there actually is an r/AreTheTransOk and it's not a bad thing. It is a mental health sub just for trans people. It is making sure the trans are ok :')

@magicalgio

2 жыл бұрын

the wholesome ending

@magicalgio

2 жыл бұрын

the wholesome ending

@TornadoZX825

2 жыл бұрын

the best ending

@52flyingbicycles

2 жыл бұрын

Everyone always asked “who is trans” but finally someone asked “how are trans”

@Ammiteur9

2 жыл бұрын

I was literally squieking because of how wholesome that is.

- "I have a trans friend who was once a man and is now a woman" - "I'd rather just be called a woman" Yeah Becky, so would your friend

@julieannu

2 жыл бұрын

Apparently the trans friend was born a man. I bet giving birth to a man hurts

@emilyd1643

2 жыл бұрын

Becky 😂

@captkittypants

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. Come on Becky.

@FatherManus

2 жыл бұрын

Except the friend isnt a woman. He's a man cosplaying as a woman.

@Jaime-mq8lj

2 жыл бұрын

@@FatherManus cosplayers can take off their disguise in 5 minutes. Trans people can't, because they're not fucking playing dress up for god's sake, it'a not a disguise

Saying kids are not going to "choose" to be cis because of the flag is like saying kids are going to "choose" to be welsh because our flag has a dragon on it.

@cesargeney5268

2 жыл бұрын

To be honest I wish that was the flag of my country. Thought, mine has a Condor, which is nice

@lexwithbub

2 жыл бұрын

But as we know, it is the law that if you like rainbows then you MUST be part of the LGBT+ community 😉 that is the rule! 😂

@InevitableSecrets

2 жыл бұрын

I mean…. If that’s how we chose things I’d pick a Scottish Clan to join with a really nice tartan. 😉

@frnksfrthmmrs_

2 жыл бұрын

I want a dragon :(

@Mostlyharmless1985

2 жыл бұрын

Low key, kinda want to be Welsh now…

If someone ever says that calling them cis "forces a gender on them that they do not accept" I will unquestionably respond with "oh I'm sorry, I didn't realize you were trans. My bad."

@Starlightbooper

2 жыл бұрын

I mean it is literally what they are saying in their confusion and lack of knowledge

@notquiteasamazingjess

2 жыл бұрын

But also like... how do they think we feel? If they don’t like having a “gender pushed on them.” Like that’s....what happened to most trans ppl? Still happens to me just because of my appearance.

@incanusolorin2607

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@XDFreekie

2 жыл бұрын

I also never liked being called cis. And then I figured out I am non binairy. So internally I might have already felt it was wrong

@Currently_Fangirling

2 жыл бұрын

Oml yes Also hi Albert 😂 Another newsies fan haha

The Christian male one hits home. I’ve been on my own for 7 years now, and being independent I’ve realized how unhealthy my parents’ relationship is. My dad has the final say in everything, and my mom is paranoid, drinks, and has anxiety around him. She described being forced to have sex with him to me in tears, and I had to explain to her that spousal rape is a thing, and she is a PERSON and that all of this is not okay. She’s too scared to seek even counseling though. I just can’t believe how much transphobia, homophobia, and misogyny I learned from the church that I’ve had to unlearn. I hope to teach better for my kids.

@CamoGilly

2 жыл бұрын

oh god im really sorry for what your family goes through and i genuinely hope your mother gets all the help she needs. as an lgbt person, i know you'll do much better with your kids. take a cookie, and have a great day 🍪 :]

@jenna2321

2 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️ hope you’re alright

@aviendha1154

2 жыл бұрын

Blood and bloody ashes. Im so sorry that you have to live with the knowledge that one of your parents is a rapist. I really hope you can held your mother escape.

@squeaktheswan2007

2 жыл бұрын

@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia I don't think that's up to you.

@tinkeramma

2 жыл бұрын

@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia You'd rather having children be reserved for those who consider raping their wives acceptable?

The people that scream "you're ruining the sanctity of marriage" are the same who call their wives "the ol' ball and chain"

@neoqwerty

2 жыл бұрын

and usually the ones who either are closetted gay or cheat on their wives with a younger mistress, too. HMMMMM.

@_rottingfish

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah if gay people getting married is going to ruin YOUR marriage maybe you were never hetero in the first place 🤔

@kayenjee

2 жыл бұрын

Or worse!

@geministrial950

2 жыл бұрын

@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia The point is people who complain about "the sanctity of marriage" being compromised are also the same people that talk shit about their spouse and claim time and time again that marriage sucks

@squeaktheswan2007

2 жыл бұрын

@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia Yikes. A bit sensitive?

The funny thing is, the terms “straight” for heterosexual was also not liked by heterosexual people when it was first used. It was gay slang. In fact, it was often used for gay men who were in the closest, or who stopped homosexual activity. (“They went straight.”) It was like the term “sober.” It technically means you are not currently drunk, so would include people who never drink, and never want to. But in everyday parlance, it often means someone who quit, because they had, and/or continue to have, a problem with alcohol. There were het-cis men who would say “I’m not a straight man! I’m just regular!” Same thing with “heterosexual.”

@one_schizfreud

2 жыл бұрын

my mothers didn't like straight because it implies a correctness as if a gay arrow flys less true

@thetea4093

2 жыл бұрын

@@one_schizfreud wholesome as heck

@ttintagel

Жыл бұрын

Before it meant heterosexual, "straight" was used to describe what we'd probably call "vanilla" today.

I just can’t get over transphobes saying someone was “born a man” I just imagine a baby coming out with a full beard and body hair

@bob4_t34

2 жыл бұрын

Lmaoooo

@dylanpaterson7082

2 жыл бұрын

Lol

@KillerCrewmate2526

9 ай бұрын

Born a male

Dear CisHets, CIS AND LGBT CAN CO-EXIST Sincerely, A cis lesbian

@amelia_artz2773

2 жыл бұрын

Cis lesbian here too- omfg when ppl think that trans is a sexuality- 😭

@liquidbees5757

2 жыл бұрын

Highly jealous of your cisness, cis sis sincereley, a transwoman

@denkitopia

2 жыл бұрын

@@liquidbees5757 CIS SIS THATS SO CUTE /gen

@liquidbees5757

2 жыл бұрын

@@denkitopia HEHE THANK U TWAS THE PLAN

@DinosaurNick

2 жыл бұрын

@@amelia_artz2773 ikr my brother literally asked me "Wait how can Jamie be bisexual? I thought he was trans?"

