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@peacefulloveagain4124

2 ай бұрын

Women don't need sex...men do. Is what it is.

@patriciamartin2257

Ай бұрын

Thank you for the invite but I am 67 and have not dated for years because I no longer have interest. I just came across your conversation last night and just wanted to let you know that although we take it personally, it's nothing personal. Take care.

Having sex to me without being in love, is just going through the motions. But to me being in love with that person makes it so much better, i feel the love with making love. There is a difference.

@xiameevang9131

2 ай бұрын

Never have with anyone but my husband which is one or twice a week. I thought that was normal. Haven’t have it for 18 years now since my husband passed away. I really don’t care for either.

@ForeverTogether219

Ай бұрын

I totally agree.. it was great To see 2 people meet online n he visits first n she comes to stay with… Good Luckn May God bless Your Union. Both of you Seem Blessed together 🙏

Having conversations about sex and intimacy is so important to a healthy relationship.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Indeed

@helenlooney3430

2 ай бұрын

Agree

@ForeverTogether219

Ай бұрын

Definitely 😊

We are all aging... and everything changes in our bodies as we age. It is a beautiful thing when a couple is comfortable enough with each other to share their deepest desires with each other.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Exactly

@helenlooney3430

2 ай бұрын

agree with you

@Healthnut1976

2 ай бұрын

I tried to talk about it...he didn't want to!! 😕 The end!! He said that's why he ended it because I kept bringing it up. We dated 5 weeks, lol.

@latinaalma1947

2 ай бұрын

​@@Healthnut1976Good he pushed you out in time for you to save YEARS of rejection...one day you will thank him...ust NOT in person, in your mind.

@PricelessJesus

2 ай бұрын

Maybe he was a true gentleman wanting 2 get 2 know u? ​@Healthnut1976

I'm a nurse and I hate not communicating. Therefore, I discuss the aspects of sex at my age( 71)...with prospective partners. Lack of lube, E.D., ...I call it " getting clinical", kind of to make it lighter conversation. What I have ( shockingly) discovered, is that men had no idea about a lot of this....changes after menopause, foreplay starting WAY before the actual sex, many things. I think it is sad that people get divorced just because they " just couldn't" have the conversation about sex.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Exactly

@billie381

2 ай бұрын

I'm in that boat unfortunately.. been married for years.. he has ed. Refuses to get treatment.. refuses to even talk about it. I get shut down when I even try to approach the subject. So frustrating to say the least.

@helenlooney3430

2 ай бұрын

I like to talk to my partner about things if there problem. can talk about sex don't bother me some people can't

@mrsbee8790

2 ай бұрын

I can identify with all you say. A lot of men are so ignorant about women's bodies - they often think that because they are aroused, we should be too. Foreplay with communication is so important.

@janetroberts5140

2 ай бұрын

I believe all of these things. The book is wonderful. I used the Eight Dates and 100 hours couple- time doing projects together. Those things are so important and worked well for my partner and me. We have been together for 14 months now.

Love and chemistry together is beyond rare and so precious.

You really got it when you talked about the emotional aspect of sex. I'm almost 75 and I have a 3+ years relationship with a wonderful man who I have taught how to have total intimacy - mental, emotional and physical. Our physical relationship did not begin until 21 months of getting to really know each other. He has ED and he was afraid to enter into the physical realm. He now says that he has never had this before in his life. Closeness is key. We have that emotional connection that you spoke about and the sex has never been better for either of us.

The question should not be how was your day but rather how can I make your day. I'm realizing being single this time in my life has given me an opportunity to really become at peace with myself. Letting go of trying to control the outcome yet having a quiet knowing through my peace my joy will come. Enjoying the journey.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Agreed

@ForeverTogether219

Ай бұрын

NICE 😊

I was dating a guy who should have been taking a blue pill. He had ED, but refused to admit it. Tried to talk about it and then he dumped me because it's stressed him out too much. It sucked!! Only cared about pleasing himself. I haven't been with anyone since. Thanks for this topic Jonathon.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

You're welcome

@biljanastankovic2328

2 ай бұрын

Probably it wasn't an ED.

@user-pw6gn1zt2d

2 ай бұрын

Yep. Worst sex ever 😂 get with it, guys!

@user-pw6gn1zt2d

2 ай бұрын

Yep. Teaching men how to appreciate intimacy and give great sex is it, the end.

