My problem with the dating scene is that SO MUCH ADVICE IS GIVEN TO WOMEN, women come in being perfect and men aren’t adviced & don’t even have to lift their toes. Love how Brendan advices men as well.

@wanderingcucamber7082

4 жыл бұрын

This is so true ✅✅✅

@unarinedagada1764

4 жыл бұрын

Tee yes!💯

@Iam.Theresa

4 жыл бұрын

Each time I watch Mpoomy, there's always something to learn. Thanks to Brenden for advising guys, and thank you Mpoomy for reminding us of our worth. Love you guys❤

@hellendaphine74

4 жыл бұрын

Advice is Sooo much women sided like Brenden has said if a woman values herself a man can change for the better Men know stuff but they endeavour to pretend Dats yyyy when they reach to getting a woman to spend there life with they can change for the better it starts with you the woman

"There is something that God gave every woman: instict, intuition & gut. Listen to it" That Part!!!

@monicahnjihia7538

4 жыл бұрын

That was deep

Who's liking before watching 😍

@PercyEats

4 жыл бұрын

Music Network To Jesus me sir 😍😍😍

@NonyeNwandu

4 жыл бұрын

Me!!!

@tsholofelomosia6624

4 жыл бұрын

Me

@nonkululekoxaba4820

4 жыл бұрын

Meeeeeeee, they look good together

@Glory_Chitanha

4 жыл бұрын

Lol me

when Mpoomy said " you need to be Ok with being alone"..that's me right now.... what an eye opening conversation..

On my side my man changed me , helped me see my worth , I changed for the better because I didn’t get defensive , I allowed myself to change and learn from him. Let’s shout to men who are transforming women’s lives and Not financially but mentally too , I pass , I got myself a car , I stopped heavy drinking, partying , wrong friends of my man , shout out to good men🙏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@livingwithwanjiku

3 жыл бұрын

I've experienced that too! Shout out to the good men out there🥂

@nomfundokhoza1378

Жыл бұрын

Wow, that amazing!

When Brenden said “if you took away those things, most men don’t know who they are”; I felt that

@MpoomyLedwaba

4 жыл бұрын

its the hard truth hey

@tintswalochabalala4672

4 жыл бұрын

Very true

@thembimogala9704

4 жыл бұрын

The money, the cars, all the material things without love, values and knowing who you are are meaningless. Pity some men think they are 'IT' with these things. What a shallow life to think you are worthy because of material possessions.

@ThokoTwala

4 жыл бұрын

Tapiwanashe Shava The problem is that there are so many dating books for women and none for men. So much is expected from women and nothing from men.

@thembimogala9704

4 жыл бұрын

@@ThokoTwala Also some men are content with bringing bare minimum in the relationship. I pray for a day when women would not settle for less in a relationship, love is about reciprocity, it can't be one-sided. Mrs & Mr. Ledwaba is sufficient proof that reciprocal love and relationship do exist it just takes effort, self-awareness, and intention from both partners.

Friendly reminder, "if he is serious, he will step up." 👌🏾

I like how Brenden emphasized that just because you have found your inner worth it’s not going to mean that you going to attract Mr Right. That it might result in you losing people who don’t want to step up.

Am I the only one who didn't want this to end?! 🌻

@ncebakazitshangela1032

4 жыл бұрын

Not alone sis! Tjo the wisdom this couple has

@noziphontuli4011

4 жыл бұрын

No! Me also😐

@carolinemamelpo9795

3 жыл бұрын

Not at all

The Wisdom in this home🔥

@MpoomyLedwaba

4 жыл бұрын

thank you

@225580mj

4 жыл бұрын

Right?!

@zukokakana8270

4 жыл бұрын

Hey wena, its so beautiful I want it for when I have my own home.

@Miss-kl6jl

3 жыл бұрын

It's all I want for life

You're both glowing. If 'we're pregnant' was a couple

@PercyEats

4 жыл бұрын

Thato Baloyi 😂😂😂😂.

@boledimasemola314

4 жыл бұрын

😂☺️👌

@musabright1083

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂🔥

"I dont think finances are important as a man with a vision and a plan. " I couldn't agree less.😊💯💯

@wanderingcucamber7082

4 жыл бұрын

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This is so on point. Sex definitely clouds your judgment and makes you emotionally weak towards your S. O.

@MpoomyLedwaba

4 жыл бұрын

yes it really does!

