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Moral of the story: If they have ego issues, move on!

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

NEXT! 👍

@komatsusakura

4 жыл бұрын

@@datingcoachryanpatrick Exactly .Move on

@ekasteviajulip6917

4 жыл бұрын

NEXT!!

@samanthasnow5452

4 жыл бұрын

Wow must be true

@kimvannote3690

4 жыл бұрын

Mother issues

Loved "Don't invest more than what he's investing into you."

@ahhwe-any7434

3 жыл бұрын

"you must do the passive aggressive thing well. Sneaky! " Me: i didnt know that me being me always had a motive other than to just be me. 😁 Im glad im quiet, shy, reserved, & withdrawn when i am. Whew wee 🤓😁 bc when i get going, especially on giddyness, oh gah id embarrass myself way more often if i was that obvious. Hell, even when i do open up, its sometimes just random.

@angelsandocean2853

3 жыл бұрын

The most important rule actually

@karend215

3 жыл бұрын

​@@ahhwe-any7434 Hi there. I don't think that personality traits is what Ryan is referring to. If your personality traits are quiet/shy/reserved, then a woman will care for you for who you are. I think Ryan is referring to a man who doesn't make the woman a priority in his life. If she is doing all the giving and accommodating, then the relationship is unbalanced. She will need to evaluate if he truly loves her in action and is respectful of her commitment to the relationship.

@brendaleverick3655

3 жыл бұрын

👍👌👏👋

@ahhwe-any7434

3 жыл бұрын

@@karend215 k thx for sharing

Having high standards means you will likely be alone for a long while.

@nenagrawey7502

3 жыл бұрын

Me rn I don’t even remember what this feels like

@sissycynara6585

3 жыл бұрын

Why so scared of being alone? Aloneness doesn’t mean loneliness. Happiness or loneliness is within a person. You can be in a crowd but still lonely. Sure your attention is diverted and can pretend of being happy. The important is from within

@maryblue4587

3 жыл бұрын

That part smh

@candaceyoung5542

3 жыл бұрын

I would rather be alone than with a POS. High standards are the way to go if you want to be treated with decency.

@avadea5296

3 жыл бұрын

hahaha, yeah! and being better of like that by any means :-)))

Love bombing isn't a hookup culture term. It's a term associated with Narcissistic Relationships, and Narcissistic personality disorder.

@suekolliopoulou8419

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, there are stages of narcissistic cycle , lovebombing, devalue, discard and hoovering ,this goes on for ages as long as you stay in this shitsitiationship and be knowingly manipulated

@VDOVault

3 жыл бұрын

Only pathological people love bomb. See it for what it is & go 100% NO CONTACT ASAP.

@MJBrabantNZL

3 жыл бұрын

Truth, but sadly that's what most people in hookup culture are displaying. Narc traits.

@dianeat_the_beach3741

3 жыл бұрын

Michael Brabant so true, damn it!

@Sparky12355

3 жыл бұрын

Yep

If a man doesn’t like me great. That means he’s not my soulmate nor wasting valuable time on him. Life goes on.

@shanika8

4 жыл бұрын

I don't believe in the word soulmate because i came to this earth alone and I'll die on my own i can live without them

@tabithaw8526

4 жыл бұрын

Judith I agree!! I just had my heart broken this week and realized I did everything wrong lol 😂😅 now I know for next time!

Men in their 40s and 50s aren’t any different than younger men... I give up on dating.

@toscadonna

4 жыл бұрын

Kimberella Martinez Right, and there’s nothing like an old man who’s still acting like a teenage boy. I have no respect for these man children and hope all of the women in their families are cursed with men just like him.

@kimberellamartinez4594

4 жыл бұрын

tosca donna I’m convinced that there’s just nobody for me... I don’t except BS and I call men out on it.

@naiyalexic

4 жыл бұрын

Yep. But don't give up. Real men are out there.

@nutech1810

4 жыл бұрын

They actually get worse with age lol

@nutech1810

4 жыл бұрын

@@naiyalexic Ha they are called unicorns and very rare to find. If they are, they're not singled or widowed.

I met a guy, the texting was awesome, He turned on the charm, made me laugh, replied within minutes, deep chats, loads of questions, he did everything right - THEN GHOSTED ME AFTER OUR FIRST DATE. TALK ABOUT A BLOW TO THE EGO !!!!!!!! nearly killed me

@Challenger2A7

3 жыл бұрын

Er, no, you didn't "meet" him. Texting and chatting is NOT meeting someone. You had one real-life meeting with him and it just didn't work. Please, for your own sake, think logically. You don't MEET people online, you CONTACT them, that's all.

@mgb2531

2 жыл бұрын

@@Challenger2A7 Just shut up, buttercup! You don’t have a say about her “meeting” guys online.

@lisa5821

Жыл бұрын

Well hopefully you've recovered and are doing well. Same exact thing just happened to me except I slept with him so my ego is extra hurt

@taghazoutmoon5031

2 ай бұрын

Why? It was only one date. You didn't sleep with him. Just don't text so much before meeting

I’m tired of getting hurt 😞

@christinehope6317

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@lolohijazi6617

3 жыл бұрын

Me too 😞

@abireeve-jones4536

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@jewelforgenie7115

3 жыл бұрын

Same😪

@tjaspire

3 жыл бұрын

Keep your legs closed ladies! MOST guys are in it just for the sex. They do not have good intentions.

