Experienced divorce lawyer here. Please vet a potential spouse very carefully before getting married. Divorcing a narcissist can be a brutal process. Stay safe out there!

@user-eh3bb2iv1o

Жыл бұрын

Spot on ! My ex was a terrorist who targeted me to fund the terrorist army ! I was very lucky to escape with my life !

@angelamcphail3749

Жыл бұрын

Ive been married 6 1/2 years. He has been so brutal to me the minute we married. Ghosting, calling me names, withholding sex for years and I can keep going. Now he got a Job out of state and left me but staying married to me. Help me. I want out......

@simpled3326

Жыл бұрын

I totally agree!

@phil692

Жыл бұрын

@@angelamcphail3749 Be gone when he gets back, it will show that you took your power back and it will show that you're on to him. This will be a blow to him to drive him insane.. Remove your emotions and get ghost..

@back2thebasicsx

Жыл бұрын

This is true. I learned the hard way even though the marriage was brief. There are certain red flags 🚩. If they talk as if they are always the hero or victim, so no one has been kind to them ever. Also, if they can’t stand their own company. This means that they don’t want to think, self reflect, and deal with reality. Just these two red flags 🚩 run. Don’t wait for the gaslighting, blame shift, word salad, or mirroring your empathy/compassion back to you. Just walk away.

went no contact 70 days now... some days are good.. some days are bad... BUT I am NEVER going back!!!

@brandonyoung2894

3 ай бұрын

Good for you. The the real work is done when no one‘s looking. But I acknowledge what you’re doing and I commend you on that. You’re planting good seeds and you will reap good fruit. If you need a friend to lean on I’m here.

@stellaariano7720

3 ай бұрын

@@brandonyoung2894 reap what you sow

@maureenbennett809

Ай бұрын

YES!! Good for you 💯😁

@tobynfinn123

22 күн бұрын

Well done, I'm exactly the same. I have been 2 months, the emotions are awful. But the future is bright. Although my narcissist is now sending flowers and love notes, after zero contact.

@turbodownwarddog

8 күн бұрын

Me too!! Hang tough!

The person you fell in love with never existed! Read that again. Accept it and move on. It may take years. Resist the Hoover

@vou5u

Жыл бұрын

Yes! That person was an intentional creation made in a house of mirrors.

@stellaariano7720

4 ай бұрын

How are you doing now any advice

@EMGEE718

3 ай бұрын

You're 100% correct.. it was all a dream..

The back up side piece soul mate has been promoted to cell mate. Cheers to you sweetie! you won the nightmare 🍻

@cindyallen4831

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@SM-tl9ls

Жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@davidemm829

Жыл бұрын

Cellmate, perfect..I'm stei g it, ty 😃

@dianelopez8344

Жыл бұрын

Break those chains 😂 Hell is what they will know

@lisaclancy433

Жыл бұрын

Behind bars luv it lol 😂 xxxxxx

Exactly! My narc discarded me when I started to question him, expose him, complaining, and being unhappy. He kept saying, WHY CAN'T YOU LET US BE HAPPY? WE CAN BE SO HAPPY BUT YOU JUST WON'T LET US! What he meant by that was, why can't you leave me alone to do as I please and to bang anyone I want without you constantly questioning me, complaining and being unhappy? 😮 WTF?

@kristenhill6961

8 ай бұрын

Yup! Mine discarded me for the same reason, but the excuses he gave were that he was tired of the negativity and that it was too toxic for him to commit (because of his own actions) and then he switched it up and said it was because he questioned his interpretation of love and that he knew I deserved better and he wanted me to be happy 🙄 all this only a couple weeks after I caught him dming a younger woman on Instagram and a week before liking pics of the new supply shortly after the discard

@4WallsDesigns

4 ай бұрын

@@kristenhill6961 They do have the same patterns don’t they?

@NatzTalk

3 ай бұрын

Same but I left his ass😂 he never saw it coming.

@danitapearson4075

Ай бұрын

Their Playback words right there!

Truly it doesn’t matter to me anymore whether he gets bored with his new supply or not. Either way, I’m never going down that road with him again. Goodbye Adios Ciao 👋

@natsdaley9615

Жыл бұрын

Preach ❤️

@karenk2409

Жыл бұрын

And Amen, sister!!

@edwardsanchez1542

11 ай бұрын

I still think about taking her back, then I come back to videos like this and think to myself what the hell am I thinking!

The narcissist is only interested and invested in the new supply as long as they can delude themselves into thinking that the new supply is triggering you, but if the narcissist gets an indication that you don’t give a damn then that shine quickly wears away and that is when the new supply starts getting the full blast of their narcissistic traits. The way they’re thinking is what is the point of having them around if the person they want to trigger isn’t jealous? This will cause a narcissistic rage driven by pure ego, and the new supply starts to get the brunt of that.

@roxyblahblahblog8016

Жыл бұрын

Good!

@wealldeserveloveandhappine7430

Жыл бұрын

I noticed when he was angry with me for not playing by his rules when it came to the back and forth in our child life. He would love bomb her and she would show it on fb. When that was forgotten. He was back to cheating on her😂 Ig he thought I would be distraught because he was making her a priority rather than our son😂😂

@faithgraves492

Жыл бұрын

Yes my narcissist child's father married his new supply quick of September of this year of 2022 it took me some time to not care but soon as he seen I didn't care nomore he flipped the script on her and now he showing her how he is smh now she making sad post on Facebook she was laughing at me and she thought if they got married she was above all the females he had in his life no he gone treat u the same way have fun girl !! Now he posting he single on Facebook and he still married to her smh now he in jail got his sister posting on his facebook saying he single I know she shock 😲

@bengreening9387

Жыл бұрын

Very well worded. Accurate too!

@dodibenabba525

Жыл бұрын

Oh goodo!

I shudder looking back that I was once his new supply, so naïve like a lamb to the slaughter. Never knew what narcissism was and im still suffering from the effects of his insidious mind games, manipulation, brain washing and control- then the devaluation gas lighting and discard, the destructive narcissistic abuse he dished out. No empathy , not human.

