Nice! This is all really well presented. I am 46, attorney, Chicago. I finally had to come to the hard conclusion that we can live well, my husband and I work hard for what we have, but we also have to live in reality. Very few people have "big" lives, just like very few attorneys are arguing before the supreme court. Most of us are just average people, working hard, and trying to survive with fun things like a treat purchase or a vacation sprinkled in when the cosmos align...

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

That is so true! Thank you for sharing!

@irenhollo662

2 ай бұрын

Self assurance, education, playing sports, have ethics, morals and a good head on your shoulder will make you cooler than any influencer. When you leave your life, that is real, in every expect... in my opinion!

Mixing high end with low end is my jam! It really helps to create your signature look IMO. Great video!

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

Totally agree! Thank you!

I’d say I’m a healthy mix of thrifty and luxury. I have to have my Luxury bags but when it comes to jewelry, clothing and other accessories, I go to thrift stores, Target, TJ Maxx etc. My only guilty pleasure is a nice bag once a year. ❤️ thank you for this video. I love how down to earth you are and your taste in handbags 👜

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! I love Target, I got a few new dresses there this spring for $16 that are all linen! I think mixing it up is very smart.

What an important reminder, especially in this day and age. The crazy thing about filters is that certain apps and cameras automatically filter the user's faces. It's no wonder that so many people have poor self-image.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Oooh I have heard that, I don't think it's the iPhone but another brand? It really does create poor self image.

@mckenziehart6228

2 ай бұрын

​@@LuxPurselove Android (ex: Samsung) phone cameras automatically apply a filter.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

@@mckenziehart6228 Ah ha! I wouldn't like that for myself.

@lolipena8051

2 ай бұрын

i think zoom does it as well. because there were times I even told myself there is no way I look this good. i hadn't slept in a day lol

Awesome Melinda! It's hard some days not to compare to others. Don't let anyone steal your joy, love your life, and be grateful for what you have. Every day we are given is a blessing, even if it was a crappy day! ❤ I'm here for this PSA! Lol

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Yes every day is a blessing for sure! Well said!

You did a really good job with this video. Not everyone is as they appear to be. I learned that back in the early 1980s way before the days of influencers, even before the internet. I was working at a bank in a branch in one of Melbourne’s well known new money suburbs. We would have people coming in driving luxury cars, living in huge McMansions, dripping in diamonds and furs and I was bouncing their cheques most days because they were broke. It was all show to drum up business but there was nothing behind it. I have no idea how they slept at night with bankruptcy hanging over their heads all the time. I know I wouldn’t.

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

Such a good point Suzanne! I remember when we moved to a "fancier' town when I was 29 I felt so insecure that everyone had so much more than me. Then the girls teacher told me a lot of kids checks for their lunches bounced and then I went in the fancy houses to drop the girls off and they had rooms just totally empty. I realized I was doing just fine staying in my budget and all rooms furnished.

@leebeaute

Ай бұрын

Looks can be deceiving nowadays, I was initially naive to think how do influencers sustain daily buying of designer goods & doings unboxings regularly? Only to find out they get refunds on their items the next day after filming. Why bother with the lies is my question.

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

@@leebeaute Yes you can tell who returns because you never see the item they buy again. A lot of them can truly afford it but there are plenty who fake it for views.

I like to watch influencers but thankfully I’m not consumed by their content and only buy “key” pieces and that’s all I have.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

That is very wise.

Nicely done Melinda, I enjoyed this. My Dad died when I was 29 but for the years that I had him he was always sharing tidbits of “ life “. Things I guess that he felt I needed to know and one thing he would always tell me was Don’t believe anything you hear and only half of what you see. It didn’t mean much to me as a little girl but as I’ve grown, aged and matured it means a lot. This was a little trip down memory lane. 🙂

@beautymaven3952

2 ай бұрын

Wow….my friend’s dad used to always say that same thing to her when he was alive. I love it because it really rings true. You just never know.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

@SmallTownGirlWendy I am so sorry you lost your dad so young. But he really did share wisdom with you. My dad always said "You determine how other people treat you" I never got that until I was an adult and it is so true. Xoxo

