I Survived: The Case of Alex Skeel and his abusive girlfriend (FULL HD)
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This thought-provoking documentary tells the story of a British man Alex Skeel, who survived an abusive relationship with his girlfriend, and leads to a wider discussion of masculinity, the complex nature of relationships, and stereotypes about abuse and domestic violence.
The film dives into the relationship Skeel had with his then-girlfriend Jordan Worth through interviews with Skeel and his family and friends. It paints a picture of an average man who for years endured a form of unthinkable, raw violence, both physical and mental, that is infrequently told from a male victim point of view. It demonstrates how Skeel's livelihood was slowly slipping away and how even family and friends had no idea what was happening.
The documentary portrays a teenage romance that slowly warped into something else entirely, using police testimony to showcase Skeel's suffering from one of the most severe domestic violence cases the police department had ever seen. By sharing his story, Skeel hopes to challenge assumptions about violence and masculinity in relationships, and to empower victims of domestic violence to come forward.
In April 2018, Jordan Worth was sentenced to seven and a half years in prison. She became the first female in the UK to be convicted of coercive and controlling behavior. As of 2022, Worth was released from prison. PLEASE LIKE, SHARE AND COMMENT.
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@GypsyRock
4 ай бұрын
I don't see a thanks button. Only the like button. 🤨
@crazybuttiredgirl
4 ай бұрын
@@GypsyRock same here.. 😶🤭
@yvettemaestas1124
3 ай бұрын
😢😢
@mattdoliver1984
3 ай бұрын
@@GypsyRock I've got a thanks button if you wanna borrow it...let me know & if so you can push all my buttons 😂
@teeteepalooza
2 ай бұрын
@@GypsyRockoolo
Remember this is not about men vs women, it’s about abusers vs the abused. Men and women need to stand together against abuse regardless of gender.
@Ali-po9le
Жыл бұрын
Preach
@adrianam2917
Жыл бұрын
💯 Drew 💯
@emilypattinson3643
Жыл бұрын
Agreed
@peachfuzz7329
Жыл бұрын
Thank you!!
@donnarochford6553
Жыл бұрын
God bless him for coming forward, God bless the Police for not giving up. Abuse to men is also out there and You are very right, gender is not not the issue, abuse is.
Tormented him for years, torturing him and almost killing him daily, and she gets out after 4 years. That's just disgusting.
@frankaczmarek3042
10 ай бұрын
"Justice" system
@Hhej927
10 ай бұрын
Sexist justice system
@aytansafarli7701
10 ай бұрын
isn't it 14 years
@irishlinda
10 ай бұрын
Ye she got two seven year prison sentences
@a3roflow90
10 ай бұрын
@@aytansafarli7701 the sentence was, but she got out after 4 is what the video said at the end
I was tortured for years by my girlfriend. Both physically and mentally. She ended up stabbing me in the neck. I took my will to stay alive and ran outside before passing out. I woke up at the hospital thanks to that couple who were passing by. The hospital staff got the police involved. I'm free now... I promise myself to stay single forever. I still have nightmares remembering how worthless I was in her eyes. Thank your for reading and sorry for my English, it is not my main language. I wish you all happiness.
@Cognitoman
3 ай бұрын
wtf …. Crazy ass women lol
@andreaganther2073
3 ай бұрын
I’m so sorry that happened to you!! I believe God was protecting you and saved your life. I really hope and pray that you will not allow her to have any more control over you and you will been willing to give love another chance. Your ex would be thrilled to know you want to be single for the rest of your life. Please don’t do that to yourself, you deserve to be happy and in love. God will give you the strength you need to make it thru and the guidance to find the right one.
@gerrittcottrell2808
3 ай бұрын
Your English is perfect friend
@user-st9hr1iv4n
3 ай бұрын
Thank you kind soul.@@andreaganther2073
@user-st9hr1iv4n
3 ай бұрын
Thank you very much.@@gerrittcottrell2808
Just a gentle man who was naive about what romantic love and loyalty is. I pray Alex finds someone who will love him and his family the way they deserve.
@jennycarter1149
3 ай бұрын
I agree. Can't put all women or men in a single category. Hell find someone good to him, one day, hopefully.
@Lovedaisymore
2 ай бұрын
Most likely he can become the abuser due to fear and being triggered he needs lots of counseling
@BillyLintzenich-wf7sk
2 ай бұрын
@@Lovedaisymorehe probaly does need counseling but its doubtful that he will ever become an abuser himself.
@katielouisecunninghamsmith4312
2 ай бұрын
@@LovedaisymoreI didn't become the abuser because I was abused my friends who male haven't so please don't think abused will become abusers therapy works
@noexcuses5524
2 ай бұрын
Men who suffer domestic abuse av it rough because they are not allowed in the shelter same as women as theres less shelter for men when it comes to domestic abuse
That policeman is a real hero. He was able to get through to Alex while no one in his life could. He very well saved his life. I hope he lives the rest of his life in pure bliss and happiness.
@2ndround415
9 ай бұрын
Absolutely that policeman is a hero!
@Zappymong
9 ай бұрын
Hear hear
@alisonmansfield9052
9 ай бұрын
Totally.God bless Him
@catherineshields784
8 ай бұрын
Absolutely 100%
@eloise-mariebamford1737
7 ай бұрын
First responders are the lifeline !
This brought me to tears when I saw that Jordan was the first woman ever sentenced on those charges. Are we all blind? There are many men who are abused. We need to help them to seek justice. Please guys, if you are being abused, reach out to someone you trust. Insist that your voice be heard by the authorities.
@deevillarreal9475
Жыл бұрын
Most definitely we are, think about all the fake pregnancies, false rape charges, false arrests, domestic violence protection orders. I'll never get the footage of the women literally sitting in bed beating socking . Hitting herself with things. To view that was so sick watching that, wanting to pin it all on the boy friend, they need to be prosecuted harshly. 👎🚫💯💔
@kastaway2
Жыл бұрын
I am dating a “girlfriend”. I don’t understand what a girl or a woman is these days. I am totally confused.
@NoirL.A.
Жыл бұрын
if yer male the odds are stacked against you to a ridiculous degree. the cops rarely ever believe you (and all the female has to do is turn on the waterworks and claim he abused her) and plus the justice system in general will treat her with kid gloves simply because she's a girl and when it's her word against a guy's word vast majority will believe her and she knows that. even AMBER HEARD told JOHNNY DEPP "yer a man i'm a woman nobody's ever gonna believe you".
@RhennMakeupArtistry
Жыл бұрын
NO GENDER IN PSYCHOPATH CONDITION THIS CONDITION MOSTLY TRIGGER BY PARENTS How THEY RAISED THEIR CHILDREN IF YOU SPOILED OR ABUSE CHILDREN 100% they will be
@2KMMC2
Жыл бұрын
Why can’t we watch these things and not have to hear thought of ppl
I'm so glad that police officer acted like a friend to him and showed genuine concern and kindness. If it wasn't for him Alex more than likely would not be here with us today.
@firstlast7455
3 ай бұрын
A typical case of a "Beta Male" with low testosterone level and no cojones. 😁 I can not use the appropriate words otherwise I get banned. So this is a big problem of the new generation nowadays.
@whosaidcate4034
22 күн бұрын
Police officer was a star 💫 He trusted his intuition. I’m sure he’s helped many with his wise calm self ✨
What I find most frightening about this sad case is the amount of love and support he had around him and still fell victim to this sick cruel manipulator. I’m aware many don’t have that. So glad he managed to escape alive and has his babies and loving family around him. Hopefully he will meet someone wonderful to share his life with so he can experience a loyal, loving , fulfilling relationship which is what he deserves. Very brave to share his story I hope he’s helping others.
@swoldetsadick
2 ай бұрын
Exactly. We raise our kids with love and presence and we send them out to the world thinking we have given them everything to stand on their own.
@coffeepeachesplans
2 ай бұрын
They asked him why he didn't just walk away
@michelleripley632
2 ай бұрын
@coffeepeachesplans Who did? His family? Whoever doesn't underatand why people don't just walk away clearly don't know a lot about DV then. Also, I am sure he also worried about his kids. I wouldn't want to walk away from my abuser and have my kids left with that person. He needed to know that Jordan would be locked up and his kids safe with him.
@alias701
Ай бұрын
Its because she is a wonderful looking young woman. Halo effect. If she would be a mid age bad looking "creep" guy, would be in jail instantly
@journeyjulie3973
Ай бұрын
Something like this happened to me when I was 20, but I was isolated, living abroad. I grew up with a wonderful family, though. It can happen to anyone. I was willing to dismiss red flags and trusted his words over my gut instincts.
Anyone who says this man is weak because he was abused by a woman doesn’t know what true strength and bravery really is. Bless you and your beautiful babies Alex. ❤
@johannesliebenberg2078
Жыл бұрын
True words 👍
@aislebasile
Жыл бұрын
I bet 99% of the reason he stayed is cause he was scared if he left she'd move onto harming the kids.
@ankitachandel
Жыл бұрын
Nobody is saying that … i just wish we would teach our children not to put up with bullies … to report to retaliate or just have the heart to leave them
@koppsr
11 ай бұрын
Any idiot can punch back. But it takes a real man to step back and say No, I'm not doing this. I leave before I do this. No man is weak for not punching back. Ever. Anyone who thinks this, is a complete moron in my eyes.