This was great! However, I think it’s interesting how we set such low standards for men. I don’t think that we should give men points for living like a responsible adult e.g. the point Mpoomy made about being impressed about Brenden having curtains and not a sheet in his apartment. I completely relate to that way of thinking but we need to normalize expecting men to be responsible adults who can take care of themselves and not give them points for it. And in terms of potential, I like what Steve Furtick says: date someone for their patterns and not their potential.

@schantellabraham2

3 жыл бұрын

This is the comment right here. I feel like we women try soooo hard and men do the bare minimum.

@tshepinicol

3 жыл бұрын

The part about potential👏 Someone could have potential but have no interest in pursuing and working on that potential. And you end up hanging on that hope that they will reach that potential that you see in them, then it never happens because they are not interested. You end up becoming miserable and it seems like you are forcing someone to be who they are not.

You know what's beautiful about this... Is that we are going to do things differently with our kids😊

@khwezimadlala

4 жыл бұрын

Yesss

@kiileetsoku2397

4 жыл бұрын

Righttt

I love how everyone left kind comments it's cool to see positive affirmations in the KZread space

This is perfect. The last boyfriend I had said that I had too many expectations and I was hard to please. I felt so bad at that time and I thought of lowering my standards but I couldn't, this is a confirmation from God that my values and principles aren't ridiculous, all my exes were not for me! I hope the person I'm in a relationship now is willing to accept the values I have set!

Didn't know people are this hungry for real conversations... I pray we all stay true to who we are...

I saw somewhere it said, "don't marry potential but marry patterns". Think it makes hella sense

Someone once said to me: "You are not "choosy",you just know your worth."🌸 Thanks for that guys😊 I highly feel like I attracted this video hey😅

my friends think it's weird that I'm 20 and single andazi why. I always tell them that I have to know me FIRST, know what I want. Being alone, I've learnt to know my worth and being single you discover a lot about yourself and I love it. ❤

@MpoomyLedwaba

4 жыл бұрын

yes theres a blessing in the single season

@RatoM.Official

4 жыл бұрын

I'm also 20 and I relate 100%. I'm also taking time out by myself to figure myself out.

@veruscamuranda6113

4 жыл бұрын

Very true..it's amazing

@veruscamuranda6113

4 жыл бұрын

I had a bad experience,8 years in a relationship even got a baby..Because I didn't know my worth this guy did whatever, said whatever he wanted to me, he got me thinking bad about myself but now that it's all over am jus like how did you let all of this happen to you..I just realised how beautiful, amazing worth it and valuable I am..learning to love yourself is the best journey ever

@kgaogeloprecious2278

4 жыл бұрын

I can relate, i have been single for 1 year and 5 months now..

Just shared this video to my daughters and son.. U guys are inspiring... Just so u know... I am 55years old and blown away by your wisdom.. May God bless ur family always❤️

When Brenden says a guy can be okay with dysfunction, you know dysfunction serves him very well because he doesn't have to account, to do better for himself and the person he claims to love.

@unathimbekela6003

4 жыл бұрын

Wow!! The truth in that statement is really sad. We need to raise our boys better and not expect girls to always be the ones who restore order in relationships.

I think im also at a phase where im realising my self worth.Turning 25 has made me unapologetic about who i am as a woman and what I think I deserve

@La__simonne

4 жыл бұрын

Mbali Mbali turning 25 make you look at your life in another dimension! I turned 25 too and I have been working on my self as well

@mrs_mentalhealthsa

4 жыл бұрын

I'm also turning 25 and now truly dating in the right direction with understanding my worth, it's a beautiful phase to be in

@mbalimbali4033

4 жыл бұрын

Mbali Radebe it is beautiful

@vinoliamolefe4144

4 жыл бұрын

Turning 25 and I agree,right now I'm focusing on myself more than other things that can bring delay!❤ power to us!

@vinoliamolefe4144

4 жыл бұрын

Turning 25 and I agree,right now I'm focusing on myself more than other things that can bring delay!❤ power to us!

I think allowing each other to grow individually is the difficult part, because we assume that people come to us already being “perfect” or having their things all sorted out

Does Brandon have a channel for the gents cause yeah. This vid really hit home and i just realized how much i appreciate my relationship and the way it's moulding me to be a better person in life itself ♥️

@lesegoyv

4 жыл бұрын

He recently created one, not sure if it's for gents only though. @brenden_praise

When she said "you will take crap for 5 years just because of that spiritual tie". I felt that... I was in toxic relationship for the longest time ,I can boldly say my judgement was clouded by that spiritual tie that I had with that guy. Luckily I've learned so much about myself during that process/relationship and even more after things FINALLY ended for good. Mpoomy you are right, the day you realise that you know what, I'm good even if I'm alone I will not lower my standards because I know who I am and what I need and want from a from man. I'm not gonna be taking crap from anyone moving forward periodt Side Note: Loving your channel❤ I'm a new subscriber😊