@Ferrys1220

Жыл бұрын

Such demons !

@goldenlady1213

Жыл бұрын

You're not alone. I never had a clue !!!!!

@vou5u

Жыл бұрын

It’s more common than u think. No regrets . Your future self thanks u! Take care !

@francesoakford241

Жыл бұрын

I am 52 and only just found out. But I am thankfull to realise now there are actual monsters roaming this earth. Dressed up in human skin.

@wheell2853

Жыл бұрын

So true. I had no idea that I was the new supply and someone before me felt like I do.

You said, "They've left you, They've found someone else"....It's just the opposite of that....They find someone else, then they leave you.

@karendiaz4106

3 ай бұрын

Exactly a supposed friend of mine , another narcissist So please tell me how that works?

Narcissist are done the moment they have you. It's why they cheat from the beginning of the marriage. The fact that they hide their behavior proves that they know it's wrong.

@ninath13

8 ай бұрын

That part it's intentional and they know deep down they're going to hurt no matter how good you are to them it will happen

After I forgave myself for loving them so much I let them hurt me I started getting better. I have been no contact almost a year and my mental clarity has vastly improved. Stay strong survivors

They are bitter and jealous that they can't outshine you.

@cocoamiller3992

Жыл бұрын

Period! So true whew some crazy creatures but I let him make me feel bad! Sucks but we have to move on

@Bondedprophet

Ай бұрын

This is the one ❤

My narcissist husband discarded me for a new supply after over 20 years.of marriage, that lasted only about 6 months, Karma kicked in, she happened to be a full blown promiscuous narcissist worst than him, as a good fake person, she fooled him and presented herself as a decent woman. She cheated on him more than once. When they were first together, he paraded her everywhere and on social media, something he never did with me.

@ladiebugs

Жыл бұрын

My story is the same.

@44kayleemic

Жыл бұрын

Thats one of their best tactics. Doing things they withheld from us for the new supply and ensuring you know about it. After all, if you didn't find out then what's the point in discard? In their mind we must be conditioned and punished so that when they should decide to hoover we are so broken that we are desperate to accept any scraps. I almost fell for it!

@blessedstar747

Жыл бұрын

Justice served cold!! He didn't deserve you. It's a facade to create an illusion that he's happy. Boy bye!!

@elizabethjimenez9729

Жыл бұрын

Yes, 😂 this is the comment I was looking for...this is what I told my husband today....we are separated but said this exact same thing

@goldenlady1213

Жыл бұрын

@@blessedstar747 ABSOLUTELY !!!!!! Boi bye and get the hell on quick, fast and in a dammm hurry !!!!!

“The new supply doesn’t have a clue!” THAT PART!! Better yours than mine girlfriend. 😂

@rosemaryrogers1478

Жыл бұрын

New supply should have a clue...especially when she interfered with your relationship

@lilkr8844

Жыл бұрын

I just want to give them the heads up but you can’t you’ll just be turned into a jealous ex

@cindyallen4831

Жыл бұрын

@@rosemaryrogers1478 They think they're "the cure" for the narcissist. They truly think WE were the problem and they will be everything the narcissist dreamed of. But, no mercy for the new supply when they know they're married, etc. We all know how this story ends....

@rosemaryrogers1478

Жыл бұрын

@@cindyallen4831 yeah...with you picking up the pieces of a shattered heart

@rosemaryrogers1478

Жыл бұрын

Now I feel like crying 😥😥😭😭😭

Every person the narc meets they think they found the one, every person in the narcs life is all the same to the narc. There is no upgrade or downgrade, there's just supply, what they need and or want at that very moment. They don't discriminate, supply is supply no matter who you are and what you look like.

No matter what i did it was wrong so I just started mirroring him. Then he discarded me.

I would say, on average, a narc is nice and all sweet for about 30 days. That’s my experience. Maybe less bc they have several supplies so balancing all of their supplies is probably an issue for narcs. So maybe it all depends on how their supplies are acting. Narcs are nuts so get out as soon as you can. Much love to all you good souls w narcs.

@jaclyncameron1137

Жыл бұрын

My ex slipped up 4weeks in and when I ended it, he went berserk! I wish I had of seen then that his not taking no and continuing to manipulate me back in wasn't because he loved me. I went back and forth so many times, each cycle was predictable. He was so paranoid and insecure, so needy. I really felt sorry for him. I think that was why I kept going back. He really did let me in and told me his dark thoughts and he did start trying to do the work. It just didn't last. I think it was too traumatic for him and he wasn't ready. I do believe that he has it in him to heal. But I won't be in his life ever again.

@AXA747

Жыл бұрын

Mine always lasted between 6-9 months before the discard although I am sure that’s because I stayed of his social media I never unblocked him so he could get away with it

@raenaj4749

Жыл бұрын

Mine was nice and sweet for about 2 years. Discard was about 8 years later

@nicoleharris5005

Жыл бұрын

30 days was my experience too!

@mynewlife1911

Жыл бұрын

@@nicoleharris5005 I hope you got away safely in tact love❤️. It’s a rough road. Take good care of you no matter what❤️

Narcs are so suprised and hurt when they "discard" you...but you didn't notice, because you didn't want to keep them in the first place.

I went through the emotions of anger and jealousy after she left me for a new supply, though now it has gone almost to humor. I know for a fact that, I was discarded because she couldn't stand that I was a happy, optimistic and a good hearted person that simply loves life. She tried to break me but I stood up for myself. Now I just sit back and laugh as she tries tactic after tactic to try and get my attention to close in for a hoover.

@shinebright9490

Жыл бұрын

He did everything to destroy me after discard. I think he discarded me because he couldn't make me cry anymore and I just didn't engage. I will admit the smear campaigns has been horrific. Criminal actually. And he still hasn't stopped trying to destroy my reputation.

@ancientalien4047

Жыл бұрын

Same here! I went from shock, confusion and hurt to quiet laughter about how she is gaslighting the new supply (I know him). But I'm not telling him... he'll have to learn it the hard way, just like I did.

