TRUTH.

@michelebazinet9003

6 ай бұрын

Very same in my situation

@michelebazinet9003

6 ай бұрын

​@@atdz3609Sorry but without being disrespectful towards you and your religious beliefs, I think that the concept of God in our situation here : such as dealing with a very hurtful, painful relationship, is completely Irrelevant. I wish people would keep their own religious beliefs, sometimes almost obsession with God, to themselves. Thank You for respecting other people's opinions about this matter....

2 months no contact. Him and his flying monkeys all live around me. I havent seen him around tho. Trust me I am white knuckling it....wanting to know what he is up to. But my pride and well being know that its better not to know. Ya know what I mean?!😅

@lindsay3793

7 ай бұрын

Yes I know just what you mean!

Thanks u my sister you have been helping me a lot

Also, 2 things happen to narcissist over time: #1--they develop a 'NUMBness' and have 0 FEELINGS-- and then their CONSCIENCE becomes Seared as with an hot iron and have NO MORALS. Thus the thing IN YOUR CONTROL is to GET OUT & STAY OUT---1 Day at a Time--

Good advice and you're pretty!

Thank you darlin. You rock

I have tried. When you love them it's hard to disconnect.

it has been 15 months since he left...i still have not recovered fully. i know he is poison but sometimes i still miss him . i have learnt that this is how things will be until i find someone who loves me for me and not i have to offer

Wow!!!! Your terrific!!!! You really helped me a lot!!!! Thankyou sooo much!!! I’m going to do that!!!! Sounds great👍👍👍👍👍

Why would silence destroy them when they have a New guy. ??? Their not involved w your life anymore. They have NEW supply. She don't care.

Thank you Anoushka

What r u talking about, “ I can’t I can’t….” That person doesn’t care if u r dead bc of her actions towards you.. Cmon, when you ‘know’ what they’re about, you can’t block them fast enough

Thank you ❤

We have been silent towards my father in law and step mother in law (both narcissistic, he grandiose, she is covert)… I wouldn’t say it has been easy, it has created division and hurt. I feel the healing process is a very long time away but hopefully we get there. It is harder to keep distance from toxic family than former lovers I believe.

It’s been a month since we broke up. I made the mistake of continue talking for him after our break up but after watching your videos. i completely stopped. it’s been a week and now he has new supply. Thankfully I was able to expose him right before i stopped talking to him and even tho he’s in a new relationship and is talking to other girls on dating apps he still comes and watches my ig stories. it makes me feel uncomfortable but i feel so empowered to have the upper hand and see him for what he truly is.

Thank you 💕 Anouska you have helped me a lot God bless you.

Only pure fake energy. Meaning once you call them out and I mean no way out of you know who and what they are. There is no telling after that

Happy 🎉 New Year Anushka, all the best for 2024.

Thank you ❤from Australia 🇦🇺

I had discovered the answer was I hadn't said, done or acted how she had planned me to, she didn't want me and who I am, she wanted me to be who ever she wanted me to be, but it kept changing, when we met I was true to myself and knew exactly who I was, somehow she got into my head and altered me. Then I was changing myself in order to just simply get on with her. That's when I reached enough, what was I doing, why was I trying so hard to appease her, once I opened my eyes, I started returning to myself. It was never a normal relationship, it was a movie I was going to co star in, then the writers changed my role and I was the villain. It really was similar to that. My lesson, stay true to yourself and if you meet someone who doesn't like it, leave them alone.

Absolutely amazing video!! Thank you 🙏

Thank you so very much❤. This helps me a lot.

Thank you Anoushka❤

Liked how you compared the way a narc relationship en ds vs a healthy one

I went no contact 3 wks and I sent a message I love them , play them at there own game.

I got Christmas presents I never got before, his mother brought them over. His son said I’ve never seen you get so many presents. Whatever. It was all about him.

I can't stay completely silent as we share a school age child so the only time I will talk is about our sons welfare, no talking about the past or engaging in nostalgic reminiscence's just the school or welfare business at hand. Only a year left until he leaves school..counting the days!

I think she wants me dead. She wants the house 🏠 I live in. And everything that's in it. And 🤪 my sisters want to sell it to her 🙄 😮 I literally have no say in any of it. I'm a ship lost at 🌊 🦭 ⛵️. And I have to go where the wind blows me. I'm a message in a bottle 🍼 😌 that no one will ever read. I'm a ball for narcissists and the monkeys 🐒 🙈 🙊 to kick around until I am no more. I'm a plane with no wings and on and on and on and on and on. That's not the sad part. 😔 😢😮 I'm one heck of a great dude ❤❤❤❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉

@rjlacroix3334

7 ай бұрын

I sincerely hear you brother . I'm going through similar circumstances . Don't ever forget : These people are not well emotionally . They are here in our life to teach us what we need to learn .The best revenge is facing forward and committing to living your best life . may you have peace mate .💪 🙏

Does this happen with an over 60yr narc?I do not bother trying to talk to him any more if he does hear what i say he does not understand.He sits in silence.He just sleeps or sits on his phone does absolutely nothing else.