Most of these are narcissistic behavioral patterns

@grobanite4ever85

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@cyndigooch1162

4 жыл бұрын

I'm watching That's for sure! 😕

@aloveaffairwithself

4 жыл бұрын

Most people are narcissist so it actually makes sense...😐

@agnieszkapechan7333

3 жыл бұрын

@@aloveaffairwithself bs. Only approx 20%.

@jenniferhartman6856

3 жыл бұрын

Many have narrassist behaviors. A good women can not change a man!

As a 30 year old, I’m learning the best way to stream through the dating world is to recognize early red-flags. Try to figure out what the person’s true intentions are with you. Trust their actions and past-repeated patterns more-so than their words. Date around and don’t put all your eggs into one basket (person). And may the odds ever be in your favor.

@RachyNoodleNest

4 жыл бұрын

100% trust how they treated their ex. My ex abandoned us and never returned. I hope to God the next lady reads between the lines of what he says and dumps his sorry ass!

@jodyjingles7968

3 жыл бұрын

Very good - you've got it sussed. You won't go far wrong with this - all men will reveal who they truly are in the first 3 months of regular dating - any major red flags then. Make sure you bolt that door behind you. xx

@ltdodgen

3 жыл бұрын

You are wise beyond your years...

@vadamsable

3 жыл бұрын

Great advice Raman Follow your intuition. It's too complicated.

@swiftkarma4436

3 жыл бұрын

@@jodyjingles7968 yep my most recent showed himself in 3 months.

If you think that younger men are the only ones that do this your wrong the older men are even worse. Go to the kill shelter and get a dog.

@yogaflame4128

3 жыл бұрын

Lol

@mimig474

3 жыл бұрын

Or cat lol

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I don’t get it. Why are older men acting worse than younger men?

@hejira4153

3 жыл бұрын

@ Yes in my experience rude, bad mannered and selfish.

@TheRealZeeNkosi

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I'm ashamed to admit that I have been fooled by a guy who is guilty of all these crimes. He's been given a lifetime sentence of never hearing from me again.

@michah321

3 жыл бұрын

Don't be ashamed! No one is expected to be a mind reader. It's so sad that people blame themselves. This is sociopath behavior. If you ever had to break up with somone who really liked you but you just didn't like them that much.. AUGH it's aweful, I'd rather be dumped 10 x than that. If people don't feel bad about hurting someone who cares for them, they are lacking a fundamental piece of humanity.

@alexandrab1120

3 жыл бұрын

Doesnt sound enough of a punishment

Dating in your 50s can be a real kick to the self esteem. Benching, stashing & breadcrumbing are very real scenarios 😔 I'm tired......

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Hang in there, Suz! Time to kick back! 😉

@victoriamundae2570

4 жыл бұрын

Dating in your 50s is *also* the Baby Boomer Period...

@rebeccajones8628

4 жыл бұрын

All these happen at younger ages too.

@rebeccajones8628

4 жыл бұрын

@@victoriamundae2570 People in their 50's are generation X. Baby boomers are the previous generation.

@victoriamundae2570

4 жыл бұрын

@@rebeccajones8628 , I am in my 50s and I am part of the Boomer Generation. The Boomer Generation lasted until 1964/1965.

The best way to treat a man is smile and keep walking.

@thatcrazywhitegirl1836

3 жыл бұрын

🙌👍😂

@sne631

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. Everything is a waste of time.

@anndavis2920

3 жыл бұрын

most of them got gf's anyway or baby momas. (third party ships) i cant go nfor that. 4-7-21

@creamyalmondz

3 жыл бұрын

Hell I don’t even make eye contact.

@pieahgee8180

2 жыл бұрын

Right don’t even say anything

Now take a bunch of those together. Mix it together. And you get dating a covert narcissist. Never again.

@hannahscott6604

3 жыл бұрын

This

@maggienelson1848

3 жыл бұрын

Been there too, can't believe a single thing now that comes out of a guys mouth 😐

I've met baby boomer aged men on line, talked on the phone, texted and dated. 98% have lied about themselves like their height, income and relationship status. I've been love bombed and zombied. After 1 year, I quit online dating and met a good man organically. My husband is the love of my life now (thank you Jesus).

@ltdodgen

3 жыл бұрын

Glad things turned out well for you in the end, but your experience is...your experience. Many baby boomers have found a mate online. I think you should throw out fishing lines everywhere and see what you catch. Up the odds by considering all strategies...😍

@lindaamerica4587

3 жыл бұрын

@@ltdodgen I totally agree!

@jbehlok

3 жыл бұрын

Omg I had a guy say he was 42 and showed up and he was 66 bald and fat. Like you didn’t think I would notice. And he was the stupidest person ever. I felt sorry for him. Pathetic that you have to lie. Sorry but authenticity is important. Hey you guy making this video... make one to teach men how to treat women. We are not the problem. I don’t lie, I am loyal and kind.

@ltdodgen

3 жыл бұрын

@@jbehlok Do you really believe that men don’t encounter this very same scenario on their online dates? It’s not a man vs woman thing...it’s a deceptive people vs honest people thing.

