I am literally so sick and tired of hearing this exact story over and over all around the world and nothing absolutely nothing changes for women...

@markbaz4200

2 жыл бұрын

They do play out like the stories are almost scripted! It’s hard to watch knowing what is to come. It like watching a horror movie and the girl is running towards the danger in slow motion! There needs to be a specific “stalker unit” at every police station that is able to assess the situation with a questionnaire that tally’s up points per actions, if the stalkers actions score high enough he is picked up IMMEDIATELY!

@melaniemunro6696

2 жыл бұрын

I feel the same, every true crime story is an entitled controlling guy escalating aggression eventually murdering a girl. 6 women every hour die at the hands of a man and over 50% of those are cases are a man she knows.

@charlesburroughs9770

2 жыл бұрын

Be fair now, yes most stalkers are men, but there are also deadly women stalkers too!!!

@rickjames7576

2 жыл бұрын

There are plenty of men being stalked and murdered also. And it is just as dangerous when they are. I can't imagine the fear in a stalking situation. Like you can't be yourself, be FREE, because someone is controlling your ability to move about in your autonomous right to do so. Very sad. Be careful out there people.

@rickjames7576

2 жыл бұрын

@@melaniemunro6696 Men die too. Killed by the angry aggression of stalking women. There are sickos on both sides of the gender scale.

He's charged with threatening to kill Clare and then he's released on bail, well that makes a whole lot of sense.

@randyrawdingii5135

2 жыл бұрын

No kidding. Crime and punishment seems to be lopsided these days with credit card fraudsters and the like getting 15 years in prison over $80k, and rapists and murderers getting 2 years and probation. It's so twisted!

@3k445

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you... the police should have alerted the victim, family and given them witness protection, a refuge or a safe house. This is part of the fundamentals of public safety and policing.

@annecaru9208

2 жыл бұрын

@@randyrawdingii5135 THEY HAVE THEIR PRIORITIES SCREWED UP. IT SHOULD HAPPEN TO THEM TO FEEL THE PAIN.

@Gamer_Dan_79

2 жыл бұрын

i blame the cops and justice system. its their fault she died as they didnt do enough

@Liverpoolboy01

2 жыл бұрын

Another let down by the Met!!!

*The NO Test:* The best test of an abuser is to say "no". Depending on how they react, you'll get your answer. If they respect your "no", that's good. If they get angry, pout, guilt trip you or shame you.... *RUN!* This is serious.

@sheeshee5083

Жыл бұрын

Thank you:) I'll use this when I date someone.

@diamondsparkle9967

Жыл бұрын

Yep. Been there. That's should've been a sign for me but I ignored it.

@almohvn33

Жыл бұрын

Wow... that is such a great tip! WOWOOOWWWW!!!!!! And.. also .. any sign of violence or talking about violence.. RUN!

@laurahennessy2893

Жыл бұрын

Yes, as my abuser once admitted to me that when I said no I'm not comfortable with that. He heard challenge accepted to change my mind. ???? What a werido

@Mytesmyth

Жыл бұрын

Doesn’t always work, the best abusers can hide and put on a show pretending to respect your “no” and when you least expect it”BAM!” They will get you back!

"You're not only my daughter, you're my best friend." That hurt to hear. Her poor, darling mother...she's so strong for being able to tell Clare's story. I admire her.

@yeetnama9094

Жыл бұрын

Her own mother failed her with her cowardice.

@melixzac

Жыл бұрын

@@yeetnama9094 How do you make sense of that? How is this her mother’s doing? Smh Jesus!!!

@h.g.9411

Жыл бұрын

@@yeetnama9094 so says the loser hiding behind anonymity 🙄

@LuciiLovesYoux

Жыл бұрын

@@yeetnama9094 that’s my auntie, you don’t know her, so kindly do one you horrible person

@missquinn861

Жыл бұрын

@@melixzacdon’t feed the troll

Don't say that he was "head over heels" or "infatuated." He was obsessed and crazy not in love. You make him sound like some heartbroken bloke but he was a monster.

@Bee-ly4gx

2 жыл бұрын

Quite right.

@rnbsteenstar

2 жыл бұрын

When someone is head over heels or infatuated, they wanna learn about you, spend time with you.

@andyvyrha1312

2 жыл бұрын

That's a fault of norepinephrine

@Dhruv_Dogra

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@donnamariegrant9204

2 жыл бұрын

It's all about control

My ex husband would stalk me and harrass me when I divorced him..I went to court and put a restraining order on him because he jumped the fence from my home and was watching me sleep through my window..I would go to the store and there he was..He also spray painted "I love you" on my driveway..I had enough..so I got my gun license and purchased a gun..and I moved to a different city..So far he hasn't been able to locate me..and I pray he never does..If he does find me I'm ready..Since I carry my gun on me at all times..So please men and women do not wait for things to get better or for your stalker to suddenly stop..because it will only get worse ..if you don't take action to protect yourself you could end up like this young lady...You can't count on Police to protect you..Until you end up dead is when Police take action

@Sigma2HisAlpha

2 жыл бұрын

Wow!! May God continue to protect and shield you. Stay safe

@Rakel6784

2 жыл бұрын

@@Sigma2HisAlpha Thank you

@bobbyswain7049

2 жыл бұрын

Keep that gun on you all times and know how to use it........your life is important

@Rakel6784

2 жыл бұрын

@@bobbyswain7049 Yes I carry it on me always..I went to a shooting range to learn..Thank you for your comment

@refugeofthoughts8870

2 жыл бұрын

I’m happy you got away. ❤️It’s crazy the lengths they go to. I had to buy a gun too but I’m still scared. I won’t have any real peace until he dies.

What make me sooo mad is that the family or friends say "We never thought they would follow through on the threats." This is the most saddest mistake ever. Take those threats seriouslllly!!

@gabrielleanik707

2 ай бұрын

Thank you .

I’m really disappointed in how little our women and children are being protected. It’s really sad.

@anthonyjenkins2001

10 ай бұрын

To be fair there's only so much the law can do. If someone wants to kill you they'll do it.

@traditionalsoldier3639

10 ай бұрын

Well stop dating dangerous man

@Geggis

10 ай бұрын

@@traditionalsoldier3639 That's exactly what killed her. The fact that she put an end to it. geeezzzz

@tantalize5795

9 ай бұрын

​@@traditionalsoldier3639🤣😂🤭

@eileenthombs2075

9 ай бұрын

​@tantalize5795 you think that's funny????? You're sick. You're probably one of these men

Stalking needs to be aggressively punished and the perpetrators given mandatory long term counseling/supervision as it so often ends in violence and death to the victims of stalkers.

@ak.alaska

2 жыл бұрын

So true! Here in Alaska I experienced that breaking a restraining order , the abuser didn’t even get jail time! Alaska has the highest rate of sexual assault/abuse. The system cares LESS! If the predator is a stranger then they take it more serious, but if it was from someone that used to have a relationship woth then they don’t take it serious! Sexual abuse of a minor or breaking restraining orders with abuse has less punishment then writing bad checks, or theft with money over $ a certain amount. so that this tells victims & predators -that money/monetary items are more important than a life.. F’ing system is so backwards! I promise a predator of children gets less time then a bank robber if both found guilty!

