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Is it strange that I feel more uncomfortable about the idiologues than the actual trans people being argued about? Ijust explained to a fellow about AGP and why I refuse to make a blanket statement that trans women are women, and that forcing a woman to participate in a s*xual fantasy is icky and violating, and he basically told me If I had kids, my trans kids will hate me until long past my death. The Idiologues are absolutely crazy, brainwashed and there is no logic... the same people saying they would rather cross a bear in the woods than a man, are saying they'd be fine with a mentally unstable man in the lockerrooms. Serious... I can't make this up!
Delroy Paulhus is a hero social and personality psychologist. He has a long list of extraordinary research going back several decades.
Kevin MacDonald should be credited for this concept
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26:04 *_”. . .as soon as your breasts develop. . .that’s when you start to get cat-called & men giving you unwanted attention. . .”_* How about: *_”. . .that’s when you start to become more attractive to boys (especially at school), who are also going thru a hormone-overload similar to yours. You’ll begin to find them more attractive, too.”_* That was such a revolting, disgusting framing of that point. It was nothing but understanding & empathy for young girls going thru puberty. . .& then a baseless accusation of sexually-abusive behavior from adult men towards a youth. This disdain for males is so heavily-ingrained that they don’t even notice it half the time. *_[[Btw: anyone wanting to defend that nonsense on the basis that there has been a man in history that has cat-called a minor &/or given unwanted attention - female teachers rape boys at a higher clip and women abuse children (& the elderly) at a higher clip than men. Don’t make excuses for this scumbag statement.]]_*
Wonderful conversation. This world is crazy. Glad my grandparents aren’t here to witness this insanity 🤦🏽♂️
Gender is nothing more than a crude rebranding of personality.
Something Helen might not know about on Archive of our Own. I've been on Fanfiction websites since I was a teen. When I was that age, you couldn't go on those websites without encountering ooldes of slash fics. Nowadays, when you go on those same sites, it's the same thing except with "trans" fan fictions. Characters who were men being made into trans men. It's almost always THAT way. I rarely come across fanfictions where women are made into trans women. It's always men being given 'top surgery' scars and female genitals. So I think Helen ought to be looking into those rather than the slash fics. Slash fics are considered 'old hat' at this point. It's all trans stuff now.
Oh please.
Yes, the moving of men into women’s places / prisons is wicked
Shaping Psychology I recommend this book by Dr. Tomasz Witkowski
Thank you for this recommendation! Very useful.
Great interview. Helen is so knowledgeble.
I bought a SmartTV in Late Q3 2019. And it has KZread on it, right? Well when the Pandemic hit, I started watching Flat Earth debunking videos. (Relax, I'm a Globe Earther) There's a community of about ten or so Debunkers on KZread. One of these is a young fella in New Zealand who goes by the handle @planarwalk. Not sure how old he is, but I'm guessing under 30. Just as all of these debunkers tend to be, they're a bit nerdy people as they are well versed in Science, right? Well, I was watching one of the other guys one night in 2021 I think, and he said he was an Ally. I had no idea what that meant. An Ally of what, I thought. This is how new this phenomenon is, because just a few years ago, this term Ally had no meaningful reference other than countries being allies of one another in a great conflict. But anyway...I kinda stopped watching these Flat Earth videos shortly after that, because once you've heard all the arguments on both sides a few times, it becomes a waste of time, so I moved onto other things. Fast forward to early 2024 here, and I catch some clips and videos of @planarwalk. And I'm shocked to see that this dude has turned, or shall I say, decided, that he's Trans. He has grown his hair out to a respectable length for a woman. He occassionally wears bright red lipstick. Wears earrings sometimes. And wears female blouses. But here's the problem. He still sounds exactly like he did before. So all I see is a young dude who is perhaps grifting off of this Trans thing in order to score some Brownie Points in the LGBTQ Community. Because I never got the sense that planar was even gay. Which you almost have to be in order to believe you're truly Trans, right? Otherwise you're just pervert or just get off on dressing and looking like the opposite sex. Needless to say that I can't watch his content anymore because he just comes across as fake.
Identify is the new word for pretending.
Helen's crime stats sound a bit sus to me. The ratio of DV is known to be about M:F 60:40 - 55:45. But most of DV in which men are the victims go unreported. Take the case of Caroline Flack who infamously lamped her 6'7" pro tennis player boyfriend, nearly bludgeoning him to an unalive state. When women commit violent crime, it is almost always premeditated, hence why they receive hefty prison sentences. I've checked the Gov stats and there are roughly 4,000 women in prison. About 30% are in for TV licence fee evasion and not paying the fine. The hefty document suggests to me that women are treated far, far, far more leniently by the justice system, offering loads of mitigations and excuses to treat them leniently, and let them out early, that is if they are sentenced to prison at all.
