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@peacefulloveagain4124

3 күн бұрын

I am very sorry about your loss of your son. He is with you :)!

I love having a playful attitude towards intimacy. Nothing like flirting way before hand, grabbing each other and teasing

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

Amen 🙏

@ForeverTogether219

2 күн бұрын

@@Obtlgw Life can be Fun with the Right Partner 🤗💯

More Importantly.....What do Women consider great sex....that's the important question.

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

Yes it is...

@soozt828

2 күн бұрын

​@@JonathonAslayMy apologies Jonathan for not listening to your entire video...I have now and wish to thank you for being such a sensitive, intelligent person.🙏

@hybridangel3403

2 күн бұрын

I can't answer for every woman but I know what I like.

@lisao6928

22 сағат бұрын

@@soozt828 I would say if you take care of her pleasure before yours, you will do great. And foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. Women need foreplay and it will be enjoyable for you, too.

My guy was addicted badly to porn and it ruined him. ED…didn’t want regular love making . His wife died but they were married for a long time in a loveless marriage. I felt sorry for him because that’s when he was drawn to porn. She had literally told him to go find it elsewhere as she wasn’t gonna touch him. After 14 years of porn …I felt sorry for him , but I asked him to get counseling and he wouldn’t go. I stayed in the relationship for a year and hoped we could Heal from this but it didn’t happen. He was a selfish lover, lied about it, cheated in his past. I never could trust him. Good guy but I wanted a healthy and normal sex life and didn’t want to compete with a fake movie or see him choose that BS over sexy/fun me!! It was hurtful especially because I’m loving and open and truly enjoy it!

@victoriaboster1177

3 күн бұрын

@@Obtlgw I’m so sorry you got mixed up with him but you might step back and reconsider your definition of “good guy”.

@Obtlgw

3 күн бұрын

@@victoriaboster1177 you’re absolutely right. I’m too generous with the good guy comments because a good guy would have not been a Cheater and would Have resolved his stuff and agreed to get help from the get go!! You’re so right!! Thank you for sharing

@gayleneflower398

2 күн бұрын

Same

@Leila2023_

2 күн бұрын

@@Obtlgw i told my ex the same thing. that happens when the man is just using a woman for sex but totally out of touch on her feelings... he was probably using her as an object and she got fed up so said just go find something or someone else and stop bothering me. were they just together for the kids?

@Obtlgw

2 күн бұрын

@@Leila2023_ I think so. Very religious !! My guess is she knew he was a pervert and was disgusted by it. Probably knew he cheated. He asked her to do the porn with him and she wanted nothing to do with it

How about what makes a man be a stand up partner in every way? Let’s discuss THIS for a change!

I'm sorry for your loss. You're a good man and obviously a loving father.

My lover is soooo considerate he always makes sure that my pleasure is first and foremost and he keeps himself clean down below.

@karinesavard2016

2 күн бұрын

Yes, very important, good point. Especially for oral sex!! 🙈

@ForeverTogether219

2 күн бұрын

Hey that’s important N you both can shower together…. When you feel comfortable.. A lot things can happen in the shower 😅💯

My heart goes out to you, in enduring the loss of your son. Thank you for your work. I'm 70; what I learned growing up was: females NEVER talk about sex except the terror of unwanted pregnancy; "nice girls don't like to;" and "nice girls only want to get married and have babies." I quickly knew I wasn't a "nice girl." Everything we were taught was one big mental clitoridectomy to keep us "chaste." My own sexual pleasure is now better than ever. Would love to be part of a loving partnership again. I felt so safe and free with my late mate, I had more joy with him than with everyone else put together. We met in our early 50s, were experiencing arthritis and ED, so part of our sex was delicious pleasure sharing and the other part, raucous laughter. I discovered right before I met him that I'm partly submissive, love being dominated. Sex is magnificent AND hilarious. We treated our relationship like a lust laboratory, experimenting. We enjoyed it all.

Do people often ask how your son died? I lost my 42 year old son 5 years ago, and most people put a stigma on my son when I tell them how...A lost is a lost no matter how, it's too bad most people don't understand that. Grief is grief no matter how

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

Yes and I'm so sad to hear about your loss. You are in my prayers 🙏

Emotional bond and the power of touch. Explore your lover ,whisper sweet somethings into his ear .Ease his mind ladies.