"I'm not detransitioning based on public toilet cleanliness." -Jammidodger 2022

@izzyb_ella_m5362

2 жыл бұрын

Best quote ever

@nat3007

2 жыл бұрын

Just let all public toilets be clean as a basic requirement.

@Jane-oz7pp

2 жыл бұрын

I would sooner shit *on the street* than go back into a men's toilet frfr

@chelseyaustin6015

2 жыл бұрын

Cis but have used a man's restroom when the women's is dirty, occupied, or out of TP. Who cares? It's a toilet. Gonna be gross either way! Lol

@trypotherapy7478

2 жыл бұрын

Where I live, we don't give our bathrooms specific genders🙃 because either way - it's just a toilet. Maybe the rest of the world should also learn to just let the toilet be a toilet

Here's something of a hint: If your spouse doesn't have a say in the relationship between the two of you, or the household you created together, they *are not your PARTner.* A partner is one who takes part in a relationship. Meaning they have some sort of role in decision making. And a marriage is a "partnership." If they don't have a say in anything, or any control or input? They aren't your partner, and that isn't a marriage. You've turned them into an item and see them as your property. And you need to be put in jail, or mysteriously be vanished from the human population, because you are abusive- no ifs, ands, ors, or buts.

"Dinosaurs are cool, transphobia is not" is an iconic quote by now, but "only men and women, no kangaroos" has some real potential

@KillerCrewmate2526

9 ай бұрын

Kangaroo is an animal specie like homo sapien not a gender…

to this day i haven't seen a single argument from someone who's against using singular they/them who hasn't used singular they/them in their argument.

@copyrightcharacter1166

2 жыл бұрын

They is used in singular before you know a persons name.

@mermaidismyname

2 жыл бұрын

@@sweettea1193 that's an impossible claim to disprove because any counter example you will just say that person is part of the woke crowd because woke crowd just means anyone you happen to disagree with

@devent10n

2 жыл бұрын

@@sweettea1193 my step dad is far from woke, but tries to refer to my nibling using their correct pronouns, which are they/them. This is a man who literally has a bunch of cop prop in our front yard, wishes he could have been a cop, regularly donates to cops, and would probably have a thin blue line flag up somewhere if my mom wouldn't kill him for it. And my question for you is why does it matter to you if you know who the person is or not?

I don't understand anti-trans people obsession with transwoman wearing wigs, do they not realise that AMAB people (including transwoman) can grow long hair?

@barrylangille3523

2 жыл бұрын

I'd say it's their way of showing a "man in a dress" who's "really a man". It's a quick shorthand used to deny the trans person's validity.

@SplatterInker

2 жыл бұрын

Its also supporting the idea they're doing it for nefarious reasons right? Because cis men dressing up as women don't grow their hair out for a comedy bit or con job.

@kiingcandi

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I've never gotten that like it doesn't make ANY sense. I have a cis guy friend who's hair is longer then mine. Then his BROTHER'S is down to his knees

@SaryTheWolf

2 жыл бұрын

@@kiingcandi Until very recently both my brothers had longer hair then me.

@glitterspray

2 жыл бұрын

And we can’t have that!!!

As an aro ace I’m so sick of being told “I just haven’t met the right person yet” or “you better check your hormones” but the germaphobe one is a new one I haven’t seen before and sadly it doesn’t surprise me unfortunately. I just don’t know what’s so hard for people about comprehending the fact that some people just don’t experience attraction towards anyone, simple concept in my mind but completely mind boggling to others I guess…

@ThornReaper

2 жыл бұрын

Oversaturation of media. Everyone is bombarded with the concept of relationships involving romantic and/or intimate attraction. That and hundreds/thousands of years of "needing to continue the family name/bloodline". Don't worry, we've all all gotten the "oh you'll find the right person" speech, "go see a doctor" nonsense. So don't let it bring you down too much. 😬

@catelynh1020

2 жыл бұрын

I fall more into the demi category, so I *can* find people attractive but it takes literal years. My older sib was dating by middle school. I was at the end of high school before I had someone I was willing to date (life happened, he ended up dating a friend of mine and we're all still very good friends) and it was another decade almost before I told someone else I liked them. Thankfully, my parents really couldn't care less. They're just happy I noped right out of what would have been bad relationships. To them, that was the really important part (my mental and physical safety in the relationship).

@bob4_t34

2 жыл бұрын

Hey I’m aro ace too and I understand

@celtickawaii57

5 ай бұрын

The germaphobe argument raises a lot of questions for me about how unhygienic some people must be. Who out there is so rancid they turned someone asexual?

saying "normal" to compare groups of oppressed ppl to other groups _is_ an insult. i.e. autistic and normal, trans and normal, etc etc it also doesn't hold the same power if it's reversed- in that case it's more treated as joking like "normal people and straight people" isn't a threat to anyone's existence or rights bc of the power dynamic I suspect the reason so many people feel "offended" at being called cis, allistic, neurotypical, able-bodied, white, etc is bc they don't want to/don't see other people as normal. it challenges their status quo. and it should be challenged bc it absolutely sucks

@Otakugatothequeen

2 жыл бұрын

As an Autistic, thank you for including us in your statement.

This reminds me of some of my struggles with my disability. Many people call themselves normal people. I have meet people who have gotten offended when I have corrected them and said, “you are able-bodied.”

@Sydney_With_A_Why

2 жыл бұрын

I get "but you don't LOOK disabled". Like, okay, I didn't know there was a uniform?

@Willow._.tree.

2 жыл бұрын

Or as another disabled person with multiple disabilities, when people get mad, that I called them “allistic” (non autistic) bc they just wanna be called normal.

@jasondaveries9716

2 жыл бұрын

why tf would someone be offended by being called able bodied thats not even remotely disrespectful??

@jacobus57

2 жыл бұрын

@@jasondaveries9716 because they HAVE to differentiate between their "superior" selves and everyone else who in their eyes is less than. Wrongly calling embracing the "normal" label de facto means everyone else is ABnormal. So exhausting....

@grahamrich9956

2 жыл бұрын

@@jasondaveries9716 for the same reason people get mad when they’re called cis, it challenges the normative state imposed by culture / society as perhaps not being “normal”, thus making it equal to the “lesser other”.

