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When I actually paid money for dating apps, I got zero matches (and the selection was "unfortunate" ).. I should just go and sit alone in the bar, roll up a $20 bill and light it on fire, take a shot, and then go home. Aaaand scene!

@llVIU

3 жыл бұрын

"unfortunately" your standards are unrealistic no matter how much money you throw at the screen

@jess77surfs

3 жыл бұрын

@@llVIU 🤣🤣🤣👌

"The more you are willing to pay, the more serious people will become." But in reality, "The more you are willing to pay, the more desperate you are willing to become."

I am dipping my toe back in the dating pool after a breakup. I signed up for eHarmony and was horrified, utterly horrified at my matches. (I am late 40s and in a metro area with a lot of men). I saw less than a handful of attractive men. Looks aren’t at the top of my priority list, but 95% were seriously unkept and scary. Think mountain man who hasn’t seen a comb or beard clippers in ages. What are these men thinking?! I promptly cancelled my membership and will be moving to another platform. I find that different platforms work better in different cities. Best wishes ladies!

@USEH

4 жыл бұрын

I ran into the same problem. Wanted to cancel my account within first 5 minutes...Terrible selection. Any suggestions?

@TheKellendras

4 жыл бұрын

E Harmony is awful.

@AncientAbsWisdom

3 жыл бұрын

I'm with you. I've been dumped here in the u.k and I dabbled in several apps. In the end I was putting up pictures of me in deep sea diving helmets ( really, it was me, I'm a presenter and wore one for a TV show!) just so I could 'scare off' the serial dating app older women and attract someone with a bit of creativity and spark whod understand me. I'm a cool 53, slim and lean. With the best will in the world I don't want Kimberley, 58 from Brentford.

@theroundupgang7878

3 жыл бұрын

Omsh yes same here

@noelleprasada9830

3 жыл бұрын

Too funny! That's what I found on all apps. Men post pics that make them look horrifying!! They put in no effort.

I just hate it when these married guys are on dating app too. They even use their wedding photos so funny and ridiculous.

@sirennem.6890

3 жыл бұрын

many weirdos are there, many lonely freaks who doesnt know what they want

@thevegantitian

3 жыл бұрын

Lol they will show pictures of their newborn babies. I'm like seriously??

Love you positivity and advice. You make hard & exhausted topics easy to understand with your personal examples. Just stopping by to say thank you!

Yup, so right! I have tried 2 dating apps, none of them worked. Instead I have talked with few guys who are really assholes. So no more, no more dating apps for me. I still prefer the unexpected encounter and I am foucd on myself and everything, in time!

Thanks Ryan! Quite frankly, I've exhausted my patience with "online" sites! Will consider the EHarmony as a free option however, I am more serious now as ever before and long for a healthy companion!

I love your videos and appreciate this one. I’ve done online dating which was disastrous but I live in a smaller town and there just isn’t much to choose from I guess...

I was just getting ready to ask for a video like this. I've had no luck on free sites

I really enjoy listening to you and I love your content!

I hate dating apps I don’t attract the right guys but that’s the only way I can meet guys so it’s a bit annoying.

@thevegantitian

3 жыл бұрын

Yes especially during this COVID. This is the worst time to be single. Singles have it hard now. It sucks.

Thanks , I wish I had watched your videos a few months ago , but hey it's never too late. :)

Yea... I’ve been trying online dating, and I tried it a few years ago during a break up to make up situation. I paid for match.com. It was literally the worst experience of dating in my life. I can’t imagine paying again for more hookup pleas from wealthier men. Also, I tried match for 12 months, and still nada but hookup pleas. I took it pretty seriously. Paying doesn’t make it better from my personal experience. At least with free you aren’t paying to be asked for a hookup. Guys don’t often talk to curvier (let’s be honest, larger) girls in public. It’s a very rare occurance in my world, and the world of my larger friends. Maybe you should do a video for the large and lovely seeker. What should we do? Where should we go? There are tons of us out there, and I don’t know of many of my large and lovelies having much luck other than online, and usually it’s the hookup requests after dinner luck.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this Ashley! It was interesting when you're discussing the timing of trying Match post break-up. What were you looking for at the time online? I wasn't sure if the "make up" part was you were hoping to reconnect with your ex in the process? I was curious about your mindset at the time, because if you had just gotten out of a relationship, do you feel maybe the next guy you met could have been a potential rebound? Again, I don't know the specifics of your situation or if you mentioned anything in your online profile about just getting out of something, but wondering if men were getting the vibe that you were just looking to have fun since you just got out of a relationship. Just kind of spit-balling with you here. Hope you don't mind 😉 And noted on the video suggestion for "larger friends" as you say! I do have some specific thoughts on that and how the approach might be tweaked and relevant considerations... let me mark it on the list!