@hallelujah8141

2 ай бұрын

@@user-pw6gn1zt2d it takes two to tango...

Wow! Great topic I’m glad I’m not alone. A couple of things, I’ve recently started dating after 10 years single and celibate. In the last two years I’ve dated 2 younger men ( they are mid thirties, I am late 40’s) and the issue is they are premature ej. which really surprised me. I barely have time to be in the room. It surprised me. Secondly, I notice some men think all women love getting oral sex, which I absolutely do not. This surprised them. Anyway it is a learning journey and the important thing is respect and communication. Cheers from 🇨🇦

I think pornography on tap is responsible for much disconnection in relationships regarding intimacy. Creates bad habbits, and avoidance of relational communication. Seems it could be a bridge if handled in a healthy way. I don't want a guy addicted to porn or substances as ways of coping

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

I think it's bad for sure

@MsRandieK

2 ай бұрын

Porn is like wrestling… FAKE

You’re in the wrong country Jonathan, you should come to Australia, you speak like an Aussie! You won’t be single here long. We love a real and raw man that express themselves honestly.

@elipotter369

2 ай бұрын

I agree with you. Australian women would love his style.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Maybe I should

@BirdieHaze2207

2 ай бұрын

@@JonathonAslay I think you’d love it!

@jphillips8545

2 ай бұрын

True. I’m an Aussie and guaranteed women here in the land down under would really vibe with you Jonathan

@BirdieHaze2207

2 ай бұрын

@@jphillips8545 wouldn’t they!?

My personal opinion is, women in their 60's and 70's would be perfectly find meeting someone same age and be able to hold a deep spiritual relationship, travel enjoy the company, dinners, movies, concerts whatever it is that might be of interest. Could they have sex absolutely is sex a priority absolutely not only because women are realistic. I have no idea why men complicate things with sex if they know time has passed and sex isn't how it was like you said in your 20's. Having a great life and enjoying yourself to the max with an amazing partner doesn't mean that if there's no sex it can't be a happy life. There's so much more than sex to a happy life in your late 60's or 70's. I'm sure women are not the ones to bring sex to the table. Being affectionate is much more important to women, and half of men don't even think about that, lol!!! The problem is men in their 60's and 70's don't want a woman in their age range, and that's where the problem comes in for both. They want to dive into deep waters but then can't swim, and the woman is to blame. I'm sorry, Jonathan. I think we all need to get real and understand the difference between a life companion and a sex companion at 60's and 70's. Women also like younger men, but is it realistic? No. The same goes for men. Hopefully my opinion will enlighten some and life will be a wonderful one full of many pleasures that are not 100% based on sex. I wish everyone a great life and lots of luck in your journey with dating 💫✨️♥️

@sagatyba

2 ай бұрын

We envision a virile men in their 20 like poolboy, a gardener of sorts, but they aren't built that way nowadays, they are either useless or hazardous.

@PetsNPatients

2 ай бұрын

70 is the new 50

@dyoung3648

2 ай бұрын

Sex should be a part of marriage until death....

@msigg2656

2 ай бұрын

@@dyoung3648 I've cared for two sick aunts in their 80s who have since passed and just watched my 82 year old uncle spend the last 3 months dieing a horribly slow death so I cannot agree with this comment in any way, shape, or form. Compassion, respect, and affection should be a part of marriage and any truely loving relationship until death.

@krasimiramiteva3743

2 ай бұрын

Older women with younger is realistic for some limited time, not forever, but what is it that lasts forever nowadays. 😅

I am 50 and dating a 65 yr old man (BSE!!!!)... and I highly encourage all men to take a blue pill, have zero shame and take care of your woman!!!

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Exactly

@rm9338

Ай бұрын

If they could just make a blue pill for woman .

@rosalindd1386

Ай бұрын

I agree !

I think it's great information, making love starts with whole day to emotionally feed eachother so when it's time to make love it's natural, true intimacy is all day long

@pambain9415

Ай бұрын

@@kayesmith8040 Bingo!

I get frustrated. I hear men not taking responsibility and giving little but expecting much. Example. I had boyfriend hated my hair up, but he was bald.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

He's a dick

@dig1272

2 ай бұрын

I wonder if many men over 50 do not like smart women or maybe are threatened by smart, independent women. Or, maybe they are afraid to approach them. Either way, maybe there's things I can do to help fill that gap or change the outcome. Then again, I don't want to change my personality and what I like to talk about just to attract someone.

