Thanks Nick! I truly look forward to all your emails & videos too! Thanks for all you do it’s very much appreciated.

@TheFriendlyMind

9 күн бұрын

You're very welcome :)

Nick this video is just what I needed. I thank God I found your channel. Thank you for all you do.

@TheFriendlyMind

9 күн бұрын

I'm so glad :)

Your videos and articles should be viewed by more people Nick, you do very quality content. I learned from you a lot, thank you!

@TheFriendlyMind

2 күн бұрын

That's very kind :)

Thank you, Nick! 👍Your videos are very helpful with excellent actionable steps for our bad moods. 1.Inventory your bad mood triggers 2.Acknowledge your difficult emotions early 3.Let go of self pity

@TheFriendlyMind

2 күн бұрын

You're welcome!

I’ve been a subscriber for quite a while but this is the first time I’ve listened to a video. I really appreciated what you said. I would also say regret plays a role in self-pity and can result in a sense of feeling stuck and heightening a bad mood. I find it is only when I face why I am feeling this way and come to terms with it that I can switch off the bad mood.

@TheFriendlyMind

9 күн бұрын

Good point about regret!

Thanks . Your video put me in a good mood !

@TheFriendlyMind

9 күн бұрын

A happy unintended consequence :)

Congrats Nick ! I love the last part on self-pity, great segment ! ❤

@TheFriendlyMind

9 күн бұрын

Thank you, Michel!

I’ve noticed that I seem to fall into a bad mood much easier than I ever did, Nothing in the world seems to work properly anymore, and that makes me so mad, it seems every way we look and no matter how hard we try things still happen , there’s no avoiding that , I think the self pity bit relates to me , ie why do things never work out and why me

Excellent!

@TheFriendlyMind

2 күн бұрын

Thanks!

Thank you

Thank you fvery much or this helpful tips!!

@TheFriendlyMind

2 күн бұрын

You bet!

Thank you, Nick. I appreciate your content very much. It’s uniquely helpful in today’s world. What a gift!

@TheFriendlyMind

9 күн бұрын

You're very welcome :)

Thank you for all you do. Question: what to do if your trigger is a spouse or life partner?

@nirnos

10 күн бұрын

Id say to write down the specific situations (assuming they’re not triggering by just existing haha) and see if you can find a pattern. Perhaps also see what emotions get triggered with you and if you can do any work on your side to better cope with those emotions. I’d suggest you to look for more nuances and challenge the statement that your partner is triggering and try and think of it as in, I get triggered by my partner in x and y situations when they do or say a and b. Then I feel, x, y, z. And see how you can self take responsibility for your own emotions and be assertive to your partner of what you need from them in these situations. And from there see if they are willing to provide that. Such hard work and lots of self awareness needed - wishing you all the best and hoping you’ll get treated better, you deserve that!

@nirnos

10 күн бұрын

Curious about Nick’s professional reply though! These are just some of my 8 year therapy learnings and so much more to practice and learn still haha

@TheFriendlyMind

9 күн бұрын

I'd say a person can't really be a trigger. Instead, I'd try to look at it in terms of behavior... What are the specific behaviors they do that you find upsetting? Once you get a better sense for this, you can work on both the cognitive side (how you interpret what they do and what kinds of mental behaviors you engage in when they do them-rumination, for example) and the behavioral side via assertiveness (being more assertive about what you will and will not tolerate and what your actions will be if they do something upsetting. Lots in there, obviously!

Waiting for timestamps sir from so long

@kcampos5619

10 күн бұрын

Sir or Madam: have you considered making your own timestamps? It would not take long on a 15-minute video, and YOU could post them for everyone to enjoy. Just curious.