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It’s disgusting to know I was in a relationship with this type of person and wasn’t aware of it until afterwards. Very destructive selfish immature evil people drained the life force out of me. I am healing and my light has returned we must keep the devil away at all costs

@Redpill1962

Жыл бұрын

And it’s a great thing that you know the truth and can recover ❤

@Fnberg744

Жыл бұрын

You are not alone.

They don't care whom their with, you can be the best or the worst. Doesn't matter! So give your time and love to the person who deserves it.

@beachampion8472

Жыл бұрын

I agree. Narcissists are ungrateful beings, demoniac. They are never satisfy no matter what you do, how kind you are. I’m so happy finally to leave my narcs ex. I’ve been struggling a lot in that relationship. It’s a waste of time to be with someone who is deeply emotional , no logical thinking at all. Gaslighting hovering, insulting , devaluing you, put down your worth, comparing you to other people. I’m so disappointed in myself for how stupid I was ? But I’ve learned and I’m on my healing journey and I’m trying to stay strong. Narcissists don’t deserve to be loved. They are very evil.

@lilkr8844

Жыл бұрын

What Kat D said ❤

@lucasessman1910

Жыл бұрын

Not true necessarily lol

@Nicole-fl8gv

Жыл бұрын

I totally agree!!! my ex was with women that made five figures a year to middle class all the way down to drug addicts she did not care as long as you were letting him get his own way, and to be honest from what I watched him do well first off the other type, which was blonde, single mothers, but what I would watch is I notice if you went with somebody that was a drug addict since they had less self-worth she could really be sadistic to them sexually emotionally. The worst treatment you could possibly endure he got away with them. He treated you according to a sliding scale. Basically it was one person for his public image that he went around his family and friends, with which wasn’t anything to be proud of that was me, and then there was the ones he could call whenever he wanted to and do whatever he wanted to, it’s disgusting in every aspect

@goboudou

8 ай бұрын

I was the one whom he presented to the family and friends. Now we are separered! He still phones to the other supplies of course. Life goes on..

They don't miss you, they Do miss what you did for them, not all supply has the same skill set, capabilities, gifts, etc.

@michaelwalker1798

Жыл бұрын

Spot on! But they’re so gullible until exposure. Nevertheless, they’ll keep themselves in the Matrix!

A narcissist is someone imposter , monster ، a predator without pity !

@Diamanter.

Жыл бұрын

Thats true. A narcissist person is a scammer also...... very devil no heart, no feeling,....

@traceybiles2061

Жыл бұрын

Jezebel spirit

Block, delete, no contact. Keep it moving

@baldersn4474

Жыл бұрын

With anyone or anything to do with the Narc

The word supply made me sick, they are simply disgusting 🕳️🤢🤮

@sll110

Жыл бұрын

yes, unbelievable disgusting and demons

@itscaprice8180

Жыл бұрын

Disgraceful

@anasimoes2487

Жыл бұрын

Very true 😫

A narcissist definitely can tell the difference between quality in supply, like the difference between fine wine and cheap wine. When the wine goes stale, the stale wine goes down the sink.

@GLDn1

Жыл бұрын

The supply is your life blood. It's vampiric.

@elaineanderson2989

Жыл бұрын

The problem with their idea of quality is that it is also warped where it comes to narcs.

We make the mistake of thinking that they think like us. They don’t.

So sad but true all they do is lie and cheat that’s it

I provided everything & more than any other has on worth & money etc... Let whomever is dealing with him now sort him out! Blocked on top of blocked!

@patrickmichiels9078

Жыл бұрын

Same here

She's speaking facts. I gave the narc everything from money, credit cards, gifts, and stability. In the end, it didn't matter once she was done playing with me. It was on to the next one!!! They have no loyalty, any and everyone is fair game.

First and foremost I'm a person with feelings Not some damn supply..😂✌🏾

The mistake is trying to fix someone who does not want to be fixed... this video is spot on..its just supply ... when she triangulated me and I told her she wanted her cake and to eat it too she just didn't understand

@dangalangslanger1254

Жыл бұрын

I dated a real nut sack of disordered girl..crazy grandma, mother, and sister. She was telling me her sister's therapist told her "she couldn't have her cake and eat it too" between the two of them they couldnt figure out what the expression meant..idiots

@beachampion8472

Жыл бұрын

That was my biggest mistake, trying to fix someone who does not want to be fixed, doesn’t understand love either. So glad to walk away and put the focus on self. Stay strong brother.

@libbynovotny9979

Жыл бұрын

my ex boyfreidnw as just stinging me along as a "backup woman" till he found someone "better" lots of luck!

@nomudnolotus4410

Жыл бұрын

Not only doesnt want to be fixed, they dont believe there's anything to fix. They never think they're wrong or anything is their fault so why would they need fixing. Even if you catch them red-handed they just blame shift and do cartwheels to avoid taking any accountability.