@annahayes1007

2 ай бұрын

I was thinking of introducing a colleague to a friend of mine, a cute blond, good figure. He had a big belly, and was bald. But the first thing he said, was "Is she fat?" A friend, sitting nearby, who knew my friend, said, "No, she's not fat and she isn't bald, either." End of conversation. I decided immediately that she was too good for him.

@dig1272

2 ай бұрын

​@@annahayes1007🤣🤣

@1scooterpie

2 ай бұрын

Men want women with long flowing hair like a maiden. It's the fantasy in their brain, they want you to have debutant hair with a face that looks like "sea hag".

What I’ve found in 15 years of on and off online dating is timing is sooo crucial. My feeling is your date met someone else she was more drawn to. I’ve been on the other side of that. I met my current BF because he was new to the area, new to OLD after a long marriage and I happened to decide to get on again after a break. The timing was perfect. If it can happen for me, it can happen for anyone. Can’t win the game though if you don’t play. To me, the meeting with her showed there are people out there who might be in alignment Finally, I would highly suggest not doing the dinner thing for someone you haven’t met in person yet. My BF moved away from that pretty quickly before meeting me. I also look at a man suggesting coffee/tea/walk in the park as having good judgement and boundaries, he’s spending his resources wisely.

@ForeverTogether219

Ай бұрын

Totally 🤗

Johnathan your topics are so relevant to our true happiness. You bring on topics with such clarity and tact. Please continue giving us more and more of topics like this.

I love this talk!! Thank you so much for sharing ❤ I wasted so much time because I was afraid to have the grown-up talk. But everything is a learning process tilll we die 😅 you are an inspiration!!🙌

Yes, Jonathon. Weed them out early and Keep it Moving!

Thank you Jonathon for all your topics. I often think about your recovery from M and hope you are doing well with your experience of moving on.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

I appreciate that!

This is one of your best videos in my opinion. I’m 57 and started dating again as almost empty nester. I can relate to all you discuss and a Leo too!

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Awe... thank you 😊

I always appreciate your authenticity.

Brilliant advice about your dating woes Jonathan! I am learning so much

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Thank you 😊

Honesty sometimes hurtts but a lie kills everything

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Indeed

Emotional intimacy and building trust are the basics. Many men don’t even want to invest time & energy to build up enough to take the next steps. In my experience it’s often bc they crave s€x, but are not able to deal with emotional intimacy with themselves in order to heal mother wounds and sxual trauma. 🙏🏼

@bluelotus9654

2 ай бұрын

Ì find a lot of men are not open to deep emotional intimacy and also communicaiton in general. There can be a lack of co operation and this is also linked to men not wanting to be controlled. Many men see a conversation or addressing something as being controlled. The whole conversation thing can only go so far. It's a conundrum. Possibly exceptions are rare men, or men who are over 50 who are more mature.

@aaloha2902

2 ай бұрын

@@bluelotus9654 True 🙏🏼 the percentage single men with an avoidant attachment style is higher in the dating scene at a certain age, bc avoidants are more likely to keep returning to the dating scene. Accountability can be perceived as control, but in the end it’s still their avoidance to deal with their own triggers & unhealed parts. When looking for a life partner, who would want one that doesn’t hold himself accountable for his own healing & recovery?! That would make you walk on eggshells every day, trying to avoid all their reactions to their issues every time you want some peace 🙏🏼 Only dating men who made personal growth & mental health a priority in their lives, but still met some really emotionally dysregulated types who can’t even allow me to finish my sentences and let me ‘know’ what I ‘should’ be like 😅🧘🏻‍♀️ Wishing for you to meet your emotionally mature, securely attached True Love Bluelotus9654🙏🏼💝🍀

Thank you , Jonathon! Sharing about your date, shows how important it is for one to have self awareness, to know what one feels and name it, be honest about it, be confident to bring it up to check in with the other person and find out ...Present honesty can save wasting time dragging along, and more important to save heart ach. I love ''grown up conversations'' you suggest. wonderful attitude!!!

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Love that!

Awesome mindset Jonathan😀. You went on the date open & yes you’re intense, but she just wasn’t in the matching frequency❤. Keep trying because she is out there😊.