@jbehlok

3 жыл бұрын

@@ltdodgen tell us about it. I know men have been catfished and so have I but the things in this video he was talking about men doing these things. I don't know what women do. But its a crap shoot. Many people don't know who they are and they do this stupid stuff and they stay single for a reason. I try not to ghost and give a reason why I am exiting but it doesn't always go well. Ghosting is sometimes more healthy and define intervention. I did have a guy say to me are you real send me pictures, that their are just sex adds on their side. Well maybe the numbers of women on-line have declined because of their bad behavior because women are afraid of those sites and they have little ing the companies to pull from. Like I heard that like bumble has 10k men to 2k females using the site. I had a guy ask me if I was real because he said their are all these adds of girls that are hookers. one the looking at my side at men their are a lot of out of shape, unshaved men holding a dead fish or deer back woods look and to me yuck not my type.The good looking men are all sex addicts and cheaters. you get the couples looking for a third and the kinky people, and women just say hi and don't write back. and I tried it for 4 years and that's all you get over and over. I had to sadly write in my profile I like a guy that is well groomed, cologne and shaves. The lady on these comments who said she saw the same thing, she is write I see that too. With women there is a wide gamut of looks, size, and interests. women put far more time in their profiles. Their are the rear exceptions and those catch your eye. Sites are focused on shallow stuff, rear is the key word.

You tell a guy you are looking for a serious relationship and they say the same thing. You make it official, you meet his family, he even talks about moving in, he even shows you a place you can move into and then one day gets cold and breaks up...and now says he needs to think about the relationship. He was the one making all these promises. If he didnt want a future why would he make such big promises or even date me? How can a guy be so serious or all in and the next day not? Was it even real?

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

The guys that talk a big game and make big promises always worry me. I tell the next guy to slow his roll and let's see how things play out so that way *you're* in control of managing both of your expectations. 😉

@bethanyjeppsen7786

4 жыл бұрын

Even if I was in control of the pace...I dont understand how a guy can be all in and then the next second not. Makes it less motivating to even try again because it doesnt matter all the effort they can just pick up and leave.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

@Spooky Spectre I think that's the major angle I'd like to bring to all of these LIVEs moving forward. We'll experiment a bit and see how it plays with the group! ✊🏼

@rozsa-readgirl3476

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, the guy I was seeing was planning to move in with me, even choosing furniture pieces and then I said...but hang on a minute!!- nobody knows you're seeing me- not even your family... you can already guess how the whole story ends...

@rocirgg7348

4 жыл бұрын

It seems that they like to waste our time

One guy told me his current relationship was complicated. I responded with, " do you think I'm desperate or stupid? " I really enjoyed your advise Ryan. Simple and light-hearted. Thank you.

@MrMkayultra

4 жыл бұрын

Linda America , you go girl! What did the prick say when you asked him that? You are one brave intelligent woman

@lindaamerica4587

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I don't remember his response. His picture was the back of his head which he was unrecognizable. I'm not brave though just pissed off from so many lies that men think they can get away with. 98% of men on line are losers and liars and cheaters. Social media is a great tool for deception. Fortunately I can size up a guy with one or two phone calls. Or one date.

@hallorican

4 жыл бұрын

@@lindaamerica4587 Good for you.

@barbarawarren9443

3 жыл бұрын

Great response! I might also say something like, "Thank you for clarifying that, so I don't waste my valuable time. I'm actually looking for someone with a much higher IQ and EQ, and obviously, you're not qualified, but I wish you the best in your search."

@sabrinas2181

3 жыл бұрын

Anyone who says "It's complicated" is a waste of time in my experience. You're either with someone or you're not.

Bottom line- my male friends all tell me they know most women are desperate for companionship. Men believe women need them financially (of course we need partners, since we are paid 70 cents on the dollar for the same work- hard to thrive on a single stagnant income these days). Also, inherently, most women prefer companionship and value relationships- in our DNA. Men know this and exploit it.

I'm having a blast with all these names 😂😂😂 that are basically lies, manipulation & childish behaviour 😂

@lisabradford8180

4 жыл бұрын

in a nutshell!

@animalames78

4 жыл бұрын

Yes exactly... selfish boys play them games (and these boys can be in the 30’s,40’s, 50’s,60’s +)

@silviadecarvalho3297

4 жыл бұрын

All said lol

@JenX422

4 жыл бұрын

It is full on psychological abuse- that wouldn't be tolerated in nay other context aside from "dating". Nothing more; nothing less. No one should be subjected to it.

@jodyjingles7968

3 жыл бұрын

@@animalames78 that's a fact👍

I CANT STAND ONLINE dating as a woman i have serous trust issues now and spotted multiple red flags. I had to take a step back because it was ruining my mental health. the last encounter that I had was embarrassing and disturbing.

Unfortunately I’ve received all of these from one guy. A total narcissist.

@jodyjingles7968

3 жыл бұрын

Been there too. Am 44 now , I've dated all different kinds of bad - but a Narcissist is on a different level. When he came along, I certainly knew about it.

@celiaverdinho54

3 жыл бұрын

Sadly we ALL in this boat! I feel nauseated! Hopefully there is a Mr or Mrs right for all single good people!;)

@yogaflame4128

3 жыл бұрын

Girl damn bro lol 😂

@Claire-tn4xp

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@Dark_Harmony

3 жыл бұрын

@@celiaverdinho54 apparently, my Mr. Right exists somewhere in Tanzania! Lord FOR-BID he exist near me somewhere, within millions of men in a 20 mile radius!