@bc8796

2 жыл бұрын

So true. Evidence shows that they just get more and more aggressive as time goes on. It's so ridiculous. You hear time and time again of people going to the police multiple times and they do nothing and then that person is dead. Wow!?!?! I wonder who could have done that? It's so sad. These people need to be put through the ringer

@Southamericangirl42

2 жыл бұрын

They talked about her as though she was some sort of Miss Venezuela...

@shuri.ken6

2 жыл бұрын

exactly. and restraining orders need to be easier to get... even tho most the time they don't even work tbh

@annaschulz3695

2 жыл бұрын

@@Southamericangirl42 in their eyes she was- so after you watched this tragic story- thats on your mind??

Making stalking a criminal offense is not enough. Stalkers should be bracelet cuffed, with a GPS transmitter, restricting them out of town. Long before the stalker reaches his victim, he would be arrested. The Same should be done with sexual offenders. The age of social media, is a haven for potential stalkers and sexual offenders. They don't even have to meet their victim, they can select their victim. They can gather personal information, victim's habits, and many other factors, right out of social media.

@shineskiep8262

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed. Once a stalker, always a stalker. You can drive out nature with a pitchfork, but... They are the ones who should be stalked... by the police 24/7.

@leeroyv5345

2 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, liberal leaders continue to view this as mental illness first and danger second. They continue to push more lax laws on these monsters. Evil cannot be cured.

@katek.4692

2 жыл бұрын

@@leeroyv5345 With all due respect, I do agree that there most definitely needs to be far more intense restrictions, consequences, punishments, etc., that people who commit these acts of stalking, harassment, etc., end up facing from governments and legal systems around the world, however, dismissing the *objective fact* that people like this are mentally ill and mentally unstable and developing the mindset and perspective that they are “just evil” and that you can't “cure evil” is, quite simply, and I don't say this to be mean-spirited, disrespectful, callous/insensitive, or anything remotely similar in nature, an irrational, unrealistic, closed-minded, short-sighted, ignorant, naive, confined, narrow-minded, “black and white,” unreasonable, cognitively and critically impaired or vacant, and unbeneficial way of thinking and overall perspective of we, as humans, who are in no way “all or nothing,” “good or evil,” simple/straightforward, or 1-dimensional, 2-dimensional, or even 3-dimensional beings, but rather, we are innately complex, complicated, multi-layered/multi-faceted, intricate, unique, and a product of a seemingly “never-ending” list of factors, circumstances, events, situations, experiences, and more, which includes those who commit these crimes, acts, etc. This idea that “liberal leaders” are doing something “wrong” for identifying, understanding, acknowledging, and taking into account the fact that human beings, no matter who they are, are not the way that you, as well as many others, for that matter, describe and view them as being, or that it is “not essential” to attempt to treat the practical and likely underlying issues with one’s mental health, which significantly impacts their thinking, behaviors, impulsivity, ability to rationalize, plus so much more, is something that not only astonished me for a multitude of reasons, but it, furthermore, is a mindset that very much exhibits willful ignorance, unawareness, and a lack of understanding and knowledge of the very thing that those of you who think this way are, which is the same thing that people who commit these acts/crimes are, which is an incredibly complex and complicated human being-only, we are not cookie-cutter or carbon copies of one another. I am not, by any means, someone who is religious; I am, however, someone who is deeply spiritual and who believes in only a couple of beliefs that one typically sees those who are religious believe in, outside of the fact that even those personal beliefs that I share with those who consider themselves religious, are not precisely the same as they see and believe in them. Now, the reason that I mention this is because of the choice of wording here and by *many* others, as far as describing certain people as “evil,” which doesn't necessarily mean or indicate that those, like yourself, who characterize people this way are automatically religious in any way. However, many who do also tend to make it noticeably clear that they have religious beliefs, which makes sense considering the exact choice of labeling individuals, as well as overall considering them to be “evil people,” as opposed to “good” or “decent” people. Even with my very own set of spiritual beliefs, I can't just base everything around those beliefs to fit them, nor can I ignore things based on Science, Medicine/Medical Science, and so on-luckily for me, my spiritual beliefs don't, for the most part, dismiss or ignore things founded in Science and adequate research, which means that I don't have to question things that I have learned and have gained knowledge, understanding, and awareness of throughout my 33, and almost 34 this coming October, years of life, lol. My point is that whether someone in your position is religious or not, and whether the sentiments or perspectives of certain people being “evil” derives from a religious standpoint or not, the fact that human beings, no matter who they are, are not “just evil” or “entirely good/decent,” and the fact that anything that people consider to be “evil” about someone directly tie to issues within their brain, such as a plethora of mental health-related struggles, disorders, and conditions, which no one chooses to have in any fathomable way or stretch of the imagination, as well as stemming from that specific person's life experiences, factors, events, and how those particular things have impacted that person’s brain, behaviors, etc., does not change or somehow become “nonexistent,” “irrelevant,” “insignificant,” or things that shouldn't get addressed. It doesn't matter if two people have the same mental health diagnoses or have experienced similar things-they not only do not have the same brain, but they also don't have the same life experiences entirely, so those people who say something like, “I have such-and-such disorder/condition, and I haven't done x, y, or z” or “I experienced/endured this one thing, as well, but I don't like this one person,” and this is no different than those who consider specific people to be “just evil,” clearly have a lack of adequate, realistic, and rational understanding, knowledge, and awareness of us human beings in general. A vast amount of people also act like or exhibit thinking that suggests that two things can't exist or that they can't acknowledge two different things about someone or a situation at the same time, which is something amongst people that is becoming more and more commonly shared and demonstrated through the opinions, sentiments, perspectives, and thinking that they share online especially. For example, too many people act like it is “unacceptable,” “not right,” or somehow “invalidating” to victims of various things to develop an understanding of not only that someone’s actions that caused harm to another were undeniably wrong, but also establish an understanding of how and why it is that the person became the way that they did, which includes acknowledging the fact that there are many cases where a person’s poor thinking, concerning behavior, and damaging actions “make sense” when one has an understanding of not only the potential and likely mental health/illness they possess, but how and why someone could become the way that they did due to those mental health-related issues and all of the things that they experienced and went through throughout their life. One thing, as far as knowing that a person’s actions were in every way wrong, does not have to negate or devalue the significance of how and why someone ended up the way they did and came to do those awful things they did and vice-versa. The same concept and understanding, without a doubt, also applies to how governments and their judicial system handle people like the guy, in this case, not to mention the statement that you and others made about the inadequate system and consequences that too many governments have regarding offenses like this-let’s not forget the precise opinion you shared about liberal government leaders and them “continuing to view this as mental health first and danger last.”. Firstly, “liberal leaders,” as you put it, are not wrong for viewing the issues within these people as “mental health-related” first and foremost. One has to identify the root of a problem before anything else. Secondly, I highly doubt that conservative or republican leaders have “figured out” or established the “most beneficial and reasonable” way of handling things either. As a liberal myself, there is no doubt in my mind that regardless of whether a government that liberals run or conservatives/republicans run, there is a blatant issue with the steps they take to keep everyone, including the offenders, safe and secure, as well as more than obvious problems and flaws in the resources, outlets, and programs they provide to treat people who offend, prison reform, jail services, and much more. The answer isn't just to lock everyone up and “throw away the key,” so to speak, nor is it to ignore the objective reality and nature of how human beings are and how and why they came to be a particular way. If people think that locking up everyone for good or just executing people, while simultaneously, and with willful ignorance, ignoring the facts and realities going in within these people who, and again, did not choose to have the mental sickness that inhabits their brains, which profoundly affects and impacts a significant amount of aspects of themselves, as well as how and why they think, act/behave, “rationalize” to themselves, etc., well, outside of what I have already expressed in this response, I don't know how else to explain just how irrational, flawed, and simple-minded that mindset and thinking are at the end of the day.