Great conversation, Jonathon 👍❤

What you say is so true. Not just for what you call mid life either. You crack me up when you say that. Most ppl die in there early to mid 80's which in my opinion half way in between would be mid life. So unless ppl in their mid 50's plan to live to be ,110 it's really not mid life.I am 73 so definitely not mid life. However, I would like to tell the women out there that there are men out there that are good sex partner's. My husband died at 83 we had great sex up until he got sick a year before he passed. In fact it was likely the reason we stayed married for 40 years. We didn't have what I would call a great marriage it could have been but there was jealousy,control etc. I found your channel by accident ( I'm not looking ) Would just like your ladies to know there can be great sex into the 70's & 80's. Your enjoyment of what you discuss is obvious, I some evening's sit & watch you & just crack up laughing, ( not bcuz what you say is funny but usually so right) it's mainly your deliverance. Especially when you start off with one of your 4 letter words rampage. I wish all those out there will find the love your looking for, remember there is no such thing as perfect. I think you have to get as close as possible without expecting perfection. Happy dating to all of you.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

My dad lived to be 99 that's why I say midlife

@janetshepherd286

2 ай бұрын

Most people don't give someone a chance. They rule them out too quickly without seeing the potential. I know there are some out of the gate it's a negative, but we do turn many away without truly testing the waters and seeing if there's potential.

@janetshepherd286

2 ай бұрын

The right women will find your match when the timing is right.

@janetshepherd286

2 ай бұрын

People don't want to hurt the other, so sometimes they don't give their real reason their not interested.

@maureenrhysjones4643

2 ай бұрын

Thank you. That gives me heart to never give up. xx

Great conversation! Thanks for sharing!💜

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for listening

i have bean in an abusive relationship for 29 years, he past away, cancer, and 3+ years, he stole my money treated me like shit, and now i’m freaked out and scared of men.

@Portia620

2 ай бұрын

Yes men are scary! I am dating now! Either they are over the top or distance!!!!

@christinebeames712

2 ай бұрын

Hello I’m 79 and seeing a lovely man who lives 100 miles away from me every few weeks we have been together living apart for 16 years and are very happy but you say you’re frightened of men but you’re actually frightened of standing up for yourself, you stayed with somebody for nearly a third of century rather than have the guts to get out. I know you might have had children Think about but not for 30 years what you need to find some courage to realise you don’t have to be a doormat and can only be treated like a doormat when you act like one this is not meant to criticism but just another way to look at things I know that in my second marriage and my first marriage I put up with a lot of rubbish rather than have a good argument or put some ground rules downdon’t give up on life there are good people out there

@annahayes1007

2 ай бұрын

@@christinebeames712 the thing is, is that there are women who financially cannot leave their partner. Criticism like yours is not very helpful. Even though you say your words are not meant to be criticism, they certainly are not edifying.

@carrielegg5480

2 ай бұрын

@@annahayes1007 I didn't read any criticism. I felt the same way. I had to work through alot of trauma issues I had growing up. I keep getting attracted to dysfunctional men. Today I am attracting healthy people. I don't judge at all. Just saying once we do the work our lives do change for the better.

@dyoung3648

2 ай бұрын

Go to counseling asap

I think the comment Debbie said is correct. Both of your instincts were right, and it is amazing that you can still enjoy some time with people. But if that special Something between the 2 of you is missing when face 2 face... there is no faking it. and you know what? Soulmates from my reading and understanding and being is.. are not always meant to be with your forever intimate love. could be a best buddy though. But if something is off, it is off. I appreciate that you shared this with us. It was somewhat recent that you and your prior significant other have been parted and yet. I'm glad to see that you shared with us and pursue onward with hope and love to keep r p moving forward. You've worked hard...some of us have and continue to work hard at our personal and social being selves. If we are paying attention and if we care it's what we can share. We are not getting younger, but we can enjoy the last days we have left peacefully, truthfully and as full and courageous as possible and without regret! Hugs from NC

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Exactly

Emotional connection!! Absolutely 💯 Reading your book for the 2nd time recently - it's by my Nightstand. Btw why don't you reach out to this lady who wrote you a beautiful email though she lived far away. This just might be the one this time! Surrender to Love❤

This was such a helpful session for me to listen to. Thank you.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

So glad!

One of our priest told us, that he had been really shocked that so many women came to him to tell him how upset they were that their husbands rarely, if ever, wanted sex!! He says that he had expected the men to complain, not the women! But since then I have had women tell me this about their husbands! It’s not that they are having an affair either.