@Dependencycourtsellschildren

4 жыл бұрын

Totally okay Ryan. I personally don’t do rebounds, though I’d never judge someone that does. I’m kinda known for being a goodie two shoes with men. I’m never seen with anyone, I don’t have a new boyfriend very often, when I get one it lasts forever, my number is the lowest of my friends, despite age (some older, some younger). I had broken up with my child’s father, well actually he broke up with me, for the second time. This was pre kiddo. I wasn’t really sure what I was looking for. I waited about three months before joining, to not be in that blues mindset. I had of course sat and watched possibly 1000 videos, read books, heck I even went to a dating seminar. I thought I was a dating expert, 😂😂😂. So I figured if something good happened, awesome. If I just got to practice all my new techniques, awesome. I was just open to a new experience, as the last time I had online dated MySpace was a thing. I wrote the profile I had been basically told an outline for. I took the kinds of pictures you were told to take to attract options. Yet all I got were wealthy guys who wanted hookups. I am always honest about being larger, but it seems like that’s the hookup red flag. It’s very normal in big girl world from the stories my friends and I tell each other. At that time I did my year, left match, and my kid’s father came back about six months later. He’s gone again (surprise) and has been for quite some time. Now I’ve tried a bunch of apps, as I’ve been single for about two years. I have yet to find bumble much of a meeting spot. I’ve had two dates from it, and guess what they wanted (even now)? OKC, same thing. Really, you name the app, it’s all the same. Guys don’t often approach larger women, and so you’re kinda stuck with apps, but honestly it’s seemingly a hookup thing for us larger ladies. I couldn’t imagine paying for what I already don’t want... again. If you did that video, you’d get a large watch count. I keep on saying anyone who narrows into that market has found a goldmine. I hear the statistic is 44% of men are attracted to larger women, but all the larger women I know have a similar story to mine when it comes to dating.

@stormchylde3999

4 жыл бұрын

@@Dependencycourtsellschildren I know this comment is older, but I just wanted to say that there are a few dating sites dedicated to plus sized people, but they may as well change the names to 'Men who want to hook-up with plus-size women' because it's all about sex on those sites. I personally didn't get a lot of men wanting to hook-up with me on the regular dating sites, though; but then again, I was already in my 40's when I was on those sites. I also wanted to note that both my niece and my daughter's best friend met their husbands online (both plus-sized), but I think the big factor there may have been that they were in their 20's and early 30's and their husbands were also large men themselves. Both men and women will be larger themselves but veto dating people who fit that category, and that can limit you to people who are interested in just hook-ups, unfortunately. Not always, but quite often.

@burberryclaretred6676

3 жыл бұрын

Match was awful I had to contact them to officially delete my profile

@burberryclaretred6676

3 жыл бұрын

I’m from Canada

Ok... let’s role the dice and see if this works. I have friends with mixed experience on EH but I am willing to give it a try.

My issue is that at my age (41) I don't know where to meet guys. It was so much easier in my 20's.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Vicki! Question: Ideally, where would you want to meet them? If they could just step into your world and make it easier for you, what does that location or place look like? Essentially, where would they find you? Sure, you're a little older now. But if it comes down to just getting yourself in front of men, surely you can triangulate where you'd like to capture their attention and greet them with a smile when they arrive, no? Farmer's markets, open mics, trivia nights, dinner parties, where do you want to be? 🙂

@victoriamundae2570

4 жыл бұрын

Same here... I'm in my late mid 50s (is that even a thing). Most people don't think I'm as old as I am... a youthful spirit I suppose!

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

@@victoriamundae2570 Hey Victoria! Anything in particular been working for you lately meeting men in your circles? I'm a big fan on doubling down on any hint of successful methods. Otherwise, where might guys find you in your element doing things that make you super happy? 🙂

@alexm1226

4 жыл бұрын

Same here. 38. I love bookstores, libraries, coffees shops, museums, piano concerts, gardens and I do martial arts. These are all the things I genuinely enjoy on a regular basis and never have I met a guy that way. Any suggestions?

@vickiweber4718

4 жыл бұрын

@@datingcoachryanpatrick I know my best bet is church. I had just been watching online, but lately have been going in person. I also enjoy going to sporting events when I can. I have a side gig as a grocery shopper and know I have chances doing that or even just my own shopping. I had actually moved to where I live now just a few years ago and still discovering places.

Ryan - Create a dating app and I would definitely use it.

I have tried eharmony several times over the years and gotten very few matches and the ones I matched with were poor quality. I have girlfriends that tried it and had the exact same experience. My theory is most men aren’t inclined to try eharmony so for women the matches are fewer. I have met much better quality men on Tinder believe it or not you just need to filter and be a bit of a challenge. Men just looking for sex won’t be up for that challenge.

@victoriamundae2570

4 жыл бұрын

I just looked at the stats for eharmony. It's great... if you're 24-34. Older than 34 and the number of men drop dramatically, like to non existent for my age group. Guess I'll just have to be a cougar... lol

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for letting us know of your experience Mari 🙂 I'm curious, do you feel there wasn't as large of a pool of men due to where you were living? Plenty of guys I know (who are now in their 30's) moved from Tinder-type apps to paid sites including eHarmony because they're ready to settle down and find wives now, so it's an interesting theory you have and may be true in regions other than the U.S. But I feel if I see the trend here within my circle, surely it must be happening in other western countries/regions. The personality matching test has gotten, much, much better since I used the platform 10 years ago.