My God! I wish these lessons would have come way earlier in my life. I've had to learn the hard way. But nevertheless all that has been said is so true. Self worth is so important and its evident in the things we allow to continue to manifest in our lives. Ladies and gents if you find yourself in a place where you compromising your core values, tolerating or giving people the benefit of the doubt based of the vail perceived as love than you've done an great injustice to self. Most times we know what's best for ourselves and often times we decide to live not in the constant consciousness of that or rather let me say, choose not to be intentional in how we recieve and give off ourself, which leads to our own injustice. I really love the part where our brother speaks about facing our demons. And alot us comprise what is true and pure because it's a difficult exercise to do especially with someone else. May these chats continue to take place. I love and respect you both and truly God is doing a great work in you. Thank you

@noelorraine

4 жыл бұрын

I also believe these are conversations we should have with our kids from a very young age..let's teach our kids to value themselves and once they start dating we have more of these conversations

That was inspiring...it made me remember how I met my husband, this year is our tenth year anniversary married but we still young. And he only proposed after 3 month of dating and we used to share a meal bcoz that's what we could afford at that time

Wow😭😭 just when I thought I was asking too much ku guy, u guys just made me realise its okay to be alone until I find someone that is willing to go an extra mile just to see me smile, not someone who finds pleasure in seeing me cry, someone that is selfish and arrogant that I should be willing to let go if I see that this guy is not willing to step, u guy is comfortable we never went to even one dated and we dated for 6 years +, he did not have a car back then then he brought a car and not even once he keeps telling me he is broke but with sex he needs no excuses, how is a guy that buys R4000 sneakers every month broke to even take his girlfriend to see a cheap movie ke, I wouldn't mind but no that's too expensive for him, thanx guys may God bless you really needed to hear that

@kwanelechili2639

4 жыл бұрын

Im so sorry

@olwenenenoncokwana8943

3 жыл бұрын

Are you talking about my ex?(haha)

@Miss-kl6jl

3 жыл бұрын

The exact idiot i was dating...is there a perfect name for such monsters

1. Kante what perfume or lotion is Mrs Mom using that makes Brenden to always be sniffing at her?? 😂I've noticed from many videos that he always does that🧡 2. "there is something God gave every women, which is instinct, intuition and guard, listen to it",, one most point I'm walking away with from today's video 3. You guys are just soo😍😍❤️❤️❤️❤️😍a great definition of love and soul mate. 4. Mrs Mom don't forget to hook us up with the name of the perfume you're using, on behalf of all ladies, we need it shem😂

@nonhlanhlandwandwe3341

3 жыл бұрын

🤣

Always listen to your instincts, very important.I was married for 11 years and when he changed and broke his promises, I ran and never looked back. I have been single/divorced for 3 years and I will never settle for anything less than my worth. If it means dying alone, I am fine with it. It is very crucial to go into a relationship with expectation because you cant just be in a relationship or marriage and embrace walking in the darkness. You cannot just go with the flow, Thanks guys! Love you!

@wanderingcucamber7082

4 жыл бұрын

I love you for this sis. S/O for putting yourself first!!!!!

@nomsayolisa1804

4 жыл бұрын

Babe i love you for this . I was in the same boat divorced 3 years back. Found love with most amazing soul who's only here to love me values me and only wants the best for me financially, mentally and spiritually. Enjoy your life and loving you and knowing your work😙😙😙😙

@kelmadooliphant719

4 жыл бұрын

@@nomsayolisa1804 Thank you so much sis, wishing you and yours a very blessed relationship.God is FAITHFUL at all times...

@thembimogala9704

4 жыл бұрын

@Kelebogile..When we think deeply about this, there's really nothing to fear, putting yourself first to protect your worth is key. I'm glad you had the courage to do what is best for you.

@Nokss87

3 жыл бұрын

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We need to go through those bad relationships to learn what we truly want and will stand for and also to appreciate the good ones because they aren’t the norm.

Mpoomy that's very true ,sex is a soul tie and that has bred so many toxic relationships

@_molebogeng6281

4 жыл бұрын

😨😨😨😨that was a lightbulb moment for me

The part when Brendan says men get comfortable and don't see a need to change what they are used to scared me. Many of us women will confuse that for a man really wanting to be with us.

I LOOOVE THIS!!! Such a gem of a message Amen to everything you guys said!!

"we all have vulnerabilities" 🥺🥺 You guys are so wise!!! This was altogether life changing!!