@elipotter369

2 ай бұрын

My suspicious mind goes straight to the women were making an advance to the priest!

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Exactly

@lloyannehurd

2 ай бұрын

@@elipotter369 Maybe!

@lelamaciolek1166

2 ай бұрын

Porn

@karynroeseler2652

2 ай бұрын

@@elipotter369 ewww. My son is a priest!

Love your dating vow template. Thank you!

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

Loved this video....great honest information 😁

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

You're welcome 😊

Good for you to get out again in the ‘market’, Jonathon. I’m surprised at the crazy criticism you received from the live questions. I wish people would have just commended you for picking yourself up after some time healing. It’s tough out there. 💕

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Indeed

I agree "8 Dates" is a must-read for in-depth conversations for those wanting to become involved in a long-term relationship . "What the Heck is Self-love Anyway" is another. Jonathon, you gave absolute awesome content in this video, and, by the way, I don't think I will ever forget the duct tape image. 😅

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Exactly 💯 👍🏼

You Go Jonathon. We love you because you are totally You. Rock on Dude! ❤

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Awe... thanks

Speak for yourself, my body is working very well. I'll be 60 soon. However, I have NO man & only want a husband so it takes full discipline. So I stay working out at the gym which wears me out I don't have time to think about it. I'm good.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

That's great 👍🏼

Brilliant topic! Jonathan

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Thanks ☺️

I’m a big fan of this one tip I got when I got married, don’t ever turn down your hubby for sex, that’s part of the marriage contract if we are being honest. It helps the relationship sooooo much. Personally I feel like witholding sex is a form of manipulation and it’s a toxic trait 😢 because it hurts your partner soooo much to get turned down by the one person they love the most in the world when they want intimacy. Also, I feel that porn is cheating, and I’ve seen it completely destroy so many relationships of people I have known through the years. It just makes everything harder… 😂 but not for your partner

I’m feeling the disappointment too..the one I wanted ghosted me online after building emotion and trust. We will be happy Johnathon divine timing …I do set boundaries and I’m good at keeping them.Thanks for sharing your date experience with us.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing 👍🏼

Emotional connection and Teamwork .......... would love to spend days talking more in person, you make so much sense. Come to Australia for a visit 😃

Jonathon: I was so grateful to find your encouragement and candid advice about 5 years ago. I took the risk of dating after several years as the care giver of my late husband, who was disabled 30 of our 35 year marriage and several years as a widow. I recently celebrated my 1 year wedding anniversary, at age 73. My husband is 79 years old. We have an active sex life which is a joy that I never thought I would experience after so many years of no sex. Yes, he takes a little blue pill and I need to use lubricant. It has been wonderful to share emotional and physical intimacy.

Hi Jonathon, I must say chemistry is a must and first to feel out on a first date. For me, that is important, and then the rest that you mentioned. I see how you took your own advice and brought it up to her immediately. You give great advice! I just subscribed to your channel.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing! And welcome to the channel

Thanks for your tips and yes i agree about finishing what you start.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!

Yes! The right person will appreciate you 🙏

Good point, why so afraid for grownup conversations? Discovering my reasons for that. Now trying to correct that, and just be genuine without fear

That's me too Jonathon. I am intense in that I'm very interested in what makes a person tick.

Refreshing to find your content and the honesty into answering questions and helpful on your input on sex and relationships. I have been single for the last 4 years living as an expat in Europe. The mentality of "Dating" just takes you to another dimension here. I'm in my 50's widow for the past 15 years, then in another relationship for 12 years with a Gemini and I am a Scorpio. I am very loyal in relationships but finding equal is daunting... and after heartbreak twice, and meeting men that qualify is like looking for a needle in a haystack... finding an intersting man my age is crazy as a whole. Some prefer younger and although I feel I don’t look my age. Younger men are in sex type situation which I'm so past that.. and actually no really looking for them but somehow they find me.. So I remain single and in the hopes a gentleman who desires a committed relationship to be equal. 🙄

@dianneestell6554

2 ай бұрын

I totally agree with you 100% same here

Jonathan wishing you all the best in dating and relating. I am so happy that I found an amazing guy who is happy for who I am. The new dating is a bit scary sometimes, and I think it's important to be open and honest. As a first date, I don't think you are overthinking. Good luck in dating.

