Anyone in a relationship with an INFJ needs to see this video to understand them better. Perfect demonstration/explanation of why we retreat into ourselves.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you. TYWC - Marty

@thatquietasianguy9582

Ай бұрын

Is it possible you guys can come back I'm so sorry

I can't say this to my INFJ but please let me say it to you : Dear INFJ, I'm extremely very sorry for any hurt I caused you by judging your ghosting and hating you for it. I did not realize how painful it was for you. I wish I can take that pain back. Thankyou Sir ! You explained very well..thankyou for explaining something so painful to us, cz maybe we really could never have guessed it on our own what's happening inside the INFJ. I understand and I forgive and I'm regretful and I pray for my INFJ.

@marty_glenn

2 жыл бұрын

No you cannot say that. It would not be a good thing to do; you did right by saying it here. You are welcome and keep doing your best. Normally the INFJ will, when trust and love comes back to the front of their mind... Say words of sorrow and or some some sort of, not regret, but regretful for the pain caused by the ghosting. Wait long enough and it will be said. Let me know if I am right? TYWC - Marty

I have to be alone BECAUSE I notice all SO I have to run away AND hide myself to balance myself! hahaha!

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Oh and now another one of my videos is 10 seconds. Keep it up. Here is the marker. TYWC - Marty

I call it overload and that’s exactly why I’m on a 3 day weekend not talking to anyone.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Yep. Take your time. TYWC - Marty

This is the first time I’ve discovered your channel and I gotta say... I really loved your explanation for why an INFJ might seem to disappear off the face of the planet. I’ve always felt so guilty when ghosting people or even thinking about doing it, but this video gave me some solace about that desire. However, that shouldn’t excuse the hurt and pain I might’ve caused people when I up and left without a word. It’s been a gradual process, but I truly want to try to be more open with people and let them know that I need space from time to time. I really wanna tell them that I still love them and that they mean the world to me, but I just need time in the relationship to be alone. I’m disappointed in myself that I’ve let meaningful relationships fail in the past because I kept retreating back to my cave without letting the other person know, but I suppose that is something I’ll have to deal with in this lifetime. All I can do now is try to be more open, accept my past self as apart of me, seek new relationships in the future, and nurture them to the best of my abilities...

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you and here is the thing: I did that video one off and just from a viewer comment asking me what it was. I did not do a second of planning. Thank you for letting me know that it helps. TYWC - Marty

@LYoung-et2sg

3 жыл бұрын

Do you not think we will understand? I would understand. Truly. Ghosting is incredibly painful and emotionally damaging to this ENFP.

@thatquietasianguy9582

Ай бұрын

No it's okay this is normal I'm so sorry I'm really sorry

Spot on Marty. I want my brain rewired. Almost 30 and I'm miserable because I notice every single detail about everything. I am a pipe welder so I use my perfectionism with my work and then I diligently apply more effort on the "self" day in and day out. I want to understand ME, environment, rejection, imperfections, etc way more than pleasures. Trauma built my brain and responses. Now, today, all I want is to be free and trust another human. Keep up your beautiful work. 💜

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Wow Welder. Technical for sure. Good stuff. Always doing my best Bri. TYWC - Marty

You hit the nail right on the head, I have to have that recharge time I have maintain my balance or find myself experiencing a literal explosion of emotional chaos.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Yep. I understand that and me too. TYWC - Marty

This was so helpful I almost cried man

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Drell. Very nice and thank you for comment. It is so real and yet it is amazing how I just am able to turn on the camera and it fits. Like I always say: You either now your shit or you dont. Right? It is comments like yours that tell me the reality. - Marty

@patrickr.sansonetti3237

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Marty. Its good to hear from professionals but your angle, as an obvious INFJ, is so enlightening. I have always cycled between being social then disappearing to regroup and recharge, now I at 52 years old, finally understand myself. Thank you so much!

@jangilexieborhi3227

3 жыл бұрын

I cried too. This really hit home.

@jangilexieborhi3227

3 жыл бұрын

You’ve just basically described the burden & pain of being an empath. It’s taken me a lifetime to recognize what was going on with me and why. Knowledge is a wonderful thing though. With it I am much better equipped to get my balance and stability back so I can function in harmony with my surroundings again. Thank you for sharing what you’ve learned. You help make the INFJ experience make more sense. ❣️❣️

Wasn’t too sure how I felt about this channel at first but I have to say after watching this video you are absolutely brilliant! Definitely gonna go check out the rest of your videos👌🏽

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Top 5 compliments thus far since I started the channel. Means a lot. Thank you for the wonderful compliment and watching me. - Marty

Hits EVERY checkmark with me. Hiding right now working on stuff because I notice everything and it's time for me to act on what I noticed. Save for my immediate family, no one knows where I'm at.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

;) - M

I discovered that I needed to organize my life instead of dumping all of my effort and my emotional capacity on people that really weren't worth my time. I had no boundaries to protect myself from everything else. I shut down and push people out so I can value myself. I have to eliminate all the other avenues and options. I have to be alone so that the only person I can be is myself. I have to focus on my needs, my responsibilities to myself, and my goals and ambitions. I have a pretty poor handle on how I perceive my self worth. Probably because I base my value on my utility in the lives of the people I become attracted to. Trade suffering for accolades and fantasized praise. Garner affection byway of self imposed misery. It's really too bad that there are people who would let another person persist in thinking and feeling this way just to leech benefits from the self sacrifice. So I would say isolation is suitable remedy. They say something is better than nothing, but I believe nothing is better than something that isn't worth having.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

HaHa. How funny... Stay isolated to protect yourselves from those who desperately need to be helped. So that is why I drive around in my car all day and visit the sames places day after day after day. lol Noted! TYWC - Marty

@mr.cynical2201

3 жыл бұрын

@@marty_glenn I've had to learn that desperation doesn't always equate to worthiness. A person could be desperate for a solution to their problem, but that doesn't mean they'll be grateful when it's handed to them. From my personal experience it's much better to give them the tools they need to find their own solution. They seem much more grateful when they're guided to the solution instead of having the work done for them. Much like your videos, you give us insight and knowledge but we have to choose whether or not we utilize it. It ultimately comes down to an individual's choice. Many of the people I've tried to help were desperate because they chose to be in the predicament they placed themselves in. They were competent, capable people, the only thing holding them down was themselves. Now if I choose to help people I recognize that it does them no good to take away their ability to struggle and succeed with their own effort. Unfortunately I still need to test to see whether they really want guidance or just someone to leech off of emotionally and psychologically. It really takes a lot out of me so I should probably develope the skills needed to quickly assess their character.

