I disapeared cause i had enough of all the crap from others.

@mrkhoukhi

2 жыл бұрын

I swear, so true !!!

We read verbal, non verbal, and unspoken communication. We know what you're really after. Nothing good.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Donna, wishing good people find their way to you.

@jfj876

Жыл бұрын

It's all in your head infjs are evil people who are so emotionally sensitivity that their partners have to walk on eggshells and they understand the opposite of whatever you tell them. Infjs think people" want" something from them, as if they could give anything more than pain. No doubt infjs are most broken and sad narcissist and evil people in history. Fun fact Hitler was an infj.

@kokoy29

10 ай бұрын

This is absolutely right 😢

As you age, you start to realize it's easier to just not put yourself out there......and yes, I leave when I've had enough.

@JT-gm4fk

Жыл бұрын

Easier yes, but not putting yourself out there is hiding who you are. It's confirming to the world. Being ignored is a sign you're on the right path. People are uncomfortable when they see something different.

@jfj876

Жыл бұрын

You are gonna come back anyway and when you do the curse you created is gonna come back for you, someone will ghost you.

@craigbarrett2278

Жыл бұрын

@@jfj876 age is a wonder....humans need to be happy alone, then we will find real connections. You live yours, I'll live mine!😁

lol in a party/social gathering, I actually let the people know I am a introvert, so they don't feel like I am abandoning them. It's a great conversation starter, and people will see me just wandering off alone and don't mind that I am doing my own thing.

We should always look at the roll we play in our relationships as INFJs. To others we appear on the surface, calm, understanding, patient and long suffering, which we are, to a point. That, "to a point" is what gets them, they think that point is so far off it does not need to be a concern. So, when we pull our "puff" act and disappear, it truly takes them by surprise. As an INFJ it is VERY important to identify that boundary loudly and clearly at an early stage in any relationship so they realize #1, we have boundaries, and #2 if they don't respect them there is the very likelihood we will react adversely. It is not fair to ignorant people to punish them because they did not pick up on the subtle clues we may have been dropping, or not. Now, if they still do not respect those boundaries, drop them like the hot potato they are. Simply put, those kinds of people do not deserve you!

They say that Narcissists Doorslam to torture the people who have crossed them. When someone continues to hurt me I will walk away. I have walked away 6x in the last 5 years. No regrets from me.

Numerous times back in my teens at parties, I would leave without telling anyone. This happened on numerous occasions. Typically it would be a feeling that would come over me. Either I didn't feel welcome or someone said something that made me feel unwelcome. It was all a feeling. I never went out planning on leaving early and without telling any one, just happened.

LOL! I would take breaks during wedding dinners at hotels by retreating to the restroom n sit in the cubicle for some me time. I find it suffocating to be in crowds for long. I usually will slip away quietly after some time due large events. And yes, I do feel tired after I returned home from such events.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Xiuyi, thank you for sharing :)

Oh yeah! I can be the life of the party and suddenly feel totally WIPED OUT and I just slide away .😂. Occasionally I'll say goodbye but not always at all. Feeling separate/different anyway makes it easy. When I need space it's immediate and feels claustrophobic and urgent. I like your verbal style here and great topic. 💜☮️🙏. Much respect.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Hey Shelli, thank you for sharing your experience of feeling wiped out and feedback! Stay well

I fell asleep at a club right beside the speakers,I woke up not knowing where the fuck I was lol

When I was a bit younger, whenever I attended any social function (usually because it was something I felt obligated to attend), I would be looking around, strategizing what would be my early exit. I would go, but I had to leave early. There were also many parties I attended that I would just slip away at just the right moment, and I think people just got used to it. As for door slam type stuff? I have disappeared numerous people and groups of people because of many reasons, but in the end, if I feel like spending time with you is neutral or negative? Nothing personal to any of them, of course, but not compatible with me and I just cannot do it. Being an older INFJ and a pretty healthy one, it is just how it must happen. When I was younger life was very chaotic for me, but once I figured out what was happening to me, it all became much clearer and I keep putting in the work. Every day. And have grown a ton. Thanks!

@_InsertName_

2 жыл бұрын

Almost same 🙂

@andy1971williams

7 ай бұрын

I am friendly, happy, helpful but I really can't be bothered with people anymore. There is nothing exiting about this world of people.

If i get a feeling that i gotta go i do with no need to explain my choice

I go away not trying to be hateful. I just need to get away from the drama other's try to push on me. Also I would never go to sleep at a party with my butt up in the air^^

In my case I don’t want share my issues with others. I close myself to resolve and concentrate to look for a solution. And last thing that I want someone annoying and telling what I need to do… I just want stay in my cage looking deep what is going in my life

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

Self contemplation. Thank you for sharing, Henry :)

Yeeeeeah I’m kinda doing this with social media just now. I’ve been going through a rough patch in family life just now and I just couldn’t handle going social media during the festive holidays and seeing all the “happy-clappy/ThIs WaS tHe BeSt YeAr EvEr!!” posts that were constantly appearing. So just before new year I decided to not check my social media whatsoever. Nada compared to checking it daily. I’m not ghosting anyone - if you message me I *will* respond. But everywhere else in social media I’ve taken a step back to protect my well-being. I’ve got to admit it’s helped a bit. It may look as though I’ve disappeared but I haven’t. I’m just taking a break to self-reflect.