@kimberlynmorriswashington9479
11 ай бұрын
Leaving an abusive situation is not that easy.
She’s not just abusive. She’s a psycho. She tortured him. She almost killed him.
@Martina-Kosicanka
9 ай бұрын
@dani cali Women are getting longer sentences? In which paralel universe?
@mikepatrona472
9 ай бұрын
@@dontFwsocalNo depends where you live. A demon bitch hit me after a few months I left with my daughter in 3 days she went to court lied and took my daughter for a month and a half that it took to prove that she was a liar. If I as a man tried to take some chicks kid. A judge would never go for that or believe me. Women have it easy in most of the western world
@natnij2203
9 ай бұрын
@dani cali are u Jordan’s mom??
@jethrohope202
9 ай бұрын
@dani cali what??????? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@courtneyboudreau4284
9 ай бұрын
The evil b****
When Alex’s mother recounted him coming home and bursting into tears…that got me. I hope Alex, the children, and the families are all doing better. I’m so happy he had the family support that was waiting for him at home.
@heidicroucher
3 ай бұрын
Same. I watched the entire video with so much empathy and emotion. It's a powerful video. But my eyes remained dry throughout..... until his mom spoke of his home coming. It hit me.... HARD. I realized I was crying like it was MY child. Her raw emotion was coming through in waves!!! 😢 Alex seems like such a kind soul. It's a tragedy that his kind heart was filled with so much pain! He is so lucky to have such loving friends and family there to help him replace that pain with happiness and pure love! ❤️
@ambergulley403
Ай бұрын
Same
@SarahKat329
Ай бұрын
Yes, exactly the same.
I’m so happy that Alex made it out alive, and I hope this dispels the belief that abusive people are only men in relationships. Everyone can be abused, and anyone can be abusive. Mens stories deserve to be heard
Hats off to the officer who didn't budge untill he told the truth of what's happening. So many officers who turn a blind eye at domestic/violent abuse
@pumpactionyoghurtslinger
Жыл бұрын
They don't if they think the female is the victim! I called the police and I was the one taken away to the police station 😂
@salindetouros29
Жыл бұрын
1
@salindetouros29
Жыл бұрын
@@pumpactionyoghurtslinger 2
@inuku5320
Жыл бұрын
Fr
@jojojo8835
Жыл бұрын
Often yes, but… Actually I imagine some children of domestic violence relationships who were let down by the authorities join the police to stop it happening to anyone else, same as some kids who were ill as a child and failed by rubbish doctors want to go into medicine. And of course for some of those it was mum or stepmum who was the abuser, and nobody helped because of sexism.
I’m so happy that officer realized what was going on and didn’t let it go until he found out the truth. He saved Alex’s life
@jojosg414
Жыл бұрын
indeed they are trained for that and a good cop will see past the gender and directly into the signs.
@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj
Жыл бұрын
Exactly and thank goodness for that good cop.
@lannettesantanaslife8289
Жыл бұрын
He definitely saved this young man's life and he may not see it because that is his job, but he is a big hero. A lot of people would have said, he is a man he could defend himself, but this officer said absolutely not and did not live him there to die and that is amazing. He looked past gender and just saw a human being that was vulnerable and scared and went into action, great officer but most of all great human.
@DX-d
Жыл бұрын
@@jojosg414 lol a man being abused by a woman 😂
@meaghanheck7066
Жыл бұрын
Yes I agree 🥺 I am so happy that cop got the truth out of him
My brother has been married to his abuser for almost 20 years and has become an abuser himself. It’s so disturbing and people actually have laughed when I’ve said my brother is abused by his girlfriend/wife… it’s sick!
@chrisdawson6156
3 ай бұрын
Your right violence is violence no matter if its from a male or female
@methree3821
Ай бұрын
It's hard but not impossible to deal with. Gotta be smart about getting the right person to talk to him.
@Autisticbanmeforbeingdifferent
Ай бұрын
Look up reactive abuse, it’s what your brother has
@thomashninan6708
Ай бұрын
😅😅😅😅😅 iam sick so what
@chrisdawson6156
Ай бұрын
@@thomashninan6708 who says your sick
From age 16-18 I dated s physically abusive girl. It seemed normal at some point. My sister saw it once and helped me to realize this was not OK, and certainly not normal. Thank God for people willing to step in, even when it's uncomfortable, to help somebody being abused. The officer is a hero here.
@GabrielaCenturionNeumann
3 ай бұрын
I am very happy you got out in time! Hug your sister for us too, please. She was very brave and potentially saved you from a lot of hurt
@LA-fr4gp
2 ай бұрын
i genuinely can’t fathom how people would do this. i could never imagine hurting my boyfriend. he’s so precious and sweet and i love him. i just don’t get it
This isn’t just domestic violence. It’s down right torture of a human being.
@nicolecarnevale3226
10 ай бұрын
I understand. Truly. And torture is illegal. 🦊🌚
@kingston9248
10 ай бұрын
No he's just weak
@kingston9248
10 ай бұрын
@nicolecarnevale3226 no its love
@jpmcfluffies9451
10 ай бұрын
@@kingston9248 Youre disgusting
@voidstudios7460
10 ай бұрын
Are u mentally disabled to call a domestic abuse victim ‘weak’? Maybe you should get some help or just grow up
Alex is a gentle soul, and abusers pick their victims well.
@ThomasDoubting5
Жыл бұрын
That's very true
@breeeque
Жыл бұрын
yup...
@carama3590
11 ай бұрын
I agree! Demonic spirits pick their victims very well. They can take down an entire family. So sad!
@marirothbauer5407
10 ай бұрын
Psychopaths had a friend who was abusive to every boyfriend. Harrassed them stalked phoned txt emailed she was a living nightmare. Restraining Orders did not stop her at all.... a true psycho. 😮
@ninamuthoni9651
10 ай бұрын
Ikr
I worked in law enforcement in the US for over 10 years. Men are victims more than people know. They often won't speak up because of all the same reasons women don't plus the additional fear of ridicule or the very real fear of not being believed. I spent alot of my career training officers to recognize and respond to domestic violence and sexual assault and to understand that women can be the abusers as well
@newyorkfan16
3 ай бұрын
Your training is based on the Duluth Model of DV, which only looks at women as victims and men as perpetrators. That's why is called a domestic violence INDUSTRY. It only exists to make money and for the government to exert control in our personal lives. It doesn't exist to resolve conflict. Otherwise there would global campaign for women to stop abusing men, BY women.
The fact that when she was just getting to meet his family and she was uncomfortable with how close they were because they sat around a table and actually talked and communicated speaks volumes about her probably very own dysfunctional family and why she turned out the way she did. Red flag number 1 right there!
I was raised in domestic violence, I then married a women with boelrderline personality disorder and as a male, my request for help was laughed at, and rejected. I'm now 3rd year at university in psychology and raise 4 young children alone. I hope one day the law will see domestic abuse without the bias of gender.
@ericmailander3361
Жыл бұрын
I was too. This woman seems to have classic BPD. Possibly a psychopath too. No remorse.
@amronronnoc742
Жыл бұрын
It's simple, but well done you 💞
@m.b.33
Жыл бұрын
Happy for your children and yourself 💞
@pinkpugginz
Жыл бұрын
Not to be rude but why did you keep knocking her up
@ScatteredPanda6453
Жыл бұрын
@@pinkpugginz I know it can be difficult to understand but there can be multiple reasons. 1. When an abuser abuses, they periodically show you love and kindness (false hope really) and you desperately await the return of that. 2) Fear. 3) R*pe and there is more reasons. Getting out of an abusive and violent relationship is one of the most difficult things a person can do. The amount of control and brain washing that goes into it, they literally change the way you think, the way you see yourself, they make you lose touch with reality, they give you fears you never knew you could have and at the same time they're pretending to love you, occasionally love bombing you too keep you going so they can abuse you more. They strip away your confidence, your identity, your sanity, they make you question your reality. Eventually your just a shell of the person you use to be and you give up. It becomes either you do as you're told or you get hurt, but even then, they will find any reason to abuse you, you could drop a spoon n that's it, then it becomes random, it's not even about you anymore, it's anything at all and you find yourself constantly waiting for the next attack. Other than this, another reason to stay is that so many people have been killed trying to leave abusive relationships and that is a very well known fact. Leaving is of the scariest and hardest things in the world. Also a fact. I hope this helps to answer your question.
Thank you to the neighbors who made the first call. Thank you for “getting involved” and helping save his life. We are all here to take care of each other. Simple.
@angelabarlow2012
Жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏. Thank u for saying that!! So sad many others don't think as u abd I. We should be here top help each other, not harm each other
@marymonte9438
Жыл бұрын
Agreed & Amen to that❤grateful for your POV
@leondrawalker7304
Жыл бұрын
Amen Amen Amen We need to keep getting involved and speaking up for those who have been Silenced 🔕
@kfine9310
Жыл бұрын
True! Imagine the doctors said he was only 10 days away from his death.. poor Alex!