The colorful flag one is especially ridiculous because the straight pride flag was invented by straight people to protest Pride. So, kinda your own fault there, if you don't like it.

@one_schizfreud

2 жыл бұрын

but why dose it have so many shades of grey?

@Lilian040210

2 жыл бұрын

@@one_schizfreud There's only so much u can do with 2 non-colors😂

@ninjakidkat12

2 жыл бұрын

I feel like they made the flag grey because they think the colors on other flags are us living in a colorful fantasy land, so they wanted to say that they're living in "reality" by having an absence of colors. I have no knowledge about the history of the straight flag though.

@StoutShako

2 жыл бұрын

@@ninjakidkat12 Only homophobes and transphobes would think seeing in color isn't living in reality rofl.

@ameliab324

2 жыл бұрын

I like it, it stands out of the rest ^^

Whenever a cis person tells me they aren't cis, I ask them about their HRT regimen and compliment them on how much they pass. When they ask why I am doing that I tell them straight up that they told me they were trans when they said they weren't cis.

Don't know if it was the worst, but the 55 yo "Christian" was the scariest. I can imagine his wife throwing paper planes with *HELP ME!* written on them out of the bedroom window. But they were all bad. I feel so sad for humanity after witnessing the ignorance and disdain. Please make a more jolly video next, Jamie, oh gracious King of the Spuds.

Person: “There has never once been someone born a ‘they’ or anything else.” Genderqueer Intersex People and miscellaneous identities: “Please, tell me more about how my existence is a sham.”

@neoqwerty

2 жыл бұрын

YEAH. like, honestly I wonder if, if we normalized obvious intersex conditions (and left the babies alone gdi) and non-binary gender roles more, we'd see a significant minority of intersex enbies who'd feel no need to subscribe to the binary illusion? Biologically, that's a thing that'd just make *sense*, y'know?

@PokhrajRoy.

2 жыл бұрын

@@neoqwerty You’re not wrong, but parents have to leave their child as is rather than inflict violence to make themselves feel comfortable.

@ladyfox7193

2 жыл бұрын

Even setting aside modern LGBT+ progress, this person is just objectively wrong. There are cultures that have recognized 3 or more genders since ancient times. There are languages that have distinct words for 3+ genders. For example, IIRC ancient Hebrew had words for 5 different genders. Like even from a non LGBT+ framework they are factually incorrect.

@sucrebaroque3678

2 жыл бұрын

I have a friend for whom I took the time to explain about all the ways people can be intersex and how much more common they are than most other folks think - her response was, "thanks for all this info, but it only reinforces my belief in the sex binary because intersex people are supposed to be male or female and something got messed up along the way." I'm just baffled by her logic... it's not even about what we're "supposed" to be, it's about what people actually are. The objective existence of intersex people is hard proof that sex is not an exclusive binary. I haven't talked to my friend in months, but I hope she's had time to process what I said and will eventually come around.

@CamoGilly

2 жыл бұрын

@@sucrebaroque3678 im not too knowledgeable abt intersex peeps myself, but oml the logic in your friend is missing. i hope she'll learn some more down the line. Also, don't get frustrated if she doesn't talk to you again. If anything, you'll have more time to spend with better, more educated individuals! sorry for the paragraph, have a cookie and a great day :D 🍪

"hate it when someone tell me they use they/them! i’ll just use he or her for them!” buddy. buddy you. you just. you just did it

@thesleepydot

2 жыл бұрын

happens so often and it brings me so much joy. they cant even be transphobic right lol

@CactusMuffin

2 жыл бұрын

love your profile pic

@mommyofkittens4809

2 жыл бұрын

The they/them thing is a little odd to me, but that’s no excuse to be rude. It costs me nothing to use a person’s preferred pronouns.

@trentintampa9328

2 жыл бұрын

Depending on the context, they/them can sound/feel natural to use sometimes, and other times not as much. It can sound like you are referring to multiple people instead of one person. It just takes some effort and many people do not want to put any effort into it. (Hence why the cis are NOT okay.)

@grantwilliams2571

2 жыл бұрын

Bigots are fine with they/them pronouns until they need to give people validation.

Having checked public toilets for lost and found after events (I'm part of a group that runs dances), I can tell you that women's rooms tend to be more cluttered (like women will just drop tissues or makeup pads when doing their faces), but the men's DO smell like pee and they're less likely to flush. The trans woman wouldn't be taking off her wig and running to the men's room for it's sanitary cleanliness, since she would know what it was like from her years of presenting male. Also, it's hilarious how many cis people have no idea that AFAB people, including cis men, CAN grow their own long hair, and many actually start doing so before they publicly transition.

@overworkedwarlock94

2 жыл бұрын

Do you mean AMAB?

The prefix cis actually helped me discover my gender. Calling myself a cis woman felt wrong most times and that helped a lot in realising that I'm not a girl. Using these terms also helps with figuring out my gender each day because being genderfluid is very confusing at times :)

@chelseyolson6460

Ай бұрын

Congrats on figuring a little bit of yourself out! 🎉

2:45 With ALL the hate, ignorance and bad things being said about asexuals, I am very suprised that the thing I reacted the most and I felt the most "NOPE" is about asexuals being germophobes xD Like, I work with animals, on the outdoors, without any bathroom to clean my hands near me.... You can already imagine how much "fear of germs" I feel.

@shwingleman

2 жыл бұрын

I will never understand why Christians hate on asexual people, like I thought abstinence was a good thing to them

@asexualbert7262

2 жыл бұрын

@@shwingleman I don't really understand how ANYONE hates on aces. Like folks... We are by definition, NOT doing anything. Why does that make you mad???

@flyingplatypus1493

2 жыл бұрын

And then there is me an asexual with OCD “hey…oh wait….” But the fact is those two things are unrelated.

@O-Demi

2 жыл бұрын

It angered me because it makes the assumption that asexuals actually WANT SEX but ARE AFRAID OF GERMS. Like may that person who wrote that rot in hell

@Clementine3107

2 жыл бұрын

Im an asexual with a fear of germs but they have no relation to each other lmao.