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

I hear you about stepping back from social media, especially during these holidays. Anyone also have this experience?

Oh my goodness! This describes me to a T! I have however never fallen asleep at a club. I would go home when I’ve had enough…I refer to this as being full. Also I have ghosted and door slammed people who cross my boundaries/limitations. Some times never communicating with that person again. Im glad I’m not the only quirky one in the world.

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

Let's all quirk together! Welcome and thank you for watching, Rochester NY!

@ermaautencio2985

2 жыл бұрын

Rochester NY...me too...

These type of ppl need to be alone forever! Narcissistic ppl need to be alone! Needing hrs, days alone i can see, but to ghost someone you are committed to is evil! Give the person the closure and set them free! The Creator of all of us did not say this is acceptable! NO Excuses, if you can’t communicate what you need, stay alone!

Don't gimme the scissors and I won't cut you out. Lol seriously, just be calm and low maintenance and we'll get along great.

Your explanation of disappearing is spot on! One of my friends told me that she may not hear from me for months. But when we do reconnect, it's like no time has passed and we pick up where we left off.

@INFJWay

Жыл бұрын

Definitely a really lovely feeling when reconnecting. Thank you for sharing ☺️

I am INFP, I feel the same. Sometimes I just wanna stray away from friends.

I've experiences of such lapses of not being coherent to serious situations which give rise to a kind of anger or disappointment or being unheard or disinterested feelings to the opposite of me when they're very very serious and have little time to spare for the rush they have! This may cause trouble to a relationship when they have little bit into an infj! But I know from the core of my understanding that why has this have to be happened with me when the matter is not so light and despite my belief that this is not the matter what surfaced at the crucial time for my subconscious anxieties for the real person in front me made me to take a lift from the situation which required utmost dignity in the surface level but that's my system of getting energized which is required from the subconscious to wait upon for a longer period of rapt attachment to the otherwise busy person and by then she's away and I have little time and space to bring back to make it understand what's what! This causes a lot of damage to understanding until they're accustomed to my bizarre reactions which aren't always driven by conscious level! But I don't know, I've a special ability to surprise them at times when they learn that I not that inattentive as they thought I was!

While I have never fallen asleep at a function, I do become very bored very fast if there's only one topic of conversation. If there's a host, I will let them know, but if it's only a bunch of people, I just leave. Most of the folks I know are used to it, and it's no big deal.

I've always walked away most memorable I flew to Virginia to my aunts from my home in New England and at Busch gardens I just left all my aunts and cousins and went on the rides alone till security found me also my first day of first grade when all the kids lined up to go into school I hid behind a tree 🌳 till someone found me

I did it all. Thanks for this video.....is good to know that we are not alone

I "walk off" all the time and that's when i can finally BREATHE!!! Im watching this video bc im trying to convey to the person im in a relationship with that INFJs are different and he's not sensitive to it. He went to school for psychology so he thinks he knows EVERYTHING and we are just wired for it. It's been hard with him... maybe just go back to being alone...bleh. i don't want to do that. Hey you're beautiful❤ and Brave for making a video! Hats off to you!!!!

@INFJWay

2 ай бұрын

Thank you @kaycevanveer212 for sharing what's happening in your life. ❤️ I hope that over time there'll be the understanding from him that you're looking for. I really appreciate your kind words. Thank you.

We’re still around, but you won’t get to know us unless we know and trust you!

Yes, we r mostly infj left alone and honestly these people doesn’t fear about to be alone, other people’s actually are.

Lol I had to research because I'm about to go ghost on someone for a lack of communication. We've been missing each other's phone calls and I'm about over it lol. So I thought you myself go research to see if it's you or the other person. It's me lol and I'm okay with that now that I know it's me. I shall continue with the blocking. It sucks because I really like the person but if rather detach now then later. What makes it hard is this guy never goes away he will wait until I reappear. I'm so confusing to my own self lol. I think my best friend of 25 years is an Infj because she pulls this disappearing act just like I do. It don't matter how long we go we will always be back together. However we do tell each other we can't go for so long like that without checking in. Last time we did take an unexpected break I ended up finding out she was damn near 9 months pregnant when we came back together. That was heartbreaking so we vowed to never do that again to each other. My brother got the door slam and it was well deserved! That's when we really don't give a flying rats ass about you at all. You've crossed a line.

Great video; thanks for sharing your insight. love your channel. I do well in social settings, but they burn all my energy.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks jorgeharmstrong!