@thepopculturedilettante1194

4 жыл бұрын

Mari I haaaaaatttteeedddd eharmony. I think it’s better for men, but for women, I had terrible matches. Never again.

@spartansxoxo8088

4 жыл бұрын

The pop culture dilettante thanks for letting us know!! I was seriously debating on using it because I had used Meet me and POF and they were both horrible for me....long story short they ended up being married/a sex offender/ and my last was horrible and I was with for 3 years he was a sociopath

@stormchylde3999

4 жыл бұрын

Tried eharmony in the past (quite a few years ago, but I was also younger then, lol) and found that if you're older than early 30's, and particularly if you're a plus-sized woman, you may as well forget it. I actually had better luck as a plus-sized woman on a few other sites. My theory is that the men felt like since they were paying so much they deserved to get the best match they could, and that wasn't a larger woman in their minds; or perhaps it was also because they were looking to get married, and in both cases, they felt they could do better than a plus-sized woman. Just my opinion based on my experience from being on multiple sites at that time.

You can pay for extra features on the free apps if you want. When I was new to online dating, I paid a monthly fee to see who liked me. It was useless, because I don't usually initiate conversations with men on dating apps. I can see where a guy might benefit from that.

Ohmagerd... I had so much anxiety watching this! I need these videos more than I thought... 🥴😬

thanks for this awesome information!

It’s so frustrating when the guy looks handsome in the pictures but then in person he’s..... awful 😂😩

@ladylynnleedy3161

3 жыл бұрын

It would have been a lot cooler if you want opposed yourself as a potential date and Instead found AA true bachelor that was looking for this segment or show or link or whatever you wanna call it

@Gleyi07

3 жыл бұрын

@@mbksisi5765 hahahahahahahhha

Take into that what may work for some might not work for others, me personally don't think it matters where you choose to date whether online or in person you're always gonna meet good and bad people and everyone has a preference in whom they're looking for ,you just have to date with caution and be mindful of the red flags and always follow your intuition and most of all never settle for less than you deserve never lower your standards either

I was wondering about the ethics involved in setting up a mock profile for teaching purposes. This is a great experiment the have in a bubble but in the real world people on match are going to lose trust in the process if they knew potentially there are unattainable patrons on the site.

I just joined eharmony this weekend and I too had a previous account a few years back. With that said I am going into this with an open mind based on Ryan’s input and the fact I know people who have met and married on this site. Not so much with other dating sites. The things that I noticed between before and now include; The questionnaire was more in depth and I think they asked better questions I like the score which gives me a better indication of a higher quality match The profile page - I think this helps people viewing my page a good indication of who I am And my preferences - I’ve been using this to ensure that potential matches have the same or similar answers to mine If I find out that I’m looking at this process through rose colored glasses I’ll let you know. But for now I’m going to keep an open mind because honestly I’m not sure what other options there are for on-line websites that someone can meet someone for a long-term relationship.

Thank you for these tips and for the discount. I personally have stuck with the free profiles because when I began online dating I paid for match.com and I also had tried eharmony for six months. Yes, the men were more serious about their interest and communication as a general rule, but I was still running into requests and even expectations of hookups. That is not what I signed up for, nor do I want, and I was quite clear about that on my profile. But as you said, they've improved the algorithm on eharmony so maybe it's better now.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Kristi! Yes, after diving in it's improved significantly. I was answering more than several super-nuanced questions. Obviously, since I'm married and my dummy account was just a test, I can't speak specifically about how possible dates with my matches would have gone, but I imagine my answers screened out a good amount of women who prefer sleeping on the same side of the bed as me! LOL, well hopefully 😄 I feel requests for hookups will always be there (and are an excellent screener...NEXT!) just because men get desperate and see what they can get away with if they aren't seeing immediate results. It's also a sign that they aren't really into you. I wouldn't think much of it 🙂

I wish Eharrmony would work in my area but it doesn’t work well in smaller communities

I’ve had quite a few men claim to not smoke but when we met up, they clearly did. How they think they could hide it, I do not know lol. I’ve tried eHarmony and my matches were horrid. I cancelled it after a couple of months.

I agree that there are assholes and scammers on the dating sites, but that's reality. Been using some since 2010 and met good people mostly. The tip is? Post decent photos and be upfront about what you are looking for. It may take awhile but patience pays off. Found my partner finally ❤

I tried Eharmony. It sucked. As bad as the free ones. And, when you're disabled and have no income, how do you pay for it?