@mr.cynical2201

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe worthiness isn't the best word without more contextual support. Not so much unworthy of help in general. Unless they're extremely toxic people, in which case I would have to determine whether it's worth subjecting myself to their malignance or if it would be better for my health to just forego interest. So I suppose it's worthiness in the sense that helping them is worth as much as whatever resources I expend to interact with them. In that case it's really a hypothetical imperative. I would have to ask myself "is wanting to help them greater than my want to sustain my health?" If so, then to meet that end I would need to do all that I can to help them. If not, then I should ignore the person and help myself.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

They do not want help. They want to bring others down to another level but never a level up. - Marty

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Never. Very rarely is the word 'never' the wrong word to use. In my life at least. - Marty

You are a lighthouse during a great storm in my life. Thank you

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Southern Soul. Thank you. It means a lot and I have nothing more to add except that it matters and fuels the fire to continue and try to do my best in my authenticity and openness. Thank You for Watching and the Comment (TYWC) - Marty

Wow. This is honestly one of the most impactful videos I’ve ever seen on INFJs. I love your videos and seeing how, what I do can be so rationalized and explained is SOOO HELPFUL. I genuinely really needed to see this. I’m so happy that I can actually show people in a better way of what I do. Thank you so much for articulating what I just haven’t been able to yet. You’re awesome! ^_^

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

You are welcome. ;) Always doing my best. TYWC - Marty

I’m in the middle of a 3 year recharge/isolation. Only just figuring out what I am now. Loving the content it’s helping so much with my research into why I am the way that I am. Godspeed

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I think you’re brilliant Marty!

Thank you again Marty! This will help me explain to my partner how to cope with me wanting to “run away” lol . You are definitely helping me... I truly appreciate you. 🌟🤍💫

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Hi JusRightHere. Glad it can help. A picture is worth a thousand words and why hurt feelings when they do not need to be hurt. Mis-understandings right? TYWC - Marty

This is so underrated and very easy to understand, thanks for sharing your knowledge, you're such a great teacher

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the great and supportive words. TYWC - Marty

So I have just had something I have always know that I do explained to me by one of the few people on the planet (another INFJ male) in a way that I just get, instantly, and in a way that I would have tried to explain it myself had I know this already. Right from the opening comment offering to give the INFJness away to the last closing remark of the Cluster B's this is salve for my soul. From one struggling INFJ man to another, thank you Marty for the time and energy you put into these videos (I am about 7 into your channel so far and I only found you yesterday) you are the most real person I have seen on YT. Peace.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks and I appreciate that because I take a lot of heat from people for the 'real' you speak of; it is tough to be real. Why should it be? I have no clue but fuck that, I am going to do me and stick with that. Thanks again. Always doing my best. TYWC - Marty

Man I had a hard time with this today. Really needed to see this. I love to work and work hard but the people are what drains me the most. Im trying something new at my new job.. To keep people at a distance in the hopes that I'll better be able to keep my work at the door when I clock out. The result of this today felt like a total breakdown of my self and a complete absorption of those around me, exactly as you've described. I've been loving the videos I've watched so far Marty, thank you for helping me not feel alone, even when it's what I think I want most of the time. I just noticed you are able to write backwards very well, impressive!!

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

;) Writing = Practice ;)) TYWC - Marty

I don't know why but I burst out in tears after your intro.. It just really hit me hard as trying to understand myself and my choices can be so challenging some times so hearing someone else say it... I don't feel so alone x thanks

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

You are welcome and glad I can help in any way. TYWC - Marty

Debilitating is the word I have always used... my episodes have been so much less severe as I have come into my own power. You are the only person I have heard describe INFJ energy like this... it is beautiful.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. Always doing my best and stay honest and transparent. The more things are different the more they are the same. Odd as it sounds. TYWC - Marty

Truly brilliant explanation. Thank you so much!

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

It is the drawings. Or is it me? lol Jk Thank you and glad you found it worthy of your time. TYWC - Marty

This is an awesome explanation of me/us. It’s Brilliant.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Always doing my best. TYWC - Marty

This video Really was the Turning point for me ...to be my true best version... God bless you Man...🤗

You are such a beautiful human being and very deep on emotional level.Being INFJ is very challenging.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

You think... ;)) TYWC - Marty

Thank you Marty. Your video allowed me to reflect and grasp a better understanding on past events in my life and in every personal relationship as well. I've always...disappeared throughout my life in some way. Sleeping more /pretending to sleep was one of them when I wanted to disappear from facing my family members in the same household. I felt too much internal conflict and they've always shown concern when I've done it for abnormal periods of time. Nobody understood my questionable actions back then, but it was a very curious thing I did as a kid.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

That is great. That video is one of my finer moments with pictures. It is hard to believe that that video is a one off and first time drawing on the spot. Just go. Great that I got it right. ;) TYWC - Marty

Thanks for the information it was very insightful to understanding an infj better. I'm an infp so I don't typically get overwhelmed with the emotions of others. However what brought me to your video was that I was watching an infj on KZread for a while she was making content and then all the sudden she disappeared from the internet without saying anything. It's been over a year since she last uploaded and I don't think she's coming back, at least not anytime soon.

I believe everything happens for a reason, including the trajectory of your life past and present. This stuff is complicated and rare to understand/teach. You have a purpose and it’s important and you’re doing it right now. You may just save a life. Nothing happened to you in vain. You’re helping so many people including me! Thank you

@podlou9939

4 жыл бұрын

I totally agree. And maybe I need a good set of markers and a perspex boundary just to set it out to 'them'.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much. Very kind words and very supportive. TYWC - Marty

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the second vote. Very kind. TYWC - Marty

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and knowledge. Your video has helped me to understand things much better and I can't wait to learn more from you. 🙂🙏

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

That is great to hear and very glad you enjoyed the video. Means a lot. TYWC - Marty

Maybe we are not created to be in relationships and our mission on this planet not to be involved in relationships but to use all our energy for our goal, mission for humanity.

