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@AK-ne4og

Жыл бұрын

@@queen_borks 😅q ❤❤❤❤❤

@mystica9620

Жыл бұрын

I have been single for over 5 years, men find me attractive , but when they start getting to know me and they try to get sex from me right away, and I don’t give in, they change, :/because I do not want the fwb, or a one night stand, majority of men just want sex and do not want to commit, I guess I will be single forever 😔I am a good smart independent woman, it seems I scared them off haha, plus I am confident, and I am straight forward with them by telling them if they are looking for a booty call , 1 night stand, fwb I am not the one!! 🙁any advice? am I doing or saying something wrong ?😆

I've been single for so long that even THINKING about wanting a life partner feels out of the question.

@janwest2580

Жыл бұрын

Me too....

@nichotto

Жыл бұрын

Ditto

@djlauren5582

Жыл бұрын

Yup, me too, it's much easier running my own life without being told how to differently.

@lizstokes9091

Жыл бұрын

Same

@jennifershakira409

Жыл бұрын

Yeah exactly, agree with you all. Better to be single rather than getting married and feeling stressed all the time.

I know seven things men do when they are attracted to you. 😊. 1. Love Bomb you 2. Date other women 3. Ghost you 4. Block you 5. Unblock you 6. Try to program you to love them like a mom loves their son 7. Blame you for them being unavailable to you And 8, get engaged with someone else, but still think about you.

@patriciamontenegro3537

Жыл бұрын

LOL... SO TRUE.

@angelahart5365

Жыл бұрын

Yep. Know him well. Love bombed, incredible sex and lies about our future. That lasted only a few months before he was cheating, and promptly I got the discard. Wish I could say it ended there...but finally...after six years of still responding to his very rare, sexually motivated, but funny texts (he'd married someone else by this time) the miracle happened. I'd had enough. Suddenly all his texts struck me as insulting and degrading and I deleted them all, deleted him from my contacts, blocked him from my phone, and since I reliably find it impossible to memorize phone numbers, I've effectively DISCARDED HIM from my life. It took a long time, but I feel incredibly proud of myself. Still a romantic, but committed to learning who I am, and loving that person for a lifetime.

@Breakitdown4meplz

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@Murphlind

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂 true in this day and age sadly.

@mikiviolet9087

Жыл бұрын

Oh my! You just hit that one outta the park right in the nose. You got that right, and it hurts like mother bear attacks to protect her cubs. Ouch on both partners.

My husband and I have been married for over 40 yrs. My husband will thank me for doing his laundry, or for cooking dinner. These are things I do all the time for him. But at times he will thank me.

@bq1424

Жыл бұрын

Hmm. You do his LAUNDRY and he doesn’t ALWAYS say Thank You?

@sherriflemming3218

Ай бұрын

If you can find a man that's self sufficient and contributes to shared labour you've won the lottery. I will not cater to men.

Unpopular opinion. Sex without an actual long, term, commitment, in the name of being "sexually free" is a horrible way to date anyone of quality. This is only good for most men . I weed out a lot of damaged, weak, men, simply by not putting out to ANYONE who doesn't want to actually love me, and who I don't actually love. This takes ACTUAL time, not face time, or cyber time. The best feeling is when you don't need a man, but you chose to allow a man into your heart and eventually your bed. Too many people are giving it up, and giving their heart away to just anyone. I have been single a long time, I am not lonely, and I refuse to give up any part of my peace, my heart, or space in my bed, unless the man is worth my time and TAKES THE TIME to get to know me first.

@V.Hansen.

Жыл бұрын

Amen

@mikiviolet9087

Жыл бұрын

Wow. I'm really glad to see there are still people who do this like the way I was taught growing up. It's a good thing to have this M/O. Thank you. 8 hope many people can follow your example here. Would help make this world a better place.

@user-qv7vi2ls6j

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing

@sherriflemming3218

Ай бұрын

Kelly you nail it. I'm not settling for anything less. Would rather be single.

