When I think back of intimacy with the narcissist I feel disgusted. The worst is that it has made me avoid meeting anyone at all. I just want my peace.

@kevinjanghj

5 ай бұрын

That's me as well. I say that I am asexual although I am not in order to get people off my back.

@lisahutton3754

5 ай бұрын

Same here. I was afraid it was just me.. Thanks for sharing

@Stanley-xc4yc

5 ай бұрын

It's not your fault, but your faulty program. You are enough no matter what. Everything will be OK 😊. Lisa Romano KZread channel 👍

@tad1111

5 ай бұрын

Same

@tanyamaree6432

5 ай бұрын

Two years down the track and I'm the same. Never felt this way till after being with him.

They're just disgusting.. . They don't care if they're married, in a relationship just sleeps around non stop with anyone who will give it up!

@lindanorris2455

3 ай бұрын

yeah. yeah.

I'm scared to meet up with people, because the most of them are narcissist.

@Aigentcy

5 ай бұрын

Facts

@pernilladomander7648

4 ай бұрын

Avoid datingapps!

@valeriesharp4875

4 ай бұрын

😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

@valeriesharp4875

4 ай бұрын

Many control freaks out in this world. Plenty self centred people all for their own gain. Try not despair. There are still some really good people. Get discernment from the Higher Power. Your gut, intuition will speak to you in order to avoid or have absolutely no contact with these types of people. 😊

@spitfire8539

4 ай бұрын

80% of people are, yes

Anyone else notice the intense eye stare they give you during the act? It's a eye contact but not loving more control like?

@kristikiser8762

5 ай бұрын

YES...😮😮😮

@FluidMotionEnergy

5 ай бұрын

Y cant people just enjoy lookating at each other tho ? Avoiding eye contact seems to me like u both just want to have sex and not be intimate

@brianmitchell8552

4 ай бұрын

Definitely! It’s weird! A look in her eye that she doesn’t have any other time.

@tad1111

4 ай бұрын

Yes, also when kissing her I'd open my eyes and she'd be intensely staring at me, almost inhuman, very creepy.

@ritadoran5039

4 ай бұрын

Eye contact is a beautiful thing between 2 people in love I enjoy it, I wasn't referring to that look but a unsettling primitive stare

There is only Selfishness and a constant need for attention with ZERO Love. It is a demonic spirit that lies, cheats and prefers Chaos and Drama over Truth

@ND-or5so

4 ай бұрын

@jeffcollins9640: That's a fact

@aviricky6026

4 ай бұрын

True that.. Without Chaos or Drama they can't get their fill of life. They are like leeches who will drain the life energy Outta you. Their aim is to destroy you to the very core so that you become a walking zombie. And maybe create a worst narc out of yourself

@godsownedeejay2359

4 ай бұрын

Let's get it straight. If you've been trapped by a narcissist or find them in the same cage with you, all you see is that NARCISSISTS are vampire-staff of Satan's embassy on earth.

@JustinRabJDog

4 ай бұрын

“There are those who curse their fathers and do not bless their mothers; 12those who are pure in their own eyes and yet are not cleansed of their filth; 13those whose eyes are ever so haughty, whose glances are so disdainful; 14those whose teeth are swords and whose jaws are set with knives to devour the poor from the earth and the needy from among mankind. 15“The leech has two daughters. ‘Give! Give!’ they cry. From Proverbs

I felt so disgusted and my body actually began to reject him…so glad I got away🙏🏽

@azailialankster657

5 ай бұрын

Likewise

@NikkiJ

5 ай бұрын

How did your body reject him?

@realconvhersations5367

5 ай бұрын

@@NikkiJ I felt off..I didn’t want him touching me..I felt nothing and was completely turned off

@NikkiJ

5 ай бұрын

@@Neria-Elu why? I have experience myself but different people get different symptoms/experiences.

@NikkiJ

5 ай бұрын

@@realconvhersations5367 I understand the feeling

Never get involved with a Narcissist...EVER!

Once I pulled back sex I’ve been able to heal myself best thing I ever did to get away from the toxic soul tie ❤🙏🏽

@ladyCY413

4 ай бұрын

Omg your comment is so powerful because I know in my heart of hearts that once I can break the sex off with my guy, that will break the soul ties. I can’t stand to be around him anymore even when we don’t have sex, but sexually and emotionally I am completely detached from him. I don’t have a desire to be with him AT ALL, and we never had a spiritual connection, meaning I shared with him at the beginning of our relationship my thoughts and feelings on wanting to get back right with God and how I was before in my walk with the Lord, and how I missed that. But he never gave any feedback and he NEVER EVER shared his thoughts on where he desires to be spiritually, he NEVER EVER mentioned God. I literally thought he was an atheist because he has never talked about God. I can’t wait, I’m slowly but surely preparing for my exit, and I pray it ends without violence.

