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I had a stroke. In front of ppl, he acted concerned. When I was discharged from hospital, he reverted to type and with nobody to witness his true nature, displayed his usual anger and complained about my laying on the sofa. If I could, I would leave, but have nowhere to go. I’m trying my best to get stronger, at least I may be able to leave the house without him 🙏.
I think my wife may possibly be a potential narcissist because my wife is always pushing her so called authority position of our marriage I'm disabled and my wife also makes fun of my disability problems and she tries to control the car my money and she also is my payee but she takes more of my money than she supposed to. Tired of this crap to her and I are separated and she does work and I've been homeless in this marriage and living on the streets now because of her and her kids and friends.
Thank you very much.
This really hits home!
I admit it, i know something is off with me. Just found out I have this kind of personality. Not gon' lie I struggle on how to maintain my feelings towards my loving partner; I either love her like literally give her my life for her own sake or hate her down from the root of her existence. She came to me and gave without taking. I genuinely know somehow I did things for her goodness but I know she even went more beyond her tolerance that she forgave me not once for my unacceptable betrayals. Funny because I genuinely gave up my addictions and everything that I value the most for her that time to be the best version of myself for her and to give Everything what she loves. I hate myself because I can not control this sudden surge of emotion whenever things go against my controlling will even when I always try to remember to suppress my feelings. I am hopeless. Worst feeling is that she just doesn't know that in my heart she is the only woman I will ever love and i'm for certain none will ever replace her. I accept that she's gone for good although I know everything about her, I'll just pursue my dreams for her after all she was one of the few reasons I strive to succeed in life. She was the one who brought me out of the darkest day of my life. She Believed in me even when no one seems to be. If by any chance you read this K, please kindly know that I will give up everything I own to be the man you truly deserve. I don't deserve someone loving and selfless like you, I am better of alone til the end times. You deserved nothing but only the best in life. I really wish I can say I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH sincerely for I know my actions doesn't corelate to what I said.
You’re speaking my language thank you for this video. I just blocked a friend of mine after eight years because they were playing the victim role every single day they would talk about how bad their childhood was their early adult hood how their kids were taken how they were putting in prison for fall Charges, which I believe that part by play the victim so much it’s not even funny. They’re angry at the police they’re angry at the federal government. They at the military they’re angry and jealous about their kids. They’re angry because other people are financially better often now people health are better than their health EC Because they feel some kind of way about their health issues like the other person issues aren’t important to them as long as the intentions focused on them all they care about EC. It goes on and on and on. They took me to the grocery store, Cvs and the vet for my guy Doc supposed to do things on a Christian charity free for people that are disabled and elderly or fixed income EC, all of a sudden, you’re asking me to pay money for rice that you gave me for months ago which you never charged to begin with since I’ve known for the past eight years UTC. I told him I wasn’t giving them money and they need to get the money in front of people that live with them, that’s why their car is no longer working because of this.. I pretty much decided to block them afterwards. It left a bad taste in my mouth and I got tired of hearing about what was me and they were just a bunch of hypocrites and intention secrets at 60/61 years old. They have to catch the bus everywhere or go through the door Transportation in order to get around to medical appointments grocery store, etc because the car is no longer working, but it was their fault that their car wasn’t working not me. so now they’re becoming hypocritical, judgmental all no longer have control of the situation. This person will allow their wife to belittle everybody they helped just because they could, and I would hang up the phone and not talk to them because the verbal abuse was not necessary, especially when all I did was treat them with kindness, etc if you’re jealous financially, you’re angry because every choice you make is being thrown back in your face and you’re living way under the poverty level those are the choices that you have to live with at the end of the day but at the same time I got tired of hearing them play the victim when there was real people out there that we’re going through real Issues every day. I would ask them what time. Did these stories take place? They would tell me five years ago, 10 years ago, 25 years ago, 35 years ago, but it sounded like it just happened yesterday from how they were telling it, and I got tired of hearing about it, if it wasn’t focused on the attention, then it was like they didn’t care but every time they help somebody they will bitch about it so I told them if you’re not going to help someone out the kindness of your heart then don’t help at all because you’re being a hypocrite And I could care less. They really weren’t my friends. They just wanted someone that feels their misery and broken people like to hurt people and that’s what they were doing verbally and psychologically to people, but I knew how to turn them off and unfortunately they’re going to regret that ever treated me kindly because you don’t have that many friends left due to your abuse and victimization playing which is wrong. Thank you for this video. I really appreciate it.