@sharlawilliamson9609

2 жыл бұрын

@@katek.4692 The mental health related issues that these people experience, is that they have an ego... that they think they are above the law, that it is ok to control someone, and if not verbally, then physically. The fact that these people have not been held responsible for their actions in the past... they have not been told no by mommy and daddy. That's the reality. If you have had a child murdered, if you have experienced the terror of being stalked as I have, they are a completely people than an emotionally disturbed person being aggressive, with mental health issues, whom you speak of. These stalkers and murderers are calculating. They do not need to be kept safe and secure as you put it. When you speak of EDPs, those are the people who do not have a plan, they do have a chemical imbalance, an alternate reality that they live, and yes it can be scary for them, and thus, yes, they need help in a safe and secure environment... but that is not the same as some jackass who can't accept that a girl doesn't want him, and so she has to die so that no one else can have her. Your stance is valid, but for the wrong argument.

@theunforgiven2885

2 жыл бұрын

People would be surprised to no how many are Really like this ...

When you have a stalker, never tell them you will report them, never tell them to leave you alone, just set a date with them, let them show up there, while you make a run for it to another city, at least you'll know where they are while you escape! Stalkers have nothing to lose they live to be a nightmare!

I was stalked for 2 years and finally I hired a private investigator and won my case. But the feeling of no help and I had to do it on my own is upsetting. You have to give up your life to protect yourself and others until they are locked away.

@angelinasouren

5 ай бұрын

(( hug ))

@user-rv1wf6sd4p

3 ай бұрын

😢😢...or if your deceased!

She was so badly let down, he should never have been able to walk free after breaking his bail conditions before the trial. This could so easily have been avoided, rest in peace Claire 😔

@robertasliutas2903

2 жыл бұрын

That's what I am saying! Doesn't make any sense! They arrested him for breaking his first release on bail conditions and released him again on bail?? This is the part I cannot comprehend! She would be alive!!

@oOIIIMIIIOo

Жыл бұрын

They don't take it serious, because they are 'just women'.

@benkletsch5919

Жыл бұрын

Girls have to becarefull men fall in love .

@vickiclarke9123

Жыл бұрын

At times like this you realize where exactly everyone's judicial system is really messed up. Why wouldn't someone take a psycho's words seroously.. Hello they are sick in their own crazy world and they are only thinking about their own needs and wants . So why wouldn't they let you know that they will take care of you if your against them ...

@Explorer24904

Жыл бұрын

@@robertasliutas2903 the government was just after the money...bail him each time to go back to stalking her till he killed her...

My second husband used to sit in his car and wait for me in front of where I worked. Basically, wherever I went he sat in his car watching to make sure I didn't leave. At home he threw his dinner at me if he didn't like it. He had serious road rage, and he'd scream, or drive right up the car's bumper. When he went into the hospital for surgery I was forbidden to leave, so I slept on the radiology floor. I kicked him out of the house, and he still followed me everywhere. I just up and poofed to another state. I closed all my bank accounts, and instead of taking a bus or train I hitchhiked to another state. I never saw him again. But I was absolutely terrified of him.

@makocadey

2 жыл бұрын

Those are people that can't regulate their emotions. Im so glad you safe and ok

@fiction589

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, you are so brave, Rachel! Glad you escaped. 💪

@Perfectlyradiant_

2 жыл бұрын

Wow that’s scary. I’m glad you got away.

@Dhruv_Dogra

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations. You understood the situation and resolved it effectively. The police or judiciary could never have done it so well.

@OisO8

2 жыл бұрын

Thank God you took drastic measures to survive. That's what has to happen in these situations unfortunately.

All forms of stalking, including gangstalking (which is often ignored in these discussions), need to be aggressively punished.

@bookwrmxoxo5105

7 ай бұрын

Gang stalking is mental illness. It’s not real

I was stalked from the time I was 12, he was 15, until I was 19. He was in and out of jail and mental hospitals but when he was gone he had “friends” that would keep it up for him. Listening to this brought back so many memories and it was so familiar. God bless this mother for fighting for others after she lost her baby.

Watching shows like this makes it clear to me just how lucky I am to be alive and have gotten away from my stalker. May Clare rest easy.

@sarahbillenby1901

2 жыл бұрын

I hope you are OK now Glad you are still here ❤💜🤎

@refugeofthoughts8870

2 жыл бұрын

Same but I still live in fear 12 years later unfortunately.

@sarahbillenby1901

2 жыл бұрын

@@refugeofthoughts8870 I hope you will be ok ❤

@marleywellington4845

2 жыл бұрын

SAME!!!

@RainRemnant

2 жыл бұрын

These shows prove to me that women are stronger than men, in general. And so are you!

when her granpa said "i miss her very much" i bursted into tears... very sad story. rip clare. she deserved better.

@char8059

2 жыл бұрын

I agree... Her sweet grandfather broke my heart. The first time he spoke, I said to myself, "I like him!" I thought Clare was so fortunate to have had him as her grandfather (and he was fortunate, as well, to have had such a sweet young woman as his granddaughter.) God bless them both. 🙏🏼🌺🌺

@leahsue5233

2 жыл бұрын

Same 😢 so sad

@sf-xf8sl

2 жыл бұрын

Same here

@artgallery7376

2 жыл бұрын

His demon possessed.. he had a demon of jealousy in him.

@jennysmith5622

2 жыл бұрын

@Pavel K. He had a demon alright very evil.

I actually left a country I used to live in to get away from a man I was afraid of. You never know what someone is capable of. Stay safe, Stay vigilant.

@bleeblah3583

Жыл бұрын

Good for you

@lnaph

Жыл бұрын

Same.

@danc.5509

11 ай бұрын

This is also my hope. Unfortunately my stalker is in government and has made things very difficult for me to leave

@melodieperkins7080

5 ай бұрын

​@@danc.5509I understand

@cecilelyons7178

5 ай бұрын

@barbara.sexaloid. I did too.

Poor girl. What is really frightening here is, that even though police had been involved, yet, there was no real protection carried out, that would have saved her life. Devastating.

@rrboss3721

7 ай бұрын

What do you mean by "real protection"? What could have Police done? Give 24*7 security to Clare?

What's really scary is that, this is happening.... Somewhere, someone is being stalked and threatened... Somewhere out there, someone is running for their lives....

@geminijohnson4019

2 жыл бұрын

One night I was running from a guy who wanted to kill me,it was such a surreal experience

@lydiakinnaman1106

2 жыл бұрын

Report get it on record. GUN. !!!!

@Licalicalilix

2 жыл бұрын

Very common in Brazil unfortunately

@Perfectlyradiant_

2 жыл бұрын

Keep mace and a switch blade on you.

@CatsArePeopleToo

2 жыл бұрын

I always think that when I watch any of these crime shows!

One thing I'll NEVER understand is, WHYYYYYY in these situations do these crazy ass people continue to get bail??? I've been in this situation myself and the same thing happened..I had the dude arrested repeatedly and he got out on bail every damn time 🤬🤬🤬

@fc7307

2 жыл бұрын

Because the law in the UK at that time allowed for it is my guess.