I absolutely want a life partner even at 68. Not in a rush. I have everything I need in life. So a life partner will add to my happiness

7 Signs He Is Very Attracted To You (Jonathan Aslay): 1) Genuine eye contact = I like you! (Trust) 2) His acts are chivalrous (opens the door, pulls out your chair) 3) He is protective & territorial (he is off the market, too) 4) He might temporarily pull away (especially after initial initimacy) (is this the person I want to invest in?) 5) He expresses appreciation & gratitude for you (after he pulls away for introspection) 6) He teases you! (His little kid comes out - fun & playful side) 7) He progresses the relationship forward & devotes his available time to you (2-3 days & nights a week together, doing activities & hobbies with family & friends, with the intention of exploring a relationship, moving in together, and potentially getting married)

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Thanks 🙏

@christinehellner3502

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for posting this.❤

@sherriflemming3218

8 ай бұрын

❤️

@user-qv7vi2ls6j

6 ай бұрын

Friends with benefits immediately run from this type of 'bad behavoir" do yourself a favor ladies. Its for your own good!

@user-qv7vi2ls6j

6 ай бұрын

Genuine eye contact, its AUTHENTIC compassionate and real. 😊

I see those things: looking at me, being present, watching my reactions, wanting to know more about me, show interest, leaning closer, being gentleman with nice manners, speaking with low soft voice, showing me that I'm priority, trying to anticipate my wants and needs, etc.

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing!!

@RG-hf4et

Жыл бұрын

And has your back

@libertysibucao1010

Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤❤

@sherriflemming3218

7 ай бұрын

Well said

My beloved late mate didn't say "Golly-gee, I hope you'll consider being exclusive with me." His confidence was magnetic: he said, "I'm not sharing you with anyone." I thought I'd died and gone to heaven. i'd love to meet one more with that much confidence.

@moebanshee

Жыл бұрын

When I met my husband.. I was dating someone who is working for the government. My husband told the guy I was dating,." If anything happens to her because of you I will kill you. " The other guy with a great guy.. just not a great job to be racing a family with. I chose my husband and never looked back. He was a man. I was not a porcelain doll. I was his wife and was to be respected.

Also dating in 2023 is absolutely awful disheartening disrespectful. I just don’t know what happened, to all the good people I have met throughout my life there Hass to be one good man out there.

I want a serious relationship and yes dating sucks!

It’s so hard to find a genuine relationship anymore let alone a life partner.. Hopefully one day I’ll find someone who wants the same things as me in a life long relationship .. Where are you my MR right

@shannonbailey7580

Жыл бұрын

He's married lol

@Davienne2010

10 ай бұрын

​@@shannonbailey7580😂😂

@sherriflemming3218

Ай бұрын

I agree with my mother. Many of the good ones are are taken.

I did the self compassion guided meditation with Matt Hussey and it was really a hard reset that was long overdue. I stopped the casual relationship I had realizing it was not the loving or self honoring thing for myself, especially since he expected me to always drive to him. I remember & appreciate men in my past who’d be gentleman & not do that & look out for my safety & well being. That’s what I need not compromising for selfish individuals for romantic or platonic relationships. It stops in 2023!! 🎉 I’m reading your book next. Thanks for all your perspective!

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Much appreciated 🙏

@annmalone8208

Жыл бұрын

Wow sounds like my previous relationship. May you experience the best relationship that is good for all.

@kce123.

Жыл бұрын

You go girl, they are out there and they may be a little shy and injured too so you may have too really be open to spotting the appreciative kind ones that may not be that traditional “ successful” type too

@jennifershowers7927

Жыл бұрын

Jonathon is the real deal. You are on the right track. If you want a man that values you then really follow what Jonathon talks about and Matthew. I learned so much from both of them. Jonathon is a joy to talk with. I was divorced after a 30 year marriage and honestly had to read a book on how to kiss a man! I was so lost on dating. These two genuinely care.

