Chemistry to get it started. Compatibility to keep it going. Shared values and vision to make it last.

@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006

4 жыл бұрын

Relationships in a nutshell. 👏👏👏

@Haze_8

4 жыл бұрын

Idk man, Vision wasn't that great of an MCU character. Kinda don't want him meddling in my relationship

@Spladoinkal

4 жыл бұрын

This is it man. This is why it's very important to date PAST the romance stage of a relationship before getting married. What is your s/o like once the sparks have faded? Do the two of you survive the stage where the sparks fade and you start withdrawing from each other? Etc.

@nabhay583

4 жыл бұрын

And freely expressing oneself to see it till the end

@lizzia7152

4 жыл бұрын

Bro I’m gonna have to copy this quote and put it on my wallpaper

"Your partner can't be everything and neither can you" 👏👏

@estifanosberta-samuel2570

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, that’s entirely too much to expect of a person!

@apontutul

4 жыл бұрын

Only women want their men to be everything. Guys are happy with their lives, I don't believe we expect our women to be our beer buddies

@brendonsforehead4961

4 жыл бұрын

Rajdeep Ghosh thats why you’re lonely

@ytcensorship8180

4 жыл бұрын

I can be everything I want to ,but I won't be everything what you want

@DV-zv4ox

4 жыл бұрын

@@apontutul It's precisely that attitude that will keep you single for a long time

When I start considering my partner as boring, I remind myself too that I can be boring sometimes. Just give each other time and space to get back to each other in a better version. He is not here to entertain me, it’s not his duty so let both of us be ourselves

@billieshomies8381

4 жыл бұрын

Yo Uniqca 💯

@darlenepaul2934

4 жыл бұрын

Very wise.We expect things of our partners that we can't even deliver ourselves.Thats hardly fair.

@bambinoesu

4 жыл бұрын

That's y compatability is more important

@imrankh68

4 жыл бұрын

'Men are not our entertainers', wish more women would understand this fact. Much respect.

@amasion2882

4 жыл бұрын

“Boring” isn’t bad. “Repugnant” is a bit less forgivable.

Chemistry is like riding a rollercoaster that gives you this ephemeral euphoria whereas compatibility feels like home, it's stable and sure.

@skinney9542

4 жыл бұрын

Well said x

@angelsrosena

3 жыл бұрын

Really? What if you grew up in an unstable house that you called home? 😂 😂 😂

@sikandarsingh8135

3 жыл бұрын

Euphoria💜

It’s the worst feeling thinking we had so much chemistry and had so much fun only to realize in the end we just weren’t made for each other. And when it’s gone it’s easier to remember how much chemistry we had not how much compatibility we didn’t.

@tima1443

4 жыл бұрын

Real talk right here ! You feel like you should have tried a bit differently, but the end result is that when you want to be with someone that effort should come naturallg from both sides.

@tima1443

4 жыл бұрын

@Krishna Patel just do you. Seriously, the time you are so passionate about what youre doing with yourself, anyone will feel attracted 😌

@abdoashraf4655

4 жыл бұрын

That happens only because the relationship is just making fun or having sex , no feelings and motions no chemistry ! Having sex isn't necessary at all before marriage . Having fun makes any relationship weak and not serious

@lover3308

4 жыл бұрын

Micah M Bc chemistry is just as important as compatibility! Whoever that says it’s not is a fool! Jay Shetty is not qualified to speak about this! You need both or deal with eventual divorce or a lifetime of unhappiness! Also depends on the person. Some people don’t care much if there’s chemistry and for those super logical minded people then it may be fine. But proud who are more connected to their emotions and feelings you better know that chemistry and connection matters very much!!!

@kays3956

4 жыл бұрын

@@lover3308 yes it is. they both are. commitment to making it work is another c i will add to it, chemistry, compatbility and commitment.