@eurodiaz3712

2 жыл бұрын

Because unfortunately we live in a society where we are hugging criminals. It's so weird

@juanderfuljourney6334

2 жыл бұрын

Take extra precautions, it's so scary 😨

@Roc-Righteous

2 жыл бұрын

Because we live in a world now full of bleeding heart dumbasses.

@abundance1232

2 жыл бұрын

They always give men the benefit of the doubt.

As a mother, there's no way in hell I won't brush this behaviour off if it happens to my children.

@Rissad92

7 ай бұрын

Exactly her mom has to regret that decision smfh

@AL-sg2jd

Ай бұрын

Amen

PLEASE keep doing this series! More people need to know about the dangers of stalking and work to amend the laws that carry stricter punishments for this sh*t.

The fact that he walked into a department store unseen with a loaded gun is despicable. He should NEVER have been allowed to walk free once convicted and awaiting sentencing. Are you fucking serious?

Sadly, Clare had no idea what she was dealing with. It wouldn’t surprise me to learn he had his eye on her long before she even agreed to go on a “date” with him.

@ponygirlusa

2 жыл бұрын

It wouldn't be surprising if he was simultaneously stalking other victims, too.

@mysteriesuntold3393

2 жыл бұрын

That's true by the time they actually talk to you they been following you for months he worked with her so it's a little different but other wise that's how it generally happens

@bentheg9793

Жыл бұрын

@@ponygirlusa Well at least they don't have to deal with him anymore. (I highly doubt he murdered each and every one)

@stephanieannestephanieanne3466

Жыл бұрын

@@bentheg9793 You are aware the word victim is not just for those that have been murdered right? And her family and friends, still have to deal with the consequences of his actions? Sorry if read your comment wrong. Just because he did not kill all his victims, doesn't mean they wasn't effected by what he put them through or less valid, It could of been them.

@maxman1071

Жыл бұрын

@@ponygirlusa some stalkers are like that. It seems like a lot of these guys aren’t specifically looking for victims, but kind of come upon the situation where their attachment becomes pathological or delusional

The fact that he asked a co worker what a sentence for murder was... is very telling.

Clare had to lose her 22-year-old life in order for this to become a precedent for dealing with stalkers. It's amazing how everyone concerned appeared to be in slow motion about this until after she lost her life at the hands of an obsessed stalker.

My heart bleeds for the mother. What a beautiful, strong woman. I’m glad she got those last moments in Italy, how devastating for a mother to lose their daughter and best friend.

It really is ridiculous how stalking is so lightly taken. I left my abusive ex a year ago and he still cyber stalks me. Then the other day some random guy stared at me creepily and tried to follow me home. Its exhausting. Like leave me and all the other women the F alone. Geez!

@miastreaming3489

Жыл бұрын

Cyber stalking story of my life

@mariatorres9789

Жыл бұрын

Delete your social media, and remove you pics offline, and stop using your name on social media.

@tantalize5795

9 ай бұрын

😂🤣

@richard7743

7 ай бұрын

So, what you're saying is your single now?

@Jodi_DiademForever

3 ай бұрын

Can they? Ugh ‼️

I had a stalked in college. I had doubt that the women’s center would be able to help me, but they were AMAZING. They listened to my entire story without cutting me off, they informed me about stalking and its patterns and what my options were. They immediately brought him in and threatened to expel him if he didn’t leave me alone. They informed me that at this point there is a 50% chance it will end and a 50% chance it will get worse. I was lucky that he ended it

@lostlikelindsay

Жыл бұрын

i'm so sorry that you had to experience any of that. i'm glad that it ended and that you're safe xx 💜

@ronjames4151

7 ай бұрын

I'm sorry I did that back then. Whats your number maybe we can talk about it? Meet for coffee! Lol. Just kidding and I'm glad you are okay. Men like this make me sick

I have been stalked by 2 different people in my life. Leaving me as a very hyper vigilant adult . The 1st one was at highschool , the boy that began stalking me was a loner , almost an outsider type . And I always showed him kindness as I felt bad for him . Months and months I dealt with the letters , love songs and sonnets , threats , messages and phone calls, unwanted gifts , him waiting outside my house singing to me while my parents were at work. Until my mum checked my bebo and saw a message from him threatening to bring a particular weapon to school and kill me and himself. Sure enough, after intensive police interviews etc they found he did have that weapon ready to go that morning. Unfortunately, the school didn't really help me. The boy went away for help , but he was allowed back at school!!!! after that and he started his obsessive behaviors again . I ended up leaving highschool at 15 because of it . And haven't seen him since . I can tell you, I felt the same as Claire, maybe I shouldn't have been so nice to him. Maybe I led him on. Maybe I'm being ridiculous. He's harmless. No !!! Stalking is stalking and I am lucky I had a parent who caught on to what was happening before it was too late . It's always going to haunt me and it's always going to affect me .

The sad thing is these predators choose certain people. They will choose YOU, you don’t choose them. Sad when people victim blame.. they have NO idea.. NO IDEA….

@OAlem

2 жыл бұрын

SO true. Notice that they never pick jerks who deserve it. 🤔Almost like sociopaths and narcissists need nice people to feed off of their energy. BTW Anchorage representing!

@terriblepainter7675

2 жыл бұрын

I was told I must have given the stalker positive signals to trigger this…. Really? What about all of the signals that I gave that I don’t want any of the stalker’s attention??

@Lucyinthskyy

2 жыл бұрын

Well it is true that they seek out certain types of people

@louisasmiles

2 жыл бұрын

Very true. They pick YOU

@seanthe100

2 жыл бұрын

They picked you because you look like a victim from a mile away. Sadly

The fact this was allowed to happen is sickening, the pitiful little boy who didn't get his own way should have been kicked out of the country long before he was given the access he required to carry out his threat. At no point was that girl ever given the protection she so clearly needed, he was the one who it appeared had the protection, Clare was failed so completely it's an embarrassment.........

@vlw4165

2 жыл бұрын

I'm staggered that he wasn't deported before this happened.

@maggiesfarm7970

2 жыл бұрын

Don't get involved with a man who uses cocaine.

@sihammer7942

2 жыл бұрын

@@maggiesfarm7970 Unless you happen to be a cocaine dealer.......... You can't generalise, not every bloke who does a bit of blow, is bad news. That's just ridiculous, drugs didn't make this guy the sad act he was, I refuse to allow them to take the rap.... Anyway, hopefully by now, most women recognise the behaviour that these sort of blokes exhibit. And get the hell out when they do!!!!!! When it's over, it's over! I've never found that one hard to grasp, when she says, 'you're a lovely guy but I don't think we're right for each other', or whatever line she chooses. I've heard most of them, + they don't always include the bit about being 'a lovely guy'.......... I'll admit, the final ruling has, on occasion, been a long way from 'a lovely guy'........ a country bloody mile away!!!!!!! You have to deal with it, getting dumped isn't fun, in fact, being the one who does the dumping, also isn't fun, I don't know which is worse?...?.... I hate being the cause of tears + misery, + then there's the times when instead of that, you get the rage!!!!!!! You're a total bastard for ending it, even when you've done everything possible to make it as painless as you can humanly manage...... Whatever you do, you don't do what this bloke did. Hindsight is 20:20 but the signs were there, as I said, I really hope sisters know the tell-tale signs of controlling, obsessive type weirdness + nothing like this case will happen again any time soon. A final word to my fellow man, before I go......... We all love + lose, + when things don't work out, keep your head held high + keep on keeping on. You then, which hardly needs saying, do what men have always done when facing the dark shadow of rejection...... You go out + get completely bloody sloshed. That's what real men do, probably always have, + until the day when love runs smoothly, they probably always will............

