'dont make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.'

@njotosonny

Жыл бұрын

So sad but true

When you’re so blinded with the idea of love, you don’t see the red flags until you finally got over them. You start picking out all the red flags that you ignored.

@priyasrivastava1449

3 жыл бұрын

Very true

@chrisconsorte7893

3 жыл бұрын

You got that right!

@glenharrisonjr4176

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah you are so right,,I had a female friend I loved and cared about and was their for her anytime she needed for a year,and it turns out it was never a friendship but instead a usership

@bipashabasu3012

Жыл бұрын

Can’t agree more

People always show their true character by their actions and behavior

@angelaaho6223

5 жыл бұрын

Authentic Self Guide -that is so darn true

@BrotherTree1

5 жыл бұрын

And to confirm their true colours, their true intentions behind their actions and behaviour. And also, whether or not they want to make life improvements, changes, and be open minded.

@angelaaho6223

5 жыл бұрын

BrotherTree1 -I agree and true with you

@chyrngenpajat2727

5 жыл бұрын

👍👍👍

@adrifire1992

5 жыл бұрын

Agree!

*_Don't chase someone who doesn't want you. It's not worth it. Thanks, Jay! You're a huge inspiration to start my own KZread Channel

@avarose2038

5 жыл бұрын

What if they PRETEND to ' want ' you.. 🙁 ??

@vinay30bsb

5 жыл бұрын

@@avarose2038 yes for people who like drama in their life ,they do such things.Some people prefer drama in their life (like my x gf) and some don't ( like me). So i live a drama free life so i don't chase such people. For people who like drama let them chase and risk it.

@redgeminiarts3674

4 жыл бұрын

Don’t chase anyone.

@ladennayoung2939

4 жыл бұрын

I pray that you started your channel.

@sunilthakre9601

3 жыл бұрын

Bro I have a girlfriend well we both love each other when it comes the bad time for us like our parents doesn't know about us so when it time to choose me or her family she chose them!! And I got so restless end of the day I can't leave her coz she's my life and she repeated this thing for atleast 3-4 times What should I do??

*You attract what you are!* Never jeopardise and bend your values, standards, just to fit in or make it work. Be always realistic with where you are in your life and what kind of person you want to meet. Nurture yourself and let the law of attraction to work its magic.

@jennifer6833

5 жыл бұрын

O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me , I 100% agree.

@drifttandemz101sidewayzz9

5 жыл бұрын

Amen to this

@missmishra6622

5 жыл бұрын

what if they are the ones who trick us into believing they are a bful person and turn out to be narcissitic to us..manipulate us without even our knowing...by being so subtle that human brain could be easily fooled... how...i mean how.... and WHY do some boys behave in this way...!!!!

@brightspectyshreya

5 жыл бұрын

@@missmishra6622 I think its more like when its new...due to the adrenaline rush and the butterflies that we get....our brain is soo high on emotions that we tend to ignore or be blind to the red flags they are portraying. And how can u be sure? Just close ur eyes and go back to the initial times as a third person ans watch that situation where u met him....u will see the red flags that got ignored. Its not your fault...they are narcissistic due to their nature or situations...we need to get out asap and tell ourselves...thank god I came to know before...😊😊

@sanjanasultana515

5 жыл бұрын

O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me the right people will come to and stay.

*People usually don’t want you to outgrow them and become unrelatable.* They want you to stay where they are. Don’t. You’re better than that.

@MoreNadia

5 жыл бұрын

I needed this!

@shirleyware9059

5 жыл бұрын

If someone really cares about you they'll find time for you, they wont be to busy....thats just a b.s. line they feed you to keep you baited so they got you on back burner for second choice, move on you deserve better male or female!!!!

@abigaillee8570

5 жыл бұрын

@@shirleyware9059 exactly. Those kind of ppl are total bs themselves

@sunitafisher4758

5 жыл бұрын

Your Favorite Lifecoach 🌸 beautifully put and quite potent, really touched something in me, thanks for your kind words 👍🏼 Sub’d

@Zarghami

5 жыл бұрын

Gail Fisher thank you so much gail ❤️

*Know your worth and value. Never diminish it for someone.*

Never think you can't live without being loved

@eminahist710

5 жыл бұрын

self love is enough for surviving and living. greets, e.