Thanks Mel for being so candid! I discovered KZread content 3 years ago and I only subscribe after I have watched the creator for a period of time. I don’t like exaggerated speech, demeaning comments and inconsistent content. To me watching videos like yours is a luxury😊 I get to enjoy bags from a distance and get genuine information for items I am interested in. I watch Christian preachers too and am very careful with that. I am contented with my situation. I have not travelled for a while as I want to recover from a series of sickness, I live alone at last and learning to love myself and being able to have a job that is meaningful…all this is luxury to me. I do buy my luxury items but to me, a LV bag is just a bag I like, a Hermes Bastia works for me and a pair of gucci shoes just look good. I enjoy these items just like I enjoy my Longchamp, Marc Jacob’s and Sam Edelman.😂 no need to pretend…it’s much easier to live. Life of integrity❤ have a fantastic week and may you be blessed abundantly in the days ahead. 🎉

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Julie! You really need to be careful with tv preachers especially I find. Some are just saying what we want to hear not the message we need to hear. I hope you recover quickly and I am glad you are learning to love yourself. Remember you are worthy! Have a great week ahead and I wish for you to be abundantly blessed as well. Hugs to you. Xoxo

You handled this topic so gracefully! Great video! You made some very valid points. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us ❤

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

Loved this so much Melinda! Thank you for the message about loving ourselves for who we are. I’ve seen the luxury lifestyle person with the shoes next to the bed, that is NOT a luxury lifestyle. IMHO. Having a billion bags doesn’t mean your lifestyle is lux. Thanks for always being genuine and REAL. ❤

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

So true! Thank you so much Bailey! Xoxo

Thank you for always keeping it real! I’m tired of all this “ luxury life” style …. putting pressure on all the young girls out there.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Me too. I had a young woman write me how bad it made her feel about herself which prompted me to finally film this.

I’m boring too & loving it! Married for 26 years & committed for the rest of our lives. I hate lies, being genuine is a rare thing in this day & age. Thank you for sharing your thoughts

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

It really is becoming more rare to find genuine people. Congrats on 26 years!

I really love that you’re talking about this. So easy to feel like you don’t have much in comparison. I have a well paid job but looking at all the unboxing and vacations I could really feel poor 😅 Many influencers seem to never run out of money to spend on luxury items. I’ve stopped watching many of them. Have a great day! 😘

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

It really is easy to start comparing so I thought it was important to know a lot of it is fake. I have stopped watching a lot too. Have a great day as well! Xoxo

Great video, Melinda! I appreciate your videos. I’m a Tennessee girl, too! I lead a normal lifestyle but enjoy luxury bags. Empty nester!

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you! Fellow empty nester bag lover!💕

Love this topic, i am a very average person, i shop at goodwill and macys, so thats what I show on my channel. I don't believe a lot of youtube as real, its fantasy life projected, i am like i got this thrifted and let me show you how i fix it.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

I love that Jak! That is great content! And so much more grounded in reality and relatable. ♥️

Hi Melinda great video and I love your perspective on this I completely agree I find it absolutely amazing how everyone’s lives look so beautiful and perfect and I’m like lord I wouldn’t want to live in a life where everything has to be 💯 perfect it just seems like a lot of pressure everyone is putting on themselves for perfection it’s unobtainable life is messy and in no way perfect thanks for sharing your perspective on the subject💚💚💚

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you! Yes the total perfection of the glossy influencers would drive me crazy. Retaking pics over and over to get the perfect look etc. So much pressure! Xoxo

What a great video. Very well done and great message. Thank you for addressing this topic. Thank you for your honesty.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

Love Hannah videos! She is so meticulous and she catches so many things in these videos that I would never catch. It’s also funny how these “perfect morning routines” are recorded throughout the whole day or maybe different days and we choose to believe in perfection. Love this video ❤ TFS

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

She is so good! I remember her doing a video on my healthy morning routine videos and I remember the first one I saw (Lydia Millen) I thought sharing your mornings was so darn weird! Don't we all have a healthy routine? Thank you!