Best video yet THANK YOU

BAHAHAHAHA I seriously freakin love your voice overs and add ins as if you’re talking like a chick....so funny. I’ve have your channel on auto play awhile now lol

Thank you so much you are the best

Hmmm. I had no luck with this app. Tried it for 6 months, met only one guy off it and it wasn’t a good match tbh

I just got onto bumble for the first time this week... it’s overwhelming and scary. I’m in my 40s. I’d prefer to just organically meet someone I have chemistry with, but there’s no one in my contact pool. I’m talking to a HS teacher and a nice father of two so far, and they aren’t rushing me or being gross or weird. I’ve ditched a few who were though... I’ve heard bad anecdotal evidence from one of my friends. I’m not in a rush to have a relationship, just want to go out a little.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Sun&Sea! Thanks for sharing this! If you're thinking about it, can you let us know how your Bumble experience goes or is going down the line? Getting yourself out there is the biggest thing and that's awesome you're doing that! I realize reading through these comments on today's video that many people have some really tough touch points and experiences with this subject of dating online. I'm hoping the HS teacher is a sound pick for you. He and the dad sound like they've got it together 😉

Hey Ryan!I love your videos!!Thanks for all advices...and... I found many great guys overseas,I dated some and after one year talking ,my best friend from Germany told me that he loves me😍...and we will make a Mediterranean cruise together..😉Girls need to risk a little to find happiness..that’s why i joyed an international dating site.I don’t regret,believe me.😂..Merry Christmas and Great 2020 for you and your family!🌷🌷

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Yay! Love hearing that Adriana, congrats! 🙌🏽 Thank you!

I joined eharmony a few weeks ago and I have had no more than 50 matches in that time frame, and not one has interested me and are low quality. Everything has been filled out. What exactly am I doing wrong? :(

I love your videos and think they are very helpful. I tried e harmony a while back. Unfortunately, there was no one on the app within 100 miles of where I live. So I paid for something that was not able to serve me at all. It might work in a metropolitan city.

@agneskariuki6903

3 жыл бұрын

Hi

I tried this and got 1950 matches and over 20 messages in an hour. I was frustrated to learn I couldn’t respond to any of the messages! And, the price has gone up since this video. I would’ve tried a free trial but $45/month is steep!

Hey! I have weird but good questions i like to ask. I dont like wasting my time but it can come off strong when i ask them before the first date. I like to know if hes been tested after his last partner and hes clean, and never had a cold sore. How would you recommend i bring that up? And when?

@brookebenton8192

4 жыл бұрын

You have to get him emotionally invested first. So basically after you guys have been dating for a while, but before you're going to have sex. Ask him in a time and place where sex won't easily happen. Tell him it's really important to you and make sure he knows that you won't move forward without it. This has always worked for me. I have offered to get tested together and that seems to help too.

Dating apps are so fun and I agree it’s a phenomenal way to meet people!! Great video as always!

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Samantha! Happy holidays! ✨

@servantsochrist

4 жыл бұрын

if you are really good looking

4 жыл бұрын

@@servantsochrist Yeah if you're top tier woman then you'll have your ego boosted all day long with complements and have your pick of top tier guys with abs and cash. If you're a top tier guy then you'll have a procession of gold diggers (see above) to pulp and dump. These two groups (about 10% of members) have a great time but the vast majority may as well not waste their time on apps.

@Orandu

4 жыл бұрын

Sam, it really is! Over the past four years I’ve gone on three dates!! So good!

@sweetsimpleslowlife2709

2 жыл бұрын

@@Orandu 😂😂😂

I like the way you're talking yr kind of sweet 😍😊 Thanks for all

Finally!!! Thank you for this video Patrick. Tinder and Bumble are not free at all but they are about speed and convenience.... actually I went on all of them.... very disappointed.... all the same.... and I do not have vulgar pics in the contrary.... but the approach is only about to get physical from men.... ufffff..... tired of it....

I don't want to write the best online dating thing, I want to write the worst..or not the worst, but just something to limit my options. There's too many options and I have choice paralysis. I'm going to be single forever.

I’m 44 and have my masters degree in environmental engineering. I like EliteSingles because I can find guys that are intelligent and kind (so far).

You are sooo funny you make me happy I swear, 😹😹😹😹

I think it depends how you set up your profile, yes, the way you talk to guys, the way you come across. OKCupid is one of the best dating apps out there I personally recommend because they have matching %. I have met quality guys there and currently dating a guy that is compatible with my lifestyle and beliefs. I love your channel but somethings you say is like playing games and it doesnt let the relationship happen organically. Testing guys is like having trusting issues which then we are the problem and not them. I dunno, there is still a lot to say in the dating scene.

Are you sponsored by eharmony? Because I have tried all sorts of dating apps, paying and free and out of all of them eharmony had the poorest selection and the least amount of matches. It was ridiculous. My options were either miiiiiiles away, complete no nos on the job/lifestyle front or muuuuch older. I was actually listening to your advice until you mentioned this company.

@alexm1226

4 жыл бұрын

I would go as far as to say: if eharmony is the solution then my case must be hopeless. Also, men do not reply on eharmony. Ever.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Alex, as I mentioned in the video, I'm not sponsored by eHarmony nor was I paid to review them. I'm curious about your experience when you were discussing how options were "miles" away... were you in a smaller town at the time (and in the U.S., U.K. or Canada)? I hadn't heard of anything like you experienced from anyone else that's used the platform before, so I was wondering. Thanks!