@JonathonAslay

29 күн бұрын

Wow, thank you

I really appreciate and agree with everything you said in this video. Especially when you talk about “grownups conversations “. That’s exactly how I think also. I wish there would be more grownups man like you out there. Because, I have just had experiences with immature over the age of 50’s man. It really amazes me how older man are so immature and insecure. Thanks a lot for your insights on this video. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾✌🏽🙌🏾

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!!

There is more to life than an obsession with SEX …. Sex addictions , porn addictions …. Tell men to recognize and keep their addictions in check .

Thanks for sharing about your date. I truly like how honest she was about not really feeling you in “that” way. Good for you as the man to ask her. Some people would just go through the motions and trying to force a connection.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

I appreciate that

I Love your honesty!! If more people when dating would be themselves and learn more about the person on a meet and greet instead of trying to impress. I say keep it real and respectful. Oh and have fun too!! 😅

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Absolutely!!

No your not a player, She was not for you! You are a gentleman,❤

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Awe... thank you 😊

❤Love your messages. You’ve helped me clarify

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

So glad!

Being honest as you both were is important.

Jonathan, you’re so open and authentic! I love that . What city are you in? I’d love to meet you !!!

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Los Angeles, California

You opened my eyes to mistakes i have made..thank you

This was great❤

You are such a sweetheart! How could any woman not want you? She will arrive at the right time. 🙏🙏🙏

Thks for sharing. You are genuine. A lot of women can be same. Life just isn't fair. No Advantage to social class omho

You make it sound like a lot of work!!! LOL. Most of us didn’t have to work that hard when we were young! But now that we are older the story changes.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Exactly

Thank you .. interesting topic … My partner and I are in our 70 … we are in a committed relationship. I divorced my husband because we had no intimacy… and I promised myself I would never have a sexless relationship again . We are having the best sex we’ve ever experienced… by choice we live in separate homes as I don’t want a live in or marriage. I let my partner know that from the beginning and he agreed. Communication and honesty are very important. Live your best life daily . Enjoy your passion ! Explore ❤

Good to hear there is a man that appreciates longer style texts

I went back to college for another degree. I got straight A's this semester. Just found out yesterday. I am so excited! I am finding men my age and older, or even a little younger, seem discouraged about their work life (or they've been retired awhile) and can't wait to get out of it. And what I'm doing, where I'm building the foundation for myself to have a new viable career so that I can support myself until I'm 65 or 70 or beyond If I don't get dementia and I'm still really healthy and I plan to be..they don't seem very excited about that. So I think it might be a big turn off for most men. But it's what I have to do to take care of myself. But when I finish school in the spring of next year and I find a job, or work for myself, I don't know which yet, I want to start dating. We'll just have to see how it goes. In terms of sex, I'm really thinking of just getting in tip top shape again like I did 10 years ago with a trainer so that I can attract someone maybe a few years younger than me, who doesn't mind that I'm working. One would think men would be excited about a woman like me who's not after their money and who is a loving romantic who loves sex. 😂

@thomash3688

2 ай бұрын

I'm retired and find women that work to be a major turn on. Nothing is more exciting than a woman making money. Probably has something to do with my ex going into early retirement at 32 LoL.

@dig1272

2 ай бұрын

@@thomash3688 Thank you for sharing that!!! 😉😊

Great content & yes lots of cynicism in the world overall. 🥺 I think people have an unconscious belief that if they’re cynical it can protect them from being hurt in the future when all it helps them do is to block their possibilities with all their fear.

😊i like the way you straight talk in response tobtge comments. Thats good coaching

@marleneclark4444

2 ай бұрын

To the comments

I feel on the situation on that date you are a complete gentleman and everything that you did was perfect. Like you said not everybody is for everybody. For me the physical chemistry at the very beginning. I'm talking about chemistry in the all-around person not just looks. It could be your voice, looks, bodybuild, personality, etc. she just wasn't attracted to you to her liking. I know what I want in a man and look for the qualities that I want. Not saying that you don't have them, but they're just has to have that initial chemistry between the two of you. I like a man with a lower voice I like a man that doesn't talk so much and listens more. She didn't waste your money and she was honest.

Why is it more embarrasing to talk about sex, than to have it! Your date was the way the majority of dates go. It was good that you could both articulate your feelings. So much better that you talked about it, than one of you ghosting the other.

