You are a precious son❤️ It is something like a kite on a string.....we hold our loved ones close but as they begin their journey of leaving this world, the kite string seems to lengthen and grow shorter in our hands until all of a sudden there is no more string to hold onto and we see the kite drifting high into the sky. We watch until the kite is only a spec in the sky and then...no longer visible. We never planned to let it go but it sort of took on a life of its own in the wind and drifts away. It continues to be the very same kite that was held close at first...but the distance distorts the appearance. The same yet different. God bless you, as you walk this difficult road with your dad. He’s an amazing man who has an amazing son. You are loved❤️🙏🏻

@melodycamela

5 жыл бұрын

Beautifully said. 💕

@rosemaryrobinson2995

4 жыл бұрын

I love the way you put that.

It's so hard to see are loved ones go like this but take it minute by minute, and try to stay strong x

Oh Simon am sorry, people on their dementia journey will have good days and bad days, hell they'll have amazing days and hellish days . . . And all you and we can do is be there to support them, through the violence, confusion, agitation, sadness and smiles . . . . Dementia is a horrific disease and people don't have to face it alone - neither the person or their families xx

Thank you for sharing about anticipatory grief. I haven't heard of this term before but it explains the emotions I felt while caring for a person living with dementia. Your singing videos with your Dad are so heartwarming and uplifting....I love how your eyes smile when you are singing and watching your Dad. Thank you for being so real in it all.....the experiences you deal with while caring for someone with dementia are extremely isolating. The waves you feel are very powerful and can knock you for six. You are clearing having difficult times in this video but still you share how your Dad is to keep others informed. I'm a bit lost where things are with your Dad now but whatever the situation take care in it all. Thanks so much for all you have done to educate and raise awareness of dementia.

I know it's been a while since you posted this video, however I just wanted to say, you are very courageous to talk about your grief. Grief is hard for a lot of people to understand and your sharing is helping more people than you know. As we experience losses whether it's seeing our loved ones change or through their passing, our grief will come and go. It will just be a part of our life and with time the degree of grief will lessen. I've learned that part of our job here on earth is to help people get to the other side. You are doing a great job of this and loving your father. Your are awesome, please be kind to yourself.

@TheSongaminuteMan

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Patricia - yes - I've never felt anything like that before. It does come in waves doesn't it. Anyway - thanks for the kind words.

Lost my Dad to this , it’s so hard to witness this , you have done your best , you are a wonderful caring son.

Simon, you have shared so much with us ...you know , we wish for you & your family the best. Keeping you & yours in my prayers . Thank you for sharing .There are many families feeling the same , you give them hope & relief that there are others feeling the same emotions . Love from Texas 🌷

My prayers are with you and your dad. This is a difficult journey. Grief comes in waves, that is true. ❤️

Oh bless you!!! I really felt your pain through your video ... I remember with my Mom who suffered from dementia, the nurses used to say to me (and it's so true) that "you lose them BEFORE you lose them". That's always stuck with me but honestly please take comfort in the fact that they don't really know what's happening unfortunately it's their loved ones like you that suffer the most. I used to ask myself during those dark days whether it would have been better for Mom to have just 'fallen asleep in death' but she was still my Mom and she was 'there' (but sadly only the shell of her former self). I'm not saying these things to upset you or anyone else who may be reading this but to show some 'solidarity'with you during this heartbreaking time in your life. BUT take comfort in that you're clearly a wonderful son and you're doing your absolute very best for your Dad (and your poor Mom). May God bless you for the great love you have for them both. Thinking of you all with love in my heart xxx

I'm so sorry to hear this, but so glad for you that you shared it with us. We care and have grown to love your family. Anticipatory grief is very hard and even confusing because it does take you by surprise. It is important to talk a about what you are feeling. Prayers for your dad, you and your mum and family. Hang tough! ♥️

Sorry to hear about your dad. You are such a good man and can see you struggling. In a way, it is good that you are slowly preparing for tough times ahead and dare I say loss, but it’s better that you are slowly coming to terms with the awful deterioration that is dementia. Thank you for sharing. My mom has dementia and I struggle to believe or accept it but it’s my way of dealing with it. Take care and look after yourself too.