@ladyCY413

4 ай бұрын

Bu the way, your comment deserves way more likes because a lot of people don’t realize that sex is a very powerful stronghold that can keep that toxic relationship in bondage.

@Denzella2154

4 ай бұрын

@@ladyCY413 exactly it was the hardest thing I ever did but I did it an it’s goin on 2 years strong 💪🏽 even he’s in disbelief ( I will remain in my power against the ex narc ) oh and guess what we share kids 6.. if I did it you most certainly can ❤️❤️ (Will Power)

@Denzella2154

4 ай бұрын

@@ladyCY413 it was the hardest thing I ever did being as tho I gave 16 years if I could do you iyou most certainly can ❤️❤️ (will power is key) something the Narcissist does not embody

@ladyCY413

4 ай бұрын

@@Denzella2154 If I don’t leave him soon, I’ll look up and it will be 16 years like you, or even 20, because it’s already pushing kind close at 12years right now. We don’t have kids together or even live together, but it’s still very hard to leave him because we have other ties that he uses to keep me in the picture, and he also has other issues that to me, makes it very dangerous for me to leave. Once I get rid of these other ties, which I can’t name, in fear of my family possibly coming across this comment by any chance, because they don’t know I’m going through this because I know better…I’ll be completely through with him and not going back

Was in a relationship with a narc. He only took, took, but never gave me anything. He always want to be given. He couldn't even kiss you or touch you but just got in because he wanted Satisfaction.

Learning about her plentiful cheating I'm thankful I didn't get an std. And as soon as I found out I divorced her. Never accept cheating...

@flowersofthefield340

5 ай бұрын

Yeppp their nasty

Agreed, objectification. When I was with the NARC, I felt like I was a lamp or just a piece of furniture. At this point in time, I have gone 10 years of no contact with zero slip-ups.

@archangelvvv

5 ай бұрын

Congrats! F.Y.I. You escaped a messenger from H-E-L-L

@joesorrenti6598

4 ай бұрын

I hate to say it but you were just a piece of meat to them

I prayed a lot for God to save my marriage,I'm so blessed and loved by God,He didn't answer my prayers in the way I wanted, because He loves me so much,now I realize was for protection!!!

Generally, narcissists aren't worth the trouble. If I had only known that. Hoovering is to get you back in contact so they can use you again and cause more damage. You're nothing more than a body part to a narcissist.

@1stBorn538

5 ай бұрын

Very true...

@Aigentcy

5 ай бұрын

The way my ex wife was so distant cold and mysterious is the hook that got me wanting her more

It's almost like it was a different person in the same body. 360 degrees

@nmc1859

5 ай бұрын

180

@miketexas4549

4 ай бұрын

Rotate 360 degrees and nothing changed

I started out as fwb with mine. Went in knowing i didn't want to date her. She used sex(which was our consensual understanding) to get into my life. She begged me for more, love bombed me, learned i wanted children so she used her own and that future faking of one of my own until I thought it was something that i wanted. It was all manipulation. I was so unaware of narcissists and red flags that I went along with it excited that i somehow stumbled across the right person. It was one night when she told me after we were done that she had started going to counseling with her (ex) husband. I asked her how she could do this with me while doing that and she just laughed. This was right after( this is personal and adult) she used the words "are you going to *** in me or be a little ****". Now, red flags aside. After this she said we had to stop. Which i was fine with. But begged me to still be her friend. I said no of course and she proceeded to try and triangulate me with another man at work. After months of this and having a conversation with her husband shes still doing this. I didn't know what i know now. Didn't realize sex was a way to get into your mind and soul. Didn't realize it was a doorway to future faking. And for sure didn't realize how she was trying to be little me into doing something for a future trap. Can't even imagine the world of hurt I'd be in if i would have let her convince me to do that. Point is. They use sex for multiple things. It's all manipulation. You think you're just having fun and it's really a way to lock you in. Whether it's from breaking you down to feel less of a person for control, to control you do do things for them and cater to them, or to get you more deeply involved before the discard to break you down. Be strong about this. Especially the women here. It's easy to think if you give in it's going to be a way to let the emotions flow and the guy will come back remembering the "love" between you two. There is no love with these people. It's all about them. Don't let yourselves get hurt and complacent thinking this is going to fix anything. Cause i guarantee you're not the only one they are trying to have sex with. You're going to get an std or end up stuck life long dealing with this person in your life. And that's what they want. It's a way to force you to be there, for them to be on your mind, and for them to still have bits of control over your life.

