Funi my beloved, Cheyenne Bostock should have a regular on a quarterly or every other month visit. I truly enjoyed his honest insight on what real men do and look for in a mate. Thank you and blessing to the family.

@FumiDesaluVold

Жыл бұрын

@cheyennebostock

@dacallah1

Жыл бұрын

He’s 💯 correct on everything

@nayego4

Жыл бұрын

Yes the truth is soo simple n refreshing . ..loooved him ...its been on replay😍, and yes Fumi has been telling us since day 1..same thing...just next time his volume as he speaks maybe its his speakers needs to be as high as fumi, thank you so much again 😘🤗

@lajuanascruggs3947

Жыл бұрын

Your natural hair is beautiful. Never had that good-looking hair in my life!😁

@irmadiaz5928

Жыл бұрын

Cheyenne Bostock is a true man he gave this lesson to both genders which is a fair inspiration thanks for the opportunity sharing this with both genders, Fumi that's the reason I became one of your subscribers on KZread. Sister's love thank You blessings to you and family 🌟

"If you are a woman, you never depreciate, you always have value!!!"❤‍🔥❤‍🔥❤‍🔥 THANK YOU, Cheyenne!

@eleniprovia7667

Жыл бұрын

Bless this man!

@namsb.5221

Жыл бұрын

That was a complete sermon right there!!

@darnellcollier8391

Жыл бұрын

Amen

@jr9941

Жыл бұрын

Yes, that was the most important takeaway! Love that....❤

"If a guy can play with you, that just means you gave him permission." Ain't that the truth. Hard truth. Appreciate this Aunti Fumi.

@ge3176

Жыл бұрын

I wish I could share this comment with an idiot I foolishly entertained albeit briefly! Dude would speak profanities and in the same breath tell me he would win me to Christ as I was "too much "! Ah!

It's funny how the older I get the more love I have for myself and happy with my single life. I know I'll be married one day but I'm not lonely or feel any type of pressure for a mate. And more importantly I know what type of man I wouldn't tolerate.

@camwil6676

Жыл бұрын

Well said. I feel the same.

@Florencewmb

Жыл бұрын

Glad am not alone feeling this way

I love you Femi...I notice U always refer to women in their 30's, 40's, 50's and that where u stop..U never includes us 60's..we still here and some of us are open to dating❤️

@sherileenlambert2784

Жыл бұрын

💯

@annboston8249

Жыл бұрын

​@@MK-hh1vo ❤

@Liz-ic6jb

Жыл бұрын

She doesn't say 70, 80, 90. Why take it personal because you don't hear your decade? Does it really matter? A senior dating channel will probably mention your decade if you need to hear it.

@jeseka2470

Жыл бұрын

I think it applies to all of us because 20s listen as well. Just use what you can and make it your own.

@deborahcage1885

Жыл бұрын

@Liz it's not that serious lady...its jus a mention...jeez

I'm an independent woman. I believe in bringing my 💯 to the table, however, I believe in the posture of a man opening the door, pulling me towards the inside when we walk. Pay the bill when we go out. But, I agree with what you say, I invited you for coffee, not a meal. Ladies we need to not only hear but listen.

@BlaydeAlabama

Жыл бұрын

Well said

@eleayeproctor9490

Жыл бұрын

You talk about being independent, yet, looking for what seems like a protector. Problem with a number of women, you are too quick to throw out that word, independent. Truth is, most women are and you do not need to state this as it is usually obvious. State what you want from a man without the need to state being independent.

@Ewa_R

Жыл бұрын

I always split the bill with my partner. Can't imagine him paying everytime we go out. We are partners with the same equal responsibilities and this is what makes us both independent.

@Nic2Blk

Жыл бұрын

@@eleayeproctor9490 independent was stated to give context. This is a comment section on YT, so context is necessary because you will never meet this person in life.

I have started growing in fumi nation though 23 yrs, it blessing to me and am happy I have learned how to be myself and don not allow any man to abuse me and waste my time.

Steve Harvey has always stated this, be intentional and the four criteria’s - spiritual maturity, emotional intelligence, financial stability, and health and wellness. I love this collaboration and would love to see more collaborations occasionally, on key life topics.