The GenXer in me is asking “Why is the act of merely meeting men getting so damn complicated and frustrating?” Both young and older men play crazy games because they can and because we let them by accepting their lame excuses and/or ignoring their actions completely for fear they will stop talking to us. As you can tell, I’m fed up too!

@Deborah-go3kh

4 жыл бұрын

I remember when people only dated one person at a time before internet.

@threexladi

4 жыл бұрын

I am 64, and have a no-excuses policy.

@findingdori442

4 жыл бұрын

sweet smarts I finally realized this...what we allow remains. So, I no longer allow a man to “breadcrumb” me.

@StephenWestSyd

4 жыл бұрын

@@Deborah-go3kh investing time and resources in the modern woman is a waste of energy! No matter what man does for the woman he cares for, in her view its never enough. Last relationship I felt like I was taking my daughter out on a date and I'm not even a father!

@seapearltoo1

4 жыл бұрын

@@StephenWestSyd A woman who knows her worth would never want a man like you.

New to dating after six years. It’s been a nightmare lol. I’ve been love bombed, cushioned and breadcrumbed. This is helping me sort things out!!!

Always know your value and add tax! Know when to walk away 💜

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

"Add tax!" LOVE IT! 🙌🏼🙌🏼

@kristine8338

4 жыл бұрын

Ryan Patrick, What Does it mean? I am Dutch.

@cherylconway4577

4 жыл бұрын

Great comment, I'm going to use that from now on:)

@Sleeping_Wolf

4 жыл бұрын

Know your value and add tax! I love it♥️

@tinaible4046

3 жыл бұрын

Clearly I am breadcrumbing mode with this individual and I have so much worth too put my self in that space.. just think next month would make it a year,Him and talking..

I’m 39, divorced... no kids. It seems so brutal out there, makes it hard to want to start dating again. I think the different groups is a GREAT idea!!!

All I can say is keep your legs closed ladies. Stay woke!

@stellawil

4 жыл бұрын

@Zawadi Birya I take my time before getting intimate.

@beksharraghy8818

4 жыл бұрын

@Kathy Lowery A-woman! ;)

@jab7168

4 жыл бұрын

Should have kept your legs closed in your 20's.....

@jab7168

4 жыл бұрын

@@stellawil BS.......you take your time with good guys.....if a guy makes your vajay jay tingle there are no rules....🤣

@bluecollarlit

4 жыл бұрын

When you're single, you can have freedom and peace.

I’ve had all 13 scenarios! I stopped dating because I’m over it and have been so happy ever since! Being single is highly underrated. Love your videos though they randomly popped up on my feed.

@MsSmashone

2 жыл бұрын

I was happiest celibate and single. Thinking why I wanted to go back to dating hell!

I’m almost 60 and been single again almost 5 years and have seen all these 13 scenarios with men 55-65 - I have no patience for this

Turning 50 and I have experienced all of the signs. I have become a hermit. I do want to meet someone Soo tired of the bs. I miss the days when guys would actually approach you and you could have a decent conversation 😉

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Good point, Laura! I think a fun topic of discussion for one of our YT LIVEs could be this very thing you bring up: creating situations where ladies feel they can get guys to approach them naturally to strike up those conversations 👍

@lisabradford8180

4 жыл бұрын

@laura: even when you meet some one with decent conversation, wonderful ones at that, you still have to beware. i knew such a guy a few years ago, we talked about everything under the sun yet, in the end, he was just playing a game with me. i don't think i'd been so disappointed in a man in my life and thats really saying something 😢👿

@sarahsworldjoseph8861

4 жыл бұрын

Its only a decent conversation if he thinks so 😋 let him feel like it was decent. They're so sensitive and dumb.

@sarahcellblockh1562

3 жыл бұрын

@Stacy Caruso ok, lets see what you look like then? If it makes you uncomfortable, you could always use the image of troll.

@christinehope6317

3 жыл бұрын

@@datingcoachryanpatrick wow

It doesn't get better with age.. I'm 53 and you would think with age comes growth. I was in a relationship at 51 with a 52 year old man that played probably 8 of your scenarios with me...I cant wrap my head around how or why these behaviors have become an epidemic. Why cant folks just be normal, real, anymore?

@spajas8092

4 жыл бұрын

People have more options available nowadays with online dating, if less investment/effort has to be put in for the same result, the overall value of relationships goes down.

@chars437

3 жыл бұрын

Me too. Same story. I'm the same age as you. You're not alone.

@svetlanaarkhipova7456

3 жыл бұрын

I guess these behaviors became an epidemic because a lots of woman accepted it and keep their bars very low.

@Dark_Harmony

3 жыл бұрын

Immaturity. Aka, 'Mid-Life Crisis.' They want to go back in time, because being middleaged is a syndrome. That's my best guess.

@Dark_Harmony

3 жыл бұрын

@@svetlanaarkhipova7456 because women have needs that has to be met too. Year after horrible year (like me) of not having anything at all, forces us to give in for anything.

Im almost 33.. and would love a video aimed at my age group. All guys iv met in the past 6 years have been inconsistent. They tend to not put in much effort.. chivalry seems dead...