This is SO TRUE. I met this guy on a trip and we INSTANTLY gelled. I was head over heels. Finally someone I clicked with and someone who understood me. Same culture, same sense of humour, same family structure, similar interests.. HOWEVER we had different "goals" or "visions" in life, which is why it didn't work out. He wasn't immature per se, but he wasn't as mature as me, and thus did not share the same set of core values as me. (Despite being from the same culture) Although I noticed this, I naively brushed it off because I really wanted it to work between us. But ultimately it couldn't because we were in different stages in life. To cut a long story short, I broke my own heart by investing my energy into a relationship, that i could CLEARLY *SEE* wouldn't work out. I should've listened to my gut at the first red flag, but I didn't - and paid the price later. It's very easy to be fooled by chemistry, so don't be. Always listen to your intuition, it will never misguide you

@winchucky

4 жыл бұрын

@Robert Raghav you're so missing the point. Watch the video again. The guy was attracted to her and in the end it fizzled for both parties. Btw people aren't stupid. You can compromise so much until you lose who you are as an individual

@msharmaravi

4 жыл бұрын

U will never find ur own Xerox There will always b differences

@bayleaf7588

4 жыл бұрын

@@msharmaravi I think you missed the point. There's nothing wrong with differences. There is a problem however, if you and your partner aren't on the same page. That's where compromising comes in. But if the other person isnt willing to compromise, the relationship will never last

@blueheaven4838

4 жыл бұрын

@Robert Raghav you can compromise on everything but never never never on yiur personal values.

@blueheaven4838

4 жыл бұрын

@ Bayleaf...yiu have just shared wisdom that can save someone a lot of pain. Hope you have healed too. As people we are so different. But when we are young we are so naive to recognize that.

It's better to be friends with someone first and get to know them well before committing. Ask more questions to know the person well. I think there's a video by Jay about this

@pool_dead3961

4 жыл бұрын

Just like what kuch kuch hota hai thought us

@davidofug

4 жыл бұрын

Perhaps if you've disclosed the intention of the friendship otherwise you may end up...disappointed.

@zuhayerahnafaziz6956

4 жыл бұрын

@mojo It is the name of a hindi movie. I have not watched it but sounds interesting.

@pool_dead3961

4 жыл бұрын

@mojo it's a Srk film.. Bollywood film..U should watch it sometime.. it's good.

@ardinaputri5296

4 жыл бұрын

@mojo kuch2 hota hai is a very gud movie

I think it comes down to a person's background, upbringing and their values in life. How a person reacts to certain problems reflects on the way they were raised.

@Reenanaik674

4 жыл бұрын

Thats true

@Sally-1000

4 жыл бұрын

You are so so right

@nikolamilosavljevic8785

4 жыл бұрын

But does that mean then we cant do nothing about changing that behaviour when we grow older?I think that we can change that way if we are around people who are acting different than us,because it would show us different perspectives of life

@Reenanaik674

4 жыл бұрын

@@nikolamilosavljevic8785 no girl.. i tried to do so wit my gf.. bt she started thinking that im trying to change her.. she was like u don't understand me.. we r not ment to be instead of talking to me.. she took this decision on her own

@nikolamilosavljevic8785

4 жыл бұрын

@@Reenanaik674 sucks bro but im 100 percent sure that just blaming our parents for our behaviour isnt solution

Chemistry is something you have right away. Compatibility is something you learn over time.

@thesimpledevil4817

4 жыл бұрын

Compatibility is better it's natural You will exactly behave as your zodiac sign you cannot be like another zodiac even if you try If you are pisces you can never become like aries...it's not possible

@flyingdutchman9053

4 жыл бұрын

THE SIMPLE DEVIL you are just plain stupid lol

@theChannel40

3 жыл бұрын

What if the chemistry lacks?

I feel communication is everything...the less we talk the less understanding about each other...

Chemistry, compatibility, communication, patience and being at the same stage in life. Accept your partner for who they are and take time to enjoy each other and spending time together. After 2 failed long term relationships I found the one and these things I found are key.

My husband told me that he had chemistry with his lover and he didn’t have that with me. He said I was his best friend, but had more in common with her. We’ve been together for over 30 years. We were very passionate early on and I thought we had chemistry back then. We got married after all, but I guess people forget and/or change. I don’t understand why people can’t get that back. Kinda “throwing the baby out with the bath water”. I wish him all the best and hope he finds what he’s looking for. I’m moving on with love and gratitude💔

I can't agree more. Chemistry is a feeling of the moment and is not a solid enough foundation for a long term commitment

@keve8586

4 жыл бұрын

what I found strange was having chemistry with someone makes it feel like it will all work out yet not having it gives you doubts. In reality, this is not actually true

@bambinoesu

4 жыл бұрын

Is not a solid foundation at all. But not many people have this wisdom

@sabyisme

4 жыл бұрын

totally agree. try dating someone with a completely different cultural background and you'll see how important compatability is

@janderson947

4 жыл бұрын

True over time the chemistry and honeymoon phase will fade and then it's just choosing to stick it out and having conversations even the hard ones ..

