Thank you so much for watching, liking and subscribing! 🙏🏼 What a privilege it is to share my experiences with you 🤗

@luxanayanika2043

3 жыл бұрын

♡

I often accept jobs that I have no experience doing, I learn as I go.

@tekkythai

3 жыл бұрын

Best way to seize opportunities

@MarzMindset

3 жыл бұрын

Same, that's basically the only way I get jobs lmao.

@R.P.B1982

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

I (an INFJ) find myself quickly becoming bored with new jobs or hobbies. Once I master the fundamentals I tend to get bored. This has been both a challenge and a blessing with my career. Life without an intellectual challenge is somewhat empty for me.

@HealthyFather

Жыл бұрын

Look into Day Trading in the Futures/Stock Market if you still feel this way. That's something that will never be figured out. The more you work with it, the more rewards ^_^

@Coneman3

Жыл бұрын

Yes we need exciting goals and visible progress.

INFJ/P AND BPD … identity has been an issue my entire life. Been able to blend in with ANY group (in highschool I was able to make friends with the jocks, skids, nerds, grungers, preps..), have been employed in 30 different fields.. such randomness! All coming together and to light in the last year at 45yrs old.

I think as an INFJ myself.. the INTP is more the chameleon and we are more like a shapeshifter.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Rebecca, that is a insightful. What is it about the shapeshifter that you think aligns more to the INFJ?

@BindingTheYoke

3 жыл бұрын

@@INFJWay well since I can absorb the feelings of others so well and adapt to any environment and the persons needs by intuiting the state of their psyche, which is much deeper than just behavioral mimicry it is more like mental mastery of the personality itself. Literally putting yourself in their shoes "so to speak". since INFJs have an amoral judging function unlike the others types it gives us the advantage of understanding even the most evilest of minds, I think this is one of the reasons many other cognitive types find INFJs to be intimidating, probably because they see themselves (or they don't like the reflection) /:) ..since a well developed cognitive stack of an INFJ will instinctive shift their own mindset to the person before them in order to analyze and assess the person they are dealing with in order to make them happy (fulfill a desire) to fulfill an altruistic want to help the other (if the INFJ is healthy that is) which means shifting their mental processing to mimic that personality to understand their needs. I think it's why we slow process everything else that isn't feeling or intuitive data. Whereas an INTP will change externally but as another KZreadr put it, seem awkward doing it because they are the same person just faking it for a short time to appear something else to please others. Their perceiving function adapts well and their empathetic nature because of their cognitive stack does desire social acceptance so it's like changing color to them, but to an INFJ we change form function and color. It's why I could go to any country in the world and mesh with the culture pretty easily almost overnight adaptation.. whereas other types would be amiss, or struggling. I used to do this unknowingly before my early 20s but since learning and understanding myself better now in my mid 30s ..I am better at controlling this mental expression, and I am more sure about who I am as a woman, so I prefer to limit the time I spend with people who do not deserve my company. This helps from absorbing negative traits from cluster Bs. lol

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

@@BindingTheYoke thank you so much for helping me to understand. What a gift that you've also come to learn to use as you feel is appropriate. ❤️

@TeraHammer

3 жыл бұрын

@@BindingTheYoke well put! Interesting point about having less issues adapting to foreign cultures!

@jordanlemon5680

3 жыл бұрын

@@williamrarity3267 I was starting to type a reply to @Rebecca Phillips, but then I realized it would have been pretty much the exact same comment as yours lol. So just ditto, I will add it's exciting to see how Rebecca used word for words some of the same exact phrases I've used to describe my personality before. Gives me almost a little bit of a "clone syndrome", when I see other INFJ KZreadrs and it's like looking at a mirrored person who just has experienced a different set of local stimuli.