@alexm1226

4 жыл бұрын

In the Bay area. Maybe you should check one of your female clients profiles on eharmony and compare the matches they get on other platforms. The different is BIG. I even paid for the year subscription , only used it a month and despite that, the matches were sufficiently unsuitable to make me delete the app forever. I have checked with other female friends and they have had the same experience.

@lynn4381

4 жыл бұрын

Alex M exactly.

@sweetsimpleslowlife2709

2 жыл бұрын

Last time I was on eharmony was over 10 years ago and I had a similar experience. I tried many dating sites over the span of few years, then I stopped completely and was meeting people in real life until…COVID-19! Now I’m back online and ugh…do men think it’s ok to forget about personal hygiene just because it’s apocalypse ?🤔😂🤮

Can we talk about another dating app why are you going so deep into detail about one?

My issues is I live in a small town and there are no men here I’m interested in. I have to look out of town and most men don’t want anything long distance

What about dating when you're over 50? My husband has passed, the kids are grown... but most of these dating things are geared for young singles or old stuck in the mud old men. Where are the active men my age? Hard to find... I guess that's why I usually end up with younger friends... but then they couple up and I'm there... still alone... sniff... (ok, i'm not really a downer, but it's hard to find someone who is as active as I am who is close to my age... any suggestions?). Thank you!

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Just commented on your other thread, Victoria! Hopefully, the Our Time suggestion is a better fit. The demographics/numbers are certainly there for the 50+ crowd 😉 My full review of OurTime can be found on my blog here ----> daterboy.com/our-time-review-50-mature-dating-site/

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Looks like my initial comment to you didn't go through to you... my apologies! Yes, OutTime has the demographics/numbers it sounds like you're looking for, since you'd like to find men more your age. They certainly have the best track record, and the platform also has great functionality to really hone in on exactly what you're looking for. In terms of places to find these men other than online (and church, LOL), I'd say group exercise classes, Meetup groups, trivia/open mic nights, art/cooking classes (seen A LOT of 50+ men here as I'm into both of these things), AirBnb "Experiences" (if you're in a large metropolitan area), just to name a few 😀

@victoriamundae2570

4 жыл бұрын

@@datingcoachryanpatrick Thank you!

@gigi9301

3 жыл бұрын

I am almost 53; I volunteer at the Botanic Gardens, and I’m thinking about volunteering at the museum too. While I haven’t found a date this way, I have met some good friends...who might know a good guy. I also usually only volunteer for private events, which brings in the best prospects for my equal in socioeconomic status.

How about a video for those of us ahem, over 50, who don't have the gal pal network to go out with. How do you go about meeting people close to our ages (and please, don't say Church... )? It's not really fun to go out alone and you look like you're on the prowl too.

@mechellebeverly6161

4 жыл бұрын

I am over 50 and Victoria M, what you said is absolutely true!

@1chienandalou

3 жыл бұрын

What do YOU like to do? Where do you like to go? Just own it. I am not over 50 but I am close to 40. Once you’re over 25 somebody’s going to tell you you’re over the hill and so I am as well... yet, things are getting better and better as I get older. I don’t think this church versus prowl idea is helpful. I do dress up and go clubbing, yes. But like eight times a year? Find a balance. You don’t have to be so self-conscious it doesn’t matter what anybody else might think that you look on the prowl or whatever. Do what you like and you’d be surprised

Can't believe so many messages.....been on 3 months, 2 messages???? I've smiled, commented, and liked 100 men.....nothing! Everything you suggested I've already done.

Hi Ryan! My cousin and I live in Kuwait, and Eharmony doesn’t support Kuwait, what we could do? Thanks for all your advice! 💖👍🏻

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Good question Lucila! I'm curious how much some of my advice transfers to you and your cousin in a non-western culture 🤔 I wouldn't want to lead either of you two astray. Maybe you can help me understand some of the dating "norms" a bit better. Do you find dating apps/sites are acceptable to meet men or is it more frowned upon? How do you feel most Kuwaiti women find love? Thanks in advance for helping me understand!

@lucilaluz8367

4 жыл бұрын

Ryan Patrick we are westerners living here and is really hard to date here, I think it will be too long to explain how arab people date/get married. What I was asking you is how we could use eharmony properly because the only arab country to choose is Qatar.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

@@lucilaluz8367 I suppose it might 🙂 It doesn't sound like eHarmony would work well for you then. Why does Qatar get to be the only arab country with eHarmony? Lol

Interesting what would be the strategy for online dating living in party cities like Miami and Las Vegas. U got really bad quality guys here where their willingness for something serious is super low just like determination for eharmony websites...