@777DBZFF

5 ай бұрын

@@Low__Key haha, knowing her.. it's possible brother. Fr though, I've learned one thing from watching all these vids. They may react differently at the end of the relationship, but they usually all use the same techniques depending on the type of narcissist they are at the beginning. Just know they picked you for a reason. Wasn't cause you're weak. Cause you've got a good heart and you're strong. They want to break that. And after months it's really something when they can see they haven't done that. It legitimately breaks them. Stay strong bro.

@jaketedesco9497

5 ай бұрын

Sounds similar to me except we started a fair commitment all to be seen with her FWB dude before Nye

@alkebu-lanuniversity2227

5 ай бұрын

Damn. That part when you said she just laughed. Same thing happened to me, its an evil laugh, its like they enjoy hurting ppl. N its like well are we gona have sex or not, she says smh. I never knew sex could do this either, im still trauma bonded, they make you love the bond, like you deserve the treatment. After what i been thru, im not sure if im capable of love anymore, but working on loving myself again.

@simonschneider5913

5 ай бұрын

what a fantastic description. thank you!

@dampergoldenrod4156

5 ай бұрын

What about the minor or adult children stuck with parents who have these kind of sick and diseased relationships who will not get out of them? They need advice too to stay away at all costs.

The worst is when they think they're entitled to sex and keep asking for a timeline on when they will get sex and then get extremely mad when you dont really give an answer.. lol wtf is wrong with some people 😂😂😂

@user-sh1vy3nv1f

4 ай бұрын

WOW! EXACTLY

@devinepegasus5532

3 ай бұрын

sexual coercion - the coercive partner doesn't respect the boundaries or wishes of the other. No one should be made to feel pressured into a sexual act.

My body my heart and soul is beginning to reject him

@alegnavblack

4 ай бұрын

Save your soul and your sanity and RUN!

Everyone, listen to this woman because she's absolutely right about everything she's saying. You feel a lot of disgust in what they do? But why do we keep going back to them? Why do we miss them when they're gone? I can tell you one primary reason. We've compromised our boundaries.

@doglover9902

5 ай бұрын

Answer: The Trauma Bond.

@istj66360

5 ай бұрын

@@doglover9902 Setting strong boundaries is essential to breaking a trauma bond and if a person has strong boundaries to begin with, the narcissist has a difficult time establishing one. That's why narcissists tend to avoid people with strong boundaries.

@banderson6470

4 ай бұрын

soul ties

@istj66360

4 ай бұрын

@@banderson6470 you can definirely call it that too.

@ResaraAsalizk

4 ай бұрын

I think it’s manipulation technique

I know exactly what she is talking about. When I think back over my last year's, I feel disgusting, they have no morals ,will sleep with anyone. My healing is going well, but I do have flash backs. I don't want to be in a relationship for a long time.

7 years of sex everyday but he has been incapable of just giving me a hug when I’m sad. Have had so many health issues since meeting him but I’m finally ready to let go. His backstabbing throughout and trying smear campaigns with MY friends and family let alone his has made me at times want to give up. I’m a granny now so have so much real sources of love to be around. I know my worth now finally!!!! 🦋🦋🦋

@ND-or5so

4 ай бұрын

@leestod I wouldn't have had sex with him every day cause he had to be mistreating you if he is a full-blown narcissist, right? I mean, why would you give it to him?

I stay away and keep my distance and no contact even though it hard but I believe I can get through this nightmare ❤

@viewerwatching5712

5 ай бұрын

I was with mine for 20 years and it's been 5 months no contact. Stay strong you got this, it gets better with time!