Really loving your videos man! Much respect for doing this the way you are doing it. I can see you’ve taken a half lifetime to be able to regulate and then articulate these inner images into words. The unforgiving expression of self makes you very visceral, leaving nothing to imagination and leaving no room for people to fill in the personal emotional shadows with their projections. Water can only collect on hard surfaces but the ocean absorbs all and only shows ones own distorted nature back at one self. It’s the treasure we gain from looking into the abyss while the abyss looks back and realising is only ourselves we are scared of.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

You said: Really loving your videos man! Much respect for doing this the way you are doing it. I can see you’ve taken a half lifetime to be able to regulate and then articulate these inner images into words. The unforgiving expression of self makes you very visceral, leaving nothing to imagination and leaving no room for people to fill in the personal emotional shadows with their projections. Me: Thank you for that. Yep , there is a lot there and its hard sometimes because I dont want to appear fake or drama, I do my best to explain, but yes 49 year of life and passion are in every video. Sometimes a lot of pain. You said: Water can only collect on hard surfaces but the ocean absorbs all and only shows ones own distorted nature back at one self. It’s the treasure we gain from looking into the abyss while the abyss looks back and realizing is only ourselves we are scared of. Me: That is some IQ for your ass right there. Read it 4x's and each time come away with something new. TYWC - M

Amazing, I was just thinking about why I'm always struggling with this and this really puts it to understanding. Thanks.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Great. I am glad you found it worthy of your time. TYWC - Marty

@Kataro214

Ай бұрын

I think I found the solution for this... though it's not exactly super easy to set up. the avoidant run away person (INFJ INTJ ISFJ etc) can heal very well in the presence of someone who are anxious and deeply caring for their partner. However that anxious person must have learned how to treat avoidant people, which is almost impossible because it's so counter-intuitive to them, to give you space when you start to retreat (as we instead want to fix the relationship, we are good at it) however when the anxious peep understand what happens and that they must act against their instincts, this invites the avoidant to finally face her fear and childhood wounds. When they are most wanting to run away is when they should approach the partner face to face, even if it sounds counter intuitive and against their instincts too. Actually this is not instincts in any of the cases but more so protection mechanisms. The healing truly depends opon how well that other person still loves you, and if they instead is unforgiving and not cool with you, it can turn into the very disaster they fear. Therefore... it's a scary one! but it's also the only true way to heal the core childhood wound, through relationship The more intense the situation, the higher the reward or wound... Therefore even better however, is to do it slowly over time, deal with the shadow bit by bit rather than the monster as a whole. This would be my reccommendation, and it can train both parties to be brave enough to go deeper and deeper into their wound and heal it together Anyway, anxious individuals surprisingly does probably have the best capacity to meet you with love in that very situation, when the avoidant truly does dare to face her fears and do the very opposite of running away

I totally understand everything your saying bro.

Great video, Marty! The rigidity of self esteem you mentioned is such a valid point. Of all the people in my life, I am the last to give up my self esteem and often it is because I don’t want others to feel bad for me. Similar to how INFJ’s take on the needs of others in general, I end up feeling worse about them sympathizing with me than they feel sympathizing to begin with. This is why I ghost. It is easier to solve my own problems than to ask for help and feel guilty as a result. Worst case-scenario, it is easier to leave someone than it is to hurt them.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

You're 18 Oliver? HaHa Well said. Lets see how you do with the other videos coming with you in mind and adding a little bit of extra details. Glad you enjoyed the video. Sound was better or same?

@oliverpreston8640

4 жыл бұрын

Marty Glenn I might be young lol but I’ve been through some serious shit that’s probably given me more wisdom than most my age. I could definitely tell the audio improved! It was never bad to begin with I’m just a perfectionist so I always offer advice, sometimes even when it’s not needed. But yeah, your audio is already better than most youtube channels I’m subscribed to. There’s sometimes a high pitch ringing due to the glass you use to write on but luckily the only people who will notice that are the viewers with good ears like me. What’s more is that most channels who have this high pitch frequency have it so bad I can’t even watch the video and I haven’t once had that issue hear (mind you I have great ears). I would say overall that visually you’re somewhere between the 95th and 98th percentile compared to other channels and as far as audio you’re easily 85th percentile and you’re doing that with half the gear most are using, glass in the room, and the mic farther away than almost anyone. I think you’re doing a stellar job man, especially given how little time you’ve been at this in comparison to most. Learning quick!

@oliverpreston8640

4 жыл бұрын

If you want me to find the exact frequency the pitch is I can tell you and it would be really easy to isolate just that sound! If not, it’s not a problem, trust me. You have a really passionate speaking voice that grabs attention and that’s rarer than finding a channel with perfect audio to be honest.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

ok Oliver. Here is a lesson for you in being an INFJ. My insides are saying I don't want your help and I don't need your help but you are only trying to be nice and help yet I cannot help the feelings inside me. Trust me when I say this that I do not mean this: "I don't want your help and I don't need your help" but it is just a reflex. So do this: email me and let me know how I can let you help me so that I can increase my voice and the passion. I appreciate it. - Marty

@oliverpreston8640

4 жыл бұрын

Marty Glenn You’re all good man!! I don’t normally offer advice to channels but like I’ve said before, you remind me a lot of myself so I want help with whatever tips and tricks I have at my disposal. I’m checking out your sons channel and if you set him up then that explains a lot because it’s really high quality work! I hope you don’t take any of my comments as negative criticisms because the only reason I’m even “helping” is because I want to see your channel grow, you deserve it. That’s why I’m only making comments on sound design, you’ve got everything on your channel running so smoothly I don’t know how else to help! And yes, an email would work great, how do I find yours?

It's crazy how relative this is to me. I literally just reached this point 2 weeks ago. The moment I let my emotions out the pain was out and the balance came back to my life.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Very good and glad my video could help you in any way. TYWC - Marty

Pure genius man I'm so serious thank u so much for these videos marty....

