10 Questions to ask in the early stages of dating - [ ] What does he want out of this relationship serious or casual? - [ ] What happened in his last relationship and why did they break up? - [ ] Does he want children or looking to have more and how many? - [ ] What is his financial situation? - [ ] And what are the expectations on finances as a couple? talk about your contribution too. - [ ] What is his relationship with his family, parents and siblings? - [ ] Are his family going to be an issue? You need to be prepared and know what you’re walking into. That includes baby mamas. - [ ] Where does he see himself in the next 5/10 years? What are his ambitions and dreams? - [ ] Is he open to relocating to another country if need be? - [ ] Who are his friends? and request to meet them. - [ ] What are the things he will not compromise on, everyone has deal breakers! Believe him when he says it and do not try to convince him otherwise after the fact when you guys are married. - [ ] How important is sex to him and will he be prepared to wait while you take your time to access the relationship. Hold on to the cookies 🍪 for now! 😃

@megayummyrockstar

Жыл бұрын

This is as a really good one… keep guiding us u beautiful earth Angel 😇 Asanté Aunty 🙌🏾

@judithsandy9101

Жыл бұрын

Fumi, beautiful as always.

@dorcaskay3477

Жыл бұрын

Awesome points

@simplysony7308

Жыл бұрын

Love you fumi Being inspiring Have a blessed day 🙏🏾 🌟

@kiskibella

Жыл бұрын

Awwwwww Fumi! Merci beaucoup! You’re wonda-ful! Bizoux

Just today I let two men down gently on the online dating site, because they were not answering the question on what happened in their last relationship and what their good and lesser charactertraits were. So ... bye bye. I saved this episode and will revisit it a lot. Love from Belgium.

@melissastephens2223

Жыл бұрын

Ask them in person! This way you can see there reaction..it’s too easy to lie and hide behind a text❤️

@greenbutterfly2421

Жыл бұрын

Ah mellisa you are right, in person you can see how someone reacts to a question, can give you some insight.

@vincyspice1

Жыл бұрын

They haven't ended their last / current relationship. That's why they struggling.

@dr-k1667

Жыл бұрын

Hey good for you. If they can't even write about it... then imagine how they would avoid talking face to face. Next! You'll find someone who not only has the answers to your questions they will be glad you asked!

@vincyspice1

Жыл бұрын

@@soulovelee_2433 I'm speaking of experience 😂😂. An Ex did that to me, while we were in a relationship he approached my friend online (dating app), he didn't know she was my friend, but i had previously shared his pic. She told me he approached her online, I told her to ask him why his last relationship ended.....he skipped that question and would change the subject.

No one ever sat me down to tell me how important it is to ask these questions & it’s resulted in me getting into relationships blindly and for the wrong reasons, even at this age.🤦🏾‍♀️ I got out of one some weeks back & I can already see lots of reasons why the relationship failed & areas where I went wrong. I have to be able to answer these questions myself too. It’s not just for him. I have a lot of work to do on myself. I also have to prepare to become a high value & virtuous women just like I’d like my future husband to be. Thank you so much, mummy Fumi. This video has helped me much more than you can imagine.❤️

@gjohnson5960

Жыл бұрын

Ditto@66

@dorothymatthews6690

5 ай бұрын

So happy for you that you saw the truth!

My husband and I have 5 kids and i can agree with everything you've said. On the topic of sex, quickies are there for a reason! You have en suites, pantries, and closets for a reason. Y'all better put on paw patrol and make it happen for 15 min.

@amberd5318

Жыл бұрын

I love this! I'm single, in my mid-forties, my kids are grown and I now have grandbabies. Despite all of this, I fully agree with this! Keep passion alive!

First time I noticed you didn't put the lady waking gif in these Sister2Sister talks. I agree with Ole about keeping Adrian out of the spotlight. Protect his privacy.

I had to rewind! "The marriage will TEST the both of you. WORD! Babes !!! Please listen to her ! The marriage will test you both. Make sure you are doing marriage with someone that can stand by you!!!!

Aunty Fumi is really helping us out here. And her lipstick matches her dress so it's a win-win!