@lisaberi5977

4 ай бұрын

with my husband 27 years now no contact 5 months also. Its been a grieving process but feels so freeing

Very nicely put! You've got their number! lol Both the narcissist and the empath or highly sensitive person are both broken through childhood trauma. The narcissist is in your life to teach you that after Source (God), you have to love yourself unconditionally and above all others, so we can love others as ourselves. If we don't value ourselves, then we look for validation through other people, and that's just wrong thinking. This is a journey of hope, healing, and self love, and validation. You don't have to hate the narcissist, you have to understand how they operate, as their neural pathways blocked love or the emotions of love going from heart to brain to be blocked. We don't have to blame them for their trauma, but we certainly have to protect ourselves from their shenanigans or we'll be in a wash, rinse, repeat cycle until we've learned how to show up in this world. Bottom line, you must understand and heal from codependancy. Many blessing to all who seek to heal from narcissistic abuse. Don't be a victem ( like the narcissist), but become an overcomer! 😊❤😊

People think sex is everything when it's not best to be solo

@ND-or5so

4 ай бұрын

@user-le4yi7... I agree with you. It's not worth it to engage in that way anymore. That's what I'm seeing at this time as I'm healing from the corrupt and unnecessary bad treatment I endured from that wacko covert narcissist.

Wife was diagnosed with NPD when we were in college (i had forgotten/blocked out- her eating disorder was the reason why she was being treated, diagnosis came during that in-patient program).. i had no idea what that really meant when we were dating and married her, bissfully unaware. 23 years later, she literally ticks every box of a covert narcissist- and i was brought to this topic after seeing her openly flirt at a gym and lied saying she was at work (she didnt see me in parking lot). Ive spent the last 2 months revisiting every "off" situation over my marriage- every time my spidey sense was screaming and i either ignored it or believed whatever excuse provided. I was never her first choice, she constantly thinks about the HS bf that "got away", and engages in inappropriate flirty relationahips with multiple men (that im aware of). I know i dont deserve this - but we have 4 kids- and i am now accuitly aware of how they will be treated/raised if i am out of the picture.. i feel like ive been conned and robbed of my entire adult life.

@matthewboos7356

2 ай бұрын

Man, you just told my story. Can't stay, but definitely can't leave either. It's very disheartening to learn, pretty unanimously from every source,,,, this is not curable, not fixable, not treatable:(

@muhammadsteinberg

2 ай бұрын

26yrs with my narcissistic wife. I can definitely relate to reflecting back. I'm actually embarrassed that consumed so much disrespectful behavior. I've been a yellow rock for 3mths now. Sleeping ing in a spare room. She's freaking out and tried her typical love bombing crap. I shot it down and walked away not giving her a chance to escalate into negativity. Silently working on divorce.

I could always sense he was cheating and when women started exposing him he played dumb. He kept changing and it got toxic, he kept being cold and hot, and breadcrumbing me and then when i go to leave he would play so hurt and ask me not too. I want out now, period.

@ladyCY413

4 ай бұрын

That is exactly how I felt. I’m going to get flamed for saying this, but everything you need to know is in his phone. I’ve seen the text messages, videos and photos, that’s solid proof other than actually catching him in the act. And when I left him, he begged more than a begging homeless man and somehow swindled his back by finessing and manipulating his way back, because get this: I had NEVER agreed to take him back that day. But he manipulated his way back through sex. But this time, as they say ‘third time’s the charm’. Like you say ‘I want out now’…. This year is the year for me, I refuse to let another whole year go by of dealing with this toxicity. And when I leave, I’m not looking back.

My instinct of self protection kept it platonic .phew

She cut that off many, many years ago and as I've gotten older, I really don't care any longer. There is so much more in life and I'm going to live it. She discarded me 8 months ago, went to go help out her two oldest kids from her first marriage and decided to stay and have very little communication with me. I put up with this for 30 + years and now it's so much better for me and things are falling in place in a great way.

@ngangakamau9480

5 ай бұрын

I was discarded in August 2018, after devaluing me for 3 years. I have never touched her again.

I agree, you will be trauma bonded, better not to get intimate if you see red flags in the beginning. Reason why? it will be harder to leave and will worsen episodes of rumination.

@elmaswanepoel1598

5 ай бұрын

So true

@Freespiritedqueen

4 ай бұрын

TRUE!!👍🏼💯

Being hoovered big time and staying strong. I know it’s just my trauma bond trying to screw with me.

@tad1111

5 ай бұрын

Me too being hoovered hard .

@knoxx1111

5 ай бұрын

I'm dealing with this now too. ;/

@tad1111

5 ай бұрын

She keeps offering me intimacy, I know it's not real love or anything, it's a trap, but it's hard to say no. Then she says are you gay.

@kalifornia4745

4 ай бұрын

Same here for me… you’ve got this!

@bethh6023

4 ай бұрын

You can do it!! Stay away!!

they hate love, kissing hugging but only sex ..very agressive and don’t care even they already harm your body ..😢

Wow.. you are really an expert in this topic. Their behavior is so predictable. Blessing to everyone creating boundaries to protect their wellbeing!