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

You are welcome and appreciate the words. TYWC - Marty

I felt you when you reached out to the word... Debilitating..... Cause exhausting just wouldn't cut it...the joy of being an infj.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

:) TYWC - Marty

100% love this, thank you

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

You are welcome. TYWC - Marty

This is such a helpful perspective ty

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

You are welcome and perfect word: perspective Now that is the way you tell someone I like and agree with this part but not this part I do not and show value to someones time and effort; Mine. Thank you for that and happy you found something valuable. TYWC - Marty

Total mind blown! Your explanation...I wish I found 25 years ago when I took my first Myers Briggs at a career conference. No wonder I was the only INFJ in attendance & felt that the instructor was very intrigued & stared a lot after we raised our hand with our results.... Found out later that I’m an an HSP. Took the test again recently & even got the % of I, N, F & J. So glad I found your videos. I don’t want to be an INFJ at 45 now & know it’s no use to try & force fitting in. Love your energy & language & feel myself wanting to let it out like you, but guilt & others expectations of me (looks like my rigid self esteem, also) could keep me from balance. My husband of 27 years is an ISTP, I think, as he just took the test and was 51% T & 53% P. So I wish he would take again..as maybe he could be an ISFJ. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Anyway, I feel so alone and never *fit in. Your graphs are helping me, along with other research, to know I’m not alone. Thank you 😊 You are truly helping people. *Again, enjoy your energy 💙

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

That is great and thank you. Always doing my best and very happy to hear that you found the videos worthy of your time. TYWC - Marty

Thank you Marty 🖤 we appreciate you.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. Means a lot. TYWC - Marty

Okay- so I could write a comment as long as a novel in response to this video alone. I just watched 3 in a row & subbed after video #2, which was the, “100% INFJ Test” video, because you nailed it. 100%. I took these tests as a teenager & college student and forgot all about MBTI until my late 30’s (I’m 44 now). I had been a Buddhist monastic for a while in my mid-30’s, and was tickled to pieces in my late 30’s when I took an MBTI & it came out as INFP! I felt like I’d evolved so much, and maybe I was somehow better than I thought. Then I wondered why it had come out differently, but I was mostly interested in learning about INFP. I began researching, and the descriptions felt...off. Like something wasn’t right, and it wasn’t really describing me anymore the way a bad horoscope does. I stumbled upon some articles about discerning between an INFP & INFJ, and the INFJ description brought me crashing down again. While I had shifted some of the way I use my functions to become more able to find balance, it hadn’t changed the fundamental structure of the way I function. It’s taken years of psychotherapy to cope with this reality and learn to accept it instead of seeing it as my enemy. I have given up so much in my life in pursuit of truth, of balance, and integrity. When you mentioned cluster B’s in the first video I watched, I nearly spit my iced tea, because it’s the truth. I used to be a college professor, and I recognized myself in the way you were drawing/writing/making analogies and speaking about things with pauses, interrupting yourself, and offering that you weren’t concerned about being right- just that this is what you’d found that works, etc. I started laughing because I had a sense of what my students were seeing. Thank you for sharing your truth, your perspectives, and your candor, Marty. You’ve touched my heart today with all of it. ❤️🙏

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

That is awesome and a very good comment. Well done. Thank you. Great stuff! TYWC - Marty

Great video Marty. I hope you expound on This more. I don’t understand a lot of how it works but I see the truths in it. I never thought about it being the emotions of others that turned me into craziness. I would run away thinking it was just me. The other people didn’t seem nuts like I was, sure they had some emotion but it was minor compared to the Niagra falls I was about to explode with. Literally unable to even communicate the myriad of emotional chaos I was feeling. Unable to do anything really. I am older now and able to control this most of the time, but I do separate myself from the person I’m dealing with. Not physically but emotionally I detach myself by reminding myself that they are unable to change who I am. That they are unaware they are causing me pain or that they are not the same creatures as I am. That their conflict does not ultimately need to be solved immediately, that pain is a part of growth and that they cannot truely bond with me as I am usually unable or unwilling to reveal myself to them. I know that sounds terrible but I have to have something to help me gain a semblance of composure. I took a test one time that measured your ego or self worth. My daughter gave it to me and she was shocked by the outcome. She said I held myself in high regard and considered myself a very capable and strong person. She said I see very few things as challenges and feel I can overcome any obstacle when focused on a goal. So the ego line you said is permanent seems to fit the bill, and the alone time to create and seek balance is definitely on spot, but I just don’t get how all those emotions I can have are coming from others. Not that I understand them, I just kind of thought because I saw the outcome of where their actions would lead them I found it horrifying. It’s like seeing something and knowing how that is going to play out and all the pain and suffering they will cause themselves and others because of their beliefs and actions. I don’t know sometimes it’s just raw emotion. I can’t explain it Marty. Please make more videos😊

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Working on it daily. I will. promise. TYWC - Marty

Your videos are really educational for a young infj like me. Thank you for helping me understand myself better and not feel like a total freak! Hahaha

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

W. That is awesome to hear and thank you for taking the time to tell me. Trust me when I say that there are a few who watch me and comment and will also be very happy to read your comment. I am always open to hearing other difficulties you might have and others might have, so if I can help with other videos and helpful content. Please let me know. Thank You for Watching and the Comment (TYWC) - Marty

This is exactly it. This is also how I absorbed the emotions and trauma and projection of my ex partner and I felt like her experience was inside of my head. I felt crazy. I used to say to her I feel like I’m living inside of your world and I can’t get out of it. It makes so much sense now what I got myself into and what was going on with me and why I lost control of my own narrative. It’s very frustrating, the time I lost in a sense not even living my own life in a way - and the damage it did to my self esteem and cognition and body. A powerful lesson and I’m much wiser now. It’s like I notice everything, except I had some blind spots from my family experiences that made it so I couldn’t understand when someone was crossing a line w me or not bc a.) internalizing their blame towards me, b.) reasoning w their actions would turn them into someone Id have to despise and let go of vs them being who I wanted them to be like a loving partner or a stand up father, and c.) giving them too much authority over me bc that was the authority they claimed. Sometimes I won’t know what I notice- I just know I’m feeling something is very wrong or doesn’t make sense but I had trouble not internalizing it as my own self. I’m basically a recovering people pleaser to be honest and moving into becoming a healthy narcissist. It’s stuck w me how you’ve articulated narcissism vs malignancy and beyond. It’s amazing the progress I’ve made w boundaries and cutting out toxic ppl over the last year. That’s when I got out of the relationship w the cluster B. I’ve got a ways to go but I know where I’m headed. Thank you

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the great comment and the words. Can you imagine how hard it is for me to talk about NPD and MNPD and all that. It is like talking to crickets but you are not a cricket. ;) TYWC - Marty

Beautiful explanation!

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you. Always doing my best. TYWC - Marty

Watching your video resembles who I am at this present moment. Thank you for being real.

@marty_glenn

2 ай бұрын

No ... Thank you. ;) - M

I really liked your video, thanks a lot !