I do feel like I have a tendency to dabble in many skills, many subjects, but for me it feels like there's often real value in "taking these different skills and subjects" and combining them into a more complete "whole" that feels more complete and "useful" to me. To me, it's almost like how "If someone has a hammer, that is a useful tool, but it's limited. If someone has a screwdriver, it can do some things that hammers do not do well, but still limited." To me, the real answer is having enough diversity in the toolbox to be able to do most of the things necessary to "complete the complex task in question."

Im also a chameleon at work, i bring lots of shirts and change them throughout the day.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

That's one way of doing it :D

@federicosandoval3360

3 жыл бұрын

Pod?

@Raj78681

3 жыл бұрын

😂

@ermaautencio2985

2 жыл бұрын

Tekky Thai...me too..hahaha

It's interesting you reference learning quickly. I feel like as an INFJ I often learn things a little slower than most, but once I learn it, I learn it cold (and learn it more thoroughly than most do).

I stayed in a field for 23 years. My quality stayed true but I wasn't as fast as other people and I wouldn't bend or change the protocol for something if it didn't hold up to the standards of safety. They hated me because I didn't bend to their will. I finally quit because I couldn't take the crazy power trip some ppl had my boss especially. I haven't looked back and I let them figure it out.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, Jaime. Safety is a non-negotiable, but it doesn't seem so for some. I hope you found a better place that valued their people and the people using their products and services.

this actually made it difficult to find myself and build boundaries, but it makes my acting skills so magical. we understand ourselves better through understanding others

Not bragging , just a fact !....l have excelled at many things , yet my family and friends don't know the depths of my knowledge , .....l keep it hidden , besides they wouldn't understand what I'm talkinging about. I played pocket billiards at World Class level at 22 years old. Studied Sports Psychology to train myself, .... implemented Eastern Philosophy techniques of Meditation to my practice and everyday life. I hardly played for 30 years , yet l play close to the same level as when l practiced everyday. Master your mind , master the game , master of wisdom , master of life. Took the MBTi five times about 2 years ago, all INFJ results. As l reflected on my life , things l had done , decisions l made , and values l hold ,.....my personality is 98 % INFJ. I wish l knew about the MBTI when l was younger , because it might of help me to understand myself better versus always feeling like a stranger in a strange land. In life , we play the cards we have been dealt . Does a man choose his destiny ?....or it already chosen ?......they sound different yet they are the same. The Wheel of Life , ....and our past Karma determine our fate in this life.

AWESOME concept! That's been percolating for years inside me and I appreciate your simplification of the dilemma. It's OUR TIME....💜🙏💥

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Hey Shelli! Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback. It IS our time :) Let's rock this world

8:07 I've been constantly searching for meaning and focusing on 'what am I really good at' these past months as the school semester's about to end. This line right here really was an eye-opener and gives me so much relief. I feel like I can finally just do whatever I want, be it on various fields/areas. Thank you!

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

에스텔 welcome and thank you for watching! Go and explore. We have people here who have commented on their life experience across many industries and knowledge areas. It has been very very interesting to read and reassuring as well as an INFJ. Stay well!

We can do what we want

Definitely have all types of job all have been different from law to manufacturing. But I do have the ability to learn quickly and master in time.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Learning and mastering would have taken you so far in such a wide range of jobs, Rosa. Very exciting! :)

Thanks , just discovered your channel , I can relate to the chameleon experience, i definately have high empathy . I see myself as under performing in the world meaning not really good at anything or many things , or at least tangible things , I spend a lot of time refining my intuition.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, Douglas. It's great to hear from your experience.

Thank you for sharing your experiences. Well truly, as an infj, my friends envy my jack-of-all-trades ability. But I envy those who are focus on one ability. When I try focus on one thing, I feel that something is missing 😅 For the social chameleon, yes I am like that too. I can socialize with anyone, and mimicking! Omg that's so true. I tend to mimic the person that I talked with, unintentionally. Idk why, but now i know. That's trait of an infj.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome, tutut widhi 😀 Thank you for watching and adding your comment!