@ND-or5so

4 ай бұрын

Nounsense3 Thank you

It's a shagship n nothing more 🏃‍♂️ 🏃‍♀️ 🏃‍♂️ 🏃‍♀️ 🏃‍♂️ 🏃‍♀️

@pernilladomander7648

4 ай бұрын

A relationshit I call it :)

Consider it a violation because it IS.

I was with narc for 16 years at the time I didn't know all this information... I would cry after intimacy each time because I could not connect emotionally. I am very much an empathy and could feel that my partner was empty on the inside...emotionless. I was so confused as I craved connection. At the end on our 16th year if he touched me my body would break out into an infection. I went to the police and left him...but now my body has shut down physically... I have sense of smell, I cannot taste anything as my tongue my tastebuds do not work so I ask my kids to taste test when cooking and I don't feel my body when I get a cut or injury...my body is all numb. Phycology said I have PTSD because I stayed in this relationship. My 2 older sons helped me to leave... I think if I continued I would have developed cancer from being so sad and lonely with him.....YES they make you feel completely lonely when you are with them. Now I am trying to heal. I hope everyone becomes aware of these people they are not human they are ruthless at what they do. ❤

yes, the stare, intense and very dark, he would also say to me "tell me you love me, tell me you love me"

@qaziwaleed3567

4 ай бұрын

Same think happend to me

@kathrynrawlings26

Ай бұрын

Yesss right before they would …. You know … finish?

I figured him out already that he’s a narcissistic psychopath. He has been calling and texting me and ignored him. So, finally I responded like this, PLEASE DO NOT CONTACT ME ANYMORE! And after that I blocked him! And put a home security around my house!!!

I agree with you, Anoushka, 100%! The intermingling of two diametrically opposite forces physically or emotionally can create a type of psychic chaos that is damaging to the core of our emotional centers. There are much more important or valuable things to do with the type of energy used in a “sexual exchange”. Unless it is fully understood what this process is, and how it affects us it is best to avoid sexual intimacy with a narcissist, as, in the end, it will end up being disappointing and truly fruitless or worthless. A narcissist has only one objective, and that objective is to see how much they can accumulate, and how much they can siphon or take. Don’t give them anything or the opportunity. Let them wallow in their own mess! ❌❌❌

Interesting. In my case, I had begun losing sexual interest in my (what I have come to believe is a) malignant narcissist girlfriend because of her intermittent, unpredictable explosive rage mostly. In general, it seems to be in my makeup to withdraw sexually when I feel disrespected. In such a scenario, I lose the desire to share that part of myself with someone who mistreats me. I've been told that's unusual for a man. I can't speak to what's typical in this context, I only know about myself. I am a SIGMA-INFJ, that may or may not be relevant to the topic of sexual contact with a narcissist or this situation I'm sharing. Getting back on point, and to make my related statement. It had become a point of contention that we weren't having sex as often. In this case with me, not her having pulled back (or withholding). I had shared the aforementioned reasoning at one point not long before our breakup. In this case, I left the relationship. At the point it was clear to her she was not going to be able to manipulate me into staying (this time), she stated the following: "You could have at least given me sex one more time before leaving me."... I didn't even know how to respond to or where to file that.

@johnnycorn7225

5 ай бұрын

Sigma INFJ here too brother. We are pure throbbing kryptonite to these types. I too have heard how weird I am because I will close up after disrespect and put my armor on and no one or nothing penetrates or dominates a determined INFJ, the J means judgemental, and if you're a preference for J is very strong you are an immovable human being once you make a decision. I know these things well because one of my best friends was INFJ and he too was like this. Trust me cease ALL interaction with these types we have a special gift for making them explode and presenting them their own true self which makes them rabid. Leave quietly, cover your tracks, and radio silence.

@johnnycorn7225

5 ай бұрын

Oh and how to interpret that statement let's translate from narcanese, " I'm attempting to guilt trip you and shame your masculine identity because you successfully thwarted my attempt to bring you into my evil realm so I can torture you before I discard you AGAIN so I win this fed up game I compulsively repeat while playing the victim as I revel in your pain, AGAIN" . Yeah, FTB

@AliceDont333

5 ай бұрын

I had a very strong sense that you’re an INFJ before you revealed it, as I am. 👋

@carloshenry337

5 ай бұрын

For some reason I done the same thing I just did not want her anymore and it did not feel the same so I know she was doing things with other men.🤬

@lindafodor7755

4 ай бұрын

It’s not just you I had the same experience. And my narc ex-boyfriend said the same exact words to me when I left

Thank GODbi woke up. it was a process. but I realised who i was dealing with. THANK GOD ❤❤🙏🙏

Narc is a child, there are certain conversations you cannot have with children so when it comes to intimacy, they are not capable to do sex either right?