@StephenWestSyd

4 жыл бұрын

Yes women are their own worst enemy. They contradict themselves too! For me to invest anymore time and resources into a modern woman she had really want to be a unicorn! If not? I'm happy to stay single and occasionally pay to see a prostitute! No shame in it I think.

@StephenWestSyd

4 жыл бұрын

@Dexy Nash no way! Too many ulterior motives from the modern woman or they're too caught up in a bs job running themselves into the ground! Every time I pour my heart out to a woman I get chewed up and spat out! Really not interested anymore.

@lillyvgutierrez9685

4 жыл бұрын

I'm 33 too n last 6 years been. Bad

@puttycake

4 жыл бұрын

I'm in my 60s. Help!

@areejzahid2714

4 жыл бұрын

same situation here these guys are all inconsistent it's better to do your own thing and make your self busy somewhere else because these guys can't stay with one girl they want so many girls at a time one wife and so many other also

Great stuff here Ryan. Even 40-50 + year olds behave this way and waste people’s time. It’s nice to know these lame behaviors have a name. Thank you!

I’m dating someone in his 60s for six months and have still not met friends or family. He lives to work and apparently I’m no longer a priority as he’s been breadcrumbing me. C’est la vie

Yes, ghosted, love bombed, breadcrumbed, catfished... Called them all out. Proposed to after 1 date, and when I said no, was offered money to marry his younger brother for a residential visa. OMG 😂

And now I’m completely turned off dating forever! #HermitLife 🙌🏻😂 Thank you for the shout-out Ryan! Another suggestion for age group: a billion years old and up- gotta represent my Ancient Ones fam 💫🐙👽💃🏻💫

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

You bet, Miss Anthropy! And yes, we'll have the "Greek God" group lol 😄

Hey Ryan, My relationship is several months long. We are both 50+. He suddenly backed off. I binged a bunch of your video's. I was frantic. Fortunately, I did not let him know I was freaking out. I took your advice and was not available. You were right. 2 days later, he is calling me and texting, he is freaking out. I am still backed off, kind of a 'whatever' position, keeping busy, not taking all of his calls, not txting much, it worked. You were so right and I am much calmer and happier. Thanks Ryan! Patti P

@datingcoachryanpatrick

3 жыл бұрын

My pleasure, Patricia! Glad things are working out! 😎

The cushioning method. He has been using me to talk about his ex. And I think he knows I like him. He doesn't like to wear his big boy pants. LoL

“Reduce your interaction with them and slip away” beat it buffer boy

I was ghosted and breadcrumbed , I finally walked away and invested in myself and am able to think clearer and being older (70) I like your ideas on the the different age groups. Thank you for the tips

I love the idea. I am 62 years old and dealing with a man who has shown all the signs of what you have just spoken about. Thank you for the pleasant way in which you present your very good advice xxxxxx

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

You're most welcome, Veronica! Thanks for the compliment 😉

@cupcake5867

4 жыл бұрын

Run !!!! ......dont walk.

@ltdodgen

4 жыл бұрын

Stacy Caruso Not true, but with that attitude, it’s probably true for you....

@celestinaazzoni7336

4 жыл бұрын

I like the idea too of grouping, however I am 55 yrs old and only get younger guys interested in me, for obvious reasons. Would be nice to have a fit, buff man of my age be interested. As a whole, most men just aren't into committment snd relationships as I see it.

@lindaamerica4587

4 жыл бұрын

@Stacy Caruso absolutely not true. When I got back on the market so to speak, at 40 after my divorce, there was plenty of interest. And immature men. But I kept meeting men and after age 51 I met the love of the rest of my life. Being young in your 20 ' s and 30 ' s is a DISADVANTAGE because of naivete. Because they are at child bearing years, they need to be EXTRA careful and intuitive to not fall for a loser, liar or cheater. I pray for the fatherless young ladies out there.

A lot of these correlate with narcissism too. So it is best to walk before it gets too far along.

Love-bombing is common in patological personalities, you think you are meeting a soul mate but actually is a psicopath...

@elleoconner9965

3 жыл бұрын

Happened to me 😒

@lavanyaduggirala8559

2 жыл бұрын

Happened to me as well

Yes . I'm in my 40's and I've noted this immature behavior.

@moniamonia1009

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. I meet only immature men

I've had too many of these things happen... I think I'm done with relationships.

@BloodyCatastrophee

3 жыл бұрын

Am completely there with you. Ain't seeming worth it at all anymore. Feel like I'm deeply purging from all this bs.

Also with "scrooging" just before your bday or Valentines Day, Christmas they will pick a fight and not see you until after and then want to make up but no gift.

In a nutshell avoid all men! I’ve experienced every scenario 🤦🏽‍♀️😩

@tonitaquetaparks3304

3 жыл бұрын

Stop using online dating haha because that is all you are going to find on those apps. I know that some people do find relationships but not everyone is lucky.

@ltdodgen

3 жыл бұрын

@@tonitaquetaparks3304 well if everyone got lucky there would be no need for dating websites. Just be discerning and use them as another tool to help you meet your man....or woman.

@Machelle3200

3 жыл бұрын

@Suddenly Possible Well it's like we said. The good ones are dead or taken..So sorry about your loss love!

