No one can torture a narcissist more than themselves.

@sabarinathan6554

Жыл бұрын

Are you saying that narcissist torture themselves when a scapegoat escape

@mikemontemurro8088

Жыл бұрын

@@sabarinathan6554 Yes, because they need a new source of supply to fill the void.

Don't play with a narcissist. These ppl are dangerous to your health and your life!

@damienwelch9067

Жыл бұрын

True 👍

@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807

Жыл бұрын

Right

@TheRealJuseBeats

Жыл бұрын

The same can be said about being a narcissist. Don’t play with people.

@samalvarado3957

Жыл бұрын

AMEN !

@shireenramnarain4005

Жыл бұрын

On point I now have multiple sclerosis....u cant complain if u r sick But they would get medical help immediately n recover if they r sick ....to torture n torment the empaths I would like to know why ? Nobody has answered this question But we analyze it Why ?

I’ve said this many times before on KZread. But if the narcissist is cold to you, you can be sure the narcissist is hot to someone else. The cold phase, you will feel invisible. You will not feel important anymore. Even if you are in the same room, you will feel that the narcissist doesn't see you. When you are let say at work, the narcissist will no longer check your day. From calling or texting you several times per day to nothing or almost nothing. The biggest sign is when the narcissist's behavior changes dramatically. First you feel visible and really loved. That you have found your soulmate. To not feel visible anymore. Your soulmate feels like a stranger. Another sign is that the narcissist will use their favorite toy a lot more in front of you. and also hide their favorite toy. Which is the smartphone. They will put the phone upside down on the table. Will never leave phone when leaving the room. When someone is calling the narcissist, he will not answer the phone when you are around. Because the narcissist will use the phone a lot more, you start to wonder why the narcissist can't answer your text messages and phone calls. But has no problem to answer others. The communication and sex will be a lot more off. It will be less and less. The sex will almost feel like rape on a dead body. The biggest sign is actually your guts. Always trust it. If you start to feel like the narcissist is cheating on you, trust that. And if the person really is a narcissist, you can be sure you are not the only one. A narcissist needs attention all the time. 24/7. So when you are not with each other, the narcissist will be with someone else. Either in real life or on internet. Always. Additionally I hired a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!

@goldenlady1213

Жыл бұрын

Perfect post 100 percent and over !Your last 3 sentences were PRICELESS !!!!😂

@primsandwhims7533

Жыл бұрын

Amen. You just told the truth and yesss that's what they do. It happened to me. I'm so glad they're gone with their old supply that's a strung out methhead like him.

@michellelipton4250

11 ай бұрын

Omg u described everyrhing my ex did perfectly

@ChristopherGeter

11 ай бұрын

It's good to hear that you made it out of your situation. I'm at the point of making it out at the moment ❤

@naidhufizz1070

10 ай бұрын

Me tooo 😢

Blocking them on social media, and ignoring them in public, absolutely burns them up and triggers the mental illness within them. When they can no longer reach you because you treat them with indifference, it works.

@yarabia

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes it makes them happy, because they take it as your weakness. If you block someone, you're pissed - and that still gives them power - it's really heavy

Ignore, move on and be happy. Do not give any form of supply. That is how i win against him EVERYDAY!

Give them nothing ! Nothing ! None of your time , none of your energy , no contact , no exceptions . Going thru a divorce after 35 years together , it is never too late ! Once you know , that ‘s it , get out , run .

@jeanholtz579

Жыл бұрын

Yes yes yes!!!! They are dead to you! They do not exist!!!!

@richardprice8951

Жыл бұрын

They do not deserve a second thought, heck, they don't deserve a first thought. It's over. Just awful people (sub-humans)

@maxmaximus8323

9 ай бұрын

Exactly where I'm at.

@jonathanomahony688

9 ай бұрын

Me also after 36 years together.

They probably dont think about you at all unless they need something. They aren't like us

This particular video is exactly what I needed to hear to remain no-contact with my ex. Absolutely mind-blowing to watch myself (logical, reasoned, purposeful etc) be ensnared in trap after trap trying to save her soul.This stuff is heartbreaking actually. The idea of letting go of someone FOREVER after a close relationship seems unnecessary and dramatic....that is, unless you are talking about letting go of a narcissist. This is soul warfare. A narcissist will try to take your soul. The GIFT from the narcissist, however, is the reawakening of your childhood trauma. They will show you what you need to work on. They will be brutal, raw and unjust. They will strip you bear. In the end, however, I chose myself. I am worth more than what this person was doing to me. You cannot love them or try to understand them. You will always be the little boy crying with his arms out for his mother. They will whip you with this, lash after lash, UNTIL YOU CHOOSE YOURSELF. That is all there is to it. You either choose to respect and love yourself and walk away....or you get destroyed. It does not matter how smart / high emotional IQ you believe you are. We are no match for them. They have been doing it their entire lives. You will be forever in a maze that is designed by them to lead you nowhere.