@Christine-sz5mx

7 ай бұрын

My is 60 years old too. How many are 60 years old water rabbit chinese astrology

@Christine-sz5mx

7 ай бұрын

Withholding and constant lusting and talking about other women devoid of feelings

@reneegardner2286

7 ай бұрын

stonewalling

WHY are you PUTTING YOUR HAND in our FACES?? 😂BYYYE!

How to keep silence with a narcissist when she uses your kids against you !! Silence no problem and no contact, but when she uses the kids against you is hard, because they are suffering cause of the mother

Thanks!

@anoushkamarcin

7 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏼

@barbaraseccombe2421

6 ай бұрын

Thankyou. You go into such detail which is great as i would never think of this. I am trying to omplement your advice. Now i understand more. 👍

Why would a married woman having everything money, car happiness in family do such a thing ,will you be able to answer this.

if she with me in job,she allways say to me good morning and im go away with not reaction,this is the silence or i should say it at normaly and nothing more?

Hi there, a silence regime is not entirely possible during this process of divorce I’m going thru because of a child that we have. So in this scenario I’ve made it a point to only be talking about matters pertaining to the child. Heck I even made a chat group that is titled with my child’s name (with only both parents as participants) so that’s it doesn’t even feel like person to person communication. Any tips?

I have just changed my phone number. Hopefully she wont come back or stalk me

I ghosted and blocked my narcissist on december 17th. because i fount actual proof he was cheating. he had been cheating for at least 4 or more months maybe even a year. that was the last straw for me . i knew i could never see him the same way again.

I have too much to say to go silent and when he don't even talk so nothing to do. Hes doing this crap to me. Its not working out and yeah he has been emotionally abusive and now i want my feelings validated and he won't do it. So now he is ignoring me over 3 weeks. 4 weeks on valentines day. But why are we purposely trying to trigger other people ? So I can't even bother ignoring him and then when he says something it ks super triggering and then i have to respond. .it never feels peaceful or anything good when I stop talking to people .

I’m in zero contact

i dont know if im healing or having a mental breakdown..the narcissist has stopped bothering me...however the society view me as a weak person and disrespect me bcz i am calm

@mymatemartin

7 ай бұрын

You are healing while mentally adjusting to a new unfamiliar reality. That new reality is.... You. And that calmness you feel in the silence is the space in which you will grow strong. Love yourself. Allow yourself to heal.

Love your content! Side note I love your nail color, what is that color?

Anoushka. I see where you are a trainee, pity because you are probably too young for me. It would be creepy trying to get together. But, if I may step in here. One of your videos I’ve been watching, you were being so strong and so independent that I could see a tear being brought to your eye. Yeah, happens to me too. But here’s a thought, Anoushka. There is no crying over ass-holes. You are right, there was nothing there, so why on earth would you be crying? It wouldn’t hurt to tell this person how you feel, even if he doesn’t understand. You are not going back. You are never going back to how it was, and he is the one who has to get adjusted. I saw somewhere else that the silent treatment is one of the most cruel forms of interaction. But, let me help you, don’t think about him right now, turn to me. You’ve got nothing worth crying over, but there was a time you loved him.

@ellensunden2778

6 ай бұрын

Dude, this message is both creepy and VERY inappropriate! You sound just like a stalker...

@thetruther954

6 ай бұрын

@@ellensunden2778 creepy in what way Ellen? I’m listening. And how do the comments I make to the very pretty Anoushka signal me as a stalker? I’m listening, I can take it. Tell me some more.

What if they owe you money and don't pay? Should you break no contact everytime? It's really tiring.

@michelebazinet9003

6 ай бұрын

Same Question Here, about him owing me money ??

@Magirl-xq4hr

6 ай бұрын

@@michelebazinet9003 I think it’s better to prepare ourselves that we’ll never have that money back.

@Holeysocks464

6 ай бұрын

It’s the best money you will ever loose. If they ever ask for more money, it’s simple, >hey you never paid me back last time< conversation over. Also it reminds you of just how low they will go and helps with your recovery. And it helps in explaining your situation to others.

Good info. I would suggest more sound dampening.

What if it has been two years since direct contact? I feel him on phone call scams/social media though?

To my ex i can say i already done my sweet revenge w/o contact rip 😂

Hi anouahka. Can ask is it possible that my ex covert narc girlfriend can have an attachment disorder without been a narc ? She came back to me after 2 yrs ended up having relationship for 7 months had great times then just slow discarded me telling me she dont miss me after setting of home long distance relationship then after 2 weeks went silent then further 2 weeks blocked. I never did anything wrong. All was fine from my end. I could see she was looking 4 excuse to discard me. 2 yrs before the relationship was on off for 1.5 yrs much worse 1st time. 2nd time she just wanted to see how I'm doing but we ended up with good relationship did pick on thecred flags but I was stronger to ignore & be cautious. Wat is she?

How can we apply silence if he is my husband and we are in long distance relationship

they FEEL THE energy ? because you think of them , that is just dumb , you lost me now

For goodness sake get to the point and cut out all the crap.