The whole "don't call me cis" thing feels like someone who constantly refers to someone as their "Jewish friend" who gets angry when they are referred to as a "gentile"

@PaulaSB12

2 жыл бұрын

Why force a stupid label onto anyone crisis a stupid made up word

@theomegajuice8660

2 жыл бұрын

@@PaulaSB12 All words are made up, mate

@MLiskindagay

2 жыл бұрын

@@PaulaSB12 the prefix ‘cis’ comes from Latin. The language spoken hundreds of years ago. It’s not a new word.

@PaulaSB12

2 жыл бұрын

@@MLiskindagay I prefer real thanks to stupidity women in British jail have been sexually assaulted as have women in hospital wards

@MLiskindagay

2 жыл бұрын

@@PaulaSB12 trans women don’t automatically go to womens’ prisons or other safe spaces, there’s a lot of misinformation designed to create fear and disgust towards trans people.

4:15 People born intersex: HEY, LOOK AT THIS SHIT!

There's some discussion about deadnaming and misgendering going on in these comments and I just want to say: As a trans person, it is never okay to misgender and deadname me. never. I'm out about being non binary trans to everyone. It's never ok to use my deadname or to misgender me. Ever. even when talking about the past. but this is different for every trans person. so if there's a trans person in your life please ask them what they want and how they feel and then, most importantly, do what's been asked of you. It does change based on being out and open about names and pronouns. It also can be different for every trans person. Just ask us and respect our answer no matter who you're talking to. Deadnaming someone because you're not sure or you feel uncomfortable isn't okay. Same for misgendering.

@bob4_t34

2 жыл бұрын

Fax

I love how the person that insists they will never use they as a pronoun actually used it naturally three, THREE!, times in their rant about why they would never use it.

@SL-gz3dy

2 жыл бұрын

It's the way you use it.

@DinosaurNick

2 жыл бұрын

@@SL-gz3dy But the point is they used singular 'they' while ranting that they'd never use singular 'they' It's like the dude that commented "If they're not a he and not a she what do I call them?' and he literally just said it

@SL-gz3dy

2 жыл бұрын

@@DinosaurNick oh sorry, must have missed that part.

@hellyhellhound

2 жыл бұрын

it's so commonly used and they don't realize it. or they do and just keep freaking out over it

So my aunt didn’t like being called a cis woman (I’m also a cis woman) as she assumed it was a “new” thing. Once I calmly explained how cis is just a prefix the same as trans, and she calmly listened, she now understands that being called cis doesn’t change her at all. She welcomed education without feeling attacked or patronised. It really isn’t that hard, transphobes!

@mrsoph28

2 жыл бұрын

@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia babe, you need to chill out. People being trans has literally no effect on your life whatsoever. Let them be! You seem like you’re well invested since you took 6 minutes between comments, use that time to educate yourself on how actual trans people live in our society (spoiler alert, they’re just like us - well, me, you seem like a transphobe!) have a day as lovely as you! Xoxo

@squeaktheswan2007

2 жыл бұрын

@The Werewolf Of Scandinavia Lady, you're cis.

@squeaktheswan2007

2 жыл бұрын

@@mrsoph28 You're amazing, Soph.

@Battlefang

2 жыл бұрын

Good for her, learning new things and accepting them. More people should be like your aunt, willing to learn and accepting

@someonethereQ

2 жыл бұрын

On one hand, I personally found Jamie critiquing that person clarifying her friend is trans completely ridiculous. Them being trans IS the reason they call this person cis, they're mentioning the fact their friend is trans because their trans friend has been referring to them as cis a lot. It's not like it had nothing to do with the conversation. If I had a cis friend who randomly went around saying I'm not cis and that I'm a gender nonconformist who goes by all pronouns in completely unrelated spaces and referencing me like that all the time then I'd be confused as to why and wouldn't like it. Their friend is considerate to be asking how to bring this up without seeming insensitive. Being called cis randomly in completely unrelated situations in understandably weird for people, mentioning someone's trans identity (while talking about them constantly calling you cis) is understandably valid because them being trans has to do with the situation. (Edited for clarity and grammar.)

7:30 pls start a relief fund for this guy’s kids and wife

Also, no trans woman has ever "wondered what it's like" in the women's bathroom. Firstly, it's a bathroom. Second, the first time using it is more likely to be riddled with anxiety that some transphobe is going to accost you.

6:15 I can't believe they did Arcane dirty like that they took one of the most epic and intense scenes in the show and turned it into a transphobic meme for literally no reason

@cuddlefishbandit

2 жыл бұрын

I know, Jesus Christ. I balked when I saw it.

Man, I used to be a cis that was not okay to their friend. Used to deadname him behind his back, cuz I was afraid people wouldn't know who I was talking about. It was awkward and weird and finding Jamie's channel has really helped normalize his transition to me and let me be more comfortable around the subject. You rock, Jamie

@neoqwerty

2 жыл бұрын

ANOTHER ONE WHO'S A GOOD PERSON, YESSSSSS! Thank you for choosing to learn, may your intellectual curiosity know no bounds and may you always improve.

@geministrial950

2 жыл бұрын

Mistakes are human, correcting them and admitting you were wrong is divine

@tinkeramma

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for owning your past. It's so important to show change and growth is possible.

@rug212001

2 жыл бұрын

When my youngest first started their transition, I had a really hard time with the name change. I just couldn't get my brain to use their new name on the first try. It took about a year before their dead name was finally left behind. I still struggle some times if I'm talking about a time before their transition. That's who they where in that memory. I'm not sure that one is ever going away. Besides, it takes a while to rewire a brain, and it's very awkward sometimes. You got there in the end, and you kept trying. That's what really matters.

@lauratroy13

2 жыл бұрын

I genuinely don't know how I should refer to someone when I know the other person has now idea who I'm talking about. Like I don't want to dead name someone, but if I like talk about someone we just know as an Acquaintance i can't say stuff like 'you know Barbara's child' for example. Any idea how i could phrase it right?

1:16 I love how she's 100% medically transitioned but is still wearing a wig and has short hair.

It's so frustrating. The blue haired one is from a series called Arcane, which is placed in Runeterra. The world League of Legends takes place in. The creators went out of their ways to explain that in their world being trans is normalized [people are trans or not and that's just like normal, nothing of any contention] as is to whoever one feels attracted, too.