@Chicandstylishbylena

2 ай бұрын

@@LuxPurselove exactly! Love your channel! ♥️

I understand your savings on air. A lot of friends comment that I vacation 3 or 4 times a year. MILES! I charge everything to a credit card so I can earn miles and so does my husband. (Not SW since we primarily travel internationally.) When people ask how we can afford it, I am happy to explain about the CC and our philosophy of hotels that are clean, comfortable, safe and convenient to public transportation and that we personally, would rather spend our money on several trips, rather than one "luxury" trip.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

It makes so much sense! Due to his job it's rare we go far internationally and for us Southwest is the biggest airline we have in Nashville so it has the most non stops. Save any way you can and enjoy the trip! :)

You are such a lovely person! I truly agree especially with the beauty influencers using filters to promote beauty products! 🫣😬Thank you for filming this! Great message! ❤

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Amber! It is not helpful when they have a filter on at all. Have a great day! XOXO

Love this video Melinda. We have to take most of what we see on social media with a pinch of salt. That is why it is so refreshing to follow channels like yours - as I have mentioned before, you were one of the reasons I wanted to try doing KZread myself as I wanted to join the real authentic community we love so much x For the other types of channels, I choose to just not consume that type of content. At my age you've seen it all!

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

Awe thanks so much Deb! I am so glad you joined the KZread community, I love your authentic videos and your presentation! Xoxo

Great video Melinda and I love how you discussed the topic. You made great points. I think sometimes speaking for myself it’s so easy to get caught up in watching what influencers are buying and showing and sometimes wishing you could do the same. Then I stop and say to myself that person makes it look good but it’s all for social media. Be happy with your life. We are all different and in different places. If we were all the same life would be boring. ❤❤

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

So true! And who wants a boring life? Thank you Tasha! Have a great weekend! Xoxo

Hi Melinda, SO true!!! Its crazy ppl lie to look good, be happy with what you've got little or big. TFS ❤❤

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Absolutely!! It is so crazy! XOXO

Glad you did this video...great points. Thanks for sharing and have a beautiful week!

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thanks Windy! Have a wonderful week!

This is an excellent video and something I’ve been thinking about for awhile now. It started when my KZread feed began “suggesting” a certain KZreadr who presents “luxury handbags” and presents herself with loving all things “luxury” and the “luxury lifestyle.” I love handbags and always have and it’s fun to see new bags that I may not necessarily see in the stores, so started watching. I seriously became more and more disturbed as this person had new bags in EVERY video. However, like you said, the room it was all filmed was anything but luxury. She showed her bedroom and there are shoes stored next to the bed and no bed made and carpet that looks like it has seen better days. I personally find it odd when you are touting literally hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of handbags and this is how you are living. It is NOT luxury. Listen, to each his own, but it’s definitely a study in the sociology of people and behavior. Super interesting, but, yup, it puts things in perspective for me. I really enjoy your channel, by the way, and find it very authentic.

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

Thank you so much! I totally agree. I found this person when another KZreadr made a hate video about me 2 days after my mom passed away. I had never heard of her before but she had some really ugly things to say about me on that persons video. I blocked everyone who was cruel to me on that video and that is how I found her channel. To each their own for sure but what she wrote about me showed me how insecure she was in her own skin. What she was upset about was something I had said about my own self, I had no idea she existed so it wasn't aimed at her.

@baileymorgan9923

Ай бұрын

@@LuxPurseloveI agree with Susan and I remember that video and all the negativity. How awful she chimed in. She gets so much praise for buying and buying and called sweet so often but you’re the kind one and so classy not to name anyone by name.

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

@@baileymorgan9923 Thank you Bailey. It is water under the bridge, I don't hold grudges. But I do believe you the first time you show me who you really are.

@lvchanellove3516

Ай бұрын

You really are a class act. ❤

Such a great video! As always! I totally agree with you! Thank you for this ❤

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!

Great video Melinda I think a lot of this ‘reality tv’ style influencer content does gaslight the viewer. I have a similar but different video tomorrow about yt content making us feel bad and how normal it is to check yourself!

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thanks Dayle! That sounds very interesting, can't wait to watch yours!

Loved this video love the honesty some great points its interesting the things some do for likes and clicks its unfortunate.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you! It is unfortunate.

You did this very well! I knew there were fake people but not to this extent! How sad she was cheating on her husband and accepted such an expensive gift. I think it’s the person who left KZread because she posts pics of her with a man who is not her husband now.