I meet this really nice guy at the wine store over six months ago. We would have small talk and laugh. I could tell he was really attracted to me. After a few months, he approached me and said he noticed a mutual attraction between us. We exchanged numbers. We texted and was not sexual. We finally went on a date, had a great time and decided to go back to his place. Almost immediately we became affectionate and then had sex twice. I stayed the night. He walked me to my car in the morning. I expected a kiss but nothing. I expected a call but nothing. I finally broke down and texted him to check in. He told me he wasnt ready to date, didnt expect to have sex, and that he needed to focus on himself. I didnt argue but deep down i was very hurt and felt used.

@anzelac5808

Жыл бұрын

Wow!that’s terrible maybe he had a g/f already and just wanted a fling!

@landigb9481

Жыл бұрын

I’m sorry that happened to you.

@V.Hansen.

Жыл бұрын

Post nut clarity? Wtf?

@ladylacrimal8447

Жыл бұрын

@@V.Hansen. Maybe so, I've been with 2 men in 15 years before him. I was really taken aback. 😔

@rayc9899

Жыл бұрын

Thanks God everyday that's gone, he was an user and probably a narcissist, very antisocial.

yeah my son's are super protective of me and size up every male in my building as if to say this is my Mumma Bear and back off i love that about them...i only recently acknoweledged that is what they were doing as boys and as sons of a single mum who is single xx bless

Great advise once again. I'll never forget "ladies! before the P goes into the V - ask him "what does commitment look like to you?". Ask this 3 months (or whatever soon means to you) into the relationship - not 3 years!!!! I was too scared about losing the relationship and ended up wasting HUGE amounts of time on mediocre relationships. NEVER again.

Currently with my guy who is going to become my life partner and, I, his. Really happy. Yep we did the dating vows/agreement, and the books.❤ I am so fortunate, because my guy does the whole of your list. I love the way he looks at me,,,it makes me smile, he says he is grateful and appreciates me and all I do, and I reciprocate. I am so grateful for this wonderful relationship. He is chivalrous and gentlemanly, protective and caring ..omg he teases but it can be sooo funny. because we 'play' together a lot...we both love it! He is always saying he loves me and misses me ... we said we would move in together 3-6 months. Im ready now, so is he. Coming up for that time. We are looking at houses, furniture, flooring....it really is exciting. We go on holiday to Tunisia soon too...and we have concerts and a craft show lined up after that.

@gaiabeleza

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations!!

@ArtLoverScotland

Жыл бұрын

@@gaiabeleza Aww how kind, thank you so much for taking the time to comment - I truly wish you well too. Jonathon helped me so much I will be eternally grateful.

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Happy to hear 😊

@mctrustsnoone3781

Жыл бұрын

That’s amazing, so happy for you, thank you for sharing your happiness 💕

@ArtLoverScotland

Жыл бұрын

@@mctrustsnoone3781 how lesser u am with a you wonderful folk too... I hope you find that someone wonderful fir you also xx

it's so interesting. I saw this video a year ago and was with a spender and a user and knew we didn't have any future together so I finally ended it after realizing I didn't need anyone to make me feel safe. Ed came into my life about a month later and we both just want to enjoy our time together by doing the things you always say Jonathon--spending time together, shared interests, spending time with family and friends. It's wonderful, but I truly believe that what we really want we need to let go and that's when it comes to us. I think we're afraid that if we let it go, we'll miss it or it just won't come to us at all. Have faith and God Bless. ✨🙏🏻✨

@JonathonAslay

21 күн бұрын

Indeed

I notice the tone of voice when he's serious. It's softer, deeper, more breathy than normal. The volume fluctuates so he's almost singing instead of speaking. It's the same tone as when he approves of what he sees and says "mm-MM-mm!" or "I LIKE you!" and means the same thing.