Your pain is palpable. The gift of music that you’ve allowed your dad to share, has been a gift to us as well. ❤️

Thank you for sharing your Dad and your feelings about your current situation with us. From the moment I saw him singing with you in the car, I, like everyone else on KZread, fell in love with him. I had to deal with anticipatory grief with my Mum a couple of years ago and with my husband 6 months ago, who was far too young (67) to leave. That's quite difficult to deal with, and I'm sorry you're having to go through this. Do keep us updated here, please....and love and blessings to you and your family. 💜

Thank you for continuing to share this painful journey, but done with love.

So sorry to hear your Dad had a fall. Prayers for you and your family, thank you Simon for all your videos and amazing music. So enjoyed all your father and son songs, how wonderful that you had many happy moments together singing as it has helped us all in so many ways. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Thank you for the update , Simon. My heart goes out to you. My husband passed away six years ago and I believe I spent a fair amount of time anticipating grief. We knew he would pass...we just didn't know when. But in the end his passing was exactly as he would have wished...at home, in his own bed in his sleep. prayers are with you.

I'm so grateful to you for introducing your father to everyone. Such a beautiful voice I can listen to often. It is an awful illness and so very difficult to be with a loved one who has it, I know.So dear one, know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Once again thank you for sharing your Dad and the updates.Take care. Patti Stupak..Chicago, Il.

So sorry to hear that Dad is not doing so good. He is an amazing Dad and thank you for the update it is appreciated. Have followed you for a long time. Take care x

Mac, my heart goes out to you. I know a bit about what you're going through and it does come in waves...the enormity of the situation just takes over as you realize this amazing life you're witnessing and loving will end. You have been so selfless in your giving. You've really added so much joy to his life by keeping the singing going! Peace will be there...when you realize you have loved as much as you possibly can. There will be no replacement but there will always be your memories. Sending big love.

Simon I love hearing your Dad sing My Father loved listening to that kind of music hes gone now but it brings me great memories listening to your Dad. Sorry hes not doing so well at the moment. Sending prayers along with some hugs also for you all. Thank you for sharing your Father with us.

Thinking of you all and praying for you and your family.

I’m sorry about your Dad; I’m going through the same stages with my Mom. It’s a horrible thing to watch someone you love transform into someone you don’t know. What I appreciate about your channel is that you found something that grounds him, music... and it’s nice to see you and your dad enjoy those moments that he is there, and you bring it out of him. Thanks for sharing your story and his. Stay strong.

Its very hard, I have been through this so can understand how you are feeling. Love and hugs to you and you Dad xx Stay strong

Thinking of you and praying for your family, love 💕 you’re dad s singing , play him all the time , 👍🎤

You are an inspiration with your honest emotion and support that you give your father. Thank you for sharing.

It is okay to share. Thank you for doing that. It is kind of thing I must also get prepared for with my dad who has also been diagnosed with Alzheimer. It will be difficoult for you, but don't forget how much good you and your dad did to many people around the world! The rain will wash out all the dust.

The most precious thing in life is to love and be loved in return. You are blessed to have such a family. I never had such a father but my heart aches with you. Just don't forget how lucky you are to have had him.

We thank you for sharing where you are I broke down the Mother’s Day before my mom died, she had lung cancer and lost her the next July, May she was a force to be reckoned with

Helping and loving your Dad are the most important things you can do for him while he's on his own path in life. It's difficult to watch him suffer, and terribly stressful when you don't know what's ahead. I lost my Dad this summer after 8 years with Alzheimer's. I take a lot of comfort knowing I was there for him, holding his hand, looking out for him. That was my role and seeing my Mam is ok is my promise to him. You grieve along the way as pieces of him fade. I hope you and your Mum and family have love and support to help you through. Sending you hugs and big strong-armed angels.