@MM-we4no

2 жыл бұрын

@@sihammer7942 the thing is, Claire DID NOTICE the signs three weeks after getting to know him and she broke it off. That didn’t stop him from stalking, harassing and eventually killing her. You can tell women to watch out for these signs all you want, but that will never stop a psycho from doing what he does - and it just comes off as victim blaming

@sihammer7942

2 жыл бұрын

@@MM-we4no Fair point, did I sound as if I was blaming Clare? Dam! I absolutely wasn't + I'm sorry if anyone thought I was. It's blokes that can't deal with getting dumped, that I hate + they're ALWAYS to blame in these cases. It seems that laws are failing to protect women from these sad acts that can't handle rejection. And again, if anyone thought I was blaming the victim, I apologise, but I wasn't....... In fact, now that I've just read what I wrote, if that came across as victim blaming I would question your comprehension + ability to correctly interpret what you read. I clearly stated, Clare was failed + didn't get the protection she needed. Victim blaming? 109 people agreed with what I said. 1 person said I was blaming the victim. I rest my case.

At first I wondered how Trisha could calmly and objectively recall and talk about the situation in those days, but found out why at the last few minutes. She wasn't consumed by anger and sorrow, but is fighting back for society! I have no vocabulary equivalent to express how I was amazed to see her strength!

The fact he only got community service for his threats and stalking is disgusting. This could’ve been prevented if they had just put him in prison.

No woman or man for that matter, should feel embarrassed about someone harrassing or stalking them. Report them to whoever you have to so that you can remain safe...RIP Clare 🙏❤️

we need to put stalkers in prison. the first time they get near someone again after a non contact order they need to be locked up, and for long. What good does it do if a woman goes to the police? our laws don't care until it's too late.

thank you Claires mum! for fighting for the rest of us! it does makea difference! so sorry for your loss💔 ❤

I cried at the sheer bravery of the mother. She has turned pain into power 👏 A hero.

The system failed Claire so badly. There were so many chances to stop him, and he slipped through the cracks and it cost Claire her life. How absolutely sad... How would she know 3 dates with a random guy would turn out like it did. So absolutely heartbreaking. RIP Claire 🕊

@bobbyboywonder12

10 ай бұрын

It’s almost impossible to stop somebody psychopathic, dead set on violence. Unless you carry a weapon yourself most likely.

@joytimmons

6 ай бұрын

Yes, but she should not have mess with him in the first place. But never gives anyone a right to harm you.

@t.j.7789

5 ай бұрын

This gave me chills. I won't classify myself as being stalked, but someone i met has been knocking at my door like 4 times over a few days They were knocking 10 minutes ago at 6:50 a.m. i don't feel i can tell them to stop!!! I would think if they knock at 1 am and i don't answer, i don't want to be botheted. I don't think they will hurt me but their unwanted knocking bothers me. We both live in the same building. They are elderly. When i did allow them in, my dog eventually went after them, jumping up, he's a small dog. I was taken back because my dog has never done that but he clearly doesn't trust the person.

@ognyena

3 ай бұрын

Well, apparently, she was too embarrassed to report him sooner..and that ignorant, passive mother of hers did absolutely nothing to protect her daughter!

I almost died at the hands of my stalker, It has taken many years to recover from the mental and the physical damage I was left with. It is so sad she was taken from her loved ones.

@paulbowman1762

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sad that you had to go through what must have been an horrendous time? I really hope you have managed to come through it? Goodluck and Godbless.. Paul.. London.. England...

@desertdragon2397

2 жыл бұрын

Be gentle with yourself. The pain you experienced during your active trauma caused a part of who you once were to die. It was never your fault..You are not alone. I hope the grief you live with every day becomes less of a burden for you as time goes on. You are strong. Edit: I forgot the good part. Blessed Be fellow traveler.

@CapnWack

2 жыл бұрын

It's drawl

@refugeofthoughts8870

2 жыл бұрын

Same. I still live in fear so many years later and he’s been behind bars for years. The day he dies will be the happiest day of my life. I’m so mentally messed up. I’m happy you got out. Healing isn’t easy but we deserve to heal.❤️

@ChristiansPrayingTogether

2 жыл бұрын

Me too... I fully understand and biggest hugs to you ... Nights are still terrible for me, so instead of fighting it I stay up late working and go to sleep around 3-4 am. It's been a decade but that stalker still sends me letters ... It is terrible ... I understand and much love to you 🌞💝🌞💝🌞💝

Wow. Powerful ending, the pure strength of her mother is so admirable. So sorry for her loss.

Killed by my stalker gives such great insight into the dangers of obsessive behavior and I do appreciate that they don’t just focus on the perpetrator but give the victim a voice too

I had a stalker a few years ago. A housemate turned stalker. He’d become really overbearing even though we were just housemates. One day I walked into my room and found a kitchen knife next to a letter on my bed, I moved out that night so he started stalking me at work and in the streets. While a person who hasn’t gone through that might think that reporting it to the police it’s the logical thing to do, the fear of making matters worse is very real. I didn’t report my stalker as I was afraid he would physically harm me in retaliation.

@ntnrocket1

2 жыл бұрын

I had a feeling that some women kinda go along with what men are doing, even if they don't like it, because they are afraid of the confrontation. And rightly so, knowing that they could be physically in danger most of the time.

@jayceew.rabbit9358

2 жыл бұрын

Please never stop being aware of your surroundings! I can only imagine how terrifying that had to of been!!!

@JannaMarie

2 жыл бұрын

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@JannaMarie

2 жыл бұрын

Aaàq

@piperlong544

2 жыл бұрын

You left out the part where you slept with him and he got attached to you.

I had a stalker and had to call the police on him. It was one of the scariest things I had to go through. The officers in my town were awesome and put pressure for him to stop. Apparently, I wasn't the only one he was stalking.

@karenacton3854

2 жыл бұрын

So glad you are safe.

This is incredibly sad - she did everything right 💔. Stalking needs to be taken very seriously from the very beginning, it’s not normal to aggressively text someone 50 times a day!

@latasha195

Жыл бұрын

Not text or call them that much for that matter.

Always teach your girls don't be afraid to "hurt" people's feelings. RIP Claire, you sound like a beautiful soul. 💕🙏

What a peaceful and respectful video this was such a horrible tragedy that probably could have been prevented, so happy Clare's mum is advocating for victims of stalkers. 😪

@PrincessDie187

2 жыл бұрын

I don't think it could have been prevented

@christinamcilwaine8235

2 жыл бұрын

It could of been had he been arrested and not released

@PrincessDie187

2 жыл бұрын

@@christinamcilwaine8235 he would have done it when he got out

@amyyoung2043

2 жыл бұрын

Peaceful?