@beachampion8472

Жыл бұрын

@@nomudnolotus4410 that’s right. 💯

The love was fake, but the hate is very real. Side Bar: this is the cold hard truth that needed to be said. They are really mentally ill. We're not important to them to stay, but... they still want us connected to them For Life! 😵‍💫 Make it make sense Jesus.

@sebelzahntigerkind3923

Жыл бұрын

IT DOESN'T MAKE ANY SENSE WHATSOEVER AT ALL... Please don't waste your precious life time trying to figure out how their SICK, TWISTED, TOTALLY IRRATIONAL MINDSET works... you'll only incur brain damage from it. Seriously! A tip: They cannot see beyond THEMSELVES. They DO NOT SEE YOU. You are only being projected on, impersonating the UGLIEST side of themselves for them and being punished for it. That's right, You are being punished for what They do to You! So, GET OUT OF THERE, for the sake of your own SANITY. It's really a choice between either them, or you. Choose YOU!

@wolfhernedez7739

Жыл бұрын

@@sebelzahntigerkind3923 thank you! I'm not trying to make it make sense. It's been almost a yr since we split. The divorce is still going but since then I've been educating myself. I won't ever go back.

@jayce2388

Жыл бұрын

Now u just said a mouth full rt here...Real Talk 💯.

@wolfhernedez7739

Жыл бұрын

@@jayce2388 hard life lessons my friend ✨

@josephjoejat9569

Жыл бұрын

Obviously this is a true experience and realistic explaination...us normal empaths cannot register this... its very sad but very true... respect to you for this comment 👍

Nope he didn't find or have another supply. He discarded me too soon when I tried to set a boundary. Then he tried to come back. NO WAY ....After ignoring him he's harassing and stalking me. Still not given up. 🙄

Exactly. They dont love you, never did never will. You were and still are an inanimate object to them. Your wants, needs and feelings didn't matter to them and never will. They are completely empty and selfish to a point beyond what any normal person is really able to understand.

they cant do long term commitment.

They don't care. They just want the best utility to suite them. Mine even admitted after the discard

On occasion I go through the public comments section of facebook and I find the last narc chick I dealt with posting a picture of herself and spouting about love, peace and spirituality. I find this strange after having dealt with her.

My covert Narc ex sure does. He never had a woman do for him what I did. I beared the abuse for two years, no woman before even stayed for more than a night. Of course he doesn't see the problem in his behavior, he blames me just like he blames all the other women who didn't see his greatness

The only long term relationships narcissist have are with covert narcissist who are the enabling type. That literally the only long term ones I’ve seen; 2 narcs together, but NEVER a narcissist with a healthy minded and hearted person.

@fainitesbarley2245

Жыл бұрын

Yep. The only longish relationships my covert narc had was with overt narcs. Doesn’t even have long term friends. Went through the whole cycle in less than a year. The mind games started within a few months. I walked off. Was persuaded back. Went back on a more boundaried basis. Left for goo two months later. And this was with a ‘close friend’. I used to wonder why this affable, good natured pleasant man couldnt find a relationship and had only one friend.I actually tried to think of dates for him and include him in my friends!! Then it became apparent. The cold, sustained cruelty of some of the emotional abuse really shocked me - to the point where I resisted believing it for a while. You need to understand these people simply don’t function like humans.

narcissist is a blackhole. you can never satisfy them

In all honesty, I've never felt special to my wife/possible covert narc. I have always been nothing more than a bank account and someone who was "safe and stable". The night in shining armor who "saved" her from her previous shitty relationship. In all reality, she was mostly the cause of all of her "shitty" relationships but I found out way too late. It sucks knowing and feeling this way because you now never know what is real and was is a facade.

Thank you good video this makes so much sense, when I saw some of my exes supplies I was surprised at what they looked like, one was young enough to be his daughter, another old enough to be his mother and another had a mouthful of bad teeth. Wow just wow no standards whatsoever, as you say supply is just supply doesn’t matter what they look or act like.

@themathsprofessor6962

Жыл бұрын

OMG, so true! Mine is 49 (like myself), her supplies range from late 20's (an illeagal Moroccan imigrant to Europe who is a kickboxer) to 77 (a fat old Indian businessman). I did manage to provoke the new supply enough, so that he smashed both her phones and threatened to kill her. I also managed to contact her first husband and inform him of the truth - that he is not the biological father of his son. I also wrote to the Finnish governement and had her business start-up grant cancelled because of her fraud. She actually doesn't care much though, as she's now sitting in a high-end retreat in the mountains, pretending to do buddhist meditation on the 77 year-olds money. I'm just pissed-off that I lost 6 years of my life, 150K and that she had 7 affairs (that I know about during that time). Anoushka, I do wish you didn't look so much like my ex-narc (Anchik), it's very triggering! Any idea how I can have her PR in Finland cancelled, so that she gets sent back to Russia permanently where she is just a nobody?