@shelbygrimm6281
Жыл бұрын
what really shocks me is how quickly his ENTIRE family gave up on him. They tried, but in my opinion they had multiple signs that he was in serious danger and they just.. gave up.
This is a great example of how hard it is to leave an abuser. The “why you can’t leave” is so very complicated. So glad you finally got away from her Alex. Keep your kids far away from her forever. The children were also abused in that they were witnesses to such horrific events, and who’s to say she wouldn’t one day start physically abusing them.
@Reno420alex
Ай бұрын
It's only hard if your weak.. physically or mentally or both
@magneticjanet5881
Ай бұрын
@@Reno420alex an abuser makes you weak mentally. If you have never been the one who is being abused by a partner, it’s very hard to understand
@barryoffeastenders
Ай бұрын
@@Reno420alexGrow up
@Seacai150
17 күн бұрын
Trauma bonds are real, it’s not always that easy.
Its not just about the abuse that he suffered, but how nonchalantly she admits to most if the abuse. "Yeah, I hit him with the hairbrush when we argued in the car" and "Yeah, he slept on the floor" and the "Yeah, I slashed him with the knife but I never stabbed him".
@user-hb1nz1ff4h
3 ай бұрын
Feminists created a world where women can murder men without facing consequences. THAT is the source of her entitlement. Cops always believe women and punish innocent men. I am starting to see more man-hating women falsely accusing male cops. Maybe cops need to experience what ordinary men go through at the hands of violent women. Perhaps this will help cops sympathize with male victims.
@saffieyz1
3 ай бұрын
As someone who was in such a relationship, I'm glad she admitted her wrong doing. My husband denies denies and denies, so it becomes my word against his. He told me after admitting throwing boiling water over me to the police, he would never ever admit to anything again. He would even build a plausible story around the lie.... now THAT is warped
@helixmoore7636
3 ай бұрын
She's likely a psychopath.
@texxstalker
3 ай бұрын
@@saffieyz1buy some hidden camera aroung the house... But be very careful.. And try not to look always the place where you hide them...
@zaneplatt3533
2 ай бұрын
I had a mentally abusive ex who was casual about it as well. She said stuff like 'I did it because I could', and when I confronted her for being abusive, she said, 'Just because something is true, doesn't mean you should say it'. Some people literally just don't care (she literally googled whether she was a sociopath), and for me (a non sociopath), it has genuinely left me with severe nightmares and trust issues. I think this poor guy fell into the trap that I and so many abused partners do, which is to assume that our partner can't be as heartless and cruel as they are. So, we rationalise their abuse and take responsibility for things that we shouldn't
No one should be abused. Ever. I’m glad he escaped with his life. I’m even happier he has made his story public. What a brave man.
@angelaholmes8888
10 ай бұрын
Yes he is a brave man hopefully this will help others
When he said "I just don't want to be hurt anymore" it broke my heart 😔 I hope Alex finds the love he truly deserves
@amberbennett196
Жыл бұрын
What a psycho. My mom didn't feed us so table dinners were weird to me too, but at least I didn't turn out like her!
@Thundralight
Жыл бұрын
He was naive and this was his first girlfriend, and she took advantage of that. I hope he and his family does everything in their power to keep their baby away from her
@ceelee4154
Жыл бұрын
That’s horrible. 😢I’m so glad he got out of this. Women are just as capable. Abuse is abuse. No matter the gender. I feel for this man. ❤
@noeliaorellana320
Жыл бұрын
Yes love for himself first
@madsdee7803
Жыл бұрын
I hope he loves himself. I hope his babies are kept away from her too. Narcissists like that spread their bs. She used those babies to trap him, and even when the police came she was holding the newborn while out there to emotionally blackmail him into saying nothing. They always use children as a game.
I'm so glad he's safe and that he's sharing his story! This happens too often to men and women, but we aren't talking about male victims enough ❤
@djd4142
2 ай бұрын
happens more to men than women tbh.
@lance9249
Ай бұрын
@@djd4142 True but no one cares when it's done to a man "because men are stronger" but if he fights back to defend himself he is abusive.
I myself was a victim of DV and I'm so very proud of you young man!! I'm so sorry you had to go through this and I hope that the mental scars heal as quickly as the physical ones. You are now in such an amazing position to share your story and give hope and strength to other men who are suffering in silence. It takes strength and heart to admit we are being abused whether you are male or female and your story is incredibly inspirational. Goodluck in your future and enjoy those beautiful babies you have. ❤
My brother was in an abusive relationship for 6 years. He never spoke a word of it until she got caught. In his second relationship, now, he has become aware of triggers. I'm so proud of this young man for doing something with his horrific experience that will bring help to others. I think he chose a great tattoo.
@galaxiyamoon
7 ай бұрын
I am happy he’s in a better place, I am glad he has a sister like you who has his back and shows him kindness.
@Vittoria1012
4 ай бұрын
And I think that society is very SICK if the women started act like men and men were scared to be men and let this happen.
@sakura613
4 ай бұрын
@@Vittoria1012But this is not acting like man. It's not normal behavior for either gender. It's psychotic.
@jenniferlowery6277
4 ай бұрын
I’m so happy most men don’t say anything because they are embarrassed and just like women they don’t deserve it either
@miac2382
3 ай бұрын
Mine too. He had to get stitches multiple times and she threatened to kill him. He had to get stitches from glass bottle she smashed on his face. And she punched him in the ear and side with her keys in her hand and his ear was spilt in two and had to get stitches from that. She regularly punched and beat on him the years they were married.
My mom is 70 years old and is still an abusive monster. They don't change. When someone shows you who they truly are, believe them and plan accordingly. I'm so sorry Alex and I'm proud of you for getting away. God bless you and you're in my prayers 💖
@susan6906
11 ай бұрын
An abuser calling others abusers
@fnafplayer6447
11 ай бұрын
She's in prison I'm guessing
@RAGNAAAA
10 ай бұрын
My mom is cruel and evil aswell
@rhondasisco-cleveland2665
10 ай бұрын
So hard, hu?
@maja9080
10 ай бұрын
@@fnafplayer6447 i dont think so
Praise the Lord this man got out! Abuse is abuse. I’m a DV survivor myself. I don’t care if your male of female. When your broken, your broken. This man HAS SO MUCH COURAGE!! To speak out and help other men. Even though I’m a women, men and women need to see this.
What an amazing, loving, strong and supportive family Alex has. So happy and glad he is safe with his kids.
Besides my daughter being killed by her boyfriend, this has to be the most brutal saddest thing I have ever seen or heard! Like Alex, my beautiful daughter never told our close family, her best friends, or anyone else that she being abused 😢, we didn't find out,until she was killed! Domestic Violence isn't about gender, it's about making it stop,and finding support, housing, for those who are being abused! God bless you Alex! If you're being abused or know someone being abused, PLEASE GET HELP! 💜💜💜
@ulalaFrugilega
9 ай бұрын
So sorry for you! With me it's my Mom, being manipulated, mind-gamed and whatnot by her boyfriend. She does not see it, does not believe it, even though it's ridiculously obvious, how he's constantly keeping taps on her, and controls her. Luckily she's just as obstinate in not letting him isolate her from family and friends. She showed signs of violence twice, always claims she fell. This has been going on for 20 years now and all I can hope for is that he just dies... horrible as that sounds. Sorry for venting to you... You are so right though, about abuse being gender-independent. I can't even find any consoling words for you, damn this boy"friend", I hope he's in jail for life!
@sterntaler64
9 ай бұрын
@@ulalaFrugilegaI'm sorry to hear about your mam. Maybe you could inform the police now, meaning that circumstances will be known there and any possible future emergency call will be taken serious immediately. All the best for your mam, God bless 🙏
@sterntaler64
9 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry for you and your daughter. I had several female and one male friends in abusive marriages - non of them told friends or family about it for years. You're right: Asking for help is crucial, it's the important first step to get out of hell. Thank you for sharing and God bless you 🙏🍀
@TJ-bs4wv
9 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry to what happened to your daughter 😥 May God bless you
@tinasoblessed6350
9 ай бұрын
@@ulalaFrugilega I'm so sorry you have to be a witness of your mother being hurt, I am quite sure you have talked to her, and asked her if she is okay,just continue to be there for her, and let her know what and how you feel,without making her feel embarrassed, for some reason, a lot of abused women feel embarrassed or think it's their fault. You keep praying and stay encouraged! And venting is good and needed, so don't feel bad for venting!🙏🏽🙏🏽🤗
O.M.G. for real!! I am a grown man that's never been abused. When I saw his mother start crying when she got the call that Alex was coming home, and actually saw him.... I broke down, and started to cry. Since grown, I don't cry only have cried at my father's funeral... but this broke me!! I pray Alex can continue to grow, heal, and be the wonderful guy he was before meeting Jordan🙏🏻 🙏🏻
@victoriastead4635
Жыл бұрын
That's the part that got me too.
@dianavasquez7478
Жыл бұрын
Amen
@nikkic2581
Жыл бұрын
WeLol ttyt😂tttttttn $\\\\\\
@nillyk5671
Жыл бұрын
You should cry more often, it cleans the soul. It is ok to cry. You are not less of a man because of it. When men go around sayin they don't cry, they come off as insecure.