I slept with my bf and my girl parts got fishy , I told him about and he responded "that's my fault" . I healed it with proper meds and stopped sexually engaging him... I noticed many red flags and realized he may be a player ..ordering bikini underwear and watching you tube channel On what colognes make women drool😮 he had been begging for bum Entry which I told him "never" . Later he got a fever and flu like symptoms for a week and I seriously questioned if he might have contracted HIV virus from a one nighter/ I ended it a few weeks later when he told me he was working a 16 hr shift over a weekend and home to sleep for 6 hrs only to go back for another 8 hours-yet when I checked to see if he was home sleeping , he was NOT. 😮 he called me with a lame excuse and I said "I'm done with your lies"

This is genius! WTH 💯! My first feeling was gross, then angry, then sad.

I felt like you was talking to my soul just now with this video wow x

2yrs going with a narcissist no sex not even a kiss on lips I've walked.😊

Narc was unfaithful and it makes me sick

Its sick its left me so traumatised about sex since 😩 he was so cold and empty throughout 😪 and i didn't see it until afterwards

@MHLivestreams

5 ай бұрын

I understand, my ex wife was the same, again, didn't notice myself either. Quite weird really. Kind of makes you feel unworthy, eh. It's affected my to this day, 20 years on. I hope you're doing okay though.

@vernetta111

5 ай бұрын

@@MHLivestreams slowly getting there

Very true. I thought by not having sex with the Narcissist, I would be ok. They still drained my energy...when I was away from them, all I could do was lay in bed. Eventually, every time I was around them, my cortisol spiked, my adrenals were maxed, my muscles were tight. Very hard to break the lust bond but not having sex made me see the REAL person who turned out to be highly insecure, immature and obsessive compulsive.

At the end of the relationship,my narc would let me give her a hug nothing else and afterwards I would have a severe headache for 2 days

@rogersjourney

5 ай бұрын

that's some kind of toxic energy there..🙏

@flowersofthefield340

5 ай бұрын

Their spiritually toxic

@Freespiritedqueen

4 ай бұрын

​@@flowersofthefield340🎯💯

@lindafodor7755

4 ай бұрын

Because they are demonic

Thank you for sharing! This is so true!

This is so important she was using intimacy to contro me, she left me 55 timres over 3 yr relationship and use sexuality to come back every time. I started to get scared about STI's cos this person who is in and out of my life so many times are not faithful etc..

I think I went through 3 or 4 "cycles" with a woman over the course of 3 months. She would send me texts with sexual overtures and then send me texts with the most outlandishly crazy, snide, insulting, non-sequiter responses to my texts. I felt like I was dealing with someone demon possessed or oppressed. First time in my life dealing with a card-carrying narcissist. I realized I could not tolerate this evil unpredictability and decided to part company. I felt a huge weight lifted off my shoulders.

Fantastic & excellent lessons!! Keep it up

You know I'm connecting and drawing more insight from your teaching,I love it 💕

year after year ,your beauty is increasing, my mind is in love ❤️

Thank you sooo much for helping me soooo much Anoushka you are absolutely AMAZING im in a dark place atm lives next door can't get aeay away from his manipulation bringing new supply flaunting them in front off me 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

@dougretter

5 ай бұрын

Just look at them and laugh hilariously! He won't know whether to wind his watch or look out the window!

@annrobinson3509

5 ай бұрын

Same here mine next door to doing exactly the same jokers all do the same thing chose to ignore them live my own best life

@caseteamcouture8633

5 ай бұрын

*hugs*

5 months no contact. I feel him coming back. The sex is the quick sand. Watching your videos for strength

@sinceresong9907

5 ай бұрын

you will eventually feel disgusted by him

@ginarenee1625

4 ай бұрын

My narc ex told me after sex “huh oh.. now you’re in dicksand.”