No one can go as deep as INFJs

My one good skill is my conversation, I just learn from others and I try to learn from them

Yeah as an INFJ myself I know the feeling of not being good at just 1 thing. It messed me up a bit cause its like having several paths in front of you and you don't know which one to pick. It makes me less focussed. And I feel like I'm lost in the woods at some days. I even took an aptitude test (an entire afternoon) only to get a 49% this...49% that...2% this result. "Congratulations you are the sheep with 5 legs. You need to cut off 1 leg and focus on the other 4". 😱🤕 Yes I am a freak of nature good at several things but I refuse to cut off a leg to fit in better with society's view on who I should be. To be honest I am still looking for ways to use all 5 legs and I'm looking to create a 6th leg. Sure if I compare myself to others focussed on 1 thing I feel like a f-up but I can only be me in this life. And the real me is the freaky sheep with 5 legs. Sorry not sorry.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

What a great insight from your life, Maaike. Thank you for sharing. Sheep with 5 legs... Heck this sheep with 5 legs (you) is going to go on to do amazing things as it is. What do you think of Simon Sinek, or the concept of finding your core essence, or your why? I'm using it as a way of finding how to bring together all the different skills and abilities to make things happen.

@maaiker2977

3 жыл бұрын

@@INFJWay I don't know them, but I'll check them out. Thank you. My mindset was kinda caused by a trifecta of events that changed me forever. I was the unhealthy unaware INFJ before....and now I am a more relaxed healthier happier INFJ. I met a narcissist, had a burnout and then lockdown happened. Life changer, so happy it happened. I wasn't aware I am an INFJ (this explains a lot🤯😀), no self knowledge, didn't do selfcare, no bounderies, the needs of others before myself, perfectionistic people pleaser, I am always "ok". But the irony in life is that you only value something when you loose it. A narc exploits your weaknesses....but also shows you your weaknesses and the strenghts that belong with them...its up to us to find the balance. A burnout...its like the computer that is your brain crashed...your brain goes back to factory settings and you meet your authentic self. I had to realise "I like my authentic self better , yeah I am keeping her".😍😎 During a burnout you reLIVE the past events that shaped you. But some lessons we learn through the eyes of a child...as an adult you realise you came to the wrong conclusions. During a burnout you get to decide which files you put back on the computer and which go into the trash. I think the perfectionistic nature of the INFJ doesn't benefit us. It can cause us much pain. I used to look at my life like: perfection/normal - this event- that event = I am a mess/work in progress. Now I don't want to be normal/perfect. I want to be me....the sheep with 5 legs...its what I was born to be. It may not be perfect but no one is perfect. To strive for perfection is to tell yourself you aren't good enough as you are. Thats not a mindset I want in my life. Thats toxic (like a narc) and not a pleasant way of living. Now I see my past as: authentic self + gained knowledge/wisdom/strength = me, good just the way I am. And in the future I will only become better not less perfect with every new experience. To me life is (self) discovery and growth. I have no clue how I can use all 5 of my legs. But I know I'll try to. And after lockdown I will shock the h€ll out of my friends cause I have changed A LOT these last couple of years. 😂🤣 I am an INFJ that grew up in an estj house hold. I am the only introvert...or according to my family "hermit". 🙄 And I am the only feeler. To them my feelings was me whining. I suppressed my feelings all my life cause I thought it was my weakness being too sensitive. Thats like the sheep with 5 legs not using one of the legs. Our empathy and ability to see behind masks is our biggest gift. To not use it is a wast and toxic cause you don't see the pitfalls that accompany that strength....and it gets used against you by a narc. It used to suck the life out of me and I didn't know why...no balance.😏 After my burnout/knowing I am INFJ/a mindfulness class I am learning to use the 5th leg. Its like gaining a super power. I spend my whole life not being who I was meant to be but trying to make myself into someone else. Now because of the trifecta I feel free, relaxed, happy and enthusiastic. This should have happened years ago. As an INFJ we are too focused on others to know ourselves. And if no one teaches us to be who we are...we don't know who we are. The idea that there are infj's out there torturing themselves not knowing is so sad to me now. I watched a tv series during lockdown about an infj/intj relationship and one line is the best description of an infj I have ever heard. "You are one of a kind in this world. And entangled in your own magic". Exactly! She goes from weak doormat to strong wise woman. Thats exactly it. If we see our strength as a weakness we feel weak and fall victim to those that would exploit us. Once we use our ability we see through those people and know its our strength/wisdom. 👍😀💪