@ForeverTogether219

2 күн бұрын

@@user-wz3ex7of5x Yeah . Yes … 🙌

I have to disagree with you on the woman who asked if she should oblige after her partner takes a blue pill without asking her my reason is in NZ we did a huge survey about womens sex lives over 50 I was involved as at the time I was a nurse we got so many replies from women stating that their partners took the pill and then coerced their partners into sex if these women said no they were bullied about the cost of the pill and what a waste of money there should always be consent that guys being a creep and his partner should never feel obligated that has lead to many divorces

@JonathonAslay

2 күн бұрын

I agree a person should never be bullied into anything.

@sabbathfaith879

Күн бұрын

@@Sharon-777 seriously sex is important in marriages and women who feel like it's too much work to satisfy their husbands sexual needs should pack and go be single. Why get married if you ain't planning on having a lot of sex? Make it make sense 😁

Playful, appreciation for physical intimacy. Yes! I am so privileged!

Here in Australia, Alcohol abuse is a huge thing & it definitely adds to ED Sadly

@travelchannel304

4 сағат бұрын

Good ol' whiskey D. Not!

My partner's ex didn't do things he wanted so when we did it he was blown away.

It's hard to admit to ourselves that our own sexuality has changed over the years. We then have to accept that our partner's sexuality has also changed as they've matured. Lots of tiptoeing around egos. It's extra hard when one or both partners have been celibate for an extended period.

Short Answer: Having it at all.

54 year old woman here. Got into a relationship with a 35 year guy old and was the best sex of my life. I experienced female ejaculation for the first time with him and it was the most shocking thing. Had NO idea about it before. And trust me, I had had my share of dating and relationships over the decades. Apparently, some dude taught my man how to do that when he was in jail for DUI. LOL

@gloriathompson4010

3 сағат бұрын

Female ejucalation?

Thank you to cover ED . At 66 I learned that toys can joyfully be perfect combo for both can find a full sexual life

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

Indeed

@lisao6928

22 сағат бұрын

Toys and go down

Several weeks in and all he ever texted was "How was your day", "What did you have for dinner?" and weather updates. I texted that I'd like to talk about other topics so that we could make a connection. He never responded. I reached out. He completely ghosted me. Oh well .......

@Sunlightsam24

3 күн бұрын

How annoying…I would suggest considering not responding to nonsense like that. Give it 3 back and forths and if it isn’t moving forward, stop responding

@kelligray1848

2 күн бұрын

I’m so excited to have sex with my partner. We are both 54 and are waiting. It makes us excited . We don’t have a timeline.

@michellem8284

2 күн бұрын

@@Sunlightsam24 I reached out 2x and was done. Not a big deal, just disappointing.

@lisao6928

22 сағат бұрын

Not worth your time then

Fascinating topic . 👍

I’ve been a recruiter for decades & have acquired skills in getting people to open up about themselves. Granted the conversations are not emotionally deep but I’ve used those skills to help me get to know men I date.

Processed food would be bad

I like the play on words HARD ON MEN LOL TOO TOO FUNNY😂

Put on some Barry White and game on! Lol

Neverending sex is the best😊 when there is a loop, a circle of desires and emotions and intimacy and playful acts.. it isthe best.

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

Indeed

You are spot on.

Dead pool is my most loved love story😊 such a good hour getting ready for work this morning, thanks!

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

Me too... I live their story 💖

Yes, it's resonating. Thanks.

not all men care about oral... my ex was a giver not a reciever. i thought it was amazing but after 10 years anything gets boring. my new lover is a reciever not a giver and i love it, mainly because it's so different. I'm in france. yes tinder dates sex is expected quickly, if not they feel rejected... my ex says he doesn't really care about recieving oral mainly because it's quite dissapointing or frustrating, he's just not into it. i think the feeling of being dominating, and if a man enjoys dominating or not makes a big difference. dominating men generally enjoy oral sex more. that's what I've noticed.

@ParisianThinker

3 күн бұрын

I live in France where I won’t date anyone French. They are totally broke in every way.