@joshuaanzalone2060

Жыл бұрын

Yes Denis they cut you off because they realize I am not on this person's level and they know who I am. I have to go now. They want to come back to tear you down and see if you have let it go and will remain their doormat. Love yourself and learn to say NO MORE.

@harmonycarpenter1894

Жыл бұрын

Same… I basically torcher my narc new supply… I send her screen shots of him trying to get back to me.. I send her videos of her part… I send him pics of my new man.. it’s driving them both crazy and I sit back and laugh lol…

@lisaclancy433

Жыл бұрын

My ex narc is the same!! Left him 12 years ago and he still tries to get near my energy he is also sleeping with my so called friend of 30 years!! When I found I laughed it was clearly to try to make me jealous but she cun have him take him to the other end of the world get married you both have my blessing!! Lol 😂 I'm freeeeeeeeeee happy loved so so much xxxxx

I was the new supply - 4 years after the divorce I'm still thinking wtf 🤔

Yep they aren't happy! New supply will be gone just like you were.

As the ex of a narcissist.. this was very accurate. My ex narc is with the new supply and contacting me regularly trying to convince me that he's a changed man and faithful now 😂

@Ferrys1220

Жыл бұрын

😂

@loyaltyb71052

Жыл бұрын

Lol, I always wondered why they do this. Man they're so sick but they're so bad you can't have ANY sympathy for them. They just run around with their MAGICAL THINKING!

@mariefricchione437

11 ай бұрын

Once a cheater…..

@lucie7681

9 ай бұрын

😂😂😂poor her they never change

@carriebell3566

8 ай бұрын

While doing the same thing he did with his ex before you at the beginning of the relationship 😂

For Narcs its all about being excited what lasts for some days at max. After that the devaluation begins.

I broke into his phone and saw so many messages between them, he did exactly the same things , one text from his side trash even told him “it’s better to write , I don’t feel heard when we talk”…DUH, it actually made me feel better at the time, he’s the same miserable person. She must have had to work really hard with the empty promises of marriage. In the end, she got nothing but it’s amazing to me how many people are ok starting a “relationship “ with someone they know is still married

@esthero1994

Жыл бұрын

Its actually kind of sad. The new supply told me she didn't mind sharing 😳...i told her that was great because you won't ever be the only one in a situationship with that demon. I said that belongs to you and the community. I haven't looked back.

@ashleykathryn9038

Жыл бұрын

I almost went on a date with a man until he told me him and his wife are "separated" but still married. No thank you, I cancelled the date and stopped talking to him after that.

@goldenlady1213

Жыл бұрын

These cold blooded side pieces of trash don't care about breaking up marriages and families. They actually get a kick out of being involved with married people and reaking havoc in every way possible. At the end of the day you realize that donkey $#%! and rat $#%! will ALWAYS be one and the same....... so let the garbage and the trash take itself out !!!!!!!!!!!

@goldenlady1213

Жыл бұрын

@@esthero1994 Yes indeed !!!!

@oilselevated4808

Жыл бұрын

@@goldenlady1213 he died (10 months ago), she replaced him within months…still living in her mothers guest room, 5&7 year old kids in tow..and yes, total trash!!!

My Narc didn't get bored of me until 5.5 years into the relationship, then withdrew from affection and sex for 8 months, then I realised what was happening, he had done the same thing to his ex before me and he accused him of cheating...just like he told everyone I cheated on him which is the reason he withdrew....I found out afterwards he was cheating all along which is why sex was far and between 🤨

@TheTiscali1

Жыл бұрын

When they start cheating they accuse you of cheating and they know your not. It's just an excuse to start the discarding process.

@marybethborylo918

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. Them projecting on to us what they are doing creates in their sick twisted mind that we are all bad , which I’m turns makes them feel superior over us cause they left first & therefor they can take no blame or responsibility for the the “ end” they walk away feeling zero guilt or shame …. Just to start it all over again with another “ toy” in our place. I really feel mine is & was just a sexual predator. They spend their whole lives just playing games with people to meet their needs .

@deewarr278

Жыл бұрын

Same thing happened to me but I had a baby in year 5 and now I have to coparent after the divorce. Stay strong healing starts and you get back to yourself and joy comes ❤😊 with Faith in GOD

@Fairgreentube

Жыл бұрын

Hey Mike, I am so sorry to hear that in my experience we met in 2006 he had his first affair in 2009 I immediately broke things off with him and told him it was fine and I moved on very quickly He then started to pursue me I rejected him but then my mom felt ill and unfortunately passed from cancer he helped me through that experience which kept my family at ease knowing that I wasn’t going through this alone From 2010 to 2018 we lived as a couple without discussing the initial break up in 2009 Towards the end of 2018 he started a new affair with a guy in Brazil Fast forward to 2022 he is still engaged to that guy but has added many supply units that all live in different parts of Brazil so they have no way of knowing about each other He only speaks Portuguese when he’s on the phone so that I don’t understand like you I went through his phone and saw all of the messages and that’s when he came clean as well

@lisastark8907

Жыл бұрын

If they chested the whole time, they were never invested enough in you to become bored.

They don't care about anyone

10:26 they do have an ability to change. Not in a good way...they change by getting better at hiding who they are, being more covert. Finding new ways to be deceptive, manipulative and generally disrespectful.

@soundmindproject1266

Жыл бұрын

Mine even admitted he wouldn't make the same mistakes with the new one. Crazy putting the puzzle together after no contact

@vou5u

Жыл бұрын

Yes!

@c3909

Жыл бұрын

And they learn that mostly , by stealing the character traits of their beautiful souls victims. They can't really steal that from a person but they can learn how to appear more empathetic and covert and insidious. They don't only get into relationships for supply but as well as learning better how to appear normal and fool people. ❤️

@allthingsjana7870

10 ай бұрын

Exactly what mine is doing!