@utsavimishra106

4 жыл бұрын

Thank u for saying that

@jokergirl8134

4 жыл бұрын

Just look at me loving emptying all goodddd 💥💕🙌🏼🥀

There should be a subject that teaches stuff like this at school starting from grade one. So much smoke and mirrors in today's world.

@Nono-jf5bc

4 жыл бұрын

Me mum drilled this in me brain lol her whole life your worth everything you want in life

This touched the very heart of me because this WAS me. I came away from the relationship with no feelings of self-worth, no love for myself, and after a year I still fight those feelings every day. I no longer have the ability to trust, to put myself or my heart out there to find the one who will appreciate the woman that I am. If you're listening to this video or reading this comment, PLEASE don't let anyone take that from you. Once it's gone it's hard to regain, maybe even impossible. Love yourself and put no one before your own self-worth and peace of mind. If they truly love you and think you're worth it, you won't have to. ❤

Yup I learned that....I learned alot of guys didn't and don't want me.. I'm 27. Still learning.

@the_hanburger

5 жыл бұрын

Have you tried like... Seeing how the life of being single is like? Maybe that's the only thing left... 😭

@the_hanburger

5 жыл бұрын

But if you truly want a bf... Maybe try dating apps...

@kunaljaiswal89337

5 жыл бұрын

Di you're no less than a diamond. Don't settle for pebbles. One day you'll meet a man who will respect and admire you as he'll have the same qualities as you possess. When you're vibes will match with that of the correct man, you'll both attract each other. People who are meant to be there in your life will always gravitate back towards you no matter how far they are. 😊😇

@SnowFoxParty

5 жыл бұрын

@@the_hanburger yeah I've been single for some time now. I low key hate it but its helping me to grow

@SnowFoxParty

5 жыл бұрын

@@the_hanburger dating apps dont work. I used to use them. They just suck

Don't settel for anyone, just so you can have someone❤❤🙏

Sadly, most women are like that, they will lower their standards even more, after getting married.. I know I dont, cause i proudly left my abusive ex as soon he broke the second chance after his big mistakes.. Love yourself ENOUGH just to leave people who wronged you..

@jkk4666

5 жыл бұрын

Same here I left my ex cos was no more interested in me.. N that taught me to love myself more n respect myself more

@FaridaDawkinsYY

5 жыл бұрын

I wouldn't say most but many are, yes.

@jessidawkins5245

4 жыл бұрын

thats me

@jithunair4526

4 жыл бұрын

To be honest women prefer abusive boyfriends subconsciously, so they can have some drama in their life. When good guys approach them, they don't give a shit. Now that's the real problem, I am seeing this even in my work place

@Adonis9256

4 жыл бұрын

@@jithunair4526 Too true. Seen it happen to so many of my friends.

Thank you jay for this .. I really needed this 😭😭😭😭 .. can't thank you enough

@angelaaho6223

5 жыл бұрын

shiwangi_shyra rajus - I agree 💯 percent

@banupriya6278

5 жыл бұрын

Same here

@renisingh5730

5 жыл бұрын

I agree with u, it’s taken me years to come to terms with that , I settled for third best. Don’t waste time free yourself from a useless relationship 💕

@shamillahug2398

5 жыл бұрын

reni singh very true 👌👌👌👌👌👌👌🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️

@AyushMajithia

5 жыл бұрын

shiwangi_shyra rajus Could I ask you for a favor? It would really mean a lot to me

Message from today:Love yourself more than anyone can 💜

"Don't let your value be defined by how much someone thinks you are worth." ~

I was in a relationship with someone great, but my intuition kept telling me to get out of it and I got anxious every time I would go see them because deep down, I knew he wasn’t right for me romantically. We were friends for a while before we dated and worked on trying to be friends after we broke up, but he just kind of ghosted on me and told me “he just needs time to do him”. Listen to your intuition. It told me to get out of so many situations before that I ignored and I ended up getting hurt. Now, I may have been left by one of my best friends, but I know that I am worthy of a type of love that makes me feel excited and have butterflies in my stomach and not the anxious type. I think in these type of videos, it can be easy to walk away from “bad” people. But it is just as hard to walk away from “good” ones. Trust yourself. Trust your heart and value it. You will find love. You must want to spend the rest of your life with yourself first.