@QueenBee-fg1iz

Жыл бұрын

Isn’t that the truth! My ex is with a woman his age who has no education, has never had a job, doesn’t drive, no home, no car, and a criminal record. She has 2 young kids from 2 guys who are in jail and she still lives with her mom. The one thing she offers is her undying love and attention. Oh…and sex. 😂 I can see him moving on eventually as he will get tired of financially supporting her and her kids as I hear from his family that she’s draining him.

@elsie8966

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I'm 33 he was 48 and yep his youngest ever was a 28 year old and the oldest was In her 60s. He had married middle aged women with cropped hair messaging him and long legged blondes. He had old schoolfriend. His dad's ex wife. His brothers exes. He was anyhow with it.

This makes perfect sense! There were forever supplies after supplies. A pattern and eventually they become so predictable! Their communication style is also the same patterns and also my expressions were used to communicate with other supplies too!!! The ghosting, silent treatments, devaluing, discard, hovering all happened in a 15 year space. I'm glad I kept journals so when I learned about Narcissism 2 years ago, it all made sense to me. I'm glad I can now put closure to all of these lunacy.

I know he thinks that I was great supply, but when you went into this whole longing, wishing, dreaming... I was like OH COME ON! I live in the same building as the narc. It's getting close to a year since the parting. I do not care what he thinks one way or another, but I noticed something today. He has a decent camera and he likes to take pictures. That's one of the things he did when we were together. We did a lot of lakes and fall color change, state forests, forging. He's posted fall color change pictures on a board in the building. Do I think he thought of me when he took those shots? I'm sure he put those shots up there to get my attention. Sure reminisced when he took those shots. But, that's his loss. I know what he is, why would I ever go back for more of that? No. I know he'll never be anyone other than exactly who he is. When I think of him, I shudder,

@HonestyIsAVirtue7

Жыл бұрын

Those pictures he posted on the board is bait.. You are highly intelligent for not taking the bait... 🎣 🐟... It's his way of hoovering you. His fishing around 🐟

@sacrealen

Жыл бұрын

He thought of you and then he took pictures of the board to show the other supply how creative he was this season. It's not a romcom.

Spent 30 years in this and just figured it out. She won't even morn the loss of me 😥 . Life can be cruel

Exactly, if they had a conscious, and understood empathy, they would not be the same person. They never will understand what they had, what they lost and they do not value anyone. Your like a Childs toy, that is discarded. It was once loved, but not any more. They may hoover back, but its like the toy that has worn the novelty off. They do not value anything. Thank you so much Anoushka, it really makes it so clear, that they are uncapable of understanding what love is. You describe it so perfectly, your love your care, your genuine warmth to all. How lucky we all are to have you in our lives.

I've got rid of him. No return!

I'm so happy he's now the women he was cheating with's problem and no longer mine!

if they didn't discard you - there's a chance they'll always try coming back not to be that person who you fell for but to be annoying (that's how I see it) - that's about the only time they'll chase or try to hoover you. If they discarded you even then I'd say hell no, but if they did it to you there's usually a good chance if you haven't counted your lucky stars because you are free if you're still broken they'll mess you about again - worse!! They can't get back in with someone who knows their worth - they need you to be needy so they can pick you up and drop you flat on your behind again. They'll forever chase supply that got away from them because to them they're meant to be doing the discarding which puts them in control - if you got away they'll try to win you back to make sure they have the control of dumping you - their pride has been hurt. If, they did discard then if they do start sniffing around try not to take the bait, just know they are bad news cos it's not about love and they are a reformed person - they just want to know that your someone they can control - it just makes them feel good in their tiny small minded minds because if they are sniffing around it just means that they aren't getting the supply from their current partner and if you were always that way for them - that's why they're back.

@tuxtux1424

Жыл бұрын

Spot on - mine cheated and hoovered me back every month for 6 months and then I finally got my own back by telling her I booked a holiday for her and the night before cancelled on her and took someone else and went no contact. She is so desperate in her hoovers now because I did the final discard. It’s great when you know what they are and you had the final decision- it drives them crazy!