Your amazing what your doing for your dad .I love listening to you both singing Keep your spirit up💜

I lost my dad to Covid in 2020 and I still miss him terribly. Like you, we were very close. I miss him every, damned, day. I can’t imagine watching yours decline slowly. It must be torture. Since then I’m seeing older friends start to lose their memory gradually and it’s so hard to watch them fade. Love your life now. Don’t put things off too long.

Good Morning from Canada....have not been here for some time as I have been having changes with my son at the same time....I believe it is wonderful that you are sharing your grief and thank you for the update as we all fell in love with you and your dad.....passed many quiet evenings with my son in the beautiful music........do not doubt that you should share....it is the most important thing you can do for yourself and others.....just my thoughts.....Prayers for you, mom and family members....one foot ahead of the other...there is no book to follow as we are all different in how we handle change, loss and grief....we learn to embrace all....xoxoox

Thank you for sharing. Love to you, your Dad, Mum and family.

Bless your heart, and don’t hesitate for a moment to be vulnerable and transparent in sharing your grief! You touch ALL our lives as much as your dad does-and you allow us to pray for you, and hope we can in some small way, be a bit of encouragement back to you! Life is a vapor.... it comes for such a brief period of time and then before we realize it, the end comes from too quickly... may you continue to treasure the remaining days ahead you have with your dad... even if he may not grasp it, let him know we think of you both and send u our encouragement and love🤟🏻

I just now saw this video, even though I've watched many of your videos. Your kind love towards your father have been a great inspiration to many, many people around the world. I went through this with my father as well, and when he passed away I felt such a deep intense grief because I had no idea how much it would hurt. I pray that you and your amazing father, and your family, will have the support and strength you need to get through this, with sweet, sweet moments of singing along the way. God bless you! 🙏🙏 Melody from Texas, in Australia.

Definitely right to share this. It’s so important to share vulnerability for your own sanity as much as anything else. And others will draw strength from your example and maybe even seek help if they need it. I feel for you xx

You needed to speak about that, have experienced exactly what you are going through, with my husband, watching them lose their mind, is heartbreaking, admiral nurse from dementia forward, was a life saver for me, only support I ever got, for quite some time, she even went with me to look at care homes, when he went into one for respite, she went with me, well I was a wreck, crying all the time. Am feeling for you & your mum, at this so sad time.

Thank you so much for sharing this. I've been experiencing this for the last two years and I didn't know that it is recognised as a named condition. Look after yourself and get emotional help if you can and hold on to the lovely times you have had with your Dad. 💗

Mate you said more without saying a thing. Miss your videos to bits . I Hope your farther has a speedy recovery. Keep us updated sexy

I'm so sorry my friend. Yes it's a mixed terrible feeling.. you are amazing son and helped your dad through demenia and fufulled his outstanding singing voice also yous have opened the door that singing and music helps so many sufferes. We sulute you and right behind you. Hugs and change n up

It is good to share whether it is happy or sad. I really feel for you Simon, I'm going through the same with my Dad. It's so hard to watch the decline, so cruel but make the most of every moment. You have done so much to raise awareness of this terrible disease and I thank you for that. It is joyful to watch you and your Dad singing together, wonderful memories that you can both keep in your hearts always.

Love listening to your Dad singing my favourite is Quando Quando, it's better to talk about it then keep in a big hug to you and your Dad 💖💖

Enjoy all the time right now. I fully understand. You are as well as dad and mum absolutely beautifully. God's grace is sufficient in all things. Blessings dear ones.

Hello from Montréal, Canada 🇨🇦 I am still watching your videos because they are full of love and compassion. I do imagine your dad has passed away now. Maybe not. Hoping everything if ok for you

@TheSongaminuteMan

3 жыл бұрын

Heya Lisa Dads still going :) He's really declined thou which is sad, thou he's happy in himself. All the best x

Wonderful man, with a wonderful family. Always thinking of you x

Keeping you and your family in my prayers. Thank you for sharing your journey.