@emilyi771
Жыл бұрын
it's ok to cry. it's human, not weak. We are biologically meant to cry as human beings.
What disgust me the most is how calm she is acting when describing what she was doing to him knowing that she is hurting him 😢 this breaks my heart I’m so glad he got out of that terrible situation. This so so sad 😞
My mother was very abusive towards my father growing up. No wonder he started drinking. Thanks for shining some light on this topic.
@Noone-ed5mc
Ай бұрын
Mine as well. Kinda messed me and my bro up on what a relationship looked like thinking all that was normal for men to be treated that way in a relationship. Just glad I found someone that actually respects me and showed me what a healthy relationship should look like.
Bless this police officer for pushing and pushing to save Alex's life. We all need LE like this. Wishing Alex and his babies the best future 💕
@ellaova
Жыл бұрын
Worst domestic violence case of his entire career!? With the statistics on women brutally murdered by their SOs I find that surprising.
@missyd7120
Жыл бұрын
@@ellaova maybe he hadn't dealt with many other domestics himself at that point, he was still quite a young officer so maybe that's why it was the worst he had dealt with ,either way what you said is still true the stats for women being murdered are bad but there is plenty of abused men as well.
@orientalgirl8926
Жыл бұрын
Really, he was sent from God. He didn't accept his answer until he was telling the truth. Alex' suffering touched me to tears. I hope the next girl treats him with all her love and respect that he really deserves and washes all the pain away that he cares from all the years in his soul and cells. Wish him, his kids, his family his friends all the best, they are all very lovely. Greetings from Germany. 💞
@noongourfain
Жыл бұрын
How did they survive? and move house? Neither worked. This is a terrible story and I'm glad Alex was saved.
@barbarahren5208
Жыл бұрын
@@ellaova Well ya, he would be that in abt 2weeks for sure.. And murder is the worst, right
This is so so so important. Men can absolutely be victims of domestic abuse and intimate partner violence in heterosexual relationships. Thank you for shedding light on this issue. And thank you Alex for bravely sharing your story.
@destineydevereux4722
9 ай бұрын
In every kind of relationship, not just hetero 😟
@tjtruth4793
9 ай бұрын
I grew up in a rough area with a rough life and most of the physical domestic violence I’ve seen has been from female to male. Just my anecdotal experience.
@ShyAnn291
7 ай бұрын
Why do you point out heterosexual relationships? Violence can be in any type of relationship!
@AESmith-bw1fy
7 ай бұрын
@@ShyAnn291I think because folks can likely conceive of DV between two men more easily than between a het couple. Despite the evidence to the contrary, people still find it hard to believe when a woman abuses a man.
@deb9784
7 ай бұрын
Actually, in any relationship. Heterosexual or gay.
Thanks to this wonderful young policeman that wouldn't except Alex's explanation for his injurys, if it wasn't for him Alex wouldn't be here today. My heart broke when broken Alex come home and being cuddled by his grandad like a small child, he has a lovely family. Wishing you and your children much happiness.
This is such a disturbing experience that he had to live through. She is one very sick person. I’m scared for the public when she is released. I doubt she will lose these behaviors because of some prison time. She starved, stabbed, threw boiling water and isolated this man while her 2 babies witnessed it all. I’m glad he is safe now and pray he heals emotionally and spiritually.
@e.b.4379
Ай бұрын
She only served 4 years and was released from prison in 2022! She got engaged to some bricklayer in 2023 and apparently ran a marathon to raise money for women affected by domestic violence - the sick irony. I'm sure the evil hyena did this as a joke and equally twisted people actually donated money for her "cause". Talk about a sadistic way to spit in the face of everyone who's been abused. This is what she wrote on her fundraising page: "My Story The Centre For Women's Justice are my legal team who have supported me personally over the last few years and are continuing to do so. They are experts in their field, and support female offenders who have been subject to male violence and historical domestic abuse. They provide legal advice, assistance with public inquiries, inquests and legal challenges. They ensure access to justice for female victims of male violence who find themselves in the criminal justice system due to resisting or retaliating to abuse. My case was complex and complicated but CWJ gave me the time effort and energy to understand my case and support me! Please sponsor me to run the London marathon to help raise money for them!!!!"
This is such a good depiction of how coercive control often doesn't involve locks and chains. People like Jordan, consciously or not, use people's love, loyalty, and decency against them. I really appreciate Alex and his family's willingness to share this painful story and I'm so glad he and his children are safe.
@cherubicnerd
3 ай бұрын
Well said.
@patriot692
3 ай бұрын
I'm still recovering from a subtle, verbally abusive X-wife, & a closet Narcissist. 2 yrs alone feels like only a month ago, & it even feels like ptsd (my nerves & self confidence are shot to hell). But, I'll get thru this w/ God's help. I can never trust women again. 😔
@toeachitsown2050
3 ай бұрын
It's very much conscious. If it weren't, they wouldn't have to hide it.
@eiforget
3 ай бұрын
It’s absolutely heartbreaking to see how fully this young man lost himself in the toxic relentlessness of this girl. He may not have been chained and shackled physically, but he certainly was mentally. It’s a horrifically strange phenomenon. I’m glad he survived, so many others do not.
@BillyLintzenich-wf7sk
2 ай бұрын
@@patriot692me too but its only been less than 2 weeks since the abuse has finally stopped in dec 2023. I guess it couldve stopped in nov but she texted me first on dec1st and Christmas eve so i kept trying to get closure as to what happened in our relationship. Things kept getting worse starting in oct once i found out she already had a new bf and i had broken a 5 week no contact with her that started in september. I just couldnt take her abuse anymore. Eventhough i still love her to this day. Jan5th 2024
That officer straight up saved his life. Too many of these stories end in tragic deaths. Thank you Sir for not giving up and getting him out.
@gjh9299
Жыл бұрын
and the kids, I hope she doesnt get custody because that emotional abuse will be brutal
@georgia8592
Жыл бұрын
@@gjh9299 I doubt she ever would because of her extreme violence it would be beyond ridiculous to even think about giving her responsibility to look after a goldfish never mind a child
@barbarakauppi9915
Жыл бұрын
@@georgia8592 Tragically, sociopaths like her get custody all the time. They manipulate the courts in the same way they manipulate their victims. We are devastatingly inept at dealing with narcissistic sociopaths/psychopaths at any level.
@GemRippers
Жыл бұрын
@@gjh9299 after 7+ years in jail & the charges why she went to jail in the 1st place make it a 0.0000000001% chance she'll ever get custody & I highly doubt he'll ever let her see them after she does hard time anyways, atleast I hope not!
@GemRippers
Жыл бұрын
@@gjh9299 Well I guess shes already out & posting all about it on FB, she didn't even serve 1/2 the time. See comments below.
The police officer who finally intervened on the situation, and who helped Alex, one of the truly best officers I’ve seen in a very long time. He’s definitely a hero with heart. He needs to come to America and give training seminars to these malice and uncaring police officers here who use their power negatively.
God bless you, Alex. I am glad you made it out. Thank you to the police, hospital staff and prosecutor. Alex is, for sure, not the only man suffering abuse. Let’s all appreciate his bravery to speak and help all suffering domestic abuse.
It took a very long time for my 23 year old son to finally see that his “girlfriend” was abusing him. She controlled everything from money, to clothes he wore,tattoos she put on his body and isolating him from friends and family. He finally broke up with her and just last week, he had those tattoos covered up. He eventually told me that she would bite him, punch him and choke him. This was a great documentary and I am so proud of Alex for sharing his story and helping professionals understand just how real this is. Happy healing to Alex and those beautiful babies.
@dianakidd4219
10 ай бұрын
Healing prayers and love to your son. I hope the best for him.
@tammiewilson5185
10 ай бұрын
I'm future worried about the kids when she gets out.
@relaxsleep5148
10 ай бұрын
@@tammiewilson5185 This was my first thought after completely watching the episode :(
@claireeric8964
10 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry, Tracy, and to your beautiful son and children xx "She" needs locking away for the sane time as murder, because this very nearly happened. I have no words for "her" Karma. Good luck for your son and children, and hope one day he meets someone as beautiful as him. Xx God bless ❤️
@JCTBomb
10 ай бұрын
I suspect you were a part in why he chose a girl like that. Kids who are loved and taught boundaries don’t go after abusive partners.
My son was in an abusive relationship and when she sent him tot he hospital she blamed him because he refused to argue with her. Women are capable, as much as men can be, of such evil and malicious behaviors. Good job to the parents and family for never giving up
@ElaynaTillMan16
3 ай бұрын
May God bless your Son.
@666999stardust
3 ай бұрын
My partner went through exactly the same thing, 10 years ago she assaulted him then called the police and said it was him. She was angry that he would not argue back. Years later he found out she did this a lot in previous relationships.