@amyyoung2043

2 жыл бұрын

@@kimber4t4 wrong. Not always. Mine didn't get to me and he wanted to kill me. Lets see how how able he is in 64 years well 57 now. It doesn't always happen that way

As a victim of stalking I can say authorities do not take this seriously enough. My stalker has broken my restraining order over 40 times and is just served another court date. The day that she was arrested and charged with the felony of stalking, she was released. I’m just waiting for her to snap and stab me or set my house on fire. There needs to be more serious consequences for breaking a restraining order.

@Perfectlyradiant_

2 жыл бұрын

Get a security system in your home. Also carry weapons with you at all times.

@yessboydd9927

2 жыл бұрын

I hope you get a gun ): I’ll pray for you this is sickening . Gos will protect you

@regionalrange3052

2 жыл бұрын

You lesbian?

@bleeblah3583

Жыл бұрын

Time to move hun

@theroyalnajah6178

Жыл бұрын

You should runnnnnn are mad sister move from her

Excellent documentary. Thanks for the upload.

self esteem & confidence are two different things…. She’s is a winner for noticing, notifying someone & trying to figure out an escape. He probably watched her long before he approached her. What a monster. Hard not to hate the majority of men.

Law prevents anyone from putting a restraining order on someone till they have done some crime against them. Got to love our system 😔

@Shypainter

2 жыл бұрын

Authorities are just so useless, well, unless you are skateboarding then they will crack your skull 💀 and throw you in the clink.

@andyvyrha1312

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, that's how it works..for eg "you're not a killer until you killed someone"

@purplesunflower8242

2 жыл бұрын

This is true last year l couldn't get a restraining order until that person became violent! Took over a year the effect on my mental health was harrendous

It never ceases to amaze me how people say "I never thought he would do anything!" or "I can't believe there are people out there who do this type of thing!" Like are you freaking kidding me??? clearly not enough people watching these shows!

@thesecretwindowspot1298

2 жыл бұрын

i dont know how many times people are not aware, and people live more in a dream world than reality. The world is cruel and i filled with dangerously harmful people..people who have killed who is still free..its one of the reasons i dont want to have children..i dont want them in still world full of so much suffering, hate... i might overdue it..but the world as enough kids who dont have parents..so we should care about what is here already..help one another, and dont think that being stalked will never lead to murder...or still will never happen to me...obviously not everyone is into crime docs like us..but they dont have to..they just need to be more self aware of danger...red flags..im always on watch if i meet new people...i am careful to let new people in to my life so fast.

@tracydaye6059

2 жыл бұрын

Or read the daily paper Sad

@jindabyne1509

2 жыл бұрын

@@tracydaye6059 exactly!

@vintagetoycollector4983

2 жыл бұрын

It stuns me how much her family knew and did nothing more than listen to the situation get worse and worse. If that was my daughter, I would have insisted she come home, job be damned. She was so young and unequipped to deal with that situation.

@jindabyne1509

2 жыл бұрын

@@vintagetoycollector4983 yes!!! I absolutely agree!!

What an amazing woman, to put her own grief aside, to make sure this doesnt happen to anyone elses daughter

@queengoddess8552

7 ай бұрын

I agree with u 💯

@allhoney1211

Ай бұрын

Clare was lucky to have such a nice family❤

I don’t understand how the entire family including Claire never see this as serious and can’t decide wether they should report him??? She should have reported it to her employer immediately as well…

What a tragic story. She was so beautiful and seemed to have such a good energy around her.

I’m a man and I’ve dealt with a stalker, I know it’s easy to think men shouldn’t be scared but it is very scary! My stalker would sit outside my work, when she knew my kids weren’t with me she would text me saying “I saw your ex with the kids so I am gonna come over so we can hang out” I would lock my doors and turn off my lights! I moved 4 hours away for a new job and not long after she showed up knocking on my door! The house I moved into was in a farming area so my closest neighbor was a half mile away or so and I lived alone, yes I own guns, yes I’d use them if necessary but I really didn’t want to take someone else’s life! I wouldn’t let her in and actually called my brother who lived somewhat close and told him what was going on and if I wasn’t at work the next day he’d know why! She sat with her back against my front door crying and begging for at least 30 min and I finally told her if she didn’t leave I was calling the cops, she finally left but she peeled out of my driveway throwing gravel everywhere and chipped a window in my house, I slept with a gun near for awhile after but thankfully she gave up! The crazy part is I have no idea how she found my house, I had just moved there, nothing was in my name yet and it was 9 miles off the main road kind of back in the country! Stalkers can be resourceful and cunning when they have their minds set! I hate that this happened to Clare and her family, that man was a coward and a toddler that couldn’t have what he wanted so he threw a fit! What a POS!

@JB-hb7fd

2 жыл бұрын

WOW!! Dude I'm sorry to hear you went through that. 😱 For blokes being stalked, the woman can throw abuse allegations and rape = your arrested. Which is sick. AS the real victims that truly are in a abusive situation are more afraid to come forward. Not to take away from this young woman's tragic experience 😢 Just another layer to this terrible crime.

@johnnyblaze4588

2 жыл бұрын

I had an X girlfriend that stalked the Hell out of me. The 1st time she came to my house, broke into my garage, and was about to break my new friends windshield with my bat....I went to confront her. She tried to kiss on me, as she told me if she couldn't have me nobody will! She called the cops right after and got US BOTH arrested. This same thing happened 2 more time. I soon realized that the legal system treats a man who's a victim incredibly different then a women victim.... it's literally not taken seriously which gives a female stalker even more power! Been single since... 15 years now

@CobraR1993

2 жыл бұрын

GPS hidden inside or under your car.

@CobraR1993

2 жыл бұрын

If they get your phone they can also install a hidden app that will send GPS info to their phone

@starlingswallow

2 жыл бұрын

I'm SO SORRY you dealt with that! Scary!!! It happens to men and women...and when a man is a victim, it's harder because usually the girl is believed. She can make false accusations and because your the man, people usually believe THEM! It's crazy. Glad you are ok now and safe. What a psycho.

How strong and caring the mother is, God bless her 💓🙏 The stalking is a real torment, what a sad story 😢

Those five magical days her mom got with her I'm sure she cherishes and are a part of her best core memories

My heart breaks for her family and friends.. especially her Mom… why any judge would have set bail not once but 2-3 times wth.. what a coward he was!!

Beware any date that tries to speed up the relationship, they are aware their ‘game face’ only lasts so long. Don’t fall for it, and we all need to shoot the expression ‘getting swept off my feet’. You need those feet if you need to run! Excessive calls, gifts and jealousy are harbingers of doom. Try finding out about former relationships, how they ended, especially. PLEASE DON’T THREATEN, just be proactive on your own behalf or it’ll be YOUR relatives speaking passively about the danger YOU WILL BE IN.

@tatianaschoenfield9819

2 жыл бұрын

Also unnecessary clingy behavior such as making up that one was supposed to get together when it’s not true is also a red flag. Basically, the person doesn’t give you space to breathe. Even a “harmless” stalker is a psychological threat because one doesn’t know when and how it will escalate. Document everything, make photos when you are followed by your stalker to make a case against. You need systematic evidence for police, lawyer and authorities.

@dianeseymour9929

2 жыл бұрын

Why didn't this guy just blot himself Why take her out too! The world needed her the world certainly didn't need the likes of HIM!

@refugeofthoughts8870

2 жыл бұрын

Good advice. I wish I knew all this stuff when I was younger. I can’t even keep a relationship because of the trauma I experienced with my abuser/stalker.