Thank you, for making me realize that I'm more than worthy. That I deserve a better person, who'd make me feel that I'm special. Thank you.

@MuhammadImran-ln4fz

4 жыл бұрын

I love u also 😍💏💑👫🌹🌷❤❤

Don't settle for someone because u think u won't find someone like that! I felt that 💯

I was just thinking about people using me..... because I can't say NO..!!

@SnowFoxParty

5 жыл бұрын

I learned to say NO too. Its helpful and powerful

@ZettelV0.0.0

5 жыл бұрын

Its A Power Too If U Are A Beast

@Princess_Lilly13

5 жыл бұрын

Do not be too nice they'll eat you... its a jungle out there. I love you . Start saying no to others, if you don't, you will be saying "No" to yourself....

@danacarter9147

5 жыл бұрын

@@Princess_Lilly13 That's the best piece that we all should take. Being too nice to or trusting somebody too much will only get us in trouble.

@Princess_Lilly13

5 жыл бұрын

@@danacarter9147 Exactly dear, and believe me, i learned that the hard way... struggled sooo much! Love from Algeria 💓

Don't settle for anyone just so you can have someone! Mad! 💯

Jay I swearrrrrr, you posting these vids alwayssss on time whenever I needed enlightment, thanks 💚... God bless you!

@sachinilakshika1962

5 жыл бұрын

Yes yes yes. Of course yes

@pinkbutter791

5 жыл бұрын

Yes. Exactly my thoughts!!

Well,, that's hurt,, but we sometimes never see the truth

I went through this exact experience with a girl over a year ago. Crazy how accurate this video is.

I’m changing my standards right this moment. I know a lower my standards but right now I am raising them. I am a beautiful woman that deserves only the best that life offers. I’m ready for the good times. ❤️ I am the love of my life. I was so afraid but I created my Spanish channel on KZread. Thanks for the motivation.

@thefitnessjunkie8083

4 жыл бұрын

Damn.nice advice

@olivierbauwens4338

4 жыл бұрын

You deserve the best of course

Just called off an engagement because this person tolerated me and prioritized everyone but me. I was lonely in the relationship and he was happy knowing that I was lonely and would never cheat on him. He lied just so that he couldn’t spend time with me but he spent time with other women. I was always broken asking myself whether I was good enough for him. I love him but I ended things because I was going to be the most miserable wife and mother. I would have resented him.

@tjfSIM

4 жыл бұрын

That must have been a very difficult thing to do, but I think you made the right decision. You deserve better than someone who treats you like that. Keep looking forwards.

@treavam5653

4 жыл бұрын

Do not go back. Even if he comes back. It will eventually get worse.