@nelsonvargas2367

3 жыл бұрын

Im with you one thousand percent .

@maaiker2977

3 жыл бұрын

@@nelsonvargas2367 Thank you.

Any of you seen the show "the pretender"? I loved this show when I was young, now I know why.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Oh wow. That show sounds awesome. Thanks, Daniel! Here's the storyline for anyone like me who hasn't seen it.... "Jarod is a pretender, a very intelligent person with the ability to slide into somebody else's personality. For that purpose, he has been taken from his family as a child in order to work for a secret agency called The Centre. But recently, he escaped. Jarod's new mission in life is to help people in need with his gift, and to find out what really happened to his allegedly dead parents. Only, Miss Parker and her team are out to get him..."

You should watch "the pretender". I know now, why this series used to fascinate me as a child. I have come to understand there are a lot of sides to me. The negative aspect of having many skills is that we are prone to superficiality and we get easily bored.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

You're right about a possibility of superficiality and boredom. The thing about it is that we can feel when we are being superficial and choose to do something about it. Thank you for the suggestion, Crina. I will try to find a way to access it from AU :)

I am 49 and I wish would have found out I am an infj I have always felt like a social chameleon put me in an situation and I will thrive

I think chameleon seems more scattered than it is. N learning starts slow. A tendency to drill down deep in things of interests negates this “ jack of all trades identity issue I think. ... Infj probably gather various skill/ knowledge unnoticed. Doing creative things seems a needed piece of my puzzle as an infj and a way to be “ in the moment too.. “ whether as a job or not, such pieces I can’t do without, and having 40 things I’m interested in is also fundamental part of infj character. Personally I sometimes envy people who are more simply focused, but no, it’s a good thing too... I don’t talk and chew gum ( multitask. ? No way ) I multi interest stuff tho, even if I want to I can’t switch it off ...

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

Multi interest! Genius, Scott 😁

thank you for this video

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching ❤️

I feel like m the one talking haha. Thank you for sharing your experience!

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching, Yami :)

Great information ☺️

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Welcome and thank you, Enigma Pandya.

I can relate with all you have said. Thank you for let me know that I am alone. Cheers.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Welcome Edgar 😃

I have always just gotten bored at work and I was tired of working harder, this was my chance to work smarter, but I wasn’t getting physically tired while working so now I understand the importance of a good work out routine. i have just never had a dedicated work out plan and would just get lazy and not do it by myself, I needed a workout partner

Being a chameleon, it's not the same as being "fake" or not authentic. I know exactly what you mean by "who am I really". Okay, let me just say I am pretty much the same way as you described yourself. LOL i came to the same conclusion, I am a jack of all trade but in the same industry. And i think you should do what you are good at, for a career. Too much to say...more later. Haha +new sub!!

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Bryan! Welcome and thank you for watching, subbing and commenting . Looking forward to hearing more from you.