@alessandraa24

2 жыл бұрын

The sad thing is that she did realise this fairly early on, their relationship didn't go beyond two or three dates and he still harassed her for months and murdered her. A predator is a predator.

@tatianaschoenfield9819

2 жыл бұрын

@@alessandraa24 Yes, it doesn’t take much at all to be become a stalker’s target and the stalking can go on for years…

Clare’s grandad broke my whole heart ❤️

This is so sad.. I certainly know what it’s like to be stalked by someone, it’s horrible...nobody wants to take stalking seriously, when people should especially law enforcement.. and the justice system. I was luckily enough to survive, what I went through. Rest In Peace Clair.

You can't just let them out on the streets on bail, twice.. and then again, community service.. stalkers should be taken to a mental hospital and kept there, until they get over their obsession.. there's so much data about stalkers and what they do, why are the police so unable to act accordingly..?

@walden6272

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. Stalkers are mental cases. They need to be locked up in mental hospital and when they are release, they need to wear tracking device implanted into their heart like a pace maker. If they get anywhere near their victims, the device sends a shock to render them unconscious.

@AABB-bm9kk

2 жыл бұрын

I think 🤔 it has a lot to do with how reactive rather than proactive law is set up. It often seems the police don’t or won’t do much until something physical and terrible has occurred. And maybe legally they cannot. It’s a flaw in the system because looking backward it seems so obvious where things were heading. Even when he has plead guilty to death threats he’s let out on bail before sentencing because he still hasn’t “really done anything “.

@AABB-bm9kk

2 жыл бұрын

@@walden6272 That would be sweet. 😎✌️No doubt it would be considered “inhumane”. 🤷‍♂️

@refugeofthoughts8870

2 жыл бұрын

It’s the laws. They need to change. I’m tired of seeing women go through this bs and ending up dead. My ex has stalked, kidnapped, raped children etc and I was a victim of his as a kid too and they keep letting him out. It’s ridiculous. Some people NEED to be locked away from the world because they don’t change.

@joannebrennan7144

2 жыл бұрын

@@walden6272, Your idea is spot on, Bullseye 🎯, excellent...It's just a damn shame this can't be done because most criminals & mentally unbalanced folks get more protection & advantages that law abiding citizens don't get in the so-called justice system!!!

Clare and her family seem like kind folk. This is just awful. What a damaged man.

Watching this literally gave me PTSD. I dated a guy who behaved the same. After we broke up he would send me messages like we were still together, eg "babe what do we have for supper?" Of course I blocked him on all social media channels but he'd still find a way. I'd get weird dms and snaps saying we're meant to be together. I would automatically block these users. Since these didn't work,I started getting video calls on WhatsApp from foreign numbers and some random guy would tell me to go back to my relationship. In my country, police don't take these things seriously. One actually laughed at me and told me I should give the guy what he wants. He started showing up at my house unexpectedly. Fortunately, my family was understanding enough and we moved. I feel so much safer now but of course I'm always scared he might find a way to reach me. I'm so sorry Clare.

Absolutely sickening that this man was able to be out on bail each time and have the chance to carry out his threat to kill. This is a terrible tragedy and a beautiful girl has lost her life, what more could she have done? So sorry that this has ended so terribly and I send my regards to the family and friends. RIP beautiful girl x

I had a stalker back in high school. Luckily my dad did what needed to be done to make him go away.

@purplesunflower8242

2 жыл бұрын

Your Dad protecting you! Great Dad!

@damnmuggle

2 жыл бұрын

Kill him lol ?)

@difficultjourney3216

2 жыл бұрын

That's what dads are for.

@beccas.7762

2 жыл бұрын

@@purplesunflower8242 Thank you.

@beccas.7762

2 жыл бұрын

@@difficultjourney3216 The good dads, anyway.

Why on Earth was he allowed to stay in the UK???? The law needs to be changed when it comes to harassment. It happens too often.

I'm truly disheartened by the lack of protection for our women and children. It's incredibly saddening.

@ellie8263

24 күн бұрын

Protection for everyone!

In this situation you have either get aggressive to save yourself or you have to disappear for a point to make sure of your safety. These people won't stop.

@gtt8428

Жыл бұрын

And yet the police didn't tell her that ... What do they do ?

Jesus. Stalking is so dangerous. This was a preventable death.

Ever since social media came into existence and became a platform that nearly everyone in the whole entire world uses that's when I felt that it became a helluva lot easier for all of the crazy ass weirdos to stalk and harass their victims

@jacobcrumb3323

2 жыл бұрын

Although we should be able to use any social media platforms freely and securely, unfortunately the world we live in does not allow this. I have always believed that more harm than good will be the result. It’s the children of tomorrow I worry for. Sad sad world, take care.

@kingmaafa120

2 жыл бұрын

Facts and other technology

@rnbsteenstar

2 жыл бұрын

And even SM is nothing new, it's been around since the net began, just not like it is now!

@evelina787

2 жыл бұрын

Yes it is true, though in this cse they met @ work God bless you 🙏

@JT-lt5gr

2 жыл бұрын

My stalker was before the Internet. It doesn't matter, though. Stalkers are obsessed, single minded, and very resourceful. They will make time for it. It's their mission.

"Dating" is a new phenomenon. This is why parents were once upon a time were involved in the selection process of prospective marital partners for their offspring. Once upon a time a man had to interview and receive permission from parents or a father to court an eligible young lady. It all makes so much sense now.

The amount of text and calls were enough for her to report him to police. Also, I'm sure her job had security cameras that would've backed up her claims to her employer. I also would've changed my phone number. This is so sad. She should've never let her guard down until after the trial and he was behind bars! Dude was crazy. She should've never traveled alone, either.

@Coco-chrispy

15 күн бұрын

They don’t care

I’m so glad that mother & daughter got to spend one last beautiful holiday together in Italy❤️

The whole thing was sad but Clare's grandad made me cry. That POS taking his own life makes me so mad but I hope the family got some closure from helping change the law and supporting other victims. Watching this made me realise that I had a lucky escape from someone who I just thought was ott. Thank god he stopped coming to my house or driving past me multiple times when I'd be walking, and making sure I saw him. I now realise how lucky I was as it could have been so different.

@marielamiranda3066

2 жыл бұрын

@@alexb7641 dont go to the comments till you finish the video, that will make sense right? You do realize people watch the video in different times and days?

@makocadey

2 жыл бұрын

I think its better because the UK system would have slapped him on the wrist and send him back to society where he would so it again. Glad killed himself m. If its American I would have wanted alive because they would actually punish him

@Jac-Jay

2 жыл бұрын

@@alexb7641 don't read it maybe?

@ginnysnyder9703

2 жыл бұрын

Years ago ,I had a stalker who thought "we were in love" ....I never even had 1 date/ coffee/ anything with this fella !! It was before the Stalking Laws were changed here in the USA. I was told by the police " unless he hurts you,we can't do anything" !!! Thank God he left me alone, like you !!!! I was a single Mom with 2 kids....totally alone !!! Even with our Countries Stalking Laws....it is still a Very Serious situation !!!! But IT IS a bit better than it used to be. Stay Strong & Always be aware of your surroundings !!

@jeninecayou5312

2 жыл бұрын

It’s okay to write whatever you want and watch it whenever you want

So many early signs of a malignant narcissist. Especially the almost immediate ‘falling in love’, the extreme overreaction to being ignored, believing they know what is best for someone else. Horrifying…. Also a lesson to those who are people pleasers ~ narcissists are inclined to look for those who are gentle and don’t have strong boundaries.