My heart goes out to you. I have lived this and gone through it. The waves of grief still come, but in them is peace knowing that what a treasure our parent is because someone still loves them even though they are gone. Thank you for being honest and sharing

Hang in there Simon. I know it’s difficult as I have both my parents that have dementia on top of other illnesses 😞. You’re a good son

I went through exactly the same thing with my dad, it really is heartbreaking. It's a trying time for you all. God bless you and your dad and all that are connected to you........................... If you there dad I miss you.

So sorry to hear your Dad isn't doing so well Simon. I really do hope he picks up somewhat to how he is at the moment. Keep doing what you're doing bud and always be there for him and for all your family. I wish you, your Dad and all your family the very best. 😊😊

I've been there and it's... it's that what you are going through. May this be not so hard... you have so much love going your way from everyone. I hope that will protect you and give you more strength.

😘WE love you... All the family look at yours videos. A french subscriber 🇫🇷

Sharing with strangers who have become friends....Simon you are giving a voice to dementia/Alzheimers, your videos are helping the wider community. I think they are helping you too, sharing your grief and unloading it safely on here. Sending love your way from Down Under 🇦🇺❤️ 😢 What a shitty hand your Dad has been dealt 😢

You are amazing I no it's hard as my dad had the same illness and it's so hard and drags you down but you have to stay positive you are a credit to your dad .

One day at a time my friend. We are all there for you.....

Thank you so much for the update it means a whole lot to hear how your processing your Dad's decline triggered from the fall. That happened to my Mom too. She came back around after months of healing and being in a coma from her fall. She was never the same, as an injury that requires a long time to heal drains whatever longterm memory they had left before the fall. Having a family member like you helps a whole lot in the healing process to keep repeating yourself and reminding your Dad of what he loves and who he loves and who loves him! Pets and music can bring comfort as well. Hang in there and remember what an honor and privileged it truly is to be there for your Dad at this time and your Mum, God Bless her. Love is the answer ....

God bless you and your father.What he is going through is harder on the family than him. Stay strong.

I bumped into your video and this was just what I needed. This is exactly what I’m going through it all kinda clicked and it totally makes sense. My mom has Alzheimer it started when she was 56. She is 58 now and living in a nursing home (I couldn’t take care of her anymore) she is the youngest of all residents. I’m like right in the middle of the “anticipatory grief” some days I’m so lost and stuck with pain, anger, questions, feelings of depression or maybe I’m depressed but all I know is it’s a major struggle! I miss my mom I want my mom (back) acceptance is one the steps and I think I have accept but that doesn’t make it any easier. I’m gonna stop with my rant. Thank you for sharing your video made me realize what’s “wrong” with me at the moment I will go and read into it. Wish you all the strength and love and patience and perseverance with your dad ( I know what your going through) I would love to sing with my mom since she used to be a singer as well but due to the illness and her age it attacked her speaking part so much so she is really lost for words but maybe I need to do it anyways because she still loves music very much and dancing. Take care

@TheSongaminuteMan

5 жыл бұрын

Hey - just seen this message. Sorry to read about what you're going thru. It knocked me sideways also but I seem to have got used to the new normal now - which I hope you do to. But yes - I know exactly what you're going thru also. Hoping things improve for you soon.

Think about you and your dad often. You both are VERY special! Thank you for sharing him with us! 💕

so sorry for what your dealing with but he still has his family and that’s what important

Oh Simon, I’m so sorry things have became even MORE difficult. My heart goes out to you and your mother. I’ve been there, and I know it is heart wrenching. I’m with you in spirit. Hang in there, and be strong ❤️

Keep sharing those feelings! Stay strong and positive! Sending prayers to all the family🙏🙏🙏

My heart hurts for you.

I totally feel for you, just know that lots of people care about you and your dad. Hope you're all ok.

Thank you for your openness and honesty, it's so needed ❤

Thanks for sharing this video Simon. In the most difficult of times for you personally, you are helping others by letting people know the challenges faced by your dad Ted and the family in general. It is very much appreciated. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.:)

@TheSongaminuteMan

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. This was a couple of years ago and things have progressed significantly now. But dad is still at home. It's challenging but we are OK. xx

Thanks for sharing such personal feelings. Many of us are in the same boat caring for and watching the changes in our aging parents. Love to all.