I agree with about 95% of what Helen says. But she conveniently omits that of those that are trans activists and perpetrators of the ideology, 80% of them are women. She also has a whiff of misandry about her as she conflates s*x crimes committed by trans-claimed men with all men. Women trans activists can't claim to be responsible for the creation and support of a largely s*xual devia nt category of men, and then claim that they still belong to the category of straight s*xual predatory men.
Yes both woman are very articulate and intelligent. Helen Joyce is extremely interesting and a joy to listen to - but they are both missing a very important piece of the puzzle - the spiritual dimension. There is an ancient sinister influence over these children and adults compelling them to believe that “gender fluidity” can be obtained and is good. Both are false. For an in-depth and fascinating book explaining this, please read “Return of the Gods” by Jonathan Cahn.
Thanks. For having this interview. God Bless you
At about half an hour in joyce makes what seems to be a completely indefensible claim that children are being taught that if they are gender nonconforming people want to kill them. Then in basically the same breath claims society is wholly accommodating for these people. A pretty absurd claim given the well documented discrimination and disproportionate amounts of violence trans people experience. Does nobody here have a problem with this?
As a child everyday was about finding out what I liked, what I was good at, what I wanted to better at, what I didnt care about. Who I was. None of that had to do with gender. What part of being the best you can be has anything to do with men or women. These are culturally specific stereotypes of gender. Trevor Noah laughed when he was given hoop earrings by a trans activist. "My grandmother will say, 'At last Trevor -you are a man.' In my family earrings like that are what makes you a guy."
18:57 "I could go out in a paper bag and people would know I'm a woman." Particularly if it was teaming with rain and blowing a gale. That paper bag might not survive for long, but I'd bet you wouldn't get misgendered. 😜👍
I have never understood how we women -in the west- somewhat escaped patriarchy and instead allowed, wanted and FOUGHT for men having more rights than us again. Make no mistake. The “boot on our necks” is one which is bedazzled and has a six inch heel. Neo patriarchy is insidious and we have welcomed it.
Integrity I think there are 2 genders, straight and gay and 2 sexes, male and female. You can choose gender and cannot choose sex Drag and Butch have integrity that the self-loathing, homophobic cowards of so-called transgender counterfeit. They hate being gay and pretend they are not. I have no respect, whatsoever, for these cowards that claim to become women by merely willing it without providing any criteria, whatsoever, of what a woman is. I view the transgender ideology as misogynist bigotry that can only prevail if 300000 years of the biology of male and female is irrelevant. Have a nice day.
In 2015 DSM-5 added a new psychiatric diagnosis: Gender Dysphoria. After this dx, insurance could reimburse gender affirming surgeries. Without insurance coverage, gender surgery would become like plastic surgery something you couldn't do easily. In that case parents needn't fear having their child transitioned without their consent. Without the ability to get surgeries without needing to worry about payment, you cannot support a huge number of transitions. NOTE: U.S. army pays for gender affirming surgeries, but no soldier is fit for service until maybe a year after surgery--maybe they will even be permanently disabled. There is no informed consent.
You cannot lump everyone in a singular diagnostic pile. Children need to be protected and guided through life. Of course and I am the biggest defender of a child welfare. But I sence anger issues concerning men who dress like women (Transvestite or drag Queens) But I observe that you need to understand the complexity of transgender individuals. You make them sound like they are all predatory in nature and haters of women. How unfortunate and limiting was your understanding of this complex subject matter and the research of the matter. If you're going to do a study, it must be by case-by-case and not to assume that all are sexual predators in nature. Do the work with out bias with out pushing personal agenda.