I had a stalker when I was in high school. It was really scary and irritating. I told the situation to my father, and he told me to never say anything bad or shout to that man because it is dangerous. Before that, I was so friendly and I used to think that maybe that's the reason why he stalked me. So, I never talk to him again while he is still following me. Thankfully he didn't like that treatment and he got tired.

Her mother's face everytime she reminisces about the beautiful memories of her daughter made my heart swell but also broke it at the same time. You can see how much she loved and adored her daughter. And she was just brutally taken away from her by some narcissistic POS coward who doesn't know how to handle rejection and then took his own life to escape taking responsibility. Clare, you were taken too soon. Rest in paradise, beautiful soul.

@LSBfly

5 ай бұрын

That 5 days in Italy. Uff… wonderful memories.… that is so sad!

Stalking laws should be tougher as victims more often get murdered or suffer a mental breakdown because of the stalking. The same way that stalking should be tougher and have longer sentences, false stalking claims should be given the same sentence.

@BS-dq1kz

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! That would be a perfect way to handle it. And as you said, false claims should receive the same punishment if proven to be 100% untrue.

@rnbsteenstar

2 жыл бұрын

@@BS-dq1kz Stalking is so difficult to even prove in the first place for many reasons and nuances.

That is a great way to describe these type of murders " a murder in slow motion"

This was an absolute tragedy. I feel so bad for Clare and her poor mum. 😢

These stalking murders are absolutely heartbreaking and the pain doesn’t end for the family and friends of the murdered victim. Clare’s Granda broke my heart💔💔

My mom is my best friend too! I couldn’t imagine how sad her mother feels but what a powerful woman and story! To be able to take pain and turn it into something so beautiful! Rest In Peace Claire and everyone else who has fallen victim to stalking ❤️

@Oliver-Closeoff

Жыл бұрын

She failed her as a mother. 1 by not taking the situation serious. And 2 by not raising her with a loving and protecting father.

This is heartbreaking. The grandpa really got me. She was a very lovely young lady. So young with alot of life to live.

I remember when this happened. I ve never looked at Harvey Nicholls the same way! Rest in peace clare always

Why are stalkers let out on bail to continue to stalk??? This really needs to change!!

Bless these mothers who have taken action to prevent further tragedies. These are brave women. So sorry for their sadness.

Im so proud of her Mum and all those that helped change the laws of stalking.Well done.

Stalking needs to be a criminal offense and at least 30 years to life in prison.

This poor mum. Breaks my heart 💔 I'm so glad she had that special time with her daughter on her birthday. What a devastating case. Rip beautiful

If only there was a manual of the big red flags etc, that every kid was given in high school This psycho ticked every box So terribly sad for this dear girl and her brave mum x

Completely and totally agree. I just turned 29 years old and I’m scared to death to leave my house sometimes because of all these crazy people out there!! Someone was hitch hiking a few weeks ago (and I live in a rural area) and he tried to flag down my car, it was very late at night and no one was around. I got stuck at a red light and I see him in my rear view speed walking trying to approach my car and I was praying to god the light would change and it did thankfully and I sped off like a maniac. I was SO terrified and shouldn’t have to be terrified!

Stop telling girls 'he just wants to be your friend'. You don't owe anyone kindness or patience.

Seeing things like this scares the hell out of me. I've had a couple of stalkers over the years. There was really only one though that was actually quite the traumatizing experience. Like broke into my house while I was sleeping level of scary. Thankfully a restraining order has seem to work. But it's always in my mind that its just a piece of paper. And if someone really wants to hurt you, that paper isnt going to stop them. Be safe everyone..A lot of crazy people out there.

@ginger7344

2 жыл бұрын

That is scary! Glad it worked out well

@marian8772

2 жыл бұрын

Wow I don’t know how I’d live my life knowing someone could be tracking my movements, I’d be paranoid! Stay safe!

@madarch3r

2 жыл бұрын

@@ginger7344 thank you! So far no issues. But it's only been a little over a year. So you never know. Now I have cameras though. So I feel a little safer sleeping at night.

@michaelmyers7425

2 жыл бұрын

Here's an idea, stop living life like you are 21years old, settle down and create life. You will be fulfilled and happy.

@zackabee5498

2 жыл бұрын

@@marian8772 I totally agree.

A serous stalker doesn’t see their actions as wrong. Because they can do it. They only know it’s wrong when they’re caught. But as long as they can stalk they will. I had to stop a stalker by just being rude to him. I made myself as undesirable as possible. Without yelling or hitting. If I had to belch in his face, or fart. What ever to turn him off. I knew he was dangerous. He was calling me repeatedly a dozen times a day. Stalking my home. And knocking on my windows. Totally obsessed. I had to be rude to get rid of him. Police told him to stop. He’d just switch to a new tactic.

@martinezlucia101

2 жыл бұрын

I took me years to get rid of mine , it took a murder suicide in my neighborhood to get the police to do anything and after each restraining order he would start up again. It took 8!years three restraining orders and charges of stalking and harassment to get him to leave me alone but he still tries to contact me through my family and mutual acquaintances. He pounded on my doors and windows too…. He has convinced so many that it was all in my head and all he ever did was love me… no one understands unless they have been through it….

@martinezlucia101

2 жыл бұрын

His name was Michael too!

@randyrawdingii5135

2 жыл бұрын

Wow. People are crazy. Glad you escaped.

@margaretmorris-calderon2826

2 жыл бұрын

@@martinezlucia101 My ex husband was pretty bad. I talked to an Attorney after filling several protection orders. My Attorney told me next time I file, to make it for the maximum time, 12 year’s. So I did. He was so bad that during our divorce when the judge notified him I filed for 12 year’s of protection. He got instantly furious. And his buddy had to restrain him to exit out the courthouse. I had to wait several minutes before I could leave. That’s another thing. If you ever have to take someone to court who has anger management issues. Or control issues. Don’t let them see where you parked your car. And don’t let them see you leave the courthouse. This judge could see the history behind our relationship was bad. And he knew if he proceeded on our first schedule court date for appearance to divorce. I would have problems with him by himself. It was just him and me there. So the judge requested that I have proof of residence living inside my county for a year. And my ex asked if he had a witness to residence would that help? Judge agreed. I went to my attorney’s office for a “Residence Affidavit” to fill out. And asked my neighbor to come to the courthouse with me to have it notarized. My ex brought his boss to court. My ex was a contract worker. Once the judge took all the freedom from my ex away from harassing me. He was furious.

@ponygirlusa

2 жыл бұрын

Right! I had an exl-andlord like that. He was EVERYWHERE all the time, it was just so terrible. I quit going anywhere, doing anything, I was scared. The cops did NOTHING. It's been 3 years since but it totally changed my view of the world, of people of MEN, I just feel so depressed all the time, I really find no joy in life anymore at all except for my pets.

I was stalked and I’m so thankful it ended without violence.

*Any time someone tries to force you to do something, whether it be a girlfriend, boyfriend...how you respond is a learning lesson for them! They just learned what they can and can't get away with!* So when someone tries forcing you to do something...just remember, you have a choice to say No! Say no the first time and cut ties! Once you do their bidding...you just gave them some control...and they won't stop until they have complete control!