@leebeaute

Ай бұрын

I hear ya, I can’t stand fake! Unfortunately it sells & I have to remind my young adult kids continuously to be aware😝

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

That would not surprise me at all…

You are spot on. Great video! Also love that you referenced Hannah Alonzo! I love her videos and especially her recent Influencer Insanity videos! Never thought my two worlds would cross with this video. 😊

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Her latest one on the children truly has me shocked! She is really good. Thank you!

Excellent topic! We all have known that many of the things on t.v. have been fake over the years, but social media fake is fake on an EPIC level. Of course there are a lot of real people, like you, but it seems more and more of my feed is of the glossy variety.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Epic is a great way to describe it and I was shocked at how many genres are faking it!

Hi Melinda, i think the exposing of that influencer by the other influencer was done distastefully as well. We do not need to agree with A’s fake item though allegedly she had no idea, however for B to bring down another person like there’s no tomorrow without connecting in private first is just beyond me. So much for being a luxury vigilante. 😖 i wouldn’t trust both.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

I guess I didn't do a good enough job of being discreet with that one. Thank you for not using their names. I don't think she needs any more drama. And I don't understand the one who went after her either. What was the point other than views? I'm with you, I don't trust either.

@TikkunOlamEighteen

Ай бұрын

I don't want to say too much to expose who this is about but I do trust her because she addressed it. I don't think she was lying.

Thank you for saying this. There is so much fakery on social media and it makes me mad that it makes anyone feel bad. Just do you and be happy with what you have. Live in the moment. Being jealous of others or feeling inadequate is a waste of time and good energy.

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

It is such a waste of energy.

Great topic….You must love yourself first and respect where you are in life 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

So true! You really do!🩷

Wow! Great video Melinda. I have a few young ladies I like to follow, like you🥰, but I’m not really that into social media. I’m here today watching your video because it’s gosh dang cold in the Rockies!! Errrrrr!😊

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you Lin! Didn't y'all just get a lot of snow???

@LIN-wt8dk

2 ай бұрын

@@LuxPurselove thankfully where we are at, no snow! Yay! Tonight is fire pit night with a glass of wine watching the almost full moon come up over the mountains!……..with blankets and hoodies! Lolol.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Now THAT is luxury Lin! It was 89 here yesterday. I hope you had fun!🔥

Oh how funny Hannahs same video popped up on my feed too! Rather interesting watch 😁 And this is how you make a video like this with decorum Melinda👏🏻

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Jacqueline! I find her influencer videos just fascinating!

Amazing!!! thank you for all your great information and for speaking reality, I enjoy your channel very much!

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

I appreciate that! Thank you!

What an interesting topic! It's very nice listening to your thoughts on this matter. Thanks for sharing❤

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you!

Whether it is online or "back in my day" through glossy magazines, "influencers" were always around. I remember buying my monthly glamour magazines and drooling over the luxury bags and jewelry. Devouring what "everyone" was wearing that season and also all the traveling mags. Amazing that as much as things change, they stay the same. Even in those days, I never for once thought that I could "compete" with any of that, it was just a fantasy and it was like a great escape to see all those things. I think you are right though that the push of influencers to outdo each other and post constantly about their travels, their purchases etc., has to be taken down a notch. Especially when it is all contrived! Aside from all that, there is the aspect of security. We have all heard about these influencers posting their jewelry and travels and then read about them being stalked, followed and even robbed! I always have to question the mentality of someone that let's all their activities be known to the public. I fly under the radar, as they say. I don't want bad actors to come for me and what I have. Thanks for the video!

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

I miss those glossy magazine days! I loved getting one in the mail. Today everything is everywhere instantly and influencers don't help. Yes that is true I am always surprised when people post in real time their locations. We need to be as careful as possible.

Melinda, I think this is one of your most thoughtful, introspective, and interesting videos. Don't get me wrong, I love all your luxury-centric videos as well, but this was a fascinating perspective and it really highlights why I enjoy your channel. You are grounded, down to earth, acutely aware of your privilege, yet completely transparent about it to the degree you are comfortable sharing (i.e you don't share your husband's profession or his face, you also honor your daughters' privacy as well). I really respect that. So many out there are presenting carefully curated narratives of what they want us to see, but I do feel like you are wholeheartedly genuine and honest. Thank you as always for keeping it real!