@southerncross5360

4 жыл бұрын

kimberley ibale Stand in who you are, your standards and value. Thank goodness you didn’t settle just to become their a prop, a void filler. I don’t know but personally experienced the devastation from staying in the wrong place with the wrong man for way too long. Assumes all was good 20 years marriage children then he became someone I didn’t know, some days didn’t like who he was. Why was this happening and it’s not all of sudden it was my intuition I’d been ignoring. I’d been the wife who sacrificed when he didn’t, he started drinking more and more, this was 10 years ago we’d both joined Facebook and that was a catalyst in our relationship. I didn’t know his need to be validated and loved was as deep as it was. He stayed online with old friends and women he’d known years ago stroking his ego became a problem I saw wife and children weren’t priority and he’d miss meals and events for attention. Our world the life I thought he’d keep his promise to was a facade, anyone would do. I was a disposable broken and with teens I’d planned with therapist due to alcohol and verbal abuse that when I said leave I wouldn’t ever look back where he got a message I’d accept less and less and I’d be his launch pad doormat. That was 4 years he’s a drunk lost his job and doesn’t see his children but talks online to women all over the world and thinks he’s a God. It’s all I can do to forgive myself for doing my best at the time with what I knew based on years of letting one thing slip at a time, I’d become a people pleaser miserable at that. I’m alone in relationship status but I don’t have to carry anyone but me and I’ve learned who I am all over again. I would advise anyone to be vigilant and don’t sacrifice yourself or your standards it’s like predator prey, kind and vulnerable are meant for those who share the same with you.

@oo-mu1cu

4 жыл бұрын

Dont ever go back to him.he doesnt respect you and is a prick

@oo-mu1cu

4 жыл бұрын

You are far better off.love and happiness to you🙂

Don't settle for anyone just so you can have someone!!Thank you❤️❤️

Amen! I did that for 25 years unfortunately, finally finding myself again!

So true....!!!!love urself more like no one else can love u like that...🤗

So true but people who are in love don't care about anything. That's why people say love is blind.

@angeltan9360

5 жыл бұрын

Right 😣

@user-os7gr1to1g

4 жыл бұрын

Only fools fall in love

"We accept the love we think we deserve", he changed me then he left me! I saw it coming though! Im so dumb! 😭😭😭

Don't settle for anyone, just so that you can have someone*🙌

*self-respect above all*

So true, I learned this through my own experience with a guy I once loved. I was so patient with him and forgiving. I made so many excuses for him and accepted the little care he showed. I was blind in love and now I have learned and grown from it.

@lmusima3275

3 жыл бұрын

I hung on to a guy for 3 years who came in and out whenever he pleased. He’d call me everyday on Skype as he was overseas. He was a first class player. In the end I cut him off when he ignored my calls and stood me up on Skype for a month because he met another woman. I was silly for ignoring all the red flags 🚩 as he was a useless jobless broke dusty who lived at home and dealing with a baby mama. What could he have offered me?

Be the person you love the most 💕

Keep motivating us jay... love u sooo much.. from india...

@arwerr2674

5 жыл бұрын

He is from India too right?!

@gracesneha4658

5 жыл бұрын

@@arwerr2674 oh yeah... Indian English Speaker.

I just had one of these experiences recently... I was with this girl for 3 yrs... The way I pictured her, was not the real... It's now that I have understood, that I was just an option... Only talked to me when I was the most exciting "thing" in her life... But now, she blames for some of her bad times, whereas I was the only one who supported her, gave her the mental calmness which she needed then... But now, because she doesn't need me, says hurtful things and then justifies the reason for saying those hurtful , stinging words... How I believed when she said that she loved me and will stay forever with me... I just feel that I am the one who is to be blamed as I believed her... From talking 4 hrs a day to me waiting for her message for the whole day then getting to talk with her for 5 mins, everything changed... I know I'm not the perfect one... But at least I apologized after I had done any mistake... Just felt like commenting about it..

@tubisa0234

4 жыл бұрын

People like that don't last for long no matter how hard we try or we try to break the moon for them they won't realise...they are just selfish and will never appreciate it. That happened in my relationship too I was just an option for him I was so good to him I never complaint or create scene for replying late his replies varies from a day to 9 hours just for s reply he use to take that much of time. I felt so bad it hurted me to my stomach now I never text him he doesn't either even though it hurts I still remind myself he doesn't loves you but it's really hard..are you still together?

@kritarthasarma8252

4 жыл бұрын

@@tubisa0234 sorry to hear that ☹️ And no, we're not together anymore

@tubisa0234

4 жыл бұрын

@@kritarthasarma8252 good you are away from the toxic person I hope you are doing good since it's been so long..it's been 8 months for me but I am still haunted by our memories really each day is painful... Wish you all the luck save your heart and don't fall in love.