@kellithomas9080

9 ай бұрын

Soooo so true! I was duped after years thinking he’d changed. We started going to church together, couples counseling, praying together, etc. he was still doing all kinds of stuff behind my back. When I questioned him, he went off and said “he can’t do this anymore. No matter what changes I make, you always find something wrong” he just thought he could manipulate me and those other things would hide what he’s really doing…but my intuition never failed me and he called me crazy and insecure and a person who will never be happy. 🤭 I know better than that now. Working on a plan to have as least contact with him as possible, since we share a child together.

Thank you for this video. I think that is one of the toughest things to deal with in feeling like we were not good enough but the new supply is. They do things for the new supply that they didn't do for us, look up to them, compliment them, etc. This is definitely a struggle for me thinking that I was not enough when I did so much for him and loved him unconditionally. We just need to realize they are doing the exact same thing they did to us in the very beginning.

@tonyg5132

Жыл бұрын

Well said

@theguynextdoor4978

Жыл бұрын

I've been struggling with this too. Because of the marriage I was in, I have bailed on multiple women who showed interest. It's almost like I have this "icky narc alert" going off in my stomach. Many people fall into this trap of believing they will be this good samaritan who magically change the Narc. We all know that 99% of the time they are not changing. Personality disorders in general have an extremely low prognosis of changing. The best thing to do is to stay quiet, don't expose the narc and let the mask drop in time.

@rosemaryrogers1478

Жыл бұрын

All that good treatment..it’s just a illusion

@rosemaryrogers1478

Жыл бұрын

@@theguynextdoor4978 as it will🔥🔥

@esthero1994

Жыл бұрын

You were too healthy that's what the problem was. The new supply is just being used and abused. If they stay together long its because the recycle has a high tolerance for abuse. Just be glad its over as hard as it is...rather cry for a bit than to waste a lifetime playing these fools sick games.

As much as I am moving on having discarded her, I know, though not who, there has to be new supply. 3 weeks before I tossed her, she went heavy on the secretiveness and cancelations and so on. The wound is still raw though, and when you say they "think they've hit the jackpot..." I have to take a listening break. That was me. I was SOOO sucked in, so convinced I met my dream girl. You all know the story. I'm free, I'm healing, it takes time

@tonyg5132

Жыл бұрын

Interesting. My narc went roughly 3 weeks of secretiveness too along with lying, being deceitful about plans by not following through, before ghosting me. The pain is really unbearable sometimes.

@voulapetrakos7508

Жыл бұрын

Me too and married him at 15 but what hurts me more then anything it’s our son’s mother n law and both married and her husband is on his death bed never ever thought it would be her I could see him acting like crazy even tough he was calling me crazy even tough I picked his phone up and could not believe he told me our marriage was over since 2016but he waited to tell me when I caught him denying it 💯🤥👿👎🐍 I wish u the best keep it up 👍🌈🌈🌈

@44kayleemic

Жыл бұрын

Same here! He packed his stuff 3 weeks before I discarded and never packed his things away despite refusing to leave - he was securing supply at quick speed. Found out he moved in with new supply within 3 weeks it's been 6 months he's still there, your instincts were correct!

@De-tw7by

Жыл бұрын

Don't marry another woman and never make women the top priority of life.

@esthero1994

Жыл бұрын

That old supply has been their believe it. This one was playing me, I'm sure the whole time. We were together 10yrs...him and the recycle were together 2 before I found out. She knew about me, i think that was going to be her escape plan. Your wife wants you so i should leave. Since she doesn't have a back bone....sorry buddy that's yours and the community's. keep that mess, thanks for the favor though. She won the prize of being his doormat.

I left my ex when I had enough and then caught him cheating, he denied it, stupid fool, I actually told him I saw him, it was gaslighting at it’s best. I ended up laughing it was the best thing he ever did for me, it finally made me leave him for good, blocked and no contact. However he actually had 3 other supplies that I found out about afterwards as well as me, how he found the time I will never know 😂 they have all left him now and he has no one. He has let himself go put on lots of weight, has a drink problem, cries and tells everyone he has cancer for sympathy, so glad I don’t have to listen to all his rubbish anymore.

@blessedstar747

Жыл бұрын

Justice served cold !

How often does the supply take the ultimate out by suicide? The person I dated dumped me for another woman. I refused to take him back over 5 years while he dated her, moved her in then married her. She committed suicide about 8 years in. I can’t help but think how I dodged the bullet. May she rest in peace.

@niyuki87

Жыл бұрын

I am curious about the numbers too... it is really devastating to know the person you loved never existed. This people are truly demonic.

@dididisun

Жыл бұрын

Wow... what a tragedy. She couldn't take the abuse any longer... really hope she is in peace now. But please don't blame yourself, suicide is a Choice that people make, no one forced us to do so. So you are not responsible for anyone's decision to end their lives especially you never did any harm on her. Although I can understand where your agony comes from... poor soul.. really hope she is in peace with our heaven father

@darcybarwick6404

Жыл бұрын

@@niyuki87 in my opinion they are occupied by demons

@scuttletheship656

8 ай бұрын

​@@dididisunyour response is sincere and thoughtful. God bless you and anyone struggling with this insidious abuse. It makes me wonder how often this happens and the victim is called crazy or mentally ill, that's why they committed suicide. These narcissistic abusers should be held accountable in this life and be put in prison. The devil will get them in the eternity.

After 18months he said „the nice guy is gone, I do now what I want!“ and so it began …. I am free now 💚

A narc is great fun for the first few dates, the first few sex flings. Then, you may as well move on...because you've gotten the Best of the Narc already. It's all downhill after that.

It's ADORABLE how she thinks he won't do her dirty in the same way she participated in. Lol. Good lucky sweetie. Too cute.

She brought the new supply to my apartment to get the rest of her things. I gave them no emotion. This is the same guy that she says was coming to her job stalking her. He's just as jacked up as she is they deserve each other. A day before her picking up her things she came over trying to hug me telling me she misses me and all. I politely gave her a handshake and went about my business.

That's really true. They never satisfied or content they just ungrateful soul.