I'm using this day time 30 min date idea. I literally take myself to fancy dinners, museums, shows, solo vacations and the like. This is the piece that's the great equalizer for me. On my run in the park today I thought how I just want to have a picnic with a nice guy who I like and who likes me. I love myself and treat myself like a Queen! However, a partner would be nice.

An influencer who actually adds my continent to their world tour??? Ughh Fumi you're one in a million😭😭😭😭😭😭😭💘💘💘💘

@misssterling3094

Жыл бұрын

Well, she is Nigerian.

I don't agree with buffer dates/ice cream dates/coffee dates/Cheap dates because that's not the type of man I want. But I do agree with setting a date during the day. Get to know him maximum 2 hours then go straight home after that. Fit and stuff can change so I don't think it's necessary for him to be fit. The mindset of the man is important to me long term.

@nurselora681

Жыл бұрын

It takes me more than 30 mins to get ready I’m not wasting my time making myself presentable for a 30 min meet and great. I can drink coffee at home in my pajamas.

@sbusisiweshaba1715

Жыл бұрын

@Mel C I agree, in addition we don't just get ready for the date, it's also for ourselves and to be seen by other men as well, (if one is looking for a man).

@hannahj7855

Жыл бұрын

I also do not agree with the idea that a girl should pay for her food when she’s on her first date. I think I can consider myself a generous person both to men and women but I’m sure that having to pay for my meal on a date you set up will make me feel like you’re not ready to take care of me or you’re just a person that’d want that 50/50 contract in marriage and I definitely don’t want that. I’m trained to care for people I love even financially as long as I can afford it. I happily clear out bills for my friends and give them stuffs even without them asking. So it’s very absurd that a man who I’d probably spend my life with refuses to pay for just a meal I ordered on a date he had set up. I mean its a different thing if he’s not financially prepared to cover for it. I’m not even a foodie, I don’t eat greedily and I can definitely clear my bills so if a man tells me that on a date he organized, that’s a red flag. I know how much I’m willing to invest in my marriage and my spouse so it’s his loss❤

@It_was_all_a_dream

Жыл бұрын

Yeh, agree. The cheap ‘buffer dates’ seem to be more beneficial for men than women - he even said it at one point 😕

@daughterofarevolutionary-s4376

Жыл бұрын

There is something about this man that just doesn’t sit well with my spirit 😂 This is honestly the “First & Only” video of Fumi that I just couldn’t continue watching pass 15:16:00 😂

Just find a man who PROVIDE financially and protects you. Period. If he cannot provide for you and care for you to be a better woman, leave him. Practise Hypergamy ALL the way, ladies.

I absolutely love the idea of a buffer date. We are grown and busy. This keeps both of us from wasting time and being uncomfortable unnecessary. If things click, we can be more exited for the official first date. Loved the interview and golden nuggets!

If we all follow God's plan for us, we will never go wrong. He wants us to live life and live it ABUNDANTLY! Obedience to His will and purpose is paramount to this.

No matter what you do. You can't keep a Man who doesn't want you or wants to be kept. Simple.

I am loving these sister to brother episodes.

HE that find a wife find a good thing... I'm not looking for NOTHING he coming to me lol😂 Let the man come to you NEVER chase a man.

He dropped nothing but gems! I will be 55 on Saturday. He and also you Fumi,whom I just love, let me know it is not too late for happiness. Thank you both again!

@inspirationalempressoflove220

Жыл бұрын

Happy Birthday Fellow Pisces! I just turned 52 a couple weeks ago February 20th. 🎂✨♓✨🥳 Enjoy your special day today.

I can't wait for the South African tour aunty Fums🇿🇦 ❤

@thephoenixlady

Жыл бұрын

😍🇿🇦Just here to say Hi Sis

Cheyenne dropped so many gems! Thanks for inviting him to the Fumination table! I see your vision for your platform, Fumi, and loving it. Looking forward to seeing more of Cheyenne and am very curious about your future guests.

Include Kenya in your bucket🥰🥰

@GP-xz2nh

Жыл бұрын

*Kabisa.*

Wow! You're my dad's birthday mate. It's been hard getting unbiased advice, since he passed 4 years ago. Now I know why you're the only person whose advice I don't joke with on KZread. I love you. I will drive 4 hrs to Chicago when you come. I've dreamt of meeting you. Love you

As Women we should all love ourselves, this is paramount. We are all more than the last four digits of our ss numbers. We should stop trying so hard to look for someone to quantify who we are, a decent man will come along when you're not looking the age does not matter.