@christelleny

Жыл бұрын

Soul warfare is exactly what it is. For OUR own growth. Beautifully put.

@MrGearoid65

Жыл бұрын

Bravo! Well said. 👊✨🙏🌟 Thanks for this. I came back to this video and your post really resonates with me again. I had to admit I can't win. I really tried to help them but they became bored, treated me badly and when I blew up, which is what they wanted of course, devalued me, discarded me, destroyed my name and reputation completely. I have to cut myself off from the trauma bond. It's the only way. 🏃🏃🏃

@nl7504

Жыл бұрын

Perfectly expressed. In the very beginning, after the love bombing, My X admitted that they have been like this their entire lives and they are not changing at 60. It was then that I started researching…and, found narcissistic personality disorder. As an empath, I was ripped to shreds and they walked away laughing

@NidhiSharma-wh7me

Жыл бұрын

40 years of torture and finally started distancing myself emotionally from my husband. Had no idea what narcissism was. Thought he was just confused. Some days I am successful to emotionally detach myself yet other days it’s misery again. Can’t leave as have nowhere to go.thank you so very much for this video.

@MrGearoid65

Жыл бұрын

Yes, here's a strategy I decided upon. It seems crazy but it's actually working...... I decided to take full responsibility/blame for everything the narc did to me. I apologized even though they should have apologized to me. I accepted blame for it all. Now I'm free because I have been brought so low by them, that the only way is UP, WITHOUT THEM!!!In capitulating totally to them I have paradoxically set myself free, to go ahead and live my best life, choosing ME at all times and only letting good, decent people into my life from now on. I have taken the power from them. They 'win' and now their spell over me is broken, I hope they have no further interest in me, just like I no longer have any dealings with them. Peace at last. 🙏

Bad people that do not change

I cut off all narcissists in my life and was amazed at the good karma that started flowing in. It might be tough at first as an empath, but you will definitely not regret it.

@SA-px3ln

Жыл бұрын

I have whole family over 40 of them.. abuse doesn’t stop. I miss them and can’t let go anxiety depression.. it’s so hard I heard I have to heal wounds…

@MiamiVisor

Жыл бұрын

@@SA-px3ln The hard part is accepting they'll never be healthy people who want to see you succeed. Once your mind can fully process that, you'll be able to detach, and then things really take off in a positive way, I'm living proof.

@SA-px3ln

Жыл бұрын

@@MiamiVisor didn’t you have wounds trauma anxiety for long years of this?

@MiamiVisor

Жыл бұрын

@@SA-px3ln It's an emotional journey and a battle to overcome demonic people and our own personal demons, no one would believe the nefarious things people have tried to do to me, and now I'm grateful for all of it, because it has made me who I am today, and I'm still trying to level up as far as I can go. I believe life is about struggle, and once I changed my mindset to embrace the challenges, everything changed for the better. I recently had a life long dream of mine come true right out of the blue, no joke. I still watch videos like this to keep my skills sharp and also to root on others like yourself.

@amberjacobs4417

Жыл бұрын

Same . Mother, aunt, and 'fiance' who cheated on stop... My physical health has been Soo bad dealing with them, rather be alone and peaceful. Stay strong Sistar ❤

This is where I am at right now. I just don’t really care anymore. So much soul destroying abuse.

It is true they win all the time and there is no getting back at them because nothing phases them. They are the biggest con artists and everything is a game to them. They can win an academy award for their performances.

Detach emotionally it baffles them. 💯

Great advice. All silent now for months. I'm using a lot of energy trying to heal. But getting there.

@augustlioness22

Жыл бұрын

Well done for continuing your healing journey. It will eventually not use so much energy 🤍

@noeldelahaye2986

Жыл бұрын

How??🙄

@brandonkrugel6850

Жыл бұрын

You will get there, its hard, you grieving. It will pass and you will start to feel like your old self again, stay strong and seek the Lord to also help you through this difficult time.