One time I told a narc that I was bored, omg it was effective it made him worried 😂😂

He made me into his mother and then he hated me. I would have loved him through anything at all.

My ex husband is a narcissist. He remarried soon after we divorced. Ironically, folks/friends/family responded on Facebook that they look like a great couple while we were still married! 🤯😳🤔🤫🤯😳🤥🤔🤫🤥

@goldenlady1213

Жыл бұрын

When people agree to cosign in on bad behavior its a great indicator that they aren't any good either.

@mypeace101

Жыл бұрын

Sad and too familiar.

@evee_peavey

11 күн бұрын

Yeah ex-best friend (CN) just now filed for divorce, after she's been cheating with an old ex of hers (ON) for a year and a half. The ON was married to another friend of mine, she divorced him last year over the cheating already. I was just in the middle getting manipulated by the CN, so I'd keep her secret. Which i sort of did, but I did tell my friend that she should probably leave her ON husband because he wasn't loyal to her. Only after that did we all realize that they are both scoring high for narcissistic behavior. I left the CN around the time the ON got his divorce... They kept sleeping around all that time I assume.. till about 2 weeks ago when the CN filed for divorce and they simultaneously went public with their relationship. They are apparently proudly prancing around, flaunting their happiness. While the divorce procedure hasn't even officially started yet. Yeah.. that hardly looks sus ... She is now dragging me through a smear campaign probably because I know too much... It's gonna be an interesting year. I think that relationship is gonna crash and burn within a year. I just feel sorry for her kid, she really doesn't deserve to go through this 😢 she's barely 4yo.

You are so right. I was the new supply back in March. It just ended last month. I’m an empath and the relationship was so toxic. I did everything to please him and got nothing back. He manipulated me until I didn’t know reality anymore. I saw things and he spun it around till I believed him. I was working harder and harder and I got nothing back. Nothing. And at the end he humiliated me and I dumped him. He didn’t care. He called me once after the break up trying to be nice but I knew his game. He said I left something at his house. I told him to throw it away. He hasn’t called back since.

@kristenhill6961

8 ай бұрын

Block him and change your number. There's been many times where he's discarded me and once where I discarded him and he consistently hoovered. I also told him to throw my stuff away. Stay strong and silent. Don't give in. I was in that toxic cycle for almost 3 years and I knew he was a narc for at least half of it sadly. I wasn't strong enough and then the final discard happened last month. I should have walked away a long time ago and stayed gone.

@danitapearson4075

Ай бұрын

Wish one of his new girls would read your post to be made aware. Congrats on you finding a way out and being smarter then the game

Can’t they come up with a urinalysis for narcissists. This way we can test them before we get trapped in their web of lies. 😂

One line from the video is soo important for the people in the back...."NOTHING ABOUT THESE PEOPLE OR THE SITUATION YOU ENCOUNTERED ARE REAL!" IT WAS ALL BASED ON TRANSACTIONS and ACTING!! A lot of us just didnt know that we showed up to be apart of a fools play...

Prayers for all of the new supply.

The education on the subject is so important. In my personal situation I knew I did everything I could. So when she was leaving I said “best of luck” and you could see the panic in her face realizing I was done for good lol.

So TRUE! Once I realize this about new supply I was done with questioning why not me! New supply is totally opposite-she’s meek, mild, and agreeable! But I wasn’t for the BS and I raised questions & objections about the bad behaviors! After 12 years he discarded me like I was never there! Because of you I now say Thank You!

My narcissistic ex used to rub in my face that she’s only been in long term relationships yet we were on the rocks a month or two in (she was with her recent ex when she was 22-28. Apparently every ex before that lasted more than a year lol bless their hearts). I now realize it’s because they were likely young and/or codependent but I was probably the first one who stood up to her. She said she was “concerned” that we had so much conflict early in our relationship; and I said I was concerned why me expressing my feelings in a calm respectful way was being seen as “conflict,” instead of a learning opportunity. Now it makes sense lol

@realtaravlogs7223

Жыл бұрын

Omg i relate to everything you just said !!!!! He also told me he had only been in long-relationships and threw it in my face that I had only been in short-term relationships. Reality is , I just know when to leave! Lol. And he also mentioned that same thing to me, that he was “nervous” that “conflict happened so early on” and now I’m seeing he was nervous that I was catching onto him. Wow

@ld921

8 ай бұрын

This ! No matter how calm and respectful I tried to resolve issues, I was always blamed for causing drama, these people are unhealthy af!

So sad they feel the need to operate in such a way. That is so draining and just full of false hood, deceiving themselves into thinking they are highly intelligent and superior by being "master manipulators"....to sit up thinking and plotting on ways to just be vile is moderately perverted. Really wicked behavior. When you break free from such a thing....MOVE FORWARD, HEAL.....AND NEVER LOOK BACK!!

@lucindaharris4201

Жыл бұрын

Amen!!!!!!!🎉 yes Lord and I .. Did

The "New Supply" only lasts untill they stop giving the narcissist what they want, especially money. I know one that views everyone as a free ATM. Constantly burning through "friends" as people get fed up with being used.

They keep exs on hold. Always. It’s sad.

The lack of empathy was the first red flag and when I get sick he completely ignored my ailments and he simply said he want sex while I was suffering from hypothermia.i was shocked 😲.

@HorizonHipHop

Жыл бұрын

Yup. Mine came when I had surgery she came for 5 mins then bounced. Whenever she was sick I'd take care of her, tea, soup, medicine, etc. When I got sick I had to take care of myself.

@djw8504

Жыл бұрын

Mine asked me if I wanted to go to the bar and play Bingo to get my mind off of losing my sweet momma that day! I can’t believe it!! After she passed away, I left the 7yr relationship. These things are evil!! 🙏

@kristenhill6961

8 ай бұрын

​@@HorizonHipHopoh wow! Mine was a little more generous. He yelled at me post surgery on the phone asking me to speak up when I physically couldn't. I just got my gallbladder removed. He came by for 20 minutes, treated me like a friend, then dipped because he had other things he needed to do

Validation and attention. Yes the priority is to achieve this everyday and they think that other people/the outside world are looking at them and talking about them as if they are royalty. Thanks, this was a very good episode

I can tell you via experience that the narcissist is only using the next one.......and they always come back......all the narc relationships end.....if a man has had a heap of short term relationships....like 3 dates 3 month length.....their a narc. Slept with more than 100 girls is a sociopath.......