"I think therefore I am.' Renee Descartes Diversity within a culture of who identifies as whom , whether it is male to female, female to male, and the gender-neutral folk who are making their own way in this existence, what can be a very frightening time for most, the finding of one's own true self in a world that seems to view a person's gender should be as to be aligned to the label sign on a bathroom door. As a species we are very complicated and we cannot look at ourselves in black and white terminology. As a transgender woman, I recognize the reality that I am not a biological woman, but at the same time knowing who I am, I cannot identify with the male gender regardless of that appendage that I was developed during those last stages of the birthing process. Am I both? Am I neither am I some sort of anomaly of our species. I didn't ask or even want to be this way ,I just am this way. The realization of oneself and not another, the discovery of one's self can take a lifetime as we grow through experiences or even find yourself Frozen with fear of the unknown being too afraid to step out of your own shadow to really know one's true self. All I know is That everything I am screams against what the mirror once suggested I was. The real question that needs to be answered is what is the leading factor that determines an individual 's gender? Is it what's between your legs or is your mind and your soul and everything that cannot be pinned down? We are truly complicated creatures our brains are complex and we are just beginning to understand those differences within the human mind. and yes, I do agree that some young people do get caught up without truly understanding The complexity of the changes as people go through their puberty and sometimes that time can be very confusing to some who often out of safety creates a Shadow self personality during these stressful periods in one's young life and development. Not everyone who claims that they are trans are truly transgender. They just may be more of a tomboy or a very sensitive young man, but that doesn't mean they are not of Their biological identifiers. That is why it's so important That young people who start questing, the sexuality or their gender get the help of professionals as well as the council of their family unit. As for myself, I struggled with anxiety and depression and dysphoria for much of my life, trying to ascertain the why? the question of who I am. I did not transition until much later in my life because I was unaware of what I was or who I was in my development as a person, a human being. It wasn't until my late thirties that I found some definition of the word transgender and what it meant. And that's when everything started to make sense for me. And the start of my journey towards becoming who I was supposed to be in the first place. I am many things to many people, as we all are to everyone. We all have our different sides we show to people and these masks that we wear can be as genuine or fictional as we see fit. But these are the faces we feel suitable in whatever situation we may find ourselves in adopting the chameleon or shape changer , to fit in amongst our peers and act a certain way just so we can feel safe and included. I cannot speak for other individuals. I can only speak for my own person and who I am, I am an artist and a writer of fantastic tales. I love comic books and movies. I was a loving father and a caregiver, a teacher, a friend. I am many things too many people but what I have found that I need to be was kind to myself and to accept myself through this journey of self-identity. We are all unique and we all have specialties that we can share with others. Marcus Aurelius once said, do the thing and be the person you were meant to be, and do it with all your heart, your mind and soul even up to the point of exhaustion, to have respect for your fellow human beings and have love for yourself. No one person can truly look into the hearts and minds of an individual, only. That individual really knows who and what they are. And in the immortal words of Popeye the sailor I am what I am. Toot toot
They are describing the "pack mentality" that mobs of people exhibit when they act out together as a group. One dog running they streets will not become aggressive enough to attack another dog or a person , but a pack of dogs running together certainly will. As with the flash mobs destroying businesses in cities across the country, these unsupervised girls on TikTok and Tumbler are just following the rest of the pack in ways that are detrimental to their minds and bodies.
This should be required viewing for both parents and children .
The engine analogy is neat but not exactly true. I mean it depends what a tiny bit means in terms of % diesel-petrol mix. Adding 1% petrol to diesel fuel tank wont ruin the engine. Neat, i get the intent but it's just untrue. "somewhat patriarchal world" - proof? How so?
The "passivity" of the female, or yin, quality isn't really passivity, or weakness: it's just that our culture sees it like that. The female is about being, about stillness, receiving. The male is activity, giving, moving. And obviously every human has both qualities, as Jung argued. Spiritually, the female is the stronger. It's in being, stillness, presence (as Ekhardt Tolle says) that we find our real selves as a part of the greater universe. Men know this at a core level, which is why they denigrate women as being unspiritual, as distractions from the path to god etc etc, when it's actually completely the opposite.
As a gay man I found this interview extremely intellectual. Helen Joyce is one of the great minds of our times and I have to say 'Bravo' to both ladies for bringing so much sense to such a controversial subject.
Helen. I like your doors. Are they original, reclaimed or bought new? Hope you are well.
I and my friends are very much of the left... But none of us dare discuss this issue, possibly because one of our number, that I can only describe as a militant gender activist, would tear us to pieces if she got the slightest whiff of that ideology being up for question.... There's something very attractive about identitarianism that only narcissists would use as a form of control.
I’ve been going into female spaces for 50 years and I will as long as I live. You would never know. I don’t tell people my pronouns, they tell me.
19:26 This is the part that upsets me the most with people using the abbreviation 'Trans'. The men being spoken of that get turned on by acting like women, are transvestites, not transgender. Therefore, by using the abbreviation 'Trans' they are leading people to believe that they are transgender and should therefore be afforded some level of compassion. When in fact they are transvestites and should be treated with caution and skepticism..
"What's the harm in letting people identify however they please. Live and let live." That would be fine if that was where it ended. But it doesn't. They don't want to live and let everyone else live. They want to force everyone else to conform to their fantasies. They expect everyone else to identify them in the same manner that they do. To make matters worse, governments are making it illegal to do anything that may offend a trans person, while ignoring that which may offend the rest of society. ie the presence of what is obviously a man in the women's locker room.
Not rocket science. No debate. There is NO such thing as 'twans'. Males=Men. Females=Women.
So question - why do people take the word of someone who isn't even a medical doctor, nor someone educated in the topic OF gender - as if they know better than those who are the real experts? This is an opinion piece, regardless of how "Smart" it seems. Nothing more. And all it does is make the lives of trans people of all kinds harder.
Helen Joyce is a bigoted unqualified layperson with a bend towards eugenics. And reading HP slash fic in public.