Block them everywhere and be done with it
My GF lied on an application for a special needs puppy - they asked if she ever had to return a dog. She had a meltdown with our second attempt at raising one after the first one was very hard for her. I thought that lie was awful, especially as her inability to cope with the amount of love, time and attention required would land squarely in my lap, but I’m already working double shifts and don’t have the bandwidth to raise a special needs puppy or any puppy at the moment. I feel she’s being extremely selfish.
Love this content ! Especially the Faupolgy. As mother use to say when you apologize leave at that because if the word But follows I’m sorry the apology is nullified because you are justifying what u just apologized for ! I’m glad I stumbled onto this channel ! Just came out of a 10 year relationship with a woman who was the classic vulnerable narcissist
I'd just like to leave a comment about silent treatment. If your partner is neurodivergent, situational mutism often triggers during an argument. We don't do this on purpose. Emotional disregulation needs processing before we can go ahead. My husband knew i went mute if he confused me should i be right.
You take way too long to get the message out .. hard to stay paying attention to you.
Proverbs 23:4 Labour not to be rich: cease from thine own wisdom.
Proverbs 20:21 An inheritance may be gotten hastily at the beginning; but the end thereof shall not be blessed.
Proverbs 24:20 For there shall be no reward to the evil man; the candle of the wicked shall be put out.
Psalms 136:18 And slew famous kings: for his mercy endureth for ever:
I guess I need some help 😕
Ur soooo dumb this is a 6 years old class that u teach
They are awful, lies, slander gossip gaslighting!
Perfect and concise accurate description
Everybodys drowning in alot of manipulation that's gone sideways upside down to out to lunch. And being tokd to shut up because of child abuse that was hush hush and it got vented. No wonder . What a mess. Now what. The smallest of the small take the brundt. Do you makes sence now? This is classic of blinders on. Sorry if it bothers those caught in it. Peace, all the other nonsence isn't working.
Also sounds silly that the abuser would show with flowers saying they're reluctant because of rejection. They should ask themselves why do they feel that way?
I deserve happiness
I am the main character of my own story
The person who is triangulating people one against the other rarely does so in obvious ways. Often that triangulation that is systemic while not being present on only just one level. A narcissist as they get older instead of wanting to spot the triangulatihon dynamic while not being influenced by it wants to learn more about how to become successfull at using triangulation tactics in more sophisticated ways to profit while getting their own way. When a person braggs about how easy it was for them to move on right away after a dramatic break up like about how their former partner then ended up on the street right away while according to them being only a loser that is a clear sign they could be a narcissist who will only get worse as they get older. If a person feels the need to bragg about anything what are they hiding when not facing the truth?
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Which woman in a patriarchal society, is not narcissistic? It seems to me, that in all the relationships l look at, the result is a pandemic of female narcissism due to child hood trauma and social morays, perhaps even cultural morays that produce narcissistic problems for girls and woman. This begs the question, is this a normal psychology for the majority of woman, based on an inherent fear or paranoia of not being able to provide or gain the conditions required to raise off spring? So, l am referring to primordial motivations, reptilian brain/amygdala psychological motivations. Any chance you can broach that assertion please. The reason l raise this is, that l have tried to move past being manipulated by "the little traumatized girl" psychology of my wife of 38 years, because l have taken to exercising understanding, foregiveness, compassion and empathy (as opposed to takingvoffense each time their is a slight or crutism or eveytime she is defensive), for the trauma of her childhood, which has made her the woman she is. But she is also, the woman (just as l am the man l am now), because of our marriage, and for moving as far beyond, to some extent, the influence of her childhood trauma, on who she is, and the resulting psychology she has lived with for much of her life. Is it part of a man's role to man up and take one for the team (seeing as we live in a patriarchy!), if the man has the emotional fortitude and presence of mind to do so, in a relationship where his wife suffers CPTSD? I have told her she can't use me as her whipping boy (any more) or a door mat to wipe her emotionally dirty feet on, and l am not prepared to be the person who receives the ongoing punishment (as a male), for her father's transgressions. She must see me as the man l am, an autonimous person, not just one of the other gender who creates the negative conditions for womens suffering. But l am emotionally supportive of her, and perhaps more importantly, materially supportive of her, to make life worth living with creature comforts, and giving her space, as our home is her sanctuary to, not just mine. I personally am trying hard to move beyond any form of emotional neediness to a point of respecting each other's sovereignty. Perhaps that may lead to support from her of me at some point in the future, but l am not holding my breath. We are good friends.