@kritarthasarma8252

4 жыл бұрын

@@tubisa0234 I hope that u too get out of it very soon☹️. I still think of our memories. But yeah now I don't get as sad as I used to get then.

I also needed to hear this and cant thank you enough as i agree 100 % with what you said.People should treat others with the same respect and kindness they want for themselves if they. dont want others to outgrow them as no one likes to be used and made to feel like someones leftover or second best

I lowered my standard and now I am suffering for it.so true. Now I live for my kids...

Loved that... thank u Jay ! Loneliness is difficult to live with but it is anyday better than being or wanting someone who does'nt reciprocate.

U know generally women who set dere standards high end up being alone (not lonely) bcoz men consider dem arrogant or maniacal How to b nice wdout letting other crossing ur boundaries bcoz it’s quite tricky High value men are RARE

You made my day sir...this is exactly what I needed now...your videos always inspire whenever I feel low...thank you so much.

@MuhammadImran-ln4fz

4 жыл бұрын

I like u really 😍💏💑👫🌹🌷❤❤

This is so true. I really lowered my standards for someone recently and tolerated a lot which I shouldn’t have, it was clear they were a player but I always made excuses because I thought I couldn’t do better because I have a low opinion of myself. But I just have done better, and that’s made me realise I shouldn’t have settled for what I did before. Just because you have low self esteem it doesn’t mean you should settle for someone. You should find someone who actually shows interest in you rather than always talking about them self and tries to make time for you no matter how busy you are❤️❤️❤️

I HATE people who do that and knowing it hurts your feelings so much so don’t just let it slide.

If they don't reply.... that hit me right in the mouth. I feel so stupid and unappreciated.

No one deserves to be ghosted. I know it's hard to forget, to let go the person you thought is your loml but trust me they doesn't even care in fact nobody do it's you yourself who can help yourself get over. Move on, *push yourself* everything takes time and I believe you can do this. Life is short after all :)

@christopherlopez128

5 жыл бұрын

🙏🙏

From this clip video Jay you have saved somebody's happiness..thanks brother ..

Forcibly accepting what doesn't actually exists,that really lowers the self-esteem of an individual,the rest comes later.So it is ok to be alone until the right person makes their way to someone's life.

People tell what they r through their actions only.🙏😤

I learned this the hard way. Kept lowering my standards for a guy until he finally left me. Wasted like a year of my life.

@_jen_____jen_

4 жыл бұрын

Music_Lights it is never a waste

@olabalu6597

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, unfortunately I had the same experience. I have only done the things my ex was interested in and completely lost myself worth. What a hard lesson, after he had left me.

@carelylyngdoh4363

4 жыл бұрын

My husband said me to drop my jop then i quit....After two years he left me with my one and half year daughter..now i realise im always lower my standard just to make him happy bu now he left me..😥😥😥

@akankshasinha7843

3 жыл бұрын

3 yrs of life is wasted

Can’t thank you for this enough . Brilliant eye opener .

"Don't lower your standards to find someone, you'll just end up losing yourself" TRUTH

Very very true...just wanted to hear that

This is so incredibly sad, but to the point. Well said and well conveyed message! ❤️

Preach, Jay! I absolutely love and appreciate this message. ❤️

It is exactly what I understood after a year and a half of an ultimate illusion. I thought by being nice to him he will treat me well and he will do good to me but none of this happened. He just saw me as weak and naive and he has all rights to humiliate me whenever he gets angry over anything and ignore me anytime he wants. It was not a healthy relationship at all, it was a mere nightmare and all thanks to ALLAH the almighty guided me to wake up eventually and rescue my self.

Thank you Jay! I am going through this right now (other way around) and I appreciate now knowing what to do.

" don't lower ur standards to find someone u just end up losing urself , u deserve to be with someone who tarts u amazing don't settle for someone cuz u think u won't find someone like that "✨👌

People like that just only want to feed their Ego! The value of a Person doesnt decrease on another one, always in yourself ✌️

Jay this video is amazing. For all these years I was looking for someone to make video on this topic. Thanks for helping people see their inner strength.