@MelissaGarza

4 жыл бұрын

Not having chemistry though makes them just a friend. It’s good to have more friends but I’m looking for a serious relationship.

If you have chemistry, but aren’t compatible, walk away. They aren’t for you. !!EQUALLY IMPORTANT!! - If you share compatibility, but there’s no chemistry, walk away. They aren’t for you. Don’t sell yourself short on either end. You deserve a man/woman in your life who is ON FIRE for you, AND is compatible with you. It may take longer to find him/her, but it’s worth it. Consummate Love people. Don’t settle for anything less.

The best option is a person with whom you have both compatability&chemistry. Because compatility without chemistry is just a friendship and chemistry without compability is just a passion. So relationship without passion can be boring but passion without understanding can probably burn down one day.

@LungaMasilela

11 ай бұрын

I totally disagree,not only are the odds of finding someone like that small ( I assume) but in my own personal opinion compatibility is the best way to go it was one of the pillars in which arrange marriages were built upon and it does make sense from a rational point of view . Chemistry is just how you feel about a person it’s just feelings that’s all .

@sabinabavenlee

11 ай бұрын

@@LungaMasilela don`t underestimate the importance of your instincts. We are still animals and we react to smell, saliva, etc. Have you ever kissed someone you don`t really like? If not, believe me, it`s awful. Now let`s imagine living and being intimate with someone you don`t like physically for the rest of your life? You`ll hate yourself and your partner.

@LungaMasilela

11 ай бұрын

@@sabinabavenlee not really there was a time in history where people married people that they didn’t love themselves at first and I like to think they went through the same crap as people who marry for love (not exactly though but they themselves had problems too). You only believe that marrying for love is the way to go because you live in a world where romanticism is supreme.

@sabinabavenlee

11 ай бұрын

@@LungaMasilela people were burned to death in the Middle Ages at some point in history why should we even address the past? As it wasn`t great back then , especially for women, they had fewer rights or sometimes no rights at all other than to marry some old wealthy dude(if lucky). If your beliefs work for you, then great. But it`s not right for others

@LungaMasilela

11 ай бұрын

@@sabinabavenlee what does people getting burnt to death have anything to do with what we are talking about and by addressing the past you can potentially learn something . The point that I am trying to make is that in long term relationships it’s better to be with someone based on compatibility rather than with feelings because at the end of the day feelings come and go people fall out of love .Also the basis of marriage was never intended to be romance but rather comparability.

Chemistry is not ever lasting. That's why there are so many divorces. Similar upbringing, values and live goals are more important. Effects of dopamine will fade off as time passes, its the life journey that remains. And both should be on the same path with same vehicle.

@faggabumm

4 жыл бұрын

Fucking well said. A+

@maxii6254

4 жыл бұрын

Values and life goals I 110% agree with. However, when it comes to upbringing, I have to say that it highly depends on the circumstances of their upbringing along with how they responded to it. My father was raised in a family that would consistently beat him in the name of "discipline". My mother grew up being spoiled and sheltered almost every turn. (spoiled with no offense intended. She was just treated very well) yet here they are now, still raising me and my two siblings for 18 years. Those are my thoughts though. In the end, everything else you've said, I absolutely agree.

@hintn21

4 жыл бұрын

@@maxii6254 thats gud to know. I mean if all matches its best. But it doesn't' mean it won't work if a few is not matching. Also depends people's nature, if both can adjust for greater good, a little differences will work out.

@DV-zv4ox

4 жыл бұрын

Speak for yourself. I've been with my partner for coming up to 6 years. Chemistry is definitely still there.

@DionLYA

4 жыл бұрын

Chemistry can be developed even if you don't have it at the start. A lot of it comes down to how much you are willing to give/compromise out of your love for your partner, and not how much you can get out of your partner. Your partner (or you) may suddenly change one day, are you just going to breakup/divorce because they're not compatible with you anymore? Of course not.