I have been through all of these. I'm done with men. I actually enjoy being alone so much more. Men cause stress and anxiety. When I'm alone, I feel damn good❤

What people don't realize is that by doing all this mean things, by being deceitful and playing games. By just taking advantage of someone. Not only do they waste the other persons life, they damage them that they loose hope that they are worthy. They loose hope in love. It's what has happened to me. After two years being with a man who cheats like its nothing. I fell in love with who he pretended to be. Its hard stop loving someone despite knowing what jerkk he is.

@huiajoy2576

4 жыл бұрын

Cup cake, you fell in love with your idea of him. Not the cold hard facts. Always believe a guys actions. There are good guys out there who back their words by there actions.👍

I’m 42. Never been married. Lived in NYC my whole life. I’m introverted and pretty sensitive and it’s hard to deal with dating in general. Don’t want to end up alone but I do have standards. I want to have real intimacy but I’ve dated guys who are boring, or pushing too soon for sex, or just impolite. I’m interested in a guy who I think did submarining- and the intimate side of the relationship got me hooked and I don’t want to be over him. Pretty rough out there! Can u show something for the gen x demographic who would need help navigating dating in a city?

Great idea Ryan. I appreciate your advice. I’m 61 and widowed. I’ve been single for over 3 yrs and I’ve tried the in-line dating thing on and off since 2018. Done. It’s been a nightmare; experienced pretty much everything you described. But now instead of feeling bad. I feel empowered. Their loss not mine 😊

I turn 60 and another 60 to go. I did learn So much in life. It has been wonder-ful !

I can't believe people still do online dating. I did it for years and learned many of lessons. Don't do it ladies! Besides that, it's not even safe no more to be meeting complete strangers anyways.

@ltdodgen

3 жыл бұрын

I disagree. It’s just another way to up the odds of meeting a man. But you do need to be smart about it. I’m afraid many women are just too naive to handle this method of meeting men. This might be why they have one bad experience after another.

@claudiacarley4050

3 жыл бұрын

I gave up the Online dating...even though in rare occasions through a mutual Friend you might find the Guy..maybe????even though you try but don't push yourself to hard ...they'll run...take it easy and observe!

THIS IS SO TRUE, if he breadcrumbs he is either with other women, or ex, or you are the sidechick. Mr Right or Ms Right will never breadcrumb and will be really interested in you and not losing the opportunity to be with you. Think about it, if you like someone you don´t want to fuck things up. Pls, do a 20 to 30 y/o live stream. I can't believe how men behave this days. I'm 27 and is even worst than when I was 20... I'm so scared of not been able to find anybody with a healthy mindset.

Your video is like a breath of fresh air compared to other dating videos. I like how you get right to the point and don't sugarcoat in this case the games men play! Thanks!

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

You bet, Patricia! I'm really happy you dig my coaching style! 😉

One of the best and most down to earth on KZread, thank you.

I enjoy how animated you are during your videos..I actually sit down to watch them because you are fun to watch👍

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Aww thanks Casy! 😊

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

@Spooky Spectre I need to thank Brittney 100% for those! She's a creative genius 🤓

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

@Spooky Spectre Ohhh the poses she puts me through... 🤦🏻‍♂️😖Lol

I’m 41, divorced.. struggling with dating. Apparently I “intimidate” people. 🙄

@LaDyLuCk909

4 жыл бұрын

No. You dont intimidate them. Men these days want easy dating, easy women..I am sure your a complete catch 😃😃

@Z5Z5Z5

4 жыл бұрын

You prob know your worth, have confidence, and have standards. 🙏🏻 good for you girl thats amazing!

@alanikeiser

4 жыл бұрын

Gabi Gonzalez apparently me too

@elyjane8316

4 жыл бұрын

No, you are not intimidating, the men you are meeting just want passivity, and really find women who have standards etc difficult.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Gabi! Thanks for making the LIVE the other night! Yeah, I think the word "intimidate" is actually a great screener word to help you sort faster. If they're "intimidated" now, how would they fare in a relationship if times got tough? They'd probably fold immediately! Just keep sorting, keep smiling, and never look back 😉

I’ve realized the simplest explanation tends to be true. If you have any doubt about a guy/girl that leads to self doubt- end it. A good relationship will always support and encourage self love.

You are so animated! Love your advice because of that!😂❤️

This is the tough love that a lot of us need. Basically to sum up this video: Respect yourself and stop putting up with BS. That is good advice regardless of gender. I came across a few creepy channels hosted by men basically teaching other men how to manipulate women into sleeping with them and how to be an emotional manipulator to get what they want from women in longer term relationships. Lots of misogyny flying around and clearly from men who don't really respect women. It just made me sick to watch. Super creepy and gross. These men and their followers prey on women who are insecure and will allow themselves to be treated like dirt. But it won't work if you have self-respect and are aware of the games they're playing. THEY CAN'T DO IT IF YOU DON'T ALLOW IT.

@Dpech087

4 жыл бұрын

I am so guilty of that! Fortunately, I'm getting out of a toxic marriage that was like that and I'm gonna stay single for the rest of my life!

@andreamagyar7776

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Time to walk the walk. Of a tiger.

Benching and Breadcruming... going through that now and my heart is broken

@rockergirl6926

3 жыл бұрын

Same here. Freakin brutal.

Thank you. Your honesty and positivity is refreshing.