THANK YOU SO MUCH!! Yes!! All you say here is really helpful and worth to investigate specially about Tantric sex which is much more than one can understand at first glance or judgment and Ignorance will permit. Love & Light 🙏🏻🌸🕊️🌈💞❤️‍🔥

Good video and information. Esther Perel states uncertainty and newness drive sexual attraction (continuity/satisfaction). As with most things, I think Complacency breeds dissatisfaction.

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

Indeed

So many things I would love to comment on as I'm listening! I will say that my heart goes out to you in your loss. My loss was different, but on August 2nd, it will have been 23 yrs since I delivered my son, just before 20 wks. It still hurts to this day. We never get over the loss of a child at any stage, but time does lesson the sting to a degree. It is life changing, and I am sorry. Praying for you.

@ParisianThinker

3 күн бұрын

Even more difficult to loose a wonderful husband of 38 years 6 months ago. 😢

@shawndahennesayd.c.7499

3 күн бұрын

@@ParisianThinker I'm so sorry

Men learn what pleases you by your reactions. Men like to do what works. Show them what feels good. Ask them how you can pleasure them. Focus on the positive . I love it when you do that. Not a complaint. Focus on the pleasure of the moment.

Yes practice practice practice

The 1st book I read about sex was "Xaviera Hollander's The Happy Hooker" and it was loaded with the best info on technique, descriptions and all the while laughing, enjoying and having a genuinely great time having sex! And it all really works whenever I've been in sexual mode! I think this book is timeless and when in doubt, whip it out! 😉👍❤️

@JonathonAslay

3 сағат бұрын

Oh yeah... I remember that one.

I thought that after five years it would get better not worse. Porn or maybe he was gay? I thought we had a close relationship. I think he was an avoidant. Very heartbreaking for me.

@gayleneflower398

2 күн бұрын

Some books or videos to see would be helpful. There’s no way I can compete with porn.

Ooooh beach lover...that could so be it!!!

Schahrzad Morgan mentioned you in one of her videos lol

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

What did she say?

@jcool4358

Күн бұрын

It was good because you had deep feelings for her. Good sex has to do with how much we deeply care for a person.

I am in a LDR and we have a lot of conversations about sex. Really anything. And we are a complete match when we see each other physically. There’s no subject that is off limits. We also don’t pressure each other. My man is French by the way. And a squirt is a urine. It is possibly has to do full bladder and uterus tilt.

@nancytaylor8392

Күн бұрын

It may have some urine in it but it is not just urine and you need to be rubbed just right on your gspot to squirt. It is from your skein glans.

@UrsaBella

23 сағат бұрын

@@nancytaylor8392 in my opinion squirts don’t exist. It is a creation of porno industry and sex « therapists » for views and extra bucks.

@RubGoddess

23 сағат бұрын

Not true do some studying there are you tube videos

@christinaeager4418

19 сағат бұрын

I thought an LDR meant a Latter Day Saint and I laughed so hard at my mistaken thought. 😂😂😂

How was the sex with your last partner?

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

Out of respect for her, that's private... all I can say is I was pleased.

Henry C. Yes!!! I was a virgin at 18 and i learned about sex from the book The Art and Science of Sex. It was explicit and factual! I only had sex with one man once, that i never gave another chance!! It was wham, bam, thank you mam, with absolutely no foreplay!! This guy was in his 40's--old enough to know better!!! I think sex gets boring cause life gets in the way. For women there are children to raise, pressures at work, and housework. Men have to worry about work performance and sexual performance, and father performance!! Thats probably why vacation sex is so good--no worries and time for sex!

Mentioning David Deida's book for you. Also, the 2 divorced men are probably not having amazing sex post marriage - is what it is - women don't need sex like men do. James Bond seems VERY masculine..like he puts off that manly vibe..he wouldn't be pouty or whiney if he didn't get sex..he would move to the next one.

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

Yes they are...

@peacefulloveagain4124

3 күн бұрын

@@JonathonAslay how many years has it been? like one comment u noted: why does it get boring (like we have to do role play..etc..bc it gets boring...I say even if ur in luv....bc it's expected by men and we get nagged if they don't get it like pouty complainers.