Lasting relationships, whatever their nature, are best built on common ground. Most people take this to mean shared interest in music, movies, or recreational activities. As meaningful as those things may be, it's far more important to share principles, values, and a vision of the future- where you want to go and how you want to influence your world, together. You can have a "relationship" without compatibility, but it will only last if you're also a good fit. -me

This was me and my ex we had great chemistry but definitely not compatible. 10 years later we broke up and it was painful but also very enlightening. I wish I seen this video years ago lol but It's all good I have no regrets! It was a lesson I will never forget.

@thecoachabdul

4 жыл бұрын

I second this because this happened to me too and I really got hurt by the break up but when one door closes another opens. I hope all works out well for you

@helloworld7818

4 жыл бұрын

Probably your zodiac signs didn't match...

@miloudivyne

4 жыл бұрын

@@helloworld7818 we are both pisces so it had nothing to do with signs and our bday was 3 days apart. It had to do with roles. Masculine and feminine ones.

@TheWingmanPro

4 жыл бұрын

10 years???

@joanneng9145

4 жыл бұрын

@@miloudivyne can you share more ?

I agree that friendship is the best foundation to build on. However, in a relationship I need great chemistry. And usually this chemistry is either there from the start or not at all. So for me, first comes the chemistry and then the reason I'd stay in the relationship is compatibility and friendship built in time.

@CBLady

4 жыл бұрын

thankyou, chemistry is "the desire of your heart"

This couldn't be more true!!! Be very careful who you marry. My 8 year marriage ended because we were so opposite. He wanted to drink, watch football, be lighthearted and have fun. I long for deep connection, conversation and bonding. It's been a painful lesson. Do not sell yourself short to fit in another person's vision of what your life should be. It WILL END in heartbreak. Soul based relationships only. Do it for yourself. ❤️💔

@JustineMfulama

4 жыл бұрын

Amen! That is so true! Chemistry is for sprinters, compatibility for long-distance runners.

@launaskin9332

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this, wishing you all the best!

@msharmaravi

4 жыл бұрын

Most of the men will watch one or other game .b lighthearted and have fun Y Bcoz Men will b men Wats wrong in that

@jeremyowens4115

4 жыл бұрын

I've been married to a woman for 12 years. We've been together for 15. The reason it's lasted is because of compatibility. Yes, we work well as a team. We hardly ever disagree. But let me tell you. This relationship is coming to an end. There isn't an ounce of passion. Not a drop of chemistry. We aren't United soul mates for which we breath in our desires of one another. We are simply bonded by friendship. It is far from terrible yet it's not even close to good. Be careful people. That spark in your eyes when you see a specific someone could mean more than you think. Don't settle like we have. Chemistry plays a big role in happiness.

@blueheaven4838

4 жыл бұрын

@@JustineMfulama Wow. Did you take it from somewhere or make it up. Well said either way

I was talking to a former co-worker about this (he just retired) and his response about his marriage was like what is said here. He said that he and his wife aren't perfect, nor do they look like models. But, they've been married for nearly 40 years because they are compatible. He says they accept each other - their commonalities and differences - as they are and they can work around the latter. They're honest about who they are to each other and are able to communicate their goals. Looks fade, he said, so you need to be able to have other interests that unite you.

Jay, I hope you'll see this. Your videos have a huge impact on my life. When I'm lost I always go through your channel to "recharge myself". So all I gotta say is Thank you and never stop doing this..

looks /chemistry will attract you to a person compatibility and having similar goals and values will make you stay together. married for 19 years and she sure didnt have any chemistry towards me she actually really didnt like me at all. but we worked together and thats how we got together. so i dont believe in finding soulmate. i believe in finding that someone that completes you and makes you whole

You have good chemistry with friends. You have good compatability with partners.

This video speaks to me. I had great chemistry with my ex, but we weren't remotely compatible, which is why we should have remained, just friends. It's actually refreshing to hear it explained.

“Consistency over intensity! Intensity is almost always on emotional impulses. Therefore, temporary. Consistency is based on creating a long lasting and solid foundation of habits. The chore of your character” -@mosiahmtz

@Kubaaano

4 жыл бұрын

That's a VERY insightful little line!!!

@zhmma

4 жыл бұрын

I'm much more attracted to intense people. Why does one has to exclude the other?