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

Thank you so very much! I can't expect my family to respect me if I don't respect them. I really appreciate your kind words so much.

Super great video Melinda! I saw that Oprah episode that you mentioned. I can’t remember who the guest was that she had on for that particular segment but when Oprah said that she likes “crispy” sheets and changes them every two days, her guest called her out on it and said that the majority of hard working people do not have hired help to wash and change out their bedding every two days LOL! Btw, you are so incredibly down to earth and as a side note, your curly hair looks fabulous in this vlog! 💛

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

I did not remember that part! I'm glad someone called her out on it lol. Like really who has the time and energy to do that? Thank you so very much Ruth, I really appreciate that! Xoxo

What a great video and points. When something seems to good to be true it usually isn’t especially on social media. So refreshing to see genuine content. You can also view luxury in different ways.Gorgeous top and jewellery 🩵Thanks for sharing and best wishes as always 🌸

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much lovely! Social media can be so very fake. Best wishes back to you! Xoxo

Hahaha I remember that episode when Oprah said she changes her sheets every two days and I referenced it last week while saying I change mine weekly. 😅

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

I was yelling at the tv “You do NOT change your sheets anymore than you get gas!”😂

Great topic and I think you covered it in a very tactful manner. I don't really use social media that much. I think that although it can be entertaining and informative, unfortunately it can also become very toxic for some people. It does concern me to see how it affects many young people's self-esteem and emotional health. I personally only watch videos from You Tubers who project genuine, and positive energy. I feel that the older I get the easier it becomes to recognize people that are not authentic, and I no longer have the energy nor the desire to have those people in my life whether it's through social media or in real person.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you Maris. It can be so toxic and for the younger generations it is really bad. I totally agree on not having the energy for non authentic people.

I found you a LONGGGG time ago when you had to most amazing LV bag that I think you later sold which still upsets me ahahhaaa. But really there are people over there that are OVER the top and they are becoming the rule rather than the exception. Thanks for not going down that road!!!

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

Thank you! Now you have me curious which bag lol.

A workmate of mine went to the Maldives and said she saw a good looking couple who spent the whole day taking videos/photos of one another. But during dinnertime, they sat at the restaurant on their phones the whole time and didn't speak a single word to one another. She observed this the entire 5 days that she was at this resort, so it wasn't just a one off day.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

I saw the same in Aruba last year. I remember thinking I would be so embarrassed to be taking pics in the bar and on the veranda so openly posing for social media not just for a memento. I think it happens a lot.

@youheartmel

2 ай бұрын

My husband and I saw this in Hawaii. The man had a camera around his neck and flying a drone over his muse. She was frolicking in the water back and forth; they must've redone the same shot for about an hour. We were laughing to ourselves.

@seabreeze4559

Ай бұрын

apparently a lot of the husbands bat for the same team

Thank you for this encouraging video!

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Thank you for this video. I've been subscribed to you since the beginning and love how humble and real you are. ❤

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

Thank you so much!! I really appreciate you being with me so long! Xoxo

My husband is 6'4. We travel often. He goes carry on only. Allegiant works for us. Hes a veteran. So all bags are free. And we can board first

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Please thank him for his service.

I always thought these photos are real, until I heard a group of influencers (individually) post bunch of photos in very expensive luxury hotel on the same day, then ppl on the internet quickly found out, They all chips in to book that hotel for one day, they took turns to take photos in that hotel room, that’s why all their photos have exact same outside views and backgrounds 😅 this is how I know ppl will go this far to pretend they got everything

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Yes they will! It is so crazy to me!

I agree with all your points, except the part about the sneakers. I collect sneakers as well as bags & I like seeing my collection.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

I totally get that. I like seeing mine too but I just don't want them near my bed. Hope I didn't offend you, we all like what we like, and that's ok! :)

Great topic and appreciate your honesty and transparency ❤😊

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thanks Kaylee! Xoxo

@kaylheecarroll3186

2 ай бұрын

@@LuxPurselove your welcome

Awe you just made me smile. My husband and I travel a lot on AA points

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

I love that! To us it makes total sense. Nashville's biggest airline is Southwest for nonstop so that's why we fly that airline.