I am so glad I have nothing connecting me to mine. I don't go looking at social media, we didn't have any mutual friends...I'm sure that was also why we stayed together as long as we did. He was able to live his alternate life in peace for the most part, but I think that comfort made him sloppy and his inconsistency caused me to ask questions, which of course was a no-no.

@YT-fo7sy

8 ай бұрын

Similar with me. We live in different states. We have no family/friend connections and he didn’t have social media. I felt he has a new supply and I left him after he crossed my boundary of no weekend disappearing. So we can only guess how long she will last but I will never know. It’s all good. Time for me to move on to better anyway. .

Mine got bored of his new supply quick and started talking to me again saying how much he missed me. He didn't think I knew he was with someone and kept lying about it. I called him out and said I'm glad I'm the girl you are lying about instead of the one you are lying too. And I told him I know you aren't happy with her, or you wouldn't be talking to me. Of course, I got called crazy and was blocked 😂 Go treat someone else bad. I'm done with all of that.

@jboopsie

4 ай бұрын

Tell me why, I can just imagine his temper tantrum like a little kid, as I read your comment 😂😂😂

I stopped being compliant and refused to co-sign or anything else. He found new supply quickly. If I knew it was that easy I would have done it years ago. If you stop cooperating they will find someone new.

My latest narc only lasted 2 weeks in love bombing and then started the devaluation. I told him i refuse to be his old furniture he's ignoring... 3 weeks later he told me he's not ready for a relationship, i knew then and there he's found someone else that is putting up with his bs. One week later I went full no contact and he moved in about 10 days out of his flat with his new supply. If i would know where she live i would send her 2 cards: 1. Thank you for taking him from my life 2. Condolences!

@jboopsie

4 ай бұрын

Not the THANK YOU CARD 😂😂😂😂😂😂

Her problem now, or will soon be. I had the patience of a saint (sadly) and am far more tolerant of idiot games than most. If she has more patience than me then she is definitely in for an even bigger world of pain and financial loss, poor thing. Of course he isn’t as young as he likes to appear, so she might be playing nursemaid for a control freak in the not too distant future.

@beverlee339peay9

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like you’re hurting and gonna never fully heal. At least for a long time. Healing is something you got to want work at and pray about it. It don’t happen on it on.

You are correct... nothing makes her happy. She only wanted what she could not have. At the point of no return I finally made her leave. She tried 2 times to get back in but she cannot have me now. I hope all this nothing makes her happy.

They bring the end to the new beginning because its always to get back at the last person(s) until they say NO or they get tired...its like going fishing..good bait ends in a hot oven!People pleasing will drain you. A kid in a grown up body. They won't take the time to get fixed just move to another person.

Omg I needed this so much! In hindsight I understood everything about the narc I've been with EXCEPT for why I was discarded so much quicker than the other women. But now I see that I was just 'bad supply' because I communicated my wants & needs, de-masked his contradictory behaviour (talking future faking, then orbiting, breadcrumbing, treating me disrespectfully, telling me he likes me a lot, never apologizing) & set boundaries. I guess I was actually too strong for him 🙃

@vou5u

Жыл бұрын

Why the upside down laugh? 😊😊😊

@mda193

Жыл бұрын

@@vou5u Not sure how to feel :')

@Angel-gp6tx

Жыл бұрын

Yup pretty much. My honesty got me out quicker.

@InHonourOfChester

Жыл бұрын

same. I question him about many stuff. He wants me to "report" my whereabouts every single minute. I questioned him about why must I reply his text immediately everytime, i question him why is he always so negative, even though i tried my best to pull him out of the dark. @Ask Anoushka

The ex narc is telling and bragging to his friends that he's only using his new supply for sex and money...oh what a mess

I jus wished I was educated on all this before I lost everything. But even tho it’s a struggle rn, I’m at peace!

@blessedstar747

Жыл бұрын

You will recover it all! Can't place a price on a piece of mind.

My ex moved on FAST to a relationship with a woman who has been after him for ages (and caused issues in our relationship). She’s a narc who treats him like a dog (was so vile to him in their fights) and despite that she was the first person he ran to after I left him and went NC. She knows how to deal with him because they’re the same person, but yeah I just wanted to say that sometimes the new supply is someone from the same dirty swamp they came from. 2 weeks after we break up he’s going on holiday with her. Kicking this vermin out of my life was the best thing I did.

@AndrewDaniele87

7 ай бұрын

oh man, I couldn't even imagine what would happen if my ex got with someone like her, makes me stressed just thinking about it hah

@spirit_queen

6 ай бұрын

@@AndrewDaniele87 she would simply get a taste of her own poison and get played by a narc who is smarter than her

I feel sorry for all the future victims

I didn’t know I was with a malignant narcissistic for the past 27 years. I just knew something was wrong and that he was not ‘ok’. I felt like I was not me anymore. After years of abuse and destruction I realised nothing I did would ever be enough for him and that he was broken and ‘unfixable’... dark. Thanks to channels like these I can now understand it. I’m only 8 weeks out and the process is tougher than I imagined. I had to flee or I felt for sure I would literally lose my life with him. He’s after me in every way imaginable, even moved and followed me 1800kms away, but also high on his new supply within a few days of my leaving, love bombing her to death, well an old supply to be honest, someone he’s had on and off affairs with every time he couldn’t get validation from me. Always saying he hated me but never left me in almost thirty years together. I was so hurt all those years of cheating and back burner relationships but now I just think they have no idea what they are in for. The other supplies are just a game to them. Mine is likely about to go to jail for yet another contravention of the protective order. That’s a small blessing perhaps?? Dunno?? Wonder what supply he will find in there?? Trying to look ahead and see a different me!!