The problem these people have with "cis" as a word is that its very existence denormalizes being cis-gender -- or more precisely, it normalizes being transgender by placing the two on the same footing linguistically. It really does come down to these people having spent most of their lives feeling like their experience of their gender identity was just the default while trans people were a marked _other,_ and so by applying a relatively new word (well, old word but new usage) to their previously default, nameless experience makes them feel "abnormal" or "otherized" in the same way that they've otherized trans people for most of their lives. I'm sure I'm not telling anyone anything they don't already know. I just felt like articulating it.

@schokoloko2092

2 жыл бұрын

And it was very well articulated!

@kaylanovacek8973

2 жыл бұрын

I am cis and have no problem saying that; it’s not a slur, as too many people want to claim. I am not “normal” or “default”, just cisgender. Your explanation is lovely ❤️

@geministrial950

2 жыл бұрын

Ding ding ding!! We have a winner!

@tankedwarthog6424

2 жыл бұрын

What I think is is that people who have an issue with cis are people who just don't understand the meaning behind it. While talking to my parents about me being transgender I brought up the topic of them being cis and they were just confused by the term until I explained what it meant.

@blaikahatys9755

2 жыл бұрын

Dang that made so much sense! I’m cis but I’ve always been a minority in races sexualities and ableness, and I never understood why people might find the word cis uncomfortable. And this comment just made me realized that most people I’ve seen in my life who gets awkward using the word cis are indeed always the ones who never felt “otherised” in things they are born with. Damn.

“Even if you are physically different..” so… there isn’t just men and women, the writer admits it right there. Then uses “they” to refer to someone. Lol

@Casocki

2 жыл бұрын

Bold of them to claim that every civilization ever used only a man/woman binary, too

@Liliana_the_ghost_cat

2 жыл бұрын

I know right?

As an asexual, I wish all it was was a fear of germs. For me, the problem is more finding someone who doesn't just want to do a sex. Like, dating is so hard when people want to sleep with you right after meeting. Germs aren't even really a concern for me, unless the person's house is super gross. My concern is feeling comfortable with someone only for them to tell me I'm mentally ill for not sleeping with them 😅

@asexualbert7262

2 жыл бұрын

Just like, keep your space at a reasonable level of cleanliness and stay out of my pants, y'know?😅

4:00 FUN FACT: Okay so I'm Palawa Aboriginal (from Tasmania)- Mellukurdee to be exact- and our origin myth is that we were kangaroos until the god brothers took our tails and made them into spears so we could hunt, and turned our legs backwards so we can sit and run. And then we were people. We had to evolve a little further, but that's where it all started.

I hope in like 10-15 years we can have 'Are the trans okay' and it'll be a wholesome one where people bring up whatever concerns for trans people are left at that stage and figure out what happened Well, hopes are foolish, though

@kazikek2674

2 жыл бұрын

@@screamingcat4365 It's sad that my first thought was 'Nah, I don't believe you', isn't it? 😭

@fghsgh

2 жыл бұрын

yes! it exists! it's for mental support of trans people!

@borderlinenocturnal6195

2 жыл бұрын

Well it seems like wishes are horses today, since there is one on Reddit already :). (Bonus points if anyone gets the reference)

@Jane-oz7pp

2 жыл бұрын

Hey I'm sure somewhere along the lines our ancestral community once thought we'd never get access to medical transition. Hopes are never foolish in a world where hope is the only way to change things for the better

@Unknown-ov2kz

2 жыл бұрын

I think, if the 'Are the trans okay' was In the same style of the 'Are the cis okay', then it would be trans people with internalised transphobia and homophobia, much like Caitlyn Jenner, and Blaire White, etc. I think that would be the only acceptable version of it, in terms of the same theme as the 'Are the cis okay', and even then, it's problematic.

Reddit User: “Asexuals have a fear of germs.” Jamie, in a quandary: “What was the reason, b***h?”

@waffles3629

2 жыл бұрын

Yep. I'm ace, but I also work with kids. You can't be afraid of germs and last long.

@cayk481

2 жыл бұрын

i'm ace that so happens to have a fear of germs

@Unknown-ov2kz

2 жыл бұрын

@@cayk481 I'm not ace, but for certain can say germs are scary.

@FrozEnbyWolf150

2 жыл бұрын

I'm ace and I have OCD that comes with a fear of germs. I also work with animals, and in the dirt all the time. Looks like it's easier for me to overcome my fear of germs than it is for that Reddit user to overcome his fear of sexualities he doesn't understand.

6:14 it’s absolutely disgusting and also pretty ironic that Arcane landed on “are the cis ok”… I can assure you that arcane really isn’t transphobic, homophobic, racist or misogynistic (or any other bad stuff). Quite the opposite actually

I wanted to share a little wholesome story in the midst of all this crazy transphobia. My little sister is adopted, so English isn't here first language, and has a mental disability that makes it take longer for her to grasp concepts. I love her with all my heart and she's a great sister. When I came out as Nonbinary (i use they/them) I knew it would be difficult for her to understand that I use they/them pronouns. She does very well with it, despite a few slip ups, but everyone gets those sometimes. One of the best moments is when she accidentally used my wrong pronouns. I corrected her and she said "yeah, yeah. I know you a they." Now my parents along with my sister lovingly refer to me as "a they". Its really cute.

@YllidTheLoonyDog

2 жыл бұрын

Proof it’s not that hard

In an episode of theTV series "Castle," Castle tells a suspect, "You didn't want a wife; you wanted a puppy." I often think of that line.

@criticalnarwhal

2 жыл бұрын

Wh- What episode was that? What’s the context? The intrigue is so high

@AnonimusQualquer

2 жыл бұрын

This one is better than the fact some of them just want a mother who they can f***

@merrigalebeddoes1921

2 жыл бұрын

@@criticalnarwhal Don't remember which season or the title of the episode, but a psychologist/therapist is murdered in her office and found by her husband. An old man is found murdered in a park. They seem to have nothing in common, but the prime suspects, who have ironclad alibis, ride the same ferry each morning. "Strangers On a Ferry" When they catch the husband, his reason is basically that she was spending too much time at work and not paying enough attention to him and not obeying him.