Great video, Melinda. To me, the real luxury of life is to have love. A bonus is to have the resources to live the kind of life you want for yourself, which I think is what some of these other influencers might consider luxury. But I'll tell you what, you can have a million "things" and still be empty inside. Thanks for sharing this!

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you! I love that, yes love is a luxury of life for sure. And you really can have everything and still be empty inside.

If I can't just enjoy watching a lux video I won't watch. People have a very bad tendency to internalize what they see on social media. If people do that they probably need to stay off videos surrounded in lifestyle... thanks for this video. Well said!

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Yes to that! Very well said and thank you!

Ooh I like the curly hair, Melinda, suits you. Love Hannah’s channel, it was her MLM videos that came to my attention first, then the influencer ones. On the internet we interact with people who probably wouldn’t be in our social circle ordinarily and because we ‘click’ online for 20 minutes, we tend to think we have the same level of wealth when we maybe don’t. I’m old enough not to compare my life to anyone else but it must be difficult for some, especially if younger. 99% of us will save money from at least one area in our life to pay for something else we love. Nobody has it all, all at the same time.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you! I am trying to embrace it in this heat. She has a really good channel! Love her editing skills that is a lot of work! I totally agree we can't have it all at the same time. I was debating new furniture for some rooms this year but we decided to travel instead. Who remembers a new sofa at the end of their lives? But the memory of a fun trip is a lifetime memory.

Great video and very respectfully done Melinda,l enjoyed it a lot 🙏🌻

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

"Everything that glitters isn't gold " New subscriber, tfs!

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

Thank you and yes that is true!!!

I am in a color analysis group on facebook where we help each other narrow down our color season and to do so you post photos of yourself. Some people said they had very few unfiltered photos of themselves which I found very odd because these were people in their 20s! Crazy.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

That is interesting this trend is back! I was told in the 90's I am an autumn and I just found out I am a warm spring! It really is crazy how these filters can make someone look. I would rather just look my age.

I really enjoyed this video. Isn't it funny with how the world is now that we have to have this talk as adults, to other adults? I think your message is a wonderful reminder to all of us. We have never been subscribers of Facebook for this very reason. People are not truthful about their lives, and are always comparing. Life isn't a show. You only get one shot. Live your best life doing the things you like with the people you love. Heck to all the other competition stuff! Well done and eloquently said!

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

It really is crazy what social media has become. I don't do Facebook either I did ages ago and it did seem like a competition. Thank you so much!

@seabreeze4559

Ай бұрын

I saw tons of couples pretending to be loved up on FB and couldn't scroll anymore, it was sickening. There are studies that the more a couple posts, the less happy they are. It's like the adult equivalent of saying your dad is a race car driver AND astronaut AND spy like knock it off already?

Great video and thank you for your kindness ❤

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you Judite! Xoxo

Don’t know what a luxury lifestyle is because I don’t have one. I just enjoy what I do have. There are a lot of fake people on KZread. There are a lot of genuine people on KZread. The trick is to know the difference.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

It sounds to me by enjoying what you have that you have gratitude and I think that is a luxury lifestyle!

Some of the luxury videos and KZreadrs that buy and show a lot of expensive handbags in their videos are quite misleading and send out a very unhealthy message. I've noticed some showing expensive bags and you get to see bits of their not so luxurious home in the background. A rack of running shoes beside your bed LOL! Hilarious but true. Another KZreadr recently bought an Hermes Birkin after spending over $10,000 in pre-spend in order to be offered the bag but her engagement ring is a cubic zircon. Surely it would be a better investment to fix your home or have a real diamond engagement ring instead of spending $10,000 on a handbag.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

It really is true and so crazy! I don’t know who the CZ person is but that seems just insane to me not buying a real stone over buying leather.

@seabreeze4559

Ай бұрын

how did you know it was CZ?

@marlenepopov8469

Ай бұрын

@@seabreeze4559 She said it was.

Great topic thanks for sharing ❤

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you!

What a great question: What is a luxurious lifestyle? I think the answer is as different as there are viewers. Personally, a luxurious lifestyle is one that is free of family, health, or money worries. Owning your home, having a garden, good friends, and loving someone that is luxurious. My family members in south Texas don't have lots of money but them are content and raise contented children. Anyway that is my 2 cents.