@sirremedy-nu3so

Жыл бұрын

He'll find another supply in jail for sure. One that will love bomb him with a bar of soap in the shower😮

@Angel-gp6tx

Жыл бұрын

Hi how are you feeling? Have u begun to feel better😮

@tanyawatts3896

Жыл бұрын

@@Angel-gp6tx yes getting stronger all the time, at least on one level, the new chapter of the new narrative of my life. Still deep and painful processing on the other level, the old story of my life, the last chapters of that narrative. If you understand what I mean? The pain is deep and almost not able to be expressed. But I can heal and recognise who I am and my strength and beauty. He cannot, his sentence is lifelong because he is his own enemy. Thank you for reaching out. How are you? Are you ok?

Ha they cheat from day one!

The longer the new supply stays with the Narc without figuring them out, the dumber they are. There's definitely a correlation!

@ich6636

6 ай бұрын

Or the longer they accept their behavior for their pocket 🙄

Day in day out we just sit on the couch watching t.v I bead and sew but he does absaloutely nothing with me.i have dreams and goals and he has no ambition at all

These are very sick individuals!!! Thank you for this very informative video!!! ❤

He's giving her everything I wanted making me feel I wasn't good enough, he said "she loves me"!! 😳😳 Like I never did, my mind is fucked from him, said I strung him along for years, twisted everything, ur not the same after experiencing a narcissist

@soundmindproject1266

Жыл бұрын

Mine told me I didn't know how to love when he brutally discarded me for another woman. I was given a long list of things wrong with me... What was wrong with the new one? She didn't have enough time for him - he wanted to see her more. Struggling to put it in the past. Such hurtful experiences 🤷

@alisoncullen1081

Жыл бұрын

@@soundmindproject1266 yeah they just hop on to the next person so easily, I can't get my head around that, because I was thinking how can someone shift their emotions so quickly on to someone else, but then remembered a narc doesn't feel deep emotions, and he told me the new one "loves him" like I never did 🤷🏻‍♀️I loved him with all my heart, so it's not that, he just got bored of me!! He did try to get me back but I said no, it's not love its trauma bond, very very difficult experience to go thru, I hope you find happiness whether it be on your own or in a partnership 💕

@pnranjelik5612

Жыл бұрын

Had a very similar experience! So true that I am not the same anymore after my narc ex. We are in the same boat. Stay strong and give yourself ‘self love’ dear.

@alisoncullen1081

Жыл бұрын

@@pnranjelik5612 that's exactly what I'm doing 👌😁 thank you and be proud of yourself for moving on, it's not easy ❤️

I am a salsa dancer. We are in the same group of salsa entertainment and event. I blocked him every where and 2 weeks after trying to get back with me( obviously I refused), he went to that event with new top model girlfriend and made sure pictures were taken. I look at the pictures and I was shocked to see that she seemed to be madly in love with him. She even posted a comment saying he was the love of her life. That’s when I realized she was desperate for love … like I was when I met him. Come on 2 weeks later you send this message 🤨

I was never good enough. But was made to feel I was In the beginning

They're on a different level of absolute derangement!

The Narcissist and her sister are both running on the same platform, they were so jealous of my life and they wanted that for themselves. Even my own friend told me how jealous they were over me. And now because they wanted what I have my life style and everything, they have copied my life style and moved on to other people that have the same life style as me but with more money and bigger toys. So these people are faking it with the new people because they wanna take from them as well and use them and I wish I could warn them but I know I can't because they won't believe me and they are just gonna have to find out on their own. But it's very annoying what they are doing and they try to play it off like they haven't done anything to me or I'm stupid or something like I haven't figured them out. These people are so fake and they are winning because they fake it with everybody they get with. Sad thing about it some of these people who they have met through other sources I know some of these people. These narcissist are con artist and opportunist! These people need to be stopped.

I’m the one who got away as I knew who/what he was. He created havoc for me for years. No more. Im on a new path.

Hi id just like to let you know your videos have helped me so much,35years with a covert narc had me wondering if i was good enough.thank you for the incite and i think im starting to feel like i really matter,she really put me through pain,i saved her life twice anyway three years no contact and im starting too feel good thank you.

There are very hurt,and confused people.there are hurting themselves the most

Wow this is crazy when you look at it. Because everything is true what you’re saying good thing they have these things out nowadays so you can understand it’s not you.

Thank so much, I am entirely grateful. I send out love to all that has and are in the narcs relationship and hope they all find knowledge that will save them all to safety.

I feel sorry for her next victim.

The devil never sleeps so they never run out of suppliers. Aka: victims. I wish I could warn unsuspecting people. 🥺

@Ferrys1220

Жыл бұрын

They won’t believe you especially when they are being love bombed

I must of been a really really good supply because I maintained the situationship for 32 years of marriage. I divorced him 4 years ago. I warned the next supply and saved her from him. I wish someone would of for me 🥺

@mypeace101

Жыл бұрын

I kind of want to warn the next Supply but as someone else stated I wonder if she's a narcissist too and I'm just waiting to find out how this is going to end for them😅

@donnawaters4700

Жыл бұрын

Me 2 but I did warn the next one he is a covert narcisst she kept he gard up

The new supply and I are actually friends now 🥲❤️ she’s awesome. We’re going over our stories and how they’re so similar! I was the supply for 4 years and she for 1 year. I rarely questioned my ex and he did everything behind my back. Whereas she called him out on every little inconsistency. He’s telling people “I cheated” and that she was “crazy”. Sadly, we might have to start a group chat at some point. Honestly, we live in a small city, people will eventually see his true character if they haven’t already.

@ladiebugs

Жыл бұрын

My soon to be ex-narcissist husband's new supply is also his flying monkey. I also believe she is a narcissist herself. She doesn't allow him to speak to me yet we were together for over 20 years. She is extremely controlling and egocentric.