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you. TYWC - Marty

i need to stop noticing everything... that's the crux... thats creating the disturbance in the bandwith and i cant help not to notice... so the only way to stop this is to disappear and recharge. and balance and astonishingly we do this involuntarily...! beautiful explanation.... thats a damn comprehensive explanation.... !

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Yes but I am not sure how to stop. My mind sucks it in and there is not a single thing I can do about it. I try very hard. TYWC - Marty

I felt this in my soul and explains why I just up and leave every time something becomes to much for me to handle and I notice every aspect of the problem and the words/actions of others I can’t bear it anymore so I up and ghost the person or even friends and I hide and go do my own thing alone for a loooong time till I feel normal again .

@marty_glenn

Жыл бұрын

Takes time. ;) TYWC - Marty

Not going to lie I would enjoy watching that 8 hour long video of the explanation of self. Though I really appreciate this content I think maybe it could make a difference in the way people see me if they would only give me that chance by watching. More then half the time people ignore this kind of content maybe cause they aren't interested in knowing who I am?? i don't know but i know it was helpful for me anyway so thank you for that.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Jordon. People have become robots and it is not getting better. Most do not want to know or experience, they only want what will make them famous for being famous. That will not be me, that I promise. TYWC - Marty

This is so true brother

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

;) TYWC - Marty

This all reminds me of a video I saw once by a man named Michael Mirdad titled Boundaries the cure for codependency where he talks about there being 3 kinds of relationships : with God with yourself and with others and balancing these relationships equaly with God first (healthy dependence on God) yourself secondly and then lastly with others instead of always putting others first.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

That is great but I can assure you that religion has nothing to do with my video but if you see good in it and you see a connection then that is okay with me and great. TYWC - Marty

@Senator_Senart

4 жыл бұрын

@@marty_glenn Um yeah just thought i would suggest it (Michael Mirdads boundaries video) to all you INFJs cause i thought it might help you all INFJs with this problem...it sure helped me a lot and i'm just an INTP.

Wow.. the best way to say

INFJ's struggles is Beyond Real & praying all the nonsense goes away! Are we defective = rarest personality?? (If, We chose to living in the comfort bubble..)

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe. Maybe not. But what is true is the struggle and the path of the INFJ. TYWC - Marty

I can't wait to learn Cluster B's!

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

No better time to start then today. :) TYWC - Marty

We will also ghost those who have betrayed our trust, even the best of friends. It's one thing to have a misunderstanding, it's another when they create a smear campaign and bring in flying monkey. However, I reverted to this step you outline in the end.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

It is a day by day working effort. Get a bat for the monkeys. TYWC - Marty

As an INFJ, i dissappear to realign as I've probably been misaligned by an overwhelming number of energies. Its not about you, its about me in that moment. To connect to me and what I desire to be whole for the next set of misalignment that will inevitably come. Its called self preservation. The funny thing is, we generally give clues or outwardly say it, before it happens, but people think we'll always be there to stroke their fragile ego's. People are so incredibly needy these days and ridiculously addicted to us. That's their problem, not ours. I love being an INFJ. This guy makes it seem like its a curse.

@marty_glenn

9 ай бұрын

This was posted just two hours ago: @lauranicholls9421 • 2 hours ago Fail at most things in actual fact. Truth is. Nobody deserves our love So what f it is a bit much We. FEEL. Expect nothing in this life. Then anything is a positive. Shame. It has to be like this' ( Video = #1 Way the INFJ Fails in Dating... ) Can you please watch that video and then respond here to this so others can read what you have to say since your view is different. It is not a curse as in a life of death and misery. It is a curse as society gets more materialistic and more selfish and more self-centered. How are you dealing with all those factors in society and the complete and utter lack of relationship honor and respect? TYWC - Marty

Hi. I am new here, found you last week. Nice hair cut! Actually see someone put into words how my mind works is so refreshing, helps me explain my mind better to others. I am in my late twenties and have just discovered how I am profoundly different from others, always felt it. Probably like many of us I lived my life for others until I couldn’t any more and I genuinely hope your channel grows so you can help younger kids. I have seen many of your videos but not all. I started thinking about how many INFJs I have seen online that “denies” their narcissism and with that take away a part that makes us whole. Hope you got that right. I blew my life up about two years ago to live my life for me and learned that without my health narcissism I fell easily into depression and self loathing. (My healthy narcissism has just been accepted by me) Maybe you can share some thoughts about this sometime. Excuse my half-rant. Don’t know how to end this, hugs and bye.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Renate. HaHa Thanks for the compliment and yes!!! I got it cut; like it? You know the first part of your comment is something I have been hearing from others for months. They were pushing me as you are to keep going and address things that could help others and maybe they would not reach half life and then realize things. I am happy for you that you did so young. That is awesome! Yes! Please honor and respect that narcissism. It is correct and a part of you, all of us, and for some reason (I know why) it is being attacked and it is a very bad thing for society. Glad to read that you get it and stopped your path toward the people pleaaser and zero backbone. Well done. Thank you for your comment and watching me. As your asking me to share thoughts? What do you mean? - Marty

@renate1090

4 жыл бұрын

Yes Marty I do like it! Suits you and gives a “cleaner” look. Well I do understand. I deeply care for people and no one ever meet me as I meet them (left that expectation really young). People are so closed of and act out from their internal pain and often(always) hurt others when they lash out. Just how triggers work in a conversation and anger manifest from fear etc. People never see how their trauma/pain manifest towards others in daily life (mentally healthy people is so beautiful to me, makes me happy when I spot one). Im not perfect, been really unhealthy as a people pleaser. Still ponder on how I could have been better sooner.. So if you can reach younger people with brains who perceive the world like me/us, I think they will have better foundations to grow from. Maybe skip some of the pain. Why do you think it’s under attack? I see a lot of potentially winners but ugh. Yeah I am happy about that too, thanks for caring words. I looked at the rest of your INFJ videos and found what i was looking for between the lines. :) Btw. The Cluster B’s and “disorders” gave me a really big AHA moment! Can’t believe I haven’t read about this sooner... And your theory about trauma and children! (I am exited cuz I ponder this daily, trauma effects) Thank you for answering me, I really appreciate it. Please know I recognise the time and effort you put into making this videos and answering.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Hi. Yes, thank you as I think it fits me better too. I like it short. I cannot force anybody to watch me, but I do try my best to entertain. You know be funny and just be me. Maybe that is wrong? Lol As for narcissism being attacked. That is a loaded question but I have a theory. Wait for the video on that ok. Glad you can get what you need between the lines and watching is the best use of your time. I try very hard you know Renate. ;) To give good knowledge and self-experience and of course fancy drawings. That is fantastic about the Cluster B and the Disorders. That tells me I am on the right track and making a difference with the way I explain the different topics cover. Your comment(s) is/are all very good to know and thank you for this comment. It is my pleasure to comment and it makes things very happy and nice. It does take a long time but it is the interaction that makes it all worth it. I never thought doing a KZread channel would have so many layers and this whole life in and of itself. Crazy. ;) - Marty