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Yes, that's accurate...

I've been seeing a man for about 10 weeks. I can't believe he hasn't pulled away yet! All my relationships have pulled away but this guy is still coming on strong. I'm not getting carried away though.....If he pulls away, I'm out quick smart. I have wasted so much time with guys who pulled away and I chased and got hurt.

Seriously want a life partner , Unfortunately, after divorce, fell prey to love bomber (true narcissist) and have had to work very hard to overcome the damage!

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing

@carmendobbs9396

Жыл бұрын

❤

@flutterbydragonfly

7 ай бұрын

I’m sorry sorry that happened to you. I’ve just experienced the same. Hugs.

What I want is pretty much the same things as on this list: someone I'm attracted to; but, more importantly, a trusted friend I poke fun at life with. It just seems so unnecessarily complicated. I know this stuff is important, to prevent wasting time. I just don't know if I can think about this stuff, and still enjoy the time I spend with the person I'm getting to know. It's overwhelming. I'm perfectly content on my own, and I like things as they are. Maybe that will change. Maybe not. Or perhaps I don't want a relationship as much as I thought. I just don't want any new drama. 😕

Little girls are made of sugar and spice, and everything nice; Little boys are made of snips and snails, and puppy dogs tails ❤

Yes, someone to share life with and also have fun.

Yes, I want a life partner, for life, with equality, and tons of kindness

Yes, but OMG how hard it is to find someone that are compatible. Most men just want to get some, and then vanish. :(

The experience of mine in last three years are like horrible nightmare that has swallowed my character

I have to say that you impacted me more than you realize. I month or so I complained here about guys and the men I’ve recently met especially on dating apps. You responded with something like “Maybe you are choosing the wrong men” or “Maybe your priorities are not too narrow” I’m paraphrasing. I think I was offended (stupid of me). But I thought about it nonetheless. Well I have known this one guy for about 5 yrs now. Never thought of dating him at all. He’s short, cute but that’s it, so I thought. One night at a wine bar he sat next to me after my friends had left and we talked. I gave him my phone number. OMG he’s the greatest guy I think I’ve ever been with. Thank you for your insight, for your comment. It’s changed my life!

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

WOW, I'm honored and happy to hear...

The users think if they say "thank you" when you do something for them, they are being grateful. There really is a difference between tossing out those two words verses behaving in a way that demonstrates gratitude.

You made me laugh with the "magic fairy dust" comment. 😅 I personally have always been confident and upfront. My mother is a psychologist and sees many men and women with toxic relationship issues. I would like to add that if a person is whole themselves, they will attract similar people. Yes, you will still attract the users and spenders if you are physically attractive. However, you recognize where they are coming from and dismiss them immediately- as they aren't worth your time and energy. Jonathan, you are helping many people find themselves who need guidance. 😊🙏🏻

They can tell you they are interested and they aren't interested at all. Impossible to tell if they are serious. I find lots of men are confused, messed up only when they are getting dressed. My ex devoted all kinds of time for me, until I moved in. Then I was fighting for his time. Narcissists move it forward quickly as well, love bombing, etc. It is a red flag for me.

I want a man who uses words like stentorian, propinquity, fecund, spinnaker, penury, etc., easily in conversation. Also, he appreciates the absurdities in life and chuckles when someone says reverts back, continues on, vocabulary words, tiny speck, wealthy billionaire, etc. He is tactile and enjoys giving and receiving foot massages while watching Mel Brooks's movies or Quentin Tarantino's movies. These are non-negotiable.

Yes I did want one but good man are hard to find don't have time for no games nowadays u got to be careful who u put In your life. To many crazy people out here.

@sherriflemming3218

Ай бұрын

Agree Pat.

Thank you for the advice! Valuable!!

Last time I started dating,out of sheer coincidence,found out he was cousin...actually 5th cousin.🙄

I haven't had a man even approach me in 20 years. It's been so long I don't know where to begin on even being able to find anyone anymore.