@wtcmedic911

Жыл бұрын

Never tried to Hoover? Or did you do total no contact?

Thank you these demons are operating on the spiritual realm. They cause so much pain and suffering. If we did not want the table turned, we would not be human. We must go no contact and let the universe handle it.

I’m doing this, no contact, stop giving him any information! Be unpredictable! This really helps.

Totally agree with everything you've said. Do not play their game. Dig deep and gather you're strength for yourself. Revenge is going to effect you more because THEY don't CARE about the consequences of their actions but YOU DO CARE. Don't sink to their level. Be smart, be quiet, be safe...

Go silent …it kills em!

Yes.I won't waste my precious time and energy on a dead person,the narcissist.

Never invite the vampire back into your house......

Forget them! They don’t care about you!! You deserve more! Value yourself.

This helps make sense to me. I went NC for 8 months & caved. He came in strong & had me believing he missed me, he was sorry, he wanted me. Then after 1 month I went to his house. We had a beautiful time. I thought a real connection. He hugged me goodbye & said he would text. 3 days went by & no text! I tried calling only to find I was blocked! I jumped on FB messenger & he blocked me immediately! He did this to get back at me...for revenge for the NC for those 8 months! It's sick!!!

@missg4172

10 ай бұрын

😥

I went No contact and it worked. I didn’t answer phonecalls or messages at all. No contact is the best way to cut off the supply and they will be living a nightmare if you do.

Overcoming a narcissist is a big challenge that can lead to true self-love and eventually to finding the person that belongs in your life. Like the universe, god, tell as you please is sending an obstacle we must pass over to find our true selves and acknowledge our true potential. It's like a battle between good and evil, love and hate. Love always wins in the end. But revenge is unnecessary because these people are already hurt and don't know what love is. Moving on with respect for you and others.

@goldenlady1213

Жыл бұрын

Great post ! Let go and let GOD !!!!!!! Thanks 😊 🙏

HOLD ON TO YOUR HAPPY GO LUCKY SELF. IT'S THERE. BEEN DORMANT. USE IT. THINK OF THE THINGS THAT DELIGHT YOUR SOUL. DON'T ALLOW A NARCISSIST ACCESS TO YOUR SACRED BEING❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@angeleyes7417

Жыл бұрын

Best advice ever

Narcs dont feel pain ,remorse ,regret They hurt when u r better than them ,become popular ....which is hard cos they isolate u...,smart, friendly,loving towards others even ur own kids etc😮

It's challenging when you're in trauma bond, I'm glad I went no contact, but I miss parts of him. This is where it is at, but I have to remind myself what he did to me.

@Indite_Biden

8 ай бұрын

Same😢

This is good. Feeling kind of naughty admitting I do feel like they deserve a taste of their own medicine. Thanks coach!

@sarahb.art.a8100

Жыл бұрын

I agree. I think calling out their behavior and trying to hold them accountable and holding your boundaries is something that is needed with these people. The only way they can continue with their behavior is by people being completely dismissive toward them. Most people just let them fully get away with everything which I don’t think works in anyone’s favor. Don’t expect them to own up to what they have done or feel bad though. It simply won’t happen.

@seramarie76

Жыл бұрын

@@sarahb.art.a8100 I agree. It's insane. Has made me want to be more assertive and lose my tolerance for gross cruddishness. Thank u

@amberjacobs4417

Жыл бұрын

After all the pain he PURPOSELY caused me, makes me happy to have him realize I am stronger than he thought and I choose me at the end of the day. Got a text from a number I didn't recognize saying he was in trouble, no cards, no car keys ECT and ' could I meet him to help a bit' 😅😅 nuts and said I was in a dv shelter with a protective order I don't have yet and blocked. So grateful he is not my responsibility. Rock on Sistar ❤❤

They love you being in the gutter. It proclaims their innocence. But your in the gutter due to the abuse. Time heals. You DO get up and move on. My case took me way over a year. By that point people have other things to talk about. It’s old news. No contact. No gutter. No games. No more control. That’s when they care. Cos you don’t

@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807

Жыл бұрын

Exactly, and their harbor guilt, particularly, if the narc dies

@garlandpapier4039

Жыл бұрын

Good day,my one always break up, say I'm cheating with her with my ex, making up stories about me in my face,calling me rude names,she is so cold with no emotions at times, she have different personalities and her face changes at times, when we spend time alone she is happy and looks like a 16year old but she is 55 but looks like one in her 30's

The last time I spoke to him was back in Jan of this year. I spoke my peace and cut off the conversation, before he had a chance to open up his big mouth start his insults towards me. I was gone, like proof, just gone! Blocked him and never answered anything else he had to say. I have to say it felt great. He has done this to me so many times. It felt so good to be just as cold as him. I know he got to see how it all feels now. This is for all the times he has disrespected me, cheated on me and lied to me. Proud to say, that I have made it up 141 days of no contact so far.