@rosannerossi6376
3 ай бұрын
Thanks for your comment! Where is the father? I only saw a mom and a grandpa, in this story about Alex. What I can see in these scenarios is young men who have no idea what masculinity is. If they knew how to be the “3 P’s” then they would not let their relationships get to that point. Men need to be manly, in their relationships, or their women take that roll and don’t know how to do it. It makes women crazier when their men don’t stop their crazy! If you love her then you won’t let her control you. Violence & Manipulation is never Love. The 3 P’s are: Protector, Provider, and Procreator. Alex needed the Public Authorities to finally be the protectors of that family. That’s terrible! Especially for the infant and toddler, who now have an incarcerated mother. Their troubles aren’t over. Alex’s mother doesn’t realize she treated him differently than his brother and sister. He was timid and insecure. Jordan, being a narcissist, took advantage of Alex’s weak personality. It’s just too bad that they became parents before they could fix their personality problems. The best solution for this family is for Jordan AND Alex to get psychiatric care and learn how to deal with adversity. They both have contributed to the demise of their family. I don’t know if Jordan can ever learn to feel empathy, but I’m certain Alex can learn how to be a real man. God allows bad things to happen because He doesn’t control us. If we pray, and ask Him for help, He will help 10 fold! My life is proof. I’m a stubborn woman, but I have a strong husband that loves me with the love of a protector. I thank God for him everyday. ♥️🙏🏼✝️
@rosannerossi6376
3 ай бұрын
@@666999stardustanother narcissist that finds weak men to control.
@pureluck8767
3 ай бұрын
No shit lady anyone is capable of anything that’s evil I don’t even know why people question this lady what’s wrong with you?
A narcissistic person is jealous of all other bonds you share, because they are unable to form real bonds with people. They are inherently lonely and scared all the time, and they are very dangerous.
@lisadamato8140
3 ай бұрын
Not true qhile people go out their way to waive hot around someone's face as in: Haha I have found someone else. Teasingly disturbing someone's emotions is actual harassment,
@FeralKimchi
3 ай бұрын
Bingo
@quliux6986
3 ай бұрын
Remember that the fist tactic is to create a trap the kid in this case, then use threat (not seeing the child) then use the closest people as the enemy and then guilt you into defending them. Sometimes your family are interfering, but if you notice that pattern take a step back and ask yourself is this right... If any part of your body says no... Your at the start of being controlled. And you could be in danger.. Not all abusers hurt you physically and some don't even know they are doing it.
@texxstalker
3 ай бұрын
Narcissism is shit but i think she is more than that
@FragenAnsLeben
Ай бұрын
True
I am a survivor of a highly abusive relationship, I was able to escape after an attempt to take my life. Abusers are abusers, not assigned to one Gender. Thank you for speaking your story ❤
I started crying when the officer said the McDonald's was one of the best meals he's ever had. Mental health needs to be more of a priority all over the world. Abuse awareness needs to be more accesible. My heart breaks for Alex and his family, but especially his mom. We work so hard to raise our babies to be kind hearted and loving and someone comes along and tries to break them. I hope they are all in better spots now.
@stevesalkas9128
Жыл бұрын
And that's saying something I mean maccas is no oil painting food
@Yunglou3000
Жыл бұрын
@Steve Salkas 100%...
@nataliakovacs9051
Жыл бұрын
This girl is so disgusting, made me sooo angry. I hope she will be punished in her entire life.
@carama3590
11 ай бұрын
I agree!!!! I learned a lot through father Malachi Martin. Art Bell has seven interviews with him on how demons can ruin peoples lives, and how we are in the spiritual war here on earth people better wake up to reality on what’s really going on and how these demonic attachments obsession possession can affect one’s lives.
The police actually went above and beyond. He’s the one that got Alex to confess to the truth. It’s amazing how Alex is giving back after this incident. Bless him and his family ❤
@DX-d
Жыл бұрын
Lol a man being abused by a woman. Shut up.
@Filmgirlphilosopher
Жыл бұрын
Yeah that police officer quite literally saved his life, by not taking a lie for an answer. When good people go the police force lives are saved.
@GypsyGirl317
Жыл бұрын
@@Filmgirlphilosopher as long as they get cops with integrity. 🤔
@icp9976
Жыл бұрын
All have done evil “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23) The penalty for sin is hell (Revelation 21:8). Because of Gods love for us Jesus Christ came down from heaven to take the punishment for our sin on the cross in which he was spat on, beaten, mocked and laughed at. Christ died for the sins of the world and The third day God raised him from the dead (Praise God). This was done so that those who believe on Christ will not perish (hell) but have life everlasting (heaven); be justified by Gods grace through redemption in Christ (John 3:16) (Romans 3:24) The blood Jesus shed on the cross washes away our sin if we Believe in The Son of God and his finished work (ordained by God) on the cross. When this happens the believer receives the righteousness of Christ in place of their own unrighteousness (all sins are forgiven) and this makes them saved (going heaven) .and they are born again as a Christian. (Romans 3:25-26).
Good to see people in the comments section speaking out against domestic abuse of men by women. This problem is swept under the carpet by society and politicians. We need to bring awareness of this into the mainstream.
@nickc3250
3 күн бұрын
❤
This was absolutely heartbreaking. So glad he was able to get away from her! And raise his kids! She could have abused them too and he probably would’ve died.
It’s not that she’s a woman. It’s that she says things like “I only cut him. I never STABBED him!” with such ease and innocence
@sariuca
Жыл бұрын
This reminded me of amber Heard saying "I did not punch you, I was hitting you"
@shawnaclarkson9401
Жыл бұрын
Sounds like Amber Heard
@shivvWhore
Жыл бұрын
It's not that she's a woman. It's that she's a psychopath.
@ERiCDrAyViN
11 ай бұрын
Domestic abusers are experts in downplaying their behavior as not being that serious.
@scottboy
11 ай бұрын
Crazy thing is, we all know abuse can become normalized for victims, but it's astonishing to realize that abuse becomes normalized for abusers too. This girl is a prime example. She's abused him so frequently, and so casually, she thought it slicing him with a knife wasn't a big deal to the point she openly told the police.
As the daughter of an abusive mother, I appreciate that these stories are being told by men who are victims. My mother painted my father as the abuser (even blaming him for her abuse of my younger brother and I) when she was the abuser. Her abuse was mostly emotional, and I can remember my father crying and I was just a child and I was too afraid of her to go to him. Unfortunately my father mistakenly thought she would not abuse her children and since he was away a lot for work, he didn't witness it. The bullies at school were nothing compared to what we got at home. My parents split when I was ten. For years my mother poisoned my mind about my father and I didn't speak to him for years and only reunited with him and shared our stories when I was in my late 20s. Sadly he died within months. My mother is still alive decades later making everyone's life hell. You may say I don't have to be in touch with her, but try being a woman who doesn't speak to your mother and see how you get treated. People have sympathy for someone who had an abusive father, but an abusive mother - they think you are exaggerating or imagining it.
@talye
Жыл бұрын
You’re surrounded by the wrong people. I too have an abusive mother and have not spoken to her for years and I’m supported in my decision.
@jskkkk
Жыл бұрын
Yes! Some people cannot get their head around a mother being abusive. My mother too was abusive. She's a horrible narcissistic evil person and some of my earliest memories are of her telling me she wished she terminated me. I believe you!
@Avery-ss9xe
Жыл бұрын
The only way to get out of it, is stopping relationships with the abuser. I feel so sorry that I didn’t do it earlier because my horrible abusive mother manipulated me times and times again into believing that she loves me. I would forgive her and open my heart again for her, and she would destroy me again. She would tell all relatives, friends and neighbors that I am a horrible person. She made it her mission in life. She isolated me with her relatives. My older brother, who was her favorite, doesn’t support me. She used to say to me that my brother was their love child, but she should have done an abortion with me. But I would rather not have any relationship with them than accept that I am not good enough and betray myself. Yes, it is not easy, but it is the only way to survive. And this is what I suggest you do, SL Silver.
@Avery-ss9xe
Жыл бұрын
@@Vita_Voitane completely agree with you!!!
@Geordie-rr2gq
Жыл бұрын
I hope you can find the support and courage you need to speak the truth openly. Much love x
What a courageous young man. How he never waivered and hurt her back shows he is the purest of souls. For him to come out of such circumstances and continue to want to help people just validates the kind of man we need more of. I am sending him all the love and light for him to hold during his journey to recovery.
@alexhughes2129
Ай бұрын
You think that's courage. He did nothing. Even shunned and obstructed help.😂😂
@Va11idus
Ай бұрын
He was raised a weak and ineffectual man by his parents and society. Nothing here to be proud of. It's incredibly sad that, not only was he not properly equipped to protect himself and his family, but people are actual praising that, and continuing to raise their sons to be the same. Horrifying, really.
@user-xt9nt2qm1l
Ай бұрын
@@alexhughes2129You have no clue what you're talking about
@himantapathak3989
Ай бұрын
But he does have the right to defend himself. I know he didn't. But no man deserves to be a punching bag. And just because a man defends himself doesn't make him any less of a man. Plz don't empathise with the abuser
The cop who finally caught on and helped Alex is an actual hero and a great man. The way he criticized himself for not seeing it earlier is very telling of his character
I watched my mother abuse my father for nearly 60 years. No one believed us. Society can be dangerously deluded about women, starting with family, friends and even police. The media gives it zero attention. But millions of men are abused every single day. Well done to this young man for speaking out and for raising awareness. I wish him, his children, family and friends all the best in the world.