@justinaabubakar3448

Жыл бұрын

Yeah 😅

Am dressing up for a date and just got the notification of this video oh my gosh just at the right time thank you Fumi ❤❤

OMG talking about relocate I remember when one guy I dated told me that as soon as we get married I should be ready to move to the rural with his mother. I did the best ran as fast as I could and never looked back.

@nancysamuel9530

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@Claraberl

20 күн бұрын

😂😂

Botswana 🇧🇼 in the building

@joycestyleofcooking

Жыл бұрын

I could listen to you all day long and I don't get bored of your impeccable knowledge 👌 Thanks for sharing 👍 Nice work Fumination 👍

@bonitakradikeledi4792

Жыл бұрын

Re mmogo

I agree...about Adrienne being on social media...too many children on social media. I also requested the same don't put my children (our) children on social media.

Knowing his family and some hidden baby mama is very important 👌👌❤️❤️❤️

Fumi, could we possibly have a set of questions for us older folks who are dating and looking for that life partner? I just turned 60 and looking towards planning my retirement so many of these questions aren’t relevant for me. Dating is so difficult for all ages. I love watching you with all of your wisdom and knowledge. Thank you!

@FumiDesaluVold

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely my love, I dated and got married when I was older too. 😃 60 is still relatively young considering that we’re living longer into our 90’s, so yes! I’ll absolutely have an episode for you soon.

@debbiebarrow7557

Жыл бұрын

@@FumiDesaluVold Look forward to it 🙏💜💯🔥

@verydark..1988

Жыл бұрын

Fumi...you are an 😇

@cynthiaedwards3716

Жыл бұрын

I'm a sixties lady also. I'm so afraid of being hurt. When I meet men my age, they're so immature to the point I don't even want to date anymore. I don't want to be alone the rest of my life, but at the same time I'm tired of being disappointed with the losers I'm meeting. Any advice Ms. Fumi???

@Mrstookie101

Жыл бұрын

Yes. 52 yo and oh how dating has change! I’m not sure where to begin

Fumi I love you, but this is far away from what a relationship wants to be nice and lovely… I’ m really huge fan of you! I m married with my husband from 2009 and I did all of these questions! He gave me answers and I thought that he was the perfect one! He wanted two kids (he build a house with three bedrooms) and when the economic crises came, he barely wanted one. He was successful businessman with passion, and his job destroyed. He never gave up and he’s doing another job but it was a mess for a while. He had beautiful relationship with his family and his parents were so sweet until they moved near us when I gave birth my child. But I love him and all these stuff gave me the begging of finding my strength (I was very quiet person). So all of these questions are a little easy and easy to change. When you met someone the only question that should ask is by yourself. When the situation changes, will you care enough for him/her to carry on?

@matildaaninwaa

Жыл бұрын

Thank you

I’m soo obsessed with this lady wow

I'm living for your laugh miss Fumi. It's so contagious, so refreshing

I’m learning so much & leveling up in my dating life, thanks to you Fumi. Love from Uganda🇺🇬

@jacintabasemera6777

Жыл бұрын

Me too.. same country as you Leila..@ Fumi is blessing us ladies big...

@verydark..1988

Жыл бұрын

Mugyebale ko banyabo hihihi with love from Australia!

@graceamanyo7740

Жыл бұрын

Me too from uganda

@violaatuheire7845

Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤ 🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬

@ayebareemily4491

Жыл бұрын

Naye banae 😂 Happy to meet you all fumination UG.

How did I not find your channel sooner. I subscribed to you only a few weeks ago and I love every single bit about you. What a beautiful and wise and amazing woman you are. I needed this. So glad I found you!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰

Always good to see you Ms Fumi! God bless you

Wish I had found you when I was in my twenties, thirties! Love you.

I absolutely love, Love, LOVE your confidence! 💃 And, you are VERY insightful about the issues of life in terms of relationships. I am 55 and never married. I've made ALL of the mistakes in relationships, and I've ignored ALL of the red flags (even the FLAMING flags that were burning bright red, yellow and orange)! 😥 🔥🚩 🔥 I know that I am wiser, stronger and better because of my past experiences, but sometimes I briefly reflect on the fact that, as a result of my own choices, I had to learn so many life lessons the hard way! The good news is that I acknowledged then separated myself from the toxicity I allowed in my life, and now my heart is open to begin a life with the man for which God has prepared me! 🤴👸 Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I'll be watching! 🤗

Fumi you are so inspirational🙏🏾 thank you for sharing your wisdom with us!