This has been really insightful, and made me realize that I know my worth. And when you said some guys will leave because they are not ready, and sometimes I will leave because they don't deserve me. That hit home, and it is very true. We must learn to love ourselves more so that the thought of being alone doesn't scare us.

It has really opened channels for me to understand and know my worth, so much I didnt know but am now glad I do

Brenden, THANK YOU🙏🏾 Mpoomy... Love your content, it's never predictable which I love because im always braced for new knowledge & perspective. 💕

I just love you too! So, smart and there alot of teamwork going here and that's Beautiful

Wow! I am so happy I subscribed to your channel yesterday and today I have learnt so many things. Thank you and your husband for sharing all of that with us. I don't know where I have been to subscribe so late because I have been following you for a while now on Instagram but late is better then never :) :) I have so much catching up to do because wow you guys are amazing. Thank you again.

Everytime I see Brenden on this channel i just know i need to have my pen and notebook ready.Wisdom galore. You guys are a blessing.

So many lessons from this video! May God bless the both of you. ♥️ Knowing your worth is sooo important, otherwise you’ll end up settling for anything that’s not good for you or serving you.

True. People value themselves through external things. This video was really needed. Beautiful.

Thank you for this. i really needed to hear this. We need to know our worth, you need to love yourself first before expecting anyone to love you.

Loved it so much, so much to take away from, and yeah, definitely an ongoing conversation

😭❤ what a beautiful message! I am literally making changes today

Thank you for these kinds of conversations. Enjoying this🌻

I really enjoyed watching this! Your connection with your husband is truly God made

I love you used the words courting and not vibing, there’s a big difference

Thank you guys very much for this conversation. I needed to hear this more than anything. It is so important to know one's worth and what you offer the next individual so you don't end up settling. I'm currently in a season of being intentionally single focusing on the things that I need to learn and unlearn about myself. It's not easy but this is clearly affirmation that it will be worth it. Thank you guys for the consistent thought provoking content. Keep these coming!!!

I’m so glad to hear this,while I’m single,thank you thank you so much guys.🙏🏽🌷

I definitely didn’t know my worth for the longest time and that’s why I started my KZread channel too, with the hopes that I can empower and re-assure other women of their worth. Brenden really dropped some bombs for the male perspective 🙆🏽‍♀️

Thank you so much to the Praise's you have helped me so much with a challenge I have had for about 2 years where I didn't know my worth and let my feelings for that individual get the better of me. Had the same situation as Mpoomys experience where I had the guy only call me in the weekends and only in the a.m. and honestly felt like that was love and everytime I sat alone it would really hurt just thinking about the situation. After watching this video it helped me in realizing my worth and letting go.

I felt this message. I was once in this situation twice &was so vulnerable that I allowed guys to walk all over me but after realizing that i have been used& broken, i started looking for change& peace now i own my life. I know my worth &m so excited of being single because I don't feel any pressure from anybody. Looking forward to more enlightement.

sjoe, thank you for this. this is really setting me free. thank you

I love this video. From the Colour coordination of your outfits to the gems being dropped here😍😍

You guys are a “powerhouse” 🙌🙌

Abuti Brandon is so wise, his perspective on these issues is so different. He sheds light on the “not so nice things” without being controversial

I've learned so so much from the gems that both of you dropped..such an eye and heart opener💖

i love you guys so much, just saw your videos today i'm learning ...thank you

I love that you show that love takes effort it often doesn’t come on a silver platter(like the movies like us to believe). love is a journey.

The way you guys look at each other! Oh my god I'm on tears right now, and now I'm starting to believe it when say love is beautiful

This has been so helpful. Thank you mpoomy and Brendan.. God bless you guys tons..

All the way from the Caribbean, you guys are the best. So inspiring and honest!!

I think this is what I needed to hear🥺😭so much wisdom 🔥🔥🔥

Thank you for uploading this video. I enjoyed it soooo much! So much wisdom and insight. May God bless you.

We are here for this: beautiful honest conversation 🙌🏽❤️🌻

Instinct,intuition and gut 🙌🏿 an incredible combo really thank you so much guys

When confirmation comes at the right time 🙌🏼 thanks for honest and open content 🤗 am here for this 😍💃love you guys ❤️

Really enjoyed this vid, Mpoomy and Brenden have rich minds, so much wisdom. May God continue to guide and sustain you.

Thank you so much guys this is so eye opening and powerful stuff. Knowing my worth has made me walk away even when my heart wanted me to stay.