I agree, it is fun

I'm an INFJ and my husband is an ENFJ and I can tell you it's true

I just wanted to be a comedian but my jokes have always gone over peoples heads, I was just trying to take social tics from everyone to see how I needed to act, that’s why I like being around smart people, I like being the dumbest guy in the room because then you get to explain how you got there, that way it allowed me to be the funny guy

May be this is also true from a female perspective. The intention of Infjs in others interest is to understand others better, most probably it is driven by curiosity but not really to mimic others. I don’t mimic others person slang.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Kasaeda. 😀

@miredo

3 жыл бұрын

@@INFJWay you are mostly welcomed

There are 2 sides to this. As an INFJ I have often felt awkward when socialising. I put this down to Ni and Ti not being as dynamic as Ne and Te. Also being tertiary Ti means more deliberate and slower thinking. Also, Ni is slow. But I am good at blending in with people of very different types. I guess this mirroring and often awkwardness are key reasons why we get underestimated.

I told them the scariest thing I knew what to do was making a phone call, but in reality it’s just answering the phone, I like to initiate the conversation because when others come up to me then I have to react to what people are telling me, I always present myself as a friend when I talk to people, I just am slow when it comes to figuring out if people are friend or foe, I just don’t like being stabbed in the back

Please upload more n more INFJ vids. Thx ☆

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Luxa. More videos are coming. Feel free to let me know if there's any topic you want me to do too 🤗

Who am I? I am water. I am the space in between chaos and peace. I find when I am by myself and no one is altering my state, I am tranquility. Especially when you get to the point of radical self acceptance. Sorry if my comment makes no sense. Lol

I can relate to this.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Welcome Justice528HZ!

I’m an ENTJ, but with the chameleon, code switching interactions

I gotta say the chameleon got me lol

Described myself specially career wise

That’s actually what I look like.. especially before coffee 🤣

My main chameleon experience was in school, primarily high school. It wasn't until many years later that I realized that I blended in with jocks, smart kids, the outcasts, and all the various cliques. Never a member of a group but seamlessly accepted. I didn't find out that I was an INFJ until 2015 in one of my advanced military schools where they do the MBTI before our school year began..........high school years were between 1984-1988 :)

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, Benjamin. You would've had such a variety of life experiences! What was it like when you found out you were an INFJ?

@benjaminoneoneone7565

3 жыл бұрын

​@@INFJWay Hi, Tinh! I will give you the short answer when I found out I was an INFJ.........."Huh, well that makes sense". Long version......ok I won't go long but elaborating a little haha. It was like I had this perpetual feeling of being very different than everyone else. Think outside the box? I always imagined, no box to think out of. It's really funny how I ended up in a 20 plus military career and successfully retiring. I was WAY different than my peers. As a leader, years later I was able to empathize with subordinates to understand actions they have taken, and sometimes that played a significant role in possible punishment or a strict learning point to teach. Empathy played a major role the majority of my life though regardless. BUT back to my career....crazy. I started in the Marine Corps in 1992 and my ex-wife convinced me to leave, get a degree from university.....maybe be an officer someday. The transition was brutal, but I focused on my goals, and after I left the Corps in 98, I finished my BA in History by 2001. I applied to Army Officer Candidate School (OCS), and by the end of the summer I was accepted. I would ship to OCS in Feb 02.....however, less than a month after I was accepted...911 happened. Most of my family was not supportive of me continuing down my path, my ex-wife had my back though. I left, and commissioned a 2nd LT summer 02. By Fall 03, I was in Afghanistan. By October 04, my mom had passed from colon cancer, my wife left for someone else that she met while I was deployed and by July 05...I left the Army. I lost a lot of myself (abridged version :) ). By August 07, I was back in and going to the Captain's Career Course as a 1st LT. Jump ahead to 2013. I cracked the code on how to shape my life using the power of positivity, Law of Attraction and everything fell into place. I knew that anything I wanted or wanted to accomplish, I could. Although I had a motto though, Want for Nothing. Simple goals. Make Major, get selected for Command General Staff College (CGSC). The Army only takes about 50% for residency to the campus at Fort Leavenworth. So you can spend a year in school, OR continue with your new job as a major and do distance learning online. I didn't want that. I was selected though (as I imagined) and they tested us on the MBTI in the first week. I was the only INFJ in our small group of 15. I do not know the stats for the other 900 other students. By 2016, I was in South Korea and knew that I could not continue on my career without a lot of sarcasm with the current president. I decided I had enough and my mission was complete. By the end of Korean tour I would go back to the states and be retired within a year. I was and have been retired since the summer of 2018. I still start everyday the same since I cracked the code in 2013. Prayer, meditation, affirmations. I create my Universe and the Universe reflects back to me. A perfect mirror. If I had to sum up my INFJ experience in a nutshell in three words: Planning, structure, discipline.................Thanks for asking Tinh. You know INFJs love to write haha. Good question! I can hear your question before you asked. What am I doing now? Treading water. Wash, rinse, repeat. Looking for a new beat. And thanks again for your reply. I think in the last 8yrs of watching youtube I have made less than 5 comments and I think this is the third time the host owner replied back to me. So. I guess I am a very selective INFJ. Hate being in a box btw. Looking to be my own IN something something someday lol. Be safe and well, and keep up the great work!