I think people are too quick to dismiss a decent person if that first meeting isn’t earth shaking. People should give a first date a second meeting, assuming they enjoy the other’s company, unless there are definite red flags.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Divinely speaking, it wasn't meant to be...

@lisaa5860

2 ай бұрын

@AdairCty I agree with you 💯 red flags aside, we need to realize that a potential partner may have a different outlook on life, have different approach to dating culture, and different habits.

@Portia620

2 ай бұрын

@@JonathonAslaywe need earth shattering ??? Oh brother

My boyfriend and I are in our 70s and we are having the best sex of our lives we don’t know why but who complains

On to your date, it’s really too bad that things didn’t work out the way you had thought. If she didn’t appreciate your attractive bluntness and cuteness, I guess it was her loss. Your energy is great, and an amazing lady will come along:) ❤

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

I'm okay with it

@donnaford4773

2 ай бұрын

Jonathon....so much of what you say is so helpful...especially about sex .I'm 76 going with a 63 yr old guy and life is pretty wonderful..

@donnaford4773

2 ай бұрын

❤​@@JonathonAslay

I think the relationship starts when you know from the beginning if you want a friend with benefits or a serious commitment. The first one is more relax and open the second one people put a lot of pressure to be perfect and honestly that takes away spontaneity and honestly after 40 years old the time is Gold and nobody wants to spend time in a relationship that doesn’t feels good from the beginning. I’m a Cancer sun with Taurus moon and Leo ascendant , I like to enter in a safety zone and be able to be myself without being judged. My preference is a man that try to seduce me the first date regardless if I say yes or not. That’s my nature and go against it is not showing self love to my person. If I want just a simple friendship then why bother myself going to a date? So I don’t want a man acting as a friend, I want man acting like he is interested in having intimacy with me. You can sense if the connection is mutual or not.

I'm sorry you were disappointed, Jonathon, yet this is still a fantastic example of two people being authentic, respectful, and kind. You both felt 100% free to be honest. Thank you for sharing the experience!

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

I appreciate that!

I think if you don't have a genuine spiritual connection with the person the sexual connection is not going to be there. You may like the person even find them attractive enough to get off with them in the moment but that furniture breaking deep heated passion is not going to be present.

I just tended to have a relationship that was as you describe.It was all about him.He never given me pleasure, never would say he loved me.Says actions speak louder than words.But I believe that it doesn't replace the words sometimes come on... i feel lighter And free after taking a break And he came to me and said that he wanted to rekindle what we had... Oh my god I kept asking him to pleasure me in some way but it was never reciplicated

I like how open you are

If someone is meant to work out it will. ❤ The right one will love unconditionally with or without intensity.

Very interesting. Good advice 🎉

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

I wholeheartedly agree with your perspective ~

Jonathon. Sorry date didn't work out. It's competitive out there for both men & women❤. Disappointing but your optimism won't let it get you down. Fantastic👌. Sounds like you're ready now❤. Keep looking, the right lady will come into your world.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

I agree 100%

Thank you for your openess on this subject Jonathon. Great sex for me is like i had with my ex. We just had great chemistry and very intense. We didnt get along outside the bedroom but we both hand the mindset of badly wanting each other in the same way. It was a very emotional experience on both our parts. Obviously, the attraction was amazing . Outside , he was cold and unattached. I think good conversation and sort of meeting of the minds so to speak. I agree with you on you must have an agreeable partner. ❤

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for sharing 🙏

My guy was a selfish lover !! Didn’t want it often enough because he got off with his porn and when he did he was terrible in the bedroom. Terrible. I had to insist he take cialis and he was denying the porn but I totally caught him on it all the time …I refuse to compete with that so our relationship ended. I realized he had a process addiction and needed help. When he didn’t get the help I was done with him.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Good that you ended it

@phoebetalib8397

Ай бұрын

What is a process addiction?

@Obtlgw

Ай бұрын

@@phoebetalib8397 a process addiction with porn is when they have to watch it to proceed with full pleasure in lovemaking or coming to a climax. He had many years of no sex with his wife. I believe it was a 14 year period without much love. He turned to porn which is somewhat understandable. He also cheated on her with a lady of the evening )he states one time and I don’t believe that). He said he turned to porn. Then he would watch it to relax and fall asleep. Soon he got into the habit. After I met him I slowly learned about this. He would lie to me and say he gave it up , but I’d catch him watching it and one time I saw it all over his phone. He said he’d go to counseling and he never did. It was sad because he’d spend his lunch breaks at work watching it. He’s wake up in the middle of the night and he’d watch it. He’d take his phone into the bathroom and shower with it. He’d go outside to do chores with his phone. anyway, I contacted a counselor for him and they explained to me about a process addiction. I think some guys do it every now and then and couples perhaps are ok with it. For me, it was excess to say the least and clearly disturbed the peace in our relationship. I wasn’t mad about it. More sad

It is hard being a Leo and dating!! Always be you!! I love how the human brain works and what makes people tick!! Good luck with the next lucky lady. How was the resturaunt?