Her laugh is my favorite thing ever

The way I listened and hang on to every word, you would think I'm in a classroom prepping for an exam. Well said aunty fumi. Thank you!

Notification gang ....tuning in from South Africa

Spectacular as always! ❤️ 💋Excellent questions. When I was single I went on a couple of dates with a gentleman from the Middle East. On the 2nd date we somehow got on the topic of children. Although it wasn’t my situation, I was curious so I asked him if he would consider marriage to a woman with children. He very quickly, and firmly answered that if he wanted to marry her she would have to give up the children because he could never accept another man’s children. Needless to say, it was our last date.

I asked a guy all those questions, and in the end, it was nothing but lies. I asked him how many women he had been with a lie, what happened in his last relationship lie, what his future goal lie, and how can he know if you are with a liar; but also, I was young and very naive. But I have learned. So thank you for this advice.

Thank you Fumi, your wisdom and dating gems are the best! I love watching and learning from you! God bless and keep the great content coming! ♥️

Fantastic video full of great advice. Thank you Fumi! Loving this wave of dating advice videos and all of them have great messages on how to manage yourself, stay emotionally safe as well as give yourself the best chance to find a suitable partner and sort the chaff from the wheat at the very least! My friends and I are eating up this content and implementing tips and reviewing results. My most recent date was pretty fun because I just felt more confident about asking questions about important things early. You are quite right, seeing how a guy responds is insightful and it is letting me see a bit more clearly who is and is not open to dating seriously. Loving the content and the way you express the key issues and ways to work through is absolutely my cup of tea. Your examples certainly have us girls giggling in awe and recognition. Many thanks as always and have a beautiful week to you and your family 💜 🔥 💫

Fabulous auntie Fumi❤

Thank you so much for the tips Fumi. Looking lovely as usual. Love the lipstick and the dress.

Thank you so much for what you do and who you are, Fumi. It builds my mind

I wish you, your husband, and child much love, health, & wealth. You bring light and value into this world. Hugs

@jeaneevap7571

Жыл бұрын

Amen!

Thank you so much for these tips aunty Fumi

Ms. Fumi! So happy to find this chat! It was a godsend and very authentic take, from a woman's experience, in comparison to the frequent male relationship coach advise. Very good, I appreciate this. 🙏🏽 looking for more of your chats!

PREACH AUNT FUNMI!!! PREACH ON 🙏❤️😍

Thoroughly Enjoyable! I LIVE! 💯💖

Love the hair accessory 👌🏾

Hey Fumi love all the advice totally agree ❣️

Girl I love your advice and your personality. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences.

So much wisdom and practical advice! Thank you🤗

Thank you sister Fumi. Awesome video

Fumi love the make this week!!! On point!!

You hit the nail on the head with this topic.

Really needed this thank you fumi ❤️

Great list, Fumi. I guess the question I have is, how to know if you are in a relationship? That's for my single and looking sisters. These questions shouldn't be asked on the first date. A lot of these questions were revealed without me asking early on before we were in a commited relationship. I saw that the man I met had a good job, a home, and two automobiles. He introduced me to his (one) son, family, and friends, so I didn't have to ask. No baby mama drama here. My situation is different because I met my husband 37 years ago. I don't recall any guidelines for dating at the time. Thank you for providing some. Some couples meet in college where you can see where his career is going just like your mother did. Good for Mother. You made good points on children, religion, politics, finance, potential, and sex. Everything should be on the table so both people know what the other is bringing to the table. You have to be on the same page to have a solid foundation going forward together. We have to remember that everything that glitters isn't gold, even though the man passes the question stage of the relationship. What people say and what they do are two different things. Thank you for another informative video. ❣️

@Victoria-tk5qx

Жыл бұрын

Fumi, this was awesome, thank you 😊

Thanks Fumi!!! 💚💚

That was very good information Fumi. Thank you.