@user-hw9vf4pl9s

2 ай бұрын

A Lux-Life for me is a paid in full tiny home, a garden, some chickens, a few little doggies, and being able to foster older ones. Having people whom you care about that care about you, being able to pay your bills and have a good emergency fund, have good healthy food, nice cup of coffee in the morning, and a nice fizzy drink in the afternoon. Also being able to walk in the morning, spend time with God and nature in a sunny/warm climate and be able to help people when they are in a pickle or a bind. I have beautiful bags that I have collected over 35 years and an awesome sunglass collection but other than that I am pretty frugal. The older I am getting the more I am selling off because I would rather help those elder dogs have a good final chapter.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

I totally agree. My grandparents were never by any means wealthy but had plenty as was the saying. Thanks for sharing!

This made me laugh: “shoe shelves next to the bed” 🤣🤣🤣

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

It's true lol! Zooming in tells us a lot! :D

Thanks Melinda. I suspected there was a bit of this going on. Surprised at the extent though. 😒

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

It goes way deeper than what I got into. It is sad they aren't being real.

Who makes your t-shirt? Also, HIGHLY recommend Hannah Alonzo! Been watching since she started making MLM content.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

It’s from Lands End. Look for the supima cotton. Mines the relaxed fit. She is really enjoyable to watch and so thorough!

This was a very good video and you did it well. Yes we all have to or had to take a step back from consuming some over the top content. I agree with you what is a “Luxury Lifestyle”… just because I like a few designer bags and fly business class on international flights does not equate to a “luxury Lifetyle”. I think many of these folk are and got caught up with trying to keep up with the KZread Jones’. Yes beware all the influencers I say. I prefer Tubers who are authentic….and not part of the latest it bag tribe…when I see that I know they are just chasing views. I just hope people in general understand that the influencer lifestyle is really contrived and not real 95% of the time. To me a real luxury lifestyle doesn’t need sponsorships or to plug product so if they are getting sponsors and plugging products that “influencing” in a job just like any job. Do not be fooled. If you really have it so great why would you plug products…lab grown diamonds and roses? Paaleese! Its obvious to me it’s all a hustle to get free stuff and its a job. You are right everyone has a different definition but I do not think that buying material things equates to luxury. That just equates with liking to spend money and that is ok just do not get it twisted with these influencer folk. If you have your health, family and can pay your bills and not worry about the mortgage, food, gas and the basics you are good. All that spending does not equate to happiness. We all need to appreciate the simple things even though we do like the nice things too…so I remind myself of that everyday. Sorry this was so long and thanks again for the video…it is needed.❤

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

Thank you! I agree with all your points except sponsored content. I am very choosy who I will work with and I do very few sponsored videos. YT takes a lot of time and work and the pay doesn't reflect that so it is nice to get something extra once in awhile. But with that said I cannot stand channels that every video it is just to sell me their outfit, shoes, you name it. Some take the sponsorships to where that is all they do now. I totally agree just buying luxury things does not equate a luxury lifestyle. Health and family, food and a roof over your head and love do. Thanks for sharing!

Wonderfully done Melinda 😊

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you Elaine!

Couldn’t agree 👍🏻 more with you Dear Melinda especially in these times ✖️ & ages in which everything can be potentially’ faked’ : images, pictures, fortunes 🥠, supposed ultra well healthy families , being perpetually ultra well dressed up with high end gowns & dresses 👗, glamorous travel 🧳 around the globe 🌎, and I could go on and on…. At the end I totally 💯 👍🏻 share the ‘take everything with a grain of salt 🧂’ and do not allow anyone taking your joy 🤩 out of you 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻. I think 75% of the information ℹ️ we received are potentially biased or untrue so definitely 💯 👍🏻 have our eyes 👀 and 👂 hears wide open, is the best advice you gave us 😉😉😉 💋💋💋❤️❤️❤️❤️

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

So true and with AI I really wonder how much more will be faked. For sure their are biased opinions. We have to just think will that item really work for me. Xoxo

Great video! And you look great in your “normal” tshirt😊

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

Thank you! :)

I love Hannah Alonzo!

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

I really enjoy her!