Det ved jeg Anouska jeg er helt enig med dig om det. God aften 😉

If there is sex at all, there is no sex at all in narcissist, only pain if you ask me

Anoushka for president! ❤

🎉🎉🎉🎉 thank you so much for this video yes it's true thank God I had no sexual contact at all with the ex narc I used to be with for a year and a half I haven't saw him but the last time I spoke to him was 8 months ago so it's the best life and the best thing that I'm glad that he's still out of my life yes thank you again ❤

Can anyone stop the narcs???!!!! Only solution is put yourself first. The discard over n over is what hurts, when or how does a narc change? These are just terrible ppl, i dont know what their purpose is in life!!!

@caseteamcouture8633

5 ай бұрын

They are useless

@deb2319

5 ай бұрын

Great point made..they have no purpose just to control anyone and everyone along the way.

@Cerez78

4 ай бұрын

Their purpose is to destroy - like the devil does. They are not of God.

Thank you very much. Now I know why I was drained out financially. I am from Papua New Guinea in the Pacific ocean region.

This is perfect..ty

I stopped, and it has helped me not to feel so unloved and broken anymore. I canteen giving myself to someone who intentionally emotionally checks out or chooses to disconnect.

God bless you!!

That's the only card they got to play to hold on to someone. Because they have nothing else to give in a relationship. Sex can be a master manipulator very easily. They will always want to utilise your emotions and energy levels only and only for them. They understood one thing for sure. That we are givers. People like us just dont get into the act. But we give out our everything for our partner so that they feel loved and cared till the very last moment and beyond. They will exploit it everyday and once they have understood that they have coiled us in enough. It's time for their craziness to begin..To create stress, confused situations. In some intimate moments they would even shamelessly bring up their past experiences to hurt you with a deep scar or so that you take it on your ego and give it more. And at the end you are the one who will feel empty and utterly dissatisfied for sure. This is what they want. To ruin the other person. To destroy their life energy and positive aura and their ability to give love totally.. To break him so that he can never recover back. And then swing straight towards their next VICTIM!!

Thank you ❤

She absolutely nailed it 100 percent . Never heard anyone mention 100 percent of the scenarios as she did perfectly . Now to recover …

Don’t do it! Save your ego and pass on it. A friend of mine told me that her husband said “ I hate you physically”. That night he initiated sex, she couldn’t do it. That was the end of their intimate relationship. Who would have sex with someone who said they hated you physically?

A narcissist would never seek help, because they would never see themselves needing help. So, the only way a few of them might get diagnosed, is if they were going to a psychologist for something else, and the psychologist happens to realize that the person is a narcissist. But if the psychologist even ever brought that up to the person, the person would probably never return. So, in my opinion, narcissists never get treated.

What about when a narcissist owes you money? Forget about it forever?

This could be your saving grace.

Sex to a narc is manipulation and supply. Not intimacy.

Thank s Ask

Sex was indeed fantastic at the beginning of my Narc relationship and returned to almost those highs following every major discard/hoover cycle. It was unquestionably one of the range of lures she used to reel me back-in. In between, it became more performative/mechanical/disconnected and dwindled towards the end of each cycle, occasionally picking-up again before she hit me with an unusually severe burst of rage. Totally unlike any other relationship I've had with a more fully/normally emotionally connected partner. I also have to say that in that relationship, I sustained more "sexually-related" injuries than with any other person in my life. My doctor looked quite aghast sometimes when I presented with yet another one.

@timothymcgimpsey2440

5 ай бұрын

Sti’s?

@francescoiorfino2002

5 ай бұрын

You mean scratches and bites?

@pogofish1

5 ай бұрын

I don't know if this is the place for gory details but yes and worse, plus one thankfully minor/easily treated STI following one of her discard/hoover cycles. I had myself fully checked-out after it ended.

Thank you, I really needed to hear this ❤

It transforms into rape. They will trick you into sleeping with them and convince you of anything. I started screaming and crying every day because it felt wrong. Of i tried to leave he called me a whore and tried to hurt me and at times I thought he would kill me. And also the making you feel worry for them etc etc.

💯 true!

Stay away from ANY sexual contacts. Period. abstinence from sex is the best way to healing oneself. Jumping into bed with another, and another, and another guy is not the way to live a life.

My ex narc and sex, I don't even want to think about it, after I left the relationship, her sexual behavior went through the roof, to the point my children started telling me things when they would come visit me, smh....absolutely no morals, standards, no respect for herself or my children. By the Grace of The Most High, I was granted full custody of our 3 children, since then, I haven't looked back.

@MONEYAINTATHANG100

4 ай бұрын

you had kids with that person?