@renate1090

4 жыл бұрын

Settled Marty. Short for life then ;-) I don’t think you need to force anybody either, as you are attractive to people who can hold more than one perspective at the same time. My opinion. How could it ever be wrong to be your undeniable unique self, I don’t see that. Authenticity is rare. I will wait for the video :). I know, I see that. I think you are brave and I do love your drawings, thumbs up. I’m looking forward to follow you and your theories. Hehe, Crazy YouTub life, you have now reached Norway. - R

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Short. ;)) Always doing my best. Well said Renate. Norway? wow... that is cool. Thank you for Watching and the Comment (TYWC) - Marty

Thank you. People reproach me for "ghosting" them. But as you explain here, it is needed to balance myself. They say they want to know what they did wrong and I would say I need more time to process my own reaction to the event. And then they would push to find out what I thought they did and when you give in and tell them what that is, they just angry and lash back or call you names or deny it ever happened instead. *shrug* "why did you ask if you can't handle it?"

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Watch out for the cluster b's. :) TYWC - Marty

I am an INFJ and a Tai Chi instructor. Tai Chi is about achieving physical balance and flow through the meditative application of mental balance and flow. In this year, 2020, the emotions of others has built to explosive pressures. Tai Chi has helped me to give away more compassion and less emotional energy, and to see all while curbing my impulse to fix it. In Tai Chi we practice letting the universe flow through us, rather that always trying to impose our will upon it.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

I am sure I practice parts of Tai Chi and I do not even know it. I will have to look more into it and see the finer points. TYWC - Marty

The key to emotional self-regulation is not just in spending time alone or disappearing it is in fact the ability to process all of your emotions and the emotions that you take on of others The infj has a very special gift and the ability to empathize but without the ability to process those feelings of others that you take upon yourself you in turn become those emotions and unfortunately a lot of those emotions are not good so in the very gift of the infj has it is the very same gift that can be a curse and in more cases than not because the infj doesn't know how to process it is no wonder that the infj is full of self-loathing and hates people and becomes reclusive as a result and remains the victim rather than being victorious the key to emotional self-regulation is the ability to acknowledge accept and treat with loving kindness and hospitality all of those emotions good or bad allowing them to process so that they do not remain and become a thorn in the heart. If all of you INFJs can understand this and start practicing it you are going to find yourself having a lot of victory in your lives and really enjoy being an INFJ. you all have a very special gift if you will just learn how to process your emotions and understand the reason you have a gift to understand and empathize with other people's emotions.

Absolutely brilliant, truly. The visualization is very impactful. I really do appreciate the honesty/transparency of the reduced amount of edits and letting us (the viewer) witness your creative process. Being an INFJ male myself, I'm working on consuming each video you've put out thus far, as it's nearly impossible to find such great work on the 'self archaeology' for INFJs, let alone one who has gone through so much and has the charisma to reify it into Wisdom. I have lots of other floating questions in my mind, but I ~feel~ like I need watch more videos to ensure I have an educated question that can inspire an insightful response from yourself. Thank you, Marty. P.S. -- I have also delved into developing psychic and mediumship arts/skills (~800 hours of development + all INFJ normal living + implementing the psychic tools daily), and after my reply, a question arose for you that I believe comes from your "guides": "Do you feel like you're on your path NOW? Do you feel your impact NOW?"

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Great comment and... You: "Do you feel like you're on your path NOW?" Me: yes. You: "Do you feel your impact NOW?" Me: Yes. But the hate and how I do not even fit in here also is hurting. I get hate like you cannot believe and I it is the why that gets me going and not what is said. You use free will and watch me put it all out on the line and then you call me crazy or hate on me. Why? Why do that. Words... ??? Who cares. But the why? That hurts. TYWC - Marty

@NinjaWagz

4 жыл бұрын

@@marty_glenn So often as INFJs we act as mirrors and emotional processors for those who can't... Or WON'T. For those who throw Shade (what a great metaphysically accurate slang word), they are Disturbed that someone shone a bright Light on their deep, Dark pain -- "how DARE you point out to me what I've been hiding / running from!" The vitriol is especially vile if the pain is self inflicted vs from "the other". Those who project, lash out, and Crucify are fools who don't understand -- nor appreciate -- the Wisdom, Knowledge, and Experience needed to SEE let alone courageously ARTICULATE heart felt TRUTH. "Your boo's mean nothing to me, for I have seen what makes you cheer." Don't let those with Dark Hearts and Muddled Vision dissuade you from your Path. I'd be grateful to chat and discuss ideas anytime. Godspeed, Marty.

Someone did something they shouldn't have done and now I'm taking them out behind the Woodshed and teaching them a lesson until the day I die.

Is it bad that when you asked in your intro about choosing which action was most important, I chose balancing myself, you agreed, and I instantly went "dammit, I am an INFJ"? Hahahahahaha It is really starting to be interesting and scary how similar and accurate you are on my own actions and thinking process. I'm making it through your playlist of videos to help me gather information to help figure out my own self, and I kind of want to scream at the screen, "Marty! Get out of my head!!!!" Lol I have probably watched about 50 of your videos by now ( I know I still have a lot more to go), and I am starting to wonder if I am going to find a video that will make me think I am not an INFJ. I am perplexed on how over all these videos, I cannot stop watching these videos without going, "Oh my God, This is me". Not a single one. I answered the first question of No, I don't want to be an INFJ, but am coming to a conclusion I need to accept it, no matter how badly I don't want to be one. Is it normal for INFJs to create paradoxes in a healthy INFJ mentality, in your opinion? I have been tackling the thought of, "why can I understand other people, but I can never understand myself?" And that lead me to realize how many paradox thoughts I have. For example: I believe I am an INFJ because I don't want to be one. (I know this isn't the best example) Is this normal for INFJs, or is this just more of a human thought in general?