Saying no is better than no contact in my situation.

Not interested in revenge. They already know the pain they’ve caused, because they feel nothing except emptiness and self hatred all the time. I just want the attachment and the longing to go. I want to stop needing them and missing them all the time, and be able to think about something else.

He lives 2 houses from me!!!!! He moved on SO QUICKLY and she now lives there!! This is torture for ME!! Total betrayal. I can’t afford to move right now 🤬

@ladiebugs

Жыл бұрын

They are some sick people! I am so sorry.

Already began doing this. It is freeing and feels good to have the control. My narcissist was just a guy I dated for very shirt period of time but were in small community and unless I'm willing to give up playing music I'll need to see him. He's a very dangerous narcissist. He admitted to me that hecaused his wife to commit suicide! On purpose because he didnt want to pay her alimony when they divorced. She, unlike me, was weak from living with a narcissist 14 yrs! She drank and used drugs. These people can be extremely dangerous. All He's done to me has been to turn people against me in the music community we share. I ignored it and now they're beginning to come around again. The narcissist announced his engagement this fall! Another victim Scary!

Makes sense.they want reaction. Don'tgive. they loose

Stay away is the key🙏

Any contact should take the form of a criticism and tell them what to do. Don’t react, don’t engage. Disregard what they say as a lie.

Great advice, the only way to win is to not play. And whatever people do to others, is actually what they do to themselves.

No contact means closing the lolly shop, no more nasty childish tantrums. Moved address and dissapeared leaving narc forever with nothing just as I got from knowing them. I do like your chanel, hard but best advice!

@n0426

Жыл бұрын

No more giving them eye candy too. Block them on social media.

What if it’s a coworker or supervisor? It’s a lot harder I’ve changed jobs so many times they are EVERYWHERE. Ivy League or not they will be there. The only thing is the Grey Rock Method which is basically ignoring them by properly deploying silence. The coworker/supervisor won’t go away, the gaslighting gets worse. It doesn’t end. Going silent works but it’s tough at work. Changing jobs or going back to school doesn’t work either. Gaslighters and black ballers are everywhere.

My situation was totally different but thank you. I almost died and hippa refused to tell me about narcissistic rage. They protect the bad and expect us to figure it out.🤡👈🏻

Could never wrap my head around the “ competition mindset,” which increases as jealousy and envy , control and gossip ensues. It’s good to know others best to know thyself! I don’t play or stay in relationships with people like this anymore. Exhausting!Therefore, my lessons have been such that I feel as though I’ve won the Nobel Peace prize!

Don’t sink to there level or your no different then them. Just get them out of your life, and move on.

I felt so weak not actually fighting back, but she showed me evil in the end like I had never seen before. I was so confused about what I had done to deserve that. This was after she filed for divorce, and told me she was already seeing someone else never talking to me about us. God told me to let it go and be done with it as soon as possible, so I did. Then I found out she checks all the narcissist boxes and started to feel lucky for not fighting back. Yah, she always wanted to compete and win, but this time it felt like she wanted me destroyed. I was still so confused that the person I loved so much would…… so now no contact and afraid of her trying to come back to me, knowing what I know now.

@moonliightbae

7 ай бұрын

so sorry you went through that, hope things are better for you now

I blocked on all and deleted her number. Best thing I ever did in 35 years of knowing her!

The lesson in all this; life is inside out not outside in

Thank You❤ only dated them 7 months and I already kicked them to the curb. She’s right guys you have to not care,. give up and no longer contact them and that’s how you win by simply giving up.

I shall rent them space in my head no more!