@moni1952

Жыл бұрын

I find they don't approach anymore. They sit back and want you coming after them. Nope. 🖐

@bwhatever60

Жыл бұрын

@@moni1952 In my life: They don't even look at me. I'm beyond sad. Also: I chase no man. They have to show interest in me first. That's just the way it goes. I know flirty eyes and stuff, but I don't even get a glance. I'm too lonely to even describe it.

@moni1952

Жыл бұрын

@@bwhatever60 Meh. You're not missing anything. If you do catch someone's eye, he's going to be taken. My life story. Not worth it.

Dear Jonathon, I appreciate YOU. I have learned so much from you. I ended a previous date with a guy as he was the proverbial spender, turned out he had mental health issues - was a terribly sad, but horrendous hoarder! Lots of unresolved loss issues. Now I am with the 'ONE' Thanks to all your great advice and rants.

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Awe... thank you 😊

Can’t wait to listen! Great topic 🫶🏽

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for listening

Absolutely true ...enjoyed your teaching...God Bless 🙌 😊

Need to prove myself to myself! Love you for your contagious optimism!

The values, the mutual hobbies and the family outings, but he was making fun of me and my dad. His, "I would have made you my girlfriend and for marriage, if you hadn't..." was just another ridicule he was having with me. He was engaged and said that if his fiancee was there, he wouldn't have let me in on Christmas! He's blind! The woman he picked didn't even wanted to be with his family on Christmas and having family over is top on his list! I even felt guilt for not helping him in selecting the right one. He loved me so much, but then he acted like a jerk again and again. I can't wait to be in a serious relationship with the 20 percent!

I'm reading your book about Self Love, and it is a great book! So glad you wrote it and told us about it! I highly recommend it! ❤

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Can I ask a favor? Can you write a review? 🙏

Thank you so much for your honesty!

Jonathan, I am quite amazed at your videos! They are comprehensive and the messages stick. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and I hope you make many more! 😊

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Glad you like them!

Very helpful & a handful of advices video, I totally love the video,Thank you Jonathan 🙏🏻

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Yes the dating marketplace is a real absolute mess as you say Jonathon!

Jonathan, just wanted to let you know I recently purchased your book on self love and really enjoying it! Also purchased Attached book that you recommend as well.😊

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

awe... I'm so happy to hear and I hope you write a review on Amazon. Much appreciated

This was the first video of yours that I have seen. I appreciate your valuable insight. Thank you for being so caring!

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!

Love the valuables information Jonathan. You deliver a wealth of knowledge. Thank you 💕

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

So glad!

Jonathan you are so smart! You help so many people! I appreciate you!Thank you!

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate that!

Thank you J! awesome insight

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

I have been married for almost 15 years. My husband enjoys outdoor activities, while I'm much more of a bookworm. In particular he loves riding 4x4s whether winter or summer. I used to enjoy riding with him, although at times I refused to follow up or down steep hillsides, and into muddy water. I am 62 this year and he is 65. He worked a job this winter that took him away from home at 4pm, and get home at about 2 am.Twice I asked directly for him to talk to me, or change something so I'm not so lonely. He told me to go make some friends. I'm a severe introvert and don't understand how to make friends. He knows that but it was all he had to say. A few weeks ago I ran into a male friend I had met a few months prior to my husband, so about 15 years ago. He is a newscaster and very recognizable. We ran into each other at a restaurant and we ate together. We have lunched a couple times since then. My husband and I have been celibate for 4 years.Menopause has done a real number on my ability to enjoy intercourse.However, I offered to start taking hormone cream so we could try again and my husband said, "No, that's ok." I'm not intimate with my guy friend either. It's just nice having him compliment my outfit or appearance. Is my lunch friend a bad idea? He does make me smile, and I wonder if I should stop seeing my friend. We always eat in public where he can be recognized and

@sa9521

5 ай бұрын

Its been 7 months. What did you decide? What happened?