@criticalnarwhal

2 жыл бұрын

@@merrigalebeddoes1921 Thanks for letting me know, I really appreciate that you responded!

dinosaurs are cool transphobia is not 🦖

@izzyb_ella_m5362

2 жыл бұрын

*gasp* I HAVE A HOODIE THAT SAYS THAT-

@okamiangles7121

2 жыл бұрын

Dinosaurs are very cool! 😎

@NikolaOrsinovlover

2 жыл бұрын

my brother is trans :)

The worst one? For me it was the guy who "settles any and all arguments" because frankly that relationship sounds abusive and I feel bad for whoever is unfortunate enough to have him as a partner.

8:18 they are the same ppl, who would use the r-slur, the t-slurs, the f-slur, and maybe the n-word, cuz "they grew up with it".

I don't understand people who are SO against the singular "they". I make an effort to use "they" in conversation unless I'm reasonable certain of the gender of the person I'm referring to, and nobody has ever remarked on it. It's natural to use singular they, as long as you don't make a big deal out of it.

@Missingno_Miner

2 жыл бұрын

Which is how people who are firmly against it end up using it accidentally and not even noticing so much.

@jacobus57

2 жыл бұрын

It's a peculiar burden of the English language. As an editor it's been hard for me; as a queer human with a queer grandkid it gets easier everyday as I learn to blame our limited native tongue rather than real live humans ❤️ We should all learn Finnish!

@alexisartfeild2807

2 жыл бұрын

Ask them how often they use 'you' to refer to a singular person and why they don't use 'thou'. Then point out that: 'You' was exclusively plural for over hundred years while singular 'they' was common usage.

@DinosaurNick

2 жыл бұрын

@@alexisartfeild2807 This! Exactly!

@oKanekei

2 жыл бұрын

They only make a big deal out of it when someone asks them to call them they in my experience. Most people use it fine in convos, just when someone requests they go ballistic not justifying it of course, thats a shitty thing to do, but thats what most people against it do in my experience

I feel like a lot of cis straight people are just butthurt that we are getting noticed nowadays and really just want attention.

@ninawth

2 жыл бұрын

They excluded everyone who wasn't like them, so everyone else just banded together, and now they feel upsetti that they're not part of the new club.

@mommyofkittens4809

2 жыл бұрын

Yup, and a example was provided by the obviously insecure troll.

@spacefrog_2203

2 жыл бұрын

@@mommyofkittens4809 the werewolf of Scandinavia?

@spacefrog_2203

2 жыл бұрын

They are, but just know it’s only the loud ones. Just know that there are so many cishet allies out there (like me) who will support, accept and fight for those marginalized by hetcisnormative society, which we *do not* associate ourselves with and actively fight against.

@mommyofkittens4809

2 жыл бұрын

@@spacefrog_2203 yup

You are so fun! Not in a community-ach! I've posted this before. I just really enjoy your delivery. I'm so happy any group has you as a member that represents them in such a unique and humorous way. Plus, you educate me.

Just got back from camping to be greeted with this! What a treat!

Just a reminder Trans fems, you look pretty and I hope you have a good day Trans mascs, you look handsome and I hope you have a good day People outside the binary, you look positively perplexing and I hope you have a good day Xenogender people and non dysphoric trans people, your gender is valid and I hope you have a good day Allys, I can’t tell you how much the little things mean and I hope you have a good day (If this made your day please let me know it means a lot)

@astralcamisado648

2 жыл бұрын

It actually did! I've been feeling really down today so thank you!

@jacobus57

2 жыл бұрын

Made my day for a whole bunch of reasons 🤗

@ParsureArts

2 жыл бұрын

Positively perplexing, I love that!

@inky_plinky

2 жыл бұрын

This absolutely did make my day, "positively perplexing" is hands down the best compliment I have received!!

@eleahflockhart

2 жыл бұрын

I'm perplexing!!! I love that!

8:31 The person who made the moderna vaxx has pronouns in their bio. I'm pretty fucking glad they were hired tbh.

@phoenixfront

2 жыл бұрын

Remember most of these transphobes are anti vaxxers as well lmao

@internetlurker1850

2 жыл бұрын

@@phoenixfront Ah crap baskets.

@neoqwerty

2 жыл бұрын

@@internetlurker1850 So the post you responded to got eaten, what was it saying?

@internetlurker1850

2 жыл бұрын

@@neoqwerty Weird that KZread is doing that. "Aren't most transphobes antivaxxers?" or something like that

So ready for this!! Love you Jamie!! I'm expecting some Ridiculous, craziness!!

Now that I think of it, it really is strange how us trans people are fine with being called trans but cis people find it offensive when someone calls them cis. I think it may have something to do with them firmly believing that being cis is "the norm" and trans people can be labeled because "they're different". Getting labeled the same kinda way a trans person would is a hit to their ego because they believe they're "more normal" than trans people and getting called cis makes them realize trans people are just as normal as them.

@sting0277

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, because being straight really is the norm, being straight is normal. 90% of people are straight. Y'all the anomalies here who need to change their bodies in order to feel good about yourself. Hell, you can play pretend just becausre the majority of straight people allow you that and support your desilusions. Never forget that

Hi Jamie! As a Cis gender woman, I sincerely apologise for my fellow cis people.

@auroraxxfacekilla49

2 жыл бұрын

I second that.

@auroraxxfacekilla49

2 жыл бұрын

@UC0zJ5tc4gC36M4BX4xhkHGw She can still be cis gender and bi.

@sunsetcougar4587

2 жыл бұрын

I third that.

@auroraxxfacekilla49

2 жыл бұрын

I thought cis gender is identifying with the sex you were born with …not your sexual preferences. Correct me if I’m wrong.

@AshleesBathroom

2 жыл бұрын

@shardo there was another comment saying I wasnt cis because I had a bi flag in my pfp. The original reply was deleted.

7:44 I have a hunch Mr 'Proud and always in charge Conservative' is secretly despised by his family.

My sister just came out as trans :D I'm so proud of her

hey jamie, i just recently discovered your channel, and i can't stop watching, i love it :D and also, it helped me educate myself, my bf wondered about people detransitioning and i could answer him it was 0.5%- he was surprised how little that percentage was. so a very big special thank you for your video on jkr's bs, too. shared it of course, i want people to know and educate themselves.

hi jammi! as an bi asexual person who has not a clue about what their gender is (all i know is she/they pronouns make me happy), your videos are very comforting to watch! your entire channel is like a safe space for everyone in the LGBTQ+ community. it's wonderful seeing people using their platforms to spread love and make a place where everyone can be themselves:)

@nitrisprime8963

2 жыл бұрын

I love your username so much, I laughed so hard when I read it

@toiletboundhutao2142

2 жыл бұрын

@@nitrisprime8963 hehe, thank you!