Thank you so much for this - destroy health, no contact, no supply

You explain very well , & i also tried to heal a narcissist but she flipped into the next moment and continue to destroy herself and her family life !!!!!!! Narcissist cannot change ✅ There life is of only last upto 40 years , After that they will living their life with their own karma ..... Their mind will be the reason life are living but reality is they are dying everyday, every minute & every seconds 👍

Towards the end of the discharge still had no clue what this was. I went out side to my car and would listen to the ballgame LOL this got her raging cause what would the neighbors think . She was also a big "Karen" She would get mad if anyone even parked near or in front of the house! So I moved after 8 years of You know what . I cried for 3 years then before I found out what this was. going on 8 months no contact like you taught us its gone . Sure moments of the trauma bond still but when you exposed the dark empath everything clicked they feed off the super empath me...TYSM

KARMA!!!!! Please!!!!!!

The spring is slowly approaching in the Northern Hemisphere, and I assure you, when the warmer weather comes in and the nights get longer, unbalanced people get just-that-little-bit more imbalanced; be on the lookout for road ragers, Karens demanding to speak to managers and snooping exes to peak ~mid-May.

@ragepig1059

Жыл бұрын

Karen is a slur against white women 😀

“To oppose something is to MAINTAIN it… You must go somewhere else: you must have another goal: then you walk a different road” URSULA LEGUIN 🙏🏽💔🙏🏻 Blessed be…

Brilliantly explained. Thanks 👏 I simply had to subscribe.

Thanks again and again. So much gaslighting but it came down to her seeking a new supply. You have walked me through this , thank you 🙏🏽

Thanks Anoushka!!❤⚘ Take control of a new life... Time to heal and keep going to up!!!😊

There is one thing I would like to add as far as winning against a narcissist. Win your identity back. Most narcissist create a narrative of being the victim of their past relationships. I used to advocate my narcs story of victimization against his ex partners and other people he took advantage of. I felt a real conviction to reflect upon it and as for God's forgiveness and really open up to the truth of what really happened which is probably the same that happened to you and if they had children with them even worse. I have since stated to our mutual friends how badly I feel that I spoke against them now knowing there may be different facts. It has been a huge release of the hold this relationship had on me for I feel no longer a flying monkey in their fake bubble of friends and family. I have disconnected completely to anyone who has daily contact with him and embracing a new identity with family and friends that did not fall for his false persona. I do not try to persuade the ones that did. Bless them on their way. I bought a new phone and installed only the contacts I wish to continue in my new life. All pictures, accounts, videos etc... are deleted. I get on social media and create positive quotes like "I am not a survivor, I AM a THRIVOR. The best revenge is to be thriving without them which is what you can because you are no longer emptying yourself into their empty souls that have a never ending pit of despair, drama, and manipulation that will bring them to a unfulfilled life sooner or later. The new supply are just as miserable as you were if not more, especially when they are older. Aging seems to bring in a depraved mind that is not so easy to hide. You broke free - Good job! You will not be the one having to be their caretaker one day or worse depending on them to take care of you. Statistics show they end up abandoning you emotionally if not physically which is worse because they silently abuse you and you are now helpless to even have the power to leave on your own. I do self videos for journaling and then play them back. I think I am growing up and becoming a new me. I am really starting to love myself. More importantly I am healing and my faith in God is keeping my eyes on the Creator and the great plans that can be waiting for me when I apply myself. I spend 20 minutes in the morning with some healing methods and it's a game changer as well. It really is a great time to be alive when you kick the addiction of a narcissist.

I infact have a heart..I think they should just enjoy themselves while they getting the guys...once you grow up and has been honest and still receive this..them wish them all the best

Thank you for the most valuable life lesson I've ever had.👍🏻💙

TRUE THAT! Great video, thank you so much for what you do! 😊❤

Absolutely spot on 👍

Not playing their game, indifference, emotional detachment, and treating the narcissist as if they don't even exist is the way to beat the narcissist, correct?

@josephineokunowo9360

Жыл бұрын

Not a nar that's cheating

@Cristobels-Green-Boots

Жыл бұрын

A narcissist never heals…& you need to get rid of the idea that you’re the person to bring about the impossible…work on your own boundaries, because Boundary Issues are the reason why you’ll continue to attract the same destructive behaviour… Trust in Schadenfreude! 🙏🏻💔🙏🏽

Love it! NO CONTACT. no hard work required. Make it easy on yourself.