@taramay8174
Жыл бұрын
I believe you. Look at Amber turd. Even Jonnys mother was so abusive to his own father.
@SavedPdf
Жыл бұрын
SAME !!!! Not even the social workers who my therapist called believed me “thats just how she is”. Haven’t spoken to her in 5 years now, never will again. Having a toxic mother figure as a female especially is so detrimental, she was supposed to be the primary caregiver, but just showed us how evil and bitter person can be. We breaking the cycle sis ❤️🩹
@liftedgifted6010
Жыл бұрын
@@SavedPdf Same 💞🫂
@buffster948
Жыл бұрын
He's very brave for speaking out. This form of abuse is still not really fully accepted. I had a work colleague who used to come in with some really nasty injuries, but he never wanted to speak out. We're not in contact now sadly, but I still worry about him. Dr Ramani's channel is a good one for healing from this kind of abuse.
@pukljica
Жыл бұрын
Same here🥺it was more na emotinal abuse&control but still,even my therapyst gaslighted me about the situation,so yeah if the professionals can be oblivious about those dynamics how will average person see it..this must change!Depp trial opened a whole new dimension to this issue tnx god and I hope now also man will have have more courage to tell someone&people will believe them when this happens!Much peace to all🙏
Alex, I’m 51 yrs old. My mom abused my dad, sister and myself. You are a strong young man and a great dad. We can’t change people but we can change. Never forget that tribulations we go through gives us strength, experience and hope. We are never defined by what happens to us but how we come out of it. Much love to you and the kids.
@leelebirdsong8339
10 ай бұрын
Such amazing words of wisdom. Ty for sharing 😇
@kimberlylowry2353
10 ай бұрын
@@leelebirdsong8339 Romans 8:28 And we know all things work together for good to them that love God, to them called according to his purpose ♥️🙏😊💚
My heart goes out to you Alex. I'm an abuse survivor as well. And watching what you went through just tears at my soul. I'm so glad you got out and that she got convicted. Sending so much love and blessings to you and your family. You are such a strong man!
If you’ve never been in a relationship and in love with a malignant narcissist, you won’t understand until you do.
@jesandnafe
7 күн бұрын
I think she may have some APD sprinkled in her mix
When they asked him if he ever had to defend himself from her and he said “I never wanted to hurt her”….I felt that. I hurt for him. It showed his heart.
@ibdunny
11 ай бұрын
My story is very similar. She has wanted me dead for 10 years
@margavanderwel1485
10 ай бұрын
@@ibdunny And where are you now? Are you safe? Did you leave? Please leave if you can 😪
@fibeejeebeez8248
9 ай бұрын
He’s very much a gentle soul. Poor guy, may he always be forever happy from now on
@ingridc.llewellyn3910
9 ай бұрын
When is she out?😬
@GSP-76
9 ай бұрын
@@ingridc.llewellyn3910She's been out...only served half her sentence and is engaged to someone else now.
It broke my heart when he said he wanted his mum. I am glad he has the support of family and friends. This young woman is a danger to society and hopefully she’ll get help.
@kingalfred3902
Жыл бұрын
the only help she should get ........is ...jail time...!!!...That is the problem ....he wanted his ....MOM....!!!....She raised him as a weak .....mommies boy.!!....that why he couldnt even stand up against this woman.......His mother is to blame for all this...!!!!
@zadkya
Жыл бұрын
@@kingalfred3902 yikes bro for men like you there's the stigma of weak men and this toxic masculinity
@zadkya
Жыл бұрын
@@kingalfred3902 80% of the suicides are committed by men and its because they think they can't reach out for the same reason as you're considering this man weak. Is weak a person who has endured so much pain to the point of not telling anyone? I wonder if you could know how that even feels.
@speedballbustanutinc.4512
Жыл бұрын
A hit man or cyanide would've been s good choice
@donwhelan768
Жыл бұрын
Help in a lethal injection? I agree!!
I can relate to this... my ex girlfriend was very abusive towards myself and her own family. I stayed around thinking she would change, but things only got worse. I'm glad I finally woke up and ended the relationship before she could do anymore harm. But in Australia... the male is always cast as the abuser. So nothing was ever done. My country needs to wake up and realise that women physically and emotionally abuse men as well. Australia needs to watch this. Thank you for the video... im glad he is safe as well as the kids. She deserved what she got. It's not always the male that is the abuser!
@An_Gha_
3 ай бұрын
I am a woman who survived abuse. I couldn't imagine how a man could get abused and not being able to protect himself. Now I understand. It's not matter of gender. It's matter of heart and mind. I was in islamic country and they prefer males, they tend to accuse women as exaggerating and moody and ungrateful. So I understand how in western country it is harder for a male to be believed and how that feels.
I’m a woman and this breaks my heart this is so sad Alex was a beautiful man he didn’t deserve this I hope and pray that Alex finds someone who loves him
"I don't want to hurt her.." he's literally so precious and she treated him horribly! This made me so upset. I hope Alex gets all the healing in the world. ♡
@krypto_maniac8081
Жыл бұрын
i feel that he is the type of man that should havea happy ending girl ... someone to cherish someone to love someone who will love him back
@Uche-1
Жыл бұрын
Hopefully he heals well enough to open himself up for the right person. I’m glad he has the kids and a strong family support.
@edwardbrianna9729
Жыл бұрын
Yeah and when she’s talking to police she has the audacity to say “I didn’t hurt him. I didn’t hurt Alex” . Wtf?!? Maybe in her mind hurt is only hurt when she kills him. Then she’d be like “yeah I hurt him but it was his fault”. Ugh. And her I’m meek with baby voice, so tiny mouse I could never hurt someone. Such an act. A methodical act from a monster, planned beginning to end
@Alexa4ev3r
Жыл бұрын
Only God will Heal him completly! 🙏🏼❤️
@jordanworth7170
Жыл бұрын
This is Jordan from the documentary. Just to be clear, I never meant to hurt Alex! There were occasions when I lost my cool with him and subsequently had to beat him but it would only EVER be when he pushed me over the edge. This documentary is incredibly one sided also as Alex was certainly no angel himself. He would often shout and lose his cool. Anyway I’m doing better for myself now, and I’m glad that part of my life is behind me.
This guy seems genuinely sweet and caring, and for him to go through all of this is heart breaking. I am glad he was able to get out of this.
@zeynep3690
Жыл бұрын
If he wasnt sweeet or nice he wouldnt go thru it ;)
@businesszeus6864
Жыл бұрын
obviously they target the nice ones, if she targeted another sociopath it wouldn’t have lasted
@186mars
Жыл бұрын
The amount of trauma I could’ve avoided if I’m not afraid to offend someone is astronomical
@businesszeus6864
Жыл бұрын
@@186mars yup! thats also a hard lesson learned on my part. worst part is, now that i shut down and become slightly rude when i feel something is off, everyone who genuinely has bad intention gives up immediately, because the fight isn’t worth it.
@Jesterix88
Жыл бұрын
Thats the result off you are man, but not an asshole... The asshole road is way more relaxed 😎 never trust a woman!!! Never give a woman power over yourself...
Thanks for the courage to tell your story here! It´s so important for the victims that their friends and family won´t give them up! Even not if the situation seems to be completely bizarre.
This is an eye opener. You always hear about men abusing women but this is the first time that I have heard the story from the abused man's point of view. Wow...I just read an update on where she is now. She was let out of prison early and she is currently ENGAGED with some guy. His friends have apparently told him about her past but apparently, he is staying with her, for now, that is. Hopefully, this new guy wakes up and gets away before it's too late for him.
So proud of this young man! Abuse is not gender controlled. Abuse is Abuse & should be stopped.
@marirothbauer5407
10 ай бұрын
So very lucky he is still alive.
@kathleenchilcote9127
10 ай бұрын
99%are men abusing women though
@angelaholmes8888
10 ай бұрын
You are so right
@insidiousmischka
9 ай бұрын
It actually is for the most part gender controlled. Men abuse more than women - physically - that’s why by the police officer said he didn’t expect it as the usual case is the man abusing the woman. That’s reality.
I currently can’t stop crying….. praise that officer that took his duties even further to saved a life and rescue Alex from that monster disguised in a pretty little package. As for Alex it takes a great deal of courage and strength to share your story and committing yourself to a mission of helping others recognize abuse. Thank you for being brave!!!! And for setting the example for his kids to know how they need to be treated and how to treat others. Thank God he got out alive.
@lovetofly32
Жыл бұрын
I dated a pretty little monster much like her but I couldn't stand the change in personality and the massive disrespect so I kicked her out of my life. It was one of the hardest things I ever had to do but I had to. And she went on to cheat and destroy another relationship and marriage. Really makes me sick..
@kutie216
Жыл бұрын
@@lovetofly32 Wow. Some people never change. I’m glad you got away in time.
@shivanihr5879
Жыл бұрын
Me too. I literally cried watching this.
This made me cry a bit. I get so sad for people that this happens to. And something that really stood out to me, was that people tend to assume that only those who have no support end up in these situations, which just isn't true. This is a good example of how an abuser isolates their victim from that support no matter how much there is. This was really well put together and I am so so so so so glad that Alex has is babies and his family back and that he survived this woman. Good on you! And what you have done with that experience is really inspiring, so thank you for sharing your story. It is one that needs to be heard.