@notquiteasamazingjess

2 жыл бұрын

It’s okay to not have a clue about your gender! You don’t have to put words to it or justify it as long as you’re happy

"[...] these people who try to tell me that *they* are a 'they' [...]" Me, munching metaphorical popcorn: I was waiting for this. (On another note, Jamie, I love you, but you obviously not recognizing Jinx (blue-haired girl) hurt me on a visceral level. Do yourself a favor, swing on over to Netflix and watch Arcane. You won't regret it, I promise.)

@midnightconstellation

2 жыл бұрын

I was hoping someone else would recognize Arcane! I love that show so much, and the fact that that transphobe used that beautiful scene for their transphobia made me so sad :(

It’s scary how easily people can forget/ignore LGBT+ history

@sammylamsu5178

11 ай бұрын

Cause they think everything LGBT+ is sex related

Given the horror stories i've heard around american sex ed the pregnancy test one could be legit.

I still remember this one time when I was about 5 years old and my and another mom were having a "coversation". Basically, the other mom was appalled my mom lets me watch the Teletubbies because "the purple one is a boy and he wears a red f*g purse, that's bad influence on the children". Suffice to say, my mom was really confused by that reasoning. More so because her daughter looked like a pink glitter factory puked on her and she wasn't allowed to wear "boys colours". People can be so not self-aware. Also a more religious one: there was an article about how less (younger) people go to church nowdays (catholics). And this guy started going on about the relationship between gay people and the church and said how "the problem is made when they impose themselves to ones belief system while clearly knowing their sexuality is not welcome in church. What are they looking for in church and why are they trying to change someone's system of beliefs? They impose their own rules and deny the rights of certain believers. Homosexuals just have a commercial approach which most of the inhabitants of this planet don't want." I'm still utterly confused at what the hell this person meant and would be very grateful if someone could shine a light on this..

@neoqwerty

2 жыл бұрын

It's bullshit KJV christian right "THE GAYS ARE TAKING OVERRRRRRR" logic. LGBT+ being Satan's agents and/or Satan being trans because we're also confusing BAPHOMET with Lucifer and Satan is a name instead of a title now. I swear to getter these people don't even know their own theology's history and can't be arsed to go check out what the HELL "sodom!te" means. (Sorry on the weird 1337speak, I'm trying to dodge robots and guessing what's offensive.) So "Sodom!te means someone who lives in Sodom, whoever used it in Leviticus was WRONG because the actual hebrew uses a word for a male prostitute, with a CLEARLY idolatrous intent- Leviticus is condemning male sacred prostitution, where the bottom acts as a proxy for sexy worship of god- and it's a Canaanite practice. The whole "gay people bad" is literally politically twisting things to their own ends. Sodom wasn't bad because "sodomy" either, it was bad because they knew EXACTLY what the law was and toed the legal line while systematically ruining everything, by following it to the letter rather than the spirit. If a law said that any theft of something worth less than 25 cents wasn't to be punished, a Sodomite mob would steal someone's grapes one at a time until the whole vine was bare and then cry about being persecuted for being accused of theft by the vine's owner. I'm an atheist and I'm only digging in Abrahamic faiths because I'm writing a Devilman story, and somehow *I* know more about the actual meanings of their texts because I know a bit of etymology! So not only was that guy spewing "great r3pl4cement" conspiracy theory rhetoric, but he bought the whole "gays bad" thing that the bible wasn't even pushing, unless he was complaining about gay pagans who do s3x rituals getting into his church and demanding it to change.

@metademetra

2 жыл бұрын

It sounds like he was complaining about gay people in church and then suddenly became baffled at why his patron size decreased so fast. "Gay people have no place in the church" "Okay, I was really trying to stay here, but BYE!" "Wait, people will leave if I tell them to?"

@peterkovacs6649

2 жыл бұрын

Probably just projecting, what he described sounds an awful lot like the Church To me

Hi!! I love you and your story and you have helped me so much in my self discovery journey. Your videos bring me so much joy and I wish you the best :D 💖🏳️‍🌈

When I was questioning my gender(I'm ftm) in high school me and an afab friend were at this absolutely horrific public women's restroom at a park and the morbid curiosity about how much worse the men's was got the better of us. Only time I've ever run screaming from a bathroom lol, my foot slipped off my flipflop and touched the floor 🤢

I’m on emails at my job and whenever someone gets a compliment from a customer I always like to let them know. If the reaction is worth sharing I will sometimes be like “He really appreciates it” and HAVING THE PRONOUNS IN THE BIO ON OUR SIDE HELPS OUT SO MUCH!! Sometimes people have a name like Alex and then they have a picture of their dog as their avatar (like I 100% do) and I don’t want to misgender them! Also this whole experience made me recognize I am terrible at identifying gender in general

I'm saddened to see someone with an obi-wan profile picture being transphobic, i think the man himself would be an ally

@BM-jy2gh

2 жыл бұрын

I thought the same thing! The ironic thing is there is an Obi Wan Kenobi account on KZread that I see all over the place, leaving comments and they seem very chill

@goodpeople25

2 жыл бұрын

@@BM-jy2gh I remember seeing an account who wasn't being chill but since it was just the one time out of all the times I've seen them I think it was a different one

@juankusoff

2 жыл бұрын

Obi wan isn’t real

@squeaktheswan2007

2 жыл бұрын

@@juankusoff We know.

@Im-BAD-at-satire

Жыл бұрын

@@juankusoff Fictional characters do have their writers base something from reality like personality traits

“apparently my gender is trans and i’m scared of germs” 😂😂

2:45 as a pansexual, i can confirm i am weird, but not a bisexual. (also, my weirdness is independent from my pan-ness. i am a weird person who happens to be pan.)

I haven't been here for a looong time and I still feel so comfortable on this channel

I needed to see this today. I've been engaging in a lot of Transphobic & Gatekeeping arguments today. I just needed to see Jamie & his wholesomeness. I hope the rest of you had/have a great day

@rathehim2670

2 жыл бұрын

Can I ask what is that flag on your pfp?

@NonBinary_NonHuman

2 жыл бұрын

@@rathehim2670 Of course! This is the Agenderflux flag. Sometimes called Librafluid.