OMG Yes! You are a genius! Not only if it's fantastic that you came up with a show for dating advice for each age group but, also the fact that you didn't leave anybody out! Thanks so much for this video it was very helpful 😊

godness, so many new ways to get screwed 💔

@jackiejames3898

4 жыл бұрын

Lol that's a good title for a book😁

@debbiekeyes3631

4 жыл бұрын

skucha no doubt.Its Sooo confusing and scary.Guys don't know what they want...only sex.

Yes please do a video for 50's and over 60's

@imatruthseeker4094

4 жыл бұрын

I second that!

@avaava4669

3 жыл бұрын

I AGREE, BUT DO YOU REALLY THINK THIS YOUNG GUY, KNOWS WHAT'S IN THE MIND OF OLDER MEN, WHEN HE'S HALF THEIR AGE?

Ryan! OMG! This is so needed. I am so happy you explained the things I been struggling with. I'm not one of those who feel you should waste my time so I figure if a man want what he want then just be about that but, I've learned and understand that what you described is how some choose to live by making it a daily routine. Emotions does not matter. It's their lack of Love. Love runs very deep. Thank you!!

One of the best dating videos out lately! Lived it! ❤️🙏

Yes! I love the idea of breaking it up into small groups. I'm in my 50's, so I'm looking forward to that session.

I love the idea of speaking on the specific age groups. Terrific

Thanks Ryan Patrick! I'm learning so much from your videos.

Love your videos! I've experienced all of these through the years. I am almost 39 and it is beyond frustrating trying to meet someone. Most can't even hold a conversation, it's pathetic and annoying. Anyway, I love the idea of grouping the different ages groups to target their issues closer. Have a great day everyone and best of luck in the dating world. ❤

I recently turned 50 and have been single for a year. Best birthday ever and I'm pretty happy being single. Why did I just watch this? I guess to be mindful of what to watch out for if I ever feel like dating again. Plus you were so funny. I might subscribe for the laughs...cheers from Australia!!!

i'm turning 30 this year and i have extremly hard to find a guy that treats me with respect and i don't know what i'm doing wrong or why they they ever treat me in the right way and the once i have met that do respect me doesn't want to date me ….

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Hmmm that sounds like it could be an issue of simply becoming congruent with yourself about the type of man who would be a really good fit for you, Olivia. It takes a bit of work and practice, but once you start getting clear on that, your behavior towards men and your targeting of male partners become in alignment with one another and you gradually begin to see more and more success 🙂

@oliviagutierrez5732

4 жыл бұрын

@@datingcoachryanpatrick ok yeah maybe! Thank you you gave alot to think about 🙏👍 i also have met alot of guys that sems so interested in the beginning and then it just suddenly turns into hardcore flirting and is me that make then do this? Or is it them that doesn't know what they want? 🤔🤦

@samboriboun7866

4 жыл бұрын

30 days its 3 months?

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

@@oliviagutierrez5732 I'm hoping you can get to a cool, comfortable place where you can lean back in these interactions, not be too invested what these guys say or do in the beginning and just be focused on what makes you feel good so you can keep putting yourself in scenarios that amplify safety (first and foremost), reciprocal vibes (he's giving as much as you are, and vice versa) and no attachments mentally to any end result with any one guy and just letting it happen naturally 🙂

@oliviagutierrez5732

4 жыл бұрын

@@datingcoachryanpatrick yeah me too! i am trying to get there belive me 🙏🙂

I'm 60 and have gotten quite a bit of help from your videos. I love your idea of age related dating videos.

The Groups idea is great!! And yes! These explanations help ALOT! Thank you💕

Why am i still watching these advice videos when he left without even saying goodbye ;( whay its so hard to forget him even after 6months

I’m learning to work on my self esteem because I want to be approached correctly

Wow. I’ve been out of the dating scene for a while and am shocked at the various types of behavior described in this video! Thanks for the enlightenment!

So helpful as usual!! Love your videos Ryan!! Thank you!!

The emotional affair. The destruction that it actually causes in a relationship.

🤦🏽‍♀️ all these scenarios, ugh. The dating world is scary these days.

Ryan, you are awesome!! Love the videos, content, delivery, and your advice. Big thumbs up

Love the idea of breaking the shows down into age groups. Really enjoy watching you and your advise. Keep up the amazing work.

8:58 "No second chances, bye bye!" 😂👍🏻 Legendary!

This video was enlightening. Thank you 😊

Love the idea of age grouping and love the information you share. Can't believe I am as totally clueless about relationships as I am!

Thank you, Ryan, it sounds great to divide your youtube video into age groups. Looking forward to it

Very helpful. Eye opener for sure! Just found your channel last week and im already binging! Lol.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Haha awesome Bella! Welcome to the channel 🙂

Hi Ryan! I am looking forward to your live sessions based on age-groups! Thanks for all the hard work you put into your videos!

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Yay! Really appreciate that Yvette! 😄

I ran across this youtuber by accident and I love him. This was entertaining but very true. Im all for the group idea. Im hooked on this channel

Love that idea. I'm 53. Been divorced and widowed. Can't figure guys out now days. I know my worth. But haven't figured out all these stupid games. Honesty and companionship is so important

Preach brother, preach! I love the ideas of the different groups!

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Wonderful! Thanks!