@alcudiababe1

Жыл бұрын

​​@@tuxtux1424 I left because I wasn't strong enough to withstand telling him it was over. I had just about enough of that strength to keep trying to move forward. I used to cry it out because anytime I felt I needed to hear his voice, or pick up the phone and call him, or try another form of contacting him like letter writing to take all my frustration out and cry it out because in my head I wanted him, I needed him but we were over. I was about seventeen and I've always said to people and compared giving him up to smoking. He's bad for me, I know it. I did have my slip ups but I came to my senses and reblocked him and kept going because a part in my head told me I could never go back that chapter or part of my life was over and when I left home I told my parents you might get a call once a year with nobody on the end of it but it was Allan trying to see if it was me who'd pick up. If it wasn't me he'd just hang up. However once I'd left and couldn't know where I was he tried ringing round some "friends" but they said they'd never give my number out to him and just by a fluke on my way to work I stopped off at McDonald's to get a porridge. I saw where he was but I walked straight past him and low and behold a week later he turned up at my workplace! And after the COVID period was sort of finishing he turned up again but this time he had some ladies believing that he was a professional footballer and asking after me 🙈 but I was just glad I didn't see him and ha, I don't work there no more! For a long long time I've been the one putting more and more distance between us! But they say a rat is always somewhere near by. 🙄

"Smelling the pillow...." HAHAHA! Thanks for the laugh! The narcissist may have a lot of time invested in training you, and if you did EVERYTHING, they don't let go easily. But yeah, there's no love involved.

I am 15 weeks (obviously counting) after the millionth discard. Zero contact on either of our ends or friends saying anything. We have never gone more than one week, without him love bombing me and getting back together. He has significant trauma, due to an extremely psychologically abusive mother as a child. He has no relationship with her. His father is wonderful but was always working in medicine when he was young and was not around a lot then. We had a four year relationship that was on and off. My ex boyfriend met a new male friend in the spring time who is an extremely attractive, outgoing, people person, and is a successful business man in finance. I noticed my ex becoming truly inseparable from him, obsessed with him (to the point I started thinking weird things about them lol) and knew it was to position himself for a job at the big finance company. Well, he got that job and is so obsessed with becoming powerful and desired by everyone, even more than he is now. It is sickening. Behind closed doors, he can be a monster but is so sweet and charming to everyone else! He is mirroring and mimicking him to a T. This friend is the ULTIMATE SUPPLY! I finally ended things two weeks prior to the final discard because I had enough of the crap and afterwards felt empowered and fine. However, of course, two weeks later, he called me late at night and love bombed me so of course I buckled and went over. We had the most beautiful weekend and were planning for him to cook me my favorite dinner the following night. That never happened and he brought me back into his life strategically, just to discard me two days later, this time. Because of this, I was a mess and just starting to heal. I am feeling much better each week that passes. I have been watching these videos and have looked back on so many red flags and "ahah" moments. I am certain now, that he has cheated all throughout the relationship, which I did not think before, or chose to not see. I think that is the worst part. The lies and deflecting, etc. He accused me of so many things, but now I know that it was all of the things he was doing. It makes me terribly sad. He is very good looking, self obsessed and LOVES attention. My biggest problem now is that I live in a small city and he moved into the apartment building across the street. I still will not go and walk downtown for dinners with friends in fear of running into him. I hope I get past this soon. Everyone says that I am glowing but I do not always feel like it. I have started hitting the gym, which I have to tone up a lot, so hopefully I can get a crazy glow up, somehow. Ugh why do people need to be like this? I am grateful for this community and feel for all of us going through this. At least we are genuine, honest people who know how to unconditionally love.

@lamusa2013

Жыл бұрын

You were dating a closeted gay narcissist dude, that's why he was misogynistic and he was acussing you of stuff he was doing, same experience here, cool to know you're healing too ✨

oh that was crazy he only wants to take advantage of me

I know the Narcissist I fell for dumped the other current person in his life for me and I remember saying but you let her down gently right and then he told me how he did it thinking I'd be impressed! That was how quickly I became his next supply to take over and I felt terrible for that poor girl if that's how he discarded and my heart ached to know she'd gone crying down the garden at our training place because she originally came in to that place in the beginning told everyone she was getting married and she'd a ring, and I could see from other people around her that they thought this was strange and weird and when Dirty from Christina Aquilera came on she jumped up in joy saying that this was their song and again other people glanced sideways at each other. I felt like I was breaking up something very serious but he just tossed her aside like she was absolutely nothing. That should have told me what he was truly like. He tried doing that for me saying that Jump For My Love was our song - it's not, I'd have to shake my head at others it was just that he decided and that was that but I remember thinking he's insane he hasn't even talked through a song with me to make the words mean anything. There was one time he said something to me about his age and how young I was in comparison and how in that moment he opened his eyes wider thinking he'd conveyed some sort of message because there was no teen at the end of someone in their twenties but I remember looking at him taking him seriously and thinking he's off his head. It's true how are inner most thoughts are usually right!!