I knew your energy and compassion was giving off an Aries, but I never asked. My late brother’s birthday was April 16th🕊️and my birthday is April 18th😌This video was filled with so many nuggets🙌🏾

Hi there Fumi. I’ve heard so many of these dating tips from multiple platforms. All my life (even in my prime when I was younger.. I’m 37) I’ve never had this experience. Example: men approaching me that are actually interested in dating me. All of them just wanted sex. Not once have I had a man actually pursue me. I was married, but even that was an entire lie and a pool of manipulation. I’m 6’0 tall, a little overweight, a recently divorced single mother of 4 boys and I feel like I’ll never date again. I don’t know Fumi..I know I have to physically take care of myself, mentally heal, etc…it’s just hard.

OMG Fumi, love this hair and make-up! You're serving looks!

Aunty Fumy,that hairstyle is fireee.You look great

Love the buffer date, this way I’m not wasting my time.

Damn Fumi, that hair, makeup and outfit is on point.

I'm overweight b/c I've been in VERY consistently stressful environments that I had no control over and that kept weight on me no matter how I gymed, ate healthy, or tried my best to be stress free. I feel like every big woman should never be viewed as 'unqualified' to be chosen by a man to marry b/c he thinks she's going to cook badly for him and their children. As with the small woman who may have a lot of health problems, so as with the big woman who may have NO health problems the man should conversate with her to see what's what. Some women, once in a happy married and and in a stress-free or low-stress environment, will become the 'BEST VERSION' of themselves.

@jasirahsayyad8499

Жыл бұрын

I could be wrong but I also believe another meaning to the health aspect, was if she is able to nurture herself and give herself sustenance holistically, how then that will translate over to her aptitude to produce a home life of functionality and not a home life of instability. In simple terms,how you take care of yourself is how you will take care of others, and it's the smallest things that determine the most about our character. I believe it's similar to how a man handles money.

@nurselora681

Жыл бұрын

I disagree with your statement how you take care of yourself has no bearing on how you take care of others. The majority of women are nurturing caregivers who place others needs before their own. I found his statement to be disrespectful, shallow and belittling. We should not be judged nor selected as partners based on our outer appearance.

Shanquella Robinson Fumi, attorney Ben Crump, and other activists are taking this case in the United States.. We will get justice for our baby… Shanquella Robinson. I watched the live news press on March 3rd 2023. Be blessed.

Beautiful collaboration!❤❤ Y’all straight told it like it was. Well done!👏🏾👏🏾

Thank you for bringing EVEN MORE wisdom to The Fumination! I LIKE, I really like the company you keep, Lady Fumi! ❣

That's why I vibe with your spirit, I'm a fellow April flower 🌺 and blessing. Happy upcoming bday for both of us. We are blessed, anointed, the bomb and The apple of God's eyes.

I'm loving these sister to brother episode and Cheyenne really dropped so many gems wow! I'm looking forward to seeing more thank you Fumi & Cheyenne for making this video 🙏

Your hair is beautiful! LOVE IT!!!! Great guest....great points!

Great to hear Mr.Bostock !!Awesome fumination ♥️♥️♥️♥️ Welcome again

Great topic and a great guest. Hey Fumi you look awesome as usual and you share the same birthday with my mum! I've got my pen and jotter, taking notes down . Thank you so much for this 😊

Sister Fumi, this was an awesome show. As a "seasoned citizen" these were wonderful nuggets and words of confirmation. Thank you for all you and I hope to see you in Atlanta, Peace my Sister.🥰

I love the buffer date concept what an amazing idea. Thanks Funi.

What a great episode Fumi and Cheyenne, Thanks! ❤

This video was amazing. So much wisdom dropped. I watched the whole thing and wished I could hear more!

Can't wait to see you in South Africa 🇿🇦💓🇿🇦💓

Ms. Fumi this good stuff; I dig this new platform with the guests. As a man, I will attest Cheyenne is speaking TRUTH. Living and loving this!