@tamar1ta

Жыл бұрын

@@carrieoff yeah it can be pretty risky to befriend an old supply. Everyone’s experience is different. I think I’m my case there was just way too much evidence he was cheating on her the whole time and he even reached out to me while they were together. I had no idea they were even dating. He tried calling us back to back recently lol. He’s desperate for attention.

@Ericrr79

Жыл бұрын

Interesting, maybe i can dig up her old supply and compare notes lol

@Ericrr79

Жыл бұрын

@@carrieoff narc radar is something everyone needs

@elizabethjimenez9729

Жыл бұрын

Awesome story

To those of you discarded, cheated on then seeing a "glorious" new relationship broadcast days later, remember it's FALSE. I was cheated on constantly, not that I knew... dumped very callously and he was engaged within 4 weeks to a woman I can only think should know much better in her 50s - i was laughing when he propsed numerous times, before he said he was "only joking! But she fell for it fully😅 Total no contact by me, one overt hoover attempt and I suspect, flying monkeys .... 5 months later, it's falling apart....he was caught cheating more than once, his new love of life getting suspicious. The lies continue...tick tock. Ps we're in a village, that's the only way I hear stuff. Zero interest but worth y'all knowing It's all disgusting and pathetic and empty rhetoric

My narcissist ex said in the very beginning she felt I was amazing and perfect and feared that she wouldn’t be good enough, that she wouldn’t be able to be what I needed and deserved. There was plenty of vulnerability early on.

@kristenhill6961

8 ай бұрын

My ex told me early on too. I ignored the flags. He said "you know you wouldn't like it if you dated me" then later it was "You chose to be here." "You'll resent yourself your whole life if you choose to stay next to me" then after the discard "you deserve better and that's not me. I don't deserve you. I want you to be happy and I want the best for you" so plenty of moments of clarity that I chose to ignore because I loved the a hole and accepted the breadcrumbs for 3 years.

@Indite_Biden

7 ай бұрын

Same

I believe they get tired of everything everyone

Well, what I see on his new supply's social media posts is that my ex has been love bombing and mirroring her, for almost a year! Maybe she's a narcissist herself and they are competing / playing each other out. I can't wait to see the ending soon!

@mypeace101

Жыл бұрын

Oh my this sounds like a story that I'm waiting for the end of too!😂😂😂😂

You get it and convey it so succinctly!! Thank you! May every survivor find this video and learn the antidote to the BPD/ NPD -TRUTH!

Immediately then on to the next one

Thank you for this. I am just getting out of a relationship with a narcissist...and he was very abusive.

@user-dc9ei7fz8r

Жыл бұрын

I hope you stay focused and keep away

@vanessahiner1736

Жыл бұрын

@@user-dc9ei7fz8r I am doing my best to stay focused and am definitely keeping away from him. I hope the same for you...and thank you.

In trying to make it easy for them they actually end up making it harder for everyone else

My narcissistic ex was calling me while with her so this is the truth!

Medication and therapy can't Fix it. - that is very very interesting. Ive been analysing My situation for a very long time. These videos are very helpful.

Is love bombing had me floating on cloud nine I thought I met my dream man although something wasn’t quite right he suffered from highs and lows one weekend it would be fabulous the next weekend we argue this went on for 2 1/2 years till I moved in and then once I moved in, it became a nightmare for 18 months until I started feeding off his vibes and toxic behavior and I ended up becoming worse than him. He threw me out. He only called me twice and it’s been five months. I can’t believe he just discarded me like I was an old pair of shoes.

@BlueJeansandJellyBeans

Жыл бұрын

Be glad.

@Indite_Biden

7 ай бұрын

I feel this.

You are spectacular! I can not explain how much you have helped me to recover from the abuse I suffered. Thank you so much for your videos.

Thank you so much. He will leave us next Tuesday. I can't believe he will leave us. Me and his toddler. After 14 years of marriage. I gave him everything and unfortunately unconditional love. It hellp to hear that nothing will be enough for him. Cause I already doubted me so much. I'm just shattered and at the same time I feel empty.

Ever since the beginning,my marriage of 40 years has been a sham. I just realised that I was blind till it all stared at my face in the form of a mistress 20 years his junior!!!

I'd hate to be living life like this. I am *SO* glad God has made me who I am and that's genuinely loving to help people because I care. I could never hurt someone intentionally. When it happens unintentionally, I feel so bad. This is what I remind myself of every time I feel bad for the narc cad that tried to bring me down with him. Love yourself, yall. You got this. 💛😍💪🏾

I feel so sorry for the next woman. I hope she’s strong because the pain he leaves behind is unbearable, but he was my twin flame and we were connected spiritually even though he’s a narcissist and I’m an empath this is the first man that has destroyed me to push me into therapy. Yeah I feel sorry for the next one. I hope she’s stronger than me and I hope to God she doesn’t love him the way I did.

@carrieoff

Жыл бұрын

What is a twin flame? Seems an odd term to link with a narc.

@danacooper3646

Жыл бұрын

@@carrieoff I understand her comment as an empath too. Empaths are a rare catch for narcs. Both come from traumatic childhoods / life experiences. Makes it more likely for a narc and an empath to connect on a different level. A level I wish I didn't have with my own ex narc.

@TheSpiritRoom23

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes we mistake a karmic relationship for a twin flame. A twin flame can be toxic but not as toxic as a karmic also, he/she could be a false twin flame. Look that one up too it will tell you if they showing signs of narcissism they are not your twin flame at all. Your twin flame should be their true self and allow you to be your true self too.

@vou5u

Жыл бұрын

Nar are experts in being all of their targetS twin flame. That’s a lot of twins !!! Reminds me of minions …

Oh my god that’s so true after he realized me in he did nothing to maintain the relationship. It was me doing the running the giving the doing for taking care of the crying and begging after an argument, saying I was sorry when I wasn’t and he would just sit there with that look on his face he knew we had me lock Stock and barrel until he stripped me from from myself, I didn’t even know who I was the last week I was with him I was looking at a stranger in the mirror every morning

@vou5u

Жыл бұрын

Trust you’re better now !