@katalynbabe

Жыл бұрын

Same here that's how I unmasked one quickly by how he Brutally discarded his live in gf & child I quickly got out it Dawned on me

@alcudiababe1

Жыл бұрын

@@katalynbabe but I was so young at the time I didn't like see it as like a red flag. Like it was bad I knew that but in relationships with these people red flags are about you just knowing what they are but - especially if you are lonely before and this person wants you none of that seams to matter. I was just so happy I was in a relationship and now I wish I'd have thought things through because although I wanted to be with him I could NEVER feel good at the start of that relationship! NEVER! I felt so guilty like I'd taken her future away from her and of course within a week he proposed to me and fearful of losing some one I'd just attained but trying to think that because that relationship was over before the marriage happened that it's affected his brain to go from spending the rest of his life with someone to not I was just like yeah, sure (the words felt forced as they came out of my mouth because on some level it felt wrong) but I said it to be kind to him also thinking somewhere down the line we probably would get married and then oh my god he went around telling just about anyone we were engaged and I used to get so embarrassed, I tried telling him you can't say that if I don't have a ring on my finger because it makes him stupid and all those raised eyebrows his former partner got I now received I just remembered thinking that if I could get them on their own and tell them he was probably upset from his previous relationship not ending well but I just thought, well, you've made the choice to stand by him you'd better help him but seriously there was a lot of things wrong with this man from lying he was a professional footballer all the way down to his table manners 🙈 and I actually, I actually wanted people to like him because when they took digs at him they were hurting me because I chose to be associated with him at the time. My Mom and sister reckoned he had bad breath and had to stand back but I couldn't smell anything and then I remember looking into the top of his head and telling him he'd got dandruff and look at it and quite funnily enough he had a good sense of humour as I flicked it past his eyes so then I decided to wash his hair in the sink trying to make him look decent but I will say one time he lied to the people at the bank because he wanted to open a joint account with me (proving I didn't have control over him, cos I tried distracting him that day - he had control over me) and he didn't want to give out his house number but of course I had it on my phone and would have given it out and for the first time he looked at me like don't you dare and made up something about he couldn't give it out because people in the area were digging and it's messed up the phone line - the adults in the room may have known I was being coerced but at the age I was I would have believed that explanation and I remember he knew that I didn't feel right as we left but I felt for the first time he could be lying to me right now and I wouldn't even know. I was so young. I was nieve, I didn't really know how the world worked and clearly I just wanted to see the best in him and at that age I just thought I had to make this relationship between us work because I didn't want to go back to being and feeling all alone again because I did have a very sad start

What we have is unique he used to say

Absolutely the truth! Still kicks me in the gut!

She heals wounds with her harsh reality thank you Anouska needed it.

After we split up, I ran into him one day and he told me that he was only with me so that I could fulfill his needs and there was no romance or love involved. 👿

@michelezeug5206

Жыл бұрын

Same, basically never wanted to be with you, never loved you, never wanted to be with you forever .

@johnarobinson5640

Жыл бұрын

Sorry you went through that..💯✌🏾

@kellygarland1624

Жыл бұрын

Wow really trying hard to hurt you as they do...arseholes

You can't miss what you had no connection with, treat people how they treat you.

Thank YOU for this video!!!!!! Makes sense now that my expiration date has happened. Supply is Supply and now I get it! Time for me to fly!

🎼What is love?Baby don’t hurt me don’t hurt me no more🎼I’m laughing at them😂😂at the moment.They re all twats.Let’s create supply stations all around the world for them so that we are be able to get rid of them forever💪🙇🏻‍♀️

I asked my ex narc why he stayed if there was not commitment when I caught him cheating, he said why wouldn’t he? He said he was getting financial and emocional support from me, having a clean house and food on the table, why to give up on all that? He told me out marriage was a lie from beginning to end. He was so hurt when I kicked him out of the house, he lost all his supply in one day. But as you said, he already had supply, he is telling everyone he is happier now, haha, he doesn’t tell everybody that he begged 3 times to come back!! Such a loser. Took me too long to realize what he is.😢

This does help and explains so much. I guess all I can do is continue to love her (but from a distance) care and pray for her. Most of all forgive her and ask for forgiveness for believing she was intentionally trying to hurt me. I should have asked God first to lead me before taking I on my own to start a relationship. If I’m learning anything at all, it’s ... any relationship without God is a doomed relationship. Bless you for helping understand more each time I see a video of yours. Thank you

Spot On! Love your content. Good luck to all you new survivors who were thinking they might have ever appreciated you. These are the truths you will and need to take with you over the next few years.