@elmehdibenmohamed2905

4 жыл бұрын

#simon_sinek

@biancamichelle11

4 жыл бұрын

Mad Hatter It doesn’t have to exclude each other. It just usually does. Intensity comes and goes. Like tidal waves, its always up or down. Consistently is almost the exact opposite. Many people who are intense are also either emotionally unstable or unavailable. So it’s important to really understand what is causing the intensity in the person or relationship. If it’s coming from a healthy place then go for it!

@mrslick58

4 жыл бұрын

@@zhmma because intensity that comes from consistency is way more satisfying.

In my estimation chemistry is when you can be in the same room with that person you care for without a word being said and be absolutely content simply with their presence nearby. That is my definition of chemistry and is very important. Spirit recognizing Spirit and the future will reveal compatibility, I believe both are needed.

@stephanieh5478

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. Dated a great guy for a year and NOT having chemistry with him made me leave. We didn't have sex, personality wise completely different from me and that missing spark made start to resent him.

This is a lifetime’s work. Notice I didn’t say goal. Everyone forgets to enjoy the moments. Don’t get blinded by comparisons or what society says works. Life is not a fairy tale. Its a roller coaster. Buckle up and get ready for the ride of your life.

I think sometimes the evidence of chemistry is achieved by the discovery of compatibility. Just a thought.

As I grow older, I understand this point so much more ♥️

I am looking for both chemistry and compatibility and hence i am single.

@shamatembamelvin1023

4 жыл бұрын

Sucheta Bagchi ✋

@mrsigma7669

4 жыл бұрын

@@shamatembamelvin1023 meanwhile you ," I'M HERE"!!

@shamatembamelvin1023

4 жыл бұрын

SAGAR KHANDEKAR meaning

@tc4193

4 жыл бұрын

@@mrsigma7669 😂

@goldenstar9379

4 жыл бұрын

Me too

The best thing is when your crush make you believe you have a chance while you have absolutely not...

@T33K4Y

4 жыл бұрын

That's the worst. She'll say and do things that indicate she really wants you but when you try to go in she actually didn't.

@1911Zoey

4 жыл бұрын

That's a classic lesson, James. Young attractive women are fickle and don't really know what they want.

@carolinev5426

4 жыл бұрын

@@1911Zoey Not only young girls, unfortunately. The same occurred to me with a 50 years old man (I'm 45). So...

it's really really true...we think that good chemistry is good compatibility...but it's not always true...

Hollywood taught us to confuse „love“ with „lust“. We‘ve been horribly duped 😮

I would also agree, my and my ex had wonderful chemistry but we were not compatible at all with our personalities and lifestyle values

@JustineMfulama

4 жыл бұрын

I experienced the same exact thing. Next time we'll be more aware...

This is the torn in the side of relationships, and why romanticizing love is such a damaging experience for many young people today. It took many books, but they all seemed to have one thing in common; that compatibility comes before chemistry. The chemistry of my relationship - the intense dopamine and oxytocin rush - has long faded, but with it has deep intimacy, visions of a bright future and complex communication taken it's place, and it has enriched my life more than the intense honeymoon phase could ever do.

@nanaak8617

4 жыл бұрын

Love your profile name by the way.

Honestly ... I have been stuck between two great guys and I've been feeling like shit ...not being able to decide who to pick . Then I read this comment section and got instant clarity ....didn't even bother watching the video. Thank you for sharing your experiences it helps others make sense if their own.

Wow, first video I see with no dislike so far but with already 10k views. Good work, Jay. I agree with your message too although it's not easy to act on it. It definitly isn't.. But thanks for being the one and only who for once tells us that not every relationship is meant to last. Very refreshing! I think we should wait a bit and be friends before the relationship. It helps to still see more clearly and make the right decisions. All the best to all relationships out there! Phil

I LOVE THIS VIDEO! It's so accurate, especially the point about purpose and goals. You have to want to be at the same point in life to truly move forward!

This man always inspires me. I just listen to him when i am down in life. Thank you JAY for all you have done ❤️👍

Jay, this was such a beautifully done video. Thank you brother

This is powerful! Thank you so much Jay.

Thank you, Jay. This means a lot... Very straightfwd, yet, so powerful guidelines... Thank you. 🙏💕

Best jay shetty video i have seen. Confirms a recent insight that i have developed regarding relationships. That is, to go for compatibility and have enough self control to keep involvement and chemistrt for later.

On point. Compatibility is important - having the same basic values in life is so important. It’s sad how chemistry and love is not enough.