I have been hurt by so much Jay, thanks for this Jay makes me better hearing this atm

Jay you just touched the painful side.....thanks ..much needed video

When tears started to pop out just watched this, i just took a deep breath at the end ..

Thanks for the message Jay!

I'm basically doing all the mistakes I should not do, thinking about someone, writing emails to her since 3 years (with no answer of course) that's how I adapt

@jayaxavier1965

4 жыл бұрын

Leave the people who don't want you. Why to care for them if they don't want you any more. Don't worry, time heals everything.

Going through an excruciating breakup. I needed to hear this.....Thankyou

Yes friends who should know better, can really let you down. Especially when they know how vulnerable you are.

omg i needed this talk right now! thank you soo much❤❤❤

This message came at the right time. THANK YOU SIR!

I really needed to hear this tonight. Thank you jay

This is the best I've ever listening... Thnkyou sir Jay for this.. May GOD bless u

Thank you Jay. People stay with each other cos there's always reason to.

create the best relationship with yourself..and you will learn to not let anyone of any less value to come between that..❤ thanks mr shetty x

True we give more importance to ppl who dont value us at all....

thanku so much for such a greatful message

Thank you so so so Much Jay...really needed this..♡

Well i learned this the hard way. I should've not lower my standards just for him. Still praying for the right one to come though.

@christopherlopez128

5 жыл бұрын

😘🖤

"Don't settle for anyone just so you can have someone" : I find it also valuable for friendships

Thank you for this💕 It helped to restore the positive way I used to feel about myself 😊✨

Your YT videos together with your podcasts are really helping me get through my day with a more positive out look on tomorrow. From the bottom of my heart I thank you. I also want to give a big hug to the rest of Jay's community. Love to all sx

Thankyou Jay ! Indeed it was a great message to everybody and I have been facing this from so long ! And you know what at some point of time You become fearless and brave to move on !

Hi Jay,You are becoming a true best friend for me,Just guiding to exactly what I want ,Thank You.

Keep making videos like that, life has so much , and there's so so much to learn

Beautiful msg ❤️ Be the really you always , to attract what you really want and deserve ....

I'm addicted to his videos. So educating

thank you for the message i just loved it God bless you keep doing the good work and do keep inspiring all by your words👼👼

Such wisdom......this guy is absolutely wise beyond his years, im an older person and ive learned alot from him..., as we always never stop learning thru out our lives...thanks Jay!

I can relate 😞😞I've been settling for so long bcz I love the guy. .but I asked myself y am I still in the relationship cz he's clearly lost Interest. .. i finally left him.. I hurts but I'll be fine in due time

@nadz5286

5 жыл бұрын

same, it happened today, i feel you

@alinakhan2859

5 жыл бұрын

Same thing happened with me on June 15th.. dealing with it

@masegomorobe6761

5 жыл бұрын

@@alinakhan2859 u going to be fine in due time.. I ddnt think I'll be fine but I'm doing good now

@alinakhan2859

5 жыл бұрын

@@masegomorobe6761 I hope so.. this thing is killing me from inside

@alinakhan2859

5 жыл бұрын

@@masegomorobe6761 I just hate love

Needed this so much. Felt each bit. Much love jay Shetty 💜

Thank you jay. For always helping us. 🙌😊

well done jay big respect

Thank you sooooo much❣️You really taught me the biggest lesson of my life....Thanks a ton!

I really needed this Jay thanks a lot

Thank you HUGELY for this video! It made me so happy!

This is just powerful Jay..I'm sure alot of ppl can relate to this n I hope they understand the meaning behind everyone's action. Keep posting Jay 🙏🙌💯

I needed this rn. Thanks Jay!

This one hit me r8 now when i needed it

Jay's videos are just... incredible, so beautiful... i can't

WOW MAN. THIS IS GOLD, THANKS FOR YOUR WORK!

Jay u are talking to me directly today.. Thank you.