Of course they know, because it’s all in the aggression when you try to break from them. My ex keeps making profiles and sending me hateful messages telling me to be miserable and unalive myself. He keeps trying to project his insecurities onto me by saying that I am missing out on him and that it’s my loss. Personally I can’t see a loss in a person who intentionally hurt me when things didn’t go their way, and chose to utterly disrespect and disregard my feelings. There’s no loss in someone who sends you pictures of them burning pics of you and them together. There’s no loss in someone who didn’t apologize and tell you to shut up after they foolishly ran a stop sign as another car was driving by. There’s no loss in someone who throws your food out of the window because you want to go home and rest after a long day of work. The only loss that matters is the time and energy wasted on such a sick person….there’s no loss in someone who will never take accountability and will always point out yours. Last but not least, there is no LOVE in someone who takes your worst fear and does it to you. Why should we care if they are experiencing misfortune? They brought it on themselves…it sucks feeling empathetic for a person who lacks it.

@beachampion8472

Жыл бұрын

Really why would we care about them if all they are doing is gaslighting you, make you feel worthless. I have no sympathy for narcissists. They are evil, demoniac, ungrateful beings. And it sucks when you have a kid with a narcissist. Narcissists don’t deserve love. Let them get lost.

@heathermcalpine802

9 ай бұрын

Well said!! 💞 💞

Everything and everyone including family members , loved ones, inamite objects, pets, careers , memorys , their own personality , everything eventually gets disgarded and replaced ...

Thank you Anoushka. Extremely helpful.

No I don't think a narcissistic person would cry over a past supply. Look at it like us being normal human beings where not going to cry about a broken microwave once it's broken we will just go and get a new one. The narcissist thinks the same way with people. Once we're broken they just go and get a new person. I know this is hard to read and I don't want to get anyone angry I mean no disrespect but that's what I believe they see us as tool's.

@chriscole5990

Жыл бұрын

@Of the Refrain ❤️❤️☺️ Thank you!

Excellent topic imo

OMG.......Let's fantasize deeply.....no, no , no.......we knew you were fooling, but you had me for a few seconds. You are so funny!!! 🙏🏼🔥💪🏽 🌱

They will never miss you!! lol

My narcissist will realize he let the wrong supply get away when he's old-n-alone and needs someone to take care of him - but that's got nothing to do with love. He's a cheapskate who won't want to spend thousands of dollars to hire a caregiver to be able to stay in his home (plus he's paranoid and won't trust them). He's also a "collector" and totally attached to all his random-crap which he won't want to sell to move into assisted living - especially since an assisted living situation would put a layer of "control" over him. I expect him to try to hoover when he's run his health into the ground and needs a free caregiver to be able to stay in his home. Too bad, so sad - I'll continue to stay NO CONTACT.

@tinajones5548

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That sounds like the fate the ex has in store. Sad but not my problem anymore...

@usatodaywife

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@@tinajones5548 Yep, if I'm not good enough to be around during the good times, I'm not good enough to be around during the bad times. Let him enjoy the "care" he receives from someone who doesn't love him and is only there for the paycheck. That person is not going to cater to his very specific whims either. They'll show up, do what needs to be done, then leave--while he's charged thousands-upon-thousands of dollars a year. Given the ongoing caregiver shortage, there's high demand for caregivers so when he shows his true colors and is overly demanding and surly, the caregiver can easily find another easier to care for person and leave him. He's got a heart condition, borderline diabetic, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, gobbles down processed food and restaurant food, and drinks a lot of alcohol--so it's a ticking timebomb--nothing but downhill going forward. But not my problem anymore either. Although maybe he'll get lucky and die a quick death and avoid the whole need-of-a-caregiver phase of life. Time will tell.

Why did he have his exes photos up in his house still and her name written on his table from the time he got drunk amd attempted suicide? Even his own cousin said he won't ever forgive himself for loosing her. He was obsessed with her right down to her hair accessories! I'm 99% sure he's a narc because he ticks every box and all his family have cut him off. Other victims have confirmed he's not nice but the ex Is still his favourite. He talks about her constantly and wont move on! He cheated on her and had all her savings. So she dumped him

Mine is an introvert covered Narc. Extremely handsome quiet and you would think sweet. He doesn’t like much people or make efforts. I went through hell but tried to not hate and forgive so many times. He talked to many women online while we were together. And got on all dating apps the day after we broke up. He didn’t even lie about it when i catch it. He liked to hurt me with it. He said it’s to feed his ego 😏. 6 week after break up he is still coming Back here and there, guess fresh supplies are bad at sex or ask too much while i was so accepting and gave so much for 2 years, i was quiet and not demanding. Lol what a game. They are crazy.

Brilliant thanks

Facts

I was doing everything right, she’ll never meet anyone like me again. She seemed like she couldn’t get over her ex. It really confuses me. He ended it so maybe the affect is magnified. The rejection hurt her but they’re still friends & I didn’t even get that. Confused.

We were no different from anyone before them, anyone they had while with us and no different from anyone after us. Yes, you had something different from anyone else...but everyone else had something different from you

My EX- will never change or ask to come back., he will hit Breaking point before he gets Professional-very much needed help… He has desperately NEEDED for 20 yrs! Which I’ve been encouraging him to get, tried soo many avenues! His New Supply’s beware, he will start our love bombing you!