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Very funny and good stuff. I have the same thoughts about the INFJ identity and wanting and not wanting. It is a natural human inner exchange with self but those are not and claim it feel a different way about it than what I just said. That is the key. TYWC - Marty

Thank you 🙏

Awesome channel marty and great topic to tackle! Marty I have a friend for the last 13 years and I see him with self pity/victim behaviors. I have tried to guide him repeatedly but he just won't step up even though he talks about self improvement all the time. My whole personality as an INFJ is all about growth and if I don't see them wanting to get better or making better chocies for themselves, then what is the point. It hurts me emotionally them repeating the same cycle of self pity/victimhood/lazyness. I have thought of letting go of this friendship multiple times because I know where his mentality will lead him in the future with himself and people around him. Alpha M. youtuber said in his videos (how u know u are freinds with a loser) that if u have a growth mindset and ur friend dosen't it better if u not hang out with them & as friends u should not be telling them to improve. I am wired to want to advise/help people to take steps to improve their lives. He might be taking it the wrong way any form of improvement advise or steps I give him. Longterm I want to achieve something that can help others on a massive scale but I think I have tried my best over the last few year to advise him but if he doesn't want to help himself it better I focus on helping others in need who need myhelp especially in poor countries longterm. Can you please advise should I leave this friendship/hanging out with him altogether? Would it not be better for my own mental health to just let go of a person who goes into cyclical victimhood/selfpity and does very little to help himself out of the situations or make choices now that will make his life prosperous down the line?

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Hi sunny. Let me help you and I think you will appreciate this better then the other channel and sorry to say I think they have it wrong or said wrong. Your friend has a low self esteem on the inside and cannot grow. This person cannot allow their inner self to be happy and have a positive self esteem. The ability to connect a positive self image and the inner self cannot work until that person does the inner child work and heals the break between the conscious mind and the sub conscious mind. That channel or advice is looking with the eyes and not inner self. See what am saying? I hope that helps and gives you the answer without telling you what to do. TYWC - Marty

@sunnycopper9653

4 жыл бұрын

@@marty_glenn Wow thanks Marty! I think you are spot on! I really appreciate your advice.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Sunny. Maybe I am and maybe I am not but this is true... You know have options and in the end you will take the path you choose and then we can find out how right i am. But ya, i am probably 100% right. lol TYWC - Marty

Haha I picked the fifth. I know that there is no possibility that it will change through my lifetime but right now I'm thinking that learning techniques or just stuff about myself can help me so freaking be down at times. One part of me wants to notice everything other part me hates me when I do. I'm trying to get the two closer.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Very good. I think that will do really well for you. Keep that up. - Marty

yes I'm infj and i picked balancing. and that's why my infj bf just disappeared for a week 😂😂 we agreed it was fine to do lol

Thank you so much 👌

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

You are welcome and glad you liked it TYWC - Marty

Nailed it

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Good one, right? TYWC - Marty

Thank you!

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

You are welcome. - M

Hey Marty just want to say love your videos and as an INFJ I understand everything that your talking and can relate to 100%. It hurts me to see u pain probably because I get it. This might sound super weird but I might be able to help u have a bit more balance in life. I know u dont know me I dont want money or anything like that but I teach Martial arts and fitness and I wouldn't mind doing some Skype training seasion. As an INFJ your brain and mind work a million miles a second and understanding how to defend yourself while building confidence is a great way to focus some of that emotion. Also I understand what it must be like reading this msg from your end super sorry if it brought u any stress and I know it's weird but hey I guess that's being an INFJ right. Eaither way love your video plz keep it up I know it helps people.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Anthony. Thank you for the compliments and the offer. I cannot accept at this time because I am working on a few things offline / camera and I cannot add an additional self improvement element. I know you get it. But maybe a rain check? ;)) Well said with your comment and it is a daily thing as you know. With that said, you know you did touch on my INFJ, " WTF! how do I run away as fast as I can. I do not know you or trust you as far as I can pick you up and throw you." lol I know you meant well and with care, so do not worry about that at all. Thank you. - Marty

@anthonygiustini6024

4 жыл бұрын

Your a good man thank buddy just keep it up looking forward to your next videos and I'll definitely comment on them keep it up and be safe it's crazy out their.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Will do. Awesome! Thank you for Watching and the Comment (TYWC) - Marty

This is the tragedy, everyone want to be infj except those whose ifnj itself. Its constant struggles and its really tiring.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. I always say I'll be happy when I finally go to sleep for good yet I want to live to make a difference and fulfill something great. TYWC - Marty

Yes yes and one more time YES!!!!!!!

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Tracy. Thank you. Glad you enjoyed and found it worth while. TYWC - Marty

I've been known to 'fall off the face of the earth' by my friends for my entire life. Anyone know how to disappear and still stay married to a spouse who doesn't understand?

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Hi ms... That is very difficult and yes I do. Painful and will not be positive on any relationship. I get it. TYWC - Marty

@Ang.143

4 жыл бұрын

Hmmm my relationship is only surviving because he needs as much space as I do 😅

@joshualynn9648

3 жыл бұрын

I've taken out of town jobs, amazing what a month in a small hotel can do can do you mentally... doing this has also had us close to divorce (she can't stand it and some times... okay most times I long for it).

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

I hear you. My two pennies. Communicate more. Oh ya sorry... What in the fuck was I thinking. My bad. I will just shut my mouth and walk away now. Okay then bye bye now... lol - Marty

Oh geez, i am so grateful to finally understand myself better as an INFJ(just found out a week ago and I am 50) but my new excitement about dating again after an 18 year marriage, doesnt seem at all like a good idea anymore🤔

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

It is a good idea just know that it will not be easy and you need boundaries. But do not give up. just my two pennies. TYWC - Marty

I'm Libra ascendant in Vedic astrology. Sign for Libra is the scales. Scales are used for balancing.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

:) TYWC - Marty

Lol your laugh was a little creepy 😂 👍🏾

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

It always is; I think so too at times. TYWC - Marty

Nice diagram. I love diagrams.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

I have a lot of them and soon they will all be digital and ready for PDF. TYWC - Marty

Exactly 💯🙏👁

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you. TYWC - Marty

this made me cry

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Good cry, right? TYWC - Marty

This makes sense, however, I've found the concious-mind is not rigid, and in fact, quite fluid. A shift-changer of sorts and very elusive. Mine was eventually replaced by others emotions, along with balance,, so long ago that I had forgotten they even existed. I am just now aware of my personality type, am in the healing process, and find myself having to introduce and incorporate both protectoon and balance into my brain. A challenging task, to say the least.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

That is not your conscious mind shifting. Read your second second sentence and it reads like you get that too. That is good that you do not know your type and you're healing. Do that first. That is the best way and the right order of things. Well done. TYWC - Marty

I'm really clueless in terms of how I balance myself cause I am always stuck at the point of not being balanced because I take in too much, would really like it if there was a follow-up on this video that focuses in detail what things help with creating balance in an infj. Thank you for this video

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

okay. I think others would like to see that as well. Let me think about it. TYWC - Marty

Exactly I am that person

hahahahahaha it all ended with those fucking cluster B's! it's soooo true!! I need to learn how to restore myself after years of being sucked dry by those emotional vampires!