Was watching the KZread live episode last week with mom and she loved it! Lol you did a great job Ryan. Lots of really interesting experiences I was reading about in the comments section. My ex never introduced me to his family and later I found out it was because he was hiding a significant other from me who lived abroad!

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Oh awesome, Floral, thanks! Glad mom could watch too! Please tell her thanks 🙂Oh my goodness sorry to hear about your ex... that's the worst kind of "stashing"... 😔

@hayleycrawford2784

4 жыл бұрын

My ex-narc chased me for two years. I found out that he had married a woman from overseas last summer behind my back. I was a wreck for months. I vanished immediately from his life of course. The sad thing is that whether or not she was aware of my presence in his life, she thinks she is the love of his life. She is just the new meat on his plate ready to be devoured and later spat out to the dogs. She is of very little value. He only wants her as a convenient sex toy and a wife to help him fulfill his public image of being a successful man in his leadership career.

You hit three to which I learned the hard way. Thank you for this video it was so helpful. I’m 52 and this was with someone my age so he was a pro and diverted the signs very well whenever there was a possibility of figuring it out. However now I know!! You are awesome!!

Ryan, Thank for your video. I appreciate both your insight and advice.

Love, love, , love the age group idea!! Dating in my 50's is...brutal

@sheilawolbeck4835

4 жыл бұрын

I agree

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Awesome Lynn & Shiela! Thanks for the feedback 🙂

@threexladi

4 жыл бұрын

Go for younger, but not the ones who ask you for money.

The idea of the different groups would be more targeted for the age ranges so I really think that was a great idea!!!

@npkrn6764

4 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, however, Ryan IS young himself with therefore limited life experience (strike one for being 100% useful for older people). Also, he stated he is an attorney by education - not a licensed psychologist or has any other qualifications that may outweigh his youth and inexperience. Strike two. ***Now I'm not saying he doesn't have anything useful to say, or that he can't help younger, more inexperienced people navigate dating in that age group. But into the 30s and 40s and beyond, it would be useless. My good friend's daughter actually sent me a link to his channel wanting my "elder" opinion (I'm in my 40s) and I told her he is making good common sense points for HER age group (she's 22). But for someone older who is dating older gentlemen - who may have children - who may be divorced - caring for aging parents - or all the other potential problems that are often in middle age - he really wouldn't have a frame of reference with which to give an opinion. I like Ryan and have watched quite a few of the videos and commented my perspective having had a lot of dating experience myself - but I would never try to give my parents or grandparents advice on their situations or relationships because I don't have their life experience- they'd laugh me out of the room! Ryan is indeed insightful and has common sense, but I think he'd be wrong to try to impart advice about situations he knows nothing about.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Good to know, Kim! Thanks!

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

@@npkrn6764 Hey KN! Thanks for your feedback! I just wanted to clear a few things up because a few things you said were inaccurate. First, I'm not sure how old you think I am (I'm taking this as a compliment), but I'm probably not as young as you suggest. I'm not much younger than you. I also *never* stated that I'm an attorney of any kind. Just want to be clear about that. And yes, I'm not a licensed psychologist, however, my education is in psychology. I have coached many women of wide-ranging ages for years prior to me even starting this KZread Channel. In those coaching sessions, clients typically never asked me questions that they didn't think I had some situational awareness around. I wouldn't expect viewers of this channel or those who happen to attend a YT LIVE with me to do so either. People are looking for an outside perspective that comes with a lot of heart and a deep degree of emotional intelligence. That's hopefully what I provide on this channel. My goal is to help create micro-communities within the channel so other viewers of similar age have a chance to connect with others, as well. 🙂

@npkrn6764

4 жыл бұрын

@@datingcoachryanpatrick Ryan you did say you were a millennial (meaning millennial generation). I am Gen X. Also I could have SWORN you said in another video you were an attorney who left that career!! I suppose it's possible it was from some other KZread dating advice person (my friend's daughter sent me another guy to check out) but again, I was sure it was you who said that. If I am wrong, I do apologize; however my other points stand. While I do think outside, unbiased opinion on subjects can be valid whether the advisor has personal experience or not...its best to tread lightly I've found. Especially on youtube or any other public/large scale way. Plenty of hurting and vulnerable people come to your channel and if they like you, they'll treat each pearl of advice as gospel. These people are prime targets for being led down the wrong path and carrying that advice into their personal lives...which obviously affects others... and on and on. You seem to have integrity, however unlike quite a few others on KZread. Therefore, I hope you wouldn't give advice just to have a video!!! 😳 But there are MANY who do. Bottom line - I just wanted to put that reminder out there to people watching that they need to consider these points carefully. Even therapists with massive experience get things wrong and talk out of their ass at times! Just saying :)

@yvonnejohn220

4 жыл бұрын

I agree

1.) If texting only cut that out. Get a phone conversation. 2.) If he can text he can call. Excuses work( break time he can call) at family ( he can still call). If you call and he can't pick up after a text. Drop him.3.) Don't let him come to your place. If time progresses make sure you know if he has his own place. 4.) No good men lie. If he is playing games. He has something to hide. He is giving you excuses.Block keep block.5.) If he lie about the small things, he will just keep on lying. 6.) Don't play with him. Life is short and if he is a little boy. No need for anything to go further. Cut off and keep him cut off.