I'm glad you share because I've learned a lot from you I've never heard of anticipating grief I take care of my 92 year old dad he has dementia cancer plus other health issues and can not walk so I pick him up and move him so he doesn't just lie in bed many a night I find myself crying quietly in my bedroom but he's worth it and I love it when I can make him smile or laugh I just take it day by day and when I have a bad day I listen to you and your dad sing puts a smile on my face so thank you for all you do much love to you and your family ❤️❤️❤️

@TheSongaminuteMan

2 жыл бұрын

Hey Ruth. You're doing such a good thing by your Dad and making him feel safe. I know how hard it is sometimes caring for someone. Sending love and strength. You can do it!! xx

@ruthsimonds7180

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheSongaminuteMan thanks Simon it means a lot to me stay strong and safe ❤ you have a amazing family much love to you and your family ❤

So sorry. So sad for you. I’ve worked with people that suffer with dementia and it’s very sad. Take care and lots of love xx

@TheSongaminuteMan

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Pamela x

Your honesty and openness are wonderful. I can see a lot of similarities in our situation although we are not as far into this difficult journey as you are. Stay strong and keep sharing ♥️

I know exactly what you're referring to. I felt it and explained it to family but not with its official title. I was in mourning for the person who was actually still with us, but who had changed so drastically. You become instantly aware that your relationship as you knew it has gone never to return. It's such an unkind end game for all involved. Heartfelt wishes to your family and not least to your dad. We lived in Oswaldtwistle a while ago.

@TheSongaminuteMan

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah - it was a strange feeling - it repeats and repeats with each subsequent decline. Looking back over 3 years later since I made that video I realise how naive I was with what was to come...

So tough for you Simon . I haven’t heard of it either but can fully understand how it can affect people Good to share it as will help you . You are not on you’re own . Take care Keep strong X

Love and prayers for you and the family!

So sorry for you and what you are going thru, funny thing your father entered my mind this morning as I drove to work, thank you for the update.☺

Prayers for a quick recovery....hope he improves some every day!

Thank You for the update pleasevtake care of you for them you are a wonderful son

No sympathy, but sending a great amount of love and prayers.

Another new path your going down and your doing it together, just hold on to each other because your a credit to your dad. Be proud that your part of your dads journey .

Love coming your way from North Carolina.

Much love and prayers from California. Can't wait to see you guys sing some more. Favorite video is quando quando Quando

I feel for you stay strong 😢 big hugs for u and your family x

Ah bless you, take care of yourself.

Simon thank you for the update. Sending strength to you from the USA. I have been watching you two from a far for quite sometime. You both have been such an inspiration in many ways. You have taught people how to handle struggles and persevere. The music has been a delight for sure. Take all the time you need to adjust to the different stages that life will bring.

@brandyf1932

5 жыл бұрын

Texas

Having experienced this with my mum, I know exactly how you're feeling right now, it's hard, be strong. 💪

So sorry that this is happening to your family! It must be very hard! Wish there was something I could do to ease your pain.

Big hugs

I am going through this right now. It is so hard. I'm not the person I was 6 months ago.

Sending loads of love ❤️💕❤️💕xxx

God Bless .... one day at a time

How is your dad ? A wonderful man . X ❤😍

Bless ya..So sad thinking of you all.Chin up

@TheSongaminuteMan

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Sue - seems so long ago now. If I only knew what was round the corner...

It's so hard to understand I know how you feel it's like Thier already gone but he is still there it's like getting prepared for his final journey please take care of yourself and your mam you'll need each others strength my dad died three years ago from the same thing it's a cruel illness Jennifer ireland

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Not liking because I'm enjoying your pain...just the only real way to send you some love across the miles. May God bless you all.

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Prepare yourself, it helps

Simon, I was just wondering how your dad is? It’s been a long time since I checked on KZread, someone in SC USA who cares. I love the Quando video

@TheSongaminuteMan

2 жыл бұрын

thanks Pamela - yeah Dad has declined a lot but he's as good as can be. He's happy and at home which we're grateful for.x

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