If you are tired of their shit and want to leave - do not tell them!!! Just wait till they out of the house and then leave. You can leave a note if you wish but NEVER tell them you are leaving in advance or they will bring in their new supply with a quickness just to throw you out.
My ex girlfriend lovebombed me pretty hard at the start, but the moment she moved in with me she seemed disinterested and wouldn’t talk about problems, are first arguments were about how I alway initiate hugs and kisses and asking her to treat me like my boyfriend. Everytime I would bring up an issue I got hit with crocodile tears how her saying she should have killed herself four years ago.
I choose me
♡ Jesus loves you and invites you to speak with Him in yer Heart at anytime as you would to a good Friend, He never denies anyone who trusts Him.
But What They Do Not Realize Is That The DisCards Were GIFTS !!!😊
i cannot follow you. articulation of voice is lacking. end of sentence disappears
I once dated someone who checked all these boxes. I didn’t know what it was but I felt something was off with the whole relationship and ended things. I used think back and wonder what gave me that icky feeling, and this makes sense! I guess it was a good call to listen to my instincts!
It’s disturbing just how many covert narcissists I’ve encountered throughout my life. They really throw you off with their kind, gentle, humble act and some of them are so good at their role that they make ACTUALLY decent people feel like they’re the bad ones. Perhaps worst of all though is that if you spend enough time around them without knowing their true nature then you run the risk of turning into a covert narcissist too.
My covert narcissist, it was really hard to tell, I kept making excuses for her as to why she kept forgetting the damaging stuff she was doing. I remember a time I called her out in a fight because she said something really fucked up, then our argument turned into whether or not she actually said it. The longer I spent with her the more I noticed all the things in these videos. It was in very subtle ways she’d let it out, and if I would have fell victim to her gaslighting I would never have seen it.
For me, "physical appearance", ding ding ding ding. I was all in for how gorgeous she was, until I figured out the pattern and saw her for who she was underneath.
Dated my ex narc for three years. First 10 months were great but then I started uncovering the lies. Back and forth breakups over the next year and half and only my disrespect and cheating and lies were discovered. Fell for the lying and pleading each time until I was discarded and she moved across the country. No contact for nearly 2 years. April 2024 discovered she moved not only to my state but my actual neighborhood. Fell for the love bombing and extreme future faking just to get burned again 6 weeks later when I caught her with another man (Except maybe this time I was the side dude?). Any accountability? Of course not. Discarded by threatening to call the police and bluffed about getting a restraining order. Of course she didn’t because it would expose her in the process, which is ultimately why she was most mad at me. Confronting her while she was with the person. Her last message to me was “Forget about me” after all I did for her. Good riddance but of course trauma bonds are still there
Forgot to mention the part where was parading around with a different man on social media a month after aborting our child.
Trying to help myself at the moment. Her business is her business
That zip jewlery thing around her neck is trippy, it's like a video game glitch floating in mid air!!!
Tump! Plus a female sociopath I knew.. 👌
What do you do if you have gone absolutely no contact, blocked them, and even the flying monkeys are no longer playing ball so all they have left is snail mail and they write that they will kill themselves if you keep ignoring them?
I can relate to being an easy target for lovebombing as an autistic individual including in the workplace
The thing that made me realize she was a narcissist is just how she would smirk when we fought like she was enjoying my distress.