@sherriflemming3218

Ай бұрын

The roommate relationship. Can you live this way the rest of your life? It's prime for infidelity.

Yes! Makes perfect sense to me. Thank you ❤ 😊

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

So glad!

Awesome advice 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Glad you think so!

Thank you!

I understand that better than before. Thank you Jonathan ❤ 😊

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

👍🏼

That "pulling away " feels like rejection and relationship inadequacies. It would be nice to have a different way to assess whether to continue to have a relationship or not. People are so vulnerable especially at the start of a new relationship.

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

I definitely getting your book ! Thank you

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Awe... thank you. Hope you enjoy 😊

Thank you for your work. I appreciate you

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

And when he pulls away women need to stop blowing up his phone with text after text after text.

I feel your book on Self Love is really empowering. I did email about a coaching call however it is not possible at this time. I did not receive your Rules of Engagement, yet I did buy your book both the soft cover and the Audible book. In my own relationship I found your "wisdom" a good starting point, yet I feel we must be flexible to a degree. My BF is in law enforcement, he has been in for 25 years and has 8 more before he can retire. He is stoic, thoughtful, and even after nearly a year together he is quiet. He expressed as much as he can (he tells me every day throughout the day he loves me) yet his actions really show how he feels. It's important for us to be in our power coming from a position of self love so we can recognize and be just a bit flexible (NOT a rubber band type) but just enough to understand our partner. Keep up the awesome work! Many hugs to Marie for keeping it really beautiful 😊

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Did you schedule the call? Thank you for ordering the book 🙄

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Opps, I meant this... 🙏

Good one

Very valuable advice. You don't know how much I needed to hear this right now, as I've been very confused about someone. Thank you for all this insight. 💖

Your right that the market for a good genuine relationship man is very scarce. I’ve been working on myself to be that genuine person.

I would love to meet someone. Who wants a soul mate as I want that man too

Hi Jonathon I'm rethinking of revisit it once again but I need to be sure of what I'm getting into to.😊

I like the advise. Good. I like the show.

I genuinely want a serious relationship……❤

67 y/o ,professional and looking for an intelligent ,kind and considerate man . I went for a few dates but from the very beginning I can tell the person is not forme .Rather be single ( I am divorced ) than wasting my time

Yes, serious relationship please❤

Yes looking for a life partner. My guy has 4 on your list yea!! Great info again ❤

I have not got caught up with users or needy men, but I really appreciate your confirming the wisdom of my choices. And thanks for confirming its a mess out there. A good woman only needs one good man. You give us plenty of homework to figure out how to get ready for him and find him.

@JonathonAslay

7 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

I seriously want a life partner

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Yay!

My body is my temple where I delve deep into myself to learn to connect with myself, others, and the world..trashing my temple is like setting myself on fire...Yes, Jonathan, liberating doesn't mean running everything to the ground...I found inner child therapy extremely useful to reverse, heal, and promote growth multiplicity. I personally believe life and creativity forces originate when we are most connected to our source/higher self in the purest form. I know when I meet the right person for me and filtering through that is a big hassle every woman/man has to face, unfortunately. 🙏 But when the time comes, everything will fall into alignment without forcing...

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

Have an attitude of gratitude and appreciation most ppl often neglect that virtues. Some ppl don't know the power of gratitude and appreciation. Heyy! JA I like your long sleeves. Marie makes you more handsome 😊. We feel young when we're inlove❤😊

Excellent advice. Women need to hear your opinion it is right on.

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate that!

I have recommended your book to several people on Facebook.

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Awe... thank you

Tyvm!

Great advice .

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Glad you think so!

And he has thanked me for comming into his life

Quite agreed. Met a man years ago who liked me. He used to look me straight into my eyes which embarrassed me. He was very caring asking how I was, how am I getting home can he help me but never about the physical side.