You are indeed a friend in a mother. Your advise is based on your experiences. Love you aunt Fumi.

My sister/auntie in my head, thank you so much for the pointers auntie fumi .

Sending love. Thanks for your advice.

This is perfect. We made a year and some life changing things are about to happen. I have questions and this vid has more to ask that I didn't think of! Thank you.

You are so beautiful and you are such an inspiration. God bless you every day Queen Fumi!!

Thank you 💕 so much,I enjoyed it ❤

Beautiful! Loving the look and advice 😘

EXCELLENT ADVICE , NO LIES DETECTED!

Love this video. All these questions I use in my vetting process.

Great questions to ask! Amen

Once a again great content,love the questions. Very informative. ❤️

Thank you sister Fumi, you are the best

Thank you for this information. ❤️❤️

Auntie Fumi 💕🎉🥰 This was the best!!! Cut & Dry… straight to the point and so relatable 🤩 Thank you 🙏🏿

I love this episode. You are so young but you make me think of my mother. When I was a young teenager my mother spoke directly, truthfully and wisely as do you. My mother died in 2015, I miss her sorely. I am 68 years old and I made a good choice when I married because of my wise mother's words and my ability to listen. I am glad the young women have you to watch and listen to.

Well said dear,Blessings!

Excellent! Thank you so much!

Fumi thanks so much. You are such a blessing, an angel in disguise 👌👌👌❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Looking fab Fumi!! 💖💖💖

You're an awesome advisor Fumi. I appreciate your advise..

Aunty fumi. Thanks for the amazing tips.

Ohhh darling these streets are rough on us just praying we find love and it all works out for all of us 🙏❤️ thank you Fumi❤️

Good information!!! Thank you!!! 💗💗💗

Thank you for the gems you gave us!!

I love these questions and I am definitely going to ask them,thank you so much auntie Fumi💐💐❤️❤️🙏

Great information fumi....thanks

Lipstick, blush, blouse/dress, and flower headband is absolutely gorgeous on you! Our deep chocolate skin makes bright colors POP!!!! Thanks for the tips! Wish I would of found you 5 yrs ago! All is well tho.

Fumi my big sister 🌸💕 thank you for these talks.

This was a very good episode. You are just amazing!

May God bless you Aunty Fumi

Wow this is so practical and deep. Thank you for being sincere.

I love you, Fumi and all the topics. Stay Fabulous, My Love!!!

Ooh my goodness, you’re just amazing🥰. I love love love watching and taking advise from you…thanks for been who you are🙏

Thanks so much Funmi for this segment. Much needed and I’ve made note. I’m 49 never married and dated per se it would be nice to have questions appropriate to our age group if you can. Much appreciated for all the good work you are doing to help us get it right. I like all these questions they are relevant to my situation.

Mama Fumi you never disappoint!!! I’m grateful for you.

Fumi..I LOVE YOUR CRAZY-SWEET DRAMATIC, FUN...PRESENTATIONS!!

Am so happy to listen to this particular Episode of your videos,I really needed this at this point in my life.

Loved it. Thank you

Thank you for this message

Your advice are heartfelt, it's so genuine.💗❤️💗

Once again Auntie Fumi you have brought the right video for me. I'm looking to get back into dating, so will definitely use these. Love your fashion

Thanks so much sis, love this.

Great job Fumi darling, straight from your heart and hour experience.! Thank you, thank you Thank you. Its rare for a you tuber of your amount of subscribers, but you are FUMI!!!!

Love your energy, I find Value in you content. Stupendous job ❤️🙏

Such wonderful information! Thank you ❤🙏🏾

God bless you Aunty Fumi.....

Thank you ma for this wonderful message ❤

Firstly, you look fabulous . Your hair is giving 😘🔥 everything about you is amazing 💯. Then I have died everyday waiting for this particular video. Thank you Fumi🥰

Beautiful Spirit… Glad I found your channel❤️

Auntie Fumi coming through as always with the fabulousness and fabulosity. Fumi you look GREAT! Love everything about you. #fumination ❤❤❤❤❤

Lovee this!! What a Queen. Thank you for making these videos

I'm loving the classic look.