@DinosaurNick

2 жыл бұрын

@@NonBinary_NonHuman I thought I recognized that! I'm Libramasculine!

@NonBinary_NonHuman

2 жыл бұрын

@@DinosaurNick Yol! That's awesome! You're the first person I've met that is Libra gender related (Not sure how to word it but hopefully you get what I mean)

@squeaktheswan2007

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, you too.

I kind of hate the fact that they used Arcane characters for one of those. Especially since I know for a fact that Ekko would be supportive of the LGBTQ+ community. Outrageous!

@JustJoe10

2 жыл бұрын

Everyone in arcane would support lgbt+ and no one can convince me otherwise!

@Blazingstoke

2 жыл бұрын

IKR? None of those characters would ever be so bigoted.

When I was in high school I was new to the term "cis" and so meeting a friend of a friend they were like "oh, so you're cis" and I was like "no, I'm a girl... wait... oh frick, sorry, I forgot what that meant." To this day I feel bad about it. Even though it was like 5 years ago. (I'm a cis ace-spec lesbian, btw.)

Omg even closer to 1 mil congratsss :D

For anyone who doesn’t know at 6:11 the characters are called Jinx and Ekko from Arcane, the show’s amazing I highly recommend it for anyone who haven’t watched it yet.

I think it's worth acknowledging that there is a difference between using singular they to refer to a single, unknown person and using it to refer to a single known person. So it's okay if it feels weird to someone to use singular they in that way. Feelings are valid. Refusing to extend basic courtesy on the basis of those feelings is not.

@LadyNikitaShark

2 жыл бұрын

English is not my first language and my mother tongue doesn't have a translation for "they/them", that being said, when my first English teacher explained me the concept and differences I got it pretty fast. I always wonder why native English speakers have a problem with that.

@alexisartfeild2807

2 жыл бұрын

@@LadyNikitaShark No idea, I am a native English speaker and makes perfect sense to me. Interesting factoid: Singular 'they' is centuries older than singular 'you', add that to the pile of confusion.

@princetonalec8695

2 жыл бұрын

The feelings of the trans person being misgendered matters just as much if not more than some general confusion/discomfort from a cis person who is baffled by the concept of needing to learn something new.

@allanjmcpherson

2 жыл бұрын

@@princetonalec8695 I completely agree. I think we miss something though if we just tell people they already use singular they without acknowledging how this is also something new (just not that new).

@Ididnotwanttojoin

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly what I was about to try to put into words! Thank you for doing such a good job before I tried. Like, say for instance, someone says, "my cousin is coming for a visit," I will say, "I hope they have a pleasant trip" because "he or she" is so clumsy. On the other hand, if they say, "my cousin David is coming," I will say "he" and stick to it unless I am told that David is, in fact, a "they." I do not refuse to use the singular "they" for a person who has been identified, but it is going to take a long time for it to not feel strange and sound wrong.

I just love the way you talk ❤️

it’s been awhile since i’ve watched a jammidodger video and i forgot how comforting they are

7:37 ABUSER DETECTED, OPINION REJECTED.

4:38 Nobody tell this person about the zoologists studying bears who realized that some 'males' were giving birth. Or how hyenas give birth. Or anything about fungus.

The 55-year-old Christian man is the worst. Nothing says "I'm not a snowflake" like the obsessive need to have the final word in your loved one's decisions.

@iantaakalla8180

2 жыл бұрын

He is certainly not a LIBERAL snowflake, that is for sure.

Hey Jamie I hope you read this. Your videos have really helped me move past the binary ideas I was taught about gender and I just wanted to say thanks.

Yay. This may be the first of these since I really realized how not cis I am. This should be fun. * I haven't used a women's public bathroom yet but I've cleaned both. Men's rooms are gross.

Been following for a few years, u r a real blessing to us all. I really enjoy ur content. From one Transman to another keep up the great work

Jammi, I love that you try so hard to reach the many phobics out there. You have so much patience and respect in the way you deal with the vitriol spouted by these people. Unfortunately, it's very difficult to educate the willfully ignorant. They have no intent of listening to anything outside of their home-grown bigotry. They seem to enjoy being mean for the sake of it. If we found life on another planet, and that life resembled life on earth (all representations), these haters would hate them, too. It's sad.

Love the work keep it up jams!

I love that a shirt that tries to invalidate us with “science” is spelled incorrectly; mission failed successfully

I'm a 4'8" cys lady If the women's restroom is full or dirty, I usually go use the Men's restroom Worst case scenario, I must rejoin with mother nature

@neoqwerty

2 жыл бұрын

im gonna use that next time I need to do a number thing, just. "I must rejoin with mother nature"

I just wanna say, thank you Jamie! You and a couple other LGBTQIA+ youtubers have helped me fight against the homophobic arguments that we all face daily!

I just love how the description is just “no they aren’t” And you have the perfect expression of disappointment at these posts I love it lol

Thank you for doing everything you do and sharing your life. You always make me smile. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

Quote of the Day: “Just buy yourself a teddy bear and marry them.”

@Woomvee

2 жыл бұрын

I read this comment at the time he said it

@one_schizfreud

2 жыл бұрын

a teddy bear cannot consent

@iantaakalla8180

2 жыл бұрын

And they would love that.

"only people with blue hair have pronouns" well guess I'm lucky the hairdresser couldn't dye my hair today bc they ran out of dye cuz now my hair is still blue and I get to keep my pronouns!! wooo

1:32 women's rooms are never fucking dirty. Worked security before, had to check the restrooms at closing time. Men's room always smells like shit.

I love how kangaroos and cameras were the first examples of things Jammi could think of

"Asexuals have a fear of germs" As an aromatic asexual I am extremely offended

@just_Alexio

2 жыл бұрын

Aro ace people are overpowered it's just so cool, I'm just ace ://

9:11 Why don't people like being a cis man/woman? Adding a little something makes me feel like I'm in the spirit. And also this reminded me, when I was little, somewhere during primary school age, I once said "I'm not a boy, I'm [first name] xD .

"cis-" is just a scientific prefix, like "homo-" is. Same with "pre-" , "post-", "hypo-" etc

@apuapustaja1958

2 жыл бұрын

cis is only used by ideologs in order to make trans and cis seem on the same level. Yet one requires a mental illness the other is the natural state of humans