I think also people who are saying that they have a sex addiction, or actually narcissist, because they haven’t problem with connection and true intimacy! I think they blame it on this sex addiction label, but they’re really just narcissist with no empathy for who they’re hurting or what STDs they’re bringing home! It’s all about them and their pleasure! There’s something very robotic about them. I guess it’s the fact that they cannot connect.

Anoushka i got that way with the ex narcissist that i wouldnt have sex with him he made my skin crawl thanks anoushka for your videos i really love them

This is so true I never feel a real connection when we have sex just like he’s sucking the life out of me! Barley rubbed my back smh then start getting abusive! I can’t belive I have allowed this crap and I’m walking away he will get bad karma for everything he’s done to me

But it’s the only thing keeping me there lol

@deb2319

5 ай бұрын

It can be dangerous...if u keep them around for xxx they still hurt you and ugh gawd forbid stds... I kept them around for sex and it proved to be very painful. Now i only have sex where there is love reciprocated...atm just self love & peace thank goodness🙏💪💜🖼

Emotional interaction and physical closeness and intimacy with narcissists is pure poison. I know what I'm talking about. I spent six months with a (as I now know) highly narcissistic and sadistic woman, including two weeks on holiday together (two weeks travelling through Tuscany and Italy in a convertible). What sounds dreamlike was pure horror, highly toxic and destructive. Having this person around for 14 days poisoned me. No warmth, no closeness, no appreciation... pure horror. Overall, it was as if my soul had spent six months in radioactively contaminated Chernobyl. In the end, I was destroyed and poisoned. Soul, spirit, self-esteem, joie de vivre - everything was ruined. I experienced the whole range of sick excesses: sadism, victimhood, jealousy, hatred, anger, unreflectiveness, obsessive control, gaslighting... you name it. It was all there. And the worst thing of all was the end: viciously hurting and destroying me and portraying herself as a victim who also wants understanding and support. Even in the last conversation, she was still the victim and wanted to look good to me. Since then, it has been as clear as day to me what a terrible character she is. Disgusting.

My narc ex withheld intimacy from me for 6 months. I didn't know what was going on. I never asked him. I just kept it to myself. I know that bothered him because I wasn't begging him for sex. I understand now that my body was rejecting him.

I've gone through menopause and have zero sex drive, he accused me on multiple occasions of having affairs with some as young as my adult children's ages. It's over now and I'm so relieved.

@sinceresong9907

5 ай бұрын

good old projection

@1stBorn538

5 ай бұрын

Went through the same with my ex, who is 12 years younger, but swears I wasn't attracted to him or wanted someone else, and it wasn't true. They can be very insecure

The last time I saw my narcissistic ex, it was specifically because she wanted to have sex. She was very pushy and dominant, much more so than she ever had been. I made a comment about this to her by text and she said she "likes to think about it as owning [me]." Chills. Those are the exact words you used in this video to describe what they're seeking. Sometimes they come right out and tell you what they're doing to you.

The confusing thing about narcs is that both often accuse each other of being one.

@staciacrick3373

9 күн бұрын

Projection

Dear Anoushka. Thank you for the confirming video. Although I did not know what narcissists are, I realized from the beginning that something was wrong with my narcissistic wife. So I asked her in the beginning, why do you sleep with me if you do not love me? And she was even honest and told me, she does not like man also not girls. Then I told her, do not sleep with somebody you do not love. I am now 20 years married with her. And I tell my friends, I had sex 1 or 2 times with my wife before marriage, but never after. She is still a lovely person, but of course as narcissists are, with all her peculiarity traits. So we had never a real fight and even love each other or at least she pretends it, as narcissists do not know what love is 🤭😋🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️.

Thanks toots’ . I needed to hear this. Now I know I’m the problem . Why is it harder to leave the older one is ? She may be the narcissist, but I choose to be me ( whom I have lost ) and in doing so intend to leave this dead end of a relationship with Valor . My golden years are mine to share not lose . Thankyou

I find that most narcissists create dialog about narcissists.

From 06:45 onwards - gold summary 👏

Narcs are great short term flings...thats it...dont be a victim

Absolutely 👏👏👏

Is compleetly true

THEIR PARASITIES AND VAMPIRES 🧛‍♂️

Great,, thanks,, this just what happens to me,,an I didn't know what happen to me

I wish that I had this Nolledge 20yrs ago,I would have never allowed myself to get involved with such a evil man

Glad to know this am getting over this nonsense the only thing is she took my son at 3 months old I can't give myself kids only thing I can't do myself