You lunatic
have a real debate. Bring on Helen Joyce vs Nominal Naomi in a 2 hour debate.
It's important to note that there's also very high expectations towards men, especially in terms of financial and social status, you are expected to make between $250.000-$1.000.000 at the age of 25, and be at or around upper management. Most expectations in society are set by women, both towards men and women, mens expectation of women are not represented in society. A few examples of expectations set by women/society are: *The kardashian "beauty" standard, lipfillers and their general physical shape. *The idea that motherhood is second to a high-powered career. *Earnings of a woman being excluded from shared finances in terms of paying bills, vacations and dates. *Feminity in general being seen as inferior. My expectations of a partner were very different: *Natural beauty without lipfiller or botox. *Modesty and kindness. *Motherhood being primary and career being secondary. *A fair split of payment of shared expenses (not a 50/50, but at least a contribution). *I see feminity as one of the most beautiful things personally, its what makes us different. Just my few cents, hope it gives at least some insight in what I have experienced :)
Its beyond insane, its criminal. I'm a man and was thrown headlong into this insanity through my daughter's sport - basically a male was allowed to join. I think what gets me the most is the spinelessness of sporting bodies which is a disgrace - but also a readiness to just suspend reality, and fhe thing is nobody believes they are a woman, they just go along with the lie. No man (well any that i know) would want another male in the same single sex space as their daughter, wife, sister, friend, colleague - and no man wants to go into that space, unless its for nefarious reasons. I think as well as the sex crime element - most of these males are presenting a very deep seated misogyny and this is a power and control thing. Its like 'look i can do whatever I want i can even stop you having this space i just need to enter it and I know it makes you uncomfortable' they get a kick out of it. At the same time no men want to share a toilet or changing room with women either, like who wants that - is not exactly a great time getting undressed in front of strangers its just something you do, so nobody wants to make it more awkward than it has to be. - very early on when I was learning about all this someone explained it to me, in a way I could clearly explain it to other people which was quite simply is ; The moment you make the claim you actually ARE a woman, you are making a claim that entitles you to the protections that we have allocated to women in our society that YOU are NOT entitled to by virtue of the fact you are NOT female. - This statement should quite simply be the end of it. The fact that is hasn't been shows - there is so much more going on and at the root of it is a certain section of men are doing it because they hate women. I'm a normal everyday bloke I have no trouble in seeing this plainly, I really do think alot more men, particularly fathers of girls (i have a boy too) need to be far more vocal and quite frankly grow some balls and call this out for what it is.
Saying we don't know what the differences are is different than saying there aren't any. Stop sex role conditioning, and we'll discover what they are. And we won't have to be groomed into them.
There are undoubtedly differences between male and female. However, we wouldn't have to condition infants from birth to conform. The problem is that women are exploited because our differences, be they inherent or socially constructed. That is what has to change!
Best factual analysis of this subject to date. Too much credence is being given to peoples delusions of self over biology.
Around 15th minute, Lisa who?'
I believe that the trans movement is basically a continuation of the "sexual revolution" which in the US began in the early 1960's. In 1960 in white America sex was only acceptable within marriage. (Because of that my mother gave me up for adoption at birth in 1960. She was single.) However Hugh Hefner then came along with the Playboy philosophy that sex before marriage was fine and it would in fact decrease adultery and homosexuality. Following that having been settled about 1980 was gay liberation which taught that homosexuality was fine. Once gay marriage was legalized in 2015 the next step was trans. Trans basically does two things: It legitimizes out and proud autogynephilia and it attempts to eliminate sex segregated bathrooms, shower rooms, sports leagues and prisons, all in the name of love, respect and tolerance. Protesting against unisex is attacking one of the cores of the trans movement. You are trying to halt the progress of the sexual revolution movement. The sexual revolution was originally based on junk science such as Coming of Age in Samoa by Margaret Mead in 1928 and The Kinsey Reports in 1953 by Alfred Kinsey. That continues today. This is incidentally why "trans-race" has no support because it's not related to the progress of the sexual revolution.
Related question: How is drag different than blackface? [Other than the target - in drag the target is women, in blackface the target is Black people]
The host’s characterization of feminists is incorrect. Feminists have never told women to “become more like men” and the notion that we live in a “somewhat patriarchal world” is also naive. Patriarchal hierarchies are very real, in every society, and if the host understood more about feminism she’d understand why feminists worked to establish and codify sex-based rights (that are currently being unraveled by both the Christofascist Right and the Brahmin Left) to overcome those injustices that are not imagined but very real. Class is also missing from many of these discussions; radical feminists understood the socioeconomics of women’s rights. The poorest women of this world, the most exploited women and girls, are rarely considered.
There is a genre called yaoi which is a form of boy love for female readers. I'm not sure how typical yaoi is shotacon, but I think it is a subclass.