Cheyenne was spot on!!! I have shared this video with tons of folks!! Great pick Fumi. Your hair and make-up looks amazing! Loved everything...

Wow!!!! I really needed to hear this today,so much wisdom in one video. Thank you aunty funmi ,I love you!!! PS. You look so preety today as always.💖

Love this discussion aunty fumi . I think you can invite Mr Stephen Leboisseur for another relationship discussions . Really enjoyed and learnt alot . Hope to see Mr Cheyenne again .

@tspencer661

Жыл бұрын

Stephan Speaks is awesome.

Love this! Everything he said is so true. Thank you FUMI for looking out for us ladies❣️

This was excellent!! I loved how screen was split to see his book and key points.. I grabbed three books 📚 of his on Amazon!! Love you Fumi ❤❤❤

You're so beautiful. Love, love, love your natural hair, feminine pink colors, and soft make-up. As always, great and positive content too. You do everything in The Spirit of Excellence. Let's keep moving forward in 2023 & beyond. God Bless.

Thank you so much for these lessons i have learnt a lot and cannot wait to read the book.

YEEESSSSS FUMI : Make this your daytime talk show. I LOVE IT. I think a "Buffer Date " is a wonderful idea.Totally good points brought up by Mr Bostock.--What a good show .

Thanks Aunty Fumi for bringing the guest. I learnt a lot. Remain blessed 🙏.

Thank you again Fumi. Very good information.🥰

Thank you for the video ❤️ I'm really sad because guys only objectify me all the time and don't even try to get to know my personality. It's so hard to find a man who is single, waiting for marriage and serious about me. Right now I'm 26 years old and starting to lose hope... It's really hard on my self worth right now. Sending you lots of love.

@maridiyaibrahim8210

Жыл бұрын

Girl you have your whole life ahead of you, don't be too hard on yourself. Focus in loving yourself and the one who loves you will find you.

@aeiou0123

Жыл бұрын

Why do you think they objectify you? Usually its because women are showing a lot of skin. I would recommend covering yourself more but still showing your assets in a more subtle way

@eleayeproctor9490

Жыл бұрын

How and why are you being objectified? Reflect on why it is you are being objectified and make changes.

@EbonyRivers1

Жыл бұрын

My dear, I’m 43. I knew at 20 that I was marriage material. What I did NOT know then is that most men and not ready to settle down and marry until 30+. Yes, some attempt it before, but a lot of them are still maturing and trying to get themselves together before making such a huge commitment. I didn’t get married until 32 and my husband was 37. But it’s better to marry later with the right one than to marry young and wrong just for sake of being married. If I could go back, I would tell my younger self not to worry about this at all. Life and marriage unfolds just the way it’s supposed to, and you don’t have to try to force anything. Just go, enjoy your life, and prepare yourself. It will come when it’s the appointed time, and it won’t be one second late.

@lisacurtis8162

Жыл бұрын

​@Eleayé Proctor she's probably just beautiful. Men can't see past that.

It is important to weed through all the deception in this world. Thank you so much, Aunty Fumi. God bless you and your beautiful family. You give me so much hope.

Wow!!!! This was deep.. I truly appreciate this wisdom..thank u Fumi and the vessel God has used to bring this across🤍🤗😍🙌❤🙏🔥🔥🔥

WE WAITING FOR YOU IN SOUTH AFRICA!! I LOVE YOU AUNTIE❤

God bless you, Aunty Fumi! God bless you too, Cheyenne. Thank you both for this!

Just got the book. Thanks Fumi. 💫💫💫

Happy Sunday Fumi, guess and fumination💕💖

Fantastic video and I already practice a lot of what he has suggested but I picked up a few new tips from this short video about keeping the first date to 30 mins and around $20!! I definitely want to read his books!

Thank you for this Fumi… having grown up as a muslim but in an enviroment where hook up culture is encouraged, sometimes it gets lonely and as if you are somehow akward… I am glad there are more people out there with the same mindset…xoxo

Fumi, you’re hair looks great hun!

Thank you so much Fumi and Cheyenne I've always struggled finding a True man, I had my own list of the ideal man, searched for but didn't find him maybe I was searching on the wrong place I now have to start all over, know my worth I've decided to watch as part of my morning routine, it did help I must say Thank you so much and I wish to get more advices from you

Thank you so much 👍 I really enjoyed the section with you both.