What sickened me most was the fakeness of her so called ' love' which was muttered as vyoo ( to save her time and energy) her actions usually said " I can't be bothered about you" To her family and her few long distant friends she was angelic , to me at times demonic. The only love that existed was that which I created out of my delusional wishful thinking and irrational hope I could find the charming vivacious person I first met in her fake love bombing stage. Leaving has been a process of waking up and accepting nothing would ever change except to get worse.
Remember Always “ EVERYTHING YOU SAY AND DO WILL BE USED AGAINST YOU”…we are always telling them Truth, Locations, where your going and how long(so after yoga they can spend time with other Supplies), always wondering your schedule so they can schedule other appointments with other men. Her yoga appointments eventually becomes more than once a week like it used to be and sometimes yoga goes from One hour up to 2 hours and then meeting a family member or a female friend after…all the Red Flags and they also tells on themselves when you learn how to listen (but do not tell them how you have learned this info or they change their ways to keep you in the dark “…beat them with their own Rules…they may also blame you for cheat when it’s them…I suggest you not deny it but just don’t answer it …they are extremely jealous…they feel that they can cheat but not you…I am getting divorced soon and telling her that she too child like in her thinking and behaviour, cheating and a few people has been mentioning it and now I can see it too. Let them know you are taking all your Financial contributions etc plus all the isolation she placed you in was a great blessing as it gave you an opportunity to become so very Independent and not need anyone or anything else to be happy, to investment in yourself and now has a More Secure Attachment, Happy, and optimistic views of the future and you have her to thank for your Positive and Fast evolution to that Strong, happy, Confident, Positive, trustworthy, honest and such a more energetic Man…again than her for that …thank her often for that and smile a lot while not looking directly at her by doing something else for example…they are watching and it eats them…But Really be Happy and always look on the bright side …good luck…
There is no closure with a narcissist because they dont care about your feelings only what they can get from you stop letting these people take everything from you they dont deserve it we all deserve better lets go get better people
I have to pay my dues. I just came to the horrible realization, two weeks ago. Now I’m sniffing the air trying to figure out how rotten the situation is.
He jad me convinced the reason hes been divorced so many times, because they all mistreated him or cheated on him. OH THE STORIES OF HOW BAD HE HAS BEEN TREATED. I CANT WRAP MY HEAD AROUND FACT, THAT HE DOESN'T SEEM TO EVEN CARE ABOUT HIS OWN CHILDREN OR GRANDKIDS. HE HAS NEVER BEEN THERE FOR ME, BUT ALWAYS DECEIVED ME INTO BEING THERE AND LITERALLY TAKING CARE OF HIM, AFTER A HOSPITAL STAY, BUT WHEN AN OUTPATIENT SURGERY WENT WRONG AND I WAS IN RECOVERY HE CALKED AND ON SPEAKER PHONE CUSSED ME OUT , AND NEVER EVEN COME TO HOSPITAL TO SEE ABOUT ME WHEN INWAS IN SERVICE CONDITION. HE TOLD ME HE WASN'T COMING AND HE WASN'T GOING TO BE BOTHERED WITH ME, I WAS THERE 6 DAYS, AND HE TURNED OFF HIS PHONE SO I COULDN'T CALL HIM...
Wow! I was just diagnosed with shingles 4 days ago. Im in extreme pain and can hardly tolerate it. I powered thru it this week and still went to work. My husband and i work at the same place. Well 2 days after i was diagnosed, we were at work and i asked my husband to rake the asphault over a pot hole for me bc i was in too much pain.. everyone starts asking if im ok and telling me to take it easy..He grabs the rake, pulls it over the hole one time and falls to his knees making a huge scene claiming he slipped a disc in his back. He has never had back problems and we do this work everyday so his body is used to it. My shingles rash and pain is concentrated in my back. Well the last 2 days hes in so much more pain than i am, tells everyone at work to get their sympathy, tells me not to tell anyone i have shingles and im in pain bc i might get sent home bc im contagious (which im not). I wouldnt go around work telling people about my condition anyways lol. Almost like he just wants all this attention. He does this every time somthing is wrong with me. Hes in more pain, hes sicker. Like when i had covid and he didnt get it. He took so many tests like he was desperate to get it but he never did. It was so weird. I didnt know this was narcissistic.
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