Yes, definitely, a life partner!

Yes- I’m 55, and want a life partner- may have found him but watching everything you say for guidance

Thank you😊

@JonathonAslay

7 ай бұрын

You're welcome 😊

I'm so glad to be married.

You always reference the best sources, Barbara De'Angeles, Jay Shetty, and John Gottman. All of those who you have mentioned in the past, that I have followed or read their work prior to finding your channel.

@JonathonAslay

Жыл бұрын

Thanks

This Is True! I did All of this and Greater! Life Investment in Love! I m a Grower/"Builder" I LOVE TO LOVE! (It Shocked Me at 19) I adore it Now! Glad I Married My Crush!

Yes am serious about a relationship .

Jonathan, I have followed you and enjoy your content. There needs to be a thought about older people who don’t want marriage. I still want an exclusive relationship, just not financial entanglement.

@4craycray

6 ай бұрын

I read an article on James Brolin. He said part of the success of his marriage with Streisand was “financial bifurcation”. That means they keep their financials separate. So there is no contentions in that area, which lightens the load of combining lives.

I'm definitely seeking a 'rest of my life' partner, but it's so hard finding the same in a man. It's a bit discouraging, Jonathan.

@JonathonAslay

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I understand

@Jumpingjackflash123

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You’ll need to be with older men more likely. I’ve been a player my entire life. No I’m my 30s in look for “life partner.” Notice I didn’t say wife. I’d still be together without marriage. When analyzing men realize that just cause he doesn’t wanna get married doesn’t mean he doesn’t want a life partner

Has anyone ever felt like the person you love communicates with you on a subconscious level? I feel like he consciously rejects me, maybe a defense mechanism, but somehow I've tapped into his subconscious? I guess he's been so damaged and traumatized that conscious communication is not possible, so we've like developed our own language that we communicate love in that is safe for him. I suppose if you've been traumatized by your care givers and people who were supposed to love you, then lobe becomes weaponized and it's not a safe place or frequency to operate in until there is some healing that takes place. I am absolutely intrigued by it because I do like puzzles and cryptic things. Love does seem to make you do some crazy things and you put up with exactly the things you've told yourself you'd never tolerate and here I am doing just that. I feel like the nurse in that 70ies movie that Metallica used where the guy has no sight no voice no hearing and no limbs, but the nurse draws hearts on his chest. I feel like I'm that nurse. If this is how we'll end up being for eternity then so be it.

I just started dating someone after being single and not dating for 5 years. Despite all the self work over the last 5 years, I have found so many old anxieties surfacing. Of course, I slept with him too soon. However, he's unlike anyone I've ever dated. Kind, compassionate, attentive but I'm so terrified I'm going to choose someone emotionally unavailable again that it paralyzes me. I'm trying to ground myself, practice self care and make sure I'm exploring my own interests. Dating is the worst. I am glad I found this channel to help guide me.

Yes, I am seeking long term partnership!

I agree with you

Thanks

I wouldnt say "seeking" because I'm not "going after it" . . . Im happy solo. . . However, if the right person came along i would be open to happily ever after with a grower and builder type of man who does want a life partner i do it all and am a leader by necessity so the man would need to want to let me be soft and more traditional. Happy to just work on raising my amazing teen and care for my older cousin with muscular dystrophy, garden, pets, projects, self improvement, work, etc.❤

Hi Jonathan. Am glad I found your KZread channel and to this I would love to ask you something that I have been always want to know. How do you know for the very few weeks if the guy wants you for a life partner and not a playhead. How can you tell if you are friend with him over two week?

Good description on the ambivalent/needy. So are these type hopeless? Am I suckered in thinking it will improve, or could it?

I love how every time you mention Marie you point to her picture.

I shared this with my friend who is so needy and can’t find the right guy

@JonathonAslay

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Hope it helps...