Thank you so much, I’ve been telling myself that, I knew that. Like you said it’s hard to accept but it’s reality. I feel a little better the way you put it so thank you ❤❤❤

From our perspective, they let the RIGHT supply get away. We deserve more. Or rather, less. Less abuse.

At 53yo & two years after being brutally discarded & smeared 10:55 & I’m still struggling with the knowledge that there actually are women like this in the world.

I thought they had a hierarchy in supplies and there's a main one they keep longer

@SweetMoses365

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They do 😢 I been one for 6 years. Currently in my third silent treatment, I’m gonna give it my best effort to walk away

These creatures cheat from day one with you! They have never been alone

Does anyone else feel sorry for these people ? I mean I got discarded and devalued and maliciously attacked affairs cheating screwing my friends I mean you name it but I did love this person with everything at one point and I truly felt bad and wanted to help these people I mean no one wanrs to be this way right ?

@nomudnolotus4410

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I kind of feel sorry for them but its hard when they're so conniving, spiteful, manipulative, vindictive, unempathetic, selfish, arrogant etc. Makes me feel like turnabout is fair play and they deserve any bad karma they get.

@blueorange6026

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Yes. I struggle with handling all the love and pity I hold for him. Despite everything he did to me, I recognise that it was coming from a place of hurt and trauma of his own. It's been so difficult to have to walk away and leave him to his tragic fate.

My ex narc been in my life since freshman year of hs and that was in 2004 I'm now waking up to this madness and been in no contact for 7 months and she tried hoovering me 2 weeks ago

100% COLD HARD TRUTH...👍👍❤

This really hit home to me. I’ve been watching you for a while now. But the words you have said has put it all into perspective and I see what he was doing now. I makes me sick to my stomach so this video hit it on the nose. The words I needed. Thank you!

Absolutely true!

When he told me that his new gf is all he ever need in his life make me realise, the cycle is still there, he even use exact same "trick". Cant stop laughing, im proud to myself i let him go that day. He never love me, he love my validation. 😂

I love this show. It's incredible how some people can have no emotions.

Very informative. Love the accent and you look great.

I'm hoping they get bored of the next and the next and the next

Thank you!

Fact

They are the epitome of around for a good time not a long time. They are predictable bcos they're motivated by the same thing every time it is always about them. The poker faces who laugh behind their masks. Thank-u Anoushka ❤ yes I agree processing your emotions is important. Some of us have been bought up to have a stiff upper lip and as a consequence I think we push those feeling down with a get on with it attitude when we really need to stop and really sit in our emotions slob around in bunny slippers watch friends re-runs and pig out on ben and jerrys.

He still has my name tattooed on his hip from years ago. He doesn't care about me he just uses it as a tool to make other woman jealous and it works lol

The one thing that my Narc will remember about me It will not be good times that we had. It wont be the 4 mons of no response by me It will be the health and safety ticket I placed on her windshield for speeding in our workplace parkade nearly causing an accident. Then HR calling her into the office and warning her if she ever did that again her parking would be taken away. Then she will remember 3 days after I issued the ticket I started a new job and went no contact. Apparently she did not have a good week. Oh well

Ask Anoushka is so real and helpful with her descriptions and sugesdtions. Both very needed and helpful when breaking the cycle and ending relationship with Narc.. I love suggestions and want to do the chat and journal. I could really use the live stream. So that I can hear it and ask a question. Thank you A!

30 years later. "I was messed up back then." (Her husband cheated on her 3 years into the marriage. Then she paid the child support payment for 18 years.) She married UP. Well, she thought she was marrying up.

It doesnt matter. It is not about you.

So Anoushka I found out my ex is not a narc. He does have qualities of narcissism + BPD thanks for your videos you helped me through all this through to it videos thank u an keep being a blessing ❤❤❤

I definitely was not the one who got away! It was her previous ex before me whom she dated for six years. I know this because she always compared me to her and it was the ex who broke things off 😂 must’ve HURT 🤪 I know she’ll never forget me though because judging by her shock when I called her narcissistic, I suspect I was the first to do so 😇💕 truly an honor

@Trpmanne

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Same case for me, I think she wasn’t over her ex who broke things off because he knew he couldn’t have a narc with his two children. So that hurt her, she still has a message from him as her phone wallpaper stating “someone will see what I saw” (the good) etc etc probably to make her feel better which didn’t really help the situation & just enabled her behaviour. So I wonder if she actually loved him or was just hurt that he broke it off. I called her out on all the BS & bad behaviour then she didn’t want to continue relationship. Then I went ahead & told her that she was selfish, a user who had no empathy & that maybe that’s the reason why her ex ended things. Then she said I changed for not getting my way (willing to continue, though I didn’t know she was a narc) & that she’s still friends with her ex (probably insinuating that I haven’t even made it to friend status). What a way to flip it onto me aye. Good way to make me feel insignificant compared to her ex. She’s was horrible in what I had to deal with, with her. Who messages a guy & also texts other guys on dating apps right next to someone in their own home while they’re dating, so cruel.