God this hurts. I'm in the process of my own divorce, and while things never got as malignant or physical, SO many things match. The justifications, the incessant questioning to wear you down, the fact that being nice was switched on and off at will, and the normalisation of clearly abusive and controlling behavior... man I'm glad I'm getting off this train. Thanks for the massive share Alex, couldn't have been easy, but it helps a lot.
Alex seems like the sweetest kindest guy. I hope he finds the most incredible woman who treats him like gold, respects him, and gives him and all the love, affection and security that he deserves
@desertweasel6965
Жыл бұрын
He's a total pushover. He may be sweet and feeble, but what woman wants to be with a sniveling man who allowed an 80lb woman to abuse him? He seems like the king of all simps.
@mattb6646
Жыл бұрын
Shitheads will always prey on the sweet and innocent.. too bad he wasn't a little tougher, perhaps he is now. Wish him the best too
@gray3984
Жыл бұрын
He went for the pretty looking blonde and here he is. This is exactly what happens to losers who love people just because of their physical appeal
@mackdaddy6123
Жыл бұрын
this guy needs to grow some balls
@speedballbustanutinc.4512
Жыл бұрын
Woman love assholes.thats why I'll always be one
Any woman would be so blessed to have a genuine man like Alex. I have tears down my face
@gwendolynosler3930
Жыл бұрын
People that are not close to there family do not want you to be close with your family his family show him much love she could not stand that .that make her a hater
@kiki.nico.
Жыл бұрын
She was also blessed with 2 babies. She had everything. And didn’t deserve any of it.
@barbarakauppi9915
Жыл бұрын
@@gwendolynosler3930 That's terribly unfair and untrue, and downright cruel to those who don't deserve it. There are a laundry list of reasons why people are not close to their families, you fail to differentiate between victim and abuser, or any other issues. Jordan is a narcissistic sociopath, she will not change. There are a lot of them, unfortunately, and they are all dangerous. As a society we desperately need to understand this problem far, far more than we do, and only then can begin to deal with it effectively.
@MylisaKay
Жыл бұрын
@@barbarakauppi9915 I agree. I am not close to my family. Thats because my dad didnt care to be in my life, my mom died when I was 11, and my aunt and cousins were narcissists like Jordan (one of my cousins even put pills in a milkshake she made me for God knows what reason). I would love to be with a man who is close to his family because then maybe I would feel like I actually have a family....
@nephite467
Жыл бұрын
@@MylisaKay I’m so sorry that’s awful
Thank you for sharing you story and bringing awareness to the public regarding the domestic abuse yo suffered. I pray 🙏 that you will continue to heal and build your dream life with your two beautiful children. The support you have from your family and friends is so lovely to see. Be well, be happy, and may the work you do to bring more awareness to help professionals recognize the signs of domestic abuse so it can stamped out all over the world.
I wish Alex, his children, mum, friends and family all happiness, peace and abundance. Overcoming trauma is not easy, and sharing your story enlightens the world about female abusers. Much love ❤
My dad was abused by my mom who suffered from mental illness. After being married to her for 13 years, he finally divorced her and moved on. I was glad when they split, but I hated the fact that he didn't take me and my sister with him and we had to endure a lot because of that. Thankfully, my sister and I prevailed, but our relationship with our parents are practically non-existent and as we get older, we have found peace with that.
@regant.cameron8237
Жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry 💔 That would suck 😞 Especially your Dad leaving you behind. Society isolated men or they learned to isolate themselves back in the day. My Dad would never leave my Mom. But he worked up North and believed everything she told him. Until he had to live with her himself after he retired. Still he never spoke a word against her. He wouldn't regardless. He didn't believe in divorce and I'm sure he made excuses for her in his head. Anyway I hope that you'll find true happiness if you haven't already and be able to trust it. HUGS
@vickitoriamountney6046
Жыл бұрын
I got left behind as a child with a abusive parent and always fought y didn’t you take me,I hope u have found peace and you and your sister have a beautiful loving life all the best to you both xxxx
@HermanMelendez
Жыл бұрын
How terrible, I'm so sorry! I read a book called Bad Childhood Good Life by doctor Laura Shlessinger. It's a very thin book but it truly saved me, and I've read them all. Good luck to you. 🍀
@healingandgrowth-infp4677
Жыл бұрын
I’m sorry My dad went through the same as well as me with my mum. He gave her so much love support etc Sacrificed his life health mind for her n us kids Didn’t deserve any of the abuse Had to hear her go on and on about how she wishes he was d…d n even scolded me for crying when he passed due to cancer
@mindurbiznezz
Жыл бұрын
Wow I am soo sorry for your loss. I hope you’re now older and have removed yourself from her abuse? This shouldn’t be so hard for people to believe a women can abuse a man. It happens just the same if not even more. My heart goes out to you ❤I hope you’re doing well and have been able to grieve the death 😔of your dad in a healthy and whole hearted way. 💝@@healingandgrowth-infp4677 wow! I am by
Absolutely shattered me when they said “he wants his Mum.” He probably slept for days when he was finally able to rest in a safe and loving home.
@jennybeam7226
Жыл бұрын
Omg I am SOBBING!! It's so true that they'll ALWAYS be our babies no matter their age!🙏❣️
@azbahuddin9250
Жыл бұрын
😍😍😍
@theamberheardplaylist6768
Жыл бұрын
People love this story. But don't believe it, it's probably textbook retaliatory litagation
@devong7124
Жыл бұрын
You will cry no stop for 3 days, then sleep 3 days.
@Jojodancer20100
Жыл бұрын
He probably had night terrors. Poor baby. I pray for his healing.
Thank you for sharing. I am a woman and I get so angry when people act like men do not get abused.
A very brave man for speaking up. Thank you for sharing your story. I know it will help many people.
As a victim of domestic violence myself it's refreshing to see someone get away, start to heal and get some closure. Seeing a male prospective is much needed. I commend Alex on his strength and courage and say " thank you" for helping people to understand that nothing is simple in that situation.
@AMB_REELZ
Жыл бұрын
hope your ok .
@bettydawson3401
Жыл бұрын
Yeah
@AMB_REELZ
Жыл бұрын
@@bettydawson3401 I hope so . ❤️
@nidiasmith7367
Жыл бұрын
amen! It is wonderful to see victims ( Men and Woman)can get the help. and be honest and want the true to come out ,in anyways and live they life.. what a heros!
@jenniferhill6506
Жыл бұрын
I'm also a victim of domestic violence, yet I still found myself like I'm sure so many others did, saying "WHY DIDN'T HE JUST LEAVE?!?" It's something you just can't explain or even fully understand, the whole "staying in an abusive relationship" part. I never in a million years thought it would happen to me, always said I'd never allow it, never tolerate it. Yet, there I was for all that time. Police, court, police, court, and there you are telling yourself it WILL change, it WILL get better. But it won't. It will only get worse. I agree, it was interesting to see it from a male victim's perspective. I hope others in these situations are able to make it out and live the safe, happy lives they deserve.
She felt that everything she did to him was okay and justified. "Oh yeah I hit him but I never hurt him." "He told me he wanted to cook pasta and I sad no because I wasn't hungry." "Yeah he sleeps on the floor because me and tj sleep on the bed." And none of that sounded bizarre to her.
@michaelavalek2649
Жыл бұрын
Yes because In abusers minds nothing is their fault, everything is the victims fault. And they know damn well how to justify doing what they did in their minds and try to explain it to their victims in a way that makes us feel bad.
@AnnabelleCharrier
Жыл бұрын
That stood out to me too. She really thought her behaviour was justified. He seemed so brainwashed that even he didn't seem to understand that he hadn't done anything wrong , which is heartbreaking.
@reofi
Жыл бұрын
It is possible the abuser herself had this behaviour normalised for her at some point. They don't elaborate on her parents who, when briefly mentioned, did not seem to intervene when Alex was isolated from his support network. Domestic Violence is often learned behaviour and is a "repeating cycle" of behaviours and abuse. Not excusing the behaviour - just highlighting how one of the best ways to combat DV is to break the cycle by protecting kids from witnessing violence, often from their own parents
@carama3590
11 ай бұрын
She never heard the word NO as a child. Never held accountable for her actions or I believe she has demonic attachments especially speaking to his grandparent/ elderly the way she did. Very sad. We need to pray for her! Could you imagine if everybody prayed for their enemies?
@AnnabelleCharrier
11 ай бұрын
@@carama3590 It's hard to say. He mentions that she thought of herself as his intellectual superior - I've noticed this kind of thinking in a few girls (not ALL girls). Especially if their bf's are footballer types. They see their bf's as stupid boofheads; it's horribly patronizing . I know one girl who never hesitates to cut her bf down to size & always tells him to shut up. I've always felt bad for him but after seeing this I'm actually worried about him!
Very glad Alex is safe. It’s devastating to see the abuse. It is awesome that Alex is training others to identify abuse.
Thank you for sharing your story with us! I wish you all the best and lots of love in your life!