I always watch your video's, guy's it is soo inspiring. My life has a meaning and I thank God for giving me a sign of me following yall ❤ God bless ❤❤

I definitely appreciate this video and how sincere you both are. Thank you.

Notification gang gang!! 😀😀😍😍😍so excited already liked !

Beautifully spoken ❤️, Thank you very much 🙏🏾.

I really love how you tabulate things,indeed two is better than one or two makes things successful..keep it up and may God bless you with more wisdom

Wow. You guys are so so wise. I appreciate the insight and this video has really reminded me that I don't have to and shouldn't settle for safe. Thank you so much ♥️

This is way better then television unscripted and very authentic. Thank you guys for sharing. This conversation was just a confirmation for me because I recently broke up with the person that I was with it was difficult to do but I had to do it because if I hadn't I would have subjected myself to receiving what's left of his time which amounted to very little. I am worth spending QUALITY time with.

This is SUCH good advice. Thank you for using your platform to help so many of us to see our worth✨💖

Thank you for this video it is really an eye opener. I am also one who loves love and believe it to be the most beautiful thing ever. Currently going through the most but this has sparked certain questions to be asked to oneself and then to the partner. Keep sharing you guys are great 🙏🏾💛

So true that we perish because of lack of knowledge, Knowing your worth is important. Thank you @mpoomy&brenden🍃❤

Love Love you Guys so much Well i can definitely relate with Mpoomy, there was a point when I was bob the builder for some time (still recovering) and gave my self so much in the relationship , well i must say it really works having to take a break to find yourself and knowing your worth , i am under going my own journey of self discovery . I CANT WAIT FOR THE NEXT VIDEO

Wow, this is a beautiful message with a lot a lessons and I learned a lot here. I am still on a journey of getting to know myself and what it is that I want. Being single helps to discover what your worth is as you learn more about yourself. Thank you so much Mpoomy and Brenden.

Absolutely loved this video. Thank you for opening up the space to have such conversations and sharing what you’ve learned. I can definitely attest to the shift I’ve seen in myself over the passed year and more especially after my 24th birthday. I know my worth now. More especially because of who God says I am. My boundaries are set. I couldn’t settle even if I wanted to at this point. The more I grow in defining what I like, the more I realize things I absolutely refuse to tolerate or accept. When you love and respect yourself completely you begin to attract and recognize healthy love as well; that’s when it becomes easy to be alone if you’re not receiving what you know you deserve.

You are so much blessing to the world. May God grant you more wisdom

It was great listening to all of that wisdom from you guys. I feel blessed. Really blessed at such a time like this.

Thank you so much Mrs Mom, such a powerful video this is was❤ your husband is wise.

This was extremely insightful. a lot of us NEEDED to hear this. Thanks for sharing guys :)

loved this conversation, got me to think and realize some things. in a way, it's like I found peace and closure! looking forward to the next conversation. God bless❤️

Guys, this was amazingly relatable! I’m so glad I watched! ♥️

Thank you for this video! 💃A goldmine 🤞I had never heard of men finding their value in women before this video...I have heard more about woman finding their worth,security and value in men. It is clearer for me to see the latter, over the former. A video going deeper into how Men find their value in women would be great!!! And super appreciated. It's just I always thought men find their worth in the accumulation of things, find their worth in comparison with other men, in hard working they are, in their success and recognition things like that. Not so much from women.

Oh wow, this was so beautiful to watch. So sincere ❤

Hmm, it's definitely important to know your self worth, thanks for sharing guys. God bless

I loved this video, thank you so much. I am in my 30s now, been single and grateful for my old soul. I really had to learn to love myself, value myself, put in all the work and realised that there is no need to get involved with someone just for the sake. Great insight and love you guys so much xxxxxxx I totally agree with the materialstic stance because this generation values the most unrealistic things and if you are an old soul, you will definetly get dribbled a lot. Trust in who you are, love yourself and do not settle for anything!

Subcribed and liked from all three of my devices. So much love and wisdom it is inspiring

Beautiful content!! Thank you guys for sharing.. I have a lot to unlearn and to forgive myself from to regain my self worth.

Very informative ,thank you much for starting the conversation.A lot of people settle for scraps indeed and do not know their value especially us women but it is never too late to do introspection and revaluation of oneself and set new rules and boundaries for what it is that you want or can allow. In all honesty it's really simple,if he's not stepping up then he's gotta go! And by step up not one random change today and that's its it should be consistent from both sides. Sex really does make things blurry indeed .I've learnt CELIBACY is key when getting into a relationship ,so that it can be based on the right fundamentals.

You guys are so young yet full of wisdom wow may God give u more wisdom nd bless your union. ♥️