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The motto of the covert narcissist is "Pity Me, Pity Me"

@CynthiaSchoenbauer

3 ай бұрын

Good Point! I had to pity mine very much at my own expense. They like supply, even if it is pity..

I take my power back. My energy is my currency.

@CommonEgo

3 ай бұрын

My energy is my currency. I like that 💕

Wow! My wife has made many comments about our arguments and me bringing up difficult subjects, saying she has never been treated like this in any of her past relationships....she's never been married and no other guy was willing to start a family with her. I now see why.

The triangulation really hit hard. My ex tried to use that against me and tell me that my family and friends had the same thoughts about me that she did. that I was hard to get along with and cold towards people. All of your videos I have been watching describes my ex perfectly! I would have never caught on after these 8 years with her. If she never accused me of being a narcissist and all the terms and language that comes along with it. She probably would still hold the power over me. Because I have never heard of it or knew what it was. But I am grateful for her for educating me on it, and the lesson that I learned from being in the toxic relationship and knowing what to look for now.

I took my power back and left her 4 years ago and been in No Contact ever since.

I'm taking back my power.

@allthingsjana7870

3 ай бұрын

Me too . Everything on this video resonates and I'm definitely taking my power back.

Also, I took my power back almost 10 months ago and am working every day to maintain it, and build on it.

I KNOW MY WORTH!! I left, took back my life, and went no contact. It works.

I AM & did take my power back!!!

>Alone in a crowded room I don't have any friends left. My mom and dad were worried about me staying too long at their house bc they didn't want to "get me in trouble." When my dad was nearing his end and I told her I was going to see him every day after work, she said that was excessive and made me feel guilty about it. Now... the only other person besides her in my life (not counting coworkers of course) are my kids and my mom. My mom wants me to just shut up and deal with it bc of the kids... I am completely isolated. I let that happen. One by one I let her push away my closet friends. People I knew and had been close to for 10-15 years are now gone from my life. I'm alone now... but the room isn't crowded...

@tonynussbaum

3 ай бұрын

To say that you let it happen underestimates the power of these manipulation tactics. It sounds like you’re the victim of emotional blackmail and triangulation. It’s not your fault.

@FastChargeMango

3 ай бұрын

@@tonynussbaum I should have done something or said "no" at some point. I didn't. I just let it keep on happening until she got what she wanted. Now after almost 20 years I'm trying for a divorce bc I can't take it anymore. She's doing everything possible to take our kids all for herself and the courts are favorable to the mothers. The possibility of losing my kids makes me wish I had just taken my mom's advice ...

There was never ever a trace of me on his social media and he kept it private... says it all

@carpathianken

2 ай бұрын

That he's a closet homosexual?

ALL OF THIS

I'm taking my power back

2:59 “Uncomfortable sharing information” is one of the biggest red flags of all time! It is impossible to get to know someone if they hide everything there is to know.

I love your voice. Perfect for the kind of topic you cover. It's soothing.

I know my worth. I feel stuck in this relationship - especially financially. I've been watching your videos for hours and my mouth drops to the floor - I really had no idea that anyone else experiences what I am and that there is actually a "name" for it!!

I'm taking my power back.

I have very bad anxiety which worsened due to my ex-husband's narcissistic abuse over 5 years. I can't sleep without my anxiety meds, your very soothing voice and helpful videos. Thank you! 🙏🏻

@carpathianken

2 ай бұрын

I'm a 5 year narc experiencer too. I've got a court case coming up & I was thinking of asking my G.P to prescribe me an anti-anxiety med on the day of the hearing so my anxiety doesn't make me shutdown & hinders me getting my points across to the judge

@dinab7852

2 ай бұрын

​​​​​@@carpathianken Very good idea. I also have a court hearing coming up and will have to take my anxiety medication in order to get through it. Good luck to us!

@carpathianken

2 ай бұрын

@@dinab7852 I'll be there supporting you in spirit on the day . Thanks. Do you mind mentioning the anxiety med that your Doc prescribes you? I've heard of Xanax

My ex-wife used isolation before we were even married. She told me that she was uncomfortable hanging out with my friends. She suggested(insisted) we hang out with her friends only. I wished I recognized at the time that red flag for what is was- an isolation tactic.