I was in a situation like this for about 7 years. The woman I was with tried to stab me a number of times, scratched my face numerous times, broke my things, constantly screamed at me, treated me bad and insulted me, cheated on me numerous times, poisoned me once that made me so sick that I was laying on the floor and could barely hear or stay conscious while she stood over me smiling and asking "What's the matter, not feeling good?" (once that I know of - they're may have more times since I would get sick a lot while I was with her), I rarely got sick before I knew her or after we divorced but while I was with her I seemed to get sick pretty often, she also stabbed my shoes and cut up my clothes with scissors and one time broke my thumb in three places. I stayed with her because I so badly wanted my family to stay together. When we finally separated and divorced I felt so relieved and happy and started healing from all the damage that had been done. My life became so much better after we divorced (not immediately but over a short period of time), I couldn't believe I was with her for so long and put up with such horrible treatment.
@Selfullme
Жыл бұрын
So sorry you went through that and I applaud you for finding the courage to leave
@christinawhelehan6445
Жыл бұрын
You poor pet, I can understand, I was beat up and I totally believed it was my own fault, like no doctor, nurse, psychologist, psychiatrist, nobody could tell me any different cause I didn't believe anyone else, I won't go in to everything cause I'd be messaging for age's and age's but when I finally, finally was away from him I could slowly see how demented and evil he really was and he could act so nicely around his family and friend's so noone could see what he really was. But a lot of times men in particular are not believed or made fun off cause they are supposed to be "the tough one", it's extremely unfair and they should be listened to before thing's get worse or people should really help even if they have to force the help to their friend or friend's that are in need. You went through a lot and for what, she was the evil dirty slut but with time people will see what they are really like and hopefully if not in this lifetime, in death they will get exactly what they deserve so make sure the next woman you are with, that she is actually nice and good to you, the first sign of her being any way horrible, get out and don't ever look back, ok
@carolwebster4181
Жыл бұрын
So happy you got away from that crazy bitch, enjoy your life and don't take abuse from anyone ❤luv from Australia oxox
@depaula1710
Жыл бұрын
I am so sorry you had to live through that. Wishing you an immensity of strength and endurance to work your way out of that trauma and get to a place of joy and trust again
@martinalewis2844
Жыл бұрын
Awful. 😢
As a mother with a son, I’d be so heartbroken if someone did this to my son. My heart goes out to this family 🙏🙏
@nellygonzalez6211
Жыл бұрын
As a mother myself, I don't think I would have just stood there and do nothing! Just like a father protecting his princess, I'd be protecting my prince. B*tch would be sorry!!
@chrystalblue7170
Жыл бұрын
She'd be dead.
@f6cks
Жыл бұрын
Truee
@scripskunk612
Жыл бұрын
If someone did this to my son……she would end up spending the rest of her life in a 3rd world prison being tortured for the rest of her life. I pray that every abuser instantly dies of a massive heart attack the moment they commit the first act of abuse.
@msgina6655
Жыл бұрын
Mines …. Imma knock her head off her shoulders
One of my dear friend’s son (a firefighter), was killed by his abusive girlfriend. She shoved him out of a moving car and he struck his head, he died shortly after. The things that go on behind closed doors can be horrible. Women can be just as capable of abuse and because men are taught not to speak up about their problems/feelings, or to defend themselves against women, then what’s left?! This is a fantastic video to raise awareness that abuse isn’t just one sided with men hurting women. NO ONE should suffer abuse.
Incredibly brave. Thank you for sharing your story with us ❤
Props to the cop that realized there was a problem and didn’t leave till it was solved ❤️
@limlaith
Жыл бұрын
Whenever there are stories like this, I am always reminded of Jeffrey Dahmer and how long it took before the cops believed what they were being told - because the victims were all men, gay men at that. It's even worse in the case of Ian Watkins. Just unforgivable.
@shon0032
Жыл бұрын
@@limlaith Must add most were Black men as well.
@ns88ster
Жыл бұрын
@@shon0032 That means they're higher on the oppression stack. Gay Black Lives Matter More... right?
@lindziep6319
Жыл бұрын
Yes hes very observant, we need more police like him 👮
@TeddyBear-ii4yc
Жыл бұрын
His family will have tried the police route and those calls, allegations & complaints, etc, will be on their system.
Well done to the Cop who took him from the house and had a private chat with him! Alex was a lucky guy!
@MrPaultopp
10 ай бұрын
I vary rarely get tearful…..but this got me 😭😭😭
@charleneclark1817
10 ай бұрын
Awful, my ex husband was horrible to me. I divorced him my life is so much better back to my normal self
@sharabowker483
10 ай бұрын
I wish all cops took the time
Well done mate... keep up your good work. I wish you and your children the very best...stay positive 🙏
Thank you for telling your story 🥺
Seeing the response she sent to the Grandad and the message he sent back, and thinking it was actually Alex who sent the message, brought me to tears. The LEO that kept on Alex to tell him the truth is a hero. And Alex has such a wonderful family, and a great best friend. Truly a great story and a happy ending. I wish you and your family all the best Alex. Godspeed.
@ashleighthomas7283
Жыл бұрын
That part broke my heart and had me bawling 😭 💔
What a beautiful family, group of friends and police officer. It took every one of them to save that poor kid and nurse him back to life. Bless them all.
@RichardRamirez1st
Жыл бұрын
He is so sweet he deserves someone like him
@cliveedwards2958
Жыл бұрын
Yep he has really good friends and family and a good policeman who saw through the bluff..this was a shocking story
@deevillarreal9475
Жыл бұрын
And I'm so very happy they loved him so much harder, than they disliked her, when people make poor choices is when we need to stand by, as they will eventually some how maybe God will place the right person there, with right words, authority whatever is needed. But abusers need to be stopped dead in there blazing manipulative often soft spoken, shy tracks! Families friends band together there going to need to you help them pick up the pieces of there former self. Stand firm don't waver. It took an underground group, and my mom's brother to save my life. The cops never forced him to see me, or call out for me. It was considered family matters, much has changed today thank goodness. Mine lasted until 1992. Officers never stepped in our home and looked for me or my new born he just told them No. And they would leave. 👎 I was eventually for the 2nd time left for dead. When I got help. Accidentally he left a phone. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@terraalbritton6405
Жыл бұрын
It is so sad that he missed all this time with his family, but I am so glad that his grandpa is still alive!!!
Thank you for the courage it took to do this....its very helpful to know this can happen and how subtle it starts
This is so sad. Much healing ahead for this young man, it’s encouraging to know that he has a great support system around him.
It wasn't just the physical abuse, but the psychological and emotional abuse that allowed him to continue accepting the physical abuse. Fortunately for him, he has a family that never gave up on him and a police officer who followed his instincts in the end. May Alex heal from his trauma and find a partner worthy of him.
@soxpeewee
Жыл бұрын
Honestly, I feel like the physical abuse "saved" him in a way. If he wasn't physically abused, I don't think he would have ever left the relationship.
@limlaith
Жыл бұрын
@@soxpeewee It is, I feel, much the same for women when there are children involved. Kids are often the primary or only reason a woman will leave or seek the help she wouldn't seek for herself alone. Gosh this story made me cry.
@corinazammet7697
Жыл бұрын
I have a son in same atm,wushing he can find strength
@healingandgrowth-infp4677
Жыл бұрын
@@corinazammet7697 ❤
@CW-vt7le
Жыл бұрын
Thank God for that officer. It must be different in the UK than the US. I've called the police twice on a man and I had PHYSICAL evidence (black eye with a cut very close to my eye where he chucked a nightlight switch at my face, along with other misc things). When the police came, I was a mess, crying and not doing a good job at composing myself. The man who assaulted me was my husband and he told them that I had psychological issues and that I did it to myself. They believed him and they left without doing anything. If they would have done their job a bit they would have seen his felony domestic abuse charges from his X-wife... which she fought to bring down to a misdemeanor. Fast-forward 6 months, he broke my nose in 2 places and the ER doc begged me to let them call the police. I refused because what were they going to do? They've never done anything before and I did not want to lose my livelihood and everything as he would have taken everything from me and had the resources. The ER doc looked me in the eyes and said, "next time he will kill you." That's the 2nd ER doctor to tell me that. But... the police are utterly useless in my area.
I started crying with the mom when she received news of what happened to her son. Thank goodness he's free of this evil ex witch.
@heffeff
Жыл бұрын
I cried there, too 😢
@meeeeee7246
Жыл бұрын
Me too. Having a son of a similar age, it would have broken me. Thank god he was found before it was too late
@pumpkinkoot865
Жыл бұрын
I have a 9yo son who has been running a 102 degree fever for 3 days cuddled in bed with me and I've got tears running silently down my face... Just him being sick kills me... I can't imagine how that mom felt then... But also those yrs she lost him because of the forced isolation. It makes me sick to my stomach to imagine having no contact with him for years... To not even know where he lives.. 😭
@QueenMean2131
Жыл бұрын
You spelled Bitch wrong
@digby_dooright
Жыл бұрын
@@heffeff I cried when I saw the picture of him and his grandpa.
I’m glad this story was put together to help others recognise potential problems in there newly founded relationships and avoid the pain and grief of being with an abusive partner. Emotional abuse can easily go under the radar as it’s subtle and doesn’t immediately leave a mark.