@benjaminoneoneone7565

3 жыл бұрын

@@INFJWay Oh and as I was leaving, I saw something of small note, but worth explaining. My name Benjamin Oneoneone. For some reason I guess someone already had Benjamin111. 111 has been an anchor for me since 2013 and opening myself up. My birthday. 11 Jan. Be well!

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

@@benjaminoneoneone7565 Thank you for your amazing story!🙏 You've done so much for your country to be proud of. You've also touched on so many aspects that I can relate to. Let me have some time to process it and I'll come back to you.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

@@benjaminoneoneone7565 111.... significant in many different ways for you. An anchor is so much needed in an INFJs life. Be well!

Same, I wonder if its also because we are meant to reflect peoples behaviors back on them so they can see themselves. The good and the bad.

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Ah good question, Leeda. Makes me wonder too.

Personally i dont have any much experience in work but recently i was imagining about astrologer and psychologist to do some work in future. As of today i really dont know what i wanna be good at. I do have like couple of years to figure it out. Currently pursuing masters

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Enjoy your time exploring if that is available to you. Thank you for watching, Krishna. I hope to hear from you again soon.

Bruce Lee! wow!

Definitely a jack of all trades.....and if I do it a couple of times I'll do it better than you! It's a curse sometimes. 😁

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Great curse to have, especially if you get better after a couple more goes!👍

This whole myersbriggs thing has reached a point where it is at the same level as astrology. . . The Myersbriggs system is supposed to be used in tandem with other analytical tools. because human behaviour and psychology is fluid and moves along a spectrum. everyone mimics and tries to blend in that is actually a typical human behaviour that is intuitive to help establish good social stability in a group. That is basic human behaviour and is not unique to anyone. Neither is the level of quick learning which is based on both nature and nurture effects and also the structure of the brain. This is why the whole Myersbriggs system unless used alongside other analytical tools and with professional oversight. Is no better than reading the astrology page in some tabloid. Its just superstition. . .

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and opinions kenji214245. I don't disagree with what you're saying at all. There is generalisation with Myers Briggs as with many other theories or systems, even Taiji has morphed into something else entirely.

Being INFJ myself i felt that way too...

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching, Yrumi!

I thought I had bad stories before, But this has been the worst one yet

❤

I do relate. Except with the Finnish .

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Hello Maria 😁

I want to do a MeetUp for INFJs (but anyone is welcome). Anyone in Sacramento, CA area or Berkely/San Francisco Bay area? -:)

For me the cameleon comes out in what kind of a person do I need to be in any given situation. I have PTSD. The way I was able to interact with others when all I want to do is hide under a table is do this really friendly persona. I am an actress. Being able to be a cameleon so helps

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, Sheltered Sparrow. May you stay well.

@shelteredsparrow2736

3 жыл бұрын

@@INFJWay you too

I only search this because my peers perceive me as a Chameleon.