Great topic for me because am single and searching for a man.watching from Belgium 🇧🇪

Thank you for sharing this. It’s good to know Women are always desirable. My biggest insecuritity is not being desirable after 35. Turning 35 this yr. yikes 😮! I try to look after myself. I am worried about aging a lot lol! As I am writing this, am like. Get over it lol! Thank you coming to educate us x.

@EbonyRivers1

Жыл бұрын

You are not too late for anything! I heard a pastor say something during my teenage years that I carried well into my adulthood. “Man can give you a turn, but God can give you time.” Meaning, people may overlook you, but when God blesses you, it’s YOURS, and no one can block it. And then he also has to give you time to enjoy it. You are right where you are supposed to be. You will walk into your season at the appointed time. Lord knows I also thought mine would never come, but it did.

Fumi thanks for sharing this awesome video. God bless you!!!!!!

I once proposed a coffee date during the day and the man did not show up. He contacted me afterwards saying that a coffee date was too short and he didn't find it useful.

@keekeebrown1723

Жыл бұрын

You dodged a heartache...his lost!

@eleayeproctor9490

Жыл бұрын

You didn’t lose anything.

@kathyking6323

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like a manipulator. Have a nice life, sir.

Thank you, Funi, you are INCREDIBLE. EVERY share us highly valuable!

Sister Fumi, there is a beautiful island nation called Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹 which you must add to your tour list

Love your hair…. And the eye makeup 🤩🤩🤩

Ty CB it’s good to watch this

I loved everything about this interview!!!

Hello. My name is Loretta from Ghana 🇬🇭. Being watching ur channel for awhile. Just want to say am very happy for want your doing mommy. It has helped me alot to understand myself.

I totally agree with the concept of a buffer date. My partner and I did a buffer date after connecting online. This was the best investment and we are going 3 years strong.

California is waiting!

I agreed with your guest when he said that one of the qualities in the woman that would be of interest to “him” must be one who takes care of her health and wellness.✅ However, he went on to explained that a woman who doesn’t care about her health would not be his choice for “a wife who is then going to be the one to take care of HIM and his children” In 2023, this guy is advocating and found a woman to take care of HIM, herself, children and possibly have a job outside outside of the home, to help with their financial needs. I think he should rewrite that chapter if what he said is in his book. Your mother took care of you, that “woman’s job” is done and dusted. Adults are responsible for caring for their own health and wellness. That should not be a wife’s responsibility. I know Fumi would agree with me on this. We are both Aries and we know when to not say what we are thinking but you if pay close attention it shows on our face. I didn’t watch the rest of the video, couldn’t get past that disturbing statement. I was just a curious 71 year old viewer, a woman of independent means.

This was very refreshing hearing a man talk about the value of all women. There's been too much negativity on the internet these days. Thank you both for this!

I definitely like the idea of a buffer date! But, more importantly, I will definitely sway the man to go out or do something in the daytime in the very first meet n greet! No need to go all out in the initial stage of getting to know someone. Very smart.... Thank you for bringing Cheyenne on your channel. ♥️

Great episode! Learned a lot. Thanks Fumi.

Your hair looks amazing

Oh how I love this conversation. These Are the principles I live by.

Fumi..you are soooo PHENOMENAL.

This was phenomenal, soooooo valuable. Thanks for sharing. I wish I was privy to this year's ago.

Excellent Show!!! Fumi, please have Cheyenne on your show again. Thank you

Loving your hair , Fumi!😍🥰💖

excellent interview!

Super super duper. Loved watching this. Thanks Funmi and Cheyenne. Good bless

LOVED THIS. THANKS FOR SHARING.

I love the sound of your live event. Sounds exciting.

I loved this!! Thank you❤

Wow thank you so much fumi for bringing this guy I have learned a lot more Grace upon you dear

Great conversation , thank you!

I love this collaboration,very impressive All thanks to you Ma

Yes, to South Africa 🇿🇦... 💃💃💃

Omg Fumi you are the best. You bring so much value to us. I’m going on a date and I will be using his manual

Wow...I'm so enjoying this new found insight of dating. Thank you. I would so love to receive a copy of his book 📖 😍

I truly enjoyed watching this video, very informative.