What do think about Dil Mil dating app? Mostly men have to pay and the woman has to choose them, at least that's what I heard.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

This is mainly for South Korean expats, correct? I might just sample the free experience and if you see positives results, maybe go for the first paid tier to weed out that initial layer of non-serious folk 😉

@universallove878

4 жыл бұрын

@@datingcoachryanpatrick Thanks. Merry Christmas🎄

I am an extreme introvert. Putting tons of information out there is anathema to me

I've the experience that if a man pays for dating he expects to "get" something (me). What can I do in that case?

@stormchylde3999

4 жыл бұрын

Pass those men by. 1) They're not paying you, and 2) You're not a prostitute, so men like that are not who you want. Just my opinion.

Hi Ryan. Thanks for making this video. I was taken to the payment section but there was no box to place the ‘daterboy20’ coupon code. Where can I find this? Thank you!!! Love all your vides!

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Revekah! Thanks for checking it out 🙂 It looks like eHarmony still has their pretty aggressive holiday promotion going on through the end of the year for 50% off all subscriptions (instead of my 20% off). I'm not sure if that will continue into the New Year, but it might! The DATERBOY20 code would only be good if they are not running any other promotions at the time, like this holiday promotion, and the promo code box would then appear. Let me know what you think of the eHarmony experience on this thread if you're thinking about it 😉

@dwnkckrza

4 жыл бұрын

Ryan Patrick yes definitely will let you know! And yeah the 50% discount is what showing up right now. Thank you for your prompt reply and hopefully you will do a live video soon for us to see you LIVE!!! 😊😊☺️

@dwnkckrza

4 жыл бұрын

And btw, it’s so fun watching you on your videos! And you have similarities with Ryan Reynolds.. face, mannerisms, voice, wit and jokes... just saying! 🤷🏽‍♀️

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

@@dwnkckrza Haha my wife thinks so too! Love that guy 😄

Ugh. I usually love your wisdom and insight but this feels like PAID promotion for eHarmony.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

I know, but it's really not. I legally would have to disclose such an arrangement and would never misrepresent things like that to the group. I stand behind my endorsement because of my experience with them, although I do recognize my experience isn't the same as others. It's *much* better than free dating apps in the long-run. Won't have any other endorsements for many weeks, just an FYI 😉

@JoJoJensen

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Ryan. I appreciate your experience and you! I don’t know if it’s still true but in the past eHarmony had some bias issues and for that reason alone I would not use them. 👍🏻

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

@@JoJoJensen Thanks JoJo! Yes, I just heard about a subscriber's husband who got denied from the platform after he took one of the earliest iterations of the personality matching tests...Yikes (before they were married obviously LOL)! Bet eHarmony wishes they could have those days back... 🤦🏻‍♂️ I never experienced any hint of that, so hopefully they've learned from their past misdeeds

@ladylynnleedy3161

3 жыл бұрын

Yup

I'm on POF 🤦‍♀️😭😭 I have 4 pics they nice and classy but men only focus on that they barely read. I don't have time to go out and look or how to socialize? 😭 I feel awful now you are so right. Just deleted my account

Ryan how do you contact eharmony? I clicked on their help page and unable to contact them

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Maddie! Sorry, just saw this comment! According to GetHuman, their customer service # is 844-527-7421. Hope everything works out OK 🙂

I tried harmony and it didn’t work

What tips have you got for a really good profile.

Hi Ryan, is this offer still good? It was a year ago??

@datingcoachryanpatrick

3 жыл бұрын

Hey Jean! If you can hold tight for a few weeks, I was able to get a much better discount with a new promo code *starting April 1st.* I think it'll be worth the wait! 😃 You will want to go to www.toughloveshow.com/eharmony anytime after April 1st, 2021 to take advantage of it 👌

Facts on paying for dating sites

How can I get ahusband

How did you meet your lady?

Eharmony is $300 I am looking for a serious relationship but that is not affordable 😂

All dating sites are the same, doesn’t matter how much you pay or not, it’s all about weeding through to find your needle in a haystack.

Hey sooo u don't like Okcupid??

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Lex! They were the worst in my opinion back in the day, but they seem to have revamped things a little bit. They were the wild, *wild* west when it came to online dating. I felt like I had to do ALL the work to search for what I was looking for at the time 😅

@ThatCarEnthuZiastBrittany

4 жыл бұрын

I’ve been on that site before along with POF and as Ryan said, you definitely get what you pay for! I got nothing but couples and men just looking to hookup! I wouldn’t even waste my time with OKC, Zoosk or POF!

That's cos U are a catch mate

I tried on different dating sites and unfortunately most of the women were interested in 6'0" white caucasian men and I couldn't match their criteria.

The way to get a good profile is nothing you can do online. It's all about your real life. Go to the gym, get in shape, work hard and build a career... wealth... property... Once you have done this, you can convey it in literally one sentence and one photo and nothing more is necessary.

@cupcakeinlondon

4 жыл бұрын

Kind of difficult during COVID 19

it's impossible for me to be matched with anyone that's not a fake profile lol

Hi ryan! Any tips for young single moms? (I'm 23)

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Shane! It depends on what you're looking for. Are you looking for a man that is a single Dad? Older guy? Or someone more your age?