The last words hit me, because i had the same resume two days ago. Why can’t I connect all the things I like and being good to one creation (job)?

@mimimondo

3 жыл бұрын

Now I have some ideas, but it’s a goal too far away, missing the small steps 🙄

@INFJWay

3 жыл бұрын

It is amazing isn't it? We are very good at seeing the big picture and the end goal. The steps and details can be hard to grasp. Details and steps don't seem to come as lightning fast as some of our big picture ideas. This is where I've found it useful to speak to someone like an INTJ to help work through the details. It does hurt sometimes because the grand goal can end up being taken down to earth and the glossy beautiful idea will look more rough and dull. However, let the process unfold and you will eventually reach that goal and it will be just what it needs to be in this world.

What happens when two chameleons get together?

I know huh.....haha

I was just trying to fake it till I made it

You are nuts the more you do the more work piled on

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

So true. How do you not do that?

@jlmadd

2 жыл бұрын

@@INFJWay don’t know what you are talking about lol

@INFJWay

2 жыл бұрын

@@jlmadd Thanks for your comments and giving me some of your time.

@jlmadd

2 жыл бұрын

@@INFJWay you are welcome

INFJ's dont have personalities. Most other ppl do due to evolution. Ppls personality is born out of the minds need to identify with its culture (parents, school, religious institutions, society etc) for survival in a way that will ensure its own survival. This requires a subconscious need to adhere and conform to culture and, thus, be moulded as such, its why INFJ's feel a bit bored with ppl because most ppl are a direct result of culture itself and often ppl just seem a bit samey-samey. Their personalities are fixed, predictable and highly straightjacketed. These ppl continue to outsource their sense to self and esteem to the culture for approval and so the cycle of conformity continues throughout their entire lives. Its why when an INFJ talks with someone about ideas, taboo, risky jokes etc ppl are actually very uncomfortable as the sleepy masses, particularly as they grow up, are so systematically hardwired by whatever the culture norm is. INFJ's are extremely hard to manipulate as they are simply emotionally hardwired differently. We do not value culture. We do not value tradition for the sake of it, a kinda circular logic. We are kinda like the fish out of water hence why we become existentialists, psychologists, philosophers, absurdist, surrealist, comedians etc. We are not susceptible to the allure of society. This may be a result of biological conditions - Asperger's and autism being an extremer version, it may be a result of trauma as a child or parental neglect or abuse. Raring styles are a means of ensuring that the child respects and values authority (the parents). This authority by parents should reflect the environment (society). If these are established this child will have a higher chance of growing up a 'normal person' where that openness/lack of identity will not take place and they will respect the new authority that reflected the old one (from parent to society). Its why most ppl are willing to work all their lives/get a house/do what everyone else does, to serve society and family (A respect for the new authority). Its also why we have broken ppl who's first authority were bad parents that showed inconsistent behaviour relative to culture. These ppl grow up criminals, addicts, violent etc. The first thing INFJ's need to realise is that they dont have a strong self and never will. You simply cannot create a self as a self is self-created. Its subliminal, its subconscious, its the part that basically controls us while also cleverly giving us the illusion of free-will. Our nature is freedom (from cultural norms) and free association (no clear identity therefor no clear identification process). Its why our minds are so abstract and theoretical but also prone to a constant sense of exile. The only time a sense of self emerges is, of course like other ppl, is when we are with ppl like us, other INFJ's. Its here we feel a natural sense of connection, a depth in dialogue and humour take place, a sense of being understood. Its like that sense of loneliness just disappears instantly. Hope this of some use :-)

@Peppita_

20 күн бұрын

I'm so happy to find this comment because its so f*cking true.. I think about it everyday. Also it made me wonder if this is why we're attracted to or get attraction from broken/neglected people because they're different from the "samey/culture" based people.. they feel less "boring" too ... Very good comment, thank you.

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