*Wow definitely true I used to fall asleep at clubs and movie theaters...I attributed it to my brain finally being on autopilot mode- as an INFJ the over analyzing & incessant thinking can be a lot.*

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

Hey OFF HYPE. Thank you for sharing your experience!

@antoinetteamah7091

Жыл бұрын

Definitely, I fall asleep in a club before and people were baffled.

At a party, I use a lot of energy to be in the matrix where I am attuned not only into people (various psychological temperatures) but also the environment (artwork), and if I am with someone, I tell them I am stepping outside to recharge and I'll be back. I leave and enjoy the silence as I explore the surrounding. I learned that taking mini breaks I can rejoin the party revitalized, and if my friend doesn't get butthurt about it, well...that's a keeper. I do have a tendency to leave a party without saying goodbye, but my "Fe" was on overdrive and I make sure I leave with a good impression (besides, being mysterious is also sexy).

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

Being mysterious is also sexy! Love it! Thank you for watching and joining us here, Phillip.

I’m pretty sure an INFJ a true one would never fall asleep in a crowd because it would leave us way too vulnerable and in order to make sure we protect ourselves we would leave before we would ever let that happen.

@My_Spiritual_Journey.

Жыл бұрын

I agree.

As a child when I was 11, every morning waiting outside the school, I would walk to the library and come back 15 minutes later to the school. This was my morning walking habit to take some time to be alone.

In a party at some point either I live or sometimes I juste blank out and it’s like I’m « mentally » gone, nothings happening anymore and poeple try to talk to me and I’m juste there starting into nothing😂

I'm the opposite. Started to see more of the world and take chances now in my 30's. More extrovert than my 20's

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

That's awesome, Peace & Love!

😁😁😁😁😁😂😂😂😂😂😂,im always do that and every time i do it i just need to explain myself why i did that ,cuz whatever u say in some piont people will take it personally so nothing can do about .this is my experiance when i go through Ghosting mood 😅😅😅😅

Oh man. I fell asleep on the dance floor, but the thing is I was at a festival in the forest in Northern Ontario, Canada so I got hypothermia and needed to be warmed up by the people who found me. I slept for about 2 hours. When I fell asleep the music was still going and nobody thought anything of someone sleeping under a tree. Oh well, I'm alive.

@INFJWay

Жыл бұрын

So glad to hear you were looked after and that you are here ❤️

Yes I did that a lot too.

Had the sleepy thing in club yes.

I have done all those things 😀

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

Great to hear from you, john doe 😃

I thought ghosting was slang language for gangs in Los Angeles shooting someone. "He ghosted that mother Fu...." Meaning he killed them. What is Gaslighting?

Some call me the submarine😂

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

😂

Lol. I do this all the time.

Infj ghosting is not a joke for other people's mental health. People are not so sensitive as an infj, infjs emotionally sensitivity stem from their own pride and ego, it bothers people to not even know why they got left and it starts of a curse on the infj which follows them and waits for them when they find their own love. God doesn't take people who ghost lightly. God shows a middle finger too. Also if you are so insecure as an infj you should have never gotten into a relationship.

@INFJWay

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your perspective as there is usually two or more sides to a story. Sorry if you have been hurt in the past. Pray that you receive closure.

🥰

How?? It's so loud?! 🔊 right?

Everytime.. I'm one of the infj

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

Great to have you here, Keisha.

@jfj876

Жыл бұрын

This is not funny, one day you will wake up and realize it's "you" who were in the wrong.

I'm an Infj and married to a narcissist 😞

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

* Hugs * sending you strength and light. Remember yourself. ❤️

@fatoujoof1197

2 жыл бұрын

@@INFJWay thank you so much. I appreciate your concern

@MylezNevison

2 жыл бұрын

😬

@Unknown-n9l

Жыл бұрын

Ooo... no

@jfj876

Жыл бұрын

Well it's true love dear, it's what you always wanted(there is nothing called true love true love is "concern" which is not good enough for an infj)...? It hurts your infj ego right?? Just turn down your sensitivity a bit and you are good.

Narcissism

Bathroom,classic.

That stuff bore me!

How do you broke and have courage to started a KZread channel???

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

What a great question, Henry. Lots of practise putting myself in uncomfortable speaking situations in front of face-to-face groups, online groups, video recordings and podcast style recordings. Get feedback and use each experience as a learning opportunity. INFJs can do it! :)

@Henryfranconieriyamamoto

2 жыл бұрын

@@INFJWay and how do you deal with your self judgment, one of the reasons that I don’t started and the everything need to be perfec

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

@@Henryfranconieriyamamoto to answer your question I would like to have some time to consider what I had done. Would you be okay with me putting this question of yours in a video and providing a response that way? I can either include your full name and profile picture, or just your first name with your question. What would you prefer? Looking forward to hearing from you :)

@Henryfranconieriyamamoto

2 жыл бұрын

@@INFJWay sure take your time

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

@@Henryfranconieriyamamoto thank you so much!

It seems disrespectful, rude. Playing games Flaky But ok.