Yep Understanding & Having same values & Dreams are so imp. Thts why it's important to ask questions. Don't assume if they look Spritual they have same values as you.

This is the most beneficial channel I've ever subscribed on KZread!

Brilliant, Brilliant, Brilliant! Thank you for sharing.

You have enlighten my life for a year now. Thank you!

hey Jay Shetty, i just think ya messages are really more than encouraging. thanks!

I cant think you enough I am in this part of life where i was going for women beauty but your point is bang on thanks for saving me , this will heal me.

But some people take it in other sense.. they start to cheat because they cant find everything in that person and at the same time they do not want to lose that person and it all becomes messy in between.

@thelmabukikun1485

4 жыл бұрын

I think it comes down to a person's background, upbringing and their values in life. How a person reacts to certain problems reflects on the way they were raised.

@siddharthaggarwal3437

4 жыл бұрын

@thelma bukikun yes it totally depends what we do is what we have seen our parents reacting to a particular situation

@danielvasquez2760

4 жыл бұрын

It’s simple. that person isn’t for you. He said both have to be in a similar place in life accepting what the next phase in life is. If that person isn’t ready for the next phase than reality hits and you learn to fight the urge to want to stay and move on. Time keeps moving forward if you think about it too much eventually tike leaves you behind. “You can never go too far when you can’t come back home again”

@siddharthagarwal3999

4 жыл бұрын

Great to see the first comment on this video by someone who shares the same name and surname as me XD

I see this in so many couples and the saddest thing is that these people get married and down the road they find themselves trapped in a relationship that doesn't work, because they don't find the way to make it work due to lack of compatibility!

So much respect to you Jay Shetty for this inspirational video.Great video.

It's the same with stars. The impressive ones burn the brightest and burn out. The slow fire lasts.

Appreciate all your topics and worthy depiction. In a relationship/friendship if we respect and share each others ideas & belief and work , compatibility works in action and that leads to good chemistry.

Wonderful teaching. Thank you so much Jay. 🙏🏻

Such a great video for any to improve their relationship. Your breakdown the principles. 🙌🙌🙌

Wow, Jay you melt my heart ! KEEP IT UP BRO

I can't believe Jay blew my mind in less than 5 minutes.

I ♥️ this message. It is very useful. Thanks for sharing 🙏

Thank you, I really need this right now.

So well explained the truth & reality of making true good relationships

Really needed this, thank you Jay!

I guess that's the best advice i have ever heard. Loved it ♥️

Even understanding this is the first step 🙌🏼 thank you

Good video on the contemporary relationships which has great life lessons to take away. Brilliant concept on the first note.

Well made video. So explanatory. Thanks for such a great job. Grat content

THANK YOU FOR YOUR TEACHING'S THIS MORNING. MUCH LOVE*

I really love your wisdom! Keep it up.

Thanks for the video, it's what I need right now

Just what I needed ! Thanks

Wow, finally some good information on relationships.

I LOVE your videos. God bless you. Thanks for sharing.

Well, this just put my first relationship into words. Very good video

Thank you for the message in this video

Wow. . I think same & I believe in compatability all the time..& now u confirmed it..👏...thanq

Always find balance chemistry and compatibility are both important you need to feel the emotions and you also need to feel the similarities

I finally underatand why me & my ex didnt work out. We had the most amazing chemistry, but struggled tremendously to be compatible to eachother's lives.

My worst breakup was when someone who said he would communicate through problems (I was smart enough to talk about it early) broke up with me when I pushed him (not super kindly, I would admit, not badly, just not warmly) about a goal he had mentioned. He got scared and then backed away without trying to fix anything. And in our breakup, I tried to open up communication by reminding him we both valued it, he gaslighted me next by saying “no amount of communication or anything else would have changed it”. Good learning that some people are just not capable even when they promise things. I had apologized and given him space and was open to talking about how we communicate, but we were not compatible in ability or willingness. Still hurts a year later

@ShikhaSingh-1826

4 жыл бұрын

Went through the same. It's been one year,Nothing changed.He never understood and I never tried to explain any further, just apologized and moved on with life but deep down it still hurts

@ChocoParfaitFra

4 жыл бұрын

Omfg I can totally relate to this! Damn, almost the same thing happened to me

@imroob9702

4 жыл бұрын

learn from that and try to move on, not your fault nothing that you can do now, thats my honest opinion from a dude that not know you but doesnt want you to be sad

@shikastormcrow6224

4 жыл бұрын

@@imroob9702 Well said!