it's funny because I saw your title to your KZread and I said oh no not another one from someone else but I still thought I'd give it another try and boy am I glad I did. My gosh you said some things that really resonated with me. I've learned from others on KZread about narcissism and they're awesome but the way you put things are so simple but still intellectual and professional, warm yet strong. You're such a beautiful lady but it's your heart that's beautiful above all. I want to continue to learn from you. You have no idea how grateful I am for you. I am just stunned by what you're making me aware of, what I'm dealing with and how to handle it. Hope you can also help how to handle elderly parents that are narcissistic and how we can go about protecting ourselves as we care for them without dealing with too much financially, emotionally and physically and more which can be incredibly painful and draining. I believe in forgiveness, praying for others and I know that God will avenge us for anything that has been wrongly done to us by. anyone but I know we must also have boundaries and to keep away from evil people. Thank you ever so much and thank you for caring and helping us and may God bless you and bless you for all you do. . Stay wonderful beautiful loving and kind lady. I mean. From thar the bottom of my heart as a sister to a sister. 💖🥰💖

@mariamnatalwalla6057

Жыл бұрын

My sentiments too !

Don’t torture anyone. You don’t have to be an abuser just because they are. Keep your karma clean. Just walk away and don’t look back.

I called him out ion his last lie, blocked him,, changed my number, and deleted my FB,

I have no choice as my son’s wife keeps leaving and coming back over 25 years and we live next door. We are retired and can’t leave and we watch our son living a life walking on glass and not wanting to lose everything he’s worked for. 😢

If you wanna bunch them to their core, you do not do anything. Just completely ignore them. They will die inside Out, the more they try to get your attention the more you ignore them. This way can lead them to ☠️

Totally on point Anouska! Thank you ☺️

Greetings! I appreciate and celebrate all that you have done to understand narcissism in an excellent way. I pray that GOD will give you the desires of your heart. You are a beautiful woman. Be encouraged in all matters of your life!

I'm not sure what I feel. Do I want justice for me? Sure, but more than anything I just want my siblings to love me. They can't and will never be capable of such reciprocation. I think I'm going to heal and just let them sit in silence. They deserve no more energy from me.

I'm into 7 weeks no contact as you mentioned my ex narcissist is dead to me, I have a friend who is friends with my ex on fb who keeps asking me questions how my weekend went might be wrong but I'm starting to think she is telling my ex what I am saying

@bettydecali199

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, l think she's a flying monkey. Minimize communication with her. Or if you have to answer to any of her questions reply back with a white lie. (Of course don't make it obvious).

@samanthajames2032

Жыл бұрын

She is probably a flying monkey

@MrGearoid65

Жыл бұрын

That 'friend' is a flying monkey for rhe narc. Fade that person out of your life gradually, or simply block them and the narc. That 'friend' is the narc's spy, not your friend at all. Get away and stay away.

She is so right about this do not doubt this critical information

This was exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks for posting

Thank you so much 🙏👏❤️

No, you’re right that’s what got me thrown out I played by his rules threw me out

I am just moving on. Getting help for myself. Making new friends. I don't want revenge or karma. I just want to live my best life and he lives his. I blocked him in every way I could.

I use to beat them at every game we played for fun. Must have driven them nutz inside. Even the restraining order they tried to get on me was denied in the end. My order of protection was granted against them. I have won because i now understand what i was dealing with. I am free and healing more and more everyday. No more contact. I get it. Live my best life.

Excellent and very helpful video! Once we understand what went on, there are so many memories that get re-assembled re-cataloged in our brain. We see how the "relationship" was messed up and unhealthy, often even at the best of times, and that we were so unable to understand it in the moment ... All that retrospection and rumination makes one to want to have our "say" reach the narcissist, to let them know we're on to their toxicity. But, like you said in the video, they'd only discount our perceptions and feel filled by the fact we've spent time attached to a memory of them. When I think of "letting go" as the ultimate revenge, then it becomes a very powerful tool. A tool I needed very much ... Thank you for this concept!!

I cannot thank you enough for this absolutely AMAZING message you are helping me soooo much I'm in a dark place atm narcissist lives next door and have to use the same path while they sit on the front with his women drinking laughing in front of me what do I do 🙏🙏🙏😢😢😢😢😢

@SweepDailyWin

Жыл бұрын

Sending you comfort. They are mean but inside they are a mess...but YOU are a bright light and you will be just fine. Stay 💪 strong. 🙏🩶🪻

@memphisqueeniee

Жыл бұрын

❤have a drink 🥃 with them.