Surprisingly enough, this is news to me! I was raised with a lot of religious guilt but could not see it one single bit.💧 I had to apologize in the confessional about how other people were feeling... And I had to forgive them for all that manipulation. My points, assertion, and needs got lost in all of this!💦

I wouldn't start questioning myself once I catch one lie and or feel like I'm being gaslit I walk away Nothing to talk about 😂✌🏼

Triangulation. We were discussing how to position a bed in a room which dimensions left only one right way. When I pointed this out He said "We will have to ask someone elses opinion" Or if I say he was giving too much attention to a female coworker he will ask my best friend to talk me out of my perception. He also used the "I never argued this much with my ex. Happy to be taking my power and worth back now with no contact.

I came across your content typing “Am i wrong for leaving my boyfriend?” and you’ve been a true blessing for me. Whenever he says how much he loves me and wants me back, I remember all the subtle things and now thanks to you I can put a name to them and rationalize why I feel so bad for things he says are not that big of a deal.

I know my worth

@CynthiaSchoenbauer

3 ай бұрын

I am working on mine and it is a lovely journey, isn't it!

@chrismcduffiephoto

3 ай бұрын

@@CynthiaSchoenbauer indeed!

My ex girlfriend used to call me dork all the time as a "joke".

@allthingsjana7870

3 ай бұрын

I got the same, insults disguised as "jokes"

He use to tell me that he is tired and hanged up with me. Then I asked why he stayed on WhatsApp until 3 am 😅 and he block me. He lied to me about everything. And I was able to call him out on that… and then he ignored me for a couple of days saying I accused him and I was jealous and crazy.He never answered me back and gaslighting me so I don’t question him again . I became angry and anxious to a point I was starting to seriously damage my mental health. I Should have know better 😢. Today I feel so relief but I felt like I had to detox myself from that dopamine rush.

IM TAKING MY POWER BACK

I KNOW MY WORTH.❤

Why must these people always start problems where there are none? Nobody knows, they just live for all the bad.

4:15 oh man... My bf would always ask me to go with him when he went out with his friends, and I used to, until he started calling me Yoko when we were with his friends. Um what? You brought me here...

Thanks for sharing these great videos!also can you make videos on how to deal with different manipulation tactics when you can't leave the relationship?

I know my WORTH!

He wanted the code to my door cause he needed to be at work at 6 30 am I wasn't gonna be home was leaving for my daughter place after that ...was the discard...he discarded me on Valentine's Day

I KNOW MY WORTH

I dried her supply up. She had no option but to leave. Yeah!

Request for Coaching: Hi…. I’d to schedule sessions but I need to coordinate a time different from your posted times. Your coaching package suggested I reach out to you. Please let me know how we can connect to schedule. Of all the channels, yours is empowering and dead on with your approach. My best friend, I thought, has dropped the mask after luring me in to trust and share. Worse yet… she is a therapist. Christina, let me know… excited to work with you.

@CommonEgo

2 ай бұрын

Hi Evania, Depending on where you are, we should be able to find a time that works. There are a few time zones that are tricky, but we can usually find something :) You can send me an email or fill out the contact form on my website and I'll get back to you there. Looking forward to working with you!

@evanianichols9150

2 ай бұрын

Hi Christina … Thank you so much for the note back, not sure how to get to the “info form” but if you give me your email, I’ll reach out to you directly. Thank you!

my soon to be ex wife is a covert. she left, cheated, ended up pregnant, its mine, she was super upset now all of a sudden she is nice. Ive gone no contact with her other than when we exchange him. She lied about this guy being her brother and tons of other things that were never true. I have one weakness and she knows it. Would she try to expose this as it would involve coming back home and being a couple again?

Even worse when he is on the spectrum 😡🤬 talk about a pathological liar!

What happens if two narcissists of opp sex meet?

I'm taking my power back