The more money we are making, the less I’m buying into these lies! It’s funny how people buy it but also, they really have totally unrealistic expectations of what wealthy means. We are considered wealthy by definition and I can guarantee you, that we flu first class only a handful of times and it’s because we had points. We don’t own a mansion since we live in California and no we don’t have 10-15 millions to put on a house. We don’t own a yacht or rent the penthouse of the most luxurious hotel. It happens that I love luxury handbags and some jewelry but I don’t walk head to toe in luxury rtw. I’m laughing when I hear some say if you own a Birkin you should always fly first class and have that lavish lifestyle. So very few in the world can do and have it all! Most of these influencers are just fumes, but still, people believe it. Even with a big income, we still have to prioritize and make choices.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Yes to all of this! Why on earth should you fly first class because you have a nice handbag? I would rather spend that money enjoying the place I am going to not sitting on a plane to get there. It is all about choices and what we prioritize. Well said!

Real good segment Melinda❤

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you Tawanna! Xoxo

Most really wealthy people are very frugal and that’s why they have so much money. I think like you low end some and high end items on other things. Tfs 🥰

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

Very true!

I watched that Honey vid and a few others she has made…….Its all smoke and mirrors 35yrs 💍 that’s some accomplishment, better than any neat pantry/organised fridge/bag collection

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Isn't it crazy? Who knew pantry organization was so popular too? And faking reorganizing? Like what??? I will take the 35 years over bags, luxury or anything else any day. Thank you!

Great topic Melinda. It is very sad that people want to go online and lie about things. I’m am always happy for people who can afford to treat themselves to whatever they consider to luxury. I don’t shop a lot so I enjoy watching your channel so see what is new and your opinion. Have a wonderful day 🎉

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

It really is sad, they should just be real. Thank you I hope you have a wonderful day as well!

Your t-shirt looks lovely

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you!

Your hair looks really good today. If you have natural curl, let it go, girl.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you! I am trying to get used to it most of my life it's been stick straight! :)

Great message

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Thank you!

Such a great video.

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

Its really sad that people fall for the scam

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

I agree.

I enjoyed your video today Melinda . thank you 😊🏝

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it! :)

I think the trick for watching any influences is to go back to their first videos and see how they have progressed. The people I watch now I've been watching for over 5 years and you can see how their hard work has paid off and what they can afford now. There are also certain people I don't watch anymore because the endless, ridiculously expensive high-end hauls are just annoying. I don't think anybody should publicise having 100s of thousands of dollars worth of diamonds in their house. It's not a secure way to live.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

That is an interesting way to look at it. I agree some have become very successful which is great.

I also remember Oprah once had a sneer at fake flowers and how crass they are. She said her home is filled only with fresh flowers and would not entertain anything that wasn't real. Obviously real flowers are nicer. But they are also expensive. To have a constant delivery of fresh flowers is out of many people's budget, so to brighten their homes, some make do with silk or plastic that can last for years. I thought at the time how out of touch she is. (And no, I don't have any fake flowers in my home but it still annoyed me.)

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

She has been out of touch for a really long time! Having that kind of money isn't always a good thing.

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏excellent video! On point!

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!💕

All facts ❤

That’s why I don’t watch these folks who have high volume followers. I prefer common sense real people. I like to watch these videos to detach from work. I enjoy your videos because they are realistic. I am a 60 year mod professional who likes bags and dislikes no none sense

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

I am so glad you enjoy mine, thank you so much!

Great great video!

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it

And then there ARE those influencers you see in first class, flying to Dubai, dripping with jewels, who aren't faking it, but what they are forced to do to attain that lifestyle "would make Caligula blush," and yes, that was a Morrissey quote.

@LuxPurselove

2 ай бұрын

I have seen those videos and what those girls go through is beyond horrifying. Not worth the price they pay for the rich lifestyle.

Wow, so mentally draining to portray a fake life, actually sad to do that and debilitating. Waking up to see a wall of sneakers does seem creepy!

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

It does seem very draining. Good way to put it! And who wants to smell shoes next to the bed lol??

35??? Wow you look young, what do you do?

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

Awe you are too kind, thank you so much!

Honestly it’s the lies for me. I don’t care if you have real or fake bags/jewelry, just be honest. Don’t lie to subscribers. That’s a huge ick for me.

@LuxPurselove

Ай бұрын

I totally agree! Just be honest.