ED that's most men issues that's why they need attractive young women 😊. However there are men who want to stimulate their mind not just the eyes though attraction is very important but again if we want long term relationship attraction is not the only basis or should not be the reason why we want relationship. I remember my mother told me once sex is important part of men's life because it what's they feel alive, they feel young, they feel desired and wanted. My crush is Daniel Craig 😊 sorry Rachel Weisz .😊 If we are in a relationship we need to give what each other's needs 😊

@ellamorani5327

3 күн бұрын

Can you please explain more about it? Was it a men who told you this about his ED cuz there are also many attractiv women who are 40. What is the diffrence between stimulating the eyez and mind? Maby it is an excuse for not to deal with his ED but blaming the women for it.

@zensvlognotapro

2 күн бұрын

@@ellamorani5327 yeah I heard from some men..some by jokes some by the nearest relatives . Some people open up to people they know or they're comfortable with.

@zensvlognotapro

2 күн бұрын

@@ellamorani5327 some ppl stimulate through eyes by looks mind by their intellect .

@zensvlognotapro

2 күн бұрын

​@@ellamorani5327Yeah over 40 women are attractive also not only by their looks , but by their characters and experiences. Relationship is partnership it's not one - way street.

@ellamorani5327

2 күн бұрын

@@zensvlognotapro At 40 testostoron is decreasing in men and just a small amout of men over 40 has access to young attractic girls. This means most of these men has no other choice than to have Sex with a women who is not there type so what means they cant balance out there ED with a young attractiv girl so only with medicine like viagra. Does this make sense to you?

See a chiropractor on a regular basis - no joke

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

Why?

@timothybrown6790

3 күн бұрын

@@JonathonAslay so you don't throw your back out during sex

@RubGoddess

23 сағат бұрын

​@@JonathonAslaynervous system always good... Those low back nerves go to the 🍆

Johnathan, you need to talk about the female sex drive and how it takes a nose dive in long term relationships, that is why woman stop having sex, familiarity breeds lower sex drive for woman, the more they are in relationships the more they cant be bothered. Look at work from ester perell. Male and female sex drive is different have someone on who speaks on this. Ive been in a six year relationship mines fantastic because we see each other once a week, it breeds excitement, if i saw him everyday, i dont think id feel the same way. Men dont work like this they will sleep with you anywhere and anytime. Speak on it as i think its important to understand why woman go off sex.

@seadragon1456

3 күн бұрын

My husband works out of the country every other 30 days. When he comes home I’m totally into him but after a couple weeks I’m good. I’ve been married to the man since I was 19 and I’m 30 now. I totally under what you’re saying but it gets old after 10 years. I stay in the gym so my husband stays attracted to me but he doesn’t put in work in to stay fit and he doesn’t stimulate my mind. He gets a hot wife and I get a boring husband.😅 but hey… he pays the bills and the kids get sports opportunities.

@Prophecyofthedragon93

3 күн бұрын

Thanks for the honesty lol

@Miriam-ul4ke

3 күн бұрын

@@seadragon1456 i agree with you, im better looking than my partner, but he pays for everything and is 6ft4 so i think money makes him better looking. 💰💰💰💰 But yeah, its important to understand its normal for woman to go off sex, we are more emotional and not stimulated the same way men are.

@Leila2023_

3 күн бұрын

@@Miriam-ul4ke disagree... i think men also lose desire quickly from cohabiting. i saw this with all my couple friends and myself... imo the only way to hold onto desire longterm is to never cohabit.

@Sharon-777

2 күн бұрын

Yes after 20 yrs I was bored he put no effort sexually or any other way I tried to make things better for years I had no interest and left him he was shocked I've seen this alot men being surprised their wives leave they've been telling you for years they are not happy and you call it nagging and dismiss it

David Data wrote book empowered lover

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

Oh yeah...

@TheRealDeal130

3 күн бұрын

Deida not Data

Thanks!

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

WOW, thank you so much 💖 🙏🫂

Sexual Kung Fu guy Jonathan White has great "rebuilding life force" for men! ! Its very good info!! Tantra.

ED homeopathic HGH that I take is great for that

Are you familiar with sacred sex?

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

Yes

David Data

@JonathonAslay

3 сағат бұрын

David Deida

Dvid Data

But you also coach that you don’t just give out as a women because it demeans. Devalues us as women. But then men our age can’t even get it. Jonathon you know how much I love you. How much I watch your videos. But this is confusing me.

❤😊

❤

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

💖

Lol

This man is single Hos he can help one not being single?!

@JonathonAslay

3 күн бұрын

And?