YOUR STRENGTH WILL INCREASE BY NOT ENGAGING WITH A PERSON WHO CONTINUALLY DEMONSTRATED MIND BLOWING YOU. FORBID THEM HAVING ACCESS TO YOUR PRECIOUS SELF. YOU ARE A JEWEL OF BEAUTY. LOVE, KINDNESS, CARING. JESUS SAID DO NOT CAST PEARLS ON SWINE.❤❤❤❤❤❤😂😂

Thanks A. Brilliant work. I had a great plan that would cause mortification in the ex. She would literally implode. But it's just not worth it. Please, just leave alone. The ex caused me to have a seizure. I'm still off work. They work like chess. You won't get the revenge you want. Love to you all ❤️

Choice is what god has given everyone.

I received a message written in partner way and playing the victim. My reply was 1. I have read your message 3 times and smiled. 2. Yours and my view is different 3. Tell the person just be glad that I will go and you are released of all that negative feeling due to my behaviour. 4. I delete the spending negative time. Waste of time 5. Wish the person a happy proceed😉

Hi my coach you are really helping us people who have no idea about this kind of people especially how to handle them, and if still leaving with them the same house is just another story.

They torture you for no reason. I know when im doing well as the narc friend starts coming at me harder. Only recently that i realsised they are a narc. The worst part is gas lighting and manipulation. My narc 'friend'(enemy) of 36 years spreads rumours like wildfire is toxic and i think no contact is best. My only issue is they will carry on spreading rumours anyway and i will have to sit back and take it. They want to destroy everything i do. Great advice thanks.

Sleeping well forgive never forget and love your self

When everyone(in-laws, husband)around you are narcissists 🤯😵its really very hard to deal with them .everyday everytime i need to hold myself back i need to find a way how to handle them and myself. Sometimes i cry not knowing why they behave like that with me

@aklev5745

Жыл бұрын

When they(in-laws)can't hurt me they use my husband to hurt me.i am dealing with devil's

Thanks for this educational message. ❤

Thanks!

@anoushkamarcin

6 ай бұрын

Thank you 😊

this ish is saving my life... Thank you

You are absolutely right ❤

In all of her videos I've seen so far, she says cut them out of your life, go no contact. Are there any videos that address what to do when you have minor children together? The court ordered 50/50 custody. Cutting him out isn't an option. Currently, I try to wait at least 24 hours to respond as a subtle message that he is no longer important enough to deserve an immediate response. I try to answer texts succinctly. I try to contact him only when absolutely necessary and only about the children. I use my lawyer for all other communication. But he keeps dragging me to court.

@chinson525

Жыл бұрын

Stick to only dealing with the kids, nothing else. Nothing about you personally, give them nothing. Short answers and no follow ups from you.

I don’t want to harm her in any way. A little salt or creating a little wound and a little salt in it I don’t mind much. Just a little. However I feel so thrown into the garbage. I miss her. Even her angry words are better then the silence. I’ve left her alone since new years. I’ve let her go and moved on. This lady is amazing in the video. I have a long way to go.

@wtcmedic911

Жыл бұрын

Actually I’d give anything to hug her again and pray her eyes would open and realize that I care. I don’t want to play a game to win. Just want to hear her voice again in a nice tone. I’m really messed up I know

@joemarino8437

Жыл бұрын

​@wtcmedic911 man I know,it's not good,I've done the same. You've got to keep aiming high and getting away. Do not give in to her!!!!!!!!

@cheezinhoweree

Жыл бұрын

Do a KZread search for Jerry wise how to emotionally detach

@wanputrawadi3255

Жыл бұрын

We share the same story buddy, you are not alone. She did it to me as well. We need to control our empatethic behavour at some points

@cheezinhoweree

Жыл бұрын

@@wanputrawadi3255 same story here too .my love and care was weaponized against me .

Just ignore them because remember how miserable you where dating these idiots they destroy everything they touch

Thank you this video has been really helpfull

You’re right now that I know she’s a narcissist my wife back when I was going to problems with my older brother beat the best lawyer in Worcester, Massachusetts at his own game. How humbling that must’ve been for him😮. Now I will just keep her guessing kinda like a warrior in the war.

my narcissist ex fiances brother fell from a 20th floor balcony trying to cross from the neighbours apartment because she convinced their mother not to open the door for him on xmas day saying he was there to hurt her, and when she called me after a year and a half of me ending the engagement to tell me about it i told her he paid the price for her sins

Not torture, but protect yourself against harm, especially in the workplace and when they bully and there's nowhere to go cause its you boss and her flying 🐒 duh!!!