@shaneg2679

4 жыл бұрын

@@datingcoachryanpatrick I'm looking for someone my age but I have dated older guys before (3-5 years older). So far dating apps have given me long term friendships but no luck in possible relationships

4 жыл бұрын

@@shaneg2679 Realistically you're going to be looking for a guy who himself is seperated or divorced with kids. Only fair, right? Or an older guy for whom it's too late to have his own. Most good quality, single, childless men will avoid single mothers except for hookups, and I'd advise them personally to do so. Why should he be burdened with that responsibility if someone else's kids? I'm older with kids and I've accepted this reality. This isn't meant to be unkind, it's just the reality.

@Orandu

4 жыл бұрын

J T G as a single dude, it’s still not a deal breaker. Like a widow is ok, but I really don’t want to deal with “the other dude”.

@Mushroom321-

4 жыл бұрын

false

wait, are dating apps and online dating two different things?

@kburgess47

4 жыл бұрын

Also, the crappy thing about eharmony, match, and christian mingle in a small ISH city (70, 000 people) is there aren't very many people on those apps, and the ones that are on them are the same people on the free dating sites/apps like plenty of fish. also, i have found plenty of fish to be the most successful and has the best interface, easiest to navigate.

@geofferypmeyers

4 жыл бұрын

They’re exactly the same according to me

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Kim! I'd make the greater distinction between paid and unpaid. I truly believe, in the end, you get what you pay for, even if you do get a few weirdos who ask for pickups in the mix with the paid route. Those guys will always and forever be everywhere.

Agreed

Wow.. I think it could be my area. But I paid for eharmony .. and so far ... 👎🏻👎🏻👎🏻 I'm not an impulsive person, nor desperate.. so think about it for awhile!

I’m 49 and it’s not happening

So, you are working / advertising for eHarmony 😞

Would have been helpful to have something a bit broader.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Can you be more specific in terms of what you were hoping for on a broader level, Dorothy? 🙂

@dorothywest7991

4 жыл бұрын

@@datingcoachryanpatrick Hi. I just mean maybe if a lady chooses Bumble or another app instead, some specific tips. Honestly, I tried EHarmony a while ago and they said I was in the 30% or do they don't feel they can guarantee a good match for.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

@@dorothywest7991 Aha I see. Since I'm not a proponent of these apps, I'd have a hard time trying to tell people how to use them effectively, though. Do you think it might be better for me to maybe do a video on great places where to find men in real life and go through each age group of women so it would be relevant to my larger audience? That actually could be a lot of fun! 🤔

@dorothywest7991

4 жыл бұрын

@@datingcoachryanpatrick Sure, that does sound like a lot of fun! Looking forward to seeing it.

I really dislike eharmony... What do you think about this dating app called Birdy.? It's based on the Myers Briggs personilty test... I really dislike online dating... All of my experience has been negative. I think I'm going to be single for the rest of my life lol... I'm starting to be okay that.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

How are things going meeting guys out and about IRL? I wouldn't get into Birdy if you're not into the personality test thing like you didn't with eHarmony.

Ryan. I appreciate your help. But I'm not paying for any dating sites. It's crazy.

I appreciate you examining this topic 🎩 and hope you further dwelve into this topic. I personally connect with women in person while shopping 🛒 in addition to complementing my search 🔍 with online dating. From my experiences and speaking with other colleagues, the quality of women online are not up to par. I'm 51 years old and used to date women in their 40s/50s exclusively but many don't know what they want and are rediscovering themselves after missing out on their 20s. Plus, there is a high degree of emotional baggage to contend with. There is now more of a compelling reason to date younger women who are high value. Ravi Peiris M.D.

@1chienandalou

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

So much fake profile and scam on every dating site..