Even worse when having a female Narc as a next door neighbour especially when she broke my marriage out of jealousy , I wish I had realised when me and my wife moved in next door to her and a 10 feet high fence would have gone up

Mines not... he has another girl that makes more money than me and financially takes care of things for him. It tears up my self esteem to really not feel like "not enough" but I'm starting to speak back. Yes I know about her and she knows about me. We have each other's number and have been out a few times together. He's pretty much forcing us in an open relationship. He met her a wk or so before he met me. We literally spent so much time together I didn't understand how he had a whole other relationship. It's depressing to be in... but I told my landlord I have to break my lease and now I'm quietly looking for a place... (he becomes very violent when we try to break up)... She's a little older than me so she's pretty much deciding to settle but nope I'm getting my freedom. I know I shouldn't care and I'm sure the time will come as I heal but it hurts knowing that me disappearing will only affect him a little. Even though we're pretty close, he's not going to care but ol well atleast I'll be at peace.

THANK YOU SO VERY VERY MUCH FOR THIS WONDERFUL INFORMATION, IT HAS BEEN A DIFFICULT, DIFFICULT, DIFFICULT JOURNEY FOR ME, BUT I UNDERSTAND A WHOLE LOT BETTER NOW, THEY JUST DONOT UNDERSTAND HOW MUCH HELP THEY NEED, BUT I THINK THEY DONOT CARE BECAUSE IT IS SO MUCH FUN WHAT THEY ARE DOING, THEY CAN ALWAYS START FRESH ANYTIME THEY WANT, SO SAD FOR US, THAT WE JUST DON’T KNOW!!!!!!

@michaelgreen6313

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The karma stays with them forever,simply because they are the karma.imagine having to look in the mirror every day,and try to convince yourself you are a good person.The internal hate and shame lives with them forever,even more so when the narcissistic injury hits them so hard,they are finished

Will they end up going crazy or lose their minds? because living like that should take a toll on anybody's brain...but I'm thinking as a normal person that might not be a problem for narcissists

This is why they’re so quick to not take accountability, nor try to repair and discard so easily… next batter up! When their mask falls and they’re discovered they disappear. So very shallow. See it for what it is and run 🏃🏽‍♀️

After watching this and other videos on the subject, I wonder if my ex masked narcissim behind her anixety. I took the time and energy to understand how anxiety works and can be affecting her, but I dont see the type of behavior she exhibited in friends who also have anxiety, BPD, and other consitions. And with how fast she was to leave and not really show genuine remoarse for hurting my sond and I, its hard to determine the validity of anything other than she was a narcissist who hid her selfish desires behind a real human condition she used to get what she wanted. My ex definietly cared more about getting what she wanted and needed validationalmost all the time and always said it was because of her anxiety but i have really started to wonder the validity of her claims. Im not the only one she was with for such a long time in fact she was engaged prior to us dating and she claims her partner completely disappeared on her. I sometimes wonder if her partner dealt with this too and saw the signs as well.

Smear campaign blew all away!!!

Mine was always longing for his childhood sweetheart, he couldn’t stop go back for an emotional affair. She’s also Narcissistic, maybe they’ll live happily ever after in their delusional and dysfunctional dystopia 😔

@elsie8966

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Mine was obsessed with his ex too. He actually seemed attached to her still yet with me I felt irrelevant. I've never found a video that explains it but he's narcissistic in every way..I know he is because all his family have cut him off.

Depends whether they are a complete narc or a borderline with pronounced narc traits. Mine had two lined up as I started to withdraw and kick off. I worry about the others but I’ve done my best to warn them.

Right on!!!! ; ur awesome!! Thank u for the reality reminder!!

The one that I was with still keeps coming back after 15 years so they must have some type of thought about their EX otherwise he would just leave me alone and he's even in a new relationship for 2 years and recently proposed to me again thank you for the video they're great

@dodibenabba525

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Supply running low, that's all. They're like cars, they need petrol but they don't mind which petrol station they have to go to.

So is that the reason why my 50 yr old ex(17 mos relationship) who suffers from Bi Polar and low self esteem has never been married & has always been the Side Chick?

This is great stuff. So true.

That's why I Ran from My last relationship, still stalks until this day

We forget they aren't human. They love with abandon those they will soon discard without reason. There is no insight, and never ever their fault no matter what happens in the relationship. Women stay and stay because of the trauma bond, in reality usually until they die, and they always die first. The narcissist lives on. Too mean to die.