@shikastormcrow6224

4 жыл бұрын

You tried your best. You cannot force things in the end if the other person isn't willing to compromise and try to understand your side too. It has to be a two way street. A ships needs a team/crew to keep it afloat, and a team means working together which is important in every kind of relationship in life. With time you will definitely feel better as you learn more about yourself, and eventually find the one that is compatible with you. Things that are meant to be in the end will be. You will be okay. Much love and peace to you

This hits me so hard! Im hoping that I was informed about differences of these before so I can save my self from the relationship Ive been having for almost 6 years now. Im not blaming him for anything else but we're very different and we dont share same goals. It feels liked im being suffocated sometimes I wish that Ive never met him but we have two babies now so its hard to let go and just because of my angels.

That's Amazing Jay!

(Did you actually hear me asking for that...?) Thank you so much for this! Love from Germany ❤

Mr Shetty You made a very good point

I’d love to hear more thoughts on how to be in a relationship successfully with someone who’s in a different place in life than you.

@mrmurdx8956

4 жыл бұрын

There's no such thing as a successful relationship just hard work and discipline.

@bayleaf7588

4 жыл бұрын

It can only happen if *both* parties are open-minded, willing to compromise and have patience with where the other person is in life. If one or neither partner does this, no matter how much they 'love' each other, it will never work

@josephross3926

4 жыл бұрын

It’s called UNCONDITIONALLY LOVE! When you see the person thru the Lens of GOD Eyes , it makes it easier to understand, to have patience towards them, but most importantly it allows us to Extend the same Grace that GOD extends to us daily. Always Pray for your Partner instead of Preying on them(big difference)

@JustineMfulama

4 жыл бұрын

I think you are making a mistake by looking for ways to make it work, rather than letting go. Why would you want to jump on a train that is headed in a different direction than you? Stay on your track and hope your paths cross again later.

@josephross3926

4 жыл бұрын

Justine Mfulama looking at it that way, you’ll be constantly jumping from relationship to relationship. Sometimes it takes a little more patience, but most importantly loving them unconditionally. If it’s not GOD , then it won’t work anyway

My relationship ended last year and all I can say is that I learnt all of this by myself and it hurt like crazy because I wanted to make things work no matter what but my ex didn't want to understand or to compromise Guys take this video into account cause it's 100% accurate and true!

Hi Jay,it's nice about being your subscriber every video brings us new, refreshing content essential for day today life.Keep doing this.Love from INDIA❤️

Love you soooooo much Jay❤️❤️❤️❤️ This video saved my relationship!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This video literally shows how my relationship went previously. Exactly the same. We just love each other so much but can't handle the fact that we both are so different. We come from different continent, religion & culture.. our personality was also the big reason which impacting our relationship towards each other until one moment we realized.. we love each other so much, we can't see each other suffer for the sake of each individuals needs that we can't keep up. Compatibility is a big deal.

@abegail8624

4 жыл бұрын

Definitely what I'm going through right now. Seems so familiar.

Good one this video goes directly to my favorite list.

Great advice on communication styles! Its hard to interpret and decode different communication styles!

Beautiful!! Well put Jay!!😇♥️♥️♥️🙏

This video was very very very very Good. Thank you.

Love your videos..... Really inspiring 😄.... Keep making them

Wow....thank you... Makes so much sense

Spot on. It hurts

I am your fan sir. You are very sorted person. I think I fall for you.

This Vid best he’s made *Jay* ❤️❤️🥺

I like so much your videos and they help me a lot, but I truly believe in chemistry... compatibility is very important, but you can work it in every type of relationships. Love relationship needs this spark, this unique feeling... 😉 after this, working hard is something we should do.

Problem with long term relationships is that humans take each other for granted. Much better to remain single, never pay more than your share, and be free to spend time doing whatever you wish to do. Humans should not try to own or dictate to each other. It’s a form of abuse. Respect each other’s differences And make yourself happy. Don’t expect others to row your boat ✌️

@chocopie7890

4 жыл бұрын

Charlie Chase your cmt is a point. I think i know sth new from here

@dan01

4 жыл бұрын

Agree.

@amithebrand5095

4 жыл бұрын

Charlie Chase we weren’t created to be alone.