Hi Ryan, I hope my comment finds you and I don't think you will respond buuuut just in case some wild chance you do, please read below.. I'm a man looking for another man. I find the psychology of a man's brain is still the same gay or straight. In your videos, you talk a lot about blowing guy's minds using tricks and techniques. Why is there an expectation as men to find someone to blow us away? Even it comes down to a primal level, there's not much common sense to back up this kind of behavior and I personally think it's so stupid and feels inhumane to a degree why we resort to this behavior, but I know this is how we think due to our evolution. I've used several dating apps and the more I use them, the more every man starts to act the same way. In my experience, I sense that they expect me to somehow blow them away - just like you said in other videos. Even when I'm trying to steer the conversation, and I ALWAYS anchor EVERY conversation, I cannot seem to scratch the inner emotional side of a man (and yes I've watched videos where you explore techniques to connect to a man). Guys resort to this cold, aloof, generic, two syllable response. No matter what I do, this is 90% the reaction I get. I've always been a take charge guy and I'm left with choosing all these wishy-washy guys looking to rebound from a bad relationship. Or guys who lost contact with reality and looking for validation. Whatever it may be... I still get that reaction. I don't believe in adopting any façade to attract a man because you can train to attract any kind of man, but in the end if you slip up, or fall back into your natural habits, you will eventually lose him if that's all he was attracted to. I want to be myself, but I feel like even when I adapt techniques to my personality, I cannot attract a man or hold his attention. Our relationships are so heavily involved with technology now and that resulted in a lot of negative behavior. We ended up with ghosting, and it's so much easier to hide behind a screen meaning you are not having to deal with a person face to face. How do you turn a text into a long term relationship in this day and age where it's so easy to ignore another human being? I've had some interactions with guys through text that I got left on read by the second message all the way up to having a one month relationship before getting dumped. This has been a repeated experience for me and I'm still on the lookout to find someone to settle down with who will love me for me. It's gotten so bad, that all it takes to blow me away is for another guy to show the same amount of effort that I give. But all I get is: left on read, "you're ALMOST what I'm looking for", coming to my own conclusions because I have no other choice when a guy ghosts me pretty much telling me that he lost interest, I was a second alternative if the first guy didn't work out, and many more experiences that turned me off of men and not wanting to date for a long time. Guys don't understand what they are doing to another human being when they lead people on, string them along, ending things via phone, text, not saying anything at all and just letting you figure it out. This behavior disgusts me when all I do is put in effort and giving people a chance hoping someone will prove me wrong one day, but that day has not come yet. I'm ashamed to say, I've accepted defeat if that's the best I'm going to get and can't even get guys to commit to a one-time hookup anymore. I can't get guys to commit to texting after two days. I'm starting to feel like I just have to accept it after a while that this is not my time and hope maybe it will pick up again. I've developed a lot of anxiety about guys now. And my experience has always led me to disappointment trying not let it effect my confidence, but my confidence has declined so much I'm already defeated before even trying. This must be what guys can sense about me and I've practiced a lot of self love and doing my own thing, but in the end I still feel very disappointed. Like I said, I don't know if it would be worth developing techniques. I'm still me at the end of the day. Unlovable. Dumped. Ignored. You name it. It's hard to build up that confidence and I've been at a low for a long time feeling like I've just plateaued and now declining. I haven't been able to find a meaningful satisfying relationship for 2 years now because I can't take anybody seriously anymore. It's all mind games now. And people treat it like a joke. I just don't want to be part of that. Sorry this was so long.

I’ve been on match for years and on and off eharmony. I strongly dislike eharmony. The men are not great at all. And the ones that are decent are never online to reply. I’ve had better luck with match. All my ex’s are from match. Sounds funny saying exes but hey, doesn’t always work out. Haha. Talking to a guy now that seems very nice and interested in really meeting up after quarantine. Texts me every morning and night and we talk about 2 times a week. I’d do match over eharmony. You just have to really look for people and weed out the duds

They're free but you can't actually talk to anyone without paying and women only talk to guys that look hot. All the other guys don't even get any attention

My son met a really nice girl on bumble.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Have they been together long Jay? Have you met her yet?

@jayhulrs1435

4 жыл бұрын

@@datingcoachryanpatrick they've been dating 3 months and they just made it exclusive. Shes a very sweet, kind girl. Just what I always wanted for him. He did have terrible experiences with all the free apps until now.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

@@jayhulrs1435 I hope things continue on that same trajectory for him! Thanks for sharing! 🙌🏽

All I had was CERO , and the only time someone wrote to me was a European scammer , Online dating DO NO WORK FOR ME AT ALL ..

what do broke single moms do?

@Djrob515

2 жыл бұрын

Sounds like you have bigger issues than finding a man

Did he just say over 100 dates?????!!!. I haven’t even been on 3. Much less get attention from that many people. 💀

Men do not look at profiles! If they like your looks they message you.

@tigerwilliam9142

3 жыл бұрын

Linda Burry That is so true.

@llVIU

3 жыл бұрын

keep your sexist comment to yourself

@LindaLinda80Linda

3 жыл бұрын

@@llVIU Awww. Did I push your buttons? Soooo defensive. Keep your misogyny public!

@llVIU

3 жыл бұрын

@@LindaLinda80Linda so I'm sexist because I called you out on your blatant sexism? Oh the irony

@LindaLinda80Linda

3 жыл бұрын

@@llVIU As I said, keep it public. Men fall in love with what they see. Women with what they hear. Putz.

Yeh I have found the hotter the guy the more room full of bats crazy and if they are not lookers they are holding fish,like the fish is a looker

Paid promotion that sucks also like I said earlier it would have been a h*** of a lot more genuine if you were trying to find a single man using this app on your show not putting yourself as a dikoy and that in itself says something

uh oh you're not serious about dating if you don't pay us 50$ a month hurr durr

😊😘🤪👀 I'm just looking u

Yeah I attract fake profiles

After 1 minute of watching this, I had to stop. Your jump-cuts are so distracting, that's all I was paying attention to. Maybe you could try punctuating your sentences with commas and periods rather than cuts and work at stringing two sentences together in one take. If you're feeling dangerous, why not go for broke and do three sentences?