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Indeed

Most sensitive/ but sensible Video 📸 I've listened to in years

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Wow, thank you

Jon you are hilarious! You lost your train of thought when you started talking about lubrication, specifically coconut oil. LOL ! Agree with these points about guys needing the emotional connection in the intimate relationship.

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Lol 😆

It’s difficult for them with ED I have seen the shame that it brings. I think loving someone is important. But yes the emotional connection is just so so important. I have the Gottmans book they are great. I agree with 100% you need to be able to talk about it. Thank you for this discussion we need to speak about sex. I think I have someone coming along who knows me so well, I know I can trust him.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Agreed 👍🏼

💜 Your " Dating Oath " and Being True to Self. A-g-r-e-e with the Way YOU Think !!👍🏻

My partner and I feel especially blessed with each other. He is 56 I’m 52. It’s the best sex we’ve ever had our whole life. We are so connected. We do have a couple changes physically as I’m in perimenopausal but we are attracted to each other that those changes don’t affect us we seem to flow. We have also grown over the last two years through a crap load of issues and are more intimately connected emotionally then before but the sex was always amazing and seems to only get better.

Testing for testosterone both total and free testosterone is key. You stated you were in the middle of normal range. Total or free? More than one test is required on HRT. Usually estrogen levels along with testosterone.

I think having great sex is so important. I like being open and talking about what needs are etc. To me, if two people love each other …what is wrong with expressing it? My guy was so hooked on porn that he got ED from too much masturbation with porn. Ridiculous Needless to say we didn’t make it

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Exactly

@Portia620

2 ай бұрын

Get rid of porn and he would fix it!

@Obtlgw

2 ай бұрын

@@Portia620 I agree. He needed to stop that shit and get help and you’re right …the addiction and process of it can be fixed with counseling. Makes me sick. So many addicted. Sad deal. He was actually a good guy but he had a problem. I’m upset with him for not working on it

I would never marry anyone until I see if the sex is good.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

I understand

@rtmclean2763

2 ай бұрын

Unstandable, the confusing thing about this is I thought men reject women with high body counts and how many partners should a woman let "test" her to see if good enough to commit or marry 🤔 Would a man be ok finding out a woman has been tested by 100 partners per month🤔😎

@patriotliberty3070

2 ай бұрын

Yesssssss🔥🔥👏👏👏💯💯💯💯

@ForeverTogether219

Ай бұрын

Well 😂

@ForeverTogether219

Ай бұрын

@@rtmclean2763 So that’s 3.2 times a day? Hmmmm…I would say She Must Be working A job or a Porn Star 🌟 😂🥇😂🤣😅✌️🤷🏻‍♀️

I haven’t had sex in 6 years. I love sex!! I have been very very stressed due the loss of family members. I miss it now, finally.

@lesliestewart6239

2 ай бұрын

It''s been 4.5 years for me, the longest I've gone ever and can't believe it...I'm with you! I'm sorry for losses...,i've had a very tough handful of years too

@Connie-B

Ай бұрын

@@lesliestewart6239 It's been over 20 years since I've had sex and I loved sex as well..I haven't even made out with anyone. Was in a bad marriage for the most part and he wasn't interested in anyone but himself sexually and so I just shut down.Stress is a sex killer too. He recently passed a few months ago and my sex drive has come back with a vengeance LOL No one around that I want to be with. Don't know which is worse.

i haven't had sex for a loooong time, i don't know what to do. and i miss that.

@Portia620

2 ай бұрын

I hear you! 😂😂 I’m like so deprived!

Most men at age 60 only have 20% of the testosterone levels they had in their 20s. Lack of testosterone is usually associated with lack of libido. Women too. ED is an issue that is not necessarily related to low testosterone.

@JonathonAslay

2 ай бұрын

Yes, it can be a blood flow problem