None of your viewers will settle... We are centered intelligent individuals who see through your raw vulnerability That's the draw If u edit .... Dear lord ... Be you Marty You are beautiful.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the support. TYWC - Marty

Marty. That high pitch frequency. What affirmations or messaging have you encoded in it. It's brutal for my ears.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

I am sorry. But here is your answer: "Marty is always doing his best and trying his hardest to give great content and to help. Do not hate on him. " TYWC - Marty

@7racker

4 жыл бұрын

@@marty_glenn no hate but just saying I've heard that frequency before. I used to create subliminal affirmation soundtracks and the vocalized affirmations had to be encoded via a complex audio processing technique

I feel like this lack of balance happens to me when I’m alone. When I overanalyse stuff that happened and why it happened and put a stamp on a situation or still care deeply about an ex. But when I go out with people live the moment Se, seeing how other people do it, I am more balanced. Or idk I usually don’t give a damn about people. There are 1-2 people I can die for and that’s it, so the emotions of others entering my inner self is when it didn’t work out with those 1-2 ppl and I’m in my Ni-Ti loop kind of. And I can’t door slam because I will hurt them, especially I’m thinking of a Young INFP I so badly wanna door slam and the erase the memories, but I’d rather die than erase all the adventure videos with him I have on my hard drive. I’m making him my everything when he doesn’t want to go back with me. I’m trying to understand why but this doesn’t help. I know INFPs now better than I know myself infj

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Naomi? Can you do me a favor and read this again to yourself? Then please write me back and let me know just... what in the fuck are you sharing with me. ;)) I am listening... Great comment and lots of detail but... TYWC - Marty

YES ,THAT IS ME IN A NUTSHELL!

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

" How do I get out of this nut shell? " - Austin Powers TYWC - Marty

Well now I get why because of my I - I pushed away a guy I really liked 😣

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Madison. Sorry. But as you said, "Now you know." That is good. We learn from mistakes. Hopefully. TYWC- Marty

PLEASE come back to this in more depth, l like we’re this is going. I think the originals if this is that the lNFJ thinks ALL people are like this but what a let down when we in fact find out, that is not the case, being deeply affected by the emotions of others is our curse!

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

I will. Do you know how many videos I have to do. Nancy I know you can count too. ;) TYWC - Marty

I realized I’ve been hiding all my life and still am I’ve got little friends because of this, and now I’ve grown used to it, I guess I’m still a mess.

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Probably more NOT a mess then you think. Open the other eye.. ;)) TYWC - Marty

@kisigma1102

4 жыл бұрын

Haha ur doing a great job brother the world is full of narrassistic individual

this is my favorite video so far.. question you might want to discuss: why do we keep on loving, give our time and care to someone even though we've already been deeply hurt by the person?

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Hi IN... Easy to answer: "why do we keep on loving, give our time and care to someone even though we've already been deeply hurt by the person?" Me: This is built into the INFJ into the core. It is the belief in that given enough love care and effort, they will change. We do change for the inverse; they do not. Make sense? TYWC - Marty

@infj8067

4 жыл бұрын

Marty Glenn, Yes! sometimes i hope. but not all the time..i don't know if you can relate.. but having watched this video and applying it to my world, it's like.. because i can perceive that [problem:] 99% i will not get the same level of trust, care and love (though at 1% of the time, i felt loved/cared/trusted back) i'm giving.. i have to choose whether to a) give the person(s) a "lifetime door slam", b) or be willing to go through the process (on this video) all over and over again... to expect and take in the "arrow left" and repeat the pain of "arrow right" recovery process.. it also hurts to be thought of only as a "moody" and "bipolar" person when you are in the arrow right, bec the truth is i'm not really bipolar or moody - i'm just destressing, recovering, recharging. 😢 in most cases, i choose and find myself more fulfilled and satisfied in b) *just added some more thoughts to this comment

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

I get it and feel the same yet different. Me? I have basically for now given up as I am 50 and this age has a lot baggage to consider and it is a tough place to be. Maybe you get that part of life or maybe not your experience... You would know if BiPolar LOL ;) I am sure it is not. TYWC - Marty

@infj8067

4 жыл бұрын

Marty Glenn, i would like to share more but is off topic. so i just deleted a very long comment. waaah! ;) thanks for the reply! that word "baggage" got me thinking ;)

@marty_glenn

4 жыл бұрын

Hi IN FJ. Oh, well if you want share, please do. Always interested. TYWC - Marty

Try explaining this to an extrovert, your going to lose your F**** mind... foam coming out of your mouth and everything 👍🏼😌 It’s true, I agree, and understand the schematics. Great job 👏🏼 putting it to visuals.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. Some things are not possible. TYWC - Marty

@sammiebrown7

3 жыл бұрын

I'm an enfp and my mind is just blown haha :)

Stop noticing all! Damn this one

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

I just turn on the camera. lol TYWC - Marty

I've been hospitalized with rare auto-immune disease. Possibly caused by work stress.

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

Work stress = Death I have seen and been through the same. I will never do it again. I hope you can make a change too. TYWC - Marty

this is how Fe looks like inside the Infj's soul

@marty_glenn

3 жыл бұрын

:) TYWC - Marty

As an infp they have that feeling of longingness relatability and the desires to be belong but i completely unoticed it about they're needs of a place fo feel safe and not make my friends hyperfixation of fixing things i messed up i messed up so bad i keep chasing them and that was actually the problem i'm a disgusting clingy bastard i'm sorry

Yep exhausting and debilitating